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DLHS Hour 2 | Ax to Child’s Game Too Much or Good Parenting · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: The question we're asking ladies and gentlemen. The father takes
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  Speaker 1: an ass to his to his son's TV. Did he
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  Speaker 1: go too far as that good parent? First off, good
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  Speaker 1: is in the eye of the beholder. If it changes
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  Speaker 1: the behavior, I guess it was good.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I mean kids also, really they push you right, yes,
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  Speaker 3: and they don't believe that what you told them is true.
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  Speaker 3: So sometimes you got to show them. Yeah, you got
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  Speaker 3: to show them. Sometimes some of you got to pop
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  Speaker 3: out and show them.
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  Speaker 2: Don't do that. Don't pop out and.
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  Speaker 1: Show Yeah, it really is hard to like kids nowadays.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm just saying in general, they'll go to a
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  Speaker 1: time when it's hard.
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  Speaker 3: Coll didn't Yeah, yeah, I was gonna say my son
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  Speaker 3: didn't do that. But I think, especially girls the younger,
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  Speaker 3: they are hard to like. It takes a long time
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  Speaker 3: to start to like them again, hard to like it's
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  Speaker 3: a little different.
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  Speaker 1: Hard to like them. Not hard to love, but hard
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  Speaker 1: to like. And I think the reason they're so cute
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  Speaker 1: is so you don't run them over when they're teenagers,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, That's why you that's why
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  Speaker 1: I keep baby pitching. The people keep baby people. Remind
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  Speaker 1: you of what they used to be, and so you
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  Speaker 1: don't strangle them, you.
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  Speaker 5: Know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't know what you man.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they have to be that cute or otherwise you
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  Speaker 1: would toss Tom.
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  Speaker 3: Now, perhaps if I had plural, I would understand. But
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  Speaker 3: because I had a singular, I don't really know. And
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  Speaker 3: he was he was good. I never had any issues
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  Speaker 3: out of him. But plural might have changed it.
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  Speaker 1: You might have he's por plural. Somebody would have tested
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  Speaker 1: you know.
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  Speaker 2: I believe it have been that middle one. The middle
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  Speaker 2: one is always a tester.
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  Speaker 1: No, not always. I've always heard the middle one was
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  Speaker 1: a test of My girls are criminals? They have they
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  Speaker 1: have criminal records.
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  Speaker 2: Could you look at them following it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but Kyle was a good guy. But then you know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Every time they do that. Every time
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  Speaker 1: I have a conversation like that, I remember they owe
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  Speaker 1: me money, and then it makes me mad again.
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  Speaker 2: Statute of limitations, limitations.
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting my seenty four grand I was promising seventy
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  Speaker 1: four thousand dollars. That's what the legal fee was. Interests
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  Speaker 1: has a crude, That's what the legal fee was. Didz
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  Speaker 1: he as broad.
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  Speaker 5: The biggest run in.
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  Speaker 1: The question we're asking ladies, gentlemen. The father takes an
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  Speaker 1: ass to his uh, to his son, Stevie, do you
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  Speaker 1: think he lost.
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  Speaker 5: Did he lose control?
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  Speaker 1: Or was this good parenting?
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  Speaker 5: What do you think? Skip?
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  Speaker 6: I think it's a little bit of both. Sometimes you
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  Speaker 6: gotta lose control to get some good parenting done. Sometimes
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  Speaker 6: you gotta do it, you know, Sometimes you gotta chop
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  Speaker 6: him in the throat, you know, you know, sometimes you
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  Speaker 6: gotta you know, I've I've taken my son's door off
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  Speaker 6: the hinges, you know, off his bedroom door. Took it
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  Speaker 6: smooth off the hinges, and uh, no, you don't have
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  Speaker 6: no door no more.
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  Speaker 5: So there you go.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and we we told we took off the hinges.
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  Speaker 6: And one time we took because he had he's like me,
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  Speaker 6: had a whole lot of sneakers. So we took all
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  Speaker 6: of his left shoes except all of his left shoes.
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  Speaker 5: We took it. So he had his shoes in there,
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  Speaker 5: but he couldn't wear.
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  Speaker 6: Took all the left ones and said, no, when you
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  Speaker 6: wear these the cheapest, raggediest ones, those ones you got
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  Speaker 6: to wear until you know.
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  Speaker 1: So now that is a light skin punishment that you
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  Speaker 1: gotta be like getting thinking something like that, because you
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  Speaker 1: know we're gonna do We're gonna take all of his
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  Speaker 1: left sees. Oh that's diabomical somewhere the Mars is going.
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  Speaker 1: You know what the question is, did it work?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, because you figure you're sitting there looking at all
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  Speaker 6: these fresh Jordans and you can't wear them.
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  Speaker 5: You can't mitch match them or nothing.
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  Speaker 6: You just you're gonna wear these raggedy uh uh air
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  Speaker 6: Force ones that are old and raggedy.
