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Danny Morel - Transformation Guide | How Unresolved Trauma Creates Successful But Unhappy Entrepreneurs · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  My mom passed away. I started questioning everything about happiness, money,
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  I have gold, roll legs and the aston Martin. I was miserable like I think 90% of successful human
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  beings are. Danny Morell is a renowned life coach, spiritual leader and entrepreneur,
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  dedicated to guiding people towards awakening and transformation.
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  If you could pick the top most successful, they're making millions, they have all the assets
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  behind 95% of them, there's a mother wound.
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  After building a $1 billion annual sales real estate company, Danny embarked on a spiritual
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  journey following his mother's passing in 2016. If you're disconnected from love,
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  then here's the secondary you're going to have issues with. You're trying to fulfill the parts
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  of you that are missing. The same way that a crack head smokes crack is the same way that you
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  always have to have another goal. Now through his programs like Awaken Your Highest Self and his
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  podcast The Higher Self with Danny Morell, he helps others unlock their potential by overcoming
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  subconscious barriers. Danny's work merges entrepreneurship, spirituality and personal growth,
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  making him a powerful voice for transformation. When you're afraid of death, you're actually
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  afraid to live. One of the most powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror.
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  Most successful people that are wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. It's this
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  illusionary thing that once we do that, then we'll be happy. No brother, the happiness isn't here.
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  You've guided thousands through spiritual awakenings, through personal transformation.
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  You've built a real estate empire, but obviously that's not where you're at right now. So what was
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  the inflection point, the pivotal moment when you realize its success and wealth,
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  they weren't giving you the fulfillment that you were looking for?
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  Yeah, it was where my mom died. My mom passed away. And I believe that we had a sole contract.
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  One that's that that essentially said, like many of us do with our parents, once they leave and
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  they're on the other side, then they start to work on us to help us to orchestrate
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  experiencing life at the highest frequencies of love because that's where they're at.
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  And they never got a chance to experience life in that way when they were here.
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  So that's what started happening to me and my mom passed away, man. And I started questioning
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  everything about everything. I started questioning everything about my relationship with Jesus,
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  who Jesus was, God, my marriage, happiness, money, my business, my career, because up until that point,
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  I didn't realize it at the time, but I had built this like external facade, where you know,
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  I looked good. I had the great glasses and the custom suit and the gold Rolex and the
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  Aston Martin and you know, I would drive up to valet and I thought I was the shit, but I was a big
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  dickhead is the way I would call myself quite frankly, because deep inside I was miserable.
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  I was miserable like I think 90% of successful human beings are quite frankly.
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  And when my mom passed away, I just I just started asking myself questions that I had been afraid
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  to ask myself my entire life. And the first one, Scott was, are you happy?
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  See, I had been avoiding that question my entire life because I knew the answer to it.
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  And I wasn't afraid to answer it. And when my mom passed away, like death met me, it became more
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  real. And as a result, so did life. And I thought to myself, man, I'm going to be alive for a
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  pretty long time. Like, how do you want to live this life? And so I started asking myself or
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  or these questions started coming to me that led me on a spiritual journey that led me to where I'm
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  at today. I think that I think that a lot of people, not everybody has an awakening and not everybody
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  has this moment where they realize that they're unhappy because they chase all these external
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  validators, right? It's very easy to keep up with the Joneses to understand that, well, if I,
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  you know, put that next comma in my bank account, I'm going to feel like that's going to get me the
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  validation that I'm looking for. I mean, everybody who comes on this show as a high performer,
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  everybody who comes on this show is very successful or is on the path to becoming very successful.
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  But one thing that I think you do very well that you sort of found out and it's unfortunate that
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  you realized it when your mother passed, but at least the silver lining is that you did realize
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  is that they're chasing they're chasing the wrong thing and it sounds cliche, but
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  you came to this moment where money and success in a traditional sense didn't create the happiness
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  and fulfillment that that you were actually looking for. And I think that that's a really scary
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  thought for a lot of people because they don't know what else to look for. Yeah, man, well, and I'd
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  like to explain why this happens, Scott, if you were to look right now throughout, for example,
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  I'm going to use social media because social media is in today's day and age where you look for
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  information. So if you were to look through social media, I don't have to name them. If you could
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  pick the top most successful highest achieving money earners, whether they're in like the highest
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  of the highest in real estate, the highest of the highest in sales, you know, the people, right?
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  They're making millions. They have all the assets. They have all the cars that I can guarantee,
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  you Scott, that behind 95% of them, there's a mother wound. And what is a mother wound? A mother wound
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  is essentially an energetic wound that you experience or received as a little boy or as a little
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  girl from your mother. I'm talking about men here with women. It's typically a father wound.
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  And so what happens, Scott, is that when you don't receive love, you know, and sometimes you live
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  in households where your mom is like, nice to you, but she's busy working or she's busy fighting
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  with your dad or she's busy taking care of, you know, your brothers and sisters, when you don't
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  receive love, when you don't receive the fullness of your mother's love, you are not receiving the
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  fullness of the feminine energy. And therefore you are disconnected from the frequency of love
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  and you're disconnected from your feminine. In more severe cases, when there's abuse, neglect,
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  or drug, you get more severe examples of success. So the more successful the people are the deeper
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  the mother wound. And what I discovered is that that was me. I was so busy looking for external
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  validation. I was so busy looking for life in success, in power, in followers, in cars,
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  in houses, in being the man, right? Like I wanted to be the man. Well, the reason why I wanted
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  to be the man was because I didn't feel like the man inside. Yeah. And this is where things get
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  really, really hairy for people is that most people don't even know that that is what's actually
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  happening. And so the second problem that most human beings have in this, I'm just going to speak
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  to men in this case is that when you are high performance goal, you're always trying to achieve
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  the next goal. You're always and you're operating from a lower frequency because you're disconnected
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  from love. Well, hang on a second. If you're disconnected from love, then here's the secondary
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  you're going to have issues with you're going to have issues with your relationship. You're going
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  to have issues with your partner on the outside on Instagram. It could look like the perfect marriage.
