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EP #61 - Should Sherman Get Rid Of His Dogs?! + Will Compton Is Back! | For The Dads · Bussin' With The Boys

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  Speaker 1: Can I be honest, yes, I hate this episode already.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? I know we just started, but I
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  Speaker 1: hate this episode because the pocket I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: in now not being in. Last week you go solo,
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  Speaker 1: and by the way, you guys did a phenomenal job.
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  Speaker 1: I had some great giggles, but you were up a
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  Speaker 1: three hour sod and now it's like sitting here. No,
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  Speaker 1: we got racing with the boys here in a little
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  Speaker 1: bit and we got to keep it around an hour.
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  Speaker 1: I see what you mean. Now, Now I'm just in
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  Speaker 1: a tough pocket to kick off to say good morning
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  Speaker 1: to pop A team six listening in right now. They're
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  Speaker 1: holding their hot coffee, They're already hitting their steering wheel.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, damn it is this will Is he keeping
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  Speaker 1: us around an hour.
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  Speaker 2: It's not well, hey guy, okay, one, I see what
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  Speaker 2: you mean about you hate this SOD. I understand that
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  Speaker 2: there were comments though of hey, they didn't keep it
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  Speaker 2: under an hour, you know, like oh long, soed, But
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  Speaker 2: hidden in there was also like this is nice every
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  Speaker 2: now and then, yeah, you know what I mean, not
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  Speaker 2: like hey, we want this every single week, Like you
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  Speaker 2: could tell, people are like, hey, it's kind of long.
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  Speaker 1: A lot I saw a lot of good praise for
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  Speaker 1: the accents. Good. I'm glad that the fan bases came out.
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  Speaker 1: Sure and keep the accents going. Don't listen to the haters,
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  Speaker 1: don't listen to the naysayers. Mane, the love was in
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  Speaker 1: the air. We missed you dearly.
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  Speaker 2: It was like very it was very felt on set
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  Speaker 2: of trying to find our footing for like that first
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  Speaker 2: fifteen minutes it was going, but it was like, man,
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  Speaker 2: we're missing buddy.
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  Speaker 1: Look. I was in the fetal position. I was wearing sweats,
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  Speaker 1: I was under covers, I was sucking my thumb. I
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  Speaker 1: was praying to God to take this strip throat away.
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  Speaker 2: I oftendn't comment about how raspy your voice is, how
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  Speaker 2: gravelly your voice is. Whenever I impersonate you. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: were almost unrecognizable when you called me that Wednesday.
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  Speaker 1: Yeahe with some optimism, with a little OPTI well, I
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  Speaker 1: had a little bit juice coming in and I still
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  Speaker 1: had a little frog going on in my throat. Will
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  Speaker 1: was on the phone. This is what he sounded like.
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  Speaker 1: And this way he told me, I'm actually doing way better.
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  Speaker 1: I actually feel really good.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, you sound like you're
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  Speaker 2: getting strangled right now.
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  Speaker 1: Oh dude, it was Can we show the picture of
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  Speaker 1: the tonsil? Absolutely, I'll shoot you the pick right well,
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  Speaker 1: not right now, but after this. A matter of fact,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna have to annoy me about three or four
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  Speaker 1: times a day to send you the picture. I actually
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  Speaker 1: have the tonsil pick. You can annoy me. There we
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  Speaker 1: go there, Yah, dude. Was it was like a knife
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  Speaker 1: was coming out of my throat and it just it
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  Speaker 1: jumped on me. Number one, I'm will comf in this.
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  Speaker 1: Sherman Young. Welcome for the dads. If you're new here,
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  Speaker 1: just a show for the dads. We're gonna bitch and
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  Speaker 1: complain a lot. This is not a show about being
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  Speaker 1: an expert father. This is not a show about how
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  Speaker 1: we are the greatest dads of all time. This is
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  Speaker 1: actually a show about how we do our best to
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  Speaker 1: stay grounded and the most important in the most during,
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  Speaker 1: the most important responsibility of our lives. Yeah, and just
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  Speaker 1: for an example, like we have an incredible community. We
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  Speaker 1: have a big update on Evy the Brave And if
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  Speaker 1: you guys know, you guys know the lore of Evy
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  Speaker 1: the Brave. She had a tumor near her her spine
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  Speaker 1: that she had to get removed and get operated on.
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  Speaker 1: We have an awesome update there on how she's doing.
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  Speaker 1: We have pt six community. We got shoutouts, we got
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  Speaker 1: follow ups, we got emails, new dads, things that moments
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  Speaker 1: that we crack a cold one two dad lost his
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  Speaker 1: times that we've gotten motherfucked, We've gotten you know, maybe
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  Speaker 1: a little cursed out. But you just know, you took
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  Speaker 1: a massive lump. You took a massive l I actually
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  Speaker 1: had one last night that I can talk about. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: let's go. We have voicemails. You can call into one
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  Speaker 1: of the dads, leave a voicemail. Vent to the boys. Again,
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  Speaker 1: we feel like the audience gets from this show because
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  Speaker 1: we have an awesome community and we have reminders. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to read a lesson here from The Daily Dad
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  Speaker 1: that I read this morning. That was just a good
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  Speaker 1: reminder in staying grounded because there's so many moments, there's
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  Speaker 1: so many times where I feel like I'm not being
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  Speaker 1: the most intentional dad, I'm not being the most intentional husband. Sherman.
