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120. SIP & SPILL: sisters trying figuring their sh*t out... advice, friendship breakups & more · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Hello, you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
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  Speaker 1: Hawkgirl Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
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  Speaker 1: your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
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  Speaker 1: a new mindset.
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  Speaker 2: What I just feel like you're looking at me?
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  Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome back to another episode. I couldn't even finish
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  Speaker 1: because the sister energy in here is just given laughs
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  Speaker 1: right now. I don't know, it just is. But welcome
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  Speaker 1: to a new series. We are starting a Sip and
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  Speaker 1: Spill Sister edition where we're going to be spilling the
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  Speaker 1: tea and giving our best advice when it comes to anything.
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  Speaker 1: We actually just created an Instagram story on our Instagram
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  Speaker 1: page where we wanted you guys to ask any questions
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  Speaker 1: that you guys might have so for future reference, we're
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  Speaker 1: going to be doing this on a monthly basis. If
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  Speaker 1: you guys want to be involved in, just input any
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  Speaker 1: questions or any advice you guys want from us when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to what do we talk about? Relationships, self care, advice,
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  Speaker 1: glow ups, just like anything?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, living your best life?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.
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  Speaker 2: So.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we just figured we'd kind of introduced the topic
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  Speaker 1: of this episode that we're going to be doing moving
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  Speaker 1: forward once a month, and I really hope you guys
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  Speaker 1: enjoy this new episode series that we're going to be starting.
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  Speaker 1: But because we called it Sip and Spill, we'd like
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  Speaker 1: to shout out.
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  Speaker 2: Chat GBT for creating this title.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, we just went on chat GBT and we're like,
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  Speaker 1: what's a cute like sister episode idea? And they thought of, well, whoever,
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  Speaker 1: CHATJEBT isill Sip and Spill. So I'm like, that's cute
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  Speaker 1: because we could get drinks and just kind of like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, tied into the episode series. So today's
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  Speaker 1: drink of choice is a poppy. We love poppy so much.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys have ever tried it.
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  Speaker 1: We're having the cherry lime flavored, like, yeah, we're obsessed
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  Speaker 1: with poppies, Like I have one probably like three times
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  Speaker 1: a week. Same, Yeah, it's pretty bad. What's your favorite
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  Speaker 1: flavor though.
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  Speaker 2: I'd say either the cherry limeaid or the cranberry one
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  Speaker 2: that's limited edition.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, the fizz Cranberry fizz that probably yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that actually I think is my favorite.
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  Speaker 2: I just love cranberry anything. Yeah, Cranberry ginger ale my
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  Speaker 2: go to and I was like, I gotta switch it up,
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  Speaker 2: and now I'm obsessed with the poppies.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. Cherry lime Maaid is also one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorites. The Cranberry Fizz is also very good. I
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  Speaker 1: also love the strawberry lemonade in my opinion because I'm
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  Speaker 1: a huge lemonade girl. But they do have a lot
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  Speaker 1: of flavors in the States that I still have not
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  Speaker 1: tried that I do think would be really good. Like
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  Speaker 1: they have blueberry. I think they have some type of
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  Speaker 1: like row one lemon lime, lemon lime.
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  Speaker 2: That's a good one.
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  Speaker 1: That one we actually have tried. The rose one, the
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  Speaker 1: pink rose. Yeah, so good. So whenever we go to
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  Speaker 1: the States, we usually like stock up on different flavors
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  Speaker 1: of poppies that we can't get here. I'm hoping eventually
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  Speaker 1: they'll come here. Like right now, we only have those
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  Speaker 1: flavors that I mentioned.
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  Speaker 2: We actually Costco.
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  Speaker 1: Costco sells the blueberry and.
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  Speaker 2: Level I know I have to tell you about that.
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  Speaker 2: I have to get they have a case of it now,
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  Speaker 2: we know right now, like at our like local grocery stores,
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  Speaker 2: we have like the actual boxes of the orange, the strawberry, cherry, Lund,
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  Speaker 2: Doctor Pop not even the cherry Lime made Cherry Lime
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  Speaker 2: just launch at Costco. Right, I've right, you're right doctor
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  Speaker 2: pop Poppy is it called? Yeah, and it's like a
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  Speaker 2: doctor cooler, Yeah, doctor peppers. Those are the only ones,
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  Speaker 2: which is unfortunate because we're both poppy lovers.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you guys have never heard of poppy. Essentially,
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  Speaker 1: it's like a healthier alternative to soda. So there's only
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  Speaker 1: like three to four grams of sugar. I believe it
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  Speaker 1: actually has apple cider vinegar in it as well, So
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of like pros to it just being
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  Speaker 1: like a good alternative if you're that kind of person
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  Speaker 1: that just like wants to cut out soda, Like I
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  Speaker 1: don't know the last time I had soda.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you honestly like it makes you not feel
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  Speaker 2: the need no soda.
