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Between Empty and Full: Where Does Your Arrow Point? | Episode 243 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Hey everyone, Justin Alan Hayes here, Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 0:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us.
• 0:11
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for all the love and support you've given us.
• 0:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We just can't thank you enough To be with us, to support Voices for Voices in your unique way.
• 0:36
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We, as a lot of people, a lot of a lot of a lot of people, uh, a lot of individuals, uh, we, we go through phases.
• 0:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We go through, uh, what I'll call.
• 0:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, as we're, as we're growing up, you know we have different, different phases, whether that's hair, uh, dying, dyeing hair to look a certain way and adults still do that, and that's OK.
• 1:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Just individuals and people.
• 2:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We continue individuals.
• 2:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're human beings and so we come in all shapes and sizes, and I think that's important as we talk about our show.
• 2:20
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: People come in all shapes and sizes, all kinds of experiences, some that are similar, some dissimilar.
• 2:31
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: A wide spectrum is, uh, I guess the best way about wide.
• 2:39
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Wide spectrum, a variety of spectrum, a variety of different opinions, different experiences, uniqueness, and all of us have unique qualities that make us unique, that make us human beings, that make us who we are.
• 2:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: When we wake up in the morning or afternoon, you know we're sleeping in or if our, our work takes us into the morning.
• 3:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Um, it's, it's.
• 3:13
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's important to to not lose sight of our, our, or goals or dreams.
• 3:21
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's very important.
• 3:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Why?
• 3:28
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Why?
• 3:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, as we grow, not only externally, on what we see on the outside, do we grow.
• 3:41
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We grow on the inside as well.
• 3:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we grow?
• 3:45
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We grow on the inside as well, whether that's muscles from working out a particular mental health challenge, whatever that may be, we grow and it's important to embrace that.
• 4:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And that is hard because, if you're like me, and even if you're not like me, growing up right, we go through these phases, ups and downs and lefts and rights and peaks and valleys, and we think we're invincible.
• 4:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We think that nobody can match the knowledge that we have.
• 4:36
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Nobody can tell us how to act, how to live, how to behave, and that's just a fact of life.
• 4:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I've been there where I feel like I know everything.
• 4:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I felt like I knew everything, and then I learned something.
• 5:06
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I learned a piece of history.
• 5:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I learned to be a better listener, to harness my ability, my God-given ability I believe in God to to share, to talk, to communicate to you, to our listeners, our viewers, anywhere you may be, whether you're near whether you're far, whether you're near whether you're far, and that's why we we as an organization and I as a leader am so humbled at outreach that Voices for Voices has received.
• 6:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's part of that uniqueness.
• 6:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Throughout my growing pains and I mean we all think always a Throughout my growing pains and I mean we all think always about growing pains, one way or another.
• 6:50
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Never, I say never, I would have never, never twice, all right, catching myself here.
• 7:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Finally, it would be hard if I reverse, you know, back 20, 25 years.
• 7:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It would be a great age for me to be at, but I would have a hard time believing that I would be welcome that Voices for Voices, an organization I founded, will be welcome into homes, into airport terminals, airplanes, in automobiles, if you're a passenger, even if you're listening, you know, on your Bluetooth to, you know, one of our partners iHeart, iheart, odyssey, spotify, you name it It'd be hard for me to think that I would be able to share my voice.
• 8:23
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Voice because that's really, that's really what we're talking about here, with the uniqueness that you have to believe in something you gotta believe.
• 8:41
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you don't believe, nobody else is gonna believe.
• 8:46
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And there's times that are easier to believe and there's times that are tougher.
• 8:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: There are obstacles, there's hurdles, the weather changes from sun to rain, to storm, to snow to sun, and so we're constantly growing.
• 9:23
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I've said this a lot lately and I think I, I think I I just need to share it again how grateful we are Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 9:47
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If this is your first show, or over 240 episodes, be with us from the beginning.
• 9:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We wouldn't do this if there wasn't support and individuals that wanted to listen and wanted to watch.
• 10:05
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're a small organization.
• 10:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We are, there's no two ways about it, and that's okay, because, as I began to think about turning Voices for Voices into an organization and not just an event once a year, I felt a calling that why am I here on earth?
• 10:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What am I here left to do?
• 10:45
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I had great times, but a lot of them are very destructive behaviors and things that happen which didn't happen, they did and they do.
