Living With Intention Sends a Powerful Message To Yourself

Confidence Matters · Jan 8, 2026 · 7m

Leaving a toxic relationship can be extremely difficult, especially when you blame yourself.

I do blame myself, and not just because my mother told me I had ‘made my bed, so now I had to lie in it.’ I accept that I am responsible for my life and the decisions I make. That’s what happens when you are an adult. You become responsible.

So, I didn’t leave for a long time. Even then, my ex made the final decision. Not me. I lived on autopilot, robotic and unemotional, just to get through each day.

Living on autopilot during times of stress is a way of coping with pressure. I numbed myself and made…