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How do I manage Family Expectations and Holiday Pressures with Grace? · Becoming Financially Confident

• 0:37
  Hey
• 0:37
  Ralph.
• 0:38
  My
• 0:38
  family
• 0:38
  always
• 0:38
  expects
• 0:39
  big
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  gifts
• 0:39
  and
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  expensive
• 0:40
  traditions.
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  I
• 0:41
  feel
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  guilty
• 0:42
  when
• 0:42
  I
• 0:42
  try
• 0:42
  to
• 0:43
  cut
• 0:43
  back
• 0:43
  or
• 0:43
  say
• 0:43
  no.
• 0:44
  How
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  do
• 0:44
  I
• 0:45
  handle
• 0:45
  that
• 0:45
  without
• 0:45
  starting
• 0:46
  drama?
• 0:46
  Yeah,
• 0:47
  I
• 0:47
  hear
• 0:47
  that
• 0:47
  you
• 0:47
  don't
• 0:48
  want
• 0:48
  any
• 0:48
  drama
• 0:48
  in
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  your
• 0:48
  family.
• 0:49
  This
• 0:49
  time
• 0:49
  of
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  year
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  is
• 0:50
  filled
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  with
• 0:50
  drama
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  and
• 0:52
  in
• 0:52
  so
• 0:52
  many
• 0:53
  families
• 0:53
  those
• 0:54
  expectations
• 0:54
  can
• 0:54
  feel
• 0:55
  heavier
• 0:55
  than
• 0:55
  the
• 0:55
  credit
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  card
• 0:56
  bills
• 0:56
  themselves.
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  But
• 0:58
  learning
• 0:58
  to
• 0:58
  lead
• 0:58
  with
• 0:58
  grace
• 0:59
  and
• 0:59
  boundaries
• 1:00
  can
• 1:00
  actually
• 1:00
  protect
• 1:01
  you
• 1:01
  from
• 1:01
  peace
• 1:02
  and
• 1:02
  protect
• 1:02
  your
• 1:02
  budget
• 1:03
  at
• 1:03
  the
• 1:03
  same
• 1:03
  time.
• 1:03
  That's
• 1:04
  exactly
• 1:04
  what
• 1:04
  I'm
• 1:05
  going
• 1:05
  to
• 1:05
  talk
• 1:05
  about
• 1:05
  on
• 1:05
  today's
• 1:06
  show.
• 1:08
  This
• 1:08
  is
• 1:08
  Financially
• 1:09
  Confident
• 1:09
  Christian,
• 1:10
  your
• 1:10
  daily
• 1:10
  dose
• 1:11
  of
• 1:11
  gospel
• 1:11
  grounded
• 1:12
  insight
• 1:12
  and
• 1:12
  faith
• 1:13
  driven
• 1:13
  tips
• 1:14
  to
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  help
• 1:14
  you
• 1:14
  break
• 1:14
  the
• 1:15
  cycle
• 1:15
  of
• 1:15
  financial
• 1:16
  shame
• 1:16
  with
• 1:16
  confidence.
• 1:19
  Welcome
• 1:19
  to
• 1:19
  the
• 1:19
  show.
• 1:20
  I'm
• 1:20
  Ralph.
• 1:20
  This
• 1:20
  is
• 1:21
  your
• 1:21
  daily
• 1:21
  episode
• 1:22
  of
• 1:22
  helping
• 1:22
  you
• 1:22
  break
• 1:23
  that
• 1:23
  cycle
• 1:23
  of
• 1:23
  financial
• 1:24
  shame
• 1:24
  with
• 1:24
  confidence.
• 1:25
  And
• 1:25
  today
• 1:25
  we're
• 1:26
  going
• 1:26
  to
• 1:26
  break
• 1:26
  that
• 1:26
  shame
• 1:27
  and
• 1:27
  that
• 1:27
  guilt
• 1:27
  of
• 1:28
  those
• 1:28
  family
• 1:28
  expectations.
• 1:29
  The
• 1:29
  truth
• 1:29
  is,
• 1:30
  so
• 1:30
  many
• 1:30
  people
• 1:31
  feel
• 1:31
  this
• 1:31
  pressure
• 1:32
  during
• 1:32
  the
• 1:32
  holidays.
• 1:32
  And
• 1:32
  I
• 1:33
  want
• 1:33
  to
• 1:33
  tell
• 1:33
  you
• 1:33
  a
• 1:33
  story.
