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YOU'RE TOO OLD TO BE A PEOPLE PLEASER · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast for
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  women over 50 with Eden Kendall and Christine Stone.
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  Both of both of us are now not in our 50s, but we've been
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  there, done that. So maybe you'll get something
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  out of this episode, even if you're a A50.
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  Let me let me tell you what my husband refers to himself now as
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  because he turned 60 in October. He keeps calling himself a fresh
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  59. He's like, I'm not 60, I'm a
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  fresh 59. You know what?
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  My husband is a few months younger than me and bullied me
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  when I was 59 and then turned 60.
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  He did the same thing. It's like he was walking around
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  the house going, you're 60 and I'm still 59.
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  I'm like. Oh man.
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  OK, so we have a multi tiered show for you today.
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  So what we're going to talk about in our main little middle
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  section there, the the sandwich meat of it is going to be about
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  being a people pleaser and whether or not it's worth being
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  one. And then we have an
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  organizational tip at the end, as we tend to all the time.
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  And we're going to start out with things that are on our
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  radar. We both watched a movie called
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  Voicemails for Isabel and Oh my gosh.
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  I think it goes up there with like steel Magnolias and
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  beaches. And I mean, I just, I sobbed
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  through the whole thing and it's not even sad the whole thing.
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  It just was so I liked it a lot. I thought it.
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  Was really. I started crying from the minute
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  it started. And the second it started, I was
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  crying. And at the end I was crying.
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  It is so sweet. It's so cute.
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  It's so funny. It stars Zoe Deutsch, who is the
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  daughter of Leah Thompson, who I love.
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  I don't know that. Yeah.
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  Her dad is a director. I think he is Howard Deutsch's
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  is he? Or somebody.
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  Deutsch, that was her daughter and Leah Thompson from Back to
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  the Future. Her and remember she had a show.
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  She's done a lot of stuff little that movie I used to love in the
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  80s, some kind of wonderful. She was in a lot of things.
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  But yeah, so Leah Thompson's the mom and I just saw.
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  It's so cute. I just saw him.
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  Leah Thompson's Instagram and she's one of us.
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  You know, she's got to be in her 60s.
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  She she was doing the dance because there's a dance to a
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  song in the in the movie. She was doing the dance.
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  Yeah, I saw it was. So.
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  Cute it was. It's a great movie.
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  Definitely worth watching now. Did you watch it with your
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  husband? My husband did.
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  See, my husband would never watch that movie.
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  He liked it. We watched it because our
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  daughter said you have to watch it.
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  Yeah, he would he. Was so good.
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  That's not his thing. But I, I kind of like it.
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  You know, sometimes I don't know about you, but you just need a
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  good cry and you you need something to kind of inspire it
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  so you can get it all out of your system.
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  That was that movie. You get it all out.
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  The thing I like about a movie like this is, yes, there's a
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  good cry, but it's not a cry that's going to smack you in the
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  face. It's a cry because you know from
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  the very beginning that the premise of this is that this guy
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  has a phone and this is in the trailer.
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  This guy has a phone, and it's the phone that used to be the
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  number assigned to her late sister.
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  And so she leaves voicemails for her late sister.
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  And that's the promise. So, you know, so the thing
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  that's going to make you cry is the sweetness surrounding it.
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  You know, it's not like you're falling in love with the
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  character and then boom, shockingly, they are, they're
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  gone, right? Those those are the movies.
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  I'm like, don't get me to fall in love with someone.
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  And then he doesn't. She doesn't know that he has the
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  phone. Right.
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  And she? Thinks it's still her sister's
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  phone. The whole thing is.
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  So sweet. It's just really cute and funny.
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  Yes, very, very funny. And her, she's great.
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  So OK, so that is one of the things on the radar.
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  I wanted to talk to you about this because you were somebody
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  who loved this before you were really all about the sets.
