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(VIDEO) MISTRESS MIA TALKS ABOUT HOW TO BECOME A CROSSDRESSER · CALL ME MISTRESS

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my welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
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I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and it's just me today.
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Now, there's a few things we're going to talk about.
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So tonight Liv and I are actually going to be doing a
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smoking fetish session. Now for those of you who are not
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smokers like myself, it's a very smelly situation.
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Lib has opted for Black and Miles.
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For those of you that don't know what Black and miles are, nice
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little cigars, they have a heavy smell.
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The smell is not bad though, but the smoke is very harsh to me
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anyway and I've opted for some very ultra light one hundreds.
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So 3 hours of puffing smoke. It's going to be interesting.
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I've inquired with him what else he actually likes.
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So I guess it's just a matter of time before we actually find out
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what he does like. I don't know, could be
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discipline, it could be impact, it could be feet, it could be a
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few of my other favorite things. But anyway, and that is our
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evening 3 hours. He he really is a true example
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of what a really good sub is like when he's coming to see a
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professional Dom. So for starters, he emailed me
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and he's like, you know, is there any special anything that
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I can bring? And he's like, you know, what
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brand of cigarettes, what about this and that?
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And he's like, do you all want any, you know, candy or
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chocolate or wine? And I'm like, look at this smart
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little guy. So I don't drink, but when I
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drink, I'm like Liv. We both like Moscato.
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She likes the red, I like the white, I like the wine.
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She likes the no, she likes the wine.
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I like the champagne. So tonight we're going to have a
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little glass of champagne, a little Stella Rosa Moscato,
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which is so nice, and we're going to be smoking, smoking the
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dungeon out. It's going to be hardcore.
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And it reminded me of our one person that always comes to see
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us. He sees us or maybe gets to see
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us about four times a year. But I always call him Smokey.
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So he drives over here and he literally just does a 20 minute
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little session with us. You know, we'll do a little role
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play. We'll tie him up and he'll say,
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Oh, no, mistress, please don't make me smell that smoke.
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And of course, I'm like, breathe it in.
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Breathe it in, you slut. That's exactly what you want.
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And he told me his fetish began when he was a little boy where
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he would crawl into the table and his mom and his aunt and all
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their friends would sit around at the car table and then sit
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there and smoke and play cards and obviously drink.
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But this would all happen in the garage and they would just smoke
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it out. And here he was 8-9 years old
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enjoying this. It was, it's adorable.
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It really is. It's, it's very, it's sweet to
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me, I think little boys with cute little fetishes like that.
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It's like his mother had no idea what she was creating.
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You know, now he comes to a dungeon so he can have, you
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know, these doms blow smoke in his face and torture him.
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It's great. So tonight we'll see the role
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play that we have to accommodate with our smoking fetish guy.
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It's just it's going to be a lot of fun.
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I you know, I complained the fact that it's smoke and that
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smoke fucking stinks. Me not being a smoker, but to
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me, I think it's just I think it's so cool.
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I really do. Now you've caught me on a bad
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hair day. It looks my hair is crazy.
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It looks bad but I don't care anyway.
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So I had an e-mail written to me the other day and I I need to
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respond. So to me this is just as easy to
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respond here. So he can, you know, watch the
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podcast and I can tell him my opinion or the answers.
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I haven't even read this. All I saw was cissification.
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I was like, I'm in. If you want to get in good with
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Mistress Mia, you write me about sysification and we will just
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Yeah, you'll get a response from me.
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Anyway, his name is Byron, and Byron lives in Germany, one of
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my favorite countries. Excuse me?
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Anyway, he says I'm planning to start becoming a femboy or Sissy
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slut and I'm wondering if you could tell me a little bit about
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the journey of sissification and becoming a Sissy slut whore.
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He's getting me wet already. I've given myself the goal to be
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a self-made Sissy slut without any help of a mistress or daddy
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Dom Why? I don't know, but I want to try.
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He said. Here are the things that I want
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to know. All right #1 the basics.
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How do I start? Where do I start as a self-made
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Sissy slut? How does the journey feel?
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How long does the journey take? How do I make a Sissy name for
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myself? All that sort of stuff.
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OK, we'll get back to that. Number 2 toys.