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  Speaker 1: Which is great because there's so much sugar in soda. Guys.
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  Speaker 1: Like one time I just looked at like a can
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  Speaker 1: of coke to see how much sugar is actually in it,
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  Speaker 1: and I think it was thirty two grams of sugar. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: thirty two grams. That's crazy. So anyways, it's just so
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  Speaker 1: good alternative. So that is our drink. Of the day,
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  Speaker 1: But we thought it could be fun to have this
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  Speaker 1: as like part of the episode because we thought, you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's so many fun drinks that we could try, Like
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  Speaker 1: we've been trying Macha lately. We've been trying different coffee
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  Speaker 1: orders at like Starbucks and just like different like local
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  Speaker 1: coffee shops. So we just thought that could be a
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  Speaker 1: fun way to like tie into the conversation about sipping
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  Speaker 1: a drink. So anyways, we're gonna get into some of
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  Speaker 1: the questions that you guys sent us over. Actually, let's
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  Speaker 1: first do a little introduction of my sister being here.
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  Speaker 1: I think she's been on an episode here before, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: not for a while. Yeah, maybe say your name, your age,
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  Speaker 1: and yeah, well you just finished, Yeah, a little bit
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  Speaker 1: about yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Well hi everyone. If you don't know me, my name
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  Speaker 2: is Madison. Kaylee usually calls me Maddie. I am twenty
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  Speaker 2: five years old. I just turned twenty five in March.
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  Speaker 2: What else, I just finished my masters, So I've been
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  Speaker 2: in school for quite some time. Me and Kayley have
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  Speaker 2: been always working together for quite a while, but I
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  Speaker 2: think I just haven't had the time with school to
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  Speaker 2: actually dedicate the time to working with her, and now
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  Speaker 2: I do now that I'm done school, which is nice.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I did my undergrad for four years and
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  Speaker 2: then did another two years and just finish my masters,
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  Speaker 2: which is exciting. I don't really know that's good. No,
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  Speaker 2: I think that's good.
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  Speaker 1: Me and my sister do have a pretty close relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and we're going to get into some questions here in
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  Speaker 1: regards to a relationship with your family or with your sister,
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  Speaker 1: and like how to stay close with the sibling. That
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  Speaker 1: was actually one of our questions that someone had to ask. Yeah, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I guess it was a common question that people. That's
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  Speaker 1: which is good because, to be fully transparent, my sister
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  Speaker 1: and I were not always close, and I think that's
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  Speaker 1: a pretty common thing when it comes to siblings. Like
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  Speaker 1: when we were younger, I would say when I was
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  Speaker 1: like starting out in high school and Madison was like
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  Speaker 1: just getting into the same school as me.
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  Speaker 2: So like when I started grade and a grade eleven,
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  Speaker 2: is it when we started getting close or when we no?
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  Speaker 2: When we weren't.
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  Speaker 1: Close all the time I was in grade eleven, you
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  Speaker 1: were in grade seven.
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  Speaker 2: When you think about it, I feel like every older
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  Speaker 2: sister doesn't really love their younger sister. Yeah, only because
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  Speaker 2: like I just wanted to be just like her, right,
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  Speaker 2: and she kind of saw that as like me trying
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  Speaker 2: to copy her.
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  Speaker 1: Literally, ever since I was seven years old, there's videos
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  Speaker 1: that I look back at where my sister's like what
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  Speaker 1: three or four, and like I would pick, like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: I want purple pajamas, and Madison's like I want purple
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  Speaker 1: pajamas too, and I'm like, oh my gosh, you can't
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  Speaker 1: copy me, Madison. But like when you look back at
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  Speaker 1: it now, now we always copy each other and we
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  Speaker 1: want to copy each other.
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  Speaker 2: Just bought like two of the exact same bags and
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  Speaker 2: like neither of us care like she thought of the idea.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I kind of love that.
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  Speaker 1: I actually want whatever she buys.
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  Speaker 3: She like each other's influence. Yeah, she literally did not
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  Speaker 3: even influence when you influence me. All the time, she'll
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  Speaker 3: show me something that she bought. Even on Amazon, we'll
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  Speaker 3: like buy each other's We have like.