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  And you guys have got it all figured out. I'm telling you, you cannot possibly feel real love with
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  another human being because they are not your purpose. They are not your passion. They are not
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  the apple of your eye success and power is. So they're always going to come in second place.
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  And this is why most of our successful people, especially the ones we see like on social media,
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  are deeply dissatisfied and deeply unhappy. So what happens when now you hear this idea
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  and you're trying to reconcile this duality where you still want to be traditionally successful,
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  but you also want to have fulfillment in all the other areas of your life that you've neglected
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  for the past 30 years. And you're like, I only know one way. I only know how to bus my ass and
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  have an okay relationship, but I know how to make money. That's right. Where do I start?
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  Where do I start healing? Yeah. I think I, well, I'll tell you why I started. Am I going to die like
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  this? Am I going to die? Never knowing real love. Am I going to die always having to achieve another
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  goal? Am I going to die? Never knowing what peace is. Am I going to die being disconnected from my
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  partner? Am I going to die feeling disconnected? Scott, for my kids, because love is love. It's a
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  frequency, you know what I'm saying? And so those were the questions that I started to ask myself.
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  And then, you know, when I started to become like really present to what was happening in my life,
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  I started to realize that everything in my life, I can trace it backwards to what I did or didn't
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  receive as a little boy or as a little girl. See, because now that's the first step in healing.
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  The first step in healing is awareness. It's that oh shit moment. It's that moment where you
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  finally understand, time out. I have been operating this entire time in my life as a wounded little
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  boy or a little girl. Sure, I have nice toys, nice cars, nice stuff, and I'm successful. But deep
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  inside, I'm afraid to look in the mirror or I'm afraid to look at my partner when I'm making love
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  or I'm afraid to be held or I'm afraid to calm down. I'm on vacation all the time and my
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  partner is always complaining that I'm on the phone and like your brain justifies it because
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  you're trying to give them a better life bullshit. You ain't trying to give nobody shit.
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  In trying to fulfill the parts of you that are missing, you're trying to fill the void in you.
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  As a matter of fact, I'll go as far as to say it. The same way that a crackhead smokes crack is
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  the same way that you always have to have another goal. I've thought a lot about this idea of
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  it's slightly different, but I think it ties into it. When you don't have a god in your life in
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  the traditional sense, you replace something else with God and that can be work. It can be some other
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  advice like drinking or drugs. I think this ties into it as well. When you don't, when you don't
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  heal, you numb that pain with something that society actually tells you is okay, which is work.
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  Well, let's say that's the kicker. The kicker is, if I may, I'm going to take it a little bit deeper.
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  Go for it, yeah. Yeah, the kicker is that the 3D world here in Earth, the energy that rules the
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  3D world is the masculine energy. It's not the feminine, right? Which is why we think God is a man
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  and which is why we are constantly up here in our heads, always on the go, go, go. Well, so what does
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  the 3D world do? The 3D world uplifts and puts on a pedestal, the people that are in the system
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  and successful at the system, right? So we put on a pedestal, people like Diddy. That dude is
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  messed up, messed up, but we gladly have been buying tickets and support, but what, but he's
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  successful. So I want to take a picture with him. You want to take a picture with darkness? So
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  what you want to take a picture with because you're not awake and you don't understand what's
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  actually happening, right? And so then here we are, we have a world that is basically telling you,
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  hey, listen, everything that you've been looking for, which you've actually been looking for is the
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  piece that you felt in your mother's womb. That's what you've been looking for your entire life.
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  Everything you've been looking for, you will find it when you make more money or when you become
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  more successful or when you have that car or when you have the partner or when you have whatever,
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  and you know, it takes, that's when a spiritual awakening happens is when you, when you finally
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  get there, like I did and you're like son of a gun, I'm still not happy. And that's where the
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  journey began for me. And that's where we take people through that process, basically.
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  So part of what happened with your mother was facing death and facing the reality of death.
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  And like you said, the first question you ask yourself is, do I want to die this way?
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  So I think that even walking through your own journey is usually helpful to people that are
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  going to start on their own path, even after listening to this or consuming your content,
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  hopefully it doesn't take death. And I mean, I do like the idea of stoicism and sort of confronting
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  your own death, but hopefully it doesn't take that to get somebody to take the first step.
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  Where do they start? Where did you start? What's the first thing?
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  I want to reiterate something, but you see, I think part of the healing process,
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  if you decide to take it this deep is healing your relationship with death because you have to
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  understand that when you're afraid of death, you're actually afraid to live because everything in
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  life is all duality. It's all one and the same. So for example, fear and love are actually the
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  same. It's just broken. It's a strand of energy that is just broken, right? And so what happens
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  is we as human beings, we go, uh-uh, we're shutting off this side of it. So we're going to go live
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  on this side of it. It's the same thing with life and death. If someone is afraid of dying,
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  like by the way I once was, what is actually happening is you're afraid to live as your authentic
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  self. This is really deep. So then you get to go into those parts of you in a deep, deep way
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  to experience, wait a minute, who am I really? Who am I really without the bullshit? Who am I really?
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  Who would I have been if my mom would have known how to love me, which by the way rewind,
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  there's no way she could have because her mom, her mom died at 13 days old. So what I had been
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  caring my whole life was a feminine wound that like most of your listeners, we've been caring
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  for generation upon generation upon generation. And if you've ever heard of the terminology,
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  the one, you get to become the one, right? You get to become the one that heals it so that it ends
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  with you and it doesn't pass on to your children. I know there's this movie called Ends With You.