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  Remember when we first started this podcast, you were all about
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  the sets. And by sets, I mean two piece
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  outfits. And at the time it was mostly
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  like a long, like a nice long sleeve T-shirt or a jacket and
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  then like joggers or pants. But now it's really kind of
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  morphed into more like instead of a jumpsuit, you've got a top
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  and a bottom that goes and it can be capris or it can be a
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  tank top. And I am in love with these
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  things now. I have like, like several that
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  I've gotten at Marshalls and TJ Maxx and Nordstrom and
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  Instagram, I mean, at Instagram, Amazon.
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  They just make getting dressed, especially when you're older,
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  just, it makes getting dressed so easy because then you could
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  just accessorize everything else, your jewelry, your purse,
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  whatever, your shoes, but the outfit's already done for you
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  and you can when you're on vacation, you can mix and match
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  everything if you wanted to. It just take from each set.
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  I just love a set. I do.
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  I love a. Set a good set.
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  That's on my radar. What about you?
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  Any new products in your lineup or you've been very good?
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  About well, mine is all about shoes.
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  One of them OK, no making fun OK, but my new.
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  Crocs, I was going to ask if you got your house shoes but those
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  are not your. House shoes?
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  No, they started. Is house shoes OK?
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  They have a platform which I love.
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  The problem is they were so comfortable I started wearing a
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  mountain. So they look to me like a
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  rubbery version of the old Doctor Scholl's Those Wooden
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  Shoes, except they have a second strap.
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  They have a second strap and it's adjustable so I can adjust
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  it and they are so comfortable. So they started Crocs and
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  they're Crocs. They come in other colors too,
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  like black or whatever, but I mean to tell you they are are so
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  comfortable. I wear them in the house and now
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  I wear them outside of the house.
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  So now I have to find a new pair of just house shoes since these
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  go outside too. It's shoes will always be my,
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  you know. Did you try the Oofas yet?
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  I haven't tried the Oofas yet, but I they're definitely on my
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  radar to try. So because, you know, I just
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  have given in, I said I just can't do the shoes that hurt my
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  feet anymore, period. It's just not worth it.
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  Period. End of the story.
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  End of the story. So I got a new product at
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  Sephora the other day and you wouldn't like this product
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  because it's scented and you don't like scented products.
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  Yeah, but it. Has a vanilla, vanilla kind of
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  scent and I like it, but it is a sheer shimmery oil that it's
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  called. I'm going to spell it because I
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  have no idea how to say it, CYKLAR Cyclar Cyclar.
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  And it was a pretty big bottle and it's got the shimmery like
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  when you look at it, but when you put it on it gives you kind
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  of a little bit of a glow. And I really like it.
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  So I have it on my shoulders today so.
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  I don't like anything that gives you a little shimmer.
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  Yeah, I think that that's a really youthful yes.
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  And so I really like that. So I just got that.
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  But I did like it specifically because it also had that kind of
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  like a light vanilla scent to it, which I enjoy.
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  Well, I've been on the am lactin train and I it's exfoliating
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  body lotion and it's fragrance free.
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  So, you know, I love that. And I, I thought I wasn't going
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  to like it because I thought I saw it all over social media for
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  women over that are over 50. And I have to tell you, I'm on
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  week number four or five. I mean, I mean, I have
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  definitely seen a difference. You even had people comment
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  like, how did you get your arms like to?
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  And I'm like, am lactin. So am lactin.
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  Yeah, it's, it comes in different strengths.
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  I'm I'll, I'm on the green. Does it have retinol in it?
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  Yes, and I'm on the. Green one, OK.
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  I'm doing the green and white bottle.
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  Because I'm suddenly getting all kinds of things that tell me I
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  need to be putting retinol on my arms.
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  Legs and arms and backs of my legs, like anywhere you get like
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  kind of bumpy, like, you know, the backs of your arms, your
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  elbows, your knees. But I put it all over.
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  I put it everywhere on my stomach.
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  I even have been using it on my neck every single day.
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  And I'm telling you, I, I don't, I don't like a lot of body
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  stuff, but this stuff is really good.
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  So I've been using it. I mean, I still use my other
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  one, the crate control, but to me now this one is just so much
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  smoother. Like it doesn't, it's not sticky
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  at all. And when you live in Florida in
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  the summer, you can't have sticky.
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  No, you cannot have sticky. No, you cannot.
