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Stop Waiting and Make Your Move (S5) S33:E1 Saturday · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, guys, so this is Inspirations for
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Your Life, in case you were wondering.
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Our master weekly topic I'm proud to announce
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on Series 5, Show 33, is stop waiting
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for your life to change.
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Stop waiting and make your move.
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Series 5, Show 33, Episode 1, that is
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our granular topic for today.
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Welcome everyone to Inspirations for Your Life.
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It is so great to have you here.
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I'm John Seymourly, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist,
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video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate
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student at Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong
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learner, and so grateful now to be a
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published author.
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Welcome everyone.
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How much of your life have you spent
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waiting, waiting until you feel ready, waiting until
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you have more confidence, waiting for someone to
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give you permission, waiting for circumstances to improve,
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waiting until you know exactly how everything will
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turn out?
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There is nothing wrong, I have to say
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this clearly, with preparation, okay?
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That's the key.
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But preparation can quietly become hesitation and delay,
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and that can become a lifestyle that you
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fall into.
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So today, I'm talking about breaking that pattern.
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You don't have to know every step before
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taking the first one, okay?
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Sometimes the first move is exactly what reveals
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the second one.
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So let's get into our 30 points for
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you to stop waiting and make your move.
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Are you ready?
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Of course you are.
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Number one, waiting feels safer than starting, and
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we've said before that when we're comfortable, people
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just want to sit and veg and just
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stay there, but that's not where the learning
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happens.
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That's not where the growth happens.
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Waiting protects you from immediate failure, but it
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also protects you from progress.
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Safety can come in a way that's expensive
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when it costs you opportunities you are capable
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of pursuing.
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Number two, your first move changes everything.
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The first move doesn't need to be enormous.
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Its power comes from changing your status from
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someone thinking about doing something to someone actually
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doing it.
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Number three, stop asking for permission.
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You don't need everyone to understand your goals
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before you pursue them.
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Listen to useful advice, but don't make your
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future dependent upon universal approval.
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You'll never get anywhere.
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Number four, start before confidence arrives.
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Confidence often comes from evidence.
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You take action, discover that.
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You can handle it, and confidence begins growing
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from the experience.
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Number five, movement creates clarity.
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You can think about something for months and
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still remain uncertain.
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Taking one step gives you information that thinking
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alone cannot provide.
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Number six, give yourself a starting signal.
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I got to have some more of this
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water, okay?
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Again, the container is not very cold.
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Stop waiting for something external to tell you
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it's time.
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Decide right now and pick the moment yourself
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and begin.
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Number seven, break the hesitation cycle.
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Hesitation becomes easier every time you practice it.
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Interrupt that pattern by making one decision and
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acting on it before you start negotiating yourself
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out of it, all right?
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Again, that's something, again, that a lot of
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people, I feel, miss because they don't understand
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that they're falling into a trap of, yes,
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procrastination, unfortunately.
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But procrastination is addictive.
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Number eight, make one bold decision today.
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You don't need 30 dramatic changes today.
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One meaningful decision can change the direction and
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trajectory of everything that follows after.
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Number nine, stop rehearsing possibilities.
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There comes a point when imagining every possible
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outcome stops helping you.
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You cannot experience your future through rehearsal.
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Eventually, you have to enter it.
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Number 10, turn your intention into movement.
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Good intentions don't produce results by themselves.
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Give your intention a physical action, a phone
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call, an appointment, a conversation, or a first
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completed task.
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Number 11, choose action over anticipation.
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Anticipation can make something appear larger than it
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really is.
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Action introduces you to reality, and reality is
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often much easier to manage than what you
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imagined it was about.
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Number 12, make today different.
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How are you going to do that?
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Simple.
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If you keep repeating yesterday's behavior, tomorrow shouldn't
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surprise you by not changing.
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Change one thing today that interrupts the old
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pattern you've been living.
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I think when you do that and you
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start to see the change, you're like, oh,
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wait a minute.
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I get this.
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This makes sense now.
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Now I understand why this wasn't working before,
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right?
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Those are very key important things that many
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people, well, they miss.
