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The 1 word that Narcissists hate the most · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist code on your
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  favorite self-aware. Narcissus mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face are here, my lovely voice or my dog knows narcissist that
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  I use my platform on social media to raise awareness for
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  MPD. Get more people in the therapy
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  and also validate the victim survivors and thrivers of say
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  disorder. Say, toxic people say, taxi
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  traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about the one word that narcissist hate.
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  The most of y'all know what that word is.
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  But before we hop into that, make sure y'all hop over to
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  is going to be fire. So be prepped for that one as
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  well. But yeah.
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  Do you one word that narcissistic toxic ass?
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  People hate the most and yes I'm type of myself to you.
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  I've been, I'm a narcissist. Have been Mega toxic in my life.
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  This is not me trying to escape accountability like some people
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  think of my platform likely you're still a narcissist you
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  act like you not you, I like you different but you telling us is
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  just to don't you dare I introduced myself the first
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  seven seconds of my videos. They are telling people that I
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  am a person, I disorder but the one Worden narcissist hate.
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  The most is two letters. It's a short word that one of
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  the shortest words if not the shortest word in the English
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  dictionary. No nine.
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  No heh. L know.
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  Nope, can't do it. Anything that anything that has
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  their shares that definition of the word know?
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  Anything. That's there that makes a
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  narcissistic person feels rejected.
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  No no no, no, no. The word no can set a goddamn
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  narcissist all fat like a firecracker.
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  You want to send our statistic firecracker said that you can
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  set their little fuse by saying the word.
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  No, no by all right, blow up. You got me saying and that's why
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  I tell people is how do I spot a narcissist?
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  It. Again, have a relationship lead.
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  How do we spot him out quicker. So we'll have to deal with them
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  later on. Yeah.
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  Find a way to say no. That's it right there.
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  Yeah I feel. That's how you spot a narcissist
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  faster. Find a way to say no.
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  This is it foolproof? No, no, it's not whatever but
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  it's it's damn near I would say it's 90%.
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  So not 90-plus percent, 85 percent of be safe y'all give or
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  take, you know, standard deviations.
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  But seriously think about a y'all from that perspective
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  right there. Like the word no sets them off
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  so badly. So in the beginning of a
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  relationship with you getting to know somebody but you getting to
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  know and I know that the homophone humble.
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  Yeah, homophones are words that sound alike.
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  That I know I didn't say it's a whole but yeah, I don't know.
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  I didn't try to say that homophone of the words like no
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  and no, you know, in knnow like the one way to know if you're
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  dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  A lot of times it's a two-word know, you know, you know me,
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  find a way. Way to say no when you getting
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  to know, someone find us a way to find a way to say no set a
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  boundary y'all. Narcissistic hate people hate
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  the word no cook, no feels like rejection know, is you telling
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  you what? You telling me what to do, you
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  know? Is you telling me?
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  I don't have power to word. No strips a narcissist of their
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  power. If you say no, we were first
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  getting to the if I'm if you say the word, no, when you're first
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  getting to know somebody. If they won't do something he's
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  like now I really want to do that.
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  I'm not interested in that if they feel rejected, their it's
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  quicker to take their masks off, then to keep it on like some
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  darts. Just cannot handle it while you
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  don't say no. I thought we were getting to
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  know each other. I thought we liked each other.
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  They'll push back on your know. They will press against the note
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  and try to bust the push their door down on their own it.
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  They will try to bust open the word.
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  No, for you like then if you say no tool, but you see the red
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  flag. I have on now the red flag Mask,
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  if you say no to him, they're breathing like a damn bull.
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  You know, where it didn't, the mask can come off, y'all say no,
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  of course, be careful and use discretion because some
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  narcissistic people with snap on you, especially if you're in a
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  really, it's easy. Let me say this right here.
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  It's easier to use this magic word earlier did.
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  It is to use it later on in the relationship.
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  Once a narcissistic person feel like they feel like they've
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  established their boundaries on you in your relationship, then
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  it'll be harder for you to tell them no later on because Don't
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  really re Johnny because now their rage out on you later on
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  for saying the word, no. Because now they have a level of
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  comfort of you saying, yes to everything, or you been amenable
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  to everything, or you agreeing to everything because even if
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  you don't want to, you don't want them to blow up on you,
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  right? You said I'm saying so that
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  happens quite a bit y'all. So say, the word know, you can
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  say it, you can see it with ease.
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  No, no no, no, no. But be careful.
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  Again, the longer you've been in the relationship.
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  The harder it is to instill. The boundaries the harder it is
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  to change this person. How they look at you.
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  You don't mean so early on, say no.
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  And yeah, if you say no and they blow up on you, leave them to
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  God. Whoo-hoo, here comes a rant
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  bubble. I wasn't going to do it but I
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  feel it. Bubbling up.
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  If you say the word note to somebody, when you're just
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  getting to know them or y'all are early on in the relationship
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  and they blow up on you. Yeah.
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  Leave them to hell alone. Lightly, y'all leave at the
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  yeah, if they rage out on you in the beginning, The hell, do you
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  plan to go to do down the road? But Lee, everybody deserves a
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  second techno. Everybody doesn't deserve to get
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  them. Second chance.
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  Everybody doesn't deserve a second chance y'all.
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  They just don't, everybody does not deserve a second chance in
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  your life to hurt you. Again, why we know they don't
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  believe your wife and you saying y'all, I've been married.