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  I never watched it. I didn't want to get into the like the drama of the Blake and all that stuff,
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  but it literally could and with you. So listen, where does it start? I would say one of the most
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  powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror. And I'll tell you why because the
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  eyes are connection, right? And the eyes are literally like the doorway to the soul. So you'll
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  notice like if you scroll down on my Instagram, I once did as well, most successful people that are
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  wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. Why? Because they're afraid for you to see them.
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  That is the energetic picture of this. This is external. I need something external to block me
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  so that you don't see the real me because I'm afraid of you seeing the real me. I'm afraid of
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  you seeing past the barrier and the illusion. Yeah. And so the first thing I like to tell people
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  is go look in the mirror because if you can't look at yourself, you're never going to be able to
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  look at a partner. You never ever actually get if you can't see yourself, you'll never be able to
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  see someone else. If you can't love yourself, you'll never be able to love someone else. And what I
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  discovered, I couldn't do the dude. My mind was always racing. I couldn't sit still in meditation.
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  We'll go there in a second. I couldn't look in the mirror because I was like, I just couldn't do it.
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  I was so scared and so anxious and so disconnected. And so that's a daily practice that you can do.
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  And then when you do, you just send loving thoughts to yourself. You send affirmations to yourself.
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  You send kind words and kind energy to yourself. And I want to prepare your listener and get ready
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  because emotion could start to come out. And that's your body starting to release and purge out
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  everything that you've been holding inside of you. And so that's where that's a beautiful practice.
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  The second thing and I trust me and listen, never in my life, I grew up in the ghetto. I was around
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  gangs. I never in my life did I think I'd be this woo-woo guy that's about to tell you what I'm
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  about to tell you. But go take your shoes off, go sit on the grass, go reconnect with the wind,
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  the sun, nature. There's a reason why you feel so replenished when you get away from all of the
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  hoopla and you go on vacation. It's because you're reconnecting with nature, which is mother earth,
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  which by the way is the mother. It's you reconnecting to the groundedness of the mother.
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  We were never intended to walk around with shoes on it. So that's a second thing that you can do.
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  And then the third is yoga. I can't stress this enough. It's really a beautiful practice because
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  it combines you to your body, your mind, your heart, your breathing, your soul. It reconnects you
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  with you. And I was one of those guys at the beginning that I was like, I'm not going to do that
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  shit like. And now, man, it just it brings me back to me. I'm going to give a little plug. My wife
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  you say you never thought you'd be the woo woo guy who believes but I mean there's a lot of science
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  that that backs up if you're exposing yourself to sunlight every single day. If you're moving every
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  single day, if you're basically doing things outside of how COVID and beyond we operate which is
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  just sitting in front of a desk from when we get up to when we go to bed and never working out and
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  never doing there's hormonal. There's there's I mean you're you're getting sunlight. There's a lot
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  of reasons why the way most of us operate were depressed were sad were sick. I mean it's not I don't
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  think it's woo woo at all. I think that these are practices. You're bringing in mother and mother
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  earth and I don't understand a lot about that but I do know scientifically if you just follow those
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  practices, even if you don't go to that level, you're going to be a lot healthier happier than you
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  are right now. Yeah man for sure. I yeah there was and yeah could I could I could I say something
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  else so so again I just want to I want to I want to invite you and your listeners you know so many
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  people let's let's talk about science right so if if I were to point first off let's do some basics
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  masculine is the mind feminine is the heart right we are both masculine and feminine we came from
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  both a mother a mother and a father right so so if I were to point out and if I were to say point
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  to which one is science the mind or the heart which one it's a which one is science I mean they're both
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  science I would say that the mind is more logical and the heart is more emotional yes yeah yeah
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  yeah okay so science is the mind remember when I told you at the very beginning I said that we live
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  in a very masculine world because we want proof we want knowledge we we were like what's the next
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  podcast I can listen to what's the next book that I can read ever and Scott what I am telling you
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  is all real healing if you're listening to my voice right now and you actually want to heal
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  it comes from here brother it comes from you letting go of the mind and going
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  I surrender and connecting to the divine connecting to the universe connecting to God right
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  not through religion not not through through and this this is what we'd help people to do whether
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  it's at my event awaken which people have healed literally their bodies their
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  your money issues relationship it I mean everything not because of me by the way because we just
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  guide them back to themselves that's it that's the whole that's the whole journey now yeah when I
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  when I say God and religion I think what I really mean is the removal of your own ego from the
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  equation yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I yep if you can learn to remove this like we do this
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  through Beth through meditation so so mirror grounding yoga next step is meditation
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  meditation is it's tough for people because we're the mind is so on the go so that's why I got
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  awakened we use breath work because breath work as long as you breathe you're literally going to