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  Speaker 1: I talk at length about a lot of those moments,
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  Speaker 1: and we basically just use these microphones to talk about
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  Speaker 1: dad life.
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  Speaker 2: That's really that's really weird that that is your lesson of.
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  Speaker 1: The week the Daily Dad.
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  Speaker 2: The hint that you just did is pretty much my
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  Speaker 2: my the trenches.
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  Speaker 1: Mine is around like fleeting, how time is fleeting? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and we're losing them way faster than we think. But
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  Speaker 1: then you don't Then you don't think you're losing that
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  Speaker 1: fast because then you're in the suck. You're arguing before bedtime.
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  Speaker 1: Rue wants a cookie, she melts down, there's music playing,
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  Speaker 1: Scotty's hitting her, Ruse running. Rue pushes Scotti down, and
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  Speaker 1: you're like, buddy, this is the time is ticking slow here? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: But I digress. Where was I going?
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  Speaker 2: You were going? Basically, you were going with the entry Dad.
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  Speaker 2: It happens on six on one the dads. You can
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  Speaker 1: Yes, if you're on international soil, you're on international soil.
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  Speaker 1: But your boy was out last week. I had strip throat. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it jumped on me like a gorilla. So Charo was
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  Speaker 1: doing a company retreat down in Chattanooga, that's right. So
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  Speaker 1: it was me rocking solo with the kiddos, and we
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  Speaker 1: were having a great time. And Saturday night rolls around.
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  Speaker 1: I get them both down and scotti. She wakes up
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  Speaker 1: a couple times before midnight. But I'm in like a
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  Speaker 1: zen zen state. I'm watching some TV. I'm having some time,
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  Speaker 1: some solo dad time that you just cherished. The house
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  Speaker 1: is quiet, you got the kiddos upstairs, you're not going out.
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  Speaker 1: You cherish the times on your couch on the weekends.
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  Speaker 1: Now compared to the goon berets out there, who are
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  Speaker 1: you know? Videos left and right. They're downtown, they're out late,
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  Speaker 1: they're drunk, they're doing all the things. Yeah, I'm cherishing
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  Speaker 1: the solo time on the couch, rooftop, bar versus solo down. Yeah. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: Scotty's up right now. She needs help with pat pass,
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  Speaker 1: she needs help with her pacifire. Let me go help
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  Speaker 1: her out because I'm in a phenomenal mood. Yeah. I
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  Speaker 1: go to bed and Scotti wakes up another time around
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  Speaker 1: one thirty, Go upstairs, get her down. I'm like, man,
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna be a rough. It's already shaping up. She's
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  Speaker 1: woken up three times since bedtime. She's probably gonna wake
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  Speaker 1: up again. She's having a little moment. Rue's sleeping next
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  Speaker 1: to me in the bed. We're doing a sleepover since
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  Speaker 1: mom's out of town. And then Scotty wakes up. Get
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  Speaker 1: up again, and it's around like three forty five, three fifty,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel something in my throat and I feel
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  Speaker 1: like a little bit of a headache, but not much
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  Speaker 1: to where I'm like, oh, what's going on? Hopefully it's nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Go up correct, Scotty, go back downstairs. I can't really
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  Speaker 1: go back to sleep, Like it's like my eyes are closed,
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  Speaker 1: but a TV's just on the entire time in my head. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you're not forcing your
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  Speaker 1: eyes closed or just closed but the TV still yeah,
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  Speaker 1: brain's still on heavy and dude, I get up the
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  Speaker 1: next morning to kind of get the kiddos up, like
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  Speaker 1: Ru's kind of like in my face, Dad, let's go
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  Speaker 1: get Scotty. Let's go get Scottie. And I'm like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I am just not feeling good right now. Still feel
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  Speaker 1: in my throat like when I'm swallowing and everything else.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, hopefully this is just something that's fleeting. Because
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  Speaker 1: we got Josh Payton coming on Busting with the Boys.
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  Speaker 1: This is last year. Last week's Oh Rollodex, we had
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  Speaker 1: Josh paid on Bust with the Boys. We went did
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  Speaker 1: the training camp tour where the boys went to out
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  Speaker 1: in LA. We hit the Rams training camp, we hit
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  Speaker 1: the Chargers training camp, and we're gonna hit the Raiders'
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  Speaker 1: training camp. Yep. All within the three day rollod X.
