Latest / Good Morning From The Chicken Coop! / Season 3 - Episode 67 -Stopping emotional burnout

Transcript

Season 3 - Episode 67 -Stopping emotional burnout · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

• 0:01
  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
• 0:04
  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
• 0:08
  coach. Filled with inspiration,
• 0:10
  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
• 0:13
  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
• 0:16
  of yourself you could ever imagine.
• 0:18
  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
• 0:21
  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
• 0:27
  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
• 0:32
  OK, it's a very foggy, drizzly, weird morning here.
• 0:37
  Girls are kind of quiet right now, all out here pecking
• 0:40
  around. Anyway, we're talking about
• 0:43
  burnout today, something that I know very well 'cause I used to
• 0:47
  do it all the time. And I've often been asked how do
• 0:51
  you control burnout? How do you stop burnout?
• 0:55
  Well, first and foremost, you have to recognize that you have
• 0:58
  a propensity for it. You have to recognize that it's
• 1:01
  the way you think. That puts you in that place
• 1:03
  where you just say, OK, I'm going to go into the situation
• 1:08
  and whatever it is, I'm going to pour all of myself into it.
• 1:12
  That's one way to burn out where you just do it for so much that
• 1:15
  you just burn yourself out doing physical activity.
• 1:19
  But there's another way that's pretty insidious and not doesn't
• 1:22
  get talked about a lot, but it's the emotional burnout of
• 1:25
  something and it's the perpetual looping going back and forth to
• 1:29
  get back and forth, back and forth, back and forth in your
• 1:31
  own mind about what am I doing. This doesn't make any sense, or
• 1:36
  just the the drudgery of the job where you just keep thinking
• 1:39
  about the job. Over and over and over and over
• 1:41
  and over and over and over. Or the tasks of it, so to speak,
• 1:44
  and you start to emotionally burn out.
• 1:47
  And that, my friends, is even a more dangerous one.
• 1:51
  Because when you're emotionally burned out, it is hard to come
• 1:55
  back from that. It requires a very deep
• 1:59
  cleansing of your thoughts, your patterns, your soul to come back
• 2:03
  from it being burnt out from something.
• 2:06
  What, No matter what it is, if it's a job, if it's a
• 2:09
  relationship, burnout is real and it should not be ignored, it
• 2:15
  should be dealt with. The question is how do you deal
• 2:18
  with it? And every person is different.
• 2:20
  So when I'm coaching people on this, I always have to have a a
• 2:24
  decent understanding of what got them into that headspace.
• 2:28
  Like, you know, what are the patterns that are causing that
• 2:30
  to show up? Then we know exactly how we can,
• 2:33
  you know, tether a line in there and back out of it.
• 2:36
  But for the purposes of what we're talking about today, this
• 2:40
  has to be something you identify on your own right now.
• 2:43
  So you have to start looking at when do you start experiencing
• 2:47
  it. You know, my mother used to
• 2:49
  experience burnout from her job. She worked Monday through
• 2:53
  Friday, and she was, she's worked for Texas Instruments,
• 2:57
  and she started every day at 7:00 AM and she got out every
• 3:02
  day at 2:00. So she would leave very, very
• 3:06
  early. She was up at 3:30 every morning
• 3:09
  because she wanted to get things done before she left.
• 3:11
  And she left the house at, think it was like 6:10 every day.
• 3:16
  And then she would drive to work and she would, you know, go do
• 3:20
  her thing and then come home, take care of everything at the
• 3:24
  house. Now here's the here's the thing
• 3:26
  about this. She was burnt out on that job
• 3:29
  for years. And you could tell in her
• 3:32
  patterns, her language, the things that she said I had.
• 3:35
  I felt bad for her because I used to say all the time do
• 3:39
  something different and she's like, I I can't go back to
• 3:42
  school at this point. Da, da, da.
• 3:44
  But she wouldn't take the risk of going back to school.
• 3:47
  She wouldn't take the risk of doing something different.
• 3:50
  So she stayed in the phase of burnout.
• 3:52
  And her burnout started early, like, I mean, it was always in
• 3:57
  her. Let me be very clear about that.
• 3:58
  She was burnt out. But she would repeat the loop of
• 4:02
  burnout every single weekend. It would start.
• 4:05
  She'd be done. She'd be like, yeah, it's the
• 4:07
  weekend. And then by Saturday night she
• 4:10
  would start talking about Monday.
• 4:12
  On Saturday night she would start talking about Monday and
• 4:15
  how I wish I didn't have to go back to work all the time.
• 4:19
  And you know, this was one of those things where you hear it
• 4:22
  enough and it becomes glazed over.
• 4:25
  You just don't even pay attention to it anymore.
• 4:27
  And by Sunday, she would say back to the grind, back to the
• 4:31
  grind. Tomorrow back to the grind.
• 4:33
  So she wasted all of her free time that she had on Sunday,
• 4:38
  future pacing the pain of Monday and Tuesday and Wednesday and
• 4:43
  Thursday. And during the week she'd say
• 4:45
  two more days till I get some time off.
• 4:48
  And it was such a struggle for my father and I to hear that
• 4:53
  because she wouldn't do anything about it.
• 4:54
  And she had options, but she didn't want to take any of them
• 4:57
  because she was stuck in that myopic view.
• 5:00
  So how do if you're in that space and you're recognizing
• 5:04
  yourself in that story that you're doing that, I want you to
• 5:08
  hear that there is a way out. There really is a way out.
• 5:12
  You just have to interrupt your pattern and say, what's another
• 5:15
  way I can think of this? What's another action I could
• 5:18
  do? What is any action that I could
• 5:20
  do? What's one small step around
• 5:23
  this that I could take? What's another thought?
• 5:26
  What if I stopped future pacing? Oh, that is the biggest one, my
• 5:31
  friends. What if I stopped future pacing?
• 5:33
  But remember this, No one can do this for you.
• 5:36
  You have to start. So you have to start stopping
• 5:40
  the burnout inside of you first, because you can change your mind
• 5:44
  about things and they can become easier emotionally first.
• 5:49
  So remember, today we're talking about the not the physical part
• 5:53
  of it, but the emotional part. And you can work with that
• 5:56
  immediately. So give it a try.
• 5:58
  All right, my friends, I'll see you tomorrow.
• 5:59
  I hope you have a blessed day. Bye.