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  have a spiritual experience I mean literally every every event we have we get people visited
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  from their their their parents their ancestors they literally the angels come in heal them I know
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  this sounds fucking wild I'm just telling you what happens you can go on the website you can see
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  here for yourself um and and and they get healing in very profound ways what is actually so
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  help people understand what what are they experiencing when they create space to heal like what is
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  actually happening because is it just because they've been going non-stop their whole life and
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  and this event or even when they meditate even outside of your event are they for the first time in
• 27:30
  their life finally slowing down I mean I mean in like layman's terms yes but but what's actually
• 27:37
  happening is that okay I'm gonna get woo woo go for go for a day thousands of years ago
• 27:45
  we used to number one women were the authority in society because women are the ones that are
• 27:56
  spiritually connected they are women are the masters of the spiritual world men are the
• 28:04
  masters of the physical world this is why we're good with our hands and we're a little bit physically
• 28:09
  stronger right and then what what what happened was us men wanted that power and we kind of took
• 28:18
  over and when we did that we disconnected ourselves from our own feminine because energetically we
• 28:25
  wanted to disassociate from anything that once was in power and that happened for thousands of
• 28:32
  years and then in 1960 the feminist movement began right the women started to come back online
• 28:42
  women started to get watch this their voices back their throat shock restarted opening up and
• 28:48
  because they had been suppressed and oppressed for so long and raped and murdered and you know
• 28:57
  again we carry all of this stuff from past lives they came out and when it comes out it comes
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  out from anger it came out from anger which is like the feminist movement which by the way I
• 29:08
  understand it I understand it and yet what happened this they then disconnected from their heart
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  so now we have a society of people there's a war right now it's a war that's been happening for
• 29:23
  500,000 years it's the war literally between men and women but it's also a war between the mind
• 29:30
  and the heart that if you have a war within you between your mind and a heart and you're constantly
• 29:36
  appearing you're never here you're going to attract because you are the creator of your life by
• 29:42
  the way that's a whole other story you're the creator of your life and you attract based off of the
• 29:46
  energy and frequency that you are living in you were going to attract from the mind someone that
• 29:53
  operates in the mind as well and so when you're both operating over here I call that you attracted
• 30:00
  a mind mate you can only attract a soul mate when you attract from here from the heart right
• 30:08
  and so what is actually happening is you quiet the mind to reconnect to the ability that you have
• 30:17
  to connect to your spirit guides your angels your guardian angels your ancestors your parents one
• 30:26
  they once they passed and and listen carefully the more and more that you're open spiritually the more
• 30:33
  and more that your telepathic powers come back on because we as humans used to once communicate
• 30:39
  before there was language through telepathy and literally this is when couples start to experience
• 30:45
  things like like they'll think things and the other person will think is because we have the ability
• 30:51
  to do that so what's happening man is we're returning to our highest self this is why the event is
• 30:57
  called awaking your highest self because we are all so powerful that if we can't even understand
• 31:05
  how powerful we actually are I have a question but I have to promise with the first the first
• 31:11
  question because the second question will be how does this play how does this weave its
• 31:16
  way into relationships that are not with your intimate partner so people in your life your friends
• 31:22
  your peers business all of that because I think we also have trouble with that for most people
• 31:27
  but I think the most important question especially for this audience because this audience is critical
• 31:32
  and thoughtful where do these teachings where these learnings come from so you're saying things
• 31:36
  that many people do not understand or would think would be absolutely crazy so I want to understand
• 31:43
  where does this come from I don't think it's religion so where do the learnings come from
• 31:48
  I think that's the best part of my story and I say that because it's the best part of all of your
• 31:54
  story um Scott I lead the largest spiritual events for sure the largest breath works on the planet
• 32:06
  right now I can say I can tell you this you know this is a ability a business audience I'll
• 32:15
  bet a million dollars on this you will get more transformation in our three-day event
• 32:24
  than you would in 30 years of therapy and why do I say this because therapy only deals with this
• 32:32
  what most humans don't realize by the way not just my event working with plant medicine is
• 32:38
  is on par with that right most people don't realize that a lot of our trauma we are holding
• 32:44
  in the body and in our energy and in our frequency yeah and so when people ask me like you know
• 32:53
  people trip out all the time because they go okay so Danny like where did you study I didn't
• 32:59
  so the word where did you get certified I didn't what the fuck so then what what what what what did
• 33:08
  you learn this shit from I just healed bro that's it I just I just I just healed I just I just did
• 33:16
  enough I had I had enough courage to go in the jungle sit in front of the altar take Iowa take
• 33:26
  the medicine and say I want the truth show me the truth about God show me the truth about life
• 33:32
  show me the truth about helping people show me the truth about myself show me show me what's holding
• 33:36
  me back show me what's and I just and I and I and I just I lay there and I cried and I wept and I
• 33:42
  learned and and and all of the messages there I don't care I don't care what book you have humans
• 33:49
  please listen to me you there was you will not need another book when you get connected up there
• 33:57
  that's my guarantee I think that it's interesting and I say that because I know that people
• 34:01
  will ask that but the things that you talk about with feeling like there's some sort of telepathy
• 34:07
  with the the person that you love like everybody knows it's there but nobody can really put a
• 34:12
  finger on it yeah yeah so I know it's there and I know and I have it with with with my better half
• 34:18
  and we always laugh how there's so many like synchronicities and we finish each other sentences and
• 34:24
  sometimes even when we're in you know different countries in the world and we're traveling all text
• 34:30
  or something that I'm thinking about and she'll be like in the middle of writing the exact same
• 34:34
  message back to me and it's just very weird but nobody you can't put a finger on it it just feels
• 34:40
  really fucking weird well Scott here's let's take a deeper why do we need to put a finger on it
• 34:46
  you understand what I'm saying because we're in our heads yes silence I have to know where did you
• 34:51
  learn this from right what what within us this is what I'm trying to get at what within us has to
• 34:57
  put a fix surrender let go allow and this this reminds me of that quote you know our greatest fear
• 35:08
  is not that that we're inadequate our greatest fear is how powerful we actually are brother when
• 35:13
  you actually experience that you'll go oh my god like that is the quote of all quotes because
• 35:20
  that is truly our deepest fear I'm just gonna go there our deepest fears that we are not separate
• 35:26
  from God our deepest fears that we are one with God our deepest fear is that there's no one to wait
• 35:36
  for our deepest fears that there's no one coming to save us our deepest fears that we've been the
• 35:43
  one that we've been waiting for our entire lives to save us our deepest fears that there's no middle
• 35:50
  person there's actually not even no thing that we can point that or hope for to answer our questions
• 35:58
  our deepest fear is that the the answer to all of our questions has been in the one place that
• 36:04
  we've been afraid to look at in here that's our deepest fear so we go on this healing journey
• 36:12