• 1:33
  As
• 1:33
  we
• 1:34
  were
• 1:34
  pressing
• 1:34
  preparing
• 1:34
  for
• 1:35
  today's
• 1:35
  show,
• 1:35
  I
• 1:36
  thought
• 1:36
  what
• 1:36
  would
• 1:36
  be
• 1:36
  a
• 1:36
  good
• 1:37
  story
• 1:37
  to
• 1:37
  talk
• 1:37
  about?
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  Well,
• 1:37
  let
• 1:37
  me
• 1:37
  talk
• 1:38
  about
• 1:38
  my
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  in
• 1:38
  laws.
• 1:39
  Truth
• 1:39
  is
• 1:39
  my
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  father
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  in
• 1:40
  law's
• 1:40
  passed
• 1:41
  away
• 1:41
  and
• 1:41
  my
• 1:42
  mother
• 1:42
  in
• 1:42
  law
• 1:42
  actually
• 1:43
  has
• 1:43
  dementia
• 1:43
  so
• 1:43
  she's
• 1:44
  not
• 1:44
  going
• 1:44
  to
• 1:44
  be
• 1:44
  able
• 1:44
  to
• 1:44
  hear
• 1:44
  this
• 1:44
  and
• 1:44
  not
• 1:45
  understand
• 1:45
  this.
• 1:45
  So
• 1:45
  I
• 1:45
  feel
• 1:46
  comfortable
• 1:46
  telling
• 1:47
  this
• 1:47
  story.
• 1:47
  But
• 1:48
  let
• 1:48
  me
• 1:48
  set
• 1:48
  the
• 1:48
  scene.
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  My
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  two
• 1:49
  boys
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  were
• 1:50
  pretty
• 1:50
  young,
• 1:50
  probably
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  around
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  three
• 1:52
  and
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  five,
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  six
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  years
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  old.
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  And
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  it's
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  Christmas
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  time
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  and
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  the
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  grandparents
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  call
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  us
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  a
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  day
• 1:57
  or
• 1:57
  two
• 1:58
  before
• 1:58
  Christmas
• 1:58
  Eve.
• 1:59
  We
• 1:59
  always
• 1:59
  did
• 1:59
  our
• 1:59
  celebration
• 1:59
  for
• 2:00
  that
• 2:00
  family
• 2:00
  on
• 2:00
  Christmas
• 2:01
  Eve.
• 2:01
  That
• 2:01
  was
• 2:01
  the
• 2:01
  big
• 2:01
  thing.
• 2:01
  We
• 2:02
  had
• 2:02
  the
• 2:02
  big
• 2:02
  meal.
• 2:03
  You
• 2:03
  know,
• 2:03
  I
• 2:03
  talked
• 2:04
  about
• 2:04
  this
• 2:04
  on
• 2:04
  the
• 2:04
  show
• 2:04
  the
• 2:04
  other
• 2:04
  day.
• 2:05
  My
• 2:05
  father
• 2:05
  in
• 2:05
  law
• 2:05
  made
• 2:05
  his
• 2:06
  seafood
• 2:06
  soup.
• 2:07
  We
• 2:07
  talked
• 2:07
  about
• 2:07
  the
• 2:07
  cost
• 2:07
  of
• 2:08
  that.
• 2:08
  If
• 2:08
  you
• 2:08
  missed
• 2:08
  that,
• 2:08
  go
• 2:08
  check
• 2:08
  it
• 2:09
  out.
• 2:09
  But
• 2:09
  this
• 2:10
  was
• 2:10
  the
• 2:10
  big
• 2:10
  deal.
• 2:10
  Well,
• 2:10
  about
• 2:11
  two
• 2:11
  days
• 2:11
  before
• 2:11
  Christmas
• 2:12
  Eve,
• 2:13
  my
• 2:13
  father
• 2:13
  in
• 2:13
  law
• 2:13
  calls
• 2:14
  me,
• 2:14
  said
• 2:14
  hey,
• 2:14
  can
• 2:15
  we
• 2:15
  come
• 2:15
  over
• 2:15
  and
• 2:15
  bring
• 2:15
  our
• 2:16
  presents?
• 2:16
  Because
• 2:16
  man,
• 2:17
  there's
• 2:17
  a
• 2:17
  ton
• 2:17
  of
• 2:17
  them.