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  All right. Well, that's that's something
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  now that I have to go where I run out and buy.
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  Thanks. Drug store.
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  OK. So we're going to come back and
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  talk about being a people pleaser.
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  And this is something you wanted to talk about because of a
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  current event that's about to happen at the time that we're
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  recording this. You're going to hear it after
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  the fact, but we're well, just hang on.
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  We'll be right back. OK, we are back and today's
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  topic is about being a people pleaser when you are over 50.
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  Not that you shouldn't be trying to be nice to your friends and
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  taking care of them at any age, but there is a point where you
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  stop thinking about really what your needs are and you worry
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  more about pleasing other people than you do.
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  Or sometimes you're worried so much about pleasing people that
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  are extended from you that you don't treat the people closest
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  to you the best. So I mean, there's a lot of
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  different ways to let that get in your own way.
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  Well, of course I found this subject fascinating.
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  Because. Yeah, because of your birthday
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  coming up. We had a whole discussion and I,
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  I saw it from two different points of view.
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  One, it wasn't so much like when you say no to an invitation and
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  you feel guilty about it. It's more like for this, for
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  this, like I was fascinated on why it would bother you if
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  people weren't having fun or they thought it was too hot or
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  you know, that type of stuff. You're not.
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  This isn't about just saying no to an invitation or going out at
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  night or something like that. So of course, you know me, I had
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  to do a little bit of research because I'm not a psychiatrist.
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  I'm not a psychologist and I I loved this because it says
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  putting others first is so you can avoid conflict and keep the
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  peace. So the reason why I say that is
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  because I feel like somewhere along your journey in life, it
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  was just easier for you to avoid conflict and keep the peace.
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  So you just carried that through your entire life and you don't
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  want anyone to rock the boat? You know if someone rocks the
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  boat, then you're not keeping the peace.
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  Makes sense? Yes, yes, so there.
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  OK, So what happened was so yes, I've already turned 60, but
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  coming up this weekend here in our city, we were going to do
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  what we are going to do a get together at the same bar,
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  rooftop bar, where we had an impromptu like 50th birthday.
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  My husband's also turning 60. We're having our 30th
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  anniversary. And then I was talking to my
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  friend Nancy and I said, I I just can't do it.
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  It's cancelled. I just can't do it.
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  And I've explained this in another episode.
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  You know, I just, she's like, you're doing it.
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  I'm going to be in charge of all the people like from our workout
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  group and whatever. So you don't have to feel like
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  you've left anywhere. And I'm on that.
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  And you invite people, you know, through your work and through
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  radio and TV and what have you. And So what I opted to do was
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  just kind of hang a flyer up and, you know, hope that people
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  would just that way. Because here's the thing I'm
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  worried about. I'm worried about hurting
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  feelings of people who didn't hear about it or didn't get
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  invited. And at the same time, I'm
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  worried that people are going to be annoyed that they got
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  invited. OK, but so my question.
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  Is I don't like getting invited to.
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  Things, Well, my question is, first of all, doesn't that get
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  exhausting? Yes, Yes, that's my first
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  question. Yes.
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  And then I'm worried about whether or not they're going to
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  have a good time. And then I'm worried about does
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  this person know a few other people, so if they do come?
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  And also, what if they come early and the people they know
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  come late? OK, this is so good.
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  I can't. And then I said to you, boy, I
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  find this fascinating and maybe that's why I'm a homebody,
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  because I don't have to worry about any of this because I'm
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  such a homebody. But I honestly think also
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  because you just turned 60, that this will eventually really, and
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  now we're being serious, we'll eventually really get
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  exhausting. I think that, you know, you may
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  even find yourself taking a little time to hibernate a
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  little bit and, and not, I don't know, I'm just throwing that out
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  there because I think this would be so exhausting to care so much
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  if someone's having fun, if their friends showed up, if
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  they're hot, what if they, you know, can't find parking?