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How do they work? What do I need and what do you
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recommend? How does a dildo work?
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Same thing for a butt plug. What are your favorite ones?
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Which one do you specifically recommend?
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I tried putting a butt plug in my ass once, but I think I might
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have put it in the wrong way. OK, three cross dressing.
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Do you know any cross dressing tips?
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How to apply makeup? How to find the perfect outfit
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for yourself? How to know what kind of panties
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or bra suits you? What types of clothes do you
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recommend for someone who's still new to this?
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How do you know if a man wants to fuck you?
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This is #4I OK I just jumped to that really quick.
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How do you know if a man's ready and checking you out?
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How do you know if a man's gay? How to approach an elderly man
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who is single and tell him you want to fuck him?
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Could you please answer these questions for me?
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That sort of stuff. I really want to learn how to do
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this. Since recently I've been feeling
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a lot of tugs in my chest and my right nipple has been sending me
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these vibrations. I've been getting a warm feeling
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every single time when I think about getting fucked.
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Have a great rest of your day, Byron.
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Byron, That is a load of fun, juicy questions.
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So let's go back to the first one, shall we?
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So how do you start? That's the biggest question
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here. How long does the journey take
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and how does it feel? How do I make my Sissy name?
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All right, so Byron, a lot of sissies do one of these things.
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They either try to rhyme with their name that's closely
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connected to their name, or they choose a name to them that's
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slutty that they really like, like Candy or Cindy or Mandy.
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I'm saying these these names that are sexy little sluts that
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I know personally who are cross dressers.
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And honestly then you have a lot of trans people that they will
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associate their new name for their old name.
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So like I knew a Stephan and his name is Stephanie now or a Brent
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went to a Brie. So there's a lot of different
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ways that you can go about this. Quite truthfully.
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I always tell anyone who's making a new name for
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themselves, whether they're coming to play in the dungeon or
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they want to be a professional Dom, I always say go back in
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time, remember a certain memory or certain person or something
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that is deeply connected to you, and think of a name that you
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would want to associate with yourself.
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It's really about mirroring that image and how you feel about
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that person. I myself will tell you that one
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of my boyfriends, oh, so long ago said, you know, you're a
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little bit of Latin, and you have this Hispanic look about
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you, which my father's side is Mexican Hispanic.
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And he's like, you know, Mia is just a sexy name.
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It just kind of rolls off the tongue.
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And I said, yeah. And it's kind of like missing an
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action because when I'm in action, I'm a different person.
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So I've been going by Mia for 30 years.
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And to me, it's more or less the name I identify with.
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Even in my vanilla life, the only one who really chooses to
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call me that is, or my given name was, you know, my family,
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my family, but even my, you know, nieces, nephews, they'll,
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they'll joke around, they'll say, oh, Auntie Mia, you know.
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So anyway, it's really about a deep connection to a name that
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you like. And if there's a sexy name from
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maybe a television show you watched as a kid or, or just
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something that you like, go for it.
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To me, it doesn't have to be slutty.
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It can be what you actually want to mirror your image as, because
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I mean, here you do mention you want to be a slut, you want to
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be a Sissy slut, and that's cool.
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So go with a name that you think maybe a stripper would have,
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like Amber, You know, Tiffany, you know, there's always little
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slutty names that everybody says, oh, she must be a slut.
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It's cute. Now, the other question you
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asked is how long is this journey going to take?
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Well, the journey is all up to you.
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It's however long it takes for you to find yourself and deem
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yourself as the new person that you want to be.
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So it could be a year, it could be five years.
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You really just don't even know. And I think the biggest thing,
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what I always tell everyone in any journey that you go through,
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be humble, learn whatever you can about what it is you want to
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become. Don't ever think that you have
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all the answers. I've been a Dom for as long as I
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have. I never think I have all the
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answers. I don't.
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That's not possible. There's still ways that I screw
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up. There's still ways that I say,
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damn, I wish I could have done that differently.
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Or, you know, I should have really done that different.
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I should have seen that. And you know, you can't beat
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yourself up about it. It is a journey.