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  Speaker 2: The same Amazon account. So sometimes I'll have something in
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  Speaker 2: my cart that I'm gonna buy and then it'll be
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  Speaker 2: gone and my sister will be like, oh yeah, sorry,
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  Speaker 2: I already bought it. I like, oh, well, now I
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  Speaker 2: have to readd it to my car.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny because we just like influence each other. But
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  Speaker 1: like when you think of things back then, it definitely
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  Speaker 1: wasn't always that way. And I want to say, like
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  Speaker 1: when we when we were younger, I think there was
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  Speaker 1: always a bond, but like we always butted heads. But
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  Speaker 1: I think when it was like really bad is when
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  Speaker 1: I was older and I kind of understood, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was older, and I just felt like you weren't cool,
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  Speaker 1: right because you're so much younger than me, because we
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  Speaker 1: are four years apart, right, so it's not like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: we have a two year age gap where like we
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  Speaker 1: kind of were in the same phase or same air
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  Speaker 1: on her life. I feel like four years is a
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  Speaker 1: pretty big difference where you can start to notice that
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  Speaker 1: like I'm in high school versus you're still in elementary school.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, And also too,
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  Speaker 2: like I feel like when you, for example, started college
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  Speaker 2: and when I was in I was still in high school.
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  Speaker 2: Like I just feel like at that point, especially at
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  Speaker 2: when you're four years apart, there's definitely different levels of
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  Speaker 2: maturity one hundred percent. So yeah, I think that was
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  Speaker 2: kind of the main reason why we were butting heads.
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  Speaker 2: But it was never like we were.
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  Speaker 1: Like cover in a bad place like no, no hated
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  Speaker 1: each other.
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  Speaker 2: It was just it was, honestly always like the same
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  Speaker 2: constant fights we'd have, Like I think, I don't I
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  Speaker 2: didn't even think of.
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  Speaker 1: Like what are you bringing up right now?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I can think of a lot.
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  Speaker 1: See, I don't have a good memory of that kind
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  Speaker 1: of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I remember you threw a phone at.
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  Speaker 3: That's the most relatable thing I've ever No, I don't
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  Speaker 3: remember throwing a phone at you.
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  Speaker 1: I think, well, clearly you did something me off. Anyways,
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  Speaker 1: long story short, the relationship was not always where it
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  Speaker 1: was now. I think, you know, we always had a connection,
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  Speaker 1: but like it was never as strong as what it
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  Speaker 1: is now. Like I think what brought us closer is honestly,
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  Speaker 1: like the maturity level and growing up, as you said,
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  Speaker 1: Like I feel like because at a certain age, like
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  Speaker 1: you grow at different rates, right like you were, you know,
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  Speaker 1: still pretty young, especially when I was in college and
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  Speaker 1: you were in high school. I would say, honestly, when
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  Speaker 1: Madison got to university and I had a full time job,
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  Speaker 1: we did actually start working together for my dad's company
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  Speaker 1: for a period of time. And I do think that
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  Speaker 1: kind of brought us closer together in a sense because
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  Speaker 1: being around each other a bit more than just at home,
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  Speaker 1: and like working together. I also find like working in
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  Speaker 1: an environment with another person, like, yeah, you really get
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  Speaker 1: to know the person, right, Like so I thought.
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  Speaker 2: I also think that the point in our lives where
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  Speaker 2: I personally feel like we got the closest was when
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  Speaker 2: you moved out. Yeah, that's when I think is that
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  Speaker 2: is alsois because I feel like we we didn't really
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  Speaker 2: realize how much we enjoyed each other's company until we
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  Speaker 2: didn't live together anymore. And I think that brought us
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  Speaker 2: closer than ever because we actually made the effort to
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  Speaker 2: you know, we FaceTime every day now, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Literally and literally more than everything. Yeah, probably ten times
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  Speaker 1: a day.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it just I think it just made
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  Speaker 2: us closer because we weren't, you know, living together anymore,
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  Speaker 2: so we just wanted to be together all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think like if you don't have a sister,
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  Speaker 1: like think of your best best friend that you can
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  Speaker 1: think of that you may have a really close relationship
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  Speaker 1: with that you constantly call for advice or you constantly
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: call for literally anything, just to just talk like that's
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  Speaker 1: the best comparison I would save to a sister. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I think personally for me, like I obviously have best
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  Speaker 1: friends who are my age I am very close with,
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  Speaker 1: but there's nothing like a bond when it's family. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, there's something it's hard to like you can
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  Speaker 1: compare it to it, but in a sense, it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to like compare to that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's also too like she's the only person in
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  Speaker 2: my life who's literally had the almost the exact same
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  Speaker 2: experiences growing up, right, Yeah, we share the same parents,
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  Speaker 2: so it's like how I grew up is how she
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  Speaker 2: grew up. And I can't remember where I saw this,
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  Speaker 2: maybe on TikTok, but I remember somebody talking about like
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  Speaker 2: the reason, like the bond with your sibling is so
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  Speaker 2: strong is because typically, like you know, the way you
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  Speaker 2: grow up sets you up for how you live in
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  Speaker 2: the future, and you know, no one compares to your
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  Speaker 2: sibling in terms of how you grew up, Like if
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  Speaker 2: your sibling experienced trauma, you experienced trauma, you know. Like
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  Speaker 2: I mean, obviously, like that's a bit more broad and
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  Speaker 2: doesn't apply to every situation, but I think more the
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  Speaker 2: point is is that you know, you guys have been
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  Speaker 2: through almost everything together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think, like building a relationship with your sibling,
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  Speaker 1: I think the best thing to do is really just
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  Speaker 1: find things that you have common. So for us, like
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  Speaker 1: we both love to work out, so I feel like
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  Speaker 1: a lot of the cases will be us, like booking
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  Speaker 1: a workout class together. We also both played the same
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  Speaker 1: sport growing up, so Madison plays soccer. I used to
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  Speaker 1: play soccer, So sometimes we'll go play a soccer game together,
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  Speaker 1: usually in the summer. You know, other things is just
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  Speaker 1: obviously girly things like going shopping together, going to get
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  Speaker 1: our nails done together, Like find things that you both
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  Speaker 1: have a lot in common in and like try and
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  Speaker 1: experience those things together.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because it also makes doing whatever that thing is
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  Speaker 2: more fun.