  and obviously the majority of this podcast if we look at the demographics it does skew it does skew
• 36:18
  about 75% male a lot of a lot of guys in the audience and we can talk about women as well
• 36:25
  because I think that's important and I think a lot of the lessons that you teach whoever listens to
• 36:30
  this can bring it into their relationship which is which is very useful and they're obviously
• 36:35
  there's some women listening to this as well but just in terms of men listening to this who have
• 36:40
  built businesses who are on this healing journey and they're thinking okay great this is going
• 36:44
  to be useful for my relationship with my spouse my partner but how does this translate into all the
• 36:49
  other relationships in my life how do I use some of these learnings when I'm picking a business
• 36:54
  partner or when I'm deciding who to hire there's transferable knowledge but they need to understand
• 37:01
  how to apply it I'll tell you a story first off I'm going to start off by saying
• 37:09
  everyone in your life everyone every customer every client every one of your employees every
• 37:18
  everyone everyone that you see on the street everyone that you bump into everyone is simply a
• 37:28
  reflection of the energy that lives within you and when you heal what happens and what is
• 37:38
  happening right now Scott is that there are two worlds that are being created and one world is
• 37:46
  built on the frequency of fear fear that you're inadequate fear that you're not enough and the other
• 37:52
  world is built on the frequency of love love that you are the one you've been looking for love that
• 37:59
  you have the answers within you and what is happening right now Scott the best way that I can
• 38:06
  describe it which is going to sound very weird but in this in the world of love you literally
• 38:13
  do not run into a track see or participate in anything that the people that live in the world
• 38:20
  of fear participate in you don't have to worry about getting mug you don't have to worry about
• 38:25
  your shit getting stolen you don't have to worry about I'll prove it to you Scott what was COVID
• 38:30
  easy answer is a pandemic COVID was a energetic physical manifestation of the fear that lives within
• 38:42
  all of us COVID was fear personified right and based off so like let's say that this is COVID this is
• 38:51
  COVID my hand if you're listening and based off of the energy that you live with inside of you
• 38:58
  you saw COVID as a certain way when you're afraid then COVID was there mirroring back to you
• 39:09
  everything that you deeply fear it hit you in your finances it hit you in your health
• 39:16
  it hit you in your relationships and the more more that you live in fear the more and more that
• 39:22
  that fear was mirrored right back to you and it told you if you don't do what we're telling you
• 39:27
  to do you're going to experience the ultimate fear you're going to die you know what's ironic
• 39:34
  what's that it's that I was never scared of COVID and my business has never done better
• 39:41
  and we made major life decisions because of COVID and I mean I know that it hurt quite a few people
• 39:47
  but for that period of time that was one of the most transformative periods in my life
• 39:52
  yeah man yeah man and by the way everyone who's listening it whatever you decided to do with that
• 39:59
  it everything is perfect I teach this in my spiritual masterclass everything is perfect like part
• 40:04
  of how you're going to transform your life is going backwards and understanding that everything in
• 40:08
  your life that has happened it's perfect yeah even that thing you go Danny but you don't understand
• 40:14
  what I've been through yeah man even that I got ideal with you know in a very profound way
• 40:21
  victims of sexual abuse and I'm telling you right now that even people that I've experienced some
• 40:26
  of the deepest sexual trauma can transcend that energy and create a beautiful life
• 40:34
  and a beautiful version of themselves that they would not have created if it wasn't for that trauma
• 40:42
  but you gotta allow yourself you gotta allow yourself to see that your soul is on a journey
• 40:47
  and as a result of your soul being on that journey your soul is going to call in everything that
• 40:53
  you have to experience to get your soul to the place that you're ultimately trying to get to
• 40:58
  which hopefully for all of us is enlightenment yeah and so going back to you know the clients and people
• 41:07
  when this was happening with me and when I was in my my spiritual awakening I had an affair
• 41:13
  and it's and it's important to understand who I was and why that was so important because Scott
• 41:18
  I was Mr. Goody Tushus I was the guy that never cheated I was the guy that never looked I was the
• 41:26
  guy that I was the guy that when all of the friends wives knew I was going on the guy trip
• 41:32
  they would let the friends go on the guy trip I was that guy right because they knew I was Mr.
• 41:37
  squeaky clean but was I because even the being squeaky clean was a part of the part of me
• 41:46
  that needed you to like him in order for me to like myself you understand what I'm saying
• 41:54
  so like any man I had my secrets and I had my thoughts and I had the things going on inside of
• 41:59
  my head and one day it just all it just it just it just all happened and I had an affair I did the
• 42:06
  one thing I promised myself I never would do um but it was it was the beginning of my awakening
• 42:13
  it happened right after my mom's passing anyways the reason why I'm bringing this up
• 42:20
  I had an assistant and I had just sold my real estate company and we were doing this business
• 42:26
  and it came out that my assistant was stealing for me and I was like what the fuck I don't know
• 42:33
  one ever steals from me like I never this is just not stuff that I deal with right like I'm a pretty
• 42:38
  positive guy so positive things happened and Scott you want to sure bond as only I thought
• 42:43
  that but I go hang on a second I'm not a victim I created this I'm the creator of this so what
• 42:49
  within me created this Scott I hired my assistant I attracted my assistant I attracted someone
• 42:58
  that would lie and and cheat me when I was literally lying and cheating to my ex-wife wow
• 43:06
  it happened at the same time that I was in the affair so Scott my answer to your question is this
• 43:12
  the benefit of healing the benefit of detaching from the societal version of yourself and living
• 43:19
  from the spiritual version of yourself is that literally not only will you heal but the seven
• 43:26
  closest family members to you will start the process of healing simply because of your energy
• 43:31
  and frequency and as a result the people that work with you I'm telling you if they're not matching
• 43:38
  in the same frequency and they'll fall away and they'll be replaced by people that will so as a
• 43:42
  result guess what happens to your business it grows ten times bigger literally with half of the
• 43:48
  effort so so the bad the hiring the wrong people the wrong business partners it's the same
• 43:54
  thing is when you keep attracting the wrong wrong man wrong wrong woman it's all the same thing
• 44:02
  and and the answer is yes and is there ever anything that's right or wrong that's where that's
• 44:09
  where the so this this idea because it's all perfect for where you are right now that's also very hard
• 44:19
  idea for people to wrap their heads around because that means that there's ownership
• 44:23
  an agency required and I you probably see this you see that one event I mean you we're talking
• 44:31
  about a bad hire got forbid sexual trauma which is way worse than any bad hire um
• 44:41
  people can go in two directions from that right so they can use it as a place to learn and heal from
• 44:47
  and calm ten times stronger or it can derail their entire life and and you know Scott
• 44:56
  like that's that's why I want to help people with
• 45:00
  what what I realized God is that like when I started my awakening unknowingly I had been putting
• 45:06
  all of the blame on my mom my dad my life circumstances but I wish it could be different but
• 45:11
  I wish it was better but anyway and then when I really looked at it I said oh my God
• 45:18
  I I never would have been the man that I am today if it wasn't for all of those things
• 45:26
  that I've been blaming and harboring all this time and and Scott that like that when
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  what we cover on the show i really appreciate it what when people go through this healing process
• 49:21
  what do they start to discover about the people around in the relationships that they have
• 49:26
  the thorough reflection of them and what happens what happens if it's a bad reflection
• 49:32
  and you're on this journey but your wife is not yeah that's where things i you know i this is
• 49:39
  we help people through this process um you know look um sometimes you start the journey
• 49:47