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Life is a fucking journey and that's what you have to make it
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as. But in the process, the biggest
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thing is to love yourself, love who you are, embrace who you
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are. And I'm always saying this, if
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you're thinking about cross dressing, are you thinking about
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doing this full time? Are you thinking about just
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doing it as a kink? Are you thinking about maybe
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you're more than just a crossdresser and you may want to
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make a transition at some point? You know, these are all
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questions that you have to ask yourself.
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So, you know, Byron, you can always say, Byron, who do you
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feel like? Who do you really feel?
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And just think about that first name that pops in your head.
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You know, what image do you want to portray to people?
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What do you want to put out there in the world?
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I mean, any woman can be a slut, but do you want to be classy or
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trashy? You know?
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All right, so I think I answered that one pretty well.
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What do you think? So #2 Let's see, toys, Well, how
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do they work? Well, Byron, that's pretty broad
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of a question. What do you need and what do you
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recommend? How does a dildo work?
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Same thing for a butt plug. What are your favorite ones?
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Which one do you specifically recommend?
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I tried putting a butt plug in my ass and he said he put it in
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wrong. OK, so if you put in the butt
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plug wrong, maybe you have more than one butt hole.
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I don't know your anatomy, who knows?
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OK, I doubt that's, it's not a very high probability here, but
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so a dildo is obviously a dildo. It's not a vibrator.
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Therefore it's just a phallic toy, phallic shaped toy.
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And you can fuck yourself with those toys and you can have fun
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with those toys. You can put it in a strap on or
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you can put it in your mouth. You can do whatever the fuck you
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want. Butt plugs.
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People tend to go with something that is more flesh like and
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that's what I say with like your dildos and anything that's
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insertable. I always say just to find
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something that feels perfect, really nice.
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And there's really no wrong way to put in a butt plug, except
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maybe it's too big. So you can always go on Amazon.
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And I'm going to do a promo for Amazon right now and you will
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find a triple set of dildos and they're great.
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So the triple set starts with a small and obviously works its
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way up to a large. Now.
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My favorite ones, again, they feel like an actual Dick.
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They just do now there's one brand, and I don't know the
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brand about plug, but they're black and they're not like
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regular silicone. They don't feel fleshy, but most
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people who try them, they love them because they just fit right
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and they're like very slender, but they still have a little
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curve to them. I'll try to find the link and
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I'll post it. If I can find them on Amazon, I
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will. I'll post it on this link.
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All right, so #3 how do you cross dress?
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What are the tips you recommend applying makeup, etcetera.
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What kind of panties, bras, that kind of thing?
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Well, these are a few tips. So when you're going to apply
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makeup, it depends if you have facial hair.
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So one of my good trans friends, oh so long ago, before she
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started doing electrolysis and and laser on her face, she got
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orange lipstick. And for some odd reason, it's
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something about the contour and colors of that make it work.
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But you can take orange lipstick and you can coat it all on your
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on your facial hair. And then you just apply
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foundation. And when you're applying
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foundation, when you go to buy foundation, you want it to match
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your neck. See, I'm wearing foundation and
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there's no line. You can't tell a line because I
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match it up with the skin tone. And that's what you do a lot of
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times too. I always say go to Sephora and
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you're going to pay more, but it's a good quality makeup and
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there's going to be a, you know, someone there who can say, Oh
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yeah, hey, this is your skin tone.
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And so typically when you buy foundation, it's going to be a
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Ivory first. That's your lightest is Ivory,
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and then it goes up into, you know, a bronze if you're a woman
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of color. And so that's how it starts.
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I'm an Ivory and I'm very fair complected.
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So a lot of times too though, if I get in the sun at summertime,
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you have to get a different foundation because it will, I
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mean ultimately be very evident. If you have a tan and you go to
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put on, you know, your Ivory foundation, all right.
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A lot of people are very Ivory. You know, I use, I don't go to
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Sephora necessarily for my foundation, but I do go and I
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get this compact of liquid foundation through CoverGirl and
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it's just, it's great. Has a nice little sponge.
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It covers. But you know, for me, funny
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enough, I buy a really good expensive olive oil and I put it
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all on my face and I put it all over my body.
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And I'm almost 50 and I have very few wrinkles.