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  Speaker 1: Throughout the week. Oh my, I can't be getting you know,
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  Speaker 1: like Chef always coins, there's no time to get sick.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have time to get sick. Tro doesn't get
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  Speaker 1: home till about one o'clock. So I go on and
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  Speaker 1: I take my temperature and I'm running like a low
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  Speaker 1: grade fever like ninety nine to eight something small chump change. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But as the morning gets go, like I'm just like
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  Speaker 1: drained of energy. And then by the time charg gets home,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, if I can just get a nap
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  Speaker 1: in Like my garment didn't log any sleep data, if
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  Speaker 1: I could just go and get a nap, And it
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  Speaker 1: was kind of the same thing I just started. I
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  Speaker 1: just got worse. Like as I was taking the nap,
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  Speaker 1: my eyes were closed. But again it's like I was
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  Speaker 1: wide awake, and then I start getting the chills and
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  Speaker 1: then I take my temperature again. I'm one o two
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  Speaker 1: point eight and I just feel like dog shaking. She's like, go,
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  Speaker 1: try to hit one of the walk in clinics. So
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  Speaker 1: I go and hit the walk in clinic, like right
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  Speaker 1: before six o'clock. It's on a Sunday, so about every
• 8:31
  Speaker 1: pharmacy everything closes around six, if they're not already closed. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I get to uh, it's like care or something
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  Speaker 1: in Nashville, like these like Care now, yeah, Care now,
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  Speaker 1: Care now? Walking there, get logged in and this dock
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  Speaker 1: sees me. They swap me everywhere. I'm doing the COVID test,
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing the SHREP test. I'm doing the culture. I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing everything. They're gagging me. They got the fucking cue
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  Speaker 1: tip down in the back of my throat. I'm starting
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  Speaker 1: to like almost cuts. And then they run the test,
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  Speaker 1: and the test take about thirty minutes, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: sitting in this in this room, in this doctor's room,
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  Speaker 1: just shivering, bro, cold shorts and T shirt, thinking what
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  Speaker 1: the hell is going on? Like what's taking so long?
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  Speaker 1: I go and step out. I'm like, hey, is there
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  Speaker 1: any update? Like I'm in fucking hell right now. You
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  Speaker 1: checked on your order with that bro.
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  Speaker 2: I'm by myself in the waiting room, like up on
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  Speaker 2: the table the little crinkly white paper. I can't like
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  Speaker 2: lay back and get comfortable. I'm just like shivering. I'm
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  Speaker 2: like cold, where's the stake? I ain't None of y'all
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  Speaker 2: are checking on me.
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  Speaker 1: We got some pedia lte, then we got some water.
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  Speaker 1: Can I get something? You just saw my tomass are
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  Speaker 1: swollen and uh fortunately that spot care? Now? Is that
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  Speaker 1: what you said? Care? Now? They had the antibiotics there
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  Speaker 1: like a max is stilling to start on because like
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  Speaker 1: you tested positive for strapping. I'm like, how in the
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  Speaker 1: fuck did I get strapped? Throat thirty six year old
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  Speaker 1: grown man getting to middle school.
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  Speaker 2: That was like the Voldemort, Voldemort back in the day,
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  Speaker 2: dude before COVID, before swine flew back.
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  Speaker 1: In school man, grade school. Somebody has stripped throat. It's like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you got to stay away from that dude GTFO for
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  Speaker 1: like a week. Yep, come back. Yeah, And so I
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  Speaker 1: get stripped thrown, I get on antibiotics. I'm hitting the
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  Speaker 1: chats like obviously. I text you guys, you know you're
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  Speaker 1: not gonna be uh, I'm gonna be contagious for at
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  Speaker 1: least twenty four hours, like twenty four to forty eight hours,
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  Speaker 1: depending on how I feel. I started to hit, you know,
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  Speaker 1: turning around around Tuesday is when I started to feel better.
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  Speaker 1: But I was fucking down and out. Bro. Then it
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  Speaker 1: gets to Rue. You know, she's helping take care of
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  Speaker 1: dad Dad, and she knows I'm sick, and she knows
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  Speaker 1: I've been laying around like all day. Yeah. Rue starts, like,
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  Speaker 1: in my opinion, forcing a cough, like Ru has like
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  Speaker 1: mild asthma, and so she'll use her at haler. But she,
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  Speaker 1: you know, she tries a cough, and if Rue's sick,
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  Speaker 1: she gets to watch some TV so I feel like
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  Speaker 1: she's negotiating trying to watch TV by saying like she's
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  Speaker 1: not feeling good, she's sick. We're out of the butterol
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  Speaker 1: or whatever it's called for the UH for the asthma. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so Charlo just like, let's just you take her to
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  Speaker 1: the pediatrician on Wednesday. Take her to the pediatrician, see you, like,
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  Speaker 1: just get her checked out, because again, I got striped throat,
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  Speaker 1: highly contagious. I've been kissing on the kiddos, loving on them, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: all weekend long. It can like it can like what
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  Speaker 1: is it incubated? Is an incubating phase like two to
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  Speaker 1: five days before you even get strapped, like you it
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  Speaker 1: could be passed around. Yes, So we're already worried that
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  Speaker 1: the kiddos are going to get sick. We're worried that
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  Speaker 1: Mom's gonna get taken down. We're worried about the whole
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  Speaker 1: thing because again, strep throat. Take her into the pediatrician
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  Speaker 1: on Wednesday.
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  Speaker 2: She tests positive for strep throat. No, yes, did she really?