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  I mean, this fascinates like your face at the Oh no, she
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  didn't think about the parking. So, no, I, I'm not worried about
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  the parking, but then so, OK, I think in your, I think you're so
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  right, because there's going to then be holiday dinners with
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  spouses of my kids or, you know, now we're starting to talk about
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  other, you know, family stuff. You know, it gets, you're right,
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  Exhausting. Well, it gets exhausting and
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  also what I saw in here was people pleasers act out of fear
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  of rejection, not kindness, which I've also found
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  fascinating. That, that tracks to me, because
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  that tracks to me. It says you might think your
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  worth depends on helping others. You may feel guilty when you say
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  no because you take responsibility on how other
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  people feel. And that's where I think in your
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  60s versus your 50s, your 50s, you're kind of learning that
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  you're getting annoyed or you're getting sick of it or you're
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  getting tired of it. But in your 60s, for some
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  reason, and I don't know what that is, you, it's just too
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  exhausting to even do anymore. I mean, but you.
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  But there really is something there.
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  I'm fresh fresh 60. The the thing that you said that
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  that makes really good sense is that it's more fear of rejection
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  than it is out of kindness. Because I'm not trying to
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  suggest that I'm a villain, but you know, I've said this before.
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  I'm like, I think I come off like I'm a lot nicer than I am
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  because my motives may not be as pure as one might think.
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  Like maybe that is what my motives are.
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  Maybe I am worried that someone's going to leave and
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  say, wow, that party was stupid. She threw a stupid party so.
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  But you know what's funny? I, I honestly believe this 100%.
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  I think when people put that much energy into that, what they
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  don't realize is no one's giving your party a second thought
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  after they leave. No one's giving your location
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  where you're having the party a second thought.
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  No one's caring that it's hot outside or any of those things.
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  They're just there to celebrate you and they're just there to
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  have a good time. And I think overthinking things
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  is also exhausting just because you're overthinking, you know
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  what I mean? We need to write that down as a
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  title for a future episode about overthinking.
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  Yes, overthinking is definitely, definitely something right?
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  People do at any age. I mean, whether or not, you
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  know, it's that moment you walk away from a conversation and
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  you're you're trying to reanalyze it when you were just
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  somebody who floated through that person's orbit, right?
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  And. Exactly.
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  And it's one thing to know it, it's another to practice it.
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  Right. And I also believe in what gets
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  exhausting as well is when you go out in public.
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  And This is why I think your home is such a sacred space and
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  should be clutter free and peaceful, because when you go
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  out into the world, you're putting on a mask.
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  Everybody puts on a mask because no one wants to hear about
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  Debbie Downer, you know, Because then no one does want to be
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  around you even when you want to go out because they're like God,
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  she's always complaining or nothing's making her happy.
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  So you put on a mask, even if you're not happy or something
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  went wrong that day or you got in a fight with your husband.
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  Whatever it is, I'm not going to go out and talk about it.
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  So you put your mask on and you go out and have fun.
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  And I think in your 60s, at least for me, it gets
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  exhausting. It really does.
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  It's so tiring because you just don't want to be a different
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  person all the time. And you do it for work as well
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  because you're on air, you're on TV, so you can't, you know, you
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  have to be a certain way. So I think that my hope for you
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  for your 60th birthday is, is that you go and you have a good
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  time and into your 60s, you learn how to say no and not feel
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  bad about it. You learn how to go and really
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  enjoy something and not think someone's thinking something
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  about it because they're not. They're not.
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  And I, I have, I accept that mission, OK?
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  I'm accepting the mission that you just put forth my quest and
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  what I would hope is for those of you ladies that are joining
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  us that are just a fresh 50, that you would not wait until
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  you turned 60 to do that. Let's just go ahead and start
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  that now at whatever age you're at because I'm going to work on
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  that. I'm going to use this as an
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  exercise. Well, I think if people don't
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  work on it, then something happens where they're forced to
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  work on it. Do you know what I mean?
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  Like if you don't do it on your own, something in life happens
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  where you're forced to work on it.
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  So anyway, I'm done with my counseling session.
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  No, that was a good counseling session.
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  Now I know everyone listening is like Eden.
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  You could really use a legit licensed therapist and that has
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  happened. So don't you worry about that
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  either. But.
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  Also, don't you think it is in different stages of life?
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  It's more like life lessons. It is life lessons and people
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  pleasing. If you start to really think
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  about it, I really am going to to glom onto what you said.