• 2:17
  Like
• 2:17
  what
• 2:18
  do
• 2:18
  you
• 2:18
  mean
• 2:18
  there's
• 2:18
  a
• 2:18
  ton
• 2:18
  of
• 2:18
  them?
• 2:18
  I
• 2:18
  had
• 2:19
  no
• 2:19
  idea
• 2:20
  how
• 2:20
  many
• 2:20
  presents
• 2:20
  they
• 2:21
  actually
• 2:21
  bought
• 2:21
  these
• 2:21
  children.
• 2:22
  It
• 2:23
  filled
• 2:23
  a
• 2:23
  whole
• 2:23
  closet.
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  So
• 2:25
  here
• 2:25
  it
• 2:25
  is
• 2:26
  Christmas
• 2:26
  Eve
• 2:26
  and
• 2:27
  these
• 2:27
  kids
• 2:27
  walk
• 2:27
  into
• 2:28
  this
• 2:28
  room
• 2:28
  and
• 2:28
  let
• 2:29
  me
• 2:29
  just
• 2:29
  tell
• 2:29
  you,
• 2:29
  there
• 2:29
  were
• 2:30
  gifts
• 2:30
  everywhere.
• 2:31
  I'm
• 2:31
  talking
• 2:31
  about
• 2:31
  a
• 2:32
  room
• 2:32
  pool
• 2:32
  of
• 2:32
  gifts
• 2:33
  and
• 2:33
  expensive
• 2:34
  gifts
• 2:34
  from
• 2:34
  fancy
• 2:35
  stores.
• 2:35
  My
• 2:35
  kids
• 2:35
  were
• 2:36
  young,
• 2:36
  they
• 2:36
  had
• 2:36
  no
• 2:36
  concept
• 2:37
  of
• 2:37
  the
• 2:38
  clothing
• 2:38
  that
• 2:38
  my
• 2:38
  mother
• 2:39
  in
• 2:39
  law
• 2:39
  had
• 2:39
  bought
• 2:39
  them.
• 2:39
  Beautiful
• 2:40
  stuff
• 2:40
  from
• 2:41
  Saks
• 2:41
  Fifth
• 2:41
  Avenue
• 2:42
  and
• 2:42
  all
• 2:42
  these
• 2:43
  high
• 2:43
  end
• 2:43
  stores.
• 2:44
  But
• 2:44
  look,
• 2:45
  none
• 2:45
  of
• 2:45
  it
• 2:45
  made
• 2:46
  any
• 2:46
  sense.
• 2:47
  And
• 2:47
  my
• 2:48
  wife
• 2:48
  and
• 2:48
  I
• 2:48
  after
• 2:48
  that
• 2:49
  Christmas
• 2:49
  Eve,
• 2:49
  we
• 2:49
  sat
• 2:50
  down,
• 2:50
  we
• 2:50
  had
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  conversation
• 2:52
  and
• 2:52
  what
• 2:52
  it
• 2:52
  had
• 2:52
  done,
• 2:53
  it
• 2:53
  created
• 2:53
  these
• 2:53
  expectations
• 2:54
  for
• 2:54
  our
• 2:54
  children.
• 2:55
  Honestly,
• 2:55
  it
• 2:55
  created
• 2:55
  little
• 2:56
  monsters.
• 2:57
  And
• 2:57
  we
• 2:57
  were
• 2:57
  worried
• 2:58
  about
• 2:58
  that
• 2:58
  for
• 2:58
  the
• 2:58
  long
• 2:58
  term
• 2:58
  because
• 2:59
  I
• 2:59
  could
• 2:59
  already
• 2:59
  hear
• 2:59
  my
• 3:00
  two
• 3:00
  boys
• 3:00
  saying,
• 3:00
  man,
• 3:01
  I
• 3:01
  can't
• 3:01
  wait
• 3:01
  till
• 3:01
  next
• 3:02
  Christmas
• 3:02
  Eve.
• 3:02
  Let's
• 3:03
  see
• 3:03
  what
• 3:03
  my
• 3:03
  mom
• 3:03
  and
• 3:03
  pop
• 3:04
  up
• 3:04
  are
• 3:04
  going
• 3:04
  to
• 3:04
  get
• 3:04
  us
• 3:04
  next
• 3:04
  year.
• 3:06
  They
• 3:06
  totally
• 3:07
  missed
• 3:07
  out
• 3:07
  on
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  reason
• 3:08
  for
• 3:08
  the
• 3:08
  holiday.