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  Speaker 1: And the pediatricians saying that there's like a percentage of
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  Speaker 1: kids like they could operate asymptomatically, like she could have
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  Speaker 1: had this for a week or two and you not
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  Speaker 1: known it. Oh, this was sorry last Wednesday, Last Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: after I'm coming out of strep. Yeah, and we're kind
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  Speaker 1: of questioning, like, how did I get stripped throat? Like
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  Speaker 1: you guys have talked about being sick in July or
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  Speaker 1: the fourth of July, but nothing that's like strep thrower,
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  Speaker 1: Like char was under the weather before she went to Chattanooga,
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  Speaker 1: but she wasn't like six sick. Oh damn. So like
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  Speaker 1: maybe Charo had it and she was like asymptomatic. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: maybe she's just tough for me in the fucking a gap. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm kind of coming to grips with how in
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  Speaker 1: the hell did I get stripped throat? Find out rude
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  Speaker 1: tests are positive for strip throat, Like she had a
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  Speaker 1: red throat, but that's all she had. She didn't really
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  Speaker 1: have any symptoms. She's kind of asymptomatic. And they're like,
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  Speaker 1: has she went any to any camps or parties recently?
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, she went to a fucking birthday party last
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  Speaker 1: week where there was like forty kids. Your own blood,
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  Speaker 1: my own blood. Took me down. But we were also
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  Speaker 1: very thankful that she wasn't experiencing symptoms because.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously it just takes you out. Yeah, but had rude
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  Speaker 2: gave me strip throw.
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  Speaker 1: Give you flowers.
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  Speaker 2: I like, as long as I've worked here, I've seen
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  Speaker 2: you power through. I feel like you and Taylor y'all
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  Speaker 2: powered through like anything, and just y'all go go, go
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  Speaker 2: go constantly. To get the text that we got. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't even need more. You could have literally said, won't
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  Speaker 2: be their strap throughout. It would have been like, oh shit,
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  Speaker 2: that's a bad strap, because will never misses.
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  Speaker 1: I always feel like I have to break it down
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  Speaker 1: because part of me doubts anytime that somebody is sick. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's a flaw of mine.
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  Speaker 3: I also said, though, you said there's people there with kids,
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  Speaker 3: so you did take the route Like if it was
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  Speaker 3: just the boys in the shop and none of us
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  Speaker 3: had wives and kids at home, you would have been
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  Speaker 3: in here.
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  Speaker 1: We would have made it work.
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  Speaker 3: But you did send the text for me, like, I
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  Speaker 3: know that there's people like, we're having kids in this office.
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  Speaker 1: Now there's newborn, there's newborns. Run they take it home
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  Speaker 1: like that's a I was. I was thinking about that.
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  Speaker 2: But it's probably also the NFL in you of like
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  Speaker 2: when you're hurt, like, hey, I'm I'm actually hurt, Like
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  Speaker 2: I everybody in this organization to know that I'm actually hurt,
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  Speaker 2: or else I'd be on the field.
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  Speaker 1: My mom also just didn't play that shit. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like you. We were always going to school no matter
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  Speaker 1: what unless you're truly just down and out like high fever,
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  Speaker 1: all that stuff to where she knows for sure there's
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  Speaker 1: evidence that you could be really sick right now, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because there'd be times and you know, hats off to her,
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  Speaker 1: like I would put apple sauce in my mouth at
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  Speaker 1: dinner and then hold it in there and then say
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go take a shower and then go in
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  Speaker 1: the shower and then you know, quote unquote like vomit
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  Speaker 1: the apple sauce in the shower and then come out
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  Speaker 1: be like I'm puked everywhere and try to show, you know,
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  Speaker 1: things like get out of going to school the next day.
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  Speaker 1: Probably because I was like ripping around with the Game
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  Speaker 1: Boy yellow version on Pokemon.
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  Speaker 2: My mom's go to him is instantly, oh, oh you're sick,
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  Speaker 2: all right, put some clothes on.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to the doctor.
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  Speaker 2: We're going right now, and we're gonna go, We're gonna
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: go wait in the waiting room because we don't have
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  Speaker 2: an appointment, and we're gonna wait there all day, and
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: we're gonna you're gonna go to the doctor. And after
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: two times of that of me faking it, I was like, Okay,
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: I don't want to fake sick anymore because I just
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: sit in a waiting room at a doctor's office and
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: then the doctor tells my mom, yeah, he's fine, and
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: it's miserable.
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And you would almost test it because you it's
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: like you had friends that would like, just have a
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: cough and they get to stay home. Oh yeah, dude,
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: what the fuck? How are you pulling that off? You said,
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: at home playing video games all day? Can you just
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: have a stuffy nose? Yeah, dude, just just do a
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: couple of costs.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: Go to the school nurse and tell me your throat
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: hurts really bad, and by be strap and they call
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: your mom.
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: You guys, ever experienced the fear of like, you do
• 15:27
  Speaker 4: feel sick, but you're not like one hundred percent, but
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: you feel kind of shitty, and you're going to the
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: doctor and your parents are like, you better be sick. Oh,
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: I swear to God, you better be you better, you
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: please test positive for something.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: Because now that we're parents, you gonna you can kind
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: of see it. You're kind of like wasting their time.