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  I have kids with this person and I've been working on myself for
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  six years in therapy and I go, I'm going to be going to therapy
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  for the rest of my life. Don't compare your person to me
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  because I'm working on myself. Actively you some saying, don't
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  do that. Don't look my journey.
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  Just like well Lee I'm going to forgive them.
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  Has your wife would get no. See, I just had a boundary on,
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  you know, you didn't. Like I said, the word.
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  No to you right there, did you. She said, I'm saying, leave at
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  the first transgression where they made of they, when they
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  first met show you the anger and the hatred in their heart leave.
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  Then why wouldn't you you'd understand?
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  Why wouldn't you leave then? You're something.
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  I know the trauma bond is but lie.
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  They treated as good. First be out, a really just
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  showed themselves. You say the word.
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  No to I've read a study a long time ago.
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  I cannot quote this where it is, it says it takes on average
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  about 90 days to get to know somebody for who they really
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  are. Within that first 90 days of
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  getting to know, somebody find a way to set a boundary, find a
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  way to say, no, find a way to make them feel rejected, because
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  that helps you show that step, show them who they really are
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  helps. Show you who they really are
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  narcissists, no matter what stage of Relationship you're in
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  or no man no matter what type of relationship you're in with
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  them. It can be your parent.
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  It can be your friends. It could be your boss, it could
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  be a co-worker, you say no to them.
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  They will show themselves. If you're just getting a
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  friendship started and you say no to them, they were raised out
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  on you and they spread rumors. They start a smear campaign.
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  Ain't no way in hell. You better let them back in your
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  goddamn life. I'm talking to you.
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  I'm talking my kids right now, my hands, I'm lucky.
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  I got my hands on my hips right now.
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  Ain't no way you bet. You bet.
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  I'm lifting, my got my Southern drawl out there, Reidsville,
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  North Carolina, Southern drawl. Coming out, ain't no way you
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  better, let them back in your life.
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  Why would you do that? He's always saying, you have to
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  empower y'all. You have to empower you because
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  no one else is going to do that for you.
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  Why would they you met? Why would somebody else Empower
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  you why? Especially if They want
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  something from you, especially if they're getting some type of
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  Supply from you or some type of validation from you.
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  Why would they validate you? They don't feel like they have
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  to, why would they Empower you? When they feel like they don't
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  have to, they feel like you, they feel like the validation
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  that they get from you now should be standard.
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  Sorry, I'm Brent, Brent over but yeah.
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  Seriously narcissistic people hate the word know they hate.
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  It is like I hate I still hate it right now and people I hate
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  rejection, the work. The reason our students hate the
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  word know so much because it makes me feel rejected and their
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  rejection, guess what? Guess we'll get y'all know me.
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  I've been following me for so long.
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  What does what does rejection lead to narcissist?
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  What does relate rejection lead to shame?
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  What does shame do to narcissus? Destroy us from the inside out.
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  We Don't want to feel ashamed. We want to avoid shame at all
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  costs, right to what we do and we want to avoid the word.
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  No. At all costs or some
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  narcissistic, people mitigate like the mitigate their own risk
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  in relationships and, and don't, and don't take chances.
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  When you say the word know, they try to coerce you into saying,
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  yes, before you even know what you're asking.
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  They try to get you to agree to something before you even know
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  what you're agreeing to. So you can't say no, you already
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  said, yes. Remember, I told you surprised
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  you already said, yes, I don't really want to do that.
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  You said yes, already will take it back.
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  Okay, I'm sorry. Got you Got you, got you you see
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  I'm saying but you have to yo, you are responsible for
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  empowering yourself. You have to.
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  This is one of those things where you have to empower
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  yourself on this journey because if you don't, I'm just telling
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  you, this is where this is where it leads to your least.
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  It leads to use suffering in a toxic relationship when you
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  don't need to sometimes. I know a lot of y'all already in
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  a relationship and some of y'all are coming out of one and you're
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  looking to date again, you're looking to get back out there,
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  looking to make more friends, whatever it Is y'all use the
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  word know if you have a problem saying the word, no bulk of your
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  goddamn safety belt, where you go, nobody robbed the rest of
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  your life. You have a problem saying no, my
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  dear old kind of your ass is gonna be bumping up and down for
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  the rest of your life in pain because you can't say the word.
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  No, find a way to say, no, the more knows you get the better.
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  It feels y'all. The more than the more you can
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  say, the word know the better, it feels like going to mirror
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  right now, this is your homework for the days of year.
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  Right here, I'll go any mirror right now after Finishing video,
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  of course, always to the end and say, the word nose and just
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  type, look, we can just type type of stop signs.
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  Yeah, I would just say type the word know in the comment section
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  was no work. Yeah, it has the word.
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  No, in the conversation, just with, no, that's your whole
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  world today. Right there you have.
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  You made it this far. Type the word know in the
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  comment section just to test it out.
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  Just to just to take it out for a spin you, taking you taking a
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  look, you'll get into the new boundary vehicle.
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  You taking it for a spin right now.
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  So just say the word know they say the word.
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  No, they're coming. Say just say no, it's all you do
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  say no smiley face, whatever just say, no, you can add
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  whatever you want to, you can add whatever you want to after
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  it, but just Say the word know just to take it for a spin and
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  see how it feels. No, no lie.
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  And you know if you don't do the poor, do it.
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  Like I do people go to say, like well if I don't put the word no
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  then that's me said about her to it is, but yeah, but it's better
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  to set it to try it right now. It's a know in the comment
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  section, you know, if you see somebody else, put the word know
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  in the comment section, like, it like it as well, like, they
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  would like their nose is that, you know, as well.
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