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Ep.83 – Kevin Goodnight: Transforming Fatherhood With Faith | Devoted Dads | Virtuous Parenting · Virtuous Leaders with Dr. Johann D'Souza

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  So many people especially in Houston, TX in the Bible Belt
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  that love the Lord, they seek the Lord and then they go back
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  to the office on Monday and for whatever reason, they either
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  hide behind their faith or they honestly, they're not as strong
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  in their faith walk that they just go.
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  They compartmentalize. They don't let work in faith
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  everything become this beautiful integration together of things.
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  This is Virtuous Leaders, the podcast for based Catholics who
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  will speak truth, do good, or die trying.
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  Here's the show. You are the founder of Dad
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  Voted, but tell us more more about that.
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  Yeah, I mean, it's crazy. Dad voted for developing devoted
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  dads. And honestly, you would have
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  asked me four or five years ago. I I mean, I've always had this
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  urge to like I marketing branding.
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  I have a marketing major from Baylor, but I never had anything
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  of my own. And, and honestly, this was
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  revealed to me on day 40 of sobriety.
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  Pretty cool. I was praying and I said, Lord,
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  you told me to write this book. I have no clue.
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  And it's going to well, you told me to write this book.
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  It's going to help men and dads, but you never told me what to
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  call it. What do you want to call this?
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  And I heard the word dad voted and didn't know what it meant,
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  looked it up. And then all of a sudden I'm
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  buying it, buying a domain. And a week later I'm meeting
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  with a trademark lawyer and setting up an LLC.
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  And now I'm a couple years into a a ministry or mission for men
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  and dads. How do you help dads?
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  Yeah, man, that's great. The core of it is the core
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  message is to be a better dad, you got to be a better man.
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  And so it's really going at the heart of men.
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  So I do that in a couple ways. I do that through through
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  writing. I've written out two books.
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  Dad voted his book one. Dad's devoted to discovering
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  their duty, direction and destiny, and then wrote book 2
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  it's which is a dad votional. So really, I know I want men to
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  be able to read and and hear my journey and my story of my
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  corporate, my struggles through alcohol, through other things.
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  But then I do coach men. I coach men in fatherhood.
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  I coach men in sobriety and I also do group coaching on like
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  just strongholds. Who and what's holding you back?
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  Is it addiction? Is it workaholism, right, That's
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  approved this in in the world today.
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  But I help, I look to help men and dads through that by
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  uncovering their identity, locking in their purpose.
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  And of course, it's 100% Kingdom focus on Christ.
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  I, I sometimes try to not bring Jesus to the room, but it's just
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  I can't do it without my story is just too powerful for them as
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  well. So that's that's the heart of my
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  coaching or my fatherhood ministry.
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  And really it's just the basics. Dads, how are you showing up?
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  There's so many really good dads, like there's the bad dads.
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  We got the deserted dad way over here who's not even in the
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  picture. And then you get into like this
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  dad, this mission of dads that are, you know, actually towards
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  the my 4th level of dad determined dad.
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  They're good dads. They're coaching the football
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  team, they're coaching the baseball team.
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  They're home most nights of the week.
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  They don't have any addictions or struggle, but the biggest
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  thing they're missing is knowing the true heart of their child
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  and knowing how to intentionally teach, train and coach them in
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  in following following the Lord. That's that's the heart of of
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  the mission. Give us top three tips for busy
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  dads to take their dad game to the next level.
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  Bro Top. Oh my goodness.
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  Here's here. Alright, here we go.
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  You caught me on a Monday. I've got plenty of coffee in me,
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  thank thankfully. Family meals if you, there's
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  like stats that say, I mean, you're, you're in the, you're,
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  you're in therapy and counseling and helping people like the
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  stats say something crazy. If you have 3 mils a week as a
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  family, your kid, the likelihood of your kid suffering addiction.
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  Oh my gosh, the stats just go on and on.
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  I'm, I'm blanking here, but it's like 3 mils.
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  So I just, how do we focus around having three mils a week?
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  That's, that's a number one, when I tell people out of 21
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  mils, 2nd is when you walk in the door, what do you do with
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  that phone? Do you turn that phone off?
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  I mean, if you look, if you're saving lives, I mean, come on,
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  your phone has to be on. I'm sorry, but if you're just a
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  corporate fella, turn that daggone phone off.
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  You're not saving lives. Exxon Mobil will be there
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  tomorrow. I know people cringe when I say
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  that, but put up your phone and have that and say that prayer
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  when you walk in says, Lord, help me to give my best now give
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  me a new revitalized strength and revitalize energy.
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  And then the the last thing is for busy dads book end your day.
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  What are the 1st 15 minutes of the last 15 minutes of your day
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  look like? And what does that are you to
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  take care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually,
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  emotionally? Cause so I kind of do 5 minutes
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  of stretching. I used to mean I do a lot more
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  than 5 minutes of prayer and meditation, but just that
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  meditation in prayer 5 minutes. Then scripture reading gratitude
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  statements at the end of the day.