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And, you know, so the older you get, I always say skin care
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after the age of 30 is crucial. So, you know, good olive oil,
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some hemorrhoidal cream at night, coated on and then, you
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know, put your makeup on the next morning.
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It's fine. It'll absorb in the skin.
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You're good. But now again.
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You know, are you going to do this 24/7?
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I don't know. Only you can answer these
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questions. OK, so orange lipstick to cover
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any type of facial hair. Now, when I say facial hair, I'm
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not talking about a 5:00 shadow. I'm talking about after you've
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shaved and it's down to the skin and you see no hair whatsoever.
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Go ahead and put the actual orange lipstick on.
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But you know, that's just me. Again, there's so many tutorials
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now on YouTube and there's just makeup artist galore.
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What's crazy is the more you learn about makeup, you know, a
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lot of people have to contour because they have bigger
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features or they don't have enough shape to their face.
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I'm not one of those people where I feel like I have to
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contour everything. So long as I have, you know, my
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cheekbones, which they're very clear.
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You can see them when I smile. That's just me, but there's a
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lot of people, and my nieces are notorious for it.
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They'll get a set of contour makeup and it's contour
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foundation and it's like they do the stripe here, the stripe
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there, and then they buff it in and it's like it takes an hour
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for them to put makeup on. And my thing of it is, do you
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want kick face to where you really have to cover things up?
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Sometimes you really do. But again, This is why I say go
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on Groupon and go get lasered. If you're serious about being a
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crossdresser and possibly going into the transition of being a
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trans woman, then get laser done.
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And what they'll do is go in there and they'll ZAP, ZAP, ZAP
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your face. You pay anywhere between, you
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know, 50 to 150 just for, you know, the cheeks down.
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And and then what hair is there, they'll go into electrolysis
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where they'll pull each hair from every fucking root.
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And yes, it's as painful as it sounds.
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And I'm sorry for you, but that's the beauty of being a
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woman because all women have facial hair, but men, they have
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fucking coarse, wiry hair that, you know, grows everywhere.
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Maybe you're not a hairy person. I don't know.
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But skin care is critical. And I think that, you know,
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getting a facial or going, like I said, going to Sephora, going
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somewhere where you can get microdermabrasion, you can, you
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can really like scrub your face with dead skin, you know, get
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the dead skin off. Then they have, you know, like
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usually a three or four step skin treatment that you can do
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for your face. So you want like glowing skin
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and make it pretty, you know, all right, I think I've talked
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enough about that. Now on to the close situation.
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Now as a man, you don't have a lot of female curves, so I
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always tell my crossdressers, get a bone in corset, OK.
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And then you can get silicone pieces that you can take and put
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in your panties as like silicone hips or anywhere where you want
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some type of curvature. I'm putting my hand down here
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for like, hey, yeah, right here your titties.
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But you know, I have, you know, 42 DS so I don't have that
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issue. And so for a man, you know, look
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into getting some really good titties and then I get these
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funny ass text messages. It's great.
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But I'm trying to thought, yeah, so go on Amazon.
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Another plug for Amazon here because everybody's got a
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fucking Amazon account now. This is where the SIS vacation
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comes in. Look for Sissy panties because
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the crotch is going to be wider and you're going to be able to
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fit your balls and your Dick in it.
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And they have some that have like a frontal pouch where you
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can actually stick your genitals in it.
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So the pouch looks like a fucking vagina.
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It's great. It's like, oh, look at that
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bitch, she's got big ass camel toe.
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That's what you'll see when you put tight pants or clothes on.
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It's great. And then they have somewhere you
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can actually just put your Dick through the shaft and it's a
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fabric shaft. Those can be worn by anybody.
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I know. I, I put those on my husband.
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It's great. And every now and then he'll
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like start wear it for me and then it like stroke his Dick
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with the fabric on it. I'm like, Oh my God, he's so
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cute. But you know, it's really about
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your preference. But female panties that were
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made for a genetic woman, they just don't fit right for my
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crossdressers and my trans people because it doesn't give
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room for the balls. It just doesn't.
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The balls fall out, the balls pull the side, just it don't
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work. If someone was smart, they'd
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come up with like really good, you know, calm tranny panties,
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column CD panties. I don't know, but I think that
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men need them. They really need good quality
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panties. Oh, let's see.
