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The Interview Trap: Why Playing It Safe With Questions Feels Like a Survey
A program member sent us a date debrief that read like a deposition: nineteen questions asked, zero answered about himself. "I thought I was being a good listener." Her verdict, relayed kindly: "He was nice. It felt like a survey."
This episode takes apart the interview trap - why questions feel safe (they move the spotlight off you), why connection needs exchange rather than interrogation, and the rule we drill until it's reflex: every question costs a statement. No two questions in a row - each one has to be paid for with a real piece of yourself first.
Plus the twin failure: silence panic…
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