• 3:09
  So
• 3:10
  guess
• 3:10
  what
• 3:10
  my
• 3:10
  wife
• 3:10
  and
• 3:10
  I
• 3:11
  did
• 3:11
  that
• 3:12
  next
• 3:12
  day
• 3:12
  after
• 3:12
  Christmas,
• 3:13
  we
• 3:14
  summoned
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  family
• 3:15
  together,
• 3:15
  we
• 3:15
  had
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  little
• 3:16
  meeting
• 3:16
  and
• 3:16
  we
• 3:16
  said,
• 3:16
  listen,
• 3:16
  here's
• 3:17
  the
• 3:17
  deal.
• 3:17
  We
• 3:18
  know
• 3:18
  you
• 3:18
  love
• 3:18
  your
• 3:18
  grandchildren
• 3:19
  and
• 3:19
  we
• 3:19
  love
• 3:20
  our
• 3:20
  children
• 3:20
  too.
• 3:20
  We
• 3:20
  love
• 3:20
  you,
• 3:22
  but
• 3:22
  we're
• 3:22
  going
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  put
• 3:22
  a
• 3:23
  hundred
• 3:23
  dollar
• 3:23
  limit
• 3:23
  for
• 3:24
  each
• 3:24
  child
• 3:24
  moving
• 3:24
  forward.
• 3:25
  Now
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  tell
• 3:25
  you
• 3:25
  what,
• 3:25
  right
• 3:26
  away
• 3:26
  my
• 3:26
  father
• 3:26
  in
• 3:26
  law
• 3:26
  says,
• 3:26
  oh,
• 3:27
  that's
• 3:27
  ridiculous.
• 3:27
  These
• 3:28
  kids
• 3:28
  deserve
• 3:28
  more.
• 3:29
  I'm
• 3:29
  like,
• 3:29
  fine,
• 3:31
  then
• 3:31
  find
• 3:31
  an
• 3:31
  experience
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  take
• 3:32
  them
• 3:32
  on.
• 3:33
  Take
• 3:33
  them
• 3:33
  on
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  train
• 3:34
  ride,
• 3:34
  go
• 3:34
  do
• 3:34
  something
• 3:34
  with
• 3:35
  them.
• 3:35
  But
• 3:35
  this
• 3:35
  is
• 3:35
  ridiculous.
• 3:36
  These
• 3:37
  gift
• 3:37
  after,
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  mean,
• 3:37
  this
• 3:38
  pie
• 3:38
  was
• 3:38
  ridiculous.
• 3:39
  It
• 3:39
  looked
• 3:39
  like
• 3:39
  you
• 3:39
  open
• 3:40
  up
• 3:40
  a
• 3:40
  toy
• 3:40
  store
• 3:40
  and
• 3:41
  it's
• 3:41
  in
• 3:41
  my
• 3:41
  rec
• 3:41
  room.
• 3:43
  We
• 3:43
  were
• 3:43
  setting
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  tone
• 3:44
  for
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  future.
• 3:44
  And
• 3:44
  I
• 3:44
  love
• 3:45
  what
• 3:45
  Prentice
• 3:45
  Hemphill
• 3:46
  said.
• 3:47
  Boundaries
• 3:48
  are
• 3:48
  the
• 3:48
  distance
• 3:49
  at
• 3:49
  which
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  can
• 3:49
  love
• 3:50
  you
• 3:50
  and
• 3:50
  me
• 3:50
  simultaneously.
• 3:52
  And
• 3:52
  that's
• 3:53
  what
• 3:53
  we're
• 3:53
  really
• 3:53
  talking
• 3:53
  about
• 3:54
  today.
• 3:54
  So
• 3:54
  many
• 3:54
  people
• 3:55
  go
• 3:55
  into
• 3:55
  the
• 3:55
  house,
• 3:55
  they
• 3:56
  feel
• 3:56
  guilt,
• 3:57
  they
• 3:57
  feel
• 3:57
  like
• 3:57
  this
• 3:57
  drama
• 3:58
  because
• 3:58
  it's
• 3:58
  all
• 3:58
  about
• 3:59
  finding
• 3:59
  balance.
• 3:59
  So
• 3:59
  let's
• 4:00
  get
• 4:00
  back
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  our
• 4:00
  question
• 4:00
  today.