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  Speaker 5: Here you go. That's all you can wear. The school
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  Speaker 5: that is it?
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  Speaker 6: Did you come home and look at it?
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  Speaker 2: Just a mitch match?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, mitch match. That's what I said.
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  Speaker 1: That's what the.
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  Speaker 5: Audience.
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  Speaker 3: That's the fact that sometimes you got to say it
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  Speaker 3: like that to get I got you.
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  Speaker 1: And the sad thing about it is, I think there
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  Speaker 1: is probably nothing you could do short of running a
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  Speaker 1: child over with a car, and even then that our
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  Speaker 1: audiences wouldn't approve of our audience. Come on, they don't
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  Speaker 1: think because they're a little I think that they came
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  Speaker 1: from an ass whooping generation. Actually think that that that
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  Speaker 1: is why they're still alive.
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  Speaker 3: No, I believe that it's a lot of videos on
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  Speaker 3: social media gen xer. We're talking about, you know, how
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  Speaker 3: we survived, and they go through a list of things
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  Speaker 3: as to why.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'm just yeah, I think it's there's amazing
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  Speaker 1: how the our they have a n They got a
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  Speaker 1: lot of runway of things they can do to our
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  Speaker 1: out of the physical word, whip.
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  Speaker 2: Everything, whatever they can find.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying all of them, but a good little
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  Speaker 1: dash round with it. I mean, so, all right, we're
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  Speaker 1: going to get to those cars. We're gonna hear so
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  Speaker 1: a father had had enough. This is what transpired.
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  Speaker 7: And every time I come home and the trash is
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  Speaker 7: stilled up, I say the same exact like, why is
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  Speaker 7: the trash can filled up? And nobody took it out?
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  Speaker 7: It literally takes five seconds. In case, if you want
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  Speaker 7: to do right now, you do it. That's not the point, Tom,
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  Speaker 7: Why should I do it? I just worked all day?
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  Speaker 7: What have you done? You're sitting here playing games right now? Tom?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah?
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  Speaker 7: Am I talking to the wall. Do you not hear
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  Speaker 7: me talking to him talking to you? What about the
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  Speaker 7: stuff that you gotta get done? I don't want to
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  Speaker 7: come home and have to.
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  Speaker 9: Do this shit.
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  Speaker 7: I'll be getting it done.
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  Speaker 10: That's what you're doing.
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  Speaker 7: Now how about you do some work?
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  Speaker 8: Tom?
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  Speaker 7: Huh okay, yeah, is that motivating?
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  Speaker 11: Now?
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  Speaker 9: Tom?
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  Speaker 11: Sure?
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  Speaker 7: Just let me getting my shoes on and I'll just
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  Speaker 7: I'll have right out.
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  Speaker 1: Then is he a good parent? Go too far? We'll
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  Speaker 1: go to the photus.
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  Speaker 9: I think that young man wouldn't have had time to
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  Speaker 9: game or watch TV after picking all his teeth up
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  Speaker 9: off the floor. So the father, granted, was just ground,
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  Speaker 9: but it's no way in hell I would have messed
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  Speaker 9: up something that I paid for. See, he wasn't being
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  Speaker 9: smart about it.
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  Speaker 10: I think that that's kind of ignorant paring thing because
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  Speaker 10: the TV didn't do nothing to them.
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  Speaker 12: I'm from Harlem, USA, and I know so fathers that
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  Speaker 12: would have taken the power court out the TV and
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  Speaker 12: started whipping that ass. So you know, the TV didn't
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  Speaker 12: do nothing. But you know, discipline is necessary. You know
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  Speaker 12: when when discipline is necessary, But you know you can't
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  Speaker 12: beat up the television because you need it.
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  Speaker 10: I think that was overdue parenting.
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  Speaker 11: As soon as he said why don't you do it?
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  Speaker 12: All the fun of them would have happened with me.
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  Speaker 4: Seriously, I mean that was overdue.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: What I think is you know exactly works for some people.
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  Speaker 4: Like some people, their parents would like that to them,
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  Speaker 4: so that's what they know how to beat to their children.
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  Speaker 4: For me, my parents were could be rough over time,
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  Speaker 4: but I choose not to be that way with my daughters.
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  Speaker 4: I learned I'm not trying to be funny from the
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  Speaker 4: Cobee show, you know, to try to find them a
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  Speaker 4: less violent way of correcting my daughters. But sometimes it
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  Speaker 4: can it might be necessary, but for the most part,
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  Speaker 4: I try. I try to get gentle with my daughters.
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  Speaker 12: Well, the question was.
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  Speaker 1: Good parents, No, it's great parenting.
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  Speaker 8: He should have corrected him. A male child must be corrected.
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  Speaker 8: You can't let him disrespect you as his father. My
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  Speaker 8: father did it to me, and I had to do
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  Speaker 8: it to my one male child. And you only do
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  Speaker 8: it one time and it'll be corrected. But you have
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  Speaker 8: to have respect. And children got to learn to honor
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  Speaker 8: their father and their mothers. It's that simple.