  and then the wife or the partner wants to go on the journey as well and then that's great
• 49:54
  and sometimes they don't scott and and that's a that's a that's a that's a truth that's something
• 50:00
  that we have to learn to deal with which then leads us to are you attached or are you in love
• 50:12
  because sometimes what i realize after like my divorce which by the way i'm not telling everybody i'm
• 50:17
  just telling you you know my story and i actually believe that you can heal work through most
• 50:22
  anything now i just i just wasn't equipped with the tools back then but but but what i believed
• 50:28
  when i was going through my divorce is that i believed that like i i realized
• 50:34
  that the wounded little boy in me who wanted to be loved is the one that constantly thought about
• 50:41
  being married which therefore never allowed me to pick a partner from love i was picking a partner
• 50:48
  from avoid which literally caused me to on my wedding day i knew i wasn't in love but i wanted to be
• 50:55
  so married that i wanted i wanted to be married you know and and then you know like 13 years later man
• 51:06
  i i i i i realize i cannot love this person the way they deserve to be loved
• 51:14
  how often do you think that happens with men on their on their wedding day
• 51:19
  realizing that they're going to go into it but they really shouldn't be going into it
• 51:23
  it's not just men bro it's it's it's women as well from from from from from the people that i've
• 51:28
  worked with it's everyone because Scott let's let's start with the basics first off we have a
• 51:34
  immense pressure in our society around getting married right it's like it's like when you're married
• 51:41
  like okay chat like you got that part done and when you're not like you're the weirdo like there's
• 51:48
  something wrong with you right of course yeah and then and then if you're a woman you have your
• 51:54
  biological clock right your biological clock is ticking you want to have babies right so there's
• 51:59
  that pressure but hang on a second but then there's religion and religion has done a number on us
• 52:07
  when it comes to our sexuality that's a literally an hour podcast on that alone but it causes us to
• 52:14
  think that we are sinners or bad if we have sex before marriage this is the most ludicrous
• 52:25
  thought that could ever exist because number one there is no such thing as sin human beings please
• 52:31
  listen to me there is no such thing as sin number two there is no way shape or form that you could
• 52:38
  be bad or evil or going to number two there's no such thing as hell number three there's no bad guy
• 52:44
  making you do bad things number four there's no way that you could be bad by doing the very thing that
• 52:56
  created your life there's no way and so when we are told that we are bad because we're doing the
• 53:08
  thing that we created our life Scott let me tell you how deep this is we're afraid of life
• 53:16
  we're afraid to create our life based off of what we want because the thing that creates life
• 53:27
  we're blocked from the beauty of it we're blocked from the expression of it and so you have all
• 53:34
  of these pressures around you that make you want to do something I'm not saying marriage is bad
• 53:40
  what I will tell you if you were to go into the spirit world right now if you were to take a
• 53:44
  little rocket ship and you were to ask all the angels and God hey God hey all the angels what do
• 53:48
  you think about marriage they'd be like don't forget to do it hold on hold on and I'm gonna say
• 53:54
  and I'm and they're and they're gonna be like why not they grow up because you dumb humans you're
• 53:59
  doing it for all the wrong reasons you do it because you want to you don't want to be alone you're
• 54:03
  doing it because you want to control other people you're doing it because you want to be loved
• 54:06
  you're doing it because you're doing it for all the wrong reasons if you could go find yourself and
• 54:12
  if you could go find love within yourself without the need of another person and then from that
• 54:18
  place you attract another human being who also has done the work and then from that energy you want
• 54:23
  to live your life together then by all means go do that but 80% of humanity Scott you know this
• 54:31
  as well as I do that's not why they're getting married and that's where this start this stuff starts
• 54:36
  but you know that that's why 80% of not just marriage and relationships 80% of everything we do
• 54:43
  is for the wrong reasons that's why I always ask people why I coach people you know because
• 54:53
  there's nothing wrong with making a lot of money make a million bucks a week for all I care
• 54:56
  just don't give your heart and soul for it creating it in a way that's beautiful so that you could
• 55:01
  support your family and live a dream life man yeah but that's what people I ask people all the time
• 55:06
  they go okay Danny I want to make a million bucks a year working 20 hours a week great no problem
• 55:12
  easy why a million by the way why not nine hundred and fifty thousand you know say because this
• 55:20
  this is this illusionary thing that we have that once we do that then we'll be happy right no brother
• 55:27
  the happiness is in here I'm very fortunate because I get front row seats to you know the most
• 55:33
  successful entrepreneurs financially successful entrepreneurs and you see after the exit
• 55:40
  they have no more goals to go after because they've achieved the thing that they were told to have
• 55:43
  to achieve their whole life and then they're depressed that's right and that those are the people
• 55:48
  come come my bro I got you let's go in here and the deepest way imaginable because I'll be
• 55:55
  honest with you though to me those are the folks that can make the greatest impact on humanity agreed
• 56:01
  the entrepreneur that is financially free and then can go help other people and create services
• 56:08
  that help other people from love not from a need that's what we're all trying to get to write
• 56:14
  there my man that right there what would be one of the most out of all these ideas that you've
• 56:20
  understood after going through the ceiling journey yourself what was the hardest for you
• 56:26
  to internalize and to live surrender
• 56:32
  because I was a control freak man I didn't realize I'll tell you my my first ceremony with ayahuasca
• 56:41
  I go to Costa Rica my mom had just passed away my buddy Gerard Adams I saw him on his
• 56:47
  gram he had done ayahuasca and I saw smile on his face so big and I thought man I want to smile
• 56:53
  like that right so I said whatever that dude is smoking I was smoking too so right away I go to
• 56:59
  Costa Rica I go sit with ayahuasca and that first ceremony I walked in bro you can imagine me Gucci
• 57:05
  sunglasses Louis Vuitton bag go roll legs like cocky asshole right and you know I take the first
• 57:14
  cup I take the first cup where now we're into the ceremony and nothing is happening so I go and
• 57:21
  everybody around me is like moaning and groaning and like they're do you know whatever's going on
• 57:25
  there's like 35 people and I'm like this stuff come on man so I go back up and the shaman is like
• 57:31
  do you want a little bit more I say yeah I give it to me he's like well how much do you want I go
• 57:35
  I don't know this stuff ain't working so do you give me whatever he goes okay so he gave me another
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  Scott I sat down and I literally go oh yeah like that right and next thing you know what
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  happened is that like my arms started flapping like a butterfly like literally like a butterflies
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  fast as possible and I'm looking at my arms going what the hell is happening right now and you know
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  I was one of those guys that would go to church and I would want to hear God's voice so much
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  and I would pray extra hard and I would try to speak in tongues and I just I always wanted
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  spirituality basically but I never heard God's voice and I you know to to this day I remember I will
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  always remember this moment it was it was her her voice I owe Oscar the voice she whispered
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  in my ear she said in Spanish by the way she said my son I'm about to transform your life the same
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  way that a butterfly is transformed and that that's why our logo now is is the butterfly because
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  it's what we want to help humanity do is to transform right well the reason why I'm bringing up
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  this story is because never in my life did I realize how much the frequency of control was a part