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: They might have to take off work because they're having
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: to take care of the big time. Like you know, motherfucker,
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: you're taking my PTO right now. Yes, my mom.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: Would be legitimately like loving, caring mother and I love you,
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: miss saying as she listens to the show. But she
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: could sniff out a rat and it pissed her off
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: so much. If we were she knew when we were
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: faking sick, and so it was her mission to prove
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: that you were not sick. Take you to the doctor,
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: and you better test positive for something.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like think that they might have like a big
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: day of work, or there's a big week ahead that
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: they might be excited about, and you just wake up
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: on the wrong side of the bed trying to fake sick.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Did in the Zoolander cough And then the parents got
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: to play the guilt of they don't believe you. But also, man,
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: I'm a shitty parent if I don't make sure they're
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: actually not sick. If they actually are sick, So let
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: me check the boxes of making sure they are sick.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: Then you find out they're not, then it fuels the
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: piste off. This dude, you're fucking lying to me all
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: the time, you little shit.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then they're dropping me off at school and going, hey,
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: extra homework for him, by the way, Yeah, because I
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: know we missed a lot.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, walk up to your teachers. Actually asked for some
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: bonus words. I don't want to report when you get
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: home from school that you went back to your first
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: hour and second hour and ask for some extra work.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, how can I get caught up? So sorry for
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: visiting your class. I mean really, it did feel like
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: that chef, that was a great call.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: And then there's nothing like when you actually do test
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: positive and they're like, oh okay, Like I guess he
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: actually calls my dad would call my mom like, yeah,
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: he actually is sick, you test spot. I had my
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: tonsils taken out because I got stripped seven times in.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Two years, seven times.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: Seven times, and the doctor said that I took more
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: antibiotics that it would just stop working. And then it's
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: like that's a big problem. So I had to get
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: by the way for a non invasive, super invasive surgery.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: The worst like it ruins a month of your life.
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: Fucking blows dude.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: How vulnerable was your immune system?
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: It was just strip after I got my tonsils taken out.
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: I think I've gotten sick three times, and that was
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: in fourth grade, says the thing.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I've never gotten my tonsils taken out.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: The immune system is a crazy thing too, like when
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: you're talking about Rue and her being asymptomatic and how
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: certain bodies react to certain stuff.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: My mom always.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: Talked about that we have the same pediatrician, my brother
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: and I. The doctor would come out with my brother's file,
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: you know, each time, and it was this big, and
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: he would come out with my file and it was
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: this big. Like my brother whenever he got anything, it
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: would hit him like how strap just hit you? And
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: then with me, I guess it was like I was
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: probably getting sick, but just it wasn't all the symptoms
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: and stuff that would keep you out of school.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: I know. It's such a better feeling though, being like
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: the alpha on the alpha side of it, of like
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: your immune system can't get penetrated. Yeah, but you and
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: you get to look at all the sick people like
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: the there like they're inferior a little bit like all
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: his voice who get sick and they take it a
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: little hard buddy like I got a I got a
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: comment here that made me laugh. I got I gotta
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: see it. Fine one go ahead, rip one sharm. While
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: was looking, the.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: Boys had Will's back and stood tin toads down against
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: any slander on his name.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Respect.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: That came from DJ pac One on YouTube. We hey,
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: we did go to go to bath for you?
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: By the way. Yeah, I know there's some I know,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I appreciate it. There was some.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Crazy shit coming out of intern Chris's mouth, and Chris
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: is a bit of a shit talker. I miss him
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: already in the internship program.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: I know, Lee, I know you only man, where's this
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: dude who called who said I had positas? Because I
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: have one here from Chris Stack. This is Chris Stack
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: and Walt ninety five zero seven. I'm literally in tears
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: listening to you guys. Go in on, Chris, hang in there, Chris,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: go big red. We'll didn't show up for the pod,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: just like he doesn't show up to cut his grass.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: That's from Benji Golf's.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: Oh come on, Benji, hold on old one.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Oh Darren, you crushed with these deacon sure need to quit. Sorry.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: This comes from Franklin pronunciation eight four zero one on YouTube.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Franklin says decon Schermaney to quit meat writing Willie flat tire.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: There's zero chance of healthy will Compton can change a
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: tire without help from YouTube. That's a grown ass man.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: That's on www dot internet dot. Why are YouTube shaming people?
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: To take a little reminder, why are we YouTube shaming people?
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: My wife checked me. My wife checked me. Yes, I
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: walked it through hout to change of tires. She said,
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: just don't forget you want to loosen the lugnuts before
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: you jack it up. That's a great reminder, sweetheart, she
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: checked you. She checked me. So to that comment, I say,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: that's bullshit, Like I know how to change a tire.
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: Now.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Would my fleeting brain have forgot to loosen the lugnuts?
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I would have went back on YouTube to get reminded. Yes,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: but that would have refreshed my mind. Oh yeah, that's
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: of course, you got to loosen the lugnuts before you
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: jacked that thing up and change it.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: But you also have the brute strength that it probably
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: wouldn't have even been an issue, right, you would have
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: And another dad hack you play, you put the jack
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: on there, or you put the whatever that thing is,
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: give it a little stomp.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get it going, Get it going.
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: After that episode, Chris came up to me. He was like,
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: I love that, like whole bit thing that me and
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: Sherman had about Shirream defending will there. I was like,
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: it's not a bit, just the mess of them. He was, There's.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: It looks a lot of heat my way over the
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: last week. It's crazy. We have a show called for
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: the dads. Yeah, you have the clip that chef can
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: play right now.
• 21:48
  Speaker 6: I mean, I really wish you'd start cutting some grass,
• 21:50
  Speaker 6: because when you learn to strike, there ain't nothing better.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Brother.
