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From Broken to Whole: Healing After Toxic Relationships Through Faith · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come.
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  Hey sis, if you're listening to this right now, I already know.
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  You've been through it. You've loved hard, you've given your all,
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  and somehow you still ended up empty.
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  You're not crazy. You're not weak. You're just someone who loves someone who
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  wasn't capable of loving you the same way.
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  And I know it feels like you lost yourself trying to hold on to something God
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  was trying to free you from.
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  And you're probably asking yourself right now, where do I go from here?
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  I know, sis. I know where you go. You go straight into the arms of your Savior.
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  That's where you go. Because when the toxic relationship is finally over,
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  when you stop trying to fix what God has already freed you from,
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  what's left is something only your Father in Heaven can heal.
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  I know that truth firsthand.
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  After my own toxic relationship ended, I tried everything else.
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  Distractions, rebounds, even pretending I was fine.
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  But it wasn't until I fully surrendered, until I chose celibacy and walked through
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  nearly a decade of healing with God, that I found true redemption,
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  true peace, true healing.
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  Because that relationship, it stripped you of your identity.
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  It broke your spirit. It drained the very life out of you.
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  But what the enemy used to destroy you, God is about to use to restore you.
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  Sis, I need you to hear me clearly. What you went through was not from God.
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  James 1.17 says, Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of Heaven.
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  God doesn't send you relationships to destroy you.
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  He sends people to edify you, to help you grow, and to reflect His love.
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  That relationship that broke you down, That wasn't divine love. That was deception.
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  You literally gave your heart to Judas.
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  The enemy will always send counterfeits to distract you before God sends the
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  real thing. But here's the beauty of grace.
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  Even when you fall for the wrong one, God can use the heartbreak to heal your heart.
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  Psalm 147.3 says, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
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  So if you feel like your heart has been shattered, know this.
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  God is in the business of restoration.
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  Healing starts when you stop pretending stop pretending
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  it didn't hurt stop pretending you're fine when you cry
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  yourself to sleep stop pretending you've moved on
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  when your soul still aches says god can't heal which you keep hiding you have
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  to be honest with him about the betrayal the confusion the guilt the shame tell
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  him everything he can handle it because healing doesn't mean forgetting.
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  It means allowing God to use what hurts you to form something new in you.
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  Romans 8.28 reminds us, and we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love him.
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  That means even the heartbreak, even the humiliation, even the wasted years,
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  God is working all of that for your good, to make you stronger,
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  wiser, and more discerning.
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  Toxic love often leaves you questioning who you are, because somewhere along
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  the way, you lost your voice trying to keep their attention.
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  You lost your worth trying to earn their validation.
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  You lost your peace trying to fix what was never yours to fix.
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  But sis, listen, you can't lose what God gave you.
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  You might have forgotten your identity, but heaven didn't. You are still who
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  God says you are, chosen, loved, redeemed, a daughter of the Most High God.
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  Ephesians 2.10 says, For we are God's masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works.
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  That means you're not defined by what broke you. You're defined by who's rebuilding you.
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  You will love again. But this time, it won't come from a place of desperation.
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  It will come from wholeness.
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  This time, you won't lose yourself in love. You'll be rooted in Christ,
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  and love will flow from that place.
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  1 John 4.18 says, There's no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear.
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  That perfect love, it's not found in man first.
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  It's found in God. Because once you've been filled with His love,
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  you'll stop settling for people who only pour into your emptiness.
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  Sis, take this season seriously. This is your time to heal, to rediscover yourself,
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  to let God remind you who you are and what you deserve.
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  You don't need closure from the one who hurt you. You need healing from the one who made you.
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  Let him gather the broken pieces. Let him breathe new life into your heart.
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  And when you're ready, truly ready, love will find you again.
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  Because you were never too damaged to be loved.
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  You were just loving from your wounds instead of your healing.
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  And now God is rewriting your story.
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  If this episode spoke to your heart, share it with another sister who needs
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  a reminder that healing is holy.
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  And remember, sis, you don't have to chase love when you're already chosen.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.