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  of my life I was scared I was scared out of my mind because I wasn't in control because I didn't
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  know how much time was left because I didn't know how long it was going to last because and
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  that's where I started working through that energy and Scott that's really the healing journey is
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  to work through all of these energies that unknowingly are blocking us energies like pride and
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  desire and control and shanime and guilt and all of these lower frequency energies that keep us
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  vibrating at a lower level which keep us attracting life at a lower level basically I want to
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  understand just to sort of bring a full circle to one of the ideas that you brought forward at
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  the beginning the men in the audience that are suffering from a mother wound and why that makes
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  them so successful you also mentioned women who are suffering from a father wound so that's a
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  I'm sure there's components of that healing process that are similar but what would be different
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  yeah it's it's all a broken heart um this dynamic is pretty interesting because it's a lot of
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  what's driving our female entrepreneurs right now again please hear this guys there's nothing
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  wrong would be I wish that the world was a six you're free you're God you can create whatever you
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  want it says you got to understand what is the energy you're creating it from so case in point
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  most of the women we work with and men for example I'm going to talk about the women for
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  example right now they're really successful but their life is a mess they feel empty they
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  they they feel disconnection with their partners they're not they don't have passionate sex
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  I'll just say it they're they're they're vagina doesn't open during sex they don't lubricate
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  enough like they're this is real issues they have to take medicine they're on you know
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  add a roll and all this shit you don't need any of this stuff well I start asking questions
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  I'm gonna go tell me about your relationship with your father and like nine times out of ten
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  what happens is is that dad let them down in a way that when the masculine in their life
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  doesn't protect them then they create a story that says then I will now be my own protector
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  and I will never feel that pain again so as little girls their hearts get locked down
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  they start living from the mind and they go out and literally build careers and lives
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  highly successful by the way nothing wrong but it was all coming from a wound that happened when
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  they were a little girl and so people when they come work with me it's like I want to I want to
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  return back to my feminine well we got to take them through a process of returning back to their
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  broken heart and reopening that heart so that they could smile again so that they could love
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  again so that they could know so that they could stop attracting safe men because what these
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  alpha babes and like like boss babes attract is they will either attract a guy that is also a boss
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  dude that's a divorce waiting to happen like that that won't last long that was JLo and Ben Affe I
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  could have told you they were gonna break up I said give it a year to most why she never gave her
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  heart a chance to heal from a rod anyhow but or or they'll attract like a guy in his feminine
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  because she's in the masculine and he's in the feminine and she knows she can control him
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  and she knows by the way this is this used to be me by the way a lot of successful men because of
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  the wounded heart they're actually in their feminine and their wounded feminine in relationships
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  and they're afraid to speak up because they're afraid to not be loved anymore that that was me by
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  the way and so what happens is there are attracting relationships with men that there's no passion with
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  and there's no respect with they're constantly working they're never at peace and and a woman is
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  just not designed to be like that brother so this is where a lot of issues like breast cancer and
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  stuff like that come up because it's a it's a it's a violation of the feminine is what it is
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  and they're living out that wound without even knowing it well I see sickness and unhappiness
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  and depression on both sides so on on you see it a lot with uh you know I always put an air
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  quotes high performing successful men they never want to settle down or multiple divorces later
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  and then with high performing successful women they're balancing okay so how much of my energy do
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  I put into a job and what kind of man do I want to be with and should I have kids now or later and
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  I don't know when to my life is now confusing so you have all these like I don't know again I'm not
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  like a woo woo guy but you have like these broken souls across the spectrum that don't know how to
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  navigate and everyone's sad and everyone's depressed now I know bro I know and the answer is you
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  gotta go back here you gotta go back here it's the only place where everything makes sense
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  it's tough dude it's tough and society doesn't set us up to be happy society doesn't set us up to be
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  to look inside it's distraction and grass is greener on the other side and work harder and make
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  more money very tough let's pop let's got again remember what I said it could even that be perfect
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  yes you see see the game because because because if we if we go that route and then we still
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  don't find ourselves happy eventually Scott something is gonna bring us to our needs illness
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  divorce disease something is gonna bring us to our needs and then we can start the process of
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  returning to our hearts and then from there bro it's just how deep do you want to go I was just
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  one of those guys I do what I do today because I was just one of those guys that I was like
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  fuck this I want to go as deep as there is to go and now that's what you teach that's that's why
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  I mean that's what I do you know I was gonna say the whole point is you don't have to go
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  as deep I think that you just have to start healing start understanding why you're doing the things