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  Speaker 1: When Yeah, and it's a bonding experience and like I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that's kind of something or a way to
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  Speaker 1: like create a bond between each other and get closer.
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  Speaker 1: So that would probably be my top recommendation if you're
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  Speaker 1: trying to build a stronger relationship with your sibling. Another
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  Speaker 1: question we got asked a lot was about like friendship
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  Speaker 1: breakups and like making friends in your twenties, how to
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  Speaker 1: handle your early twenties all that, and I think we
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  Speaker 1: can both agree that we've both been through our own
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  Speaker 1: friendship breakups. I think it's a very common thing that
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  Speaker 1: happens to people, especially in your twenties, because it's such
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  Speaker 1: a roller coaster. We've talked about this in you know,
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  Speaker 1: other episodes where you know, your twenties are supposed to
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  Speaker 1: be a roller coaster of emotions and a roller coaster
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  Speaker 1: of a time. I do think you do grow a lot,
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  Speaker 1: and you do change a lot from the beginning of
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  Speaker 1: your twenties to the end. And you know, Madison's twenty five,
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  Speaker 1: so she's still in her twenties. But I do think
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  Speaker 1: there's been a lot of different friendships even in the
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  Speaker 1: five years of your twenties. And I think about, you know,
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  Speaker 1: my early twenties versus now, like I actually had a
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  Speaker 1: recent friendship breakup that I actually just thought about, looking
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  Speaker 1: at Madison right now when didn't even talk to her
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  Speaker 1: about this. With my wedding, I had someone who didn't show.
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  Speaker 2: Up to my wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah, it was a very sticky situation. I
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  Speaker 1: actually haven't spoken to her since, and I'm not that
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  Speaker 1: kind of person where I'm gonna purposely ignore you in
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  Speaker 1: a situation like if she's at you know, a gathering
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  Speaker 1: that you know someone is hosted, like a friend's night
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  Speaker 1: or something like if she approaches me and she says, hey,
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  Speaker 1: how are you, Like, I'm gonna say hi, I'm good
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  Speaker 1: you like a I don't want to say act like
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  Speaker 1: everything's okay. But I'm not gonna go out of my
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  Speaker 1: way to make plans with this girl. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: go out of my way to like, you know, see
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  Speaker 1: her or anything like that. So for me, I guess
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  Speaker 1: the way I'm dealing with this recent friendship breakup is
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  Speaker 1: just like not giving her like my time and energy,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I'm not going to
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  Speaker 1: reach out, I'm not going to text her Like Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: a wedding is a huge part of your life and
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  Speaker 1: it's like one of the biggest milestones that you have,
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  Speaker 1: and I think it was like very frustrating to have
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  Speaker 1: someone that was a part of my life for a
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  Speaker 1: long period of time and like kind of create a Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I guess there was also more to just the wedding, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: Like there was more to just that, Like there was
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  Speaker 1: things over time that, you know, she chose her job
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  Speaker 1: over her friendships, which is so fine, but she kind
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  Speaker 1: of distanced herself from everybody, like she really was not
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  Speaker 1: trying to create a friendship with anyone, Like as soon
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  Speaker 1: as COVID hit, like she was really just like a homebody,
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  Speaker 1: which again everyone was kind of like in that phase.
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  Speaker 1: But then once she got this job that allowed her
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  Speaker 1: to travel a lot, she kind of just like completely
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  Speaker 1: forgot about everyone in our friendship circle and didn't make
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  Speaker 1: the effort to seeing people, and like I would reach
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  Speaker 1: out and she never really got back to me, and
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  Speaker 1: so there was just like a lack of effort in
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  Speaker 1: both ways. So I mean, obviously friendship breakups are never
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  Speaker 1: easy and it's not easy to deal with, but I
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  Speaker 1: think it's always important to keep your head high and
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: always be the bigger person and just you know, if
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: you see that person, don't feel uncomfortable in that situation.