• 4:01
  And
• 4:01
  that's
• 4:02
  how
• 4:02
  do
• 4:02
  I
• 4:02
  handle
• 4:02
  that
• 4:03
  without
• 4:03
  starting
• 4:04
  drama?
• 4:05
  You
• 4:05
  got
• 4:05
  to
• 4:05
  stop
• 4:06
  that
• 4:06
  guilt.
• 4:06
  First
• 4:06
  thing
• 4:06
  is
• 4:07
  you
• 4:07
  got
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  acknowledge
• 4:07
  this
• 4:08
  pressure
• 4:08
  is
• 4:08
  real.
• 4:09
  So
• 4:10
  many
• 4:10
  people
• 4:10
  I've
• 4:10
  talked
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  in
• 4:11
  my
• 4:11
  own
• 4:11
  family,
• 4:13
  they
• 4:13
  say,
• 4:14
  well,
• 4:14
  this
• 4:14
  is
• 4:14
  usual,
• 4:15
  this
• 4:15
  is
• 4:16
  what
• 4:16
  we
• 4:16
  do.
• 4:17
  But
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  thing
• 4:18
  is,
• 4:18
  usual
• 4:18
  doesn't
• 4:19
  mean
• 4:19
  it's
• 4:19
  sustainable.
• 4:21
  Think
• 4:21
  about
• 4:21
  your
• 4:21
  own
• 4:22
  life,
• 4:22
  how
• 4:22
  many
• 4:22
  things
• 4:22
  that
• 4:23
  are
• 4:23
  your
• 4:23
  usual
• 4:23
  things
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  you
• 4:24
  do.
• 4:24
  For
• 4:24
  a
• 4:24
  long
• 4:24
  time,
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  overate.
• 4:26
  I
• 4:26
  ate
• 4:27
  sugary
• 4:27
  crap
• 4:27
  and
• 4:28
  all
• 4:28
  this
• 4:28
  kind
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  stuff.
• 4:28
  Well,
• 4:29
  guess
• 4:29
  what?
• 4:29
  It
• 4:30
  was
• 4:30
  the
• 4:30
  usual.
• 4:31
  But
• 4:31
  man,
• 4:32
  when
• 4:32
  my
• 4:32
  health
• 4:32
  started
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  fail
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  little
• 4:33
  bit,
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  learned
• 4:34
  it
• 4:35
  wasn't
• 4:35
  sustainable.
• 4:36
  And
• 4:37
  a
• 4:37
  lot
• 4:37
  of
• 4:37
  times
• 4:37
  these
• 4:37
  holiday
• 4:38
  traditions
• 4:38
  of
• 4:39
  spend
• 4:39
  hundreds
• 4:39
  of
• 4:39
  dollars
• 4:40
  on
• 4:40
  this
• 4:40
  one
• 4:40
  and
• 4:40
  spend
• 4:41
  $100
• 4:41
  on
• 4:41
  this
• 4:42
  one,
• 4:42
  it's
• 4:43
  not
• 4:43
  sustainable.
• 4:43
  All
• 4:44
  it's
• 4:44
  doing
• 4:44
  is
• 4:44
  building
• 4:44
  debt,
• 4:45
  it's
• 4:45
  building
• 4:45
  resentment,
• 4:46
  and
• 4:46
  it's
• 4:47
  building
• 4:47
  drama.
• 4:47
  You
• 4:48
  think
• 4:48
  there's
• 4:48
  no
• 4:48
  drama
• 4:49
  now.
• 4:49
  It's
• 4:50
  building
• 4:50
  drama.
• 4:50
  When
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  get
• 4:51
  that
• 4:51
  credit
• 4:51
  card
• 4:52
  regret
• 4:52
  in
• 4:52
  January
• 4:52
  and
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  start
• 4:53
  thinking
• 4:53
  about,
• 4:54
  oh
• 4:54
  man,
• 4:54
  I
• 4:54
  wish
• 4:54
  I
• 4:55
  hadn't
• 4:55
  done
• 4:55
  that.
• 4:57
  So
• 4:57
  it's
• 4:57
  all
• 4:57
  about
• 4:57
  setting
• 4:58
  healthy
• 4:58
  boundaries.
• 4:59
  It's
• 4:59
  okay
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  say
• 4:59
  no
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  excess
• 5:00
  spending
• 5:01
  because
• 5:01
  when
• 5:02
  you
• 5:02
  say
• 5:02
  no,
• 5:02
  you're
• 5:03
  saying
• 5:03
  yes
• 5:03
  to
• 5:03
  something
• 5:03
  bigger.