• 11:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So we're here today, at this time, at the time you're watching or listening to this episode.
• 11:21
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're here because of uniqueness, because someone and that was me sometime decided that there's a lot of people in this experiences great life lessons, great tips, great suggestions, great inspiration, the thing that I think that we're here today with as many episodes and really reflecting on what all this means.
• 12:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: The average podcast, I think, has what ends up with 5 to ten episodes.
• 12:31
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe they're either some that are way more than you know, they're in the thousands, and some are in hundreds, and and so that's that's where we're at.
• 12:39
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, just being a human being and talking to you as a fellow member of humanity, there's still time.
• 13:00
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: There's still time to dream.
• 13:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It does not matter how young you are, how old you are.
• 13:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Think big dreams, go after them, have goals along the way that continue to give us encouragement at milestones, because sometimes we have goals that could be quite a ways away, could be years away, could be months away, days away, and it can be hard and it can be very discouraging when we don't see results every day, when we don't see a number that we want to see, that we're not seeing and hearing from the people we want to hear, we're're not getting the feedback, we're not getting responses, then I'll throw this out here is we're unique individuals, unique human beings, and it really just comes down to this People, organizations, they're for good or they're for bad, regardless of how a justification may come out.
• 14:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's really what life is.
• 14:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're either good or we're for good or we're for bad.
• 14:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll use different words and say, well, I'm a bad person.
• 15:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's more of how can I evade, how can I get away with particular actions, things, experiences, and I'd like to think that our TV show and podcast is just that.
• 15:31
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It stands for good.
• 15:35
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so the uniqueness of me, uniqueness of our board, the uniqueness of all our shows, the uniqueness of a variety of guests, both small and big, both celebrity and average person like me, it's important to think and to know that we have that decision Right.
• 16:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We know we're unique and we talked about a few of those, just examples.
• 16:21
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not all of them.
• 16:23
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We just talked about some, talked about some and bringing that uniqueness into the forefront of what is good and what is not so good.
• 16:46
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And then so we think of like, well, who who's the judge of that?
• 16:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And our, our belief system is god.
• 16:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean jesus is is to judge of that.
• 17:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's his will to be done, not ours.
• 17:05
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Things happen in god's, not ours.
• 17:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Things happen in God's time, not ours.
• 17:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so there is that from a good or bad where we can take.
• 17:24
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I really want to do this, I really want to do this, but I can't.
• 17:31
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And there's hurdles, and it's easy, it's hard, it's somewhere in between.
• 17:39
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So I give up.
• 17:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We all have a voice.
• 17:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't need to give up.
• 17:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We can believe in ourselves.
• 17:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We can believe in the small things that we do that turn into a little bit bigger and a little bit bigger.
• 18:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So good, bad.
• 18:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, god's going to be that judge.
• 18:28
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, god's going to be that judge.
• 18:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, voices for Voices, as we've talked about, we have quite a variety of individuals.
• 18:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We share opinions, we share information, we share news and we information, we share news and we leave it up to you, our viewers, our listeners, and that's the way it is.
• 19:11
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't strong arm people, we don't entice people, we don't force people.
• 19:34
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What we look at politics, right, the most grueling thing is a presidential campaign.
• 19:39
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Good things are said, bad things are said, false things are said, true things are said, and we have that first amendment right of free speech, and so for us to be able to come to you for as many episodes as we have and as we continue.
• 20:06
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, you got to look in the mirror.
• 20:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I got to look in the mirror.
• 20:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I got to look in the mirror.
• 20:15
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We may feel scared, we may feel afraid.
• 20:19
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We may feel fear Because we can't read the future.
• 20:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And those are feelings and we're allowed to feel.
• 20:37
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We need to feel, we need to be present in the moment.
• 20:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Sometimes it's hard to do because we're working on a task and then we're working on another task and then we get interrupted and then we go to a third task.
• 20:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We may never get back to that first task and then that's just how things go sometimes.
• 21:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But don't you ever count yourself out?
• 21:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't you ever think you're not good enough?
• 21:13
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't you ever think that nobody is listening?
• 21:18
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't you think that you are alone?
• 21:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You're not.
• 21:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not.
• 21:24
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What's right, what's good?
• 21:34
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, before we go to bed, we look at ourselves in the mirror.
• 21:40
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What do we see?
• 21:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we see somebody fighting for what's right?