• 21:54
  Speaker 6: When I pull up and I see my grass, I'll
• 21:56
  Speaker 6: be like, and I have to learn the hard way.
• 21:58
  Speaker 6: He'll make that zero turn of a little bit too tight,
• 22:00
  Speaker 6: tear up. You got a three point turn. You gotta
• 22:04
  Speaker 6: take it easy. And now since you move, you got
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: a couple of acres.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: Now you know, I don't I have like an acre,
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: Willie boy, ain't cutting the grass.
• 22:10
  Speaker 6: Man, it's just beneath you. Is that what you're saying.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: No, it's not beneath me. I just would rather just
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: not cut the grass. It's crazy, Like I just sit
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: there and I'm like, man, do I want to put
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: time and to cutting the grass?
• 22:21
  Speaker 6: There's something?
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: Can I pay somebody just cut my grass?
• 22:23
  Speaker 6: And then you could, But you're missing out on what
• 22:25
  Speaker 6: it feels like to just it's just different, bro, when
• 22:27
  Speaker 6: you cut grass, when you spend time out in nature,
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: like psychologically, I think it speaks to each and every
• 22:32
  Speaker 6: one of us. That's why they tell you to go
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: out in the morning and ground stretching, you know, That's
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: why he says I feel young. I feel young too.
• 22:39
  Speaker 6: But you, on the other hand, you're like, man, I'm
• 22:40
  Speaker 6: getting old clay.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Questioning me mowing the yard because I don't mow the
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: yard anymore, even though when I was a young jed like,
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: I've done my fair share of mowing the yard. Not
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: my cup of tea. Like guys writing poems about how
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: great it is to cut your yard and a fresh
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: mode lawn and you get done with it, the beer
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: hits better than this. Look.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: I'm with you, but I've done it, and it's like
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I don't care to do that every week to I
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: don't mow the yard.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I'm question on changing attire. One thing you can't question
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: me on is that boy willy see on the grill?
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Is that boy willy see on the grill? Where did
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: that talk in red meat chicken, whatever it is? Where
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: did that get born?
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: Because that happened somewhere on the bus before I started
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: working here, like I was hearing little things about how
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: you don't know how to grill?
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Who's that you think? That's why? Now are you gaslighting? Meslighting?
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: You am? I am? I off? By saying off, people
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: question me on the real question.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: They're like, why don't you cut your meat whenever you
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: take pictures to show it?
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: You know how? You know how the internet is when
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: it comes to like everybody's an expert on the internet,
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: you gotta take shot. Nothing's going to be perfect on
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: the internet.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: We gotta do some kind of grill day, dude. And
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: it doesn't even have to be a grill off. I'm
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: talking like a chili like you know those like chili
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: cookoff things where like everybody kind of wins there is
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: a best chili, but like at the end of the day,
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: everybody got to have some chili. Yeah, we need to
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: have like a meat cookoff here at the office.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: You're just you're known as a grill guy. When your
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: wife brings up early in the day, early in the afternoon.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: We did it on we did it this past Sunday.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: She's like, you want a grill tonight? And right there
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: that question it's all now on the man, it's all
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: now on hobby. Yeah, it's like, yeah, what do we
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: want a girl, sweetheart? What are you feeling? You want burgers?
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: You want steak, you want chicken, you want veggies? How big?
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: How much do we want to do this up? Because
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: she already.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Knows Dad's got it, and if that didn't have it,
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: you know what her question is, Hey, where are we
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: getting take out from tonight?
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: You're right, that's what you don't want to hear. You
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: don't want to hear. Should we grill tonight? Followed up
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: with you know what, let's just order out?
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: Made question too, stops yourself made question to go Actually,
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: you know what, we could just order out?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: That tells you that your wife doesn't actually trust you
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: on the grill.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, which I'm in a dangerous spot, guys. I told
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: you all about my last steak. That was my last
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: steak that I've made. I've yet to get a new
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: grade for my grill.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: That was the last steak that you made. It was
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: the one that I tried to do in the oven
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: and reverse sear. Yeah. Look, you're gonna take losses on
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: the grill. Like Chef Jack. His name is Chef Jack.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Why because he whips it up in the lap. That's
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: all I took it. I took an l on a Sunday.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: And that's what happens, right, Like, you're never gonna You're
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: never gonna bat a thousand. You know the analogy with
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: baseball players and hitting home runs. Yeah, batting averages with
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: three out of ten. Yeah, No, on the grill, you're
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: gonna have a higher percentage if you're an actual, if
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: you know your way around a grill. Yeah, you're gonna
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: take a couple of losses. Like I had the boys
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: over a few years ago or a couple of years ago,
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: and I was fired up about making them my apple
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: jalapenos smoked ribs. But I overdid them. I overcooked them
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: a little bit. That's what I think.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: That's what it Maybe that's what it was, probably because
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: that was like one of the times, like one of
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: the moments.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: And dude, there is not a harder critic on themselves
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: than Willy. See when it comes to my smoking ability
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: or grilling ability. Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I was bummed. Bro.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: You talk about Derek was referring to sitting over here
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: and the lights getting brighter. You talk about like having
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: bright lights that day and then not showing up when
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: the time came, especially, and then all the boys eating.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: You're eating yourself. You don't even need to fucking hear
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: people's opinions. That's what you take it by yourself. And
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: it's a little too tough, and they're not falling off
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: the bone like they usually do. I don't even need
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: to hear you pat me on the back. Oh well,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: this is actually really due.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: It's it's more insulting when they come at you like no, no,
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: it's like, it's shut the fuck up.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I know what it is. It's not that bad. It's like, no, man,
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: you're fucking wrong. It is that bad.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: No, dude, I had like four, I had like four
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: or five of them. They're pretty good, dude. Flip of that.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: Best feeling in the world. I got to grill out
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: at the bachelor party we were at. Everyone fucking loved everything.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: There's no better feeling in the better Blackstone too, chef.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: So it's a Blackstone dogs, burgers, broccolini with lemon and
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: cheese over top.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: But say, stay out of the you do uh yeah,
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: you do burgers, You do dogs, Yep, you do. But
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: your main dish is the smoked ribs when your boy
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: hits you with when your boy hit you with. Hey,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: the burgers are gas, though, and it's like, fuck, dude,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: we're talking burgers, like, of course the solid for the
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: most it's kind of hard to mess.
