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3 Ways to Edit Your Life When Everything Feels Like Too Much · Your Body Knows

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Your Body Knows, a podcast for women ready to return to their bodies and reclaim their power, their truth, and their way forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Shanetta McDonald, a somatic life coach and writer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each episode will explore the messy, beautiful work of healing, self-trust, and learning to feel at home in your own skin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're in a season of transition or simply longing to feel more like yourself, this space is for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's listen in.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Your Body Knows podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am Shanetta McDonald, your host, life coach, mother writer, all of the things.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to this week's episode.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad you're here.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope you checked out the episode from a few weeks ago with Bridget Hill, our tricologist, who was just wonderful to be in conversation with.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week I want to talk about something that feels very close to me in the work that I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It seems simple, but a lot of my clients are struggling with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is how to edit your life when everything feels like too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have three ways that I work with clients on doing this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been feeling like there's too much going on lately and you want to talk about something that, you know, you've been thinking a lot about, I think this is gonna help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Editing your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what I have been thinking a lot about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think we can all take some small steps to edit our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't mean completely blowing up your life or moving to another country or quitting your job or any of the other dramatic things we sometimes fantasize about when we're overwhelmed.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean taking a really honest look at what's currently taking up your time, your energy, attention, and asking yourself, does all of this still feel right for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does all of this still belong in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think we're really good at adding things to our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are good at adding commitments, responsibilities, relationships, subscriptions, activities, routines, goals, all the things, but we're not nearly good enough at editing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once something in our life is not working, we tend to just keep doing it without stopping to reassess or just reenvision what we want our lives to look like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm stuffy today, you guys, so just bear with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um my dog is right next to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm allergic to my dog, it's a whole other thing, but bear with me because this is really important and I want to get this out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I also think, especially as women, and particularly as mothers, there can be this assumption that if something is on our plate, we have to figure out how to manage it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes what I think the better question is why is this on my part plate in the first place?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, why is this something that I feel I have to do regardless?
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  SPEAKER_00: So today I want to take a little bit of time to give you three ways to edit your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can actually do this pretty practically.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to overhaul everything, like I mentioned.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I were you, I would just pick one of these three areas and just start looking at what's the first is edit what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look at your commitments, take a look at your calendar, your recurring or recurring obligations, the things you do every week, every day, or every month, and ask yourself if I were deciding today whether or not to do this, would I say yes?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I mean do this literally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take out a piece of paper, look at your calendar or your notes and your phone, wherever you place your meetings, your things to do, all of your obligations, and ask yourself that question.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is a different question than can I actually do this or can I technically fit this in?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I think a lot of us have been very good at fitting things in, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We can squeeze in just about anything, an appointment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I've taken on more for this amazing organization I'm on the board of.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you can squeeze in a workout.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you could squeeze in just about anything, but then we wonder why we're exhausted, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why we're running on fumes and why we seem to just be moving and not making much progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because just because something fits into your schedule, it doesn't mean that it belongs there.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are probably things in your life right now that made perfect sense six months ago or two years ago that don't make sense anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you said yes because your kids were younger if you have kids, or maybe work looked different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you had more energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I could do a whole podcast on how much energy I used to have and what it looks like today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, or maybe you were excited about something at the time and then your interests change.
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  SPEAKER_00: That does not mean you made a bad decision, it just means some circumstances change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and how this has shown it for me personally and with clients is personally at a point probably coming into this summer where I realized I had a lot of meetings on my calendar that just weren't beneficial to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I really wanted to take back my time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have limited time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a four and a half year old who is not in school full time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so if I have limited time to work, to do self-care, to do things that light and fill me up, then that means I have to be maniacal with my time, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I prioritized anything that was revenue driving, have to live, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So client work, um, anything that was an opportunity related to clients, I that's important.
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  SPEAKER_00: That gets to stay on the calendar.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then anything related to my mental health, mental health, alternative health.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for me, that is therapy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That may be an energy healing session.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I got a solo return reading a couple of months ago for my birthday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, or actually just this month.
