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Temi Otedola and Mr Eazi’s Luxurious Wedding Sparks Discussion After Temi Changed Her Surname · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Bands with Lorenzi.
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  How are you all doing? Hope you're doing great.
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  For today's episode, I want to talk about the latest couple in
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  town and that is Tammy Otter Dollar and Mr Izzy Ajibadi.
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  These two cover wedded. They had like 3 different
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  ceremonies in three different countries costing over $17
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  million and Nigerians are losing their minds because Tammy
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  Otterdola who is a daughter of a billionaire in dollars, changed
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  her name from Otterdola to Ajibadi.
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  People are saying that if they are the ones or if they're in
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  tennis shoes or if even if they're in Mr Easy's shoe, they
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  would have taken the surname Otterdola.
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  Now, after Tammy changed her name on social media, Nigerian
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  men lost their minds. So different conversations on
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  different social media platforms started happening where men are
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  saying that ordinary drama that is from Okoro family who refused
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  to change her name to maybe yesterday because she's saying
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  that her father sent her to school so she cannot, you know,
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  abandoned her surname. They're saying that look at Ote
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  Dolla, tell me Ote Dolla is my getting married to Mr ISI.
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  And quickly, quickly she changed her name.
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  I think the, the thing people are forgetting to understand is
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  that because the whole lot of conversations about submission
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  was thrown into the mix, that women who refuse to change their
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  names are not submissive. And I beg to differ because
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  submission is not about, it's not necessarily about money.
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  Yes, in the case of Mr Azie and case of M Tammy, you know, when
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  you have money, when you grow up in money, I don't think you even
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  see money. You don't because it's just it's
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  just there. You know, it's just like
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  somebody who is naturally endowed all your life, you've
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  carried that those assets, weather front, weather back,
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  you've carried it and and you wouldn't yes, some people flaunt
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  it, but it wouldn't be it wouldn't shock you like somebody
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  who just got a BBL, if that makes sense, who maybe just did
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  their boobs or, you know, they would want to flaunt, you know,
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  those assets because they bought it, they spent money, they
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  grieved it, they wanted it and they paid to get it.
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  So Teni or $10 has always no money.
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  She's always been around money, around wealth and now getting
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  married, she found somebody who is very intentional, who we've
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  never heard anything about Mr Easy cheating or Mr Easy.
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  There's no scandal. Yes, maybe these that may all
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  relationship go through open ups and downs.
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  Yes, maybe he must have cheated, but we never heard that is the
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  difference. And then people started
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  comparing their relationship to Davido and Sharma.
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  I mean Mr Easy is a very successful musician.
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  OK, not to the, you know, scale as Davido, but these are two
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  successful people, musician or entertainers who are also
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  business people. Now Truman Davido they spent
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  about according to Davido 3,000,000 for their wedding and
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  Davido also his father is in billionaire in dollars.
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  So these are you can juxtapose these two people and see the
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  difference, the difference why Tammy can easily make that
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  decision to change her name because she is secure.
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  She trusts her husband, Shuma. Would you say she's secure?
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  Yes. You know, they give her
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  assurance. They did every necessary thing.
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  But we will not be shocked if we wake up tomorrow and we see the
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  video in the news, kneeling down, begging a woman for Gucci.
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  We will not be shocked because it has happened.
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  We will not be shocked if Sophia comes out tomorrow and say the
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  video spend the night in my house.
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  We will not be shocked because that is the dynamic of their
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  relationship. Chuma has not changed her name
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  on social media. She is still chef She So the I
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  think sometimes the the the main problem is people trying to
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  compare things. Maybe Cooley in one corner
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  cheating on, maybe Aisha doing everything possible to, to to
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  to, you know, make sure that Aisha doesn't have peace and
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  then propose to Aisha. And Aisha is saying, I am not
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  changing my name. I will not change my surname.
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  Because the way you're moving mad, maybe in the next 5 years
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  you will bring another Fatima. And then I'll be like, OK, I'm
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  not interested in this, you know, polygamous situation.
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  So instead of her to now start changing back to her surname,
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  she says no, I just want to be Aisha Ibrahim.
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  I don't want to be Aisha maybe a day.
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  So it depends on the dynamic of that relationship.
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  I don't think any woman who is in a relationship with somebody
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  who is sensible, with somebody who is intentional with somebody
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  who, who has plans and who is ready to lead.
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  I don't think that woman will not submit.
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  She will submit. She will change her name.
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  In fact, she will change her identity for you.
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  But you see, we have a lot of people who are online talking
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  about, you know, comparing apples to oranges.
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  These are people who we, we've never heard any scandal from Mr
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  Easy. They've been married.
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  They've been dating for for a very long time and at some point
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  they were even laughing at Tammy saying that she's just dating
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  him. When would they get married in
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  the centre of this whole thing? I pity Koopi because everybody's
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  now on Koopi's case saying, you know, she's the other sister.
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  What what is going on when she's going to find her own man?
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  And she has been very vocal online saying that she's looking
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  for a husband. Then what do you think?
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  Do you think that people are right to say that women or this
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  generation of women are not submissive because, you know,
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  maybe our mother's generation, they were more submissive?
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  Or do you think that just like Annie Debe, we were raised by
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  women who had been through hell and high waters?
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  And they're saying that my child or my daughter is not going to
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  go through any of these things. And then women raised like that
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  or ladies or girls raised with that ideology are now saying
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  that they're not going to submit to men.
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  Who are we going to blame in this situation?
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  Are we going to blame the parents for telling their
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  daughters not to be submissive because something had happened?
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  If you look at Tammy or tell the last situation, her parents are
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  married, they've always had money, regardless of what was
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  going on. The father has always provided
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  and the mother was submissive. That is the background she's
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  coming from. So her father is not going to
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  tell her to be submissive. Her mother is not going to tell
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  her to be submissive. But then if you get somebody who
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  is coming from a background where there is trauma and that
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  mother is telling her daughter, don't go through what I went
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  through, I was submissive to your father and I saw shake a
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  bounza. Don't do it.
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  Who are we going to blame? Are we going to blame our men of
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  marriageable age who cannot settle for one person who is
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  busy sowing their oats, who knows that, Who believe that
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  they are the price? So they want peace, but they are
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  not creating the peaceful atmosphere.
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  And then anybody coming in saying that, yes, we can get
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  married because I want children because my biological clock is
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  ticking. So I am happy to, you know,
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  entertain this union for a for a certain time because I know it's
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  not going to last. And that person is refusing to
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  change their identity or their surname.
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  Who do we blame? Let me know your thoughts.
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