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: I think it's important just to be like, hey, how
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: are you, how are things Like at the end of
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: the day, you can still have a civil conversation and
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: see how they are and all that. We don't need
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: to create any drama by avoiding the person completely and
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: just almost creating a scene by not doing anything right,
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: Like I still would welcome her to a conversation, but
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: you know, now that the friendship isn't there, I wouldn't
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: go out of my way to like I don't know,
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: like yeah, connect her to like my birthday party or whatever,
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: like having a girl's night like I probably wouldn't.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: I know for me, And I don't know if anybody
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: else can relate to this, And I know Kaylee will
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: know exactly what I'm talking about, But I feel like
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: for me, throughout my twenties, I've personally grown a lot.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: And one thing that I used to do that I mean,
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: i'd say I still do, but not as much anymore,
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: is I kind of let people walk all over me
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: a bit. I'm not very I'm not the most confrontational person,
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: and that's something I'm working on and I'm growing and
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: learning about that and what that means for you know,
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: what I want and a friend and in a friendship.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: But I think at the beginning of my twenties, I
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: had friends who kind of took advantage of my kindness
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: and that I didn't really appreciate. And it wasn't even
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: me who would see it, but it was the people
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: that I loved who would see it, like Kaylee would
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: always talk about that. My mom would always bring that
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: up to me, and I think over the course of
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: my twenties, as I was growing and maturing, I realized that,
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: you know, that wasn't a healthy friendship, and that's not
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: what I wanted in a friendship, because friendships are about,
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: you know, growing together and being there for each other,
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: and you were standing up for each other. It's not
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: about you know, putting someone down, belittling them, taking advantage.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: And friendships them doesn't mean that it's like you have
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: to constantly see each other like every week and all that.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: Like I have friends who don't even live here, who
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: live in other parts of Canada, and you know, I
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: always just try and make sure I make the effort
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: at least like every few weeks, just to like touch base,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: saying hey, how are you, how are things? Like we
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: should do a face time call. Like it's just like
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: those little things of putting in the effort. So my
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: friend is in a different phase in her life. She
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: just had a baby boy, and you know, I know
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: having a kid has been a part of her whole life.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: So I don't want to you know, feel like we
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: have to see each other every week, because I know,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: like that's a whole different world for her right now.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: And we'll touch base on the pressure of you know,
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: having kids and all that and just the pressure of
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: being in your twenties in the next question. But what
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: I've realized is that, like I don't need to see
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: her every week or every single day in order to
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: like maintain our friendship at the end of the day,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: as long as you guys are both making the effort
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: and seeing each other and like making the time for
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: each other, even if again it's just a FaceTime call
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: or whatever, Like, I still think that creates a strong
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: bond in a friendship. And then making friends in your twenties,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I definitely think is something that I've recently done and
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: I think I've mentioned it here on the podcast, But
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: I've made a lot of friends through just workout classes
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: and finding people who have so much in common with
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: me as well, which is so nice and so refreshing,
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: because you know, I have my friend group that I
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: enjoy being with, but I think we're friends for you
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: have friends for different reasons, and I think that's another reason.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: But I think also to kind of touching on like
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: you know, as Kaylee mentioned, making friends through you know,
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: going to workouts and stuff like that. I know for
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: me and I know for Kally as well. All of
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: our long time friends have been made through sports that yes, yes,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: growing up. So who knows, maybe there's a sport that
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: you are thinking about joining or an activity that you're
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: thinking about doing with especially.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Well I think that's another example, right, So it's like
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: if me going to workout classes is like kind of
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: considering my going to an activity. That's why I'm creating
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: a bomb with someone. So if you're the kind of
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: person that maybe doesn't like to work out, but you
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: like sports like playing tennis or pickleball or soccer or basketball,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: join a team. I'm sure you'll meet a you know,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: a friend through.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: There where you guys both have already, like how Kaylee
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: was saying, sometimes we get so busy with our li
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: that we don't really have the time to hang out.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Majority of the time when I see my friends, it's
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: at a soccer game or it's at a workout studio
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: where it's like, you know, you're not really it's not
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: really a hangout like where it was planned. But you're
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: still seeing each other and able to like maybe get
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: coffee after, do something after.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: But I think this is like, that's what a reality
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: of spending time with friends, because as you get older,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: your life gets busy. Work becomes a priority, family becomes
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: a priority, like living life in general. In your twenties,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: it's not like when you were when you were eighteen
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: or when you're seventeen, where you know, after school you
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: can like, Okay, come over, like let's hang out, let's
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: do homework together. It's not the same anymore, right, So
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: doing these little activities and hobbies like working out or
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: going on walks together, anything that like you can get
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: coffee together, yes, exactly. I think that's like the key
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: thing to friendships is finding those little things that you
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: can do together to maintain it or find new friends
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: by doing these things. So I said, like, we have
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: met a lot of girls through the workout classes, me
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: and Madison, which has been super fun. And we've actually