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  Speaker 13: I think that is clearly a sign of a father
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  Speaker 13: who's out of control, but for good reason. There's many
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  Speaker 13: things that I see happening there in the background. One youth,
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  Speaker 13: that's frustration, that's a build up of constantly allowing your
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  Speaker 13: children to disregard your words and your authority in your
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  Speaker 13: house and not show you respect. That's you not making
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  Speaker 13: them have priority and chorice and making sure that they
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  Speaker 13: are accountable every day. So there's a lot of failure
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  Speaker 13: happening there. For yes, father is one hundred percent out
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  Speaker 13: of control. What Dad needs to do is that's a
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  Speaker 13: clear cut sign of what happens when you allow your
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  Speaker 13: kids to disregard you over and over, show you no
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  Speaker 13: proper respect. That's what you get. Kids must be accountable
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  Speaker 13: or we're raising generations of little tiny terrors and criminals.
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  Speaker 4: And it's just a fact.
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  Speaker 13: Put the smack down on these kids, whatever it takes.
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  Speaker 13: I believe that it was misplaced parenting, meaning that the
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  Speaker 13: father had a long day, he was tired of talking
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  Speaker 13: to the fund about the same thing over and over.
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  Speaker 13: But it became good parenting when that stud realized he
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  Speaker 13: better take their trains out the next time. And his
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  Speaker 13: dad's telling to that that TeV got a strain.
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  Speaker 10: Did you hear the Sun's reaction after the fall the
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  Speaker 10: three of the TV? That's the reaction you get when
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  Speaker 10: you ask a child so many times to do something
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  Speaker 10: and they don't do it. You take out they you
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  Speaker 10: take out their next best thing. You take their PlayStation's
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  Speaker 10: throw it against the wall. You take an acts to
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  Speaker 10: the TV, or you throw the TV against the wall.
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  Speaker 10: I guarantee you when that father tells that boy to
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  Speaker 10: do something else, he ain't go out. He ain't gonna
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  Speaker 10: think twice about getting off his ass or getting off
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  Speaker 10: his behind. Excuse me to go do that job that
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  Speaker 10: his father's ass because he don't know what could be next.
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  Speaker 10: He can be the one going out the window next.
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  Speaker 10: So believe me, he understood it. He's like the reaction
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  Speaker 10: that he got from his dad. He was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 10: my dad is not playing, so let me do what
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  Speaker 10: he's say. If he got to ask me fifteen to
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  Speaker 10: twoe hundred times or fifteen to eleven times, something's wrong.
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  Speaker 10: I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do. I might
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  Speaker 10: be the next one going out that window, So let
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  Speaker 10: me just go ahead and just do what the hell
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  Speaker 10: he acts. All he assers a thaut the gobage. That's
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  Speaker 10: not hard at all.
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  Speaker 14: So I think it's a mixture of parent kings.
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  Speaker 13: The kid needs to.
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  Speaker 14: Learn responsibility wholeheartedly. I get the same thing with my kids.
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  Speaker 14: Didn't smash their TV. I just took the TV out
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  Speaker 14: of their possession, took their iPods. Like if you can't
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  Speaker 14: do the things that I ask and I work fifty
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  Speaker 14: hours a week as a single mom, and I have
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  Speaker 14: to come home and do everything y'all are done, like
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  Speaker 14: be responsible. My kids are now grown up, one into
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  Speaker 14: the military as a Navy seal and the other one
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  Speaker 14: you know, works at a good company. But to this day,
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  Speaker 14: at twenty eight and twenty five years old, they say, Mom,
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  Speaker 14: thank you so much for being so hard on us,
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  Speaker 14: because now we're great men and our spouse is thank you.
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  Speaker 11: The data should have been, dear, we did. I don't
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  Speaker 11: blame the data, but the data negotiating too much. He's
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  Speaker 11: doing too much. Excellent because he begged when I's coming up.
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  Speaker 11: If you're told her to do something, I'm trying to
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  Speaker 11: finished telling you to do it. He behlfway done whatever
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  Speaker 11: asked you to do if you knew it was good
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  Speaker 11: for you. Like I say, that's the news. Generation man
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  Speaker 11: got to quit negotiating with your kids, goting what you want,
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  Speaker 11: they don't do it, then you're handle your business.
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  Speaker 14: Yeah, I think he did.
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  Speaker 13: Great parenting because my thing is if I had a
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  Speaker 13: child and I was working and they wasn't working.
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  Speaker 9: Of course, I would want them to take out.
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  Speaker 13: The trash and do the chores before they you know, play.
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  Speaker 5: Games or do their homework or what have you.
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  Speaker 13: But you know, these days, these skins, they don't have
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  Speaker 13: no home parents and skills. You know, they don't care.
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  Speaker 13: You know, they just want to play games and do
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  Speaker 13: what they want to do.
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  Speaker 9: And they don't pay no bills,