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  You know, you have to think about it.
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  Is it people pleasing isn't the same as people helping, You
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  know, accommodating somebody and being overly worried about their
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  their comfort and their good time isn't the same as helping
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  them solve a problem in their life that's a legitimate
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  problem. It's not the same thing at all.
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  So and wait till. You have grandkids, by the way.
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  You're going to be so exhausted, you're not going to care what
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  anyone thinks. You're going to collapse in a
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  bed somewhere. You mean I'm going to start this
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  whole new thing where I'm trying to be all right, You know, spry.
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  Oh, yeah, no, yeah. So reframe the guilt.
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  I I would. Guilt is just the feeling of
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  breaking an old comfortable habit.
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  Look at you, I know you should get a podcast and at that,
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  during that podcast, at the very end, you should give an
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  organizational tip. And so will you do that when we
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  come back? We'll be right back, OK, We are
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  back and Christine is going to please all us people on our
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  people Pleasing episode with an organizational tip.
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  So what do you have? OK, well, women over 50 are
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  often at the stage of life where they're not only dealing with
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  their own sentimental items, but they are inheriting stuff from
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  relatives and aging parents. And they, I feel like women over
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  50 feel like they're obligated to be the keeper of all this
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  stuff. Because they want to, people.
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  Right, because they don't want anyone to get upset.
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  Like you can threaten to throw your kids yearbooks out and
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  sometimes they don't care. They're like fine, do it.
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  But other times they're like, you can't do that.
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  And then you're like, OK, you want to come over and get them
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  and they're like, well, no, I don't have any place for them.
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  So you feel obligated to keep everyone's thing.
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  So my, my thought for this topic when you're trying to avoid
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  guilt and being also being a people pleaser is number one, Do
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  I have a real place for this stuff?
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  That's another thing over 50 people are downsizing.
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  They are going into condos, they're leaving the big house
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  that they raise the kids. And so do you really have the
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  room to store everybody's stuff or are you just storing it and
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  giving up space that you could be using for yourself because
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  you feel guilty telling people to come get their stuff or to
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  sell the stuff that you don't want because you'll feel guilty.
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  So really looking at what is going on in your life when
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  you're storing everybody else's stuff, so #2 does this connect
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  me to that person in a meaningful way or just reminds
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  me that I can't say no? So if you look at this stuff and
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  you're like, I don't even want it, but I can't say no to me,
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  that's something you also need to look at.
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  If you don't want it and it's taking up space in your house,
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  why are you keeping it? Why can't you say no or say I'm
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  getting rid of it, come over and get it or it's going to Goodwill
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  or I'm selling it, whatever you're going to do with it.
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  And the last thing is, is there someone else in the family who
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  would genuinely love this more? And if the answer is no, you
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  have permission to get rid of it or pass it on if they say yes.
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  So I feel like people pleasing effects every part of your life,
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  including your home life and living a clutter free life
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  because a lot of stuff that people keep is just out of
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  guilt. So in other words, if somebody's
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  cousin or sister says I can't believe you threw out Aunt
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  Martha's grandfather clock, you as long as you said to them
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  first who wants this clock? They all said no.
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  Why is it? Why is it yours?
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  Because people feel like they're the keeper of the stuff.
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  And so it isn't your responsibility.
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  You just have to learn to say, I didn't have any place to store
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  it. I took a picture of it and then
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  I let it go. So if you want to see that
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  picture, but I asked and you didn't want it.
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  So I I don't have the room to store everybody's stuff.
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  And it's as simple as that. All right, well, thank you for
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  making it so easy for us to end the show.
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  I know exactly what I'm going to say at the very end.
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  But before we do that, if you have any questions about what
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  Christine just said or you want to talk about being a people
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  pleaser, you just want to please us by, you know, joining our
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  group on Facebook, uncluttered and unfiltered, ladies only.
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  That's our private group, not to be confused with the other
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  social media we have that's open to the public to comment on.
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  And please do share us with just one friend.
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  And in the meantime, if you have Aunt Martha's grandfather clock,
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  you can let it go. And don't look back.