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Season 3 - Episode 87 - What chaos means to us. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Oh, look at him on the money
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  with that one. So today we are talking about
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  our addiction to chaos. And I know this is going to be a
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  hard conversation for some people to listen to and admit
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  that they have this problem, but some people are addicted to
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  chaos. So what does that look like?
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  What do I mean when I say that? Well, if you know, let's say you
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  have a household and that household is chaotic.
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  Every single morning you wake up and it's just hell getting your
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  kids out the door and you just can't find your keys and the
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  dogs are annoying you, the kids can't get their stuff together.
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  You know, this is this, and this is a regular occurrence.
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  Now, this is not a one off. This is a regular occurrence
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  because we all have these one off chaotic days, right?
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  But I'm talking about this being a regular occurrence for you.
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  There is a great chance that this chaos has become part of a
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  pattern, which is a pattern of addiction to having it happen.
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  And we get something from it, because if we hang on to things,
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  we get something from them. And that could be the story we
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  get to tell about it, how terrible our mornings are.
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  It could be the feeling that we get from it, of being able to go
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  to our partners and complain that Oh my gosh, you're not
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  doing enough and you don't understand how crazy it is.
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  And I can't do this all by myself, blah blah blah.
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  There is an addiction to that, and we need to stop the madness
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  because the chaos is real and it is put out there all around us
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  all the time. If you're taking in news, you
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  know how chaotic it is. I mean, if if you've been a
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  human being and been alive over the last three years, you
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  understand the craziness that has been put upon us, Whether
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  you know you believe it politically, you don't believe
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  it politically. Whatever it is, the chaos that
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  has been thrown our way through the pandemic, through just
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  hearing about Monkey Pox, whatever it might be, everything
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  has been so amped up, so high level and so chaotic that we
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  have become desensitized to even recognizing it in ourselves.
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  And if we jump back to the example I was using about your
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  own house in the morning and the chaos that you experience, if
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  that's happening for you on some level, you have to look and say,
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  wait, I'm in control. It's my house, it's your house.
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  It's your morning and I'm letting this happen now.
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  I can assure you if there's one thing that I am rigid about,
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  it's my non chaotic mornings because it sets the tone for the
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  day. If you can get a handle on the
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  mornings, you have a better chance of managing the chaos
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  throughout your day. It's just a benchmark.
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  If you go into it in the right mindset, you're going to be able
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  to come through it with the right mindset.
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  But you've got to start at the beginning.
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  You got to start and look at your morning and say, OK, am I
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  creating this chaos as a habit? Have I become addicted to it?
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  Have I just been allowing it? Have I been ditching the the
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  information giving to me because I don't want to deal with it?
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  So what's so important is for you to look at the whole morning
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  as a baseline and say where is it coming from?
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  What's happening? Where are the where are the
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  downfalls? Where are the things that that
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  are my glitches? Where are the things that give
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  me issues? And I don't care if it's small,
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  tiny things like in my world, if we don't have the, you know,
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  dishwasher turned on the night before, or at least set on so
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  that it will wash overnight, then you wake up in the morning.
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  You don't, you have dirty dishes.
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  You don't have enough of what you need.
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  You don't have enough silverware.
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  You don't have somebody's favorite cup that causes chaos.
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  That's something that can start the downhill slide immediately.
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  So the prep work for a great morning does start the night
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  before. So you have to look and see, OK,
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  where, well, where are my hiccups?
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  Because if you don't look at where the problems are from a
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  very neutral standpoint, and what do I mean by that?
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  If you're in the heat of the moment, it's very hard to
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  discern what has to happen because you'll just start
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  blaming other people. But if you sit down today when
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  you are in a very non immediate emotional state about it, let's
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  say you're outside your house and you're thinking about, OK,
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  let me let me go through a normal morning now you're not in
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  the chaos right now. So you can actually think about
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  the chaos and come back with a pretty solid definitive line of
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  how it works in your morning and you can lay it out and say
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  without emotion being triggered. That's the way to look at it and
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  then figure out where can I take these these hiccups and get rid
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  of them. You know, I want, I want them
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  gone. I don't want to have this chaos
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  be part of my life anymore, but it has to start somewhere and
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  that benchmark is you identifying it.
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  So my suggestion would be that today when you were in a neutral
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  place, when you are non emotional, start thinking about
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  your chaos, start thinking about, and it might be that you
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  know as you're going through this, you're like, it's not
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  really my mornings, it's my evenings, It's when I come home
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  or it might be when I get to the office.
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  That's when all hell breaks loose.
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  Sure, this is this can happen anywhere, but typically it all
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  starts in the morning, waking up late, not having the clothes you
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  wanted. Somebody can't find a shoe and
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  it sets the tone of the entire day.
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  Sometimes it sets the tone for the entire week, so I challenge
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  you today to take that on, look at it, see if you can figure out
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  those pieces and then set yourself up to win.
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  I will talk to you tomorrow. Bye.