• 5:04
  What
• 5:04
  you're
• 5:04
  saying
• 5:05
  is
• 5:05
  yes
• 5:05
  to
• 5:06
  peace.
• 5:06
  You're
• 5:07
  saying
• 5:07
  yes
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  joy.
• 5:07
  You're
• 5:08
  saying
• 5:08
  yes
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  let's
• 5:09
  enjoy
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  holiday
• 5:10
  for
• 5:10
  what
• 5:10
  it's
• 5:10
  worth.
• 5:11
  But
• 5:12
  part
• 5:12
  of
• 5:12
  this
• 5:12
  is
• 5:12
  communication.
• 5:13
  That's
• 5:13
  what
• 5:13
  my
• 5:13
  wife
• 5:14
  and
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  learned.
• 5:15
  We
• 5:15
  had
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  communicate
• 5:16
  this
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  our
• 5:16
  in
• 5:16
  laws.
• 5:17
  You've
• 5:17
  got
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  do
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  same
• 5:17
  thing.
• 5:17
  If
• 5:18
  you've
• 5:18
  got
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  tradition
• 5:19
  in
• 5:19
  your
• 5:19
  family,
• 5:20
  I'm
• 5:20
  going
• 5:20
  to
• 5:20
  encourage
• 5:21
  you.
• 5:21
  Be
• 5:21
  kind,
• 5:23
  explain
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  them
• 5:24
  the
• 5:24
  situation.
• 5:24
  That's
• 5:24
  what
• 5:24
  we
• 5:25
  did
• 5:25
  with
• 5:25
  our
• 5:25
  in
• 5:25
  laws.
• 5:25
  We
• 5:25
  said,
• 5:26
  listen,
• 5:26
  we
• 5:26
  understand
• 5:27
  your
• 5:27
  love
• 5:27
  for
• 5:27
  these
• 5:28
  grandkids.
• 5:28
  We
• 5:29
  understand
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  want
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  show
• 5:30
  them
• 5:30
  so
• 5:30
  much
• 5:30
  joy.
• 5:31
  But
• 5:31
  this
• 5:31
  isn't
• 5:32
  going
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  work
• 5:32
  anymore.
• 5:33
  So
• 5:33
  be
• 5:34
  kind,
• 5:34
  but
• 5:34
  be
• 5:34
  firm
• 5:35
  and
• 5:36
  put
• 5:36
  God
• 5:36
  first.
• 5:38
  That
• 5:38
  was
• 5:38
  the
• 5:38
  big
• 5:38
  takeaway
• 5:39
  for
• 5:39
  me.
• 5:40
  We
• 5:40
  had
• 5:40
  a
• 5:40
  room
• 5:40
  full
• 5:40
  of
• 5:41
  toys,
• 5:41
  but
• 5:41
  not
• 5:41
  one
• 5:42
  time
• 5:42
  was
• 5:42
  Christ
• 5:42
  mentioned.
• 5:43
  Not
• 5:43
  one
• 5:43
  time
• 5:43
  was
• 5:44
  God
• 5:44
  mentioned.
• 5:44
  Oh,
• 5:45
  it
• 5:45
  was
• 5:45
  the
• 5:45
  Santa
• 5:45
  Claus,
• 5:46
  it
• 5:46
  was
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  Christmas
• 5:47
  spirit,
• 5:47
  all
• 5:47
  that
• 5:47
  kind
• 5:47
  of
• 5:48
  stuff.
• 5:49
  But
• 5:49
  God
• 5:50
  wasn't
• 5:50
  in
• 5:50
  that.
• 5:51
  We're
• 5:52
  called
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  be
• 5:53
  stewards.
• 5:54
  We're
• 5:54
  not
• 5:54
  called
• 5:54
  to
• 5:55
  be
• 5:55
  people
• 5:55
  pleasers.
• 5:55
  A
• 5:56
  lot
• 5:56
  of
• 5:56
  us
• 5:56
  are
• 5:56
  people
• 5:57
  pleasers.
• 5:57
  That's
• 5:57
  what
• 5:57
  we
• 5:57
  do.
• 5:58
  We
• 5:58
  want
• 5:58
  to
• 5:58
  please
• 5:58
  people.