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  What am I thankful for? I pray with my spouse.
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  So I, I probably packed in about 9 things into your three there,
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  my friend. But that's kind of what I say
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  for for for busy dads, family meals, the bookends of your
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  days, and then just that prayer as you walk in that intentional,
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  intentional prayer. I love that.
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  Anything else you want to say about Dad voted before we go to
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  your most recent venture? Yeah, man, man, Dad, stop trying
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  so much harder. You're already doing a good job.
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  Just be intentional and focus on the heart of your children that
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  they are seen and known and loved.
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  Those are three three things. Second, yeah, I've got dad voted
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  book number twos coming out soon.
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  I've got it. Really buckle down.
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  But you know, we're about duty, direction, destiny.
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  The the next book will be about dominating darkness, defeating
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  divorce, developing disciples. So it's more alliteration along
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  along those days. But we're probably a couple
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  months still out on that hitting the shelves.
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  Oh man, that sounds, that sounds amazing.
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  Hey, so I'm curious from a entrepreneurship perspective,
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  just the other half of this podcast.
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  So what what kind of traction are you getting on these, on
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  these book sales and coaching and where do you want it to go?
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  Man, it's up. It's it's up and down all
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  around. Some days I get paid well, some
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  days I don't. It's, it's, it's just a it's a
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  tough battle. Sell book sells kind of do do
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  this. I've had, I've had a struggle
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  getting my book on audible because of I unfortunately
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  trusted somebody who has not come through.
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  I've recorded it and I so I know 50% of book sales come on
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  audible. So I, you got to have an audible
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  book from, from just that traction, that traction
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  standpoint. Speaking has been good.
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  Sometimes I speak and get paid a lot.
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  Sometimes I speak and get paid nothing.
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  So again, it's just building that roof.
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  But what I tell people is stop chasing what every I mean, I've
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  and I've done it. I pay the 150 bucks for this
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  coach or coaching course. I pay 500 bucks for this guy.
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  I pay 7000 for coaching for this.
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  Some of that's needed. You need accountability, you
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  need coaching, you need, but you can't at the end of the day, you
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  have, you can't chase and compare yourself to people that
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  are further along than you. Naturally with the entrepreneur.
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  I, I have a business background and so I also have kind of the
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  dad voted principles buttoned up in a, in a business consulting.
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  That's not faith as faith-based. It's spiritual in nature about
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  purpose and it's called the wealthy leader.
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  So I've also starting to move into the business consulting
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  side and speaking side as well to train, train leaders on how
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  to be well, do well and live well.
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  And again, all of them are kind of those principles of just
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  life, just life principles. So I don't know if I answered
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  your question. Basically I'm up down and all
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  around. I depend daily on the Lord to
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  provide. I'm grateful for this season
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  that he gave me to. I made very good money for many
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  years, paid my house off, did a lot of things that to get us
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  into this position. My wife is went back to school
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  to get her master's in counseling.
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  So hello, y'all might need to have a conversation at some
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  point. She's one more year in her
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  program remaining and, and then and then all of a sudden, this
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  C-Suite for Christ thing landed in my lap, which is a
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  marketplace ministry. So I know I don't know if you've
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  seen that on any of my postings, but I was praying for
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  partnerships. I love being solo, but I, I
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  thrive around people and I was praying, Lord, if there's a
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  partnership you need me to be aware of, make it so.
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  And I've got AI got a text from from Paul, the founder of
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  C-Suite for Christ and I am launching the chapter of Houston
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  chapter of C-Suite for Christ of marketplace ministry, 100%
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  discipleship in the marketplace. So to say.
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  All that is I have lots of streams of income that's kind of
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  kind of diversified in in this approach.
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  Yeah, C-Suite for Christ was the next thing I wanted to ask you
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  about. So why should I join that?
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  Yeah, look, it's the marketplace is fertile and I say that in a
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  way as such. There's so many people
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  especially in Houston, TX in the Bible Belt that love the Lord.
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  They seek the Lord and then they go back to the office on Monday
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  and and for whatever reason, they either hide behind their
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  faith or they honestly they're not as strong in their faith
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  walk that they just go. They compartmentalize.
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  They don't let work in faith everything become this beautiful
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  integration together of things, but it is cease to be for grace
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  is not professional development. Now yes, we will have speakers
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  every month that come and you're going to get a nugget of
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  something it's not networking. Are you going to meet some
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  people sure if you need a new roof and the guy next to you
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  owns a roofing company by all means use him you trust him.
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  It is 100% discipleship in the marketplace.
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  How do leaders come to get refueled and then in turn can go
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  back home is because home is most important and then back to
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  the marketplace to share the love of Christ.
