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No Grit, No Growth: Go After It with Grit and Grind · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 6, Episode 5, Going After It with Grit and Grind.
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  Listen, this season's theme continues, Becoming on Purpose.
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  Anything worth having is going to require something from you.
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  And I know we love to talk about the goal. We love to talk about the dream.
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  We love to talk about the vision. We write it down.
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  We put it on the vision board. We pray about it. We tell our friends about it.
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  We can see ourselves living in it.
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  But baby, at some point, you have to go get it.
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  Because becoming on purpose requires more than wanting. It requires work.
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  And if you are serious about where you're going, you're going to have to go
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  after that thing with some grit and grind.
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  Now listen, because I want to make a distinction here.
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  Your grind is the work you do. Your grit is what keeps you doing the work.
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  Because anybody can work when
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  they're motivated. Anybody can show up when the results are rolling in.
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  Anybody can keep going when people are clapping, the numbers are numbering,
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  the money is moneying, and everything seems to be falling into place.
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  But what happens when you're working and you can't see the results yet what
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  happens when you've been consistent and the breakthrough hasn't happened,
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  what happens when nobody is clapping what happens when the thing you thought
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  would take three months takes a year that's where grit enters the room Grind
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  says I'm willing to work.
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  Grit says I'm willing to keep working.
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  And baby, you're going to need both.
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  Goals and gains require grit and grind.
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  Listen, there is no guesswork in this. Goals and gains require your grind and your grit.
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  You cannot keep asking for gains while negotiating with the grind.
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  You can't keep saying you want something different while giving the same effort you've always given.
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  And no, that does not mean you have to exalt yourself.
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  It doesn't mean sleep is optional. It doesn't mean you have to run yourself
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  into the ground trying to prove how badly you want something.
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  I don't believe in no pain, no gain, but I absolutely believe in no grit, no growth.
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  Because growth requires resistance. Growth requires discipline.
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  Growth requires doing some things when you don't particularly feel like doing them.
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  And sometimes growth requires staying committed low after the excitement of
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  starting has left the building.
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  Give it all the smoke. So listen to me.
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  Whatever you've decided you want in this season, give it all the smoke. Yes, I said it.
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  Stop approaching your goals timidly. Stop tapping on the door of the life you said you wanted.
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  Knock. Go after it.
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  Apply. Build it. Write it. Record it.
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  Train for it. Study for it. Save for it. Launch it. Learn it. Try it.
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  And if you don't know how yet, figure it out while you're moving,
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  because some of us are waiting for certainty when what we actually need is courage.
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  You don't have to know every step.
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  You just have to be willing to take the next one.
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  You still have to do the reaching because here's something I've learned.
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  You can have gifts and guidance and still have to grind.
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  You can have favor and still have to put forth effort.
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  You can have people pouring into you, encouraging you, teaching you, opening doors for you.
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  But eventually you have to do the reaching.
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  Nobody can want your life more than you do.
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  Nobody can do your becoming for you.
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  People can point toward the door. They can even open the door.
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  But baby, you still have to walk through it.
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  And sometimes we're praying for God to move something that he's already given us the strength to move.
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  We're asking for another sign, another confirmation, another opportunity,
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  another person to tell us we're ready.
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  Meanwhile the assignment is still sitting there saying get up and go faith doesn't
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  eliminate effort sometimes faith is precisely what gives you enough courage
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  to put your hands to the work,
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  grit isn't glamorous and can we talk about this grit doesn't always look impressive.
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  Sometimes grit looks like getting up and trying again after yesterday embarrassed you.
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  Sometimes grit is doing the workout when the scale hasn't moved.
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  Sometimes grit is building the business when you've had three customers.
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  Sometimes grit is publishing when the audience is small.
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  Sometimes grit is studying after working all day.
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  Sometimes grit is saving $20 when you wish you could save $200.
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  Dollars sometimes grit is hearing no and refusing to interpret it is never
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  sometimes grit is simply saying this didn't work but i'm not done that's grit
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  not pretending you're never disappointed
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  not pretending you've never tried or you're never tired not pretending rejection
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  doesn't sting grit is filling all of that and deciding I'm still going
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  grind doesn't mean going in circles now here's where we have to use some wisdom
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  because everybody who's busy ain't building.
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  Some of y'all are grinding but you're grinding in circles and there is a difference
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  between movement and momentum.
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  Becoming on purpose means I don't just work hard. I work intentionally.
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  I evaluate. I adjust. I learn.
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  I pivot. I ask myself, is what I'm doing actually moving me toward what I said I wanted?
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  Because if the answer is no, doing more of the wrong thing isn't grit. That's stubbornness.
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  Grit knows when to keep going. Wisdom knows when to change the route.
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  The grind when nobody is watching.
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  Listen, everybody wants to highlight, but highlights are built in hours nobody sees.
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  The early mornings, the late nights, the drafts nobody reads,
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  the workouts nobody applauds, the applications nobody knows you submitted,
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  the money you quietly saved, the courses you took, the mistakes you corrected,
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  the prayers you prayed, the days you wanted to quit and didn't.
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  That's the grind. And here's the beautiful part.
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  One day people will call you talented because they weren't around to witness
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  how many times you practice.
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  They'll call you lucky because they didn't see how many doors closed.
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  They'll call it overnight because they weren't counting the nights.
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  But you will know. You'll know what it took.
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  Becoming requires participation. You cannot become on purpose accidentally.
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  You have to participate in your own transformation. You cannot outsource your discipline.
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  You cannot delegate your determination.
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  You cannot door dash your destiny.
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  Somebody has to get up and that somebody is you.
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  So whatever you've been talking about, whatever you've been planning,
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  whatever you've been praying about, whatever you know you are capable of doing,
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  but you've been hesitant to fully pursue,
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  go after it.
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  Not recklessly, not desperately, not exhaustedly, intentionally,
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  with grit, with grind, with faith, with discipline, with strategy, with consistency.
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  And when it gets difficult, remember the grind is what you're doing.
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  The grit is why you don't stop.
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  Now here's your fearless homework, the grit check.
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  This week, I want you to take one goal that matters to you, not seven,
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  not everything you've been procrastinating since 2019, one.
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  Then we're going to put some grit behind it. G, get clear.
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  What exactly are you going after? Write it in one sentence. No vague, I want to do better.
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  Better how? Name the goal.
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  R, recognize the requirement. What does this goal require from you?
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  More consistency? More discipline? More learning? More money management?
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  More practice? More courage? More time? Be truthful.
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  Identify your next move.
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  I. Identify your next move. What's one measurable action you can take in the
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  next seven days, not eventually, this week?
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  Put some movement behind your mouth.
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  T, track the work. For seven days, keep a simple record of what you did toward your goal.
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  Because we're not measuring intentions this week. We're measuring action.
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  And at the end of those seven days, ask yourself, did my grind match my goal?
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  And when things get inconvenient or got inconvenient, did I have the grit to keep going?
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  Because listen, goals and gains require grit and grind.
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  There is no magic shortcut. There is no substitute for showing up.
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  And there is no becoming on purpose without participating in the process.
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  So give that goal all the smoke.
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  Reach for it. Work for it. Learn for it.
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  Pray over it. Adjust for it. and keep going after it.
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  Because I don't believe in no pain, no gain, but around here, no grit, no growth.
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  And if you're going to become on purpose, you've got some work to do. Go get it.
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  As always, live fearless, keep learning, keep living.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.