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They miss.
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Number 13, use the moment you have right
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now.
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You may not have perfect circumstances, unlimited resources,
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or endless time.
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Work with that moment you have that actually
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exists instead of wanting and waiting for one
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that may never arrive.
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And I think that's going to frustrate us
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more when we can't find that time.
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Not because of something that's around us, but
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because it's a delay tactic.
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Number 14, stop negotiating with yourself.
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You decide to do something, then immediately begin
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creating reasons not to do it.
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Recognize that internal negotiation and stop reopening decisions
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you've already made.
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15, take the uncomfortable first step.
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The first step often feels uncomfortable precisely because
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it's unfamiliar.
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Discomfort doesn't automatically mean you're making the wrong
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decision.
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I think sometimes in life, people don't realize
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that when something's uncomfortable, that means that we're
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on the right track.
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Some people say we're not on the right
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track.
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But I'm here to tell you, you are
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on the right track, right?
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That's an important piece.
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When something's uncomfortable, that's usually where the learning
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actually happens, OK?
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That's where the learning takes place, all right?
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That's where it happens.
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Number 16, create your own opening.
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Sometimes opportunity knocks.
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Other times, you have to build the door.
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Reach out, introduce yourself, propose the idea, or
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create the opportunity you're waiting to receive.
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Number 17, let action answer your doubts.
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Instead of asking yourself endlessly whether you can
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do something, test it.
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Real experience can answer questions.
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That speculation never will.
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Number 18, refuse to remain parked.
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You weren't meant to spend your entire life
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idling.
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If one direction isn't working, adjust it.
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Movement gives you options.
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Number 19, move before you completely are ready.
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You know, you could say, I'm going to
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wait here, and when I'm ready, then I'll
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move forward.
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That's not going to help anybody.
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It's just going to cause more confusion in
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your life, OK, just being honest.
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So move before you're completely ready.
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Number 19, being prepared matters, but complete readiness
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is often an illusion.
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At some point, additional preparation becomes another form
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of, yes, delay.
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Number 20, give your idea a real chance.
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Don't reject your own idea before the world
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ever gets to see it.
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Test it, improve it, and gather real data
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and feedback before deciding what it's capable of
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becoming.
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I think we're our own worst critics sometimes.
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And this keeps us from being the person
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we actually can be.
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But we never become that person because of
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some thought that we had.
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And they were like, oh, wait a minute.
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I don't know if I can do this.
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You actually can do it, ladies and gentlemen.
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You absolutely can do it, all right?
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When somebody says to me, John, I can't
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do something, the first thing I ask them
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is why.
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And they say, well, because my mother, my
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brother, my sister, my cousin, my girlfriend, my
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boyfriend, my whatever, said I can't.
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Then I ask them another question.
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Are they your keeper?
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Like, do they dictate everything you have to
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do in life?
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No.
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Well, then why are you living your life
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as if you have to get permission from
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these people?
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I'm just asking.
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And they look back and say, well, you
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know, I want them to, you want them
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to what?
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You want them to share that they like
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your idea?
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You can't always have people patting you on
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the back.
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I'm sorry, guys.
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And not that a pat on the back
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is bad, but we can't expect everybody to
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pat us on the back.
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We need to be our own best cheerleaders.
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I know that sounds like something that's really
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crazy, but it is the truth, guys.
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It's absolutely the truth.
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And the more we understand that, the more
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we can say, hey, this makes sense.
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That's important, guys.
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That is a very important thing.
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But a lot of people today will not
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understand that because they're like, well, they never
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gave me approval.
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So because they never gave you approval, you're
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going to say no?
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Seriously?
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Like, why?
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Why are you letting these people dictate how
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your life should be?
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Well, I'm not doing that.
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Well, you're not, but why is it that
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you're stopping what you're doing because someone doesn't
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say or says something to you?
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They're not your keeper, OK?
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Number 21, make your next move visible.
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Put something on the calendar.
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Tell the right person.
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Submit the application.
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Create a tangible commitment that moves the idea
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out of your head and into the world.