• 21:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we see a person expression in the mirror, somebody who is so exhausted because they're working on a project, they're so passionate.
• 22:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's bigger than themselves, it's bigger than one thing, one person, that it's a state, a province.
• 22:26
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: A state, a province, a country, nation, world, world.
• 22:40
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So who do you see in the mirror?
• 22:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And are you okay with that?
• 22:49
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I talked about we continue to grow.
• 22:55
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We continue to grow.
• 22:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you don't like what you see, find a way to learn a little bit more about what your intentions are, what you want to do.
• 23:16
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Why aren't you, why aren't you reaching that goal or those goals?
• 23:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Why aren't you reaching those, those goals?
• 23:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Why aren't you reaching those, those milestones?
• 23:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Now, we might not accomplish every single goal, every single milestone.
• 23:37
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're not.
• 23:41
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Our time on Earth is so.
• 23:45
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's like water vapor, it's like a grain of sand on the whitest beach.
• 23:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're here and then we're gone.
• 23:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Life is what we make of it.
• 24:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Voices for voices is what we make of it.
• 24:19
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Sharing, giving voices to the voiceless, giving voices to the voiceless, giving voices to those who have been silenced or haven't had an opportunity to share their story, because we all have a story.
• 24:46
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We all have experiences.
• 24:48
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We all could have a book written about ourselves.
• 24:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We all could have our biography written.
• 24:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So we're all unique, and I come back to there's some things we're similar at, some things that we're not, and that's okay.
• 25:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What's important is, at the end of the day, you and I can look ourselves in the mirror and have a feeling of okay, today was a hard day, of okay, today was a hard day.
• 25:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It was a hard day.
• 25:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: However, I was able to do this one thing, and this one thing is in the direction of good, of good.
• 25:48
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So, good, bad, we have those choices.
• 26:00
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We can dislike actions.
• 26:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It goes right, it goes right.
• 26:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: The tick tock of the clock continues.
• 26:11
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So it's only a point in time that an event, an experience is occurring.
• 26:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Time doesn't stand still.
• 26:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And experiences occurring.
• 26:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Time doesn't stand still.
• 26:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so join me, join Voices for Voices, in bringing your unique skills, ability, talents, treasures, and let us help share, share those.
• 26:55
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This isn't about me.
• 26:56
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This isn't about just voices for voices.
• 26:59
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This is about something much bigger.
• 27:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This is about humanity.
• 27:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This is again, boil it up what's right, what's wrong, what's good, what's bad, what's bad?
• 27:15
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Are there going to be times where there's going to be a toggle in between?
• 27:20
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But at the end of the day, when we look in that mirror, where is that arrow closest to Imagine a car that has gasoline and there's an F and then there's an E and then there's a pointer or an arrow?
• 27:48
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, are we half and above full or are we less than half and below and closer to empty?
• 28:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, none of us are perfect.
• 28:28
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We pick the direction.
• 28:28
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And good, always bad having a person be able to come on to the show and talk, invent and share, inspire and teach.
• 28:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I got chills just saying that, because it's so hard, it's so hard in the moment to think about these things, because it's like that.
• 29:06
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's the rat race.
• 29:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Right, I gotta do this once, I do this, I'm gonna do that and I'm gonna do this and, as I mentioned, you're working on one thing and then two, and then the third one comes, and it takes a, a lot of time and then you don't really get back to thing one and if you're like I am and don't write it down all the time, might forget it and it might not cycle through our mind for another day or month or who knows.
• 29:38
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, depending on you know the, the priority, just the priority, just how things go, what's the first message that we see in the morning?
• 29:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Those types of things dictate a lot.
• 29:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm not perfect, you're not perfect, nobody's perfect here on earth, and so, at the end of the day, nobody's perfect here on earth, and so, at the end of the day, my arrow is much closer to the F, much closer to the good, and so that's how I know that Voices for Voices is doing a good deed, doing a good thing, talking, sharing, inspiring, teaching you name it and we just thank you from the bottom of my heart, our board of directors and every single supporter monetarily or in spirit, or follows or likes or shares or subscribes, thank you.
• 31:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us on the journey we call life.
• 31:15
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This has been another episode of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 31:21
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• 31:28
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• 31:29
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• 31:41
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• 31:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So until next time, I am your host, founder and executive director of Voices for Justin Alan Hayes.
• 32:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Until next time, be a voice for you or somebody in need, we'll see you.