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  SPEAKER_00: My birthday was just in September.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's wild.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, those things for me are are important.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's my mental health, it's my livelihood.
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  SPEAKER_00: And those are that's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like those are the two things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, as I just mentioned, I've stepped up from an advisory board member to a board member for an organization I am a part of.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is requiring a little bit more of me, but I have my other priorities.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, okay, I have to take care of myself in a number of different ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I get to do this work, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's what that looks like for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for clients, I have them go through their calendar and identify the things that are taking up a disproportionate amount of time or energy and then ask, do you still want this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this actually important to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, are you doing this because you want to, because you have to, or because you haven't stopped to question it?
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's another question I really like also.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's what would happen if I stopped doing this?
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  SPEAKER_00: So what would happen?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, one thing that also shifted, and my living situation shifted this year as well, is I used to just clean all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I clean, I we we clean up after ourselves here.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is a rule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I do a deep cleaning every other week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like a deep two to three hour cleaning every other week, and anything in between is maintenance versus spending 30 minutes each day cleaning my whole house.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's just not a best use of my time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm a Virgo, so trust me, the house is getting cleaned.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's clean, but I've I've decided to spend my time elsewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I wanted to fit more time into my schedule for reading, and the trade-off for that is TV.
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  SPEAKER_00: So sometimes if I'm doing some mindless work, I'll do it in front of the TV during the day because I would rather have a quiet evening with a book than to be consuming content.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's just a trade-off for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um it's different for everyone, but I had to make those decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to take a step back to see, hey, this is not working, something isn't serving me well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I had to look at what I was doing, you know, so just to take a look at my behaviors.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where was I mindlessly doing things?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where was I allowing time and energy to be consumed and it just wasn't beneficial for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I don't do that perfectly.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still, if it makes sense, if someone wants to connect with me and I feel like it's a valuable connection, someone will reach out to me and it's if it's it's not a work call, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but if they just want to connect with me to get my thoughts on something or to just know more about me, I take it during a walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm walking my dog or I'm in the car.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can still be present and listen to them and not sacrifice a big chunk out of my day where I actively need to be proactively working on my business or to be doing something that takes care of me, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I do this assessment all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every week at the beginning of my week, I look at my week.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oof, I have too many meetings this day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can I take some of these meetings off my calendar?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I have time for my meditation and my walk?
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  SPEAKER_00: If I have time for my meditation and my walk, everything else seems to go a lot more smoothly.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I don't, it's not good for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are my priorities.
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  SPEAKER_00: Me taking care of my family and and you know, running my businesses, that's that's really important for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, sometimes we assume the consequences, consequences of editing are where our time is going is going to be enormous when actually maybe nothing happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, with me, a lot happens because I'm editing down, but maybe somebody else can fill in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have a partner who can pick up some of the things that you don't have the time or energy for.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe if it's work-related, you have a colleague or subordinate who can help you out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, or maybe you just don't do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a whole other thing, um, which is a lot easier than I think we realized as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to earn the right to have less on your plate.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could just have less on your plate.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's the first thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Edit what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Literally, what are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Start at the top of your week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like a good Sunday start.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I have planned?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I need to do?
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  SPEAKER_00: What can I not do?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I I have we have this saying in the coaching program I did to bag it, better it, or barter it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so bagging it means you may just not have be able, you may just have the option to not do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's bagging it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get rid of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have to do it, how can we better it?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if, like I mentioned, if I am doing some work and I really want to get a TV show in, I work for myself, I work from home, I can do that on the couch, especially if it's a tedious task like research or sometimes planning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'm gonna make this better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna have a nice lunch.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to sit on the couch and do this, or maybe I'm gonna take a break in between, walk the dog, break up the task.
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  SPEAKER_00: That feels better for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imbarter it.