• 5:58
  And
• 5:58
  I
• 5:59
  get
• 5:59
  it.
• 6:00
  A
• 6:00
  lot
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  us
• 6:01
  find
• 6:01
  joy
• 6:01
  in
• 6:01
  that.
• 6:02
  But
• 6:03
  that's
• 6:03
  not
• 6:03
  stewardship.
• 6:05
  Because
• 6:05
  peace,
• 6:05
  if
• 6:05
  you
• 6:06
  want
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  really
• 6:06
  get
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  peace,
• 6:07
  you
• 6:07
  need
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  understand
• 6:07
  this
• 6:08
  peace
• 6:08
  is
• 6:08
  greater
• 6:09
  than
• 6:09
  pleasing.
• 6:10
  So
• 6:11
  that's
• 6:11
  my
• 6:11
  encouragement
• 6:12
  right
• 6:12
  now.
• 6:12
  Move
• 6:13
  from
• 6:13
  guilt
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  joy.
• 6:14
  Let's
• 6:14
  get
• 6:14
  into
• 6:14
  our
• 6:14
  Bible
• 6:15
  verse
• 6:15
  today.
• 6:16
  This
• 6:16
  one
• 6:16
  comes
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  us
• 6:16
  from
• 6:16
  the
• 6:17
  book
• 6:17
  of
• 6:17
  Galatians,
• 6:18
  chapter
• 6:18
  1,
• 6:18
  verse
• 6:19
  10.
• 6:19
  It
• 6:19
  says
• 6:19
  this.
• 6:20
  Am
• 6:21
  I
• 6:21
  now
• 6:21
  trying
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  win
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  approval
• 6:22
  of
• 6:22
  human
• 6:23
  beings
• 6:23
  or
• 6:23
  of
• 6:23
  God?
• 6:25
  Or
• 6:25
  am
• 6:25
  I
• 6:25
  trying
• 6:25
  to
• 6:26
  please
• 6:26
  people?
• 6:27
  If
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  were
• 6:28
  still
• 6:28
  trying
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  please
• 6:28
  people,
• 6:29
  I
• 6:30
  would
• 6:30
  not
• 6:30
  be
• 6:30
  a
• 6:30
  servant
• 6:31
  of
• 6:31
  Christ.
• 6:33
  And
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  one
• 6:33
  cuts
• 6:34
  you,
• 6:34
  doesn't
• 6:34
  it?
• 6:35
  We
• 6:35
  just
• 6:36
  talked
• 6:36
  about
• 6:36
  pleasing
• 6:36
  people.
• 6:37
  And
• 6:37
  what's
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  scripture
• 6:37
  telling
• 6:38
  us?
• 6:39
  If
• 6:39
  my
• 6:40
  goal
• 6:40
  was
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  please
• 6:41
  people,
• 6:41
  if
• 6:41
  my
• 6:42
  goal
• 6:42
  was
• 6:42
  to
• 6:42
  win
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  approval
• 6:43
  of
• 6:43
  human
• 6:43
  beings,
• 6:45
  I'm
• 6:45
  not
• 6:45
  a
• 6:46
  servant
• 6:46
  of
• 6:46
  Christ.
• 6:48
  So
• 6:48
  before
• 6:49
  anything,
• 6:50
  the
• 6:50
  joy
• 6:50
  comes
• 6:51
  from
• 6:51
  serving
• 6:51
  Christ,
• 6:52
  not
• 6:53
  pleasing,
• 6:53
  or
• 6:54
  approval
• 6:54
  of
• 6:54
  other
• 6:55
  human
• 6:55
  beings.
• 6:55
  Let's
• 6:56
  pray
• 6:56
  right
• 6:56
  now.
• 6:56
  We
• 6:56
  need
• 6:56
  some
• 6:57
  prayer
• 6:57
  today.
• 6:58
  Father
• 6:58
  God,
• 6:59
  we
• 6:59
  come
• 6:59
  to
• 6:59
  you
• 6:59
  right
• 6:59
  now,
• 7:00
  we
• 7:00
  just
• 7:00
  ask
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  right
• 7:01
  now
• 7:01
  for
• 7:01
  courage.
• 7:02
  This
• 7:02
  is
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  tough
• 7:03
  time
• 7:03
  for
• 7:04
  so
• 7:04
  many
• 7:04
  people.
• 7:05
  Help
• 7:05
  us
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  set
• 7:06
  those
• 7:07
  boundaries,
• 7:07
  Lord.