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  that you're doing because you are a hundred percent on point body life has a way of shutting you
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  down you're not you're not stronger than it something's gonna break at some point something really
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  great that's right if you think about the hardest lesson that you've learned in your own life
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  that was useful to you but you wouldn't wish on anyone else what was that lesson and why it was the
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  fear of death yeah I went one year without sleeping cheese because I was afraid to fall asleep
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  and I I literally saw an entity leave me but I also realized man that I needed to go through it
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  because I needed to experience the depths of the fear that exists in humanity in order to help
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  it you know you can't ever help someone go through or release or process what you haven't
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  gone through release or process yourself you know and so yeah I think that was a big one for me
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  what do you think your biggest or the biggest misconception about your success story is
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  that people believe that isn't true I don't know because I don't I don't really put an end I don't
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  really put focus on what other people I love it no that's health that's a healthy answer dude that's
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  a very healthy answer my answer yeah I think I you know in my past life I would have answered that
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  but I don't I don't give my energy to that if you were if you were going to
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  leave the audience with one thought about sort of the cost of ambition the cost of pursuing
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  external goals and validation uh we've mentioned a lot but what would be the biggest concern if
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  somebody hasn't if somebody's not convinced yet why they should go on a self-healing journey
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  what would be the one line that you would tell them yeah I don't know about one line because it's
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  it's a big thing I remember I remember I used to go to like unleash the power within Tony Robbins for
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  example right which you know I think every entrepreneur has has been to it's it's it's a wonderful
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  event my thought is there's just there's just there's just deeper work to be done I remember I used to
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  go and he would put up the wheel of life every year that I would go remember that with and every year
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  I would go would be like fuck this thing is not getting better like I'm always out of balance right
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  and and the reason why is because your your your your your job your career your money your business
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  your relationship your fitness your contribution is all of it it's not the outside in it's the inside
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  out so you're on a hamster wheel trying to get balance and all of these things uh uh that's not
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  the way it works you go inward to find balance within and then the outside stuff is just a mirror
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  and a reflection like if I were to do a hamster wheel right now there's no wheel because life
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  is just a it's just an expression of how I feel inside of myself you know and so I would say that
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  the greatest thing and the greatest cost is peace their own peace their own ability to be at peace
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  with themselves which then leads to peace in relationship peace with life peace with all of it
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  and you you can't get to peace until you release fear and that that that that that's the real
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  journey the real journey is releasing fear and that was going to be that was really my last
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  question when somebody goes on this journey they start to heal how do they know they're on the right
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  path how do they know that the work is working out to me I'll tell you because they're scared as
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  fuck that's why because because the other the other thing is that I've probably gone through a
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  thousand many deaths I'll leave I'll leave you guys with this is like for the real you to be born
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  the old you has to die right for for your business to have been born the part of you that was
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  scared to launch it had to go and all of life is like that for for for magic in your relationship to
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  to be born like the stop that's blocking you has to go man for a lot of you that's you got to cut
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  porn but you're never going to cut it up here because porn is just an outward reflection
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  of the frequency you're unconsciously living in in here so you could try all day long to cut
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  the addiction you're never going to cut it up here I'll tell you this because that that was me
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  you can go to church for 50 thousand years if you want to you're never going to cut it there
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  you got to cut it in here it's the only place that it'll go because when you go in here to your
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  feminine you will heal the relationship that you have with the feminine outside of you you will
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  start to honor women in a more beautiful loving way because you have learned to finally love and
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  honor yourself in a more beautiful loving way and as a result of that when you can see yourself
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  and in in in the power and the beauty and the presence that you are you will never be able to look
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  at a woman in that way ever again it's it's no trying it's no effort it's no accountability
• 1:10:56
  partner it will literally just be gone I love it um if people want to connect with you if they
• 1:11:03
  want to come out to some of the retreats that you hold where they go on website social all that
• 1:11:08
  yeah Danny Morella on Instagram a week in is is what I I would I would literally say
• 1:11:17
  will will transform your life is Danny Morella dot com backslash awaken we're going to be in
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  Anaheim in Colorado in London in Austin and then if if you just want to start and just go online
• 1:11:32
  to start listening to some of this stuff and start the healing process just go to Danny Morella
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  dot com backslash awaken and the letter you amazing I appreciate you so much um I appreciate
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  you coming on your time and just and and turning turning your lessons into wisdom because that's
• 1:11:46
  also not easy it's one thing to learn yourself but it's another thing to sort of teach the world
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  out of everything that you've learned in your entire life and you can only pass on one lesson to
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  your kids so it's the most important lesson out of all the lessons what would that be and why
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  you and God are one you and love our one you and abundance our one there's nothing to hope for
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  wish for or to strive for because it's all already who you are