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: Up the burgers and dogs as we're talking about burgers, but.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: The one you feel most like this is the one
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: I want to hit. I had.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: I had thirteen guys in Tampa talking about broccolini. That's
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: where I was like, ooh, I kind of got a
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: thing going on that, you know, everything was there. Yeah,
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: I feel you though, because like I think, we do
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: this tradition now with my friends back home when when
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: I go home for Christmas, I don't see them very often.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: So my two high school buddies come over, one guy's wife,
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: my parents. I cook a huge meal, so we do chicken,
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: we do steak.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Yaha. First meal I did it.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: I tried to do Cat's dats carne asada, then skirt steak,
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: lemon and everything. We took it with us on the
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: right back because it was beef jerky. That's how tough
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: it was. Everyone lied to my face and said it
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: was good. And I stood up at dinner and I said,
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna take a toast. I'm gonna say, you guys
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: got to stop lying.
• 28:28
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: See, you're beating yourself up enough. You can't live in
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: this false reality.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, God, and the skirt steak, dude, just that
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: go lee. The amount of times that I'm like, okay,
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: I know ten minutes tops, like ten minutes tops, and
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do and oh it's raw.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: I cut it. It's raw, it needs a little bit more.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: And then but you do a little bit more and
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: now all of a sudden it's it's great, completely gray,
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: beef jerky.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: God, this is just just waxing poetic over the grill.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. We should do a little a grill.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: We had grills here, We could girls, gott are grills?
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Got we have? We talked about that on a podcast.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I don't think so.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: I took a journey to find them, dude. I took
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: a picture of seven girls in the neighborhood that I
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: found and we came back. None of them were ours.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: I went over to the homeless encampment, didn't see anything. Yeah,
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: package of stuff in it for busting in the grill,
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: which is a crazy place to drop it off, but yeah, grills.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: When you brought that up and then I had because
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: that was when strep was happening, I was like, oh, yeah,
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: I drove in on Saturday because I put a I
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: wanted to get away and do it, got a babysitter,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: hit some focus work for a minute. But when I
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: pulled in, you just I didn't notice the grills there.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: I was like, I know they were going on Saturday. Yeah, yeah,
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: So they must have got sniped on Friday.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: So sad because we've talked so many times about cooking
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: grills out, like Chevin Sherman like, we should just get
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: some steaks and just cook for the boys we had
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: and aspirations for those girls, and they're gone.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: We still have that weber right there. It's charcoal, right,
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: charcoal that we I mean, that's that's all we need.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: You can do a little little something something.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, I'm just here to defend my position. On
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: You can question me on all the other things out there,
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: don't question Willie one shell, Willie mose, Willie flat tire,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: Willie flat tire. When my wife sent me the photo
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: of her changing the flat tire, first of all, sending
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: the picture when I was down bad and she had
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: the flat tire, I was like, oh shit, that sucks,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: and then sending the photo I don't know, fifteen twenty
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: minutes later her changing the tire, like what a superhero.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: But also it's another this low key she doesn't know.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: She just gave me a fat l on not changing
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: my wife's tire. And do you like the deep pull
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: of the Ginner act? By the way, I hit Chris
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: with the Inner Act.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'd like to see you with the flashlight
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: fixing your guinner act during ice storm.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Dude, Uh, it's funny bring that up. I forget. Oh
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: the Raiders. We were out at the Raiders and the alumni.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: They were like one of the best alumnizations, like as
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: far as treating their former players phenomenally, and they brought
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: up there like when that ice storm hit, we were
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: talking like we should send you just a Raider logo generator,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: just ship it to your house and I was like,
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: oh my god, you guys think differently. That would have
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: been so sick, that would have been nuts.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: The raidak and injured Chris with the uh couldn't think
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: of your third team and it was the Raiders. So
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: he was blanking on you said it, they're black and silver.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: He goes, hey didn't play for the Steelers. I heard that.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: I know you guys missed the fourth team though it yea,
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I think for damfid Atlanta Annual.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, later on, Yeah, I'd be back. I got
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: no trust me, Charles. She listened to the pot too,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: and she was like, they're giving you way too much credit,
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: like they're thinking, you know how to do everything. Hell yeah,
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: let the boys battle for me. Right now. You had you,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: you were on your deathbed. We had you had to.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: I said that you would slash somebody's tired to prove.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Did they come in and say I can mix it?