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: gone out to dinner together. We've done coffees together, smoothie
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: runs together like after workouts or you know, we'll just
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: all try and figure out a day that works for
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: everyone for us to go you know, go out for
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: dinner together and obviously like it's not something that happens
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: every month, but like the fact we're all trying to
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: make the effort of doing it ever so often, like
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: shows that we care for each other and that there's
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: something there, like there's a friendship being created. So it's
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: really nice to like have friends for different occasions and
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: different for different things and all that. And it's fun
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: to meet new friends and it feels like.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: It's exciting too. And I think like especially with like
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: I know, for me with workout classes, I never wanted
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: to do them starting out, only because I was so
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: scared to go myself. And I feel like when you
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: start going and you meeting people friends and yeah, create
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: these friendships, it almost makes you excited to go workout
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: class is because it's like you're not alone anymore. You
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: have people to talk to and honestly don't be scared
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: to like be the first one two hundred percent yourself
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: at a new workout.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Remember Ange, when there was a girl at my pilates
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: class who literally was wearing the exact same outfit as me,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: and I went up to her.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: I started up on after and I was like.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I have the exact same outfit and
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: she started to laugh, and then you know, we started
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: talking about the workout brand and how we both loved it,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: and you know, brought up other conversations and then you know,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: the next workout class, it didn't It didn't feel awkward
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: because I approached her and she's like, hey, how are you,
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: and like, oh, I love your workout set today again
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: brings up a new conversation. So don't be afraid to
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: go speak to something.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: It just makes you excited. I think when you build
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: those relationships and you create those friendships, it'll make you
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: excited to start going more.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: And also, don't ever put an age to a friendship either,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: like guys, yeah, I'm twenty nine and I think all
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: my friends are like twenty six, twenty seven, twenty five,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: twenty four, or like I think once you're in your twenties,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. We're all at the same maturity level.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: We're all you know, we are at different phases in
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: our life. But I still don't think it really impacts
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: the friendship at all in my opinion. Like again, I
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: have one friend who's married and has a baby, and
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: then I have another friend who just got out of
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: university and who's trying to find a job.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: Like, it's totally okay to.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Have different friends at different age ranges and anyways. I
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: just want to make that clear because I do think
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: sometimes there's like, yeah, this yeah sense of pressure of
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: having to be friends with people like the exact same
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: age or in the same phase and all that. But
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: like you can have friends for different reasons and for
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: different things and not let that impact.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: You, Yeah, different points in your life.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: So that brings us into the next conversation, which is
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: about the external pressures of being in your twenties. And again,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: I think me and Madison both have two different pressures
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: in her life right now. I think the pressure for
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Madison is finding a career, right, like she just finished
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: university and like, I'll let you touch on that part.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah. No, So, as I mentioned, I just finish my masters,
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: and I feel like your twenties it's a very difficult
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: time in the sense that you're figuring everything out. You're
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: figuring out your life. You're kind of figuring out through
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: school maybe what exactly you want to do with your life.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: So I know, for me right now, I just feel
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: this almost like Kille mentioned an external pressure, you know,
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: to have my shit figured out, yeah, in a way,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: and sometimes it's not that easy. And so right now
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out a career path for myself.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: I know what I like, I know what my interests are,
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: but sometimes it's hard, you know, to find a perfect
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: job out there that suits exactly what you want. So yeah,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: right now I've been trying to navigate that. And not
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: just with like career, but I think or in the
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: career space, I think there's a lot of like different
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: kind of pressures that come with, for example, relationships and
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: being in a relationship like I have been single. I'm
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: not single anymore. I was single for the majority of
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: your twenties, majority of my twenties. Yeah, I did not
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: get my first boyfriend until I was twenty five. So
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: to anybody out there who's twenty three, twenty four and thinking, oh,
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: I've never had a boyfriend, I'm right there with yeah. Yeah.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: And I did not get my first boyfriend until I
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: was twenty five, and I definitely had a lot of pressure.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: I felt like, oh, you know, a guy's not gonna
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: want to date me if I had never been in
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: a world.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: And then I felt so bad because like I feel
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: like she'd always come to me with advice, and like
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: I was like the worst person to ask for advice
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: because I've been with this I wasn't the best because
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I've been with the same person since high school. So
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: it's like I can't even like, you know, I'm like, okay,
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: go on the dating apps and like yeah, friends of friends,
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: and like I know that's not always the way that
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: it works out, but you know, I was hard to
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: like help her out when like all I could really
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: do is just be her motivational support of like, hey,
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: you're gonna find someone, Like it's gonna be out, like
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: just give it.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: Time and like we'll know.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I would say for.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: That, though, like the best advice I could give is
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: that not to compare yourself together. Everybody's on their own timeline,
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: everybody's on their own life path, and I would much
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: rather wait until I'm thirty however old I am, to
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: be with the right person, then waste my time with
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: the wrong ones. Agree, don't feel like you need to