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  And so that's the that's the premise behind it monthly
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  gatherings, but also there will be prayer calls and other things
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  that we do, but it's linking up with like minded believers to
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  further our to increase our faith and to grow and and cover
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  this great city in Christ. Second, how do we steward these
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  resources? There's no look, I'll be the
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  first to say there's a lot of good resources.
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  I'm not saying come give it all to C-Suite for Christ, but man,
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  if your passion is for fatherlessness, if your passion
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  is for prison ministries, if your passion is for the
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  trafficked, if your passion is is for homeless, like let's
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  gather these local nonprofits that are faith-based and help
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  boost them so that these business leaders in this amazing
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  city are doing things to cover Houston and Christ.
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  How do we end abortion? How do we stop?
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  I mean, I think the stat said if everybody in my church, I go to
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  woods edge, woods Woods Edge Community Church.
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  If every member woods edge adopted one child that the in
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  Montgomery County, we would there would be no more foster
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  care needed. And I'll get that's a big ass.
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  Not everybody's called to that, but I'm just saying that's one
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  church on mission. So I believe the Kingdom can do
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  a lot, a lot of things, and it starts with business owners
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  based on just our influence as well as our resources.
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  So what's the connection between nonprofits benefiting and
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  C-Suite for Christ? I think it's more it's exposure,
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  right? And you're getting, you're
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  getting, you're going to hopefully be sitting in rooms of
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  business leaders that are also Kingdom minded.
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  So they want to give, they understand that they're, they
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  want to see their dollars go further.
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  Honestly, right. You, you give to there's some
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  great non ministry missions out there, but what do you give 100
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  bucks you'd like to see as much of 100 bucks go to that mission.
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  And so I, I look at how do we help these local nonprofits in
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  this area just get more exposure, get access to Kingdom
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  fighting folks that are also business leaders who
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  predominantly should have more resources.
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  Doesn't always need to get, you know what I mean?
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  Have they have a heart to give? Generosity flows and they would
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  rather see generosity go towards Kingdom stuff than to a
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  university or a a school. Which kid?
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  Not bad things, but that's where a lot of that other funding goes
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  to well. Hopefully not bad things.
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  You can't really take that for granted anymore.
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  You can't, absolutely. So how do you how do you get
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  your speaking engagements for Dad voted?
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  You know, it's hard like it's referral, man, Everything's
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  referral word of mouth. I, I post areas of me speaking.
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  I invite lots of folks. Churches are, are I've pursued
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  lots of churches. Some want are open arms.
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  Some are. It's just based on the church
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  and that's nothing right, wrong or indifferent.
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  They have to take a risk on me to to be in front of their their
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  pulp. The mainly most of my speaking
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  comes from just that word of mouth.
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  I spoke Friday at an event and even while I spoke at that
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  event, I had a church watching me speak, you know, live behind
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  the scenes. And so I I then I just send out
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  clips. I had lots of proposals.
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  I get told more no today than I ever got told in my whole life,
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  and that's OK. I I went to my prior thing on
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  Friday. I spoke at as a inspired leaders
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  here in the woodland and I just prayed.
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  I said, Lord, if there's one person you need that you need to
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  hear this message today. That's sufficient for me and
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  man, what do you know? I give a business speech, but
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  interwived, interweaved as my testimony in the Lord's hand.
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  And after that I had a handful of people, but one guy said I
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  literally was turning around to not come to this and I came I'm
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  calling somebody to get today to get help.
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  I have anger issues. It's it's influential.
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  I'm going to call I'm calling my therapist today to get back in.
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  I'm going to go see this person. I'm going to get help here.
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  I'm going to start going to this ministry and it's like, that was
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  why I needed to speak a gal I just got off the phone with
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  today. She said, I've been praying to
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  meet a person like you for two years that understands business,
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  faith, work, all this stuff mixed in.
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  So I look at that as you know what, that's that's the heart of
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  the message. If that one person goes away
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  fulfilled and changed with action with action, you can't
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  just be emotionally feel good. Like I'm going to text this guy
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  go. Did you call your therapist on
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  Friday? Like you said, like that's that
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  goes that's the coaching side of me, right?
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  Tangible take away accountability.
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  So yeah, if anybody listening needs a passionate speaker, I'll
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  send you a link or two. Let's go so and.
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  How do people find you, Kevin? Yeah, it's Linkedin's kind of my
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  my source of where I stay and play.
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  Just Kevin goodnight. Of course, Dad, voted.com,
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  thewealthyleader.com and wealthy is spelled, well, WELLTHY.
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  And that's kind of where I hang out.
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  Of course. Come see us at C-Suite,
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  September 18th, our first gathering.
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  We will have one in The Woodlands and one in the
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  Galleria area. So you're invited my friend.
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  Please come. And it will will definitely link
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  arms and just go to battle together.
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  That's the heart of my mission and goal.
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  Love it. Thank you.
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  Yes, Sir. Thank you.
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  Thanks for listening. Please like, subscribe and share
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  with your friends. See you next time.