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I found that when we set times on
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calendars, things usually transpire.
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It's like magical, all right?
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And it's magical because people look forward to
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the date that they put on their calendar.
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They look forward to that date.
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OK?
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They look forward to that date.
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That's a very important thing to actually understand.
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Number 22, replace someday with today.
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We've all heard this.
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Well, I'll do it tomorrow.
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I'll do it later.
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I'll do it next week.
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I'll do it at the end of the
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month.
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I'll do it next month.
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I'll do it at the end of the
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quarter.
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I'll do it in the spring.
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I'll do it in the fall, right?
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I'll do it when I get back from
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my trip.
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I'll do it when Daylight Saving Time ends.
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I'll do it when Daylight Saving Time starts,
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right?
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I'll do it later.
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But you ever notice that later keeps getting
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pushed later and later and later?
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So you never really get to.
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That point, that's powerful, guys.
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Like, that's seriously, seriously powerful.
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I'm talking about really powerful, not just like
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one-way powerful, like really, really, really, really,
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really powerful, all right?
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Number 22, when we understanding that we replace
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someday with today, we move forward.
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So someday has no deadline, as well as
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everything else that's later than today.
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You see, today does have a deadline.
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Ask yourself what portion of that future goal
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can actually begin now.
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You can say a certain day and put
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on your calendar and schedule it, but don't
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change that day.
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Don't change it.
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I'm not against people scheduling things.
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What I'm against is people saying, oh, I'll
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do it later.
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I'll do it later.
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I'll do it later, OK?
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That's a big problem, OK?
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And if we don't understand those things, then
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how are we ever going to move forward
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in life, right?
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How are we ever going to move forward?
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And I think we're going to keep putting
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ourselves in this endless loop, right?
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And that's a big, big problem.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people, again, don't really understand.
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But maybe they mean it's something special.
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Maybe they mean it's about how people are
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changing, right?
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Maybe.
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But if we don't understand those kinds of
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things, how can we ever take ourselves to
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a new level?
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Because we're always putting things off for later.
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And then we never get anything done.
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You know what that does?
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It robs us of our confidence.
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It takes us off our path that could
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make us successful.
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It takes us off our path to make
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us successful.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people here just don't realize, that we're
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really delaying our success.
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Not because we have to or want to,
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but we're doing it because of our actions,
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because of our voice, because of our thoughts.
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Number 23, please, ladies and gentlemen, I'm going
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to say this to you.
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Don't wait to feel fearless.
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False evidence appearing real, don't wait.
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Well, I'm going to wait.
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I'll be stronger tomorrow.
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Or I'm going to wait because tomorrow I'm
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going to conquer the world.
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Now, if you seriously aren't feeling well or
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you need a break, I get it.
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But let's not make the thing about tomorrow
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something that keeps changing, where tomorrow never comes.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, courage doesn't require
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fear to disappear.
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Nope.
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It means fear no longer gets the deciding
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vote in our life.
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That's a powerful thing, guys.
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When fear doesn't get to choose, we make
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a big decision in our life, a very,
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very big decision.
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And I know that's crazy, right?
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And a lot of people are going to
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say to me, hey, John, I don't quite
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get that.
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I don't quite get that.
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I think that happens because of things we're
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hearing, things we were previously told.
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Number 24, guys, put yourself in motion.
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Momentum isn't something you find.
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It's something you generate.
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Start small enough that you have no convincing
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excuse not to begin.
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Number 25, turn uncertainty into discovery.
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Instead of treating uncertainty as a warning to
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stop, treat it as something to explore.
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Curiosity can take you places fear would never
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allow you to visit.
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And that's something very powerful.
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Number 26, start where nobody is applauding.
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Not every beginning gets recognition.
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Some of your most important work will happen
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before anyone notices it.
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Do it anyway because the work matters, not
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because someone is watching.
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There's so many times in life that people
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decide to do something better.
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Why?
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Because they want to impress somebody.
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They want to see somebody's watching.
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But really, it doesn't matter if somebody's watching,
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right?
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Doesn't matter if somebody's watching.