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: rush to get into a relationship if it's let's say
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: you're rushing to get into relationships and that it doesn't
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: feel right with like like I said, I'd much rather wait,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: you know, because that then that way I know I'm
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: with the right person percent.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: And like with Zach, you know, we have been together
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: for twelve years, but I don't want anyone to seem
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: like it was a perfect twelve years for all twelve years,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Like every relationship goes through it's bumps, and you know,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: we had times where like we never really grew apart,
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: but like we always found a way to like figure
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: stuff out.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: Like what Zach and I are really good at in
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: our relationship is that we constantly communicate with each other.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: If there's something that's wrong, we communicate. And I think
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: that's what allowed us to stay together as long as
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: as we have is because you know, we would say,
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: you know, this is not working out in terms of
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: whatever the situation was, and we would communicate that to
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: each other and then it's like, Okay, that person makes
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: the effort to make those changes. You know. Here's a
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: random example, Like my husband was playing too much baseball.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you're playing. It was like it
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: was like or think of maybe your husband or your
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: boyfriend playing too much golf.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: I was like okay.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: It was like five days a week after work, right,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: And this is when I was working a job at
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: the time, and the only time you really get to
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: see each other is after your job. So you know,
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: I said to my husband, I said, you got to
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: figure out the balance between our relationship and you playing
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: sports or playing golf or whatever the case a week,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: because I'm like, it's not gonna work if I'm only
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: seeing you once or twice a week because you decided
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: to dedicate all this time playing sports. So I communicated
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: to him that I'm like, we need to make a
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: change in this because it's not going to work out
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: this way if you keep doing that. And he's like,
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: you know what, You're right, So then he cut it
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: down to three nights a week, and I said, perfect,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: that's more reasonable. You still get to do what you love,
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: and you know, I get the pro of us getting
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: to be together and it creates the relationship to be stronger.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: So I think that's kind of like a situation where
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: you know, it's important to communicate in the relationship in
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: order to maintain it. So anyways, at the end of
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: the day, I do think there can be challenges in
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: a relationship, but as long as you guys can work
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: through it. I think it's important to always just communicate
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: and always say your honest thoughts and feedback on how
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: to resolve a situation. And I think that's really what
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: maintains a long, healthy relationship.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's how you also know, like I
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: was saying that it's the right person.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: Exactly that well, and I think that's kind of where
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: I was trying to go into the conversation, was like
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: I knew that Zach was my person because like we
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: were able to work through any little hiccup or any
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: little issue that you know, we communicated about and were
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: able to get through it. So I think that's a
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: huge part of knowing when the person is the one.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: But I think for me right now, of course, like
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Madison was bringing up the pressure of just like finding
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: a career and like making the decision on what one
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: she feels is like the best for her, Whereas for me,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, I'm in my late twenties
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: where like I feel like I have my shit figured
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: out and i feel like I'm in the right career
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: path and I'm going down the right direction. But when
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: it comes to like other friends like having kids right
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: now and all that, Like obviously, for me, like it's
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: such a weird situation because it's like I think I'm ready,
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: but then I don't think I'm ready, and then I
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: feel like I have so much that I still want
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: to do, and like, I don't know, I think it's
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: okay to like not compare yourself again bringing up what
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Madison said, it's important to not compare yourself because we're
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: all on our own timeline and to not rush anything.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: And I think everyone, at least from my own personal situation,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I think everyone kind of has their own little checklist
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: of things that like they want to complete in their life.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: And like for me, you know, there's some people that
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: may want to have kids immediately where after they get married,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: but for me, like I always envisioned like having another
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: house and you know, maybe traveling a bit more and
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: you know, figuring out my career more. And you know,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: I didn't really want to rush into things. Of course,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Like I am starting to get a bit of baby fever,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: which is good and I think healthy because I think
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: I may have mentioned it in the beginning of this year.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I definitely feel like I was more scared to like
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: go into parenthood and I still am. It's not like
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not I'm still you know, scared to enter that
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: phase of my life because obviously there is a lot
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: of change when it comes to that. But I do
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: think I've gotten a bit less scared, which I'm really
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: happy about that because I can already tell I'm growing
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: and changing as I age in a good way and
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: I'm going in the right direction. And that if you know,
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: kids are starting to excite me versus scare me, that's
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: already a good sign of you know, going into a
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: new decade of my thirties next year. So I don't know,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: I think everything's going in the right direction. And I'm
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: just again not trying to compare myself and just really
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: just focus on what my goals are and what I
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  Speaker 1: want to, you know, achieve for myself. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that's the best approach, is just really just knowing that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you just kind of got to tell yourself
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  Speaker 1: that you're on your own timeline and that you have
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  Speaker 1: things that you want to do, and that don't let
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: these people on social media think that you can have
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: kids after thirty, because that is not the case at all.