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Oh yeah, the brawls. You know, I go back to brawls
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and that is you need to decide like, OK, for example, if you're
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6 foot and you wear a size 11 shoe, then you're going to wear
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more than likely if you don't have a long skinny foot, you're
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going to be wearing a 13 In women's, you always go like 2
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sizes up. And and so when you're measuring
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yourself for a bra, for example, your bra, you go with a tape
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measure across your nipples and around your back and that's
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pretty much your width. Or you can go right below the
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nipples and you can say, oh, OK, well I'm 36 inches around,
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therefore I'm a 36 whatever cup. So then when you get your
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silicone titties, they sell them, you know, a through, Oh my
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God, huge ones. So you just decide, you know,
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you don't want them abnormally large or you might.
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It's just you. It's just totally up to you and
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what you want. But I always say go for AD Go
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for a double D if you have a good size frame.
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If you're 6 foot and 190, go for a double D.
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You've got the frame for them. But if you're 5 foot 8 and 140
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lbs, then the double DS are going to look fucking ginormous
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and abnormally so. But again, it's up to you.
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You have to play with these ideas now.
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Oh, what kind of clothes do I recommend?
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Again, you can go, and I'll say this much, Shane is great.
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Liv and I go on Shane quite often, but it's just because
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they have these faux latex pants or PVC pants and they're
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anywhere from 9 to $12.00. Very inexpensive because as soon
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as you get a pair, you can pay $20.00 for them on Amazon
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because half the time it's the same seller.
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And when you get that, you know, these PVC pants, they don't last
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long. You get maybe, maybe 15 wears
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out of them. I mean, you can wash them and
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baby them all you want. Eventually they'll peel because
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of temperature change or you sit and rub on furniture with them
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and they they just don't last. So I would suggest going
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somewhere cheap, getting them cheap and trying them out,
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trying different clothes on. Even go to a thrift store.
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It's not going to hurt. You know, you could try some
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things on and kind of gauge, you know what size you are.
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So if in men's on average a lot of men on average size or like a
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3630 in pants in in US size chart for Germany at the moment.
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But in the US, size, size 3630 is like an average size for most
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men. But that is more or less like an
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equivalent to a size 12 in women, give or take 10/12.
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And when you're in 1012, it's, it's a lot easier to buy
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clothes, you know, in women's size, the average size women's
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clothes in the US is a size 10. But you know, if you get down to
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like a size 6, that's really small.
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I think back in the 60s, like Marilyn Monroe, she was a size 3
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four in today's standards. But back then it showed, I think
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like a 6-8. She wasn't a 6-8, she was a 3/4.
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So she was probably anywhere between 1:25 and 1:30 at her at
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her largest. So she was teeny tiny.
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Now we get into more serious aspects of things here.
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How do you know if a man wants to fuck you?
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Well, depending on where you are, it's all on surroundings.
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So if you're at a restaurant and it's just an average restaurant,
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I doubt that a guy's just going to come up to you and be like,
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hey, let me take you into the bathroom.
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Fuck you. Yeah, no, that's not going to
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happen normally. But if you go to a gay bar,
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they're going to let you know. And it's really, you know, when
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you mention here how to approach an elderly man, like how old are
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we talking? Do you want to, you want like an
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80 year old? I don't know.
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I really don't know with you, Byron.
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That's that's great. You didn't tell me how old you
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were. So that's really cute.
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Like, oh, you want a fucking elderly man?
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You want to get some from Daddy? It's cute.
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I love it. No judgement.
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But you know, in the gay lifestyle, there's for men, you
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know, there's bears, which are, you know, bigger, older, hairier
31:49
men, which I dig that shit. There's nothing like watching
31:53
hot bear porn and then he's fucking a young cub and when
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it's young cub, so, you know, if he's a 60 plus year old man and
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he's hairy and, you know, a little heavy, he might like a
32:07
young cub who's, you know, twenties, 30s and or twink.
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So if they're twink, then they're skinny, cute, hot in
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their, you know, 20s. But the Cubs, I think you know
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about the same give or take. You know, it's always about this
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little lingo and what you can use.
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But how do you know if a man's checking you out?