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I work with someone else like a mention to get this done?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe this doesn't need to always be or fully be on me and on my plate.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's just something to consider.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second is to edit who you're chewing with.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is probably my favorite one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, the second area is looking at your relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to be clear that I'm not talking about making a list of everyone in your life who annoys you and cutting them off.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't believe in that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, unless it's absolutely necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm also not suggesting that every relationship needs to be perfectly reciprocal or that you should only spend time with people who make you feel amazing all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not realistic, I don't think.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about taking an honest look at the people who you're actually spending your time with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who do you feel you're like yourself around?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, who do you look forward to seeing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who can you call when something is going on in your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you maintaining your relationship with mostly because you've known each other forever, because you live near each other, because your friends are, your kids are friends, or because it would feel weird to let the relationship change.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the other side of this is who's missing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because editing your relationships isn't always about subtraction and taking a person out of it, out of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's about making room for more of the relationships you actually want.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think this becomes especially important in motherhood.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have no idea how many of my listeners are mothers, but as you all know, I am a mother.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think you can spend a lot of time around people and still feel like you don't have a meaningful connection in your life as a parent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you're with your kids, you're talking about your partner, you're working with colleagues, you're texting people about logistics, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, on and on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and yet you may not have many opportunities to just be yourself around other women.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's one of the reasons why I created Gathered, which I don't think I've spoken about here yet.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: Gathered is a community for women who happen to be mothers.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a parenting group.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: And it is not about being the perfect mom or having another place where you need to keep up.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: I created it to have a place to connect with other women around the entire full experience of being a person, a woman who is also a mother.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, motherhood is one part of our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a huge part, obviously, but it's not the only part.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have work and friendships and relationships and creativity and ambition and our own interests and all of the things that make us who we are.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um that's not to say that some parents may have more relationships with other parents, you know, that also happens.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_00: I, the, the relationships I had prior to my daughter with friends who had kids were not as deep or meaningful as they are today.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: They mean so much more to me because we have a shared experience, right?
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: And so, in this second tip or tool of editing who you're doing life with, I think it is important to see who you have a shared life experience with.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a past life experience, maybe it's a current life experience, but something that threads you together because relationships evolve.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, my relationships and friendships have evolved drastically just that this past year, different and better than I could have imagined, right?
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think if we could keep keep asking ourselves what feels good for me, what works for me, and which I don't think a lot of people do, have the honest, straightforward conversations around what they need in their life as it relates to a friendship or a relationship.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: I think it just it's it's helpful for us.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: One thing I don't think we talk about enough, and I may do a whole entire episode around this, is how we don't spend enough time nurturing friendships as we do romantic relationships.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we can be in a romantic relationship and, you know, pour everything into it, have many conversations about where it's going, how we want to feel what we need from the other partner or person and so forth, and not do the same for a or a platonic friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh no relationship, platonic or romantic, is meant to be easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're meant to help grow us.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: And if it's meant to help grow us, then that means we, I think, need to exercise the same level of care that we do in romantic relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't see that happening a lot.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think friendships can be a lot more feeble, um, a lot more disposable, um, and sometimes with higher expectations, you know?
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so if you haven't read the uh The Company We Keep, I think by Alex L, I read that this year.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: I listened to the audiobook, and it was just a beautiful account of how she's evolved, evolved in her friendships, and how her friendships have evolved over the years, and how uh she's created values around those friendships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so another step and layer of this would be like, what are your personal values in friendship?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what is that?
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: How are you showing up?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, put it back on yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you showing up for other people?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you want them to show up for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what's worth nurturing?
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: What's worth pausing?
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: What's worth just reassessing and have the honest conversations with people?
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: Not via text, you guys.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: Please don't text this.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, uh call somebody, you know, have a have a conversation with them, meet up face to face.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's so easy to to just sit behind our phones and and reassess relationships without having the the heartfelt conversations that need to happen.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: So that's my soapbox around that.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_00: But uh if you are a mother, I'll put the link together in the show notes.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: And if you've been feeling like, you know, you your your relationships could use a little editing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would ask yourself these last two questions.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: Who am I ready to spend less time with and who do I want to make more time for?