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That's an important piece.
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And if we know that, then we can
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make a very, very big difference.
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We make a very, very big difference, a
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difference that can change our life and can
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change other people's lives.
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I think that's the most important thing.
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Number 27, I'm going to ask you to
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become harder to hold back.
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Take that fire, take that inertia, take that
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passion, and let it out.
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Every time you choose to act despite hesitation,
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you strengthen your ability to do it again
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and again.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, eventually, taking action
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begins feeling more natural than remaining stuck.
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Nobody wants to remain stuck, do they?
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No.
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Number 28, one move can redirect everything.
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A single conversation, introduction, decision, application, idea, or
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opportunity can change your trajectory.
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Right now, you won't discover which move matters
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until you actually make it.
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So make a move.
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Number 29, your future needs your participation.
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Your future isn't simply something arriving while you
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wait.
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Your choices are helping construct it every day.
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Participate deliberately.
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That's a key, guys.
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Number 30, make the move you've been avoiding.
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Now, you probably already know what it is.
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Maybe it's a conversation, it's a project, application,
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decision, change, or an idea you've repeatedly postponed,
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saying, I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it
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next week, I'll do it next month, I'll
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do it next year, but that never comes.
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Ladies and gentlemen, don't make it larger tonight
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by carrying it into another tomorrow, another later,
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more procrastination, more delay.
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Make the move now.
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I know that sounds scary, okay, but it's
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important to understand that.
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It's important to understand that right now.
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And that can make a difference in your
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life every single day.
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Okay, not just today, but every single day.
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That's a very important thing to understand.
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Every single day that can happen, every single
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day.
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So as we get ready to close today's
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show, not the week, but just this episode,
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and we begin our new weekly theme, stop
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waiting for your life to change.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, this change doesn't always
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announce itself with one enormous moment or a
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grand gesture, sorry.
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It's sometimes subtle, it's sometimes a realization you
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have, a shift in your mindset, a perspective
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change.
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Sometimes change begins quietly within us.
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You send the message, you make the call,
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you submit the application, right?
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You start the project, you decide to have
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the conversation, and you finally do the thing
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you've spent weeks, months, years thinking about doing,
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you do it now.
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You don't need every answer before you begin.
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You need enough information to take a responsible
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first step and enough courage to actually take
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it.
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That's powerful, guys, because you see, movement creates
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information.
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Information creates clarity.
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Clarity helps you make the next decision.
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Don't spend another season of your life standing
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at the starting line, wondering what might happen.
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Your future needs something from you, not anybody
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else, you.
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It's got to start with you.
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You see, your participation, your drive, your passion,
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your thoughts become energy.
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Your thoughts become energy.
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Everything we think about, we focus on for
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a while, we actually bring about.
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No, not in five seconds, but we keep
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working on that, we do.
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Ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know who
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I am by now, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, and I thank you so
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much for choosing to join me for another
26:18
amazing episode of Inspirations For Your Life.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, you don't have to
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change everything today.
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No, don't be, you know, let's say, side
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swipes.
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Oh, my gosh, I got to change my
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whole life today.
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No, you don't.
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But you can change something, just something, just
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one thing in your life.
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It doesn't have to be anything major.
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It could be one thing.
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Maybe it's your diet, maybe it's your exercise
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routine, maybe it's your sleep routine, right?
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Maybe it's your healthcare routine, right?
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Maybe.
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Ladies and gentlemen, please stop waiting.
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You got to stop waiting.
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And you got to make your move now.
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A lot of people are on the fence
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when I say make your move now.
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It's kind of like, you know, being at
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the swimming pool.
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And I remember many years ago, I'm going
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to jump in, but the pool's cold.
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I would always dip my toe, like, oh,
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it's cold.
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Finally, I decided to just jump in, right?
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And your body adjusts.
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Make your move now.
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And give your future a chance to become
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something different.
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Different.
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Because Einstein said, if we do the same
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thing over and over again, and we expect
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different results, that is the definition, my friends,
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of insanity.
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Have yourself a great rest of your day
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or evening, and check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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Be well, everyone.