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When “You’re Unlovable” Gets Loud: Releasing Shame & Receiving God’s Love · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Psych2Goers. Welcome back to the channel. It's only with
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  Speaker 1: your support that we can achieve our mission of making
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  Speaker 1: mental health more accessible to everyone. And we want to
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  Speaker 1: thank you for that. Now, let's continue. Are you burdened
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  Speaker 1: with thoughts that tell you that you're unlovable? Do you
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  Speaker 1: have a sinking feeling in your stomach when you're alone
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  Speaker 1: and your negative thoughts get loud and intrusive? Or are
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  Speaker 1: they more like whispers that you just can't shake as
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  Speaker 1: they follow you around wherever you go like an ever-present shadow?
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  Speaker 1: We made this video to remind you that you are
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  Speaker 1: lovable and that sometimes negative thoughts have the power to
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  Speaker 1: overtake us and distort our realities. They can make you
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  Speaker 1: believe awful things about yourself. To help you overcome these thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: here are six things to remember when you feel unlovable.
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  Speaker 1: Number one, love blossoms when you start loving yourself. Do
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  Speaker 1: you struggle with self-love? Part of the reason you may
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  Speaker 1: feel unlovable at times is that you might have forgotten
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  Speaker 1: to prioritize loving yourself. Self-love isn't always easy, but it
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  Speaker 1: is foundational for believing in yourself, having confidence in your dreams,
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  Speaker 1: and accepting your own lovability. You are lovable just as
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  Speaker 1: you are, but in order for you to feel that,
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  Speaker 1: you have to start celebrating yourself. To practice self-love, try
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  Speaker 1: writing down things you love about yourself, moments in your
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  Speaker 1: day that made you proud, and people in your life
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  Speaker 1: who love you. Number two, your brain is hardwired to
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  Speaker 1: latch on to negativity. Have you ever heard the phenomenon
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  Speaker 1: called negative bias? It describes the idea that our brain
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  Speaker 1: processes negative events differently than positive ones and causes us
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  Speaker 1: to amplify them. This can make you focus too much
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  Speaker 1: on the negativity around you. You might be recalling negative
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  Speaker 1: moments and events and feel unlovable because of that. Remember
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  Speaker 1: that your brain is hardwired to focus on those negative
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  Speaker 1: things and emotions. Positivity also surrounds you. And the more
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  Speaker 1: you bring it to the surface, the easier it will
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  Speaker 1: be to accept these negative events and begin to process
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  Speaker 1: them in a healthy way. Number three, your flaws do
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  Speaker 1: not define you and who you are. We are all
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  Speaker 1: only human. As humans, we make mistakes. You might be
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  Speaker 1: stuck thinking that your flaws are definitions of your character,
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  Speaker 1: or that they're on blast for everyone to see and
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  Speaker 1: pick apart. But in reality, your flaws allow you a
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  Speaker 1: chance to learn and grow into the best version of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: When you feel like your flaws are making you unlovable,
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  Speaker 1: remember that everyone has flaws, and that your flaws make
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  Speaker 1: you unique and different. We can all learn from our
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  Speaker 1: mistakes or our shortcomings, and we all need time to
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  Speaker 1: stretch and grow. You are lovable just as you are. flaws,
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  Speaker 1: and all. Number four. Your mind is a great storyteller.
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  Speaker 1: When someone doesn't respond to you right away, do you
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  Speaker 1: assume that they don't like you? If so, you're not alone.
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  Speaker 1: It turns out that your brain tends to fill in
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  Speaker 1: gaps by making up stories that put you in a
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  Speaker 1: negative light. You wind up assuming that people are mad
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  Speaker 1: at you or that they don't like you. Then you'll
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  Speaker 1: begin to believe and react to those same assumptions in
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  Speaker 1: your mind. The truth is, These stories your brain tells
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  Speaker 1: you can mask reality and your worth. And when you
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  Speaker 1: believe these stories, it can lead to a downward emotional spiral,
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  Speaker 1: making you feel unlovable or faulty. If this happens to you,
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  Speaker 1: remember that your brain naturally weaves together elaborate tales. Number five,
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  Speaker 1: romantic relationships do not determine your worth or your value.
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  Speaker 1: When you've been single for a while, do you start
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  Speaker 1: questioning your lovability? Oh, it's tempting. Don't fall into society's trap.
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  Speaker 1: There is no written rule that says that being single
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  Speaker 1: is a reflection of your lovability or even a negative
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  Speaker 1: thing at all. We create negative associations with being single
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  Speaker 1: in our minds because society has conditioned us to believe
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  Speaker 1: that we're incomplete without a romantic partner. In fact, there
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  Speaker 1: are many benefits to being single. If you've been single
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  Speaker 1: for a while, you may be feeling flawed, unworthy, or unlovable.
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  Speaker 1: In those moments, remember that your worth is not determined
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  Speaker 1: by your relationship status. You are lovable and worthy just
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  Speaker 1: for being you and for following your passions, regardless of
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  Speaker 1: whether or not you have a significant other. And number six,
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  Speaker 1: the way people treat you is not a reflection of you.
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  Speaker 1: Has anyone ever treated you badly and made you feel
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  Speaker 1: like it was your fault? Perhaps it was a family
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  Speaker 1: member or a romantic partner. If this is the case,
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  Speaker 1: please know that any mistreatment towards you is never your fault.
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  Speaker 1: If someone's rude to you, yells at you, or treats
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  Speaker 1: you badly in any way, It's natural for your brain
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  Speaker 1: to convince yourself that you deserve it as a coping
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  Speaker 1: mechanism to make sense of what happened. But remember that nobody,
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  Speaker 1: for any reason, is entitled to treat you badly. The
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  Speaker 1: trauma that you've experienced is never your fault and absolutely
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  Speaker 1: does not mean that you are not lovable, no matter
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  Speaker 1: what your brain tries to tell you. We just wanted
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  Speaker 1: to remind you that you're wonderful and worthy just the
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  Speaker 1: way you are. Did you find this video helpful? Tell
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