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AUTISM And Vulnerability This Is Why WE Are VULNERABLE · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  In this video, I'm talking about autism and vulnerability and
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  what that means for you as an autistic person.
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  All that coming up. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  aspy world. My name is Dan, I have autism,
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  ADHD, OCD and dyslexia and I make weekly videos on this type
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  OK guys, welcome back. It's been awesome.
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  I thought I would do this video talking about vulnerability and
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  autistic people because I'm not really seeing anyone really talk
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  about it in in depth and length and kind of like from their
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  perspective, especially being an artistic person myself and
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  knowing vulnerabilities exist and where those vulnerabilities
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  are, I thought I'd do this video talking about those
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  specifically. So here it goes.
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  Hey guys, if you have anything to add and want to ask me a
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  question, please pop it in the comments section down below,
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  because I read and respond to every single question and I
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  would love to have that conversation and open a
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  conversation with you. All right, let's go on with it.
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  So why are autistic people vulnerable now?
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  Typically, autistic people are more vulnerable than
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  neurotypical people, people basically who are not on the
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  autism spectrum. And the reason for this is
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  because autistic people have issues with social interaction
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  and communication which could lead to areas of vulnerability.
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  And let me explain. So imagine you have an autistic
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  person who I don't know has a lot of savings saved up, and you
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  have somebody who is not a nice person who wants to get access
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  to their savings. The person who is not nice could
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  trick the authentic person into believing that that's what
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  friends do because it's a social situation and all friends do in
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  social situations give each other money.
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  So people with autism actually have issues with understanding
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  the concept of social interaction and the concept of
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  social like conventions and and and social etiquette because
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  it's it's quite difficult to grasp those.
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  So if you've not really been familiarized with those things
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  and you're told by somebody this is how it is and that's what we
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  do, you kind of just go along with it and be like, OK, well
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  that's what I do. There's actually a really big
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  issue where there's actually people like that who who do
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  fraud for a living, who who fraud people who are on the
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  spectrum. And it's a big issue and the
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  police are actually doing something about this now as in
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  they have like a program specifically set up for this.
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  And they they, they, they set up like a a system where you
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  register your name and e-mail address with the police and if
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  there's any issues or any funny business like that, the police
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  can get on the case ASAP. Now another situation could be
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  the fact that autistic people take things at face value as
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  literal. So they're kind of literal
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  thinkers. So I am a literal thinker,
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  obviously, because I'm on the spectrum.
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  For example, once my friend asked me to put she was eating a
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  banana and drinking coffee, and she put the banana peel in a
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  coffee cup. She goes, oh, can you put that
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  in the bin for me? And so I threw the coffee cup
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  and a banana in a bin. And she was like, well, no, I
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  wanted to put the coffee cup on the side, just a banana peel in
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  the bin. And I obviously took what she
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  said quite literal. So it's not a case of just kind
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  of trying to read between the lines.
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  That doesn't work for autistic people.
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  So this could be, again, the same scenario.
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  A nasty person could be like, hey, I really need that money
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  because I'm sick and I need to go and buy medicine or whatever,
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  and they could be lying completely.
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  But the person on the Austin Spectrum can take you just as
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  complete, literal sense and be like, okay cool, here's my
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  money. So there's a very difficulty,
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  very big difficulty that with financial kind of vulnerability
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  and keeping yourself safe. Now other than that because
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  autistic people have issues with understanding authority.
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  So when you're around authoritarian people like
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  supervisors and work police people, medical staff, it could
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  be anybody of an authority. They're normally not as open and
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  easy to understand. So for instance, say you're
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  going through TSA, you're flying out and you go through TSA and
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  they want to check all your security and stuff like that.
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  Now they're quite blunt and abrupt, and so if you don't
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  understand what they're saying, maybe quite difficult.
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  And then 'cause that could spiral into you not
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  understanding what they say. And then there could be a
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  conflict of interest and be some animosity.
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  And that could spiral into like a, an issue where you might be
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  detained or you might get like a ticket or something could happen
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  because it comes from a lack of understanding.
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  Like those people in those positions don't have any
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  training or prior training in knowledge in autism.
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  And so that's not your fault. It's their fault.
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  But it does open you up to vulnerability because you, you
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  are more vulnerable in those situations.
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  Knowing social and commutative aspects of things like where you
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  should be, people could take advantage of people in the
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  autism spectrum. Like where, where, where do you
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  put yourself in society? So say you're queuing for a bus
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  and you're queuing for a while and then somebody's like, you
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  know, get out of the way, I want to push on.
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  Then you'd be like, OK, well, I don't want, yeah, I don't want
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  to have that confrontation with them.