• 7:08
  Help
• 7:08
  us
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  have
• 7:08
  the
• 7:09
  grace
• 7:09
  to
• 7:09
  communicate
• 7:10
  that
• 7:10
  with
• 7:10
  love.
• 7:11
  But
• 7:12
  to
• 7:12
  be
• 7:12
  firm
• 7:12
  and
• 7:12
  not
• 7:13
  compromise
• 7:13
  in
• 7:13
  that.
• 7:13
  Because
• 7:14
  we
• 7:14
  know
• 7:14
  the
• 7:14
  real
• 7:14
  reason
• 7:14
  for
• 7:15
  the
• 7:15
  season
• 7:15
  is
• 7:15
  you
• 7:16
  Lord,
• 7:16
  not
• 7:16
  these
• 7:17
  gifts,
• 7:17
  not
• 7:18
  this
• 7:18
  credit
• 7:18
  card
• 7:18
  debt
• 7:19
  that
• 7:19
  comes
• 7:19
  afterwards.
• 7:20
  That
• 7:20
  regret
• 7:20
  in
• 7:21
  January.
• 7:22
  Give
• 7:22
  us
• 7:23
  peace
• 7:23
  to
• 7:23
  focus
• 7:23
  on
• 7:24
  pleasing
• 7:24
  God
• 7:24
  first.
• 7:25
  Not
• 7:25
  human
• 7:25
  beings,
• 7:25
  not
• 7:25
  our
• 7:26
  family.
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  know
• 7:26
  as
• 7:27
  much
• 7:27
  as
• 7:27
  that
• 7:27
  hurts
• 7:27
  us
• 7:27
  to
• 7:28
  say
• 7:28
  Lord,
• 7:29
  help
• 7:29
  us
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  please
• 7:30
  you
• 7:30
  first.
• 7:30
  And
• 7:30
  we
• 7:30
  ask
• 7:31
  this
• 7:31
  through
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  power
• 7:32
  of
• 7:32
  Jesus.
• 7:33
  Amen.
• 7:34
  So
• 7:35
  here's
• 7:35
  my
• 7:35
  one
• 7:35
  action
• 7:35
  item
• 7:36
  for
• 7:36
  today.
• 7:37
  We're
• 7:37
  going
• 7:37
  to
• 7:37
  talk
• 7:37
  about
• 7:37
  boundaries.
• 7:38
  You
• 7:38
  don't
• 7:38
  have
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  set
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  bunch
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  these.
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  just
• 7:39
  want
• 7:40
  you
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  set
• 7:40
  one
• 7:40
  clear
• 7:41
  boundary
• 7:41
  for
• 7:42
  your
• 7:42
  holiday
• 7:42
  spending
• 7:43
  this
• 7:43
  year
• 7:44
  and
• 7:44
  make
• 7:44
  a
• 7:44
  commitment
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  yourself
• 7:45
  not
• 7:46
  to
• 7:46
  cross
• 7:46
  it.
• 7:47
  That
• 7:47
  might
• 7:48
  be
• 7:48
  hard.
• 7:48
  So
• 7:48
  even
• 7:48
  if
• 7:49
  people
• 7:49
  and
• 7:49
  others
• 7:49
  push
• 7:50
  back,
• 7:51
  stand
• 7:51
  firm.
• 7:52
  Just
• 7:52
  one
• 7:53
  boundary.
• 7:53
  Communicate
• 7:54
  it
• 7:54
  with
• 7:54
  grace.
• 7:54
  Communicate
• 7:55
  it
• 7:55
  with
• 7:55
  love.
• 7:56
  But
• 7:56
  stand
• 7:56
  firm.
• 7:57
  Set
• 7:57
  that
• 7:57
  boundary.
• 7:58
  Communicate
• 7:59
  that
• 7:59
  in
• 7:59
  love.
• 7:59
  And
• 7:59
  I
• 8:00
  want
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  encourage
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  right
• 8:00
  now.
• 8:01
  Go
• 8:01
  live
• 8:01
  as
• 8:02
  a
• 8:02
  financially
• 8:02
  confident
• 8:03
  Christian.
• 8:04
  Stay
• 8:04
  financially
• 8:04
  savvy
• 8:05
  today.
• 8:05
  God
• 8:06
  bless
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  and
• 8:06
  you
• 8:07
  have
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  great
• 8:07
  day.