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Well, I think it's all on eye contact.
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You know, even in the vanilla world, men and women, they give
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off very clear signals most times.
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Most times they can, you know, touch your arm or they can smile
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at you, they can wink at you. They can be very forthcoming in
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what they want. But again, it's up to you.
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You can go on grinder and you can, you know, spot someone out,
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make a nice profile, show your picture on there.
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As you know, sexy crossdresser. And this is one thing I'm going
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to suggest to you, Byron. I've I've had crossdresser
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friends and I've had to say them and I've had to say to a lot of
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my female friends, don't use a filter excessively.
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Don't bother. You know, if you're hating and
33:25
you really want to meet someone to have sex with, you don't
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catfish them. Just if you think you look
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presentable in your own way and you want to put your picture out
33:36
there, then do it. But don't go crazy Filter.
33:43
And then you show up and they're like, what?
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I mean, you have the potential there to have a lot of fun, but
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ultimately if you really bait them, it's not going to go over
33:59
well. So how to approach a man?
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It's really simple. My thing to go to a gay club or
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a gay bar is just start off with a conversation.
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That's all you do. Just start off with a
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conversation and open yourself to possibilities.
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But also be smart about it. You know, be really smart.
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You don't want to, you know, meet someone and just go back to
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their place the first night you meet them.
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To me, I would get a hotel somewhere where it's going to be
34:41
safe and you know, always use protection.
34:45
Don't don't ever think that you're invincible to an STI.
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Just never do that. I find so often that I've thrown
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these, these big parties for swingers and you know, people in
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the BDSM lifestyle and they fuck all the time without protection.
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And I don't, I don't judge them because of it.
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But you know, it's just to me, people in the kink lifestyle or
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people who are very sexually active, you know, you're fucking
35:24
all the people they fucked. And I mean, there's herpes or
35:30
gonorrhea, you know, syphilis is still exists.
35:34
And you know, these things aren't going away.
35:37
You can get gonorrhea in chlamydia all day long.
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Doesn't matter. It's going to happen.
35:43
So a condom is going to protect you quite a bit.
35:48
You still have that chance. But you know, then there's AIDS,
35:53
you know, then there's, you know, everything else, anything
35:56
else. So just be safe, practice safe
35:59
sex. And even when you're given a
36:02
blowjob, put that condom on. Just saying.
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And yeah, start off a conversation.
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That's what you do. Just start off a conversation
36:13
with someone. And and I say go on Grinder, go
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on Facebook Dating if you want to get a little serious with it.
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Maybe that's the other thing, like classify yourself as this
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is where I, I question people in a sense, it's like, are you by
36:36
enough just to have sex with them as a crossdresser?
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Or do you want a relationship? And that's a question you have
36:43
to ask for yourself. That's all it is, but you have
36:47
to do what makes you happy and that is what it is all about is
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being happy and be very honest and open and and good things
37:00
will follow. Just have your best interest and
37:06
the best interest of others in every possible good way.
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If you're going to meet someone and play with someone, be very
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kind and considerate. And when you're thinking about
37:20
who you want to be, who is it you want to emulate?
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You know, what do you want to look like?
37:26
Who do you want to portray what? What is the kind of person you
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want to be? Are you still going to be Byron
37:31
on the inside? Absolutely.
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And that's a good thing because you're the Byron right now that
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wants to explore and be yourself and find that new found freedom
37:43
of being a cross dresser and being happy with that life that
37:47
you can create all on your own. And you don't need a daddy Dom.
37:52
You don't need a mommy Dom. You don't need anyone other than
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you finding your own self and your own happiness because that
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is what matters. That's why we're all here is
38:03
finding our own happiness and finding what our life is and
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what is the value of what we bring into the world and to
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others. So on that note, I'm going to
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save my voice for tonight because by tomorrow I might be
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losing it if I'm going to be inhaling a bunch of fucking
38:24
cigarettes. Yay.
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So wish me luck. And you know, this is a whole
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new year of 2026. I hope everyone's New Year's Eve
38:39
was grand. I hope everyone has a blissful
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2026 and I hope you get to bring in this new year with a bang so
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or hopefully you did already. Until then, this has been the
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latest episode of Call Me Mistress.