You Don't Have to Love Yourself to Respect Yourself

Confidence Matters · Oct 1, 2026 · 6m

Our theme for October is Self-Respect.

“I don’t know if I love myself.”

I have heard that many times from clients.

There was a time when I already knew my answer.

I didn’t love myself. I didn’t think I was a nice person.

I got into bad relationships, drank too much and didn’t take proper care of myself.

Was that how you treat someone you love?

Today, my answer is very different. I love myself. I know I am a good person. I have good relationships and take care of myself.

But I didn’t reach that place by deciding to love myself. That wasn’t the first step.

When I committed to building my…