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  And I don't want to kind of bring up that negative animosity
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  with a person who's been quite rude.
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  So you kind of just let them get on with it.
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  But then you put yourself in in a a negative situation then, so
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  you can't get on the bus. This person's taking your seat
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  or whatever. And another thing is like, it
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  makes you more vulnerable and you're open to being, like,
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  attacked because you are so quiet and meek in your way.
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  This kind of makes you more of a target because you know some
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  autistic people like myself having so you might be quite
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  loud and unknowingly not really trying to be loud, but you might
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  make yourself a target for people who would just kind of up
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  to no good, you know they want to just make fun of you or bully
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  you or whatever. And then another version of this
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  is because autistic people have difficulties with filtering out
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  conversations like what it's a good thing to say, What is a non
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  rude thing to say? When is a good time to talk?
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  When do I not talk over people? So this could actually make them
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  think that you are being rude when you're not being rude, just
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  literally talking. But they could get the
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  impression you're being rude or trying to start a fight or an
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  argument or something. Then they could retaliate.
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  And there you go. You're now in a vulnerable
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  situation from no fault other than the fact that you literally
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  just have autism. And that's not anybodies fault,
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  just a fact of the matter. And that does actually happen.
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  So my advice for this would be to there's a few different
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  things, right? There's a few different things.
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  These are my tips and takeaways for actually dealing with this.
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  So number one would be always tell somebody where you're going
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  so they know where to expect you to be.
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  So like, always have somebody looking out for you in that
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  respect. Basically, you know where you're
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  going from. Where you're going to be is
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  definitely something that people need to know.
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  Like my girlfriend always needs to know where I am because you
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  know what? If you know I get into trouble
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  with something, she'd like to know where I am and that
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  definitely helps. The second thing is always carry
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  a communication device like a like a cell phone, smartphone or
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  a tablet like smart device, because you want to be able to
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  communicate to the people who look after you and keep well
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  with you. If you're in a situation where
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  you need to communicate with them and having a text device or
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  like an iPad or an iPhone or whatever, you could then like,
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  message them and then they could sort out whatever you need
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  because that's literally like a lifesaver having communicative
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  devices with you. Super super life saving.
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  OK, so #3 is asking for identification for people of
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  authority. So when people come at you and
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  they say like, oh, I'm a personal authority, you listen
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  to me. You say, well, can I see some
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  identification that proves that you are who you are?
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  Because without clarifying, they are who they are and they don't
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  have official certification identification on them, then you
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  shouldn't really have to follow anything they say because how do
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  you know they're not just scamming you, right?
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  That's the idea of identification.
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  That's why police carry badges and ID cards and stuff for that
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  exact reason. OK, so #4 is never give anybody
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  any money. As a general rule of thumb, just
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  don't give anybody any money. Always run it by like your your
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  parents or your partner or your best friend or somebody who is,
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  you know, now you're looking out for your best interest because
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  like I said in the beginning of the video, people like to
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  exploit people for money if they can see a vulnerability in their
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  lifestyle. And this is super important
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  because you don't want to be doing that.
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  I mean, you know, I just feel for everybody who will relate to
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  this right now. And if you do relate to this
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  right now, pop a comment, let me know just because I want you to
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  feel like it's not that I've had people steal money from me as
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  well. So don't worry, you're not
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  alone. I'm going to give you a virtual
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  hug. So because we can't hug actually
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  over the Internet, but just do a thumbs up on this video, it's
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  like me giving you guys a visual hug.
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  So there you go. Done.
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  Okay. Some #5 is a really interesting
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  one actually. It's carrying around hidden
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  disability identification. Now this could be in the form of
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  the Sunflower lanyard or the Autism alert cards, which I
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  actually sell on my website. And if you actually send my
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  mailing list, you get 10% off my site, which means you get 10%
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  off your autism alert card. The link will be in a card above
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  here and in the description below if you want to get one of
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  those, But having something like that, an identification thing to
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  show someone that you are of a disability, then in airports
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  like TSA, they can identify you and say, oh OK, it's a hidden
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  disability and they're trained to recognize hidden
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  disabilities. It's not like you're walking
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  around with a big sign saying I am vulnerable.
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  It's that you carry a sunflower lanyard or you have an autism
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  alert card and you use them as and when you need to in front of
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  the people who will know exactly why you have those.
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  So they were my tips. I hope you guys had some
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  takeaways from this that's going to help you in the long run.
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  And it's just there to design to help you become less vulnerable
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  in society and understanding why you're vulnerable as well.
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  Because when we understand things like that, then we have
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  the ability to overcome them potentially.
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  All right. So I will see you guys in the
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  next video. Thanks for watching.
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  Bye Peace.