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: Those can be really different questions, and both are worth asking.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, no relationship or friendship is perfect.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: We we get to reassess all the time.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: Things change.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Again, that shared experience, whether it's parenthood, new job, relocation, uh, health.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: There's so many different reasons why these things evolved.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I am working on a very important story for the cut around the concept and idea of a best friend.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: So the story should be out in October.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'll be sure to share that with my community because I think there's some nuggets in there on that.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking to a few friendship and platonic relationship experts as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this might, again, be its own podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: So stay tuned for that.
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  SPEAKER_00: The third and final tip is to edit what you're giving your attention to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, look at your attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one is harder because you can't always see it on the calendar.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't see it readily.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what are you thinking about all day?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you consuming?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you checking?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you worried about?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you keeping tabs on that you don't actually need to know?
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: All of us can fill in the blank here.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think about social media, obviously, but it's not just about social media.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be the news, constantly checking your email, following people whose lives make you feel like you're behind, spending time researching something you don't actually need to decide right now.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: I can get stuck in it very easily.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: It could even be mental energy that you're giving to another person, right?
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: Replaying a conversation, trying to figure out what somebody meant, thinking about whether someone is disappointed in you, trying to solve a problem that technically belongs to somebody else.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: Your attention is a resource, and most of us have a lot less of it than we think we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'd actually try an attention audit for a few days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice where your attention goes.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to judge it, just notice it.
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  SPEAKER_00: How often are you reaching for your phone?
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: What are you thinking about when you're supposed to be doing something else?
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: What do you find yourself checking over and over?
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: What leaves you feeling better afterward, and what leaves you feeling completely depleted?
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: And then ask yourself, is this something I actually want to give my attention to?
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes the thing you need to change isn't your entire life.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um it's the amount of access something has to your brain.
• 20:41
  SPEAKER_00: I recall, I think it was, was it Rachel Cargill a couple of years ago?
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: Someone posted, I think it was her on social media when she goes to pick up her phone and open an app on Instagram.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: I I, you know, usually she asks herself a question, what am I looking for?
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: And if and I I've I don't do that perfectly, but I did that for a while.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: And if I can remember to do that, it helps me so much because a lot of times I'm looking for nothing, I'm looking for a distraction.
• 21:10
  SPEAKER_00: I am looking for one thing that if I open the app, I'll get distracted immediately and forget to go for the look for the thing that I was looking for.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but a lot of times it's yeah, I'm looking for a distraction, I'm looking for comfort, I'm looking for some something to ease the boredom that I feel right now.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: So I I thought that was a beautiful reminder.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um I don't think you need another, again, I say this all the time, morning routine or productivity system.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: You might just need to remove some of what's currently competing for your attention.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um those are three places I'd start.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: You know, if your life starts to feel like too much right now, edit what you're doing, edit who you're doing it with, and edit what you're giving your attention to.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_01: Simple, right?
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_01: Not easy, put it simple.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: Don't try to do all three at once.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: Pick the one where you immediately think, oh my gosh, I know exactly what needs to change here.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably the one.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: If one stands out to you, go with that one.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: And remember, editing editing your life doesn't mean that everything has to be optimized or perfectly intentional.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you're going to have a chaotic week.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um in this life.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, you know, so much is out of our control.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: We can plan as best as we can, and then the rest is up to the universe, God, higher power source, whatever you call it.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_00: The point here isn't to create some perfectly edited existence.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's to make sure you're not carrying a bunch of shit simply because you've never stopped to ask yourself whether you still want them there.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 23:01
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• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: Again, it'll be in the show notes.
• 23:13
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• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: We're just getting started with our founding community and more to come.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm also curious, like if this is helpful for anyone, you know.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: So feel free to just send me a DM on Instagram and let me know what you're discovering in this editing process.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: This is a sample of what I take my clients through.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's a larger ecosystem that I've created on editing your life.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: But if you just pick one of these three areas, start there, I promise it'll be helpful.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: As always, thank you for your your time and attention here.
• 23:50
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• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: I'm excited to spend time with you always.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, take care.