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  Speaker 1: I know so many people who have had kids at
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: thirty two, thirty four, thirty six, Like there is really
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  Speaker 1: no time frame, but like, again, you have to also
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  Speaker 1: want kids when you want them, because I think if
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  Speaker 1: you don't want them at that time in your life,
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  Speaker 1: it's almost going to be the wrong decision because you
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: felt like you just did it just because like you
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  Speaker 1: need to want the kid in your life. You need
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  Speaker 1: to want to be a mother in that time because
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  Speaker 1: your life will change completely, and I think you have
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  Speaker 1: to be ready for that change.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think another thing that kind of touches on
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  Speaker 2: both of the things we talked about is that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like, at least for me, one thing that
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  Speaker 2: I really struggled with is that I wasn't really just
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  Speaker 2: being happy in the moment. I kind of kept telling
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  Speaker 2: myself because I wanted to be in a relationship and
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't been.
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  Speaker 1: In one yet.
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  Speaker 2: I would always tell it. I was always telling myself, Oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'll be happy when I'm in a relationship, or kind
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  Speaker 2: of like for you, like I feel like people at
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: your age kind of sometimes like, oh, I'll be happy
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  Speaker 2: when I have kids, you know, and instead just be
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: happy enjoying life as it is. You have your whole
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  Speaker 2: life to life, your whole life to have a baby,
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  Speaker 2: to have kids.
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  Speaker 1: You only live this age and this time exactly, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I always say, live it to the fullest.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So, like you have your whole life to have
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  Speaker 2: a baby, to have kids, you also have your whole
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  Speaker 2: life to be with a partner. Right So, if you're
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: somebody who's single right now and struggling with that, enjoy
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: it while it is. Be happy while it is. You
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  Speaker 2: have your whole life to find a partner, to be
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: with somebody, be happy on your own. You know, I
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: learned so much when I was single about myself throughout
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: my twenties and things that might not have realized if
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: I wasn't single. So yeah, I just think that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you should. You shouldn't try to like almost wish your
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: life away. Just be happy in the moment, trust the process,
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: live in the presence, not the future. And I think
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  Speaker 2: that will really help with you know, external pressures if
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: you're kind of just like living in the moment. And
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: I always.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: Tell the podcast Girly is that I'm very much a
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  Speaker 1: big believer when it comes to what's meant to be
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  Speaker 1: will be. So I it's all about the mindset. It's
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: all about the mindset, though, Like you need to have
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: that mindset where it's like you got to just trust
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  Speaker 1: that this is what's meant, this is how it's meant
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  Speaker 1: to be, and that you know good things will come
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: if you have this positive mindset. If you're thinking negatively
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: like oh, I'm never going to have a boyfriend or
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: I'm going to hell for the rest of my life,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: then if you put that negativity out there that for
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: all we know, it could happen that way. But if
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: you start telling yourself that you know, oh no, like
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I am going to find the guy at the right time,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: or you know, good things will come.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Honestly will happen, You'll be so much happier if you
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: just take things as you know, any challenge you face
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: in life, just take it as what's meant to be.
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  Speaker 2: You will be I'm going to figure it out, because
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: it'll just make life so much easier if you trust
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: and you have trust that things are going to work out.
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  Speaker 2: You know, don't like and you'll just be so much
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: happier if you think that way, because you'll know, hey,
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: it may not be working out today, but it's going
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: to work out tomorrow. And not day by day.
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, not every day is going to be a perfect day.
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  Speaker 1: But as long as you can always like shift your
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: mindset and change your perspective on things and like try
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: and turn it into a positive experience and moment, then
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I really do think, yeah, it's all about just shifting
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: your mindset. Of course, we could ramble on and continue,
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: and we did have a lot of other questions, but
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: we are running out of time, but we'll take it
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: into our next Sip and Spill Sisters Edition episode next month,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: So make sure to follow us on Instagram because we'll
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: definitely do another question box and ask more questions and
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: do different topics and just always try and keep you
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: guys entertained. And it's always nice to have someone else
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: on the podcast and just kind of have little conversation
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: versus me just chatting away by myself. It's just always
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: refreshing to get two different perspectives. And I just thought
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: it was a really good episode series to start with,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: getting just having a sister involved in kind of getting
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: that relatable content there, along with just us giving two
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: different perspectives of our lives and like being able to
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: relate to you guys both at different days percent, and
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: I think it's like really refreshing because I'm sure a
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: lot of you guys can relate to, you know, Madison's
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: current situation, my current situation, and I think it's all
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: just very relatable and yeah, something that you guys can
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: relate to. So thank you guys so much for listening
• 35:34
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• 35:39
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• 35:46
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• 35:48
  Speaker 1: next week's episode.