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: I got you? Oh man, I should have just came
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: in on Friday and just just change Chris's tires. Were
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: you gonna say swirling? You're say change a tire and
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: then give him a swirly? Do change the tire? Hey, Chris,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: you really are a great answer. You can change the tire.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: Just keep water board them in the toilet bowl. Call
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: me Dad.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: I really didn't think that your goncais siould come in
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: on Friday.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Just swirling, man. I have some shout outs here.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I have some shout outs from Nathan Ramirez on Spotify.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: He says, hey, boys, just wanted to give a big
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: shout out to my buddy Keith. Him and his wife
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: just welcome their baby girl, Nora, to the world on
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: July twenty four, and let's go, guys. He's going to
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: be a great father. And I just recommended the pod
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: to him. It'd be awesome to get him on the
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: show to help him through the trenches. And remember, take
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: out the trash.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Take out the trash. I got one here from Jared
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: rasberry O. What's up, boys, love the show in the community.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: You guys have built Miss Willie one shehelf this last episode.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: But shrham Deek Chef Chris, you guys crushed it. I
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: just wanted to give a shout out to my beautiful
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: wife Ali, who is blessed me with the five beautiful
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: baby six four, three one and four months. My god,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: I know absolutely trench warfare. I have no idea how
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: she does what she does. On top of being a
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: stay at a mom to five kids who seem to
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: be related to Donnie Thornberry, she runs a co op
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: for other homeschool families in our area, is involved in
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: our church, and always seems to have a meal ready
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: for me when I get home. I'll never understand how
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: you remain so patient and loving during the tantrums, blowouts,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: dinner time messes. And I'm so thankful for you. Love you, babe.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Jared Aggie sicko ps last weekend without ball till February.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: It is we are getting close to ball season. We are.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: That was almost my crack a cold one. This community
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: getting fired up, like listening to this for the dads
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: knowing that ball is on the horizon. I oh, but
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: truly I was writing my.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Little pre show notes and for my crack a cold one,
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: I had written out like fall is coming, essentially, And
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: then I was like, this is not a football podcast.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Is not football podcast. It's a dad podcast. It's a
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: dad podcast.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: What do dad's love? We love football, dude, dude, we
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: love football. You talk about some losses that we're going
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: to take during the season.
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: Saturday's Yeah, dude, I know my watch going back.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: You've been watching football day long. I got sweetheart. It's
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: just part of the gig. It's part of the gig
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: that I'm in.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: It's part of the gig we already were prepping accordingly,
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: Scarlett has her very first cheerleading UH uniform is a
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: DCC cheer uniform that she was gifted on her first birthday.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: It will fit her probably around November ish, would be
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: my guess.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: That's when you start pushing for a title. November. Yes, sir,
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: you don't win a championship in September, no August, no
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: October even.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: It's in November when the championships are won. And then
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: that led to now she's getting a TCU uniform, So
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: now I gotta take action. Dad's gotta be a good
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: dad for his team. I'll get her a Baylor uniform.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: My mom is ordering her in Alabama cheer uniform. So
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: now it's just the battle of the cheer uniform.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: Don't yeah for Charlotte. Don't let it come in. Lose
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: the package, Scout. The package didn't come in.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Oh honey, oh no, what about the ut one that
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: you didn't you order both of those together. They both
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: didn't show these porch pirates. Dude, it's getting crazy. We
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: have to get a ring, honey.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: The only thing we have to be conscious about is
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: the empty siccos that tune in. We start talking a
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: little too much ball, they're gonna be like, this isn't why,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: this isn't why we tune into the show. Now what
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: we can do is, I do think we need like
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: a week one, Like, how whoever families out there are
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: getting their kiddos ready for football season, because whether your
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: hubbies is obviously it's the hubby, but I know there's
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: some empty sicicos that love their ball as well. But however,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: you're dressing up the kiddos. Maybe we do like a
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: roller dex at the end of the sod like shouting
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: out and showing off all the photos game gear, yeah,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: game day gear, the fans that that there are audiences
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: in I love that idea. Just you gotta embrace the season,
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: you do. And what hey?
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: And when I racked my brain and I said that
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: podcast staff podcasts, what would.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: The empty sicicos want to hear about? Guess what?
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: I pivoted my cracker cold one too. Scarlett is about
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: to move up a class in daycare.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: There you go, yeah, hell, that's gonna get them going.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: Talk about the move of the daycons.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: She's growing up, she's getting older, and all the moms
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: are like, that's the ship we're looking for. There we go,
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: sirp they didn't, but that is my crack. A cold
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: one can steal your lollipop. Deck good toss, good time,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: good tak logo, Oh strawberry vanilla. Scarlett is moving up
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: a class here very soon.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: She has not moved up yet.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about it today because I think I'm kind
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: of I'm mentally preparing myself. The sadness of her growing
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: up is really starting to hit me in a real way.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: She just crawled up our stairs all by herself the
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: other night, and where you know, obviously on either side
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: of her there to like make sure that she makes it.
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: We were spotting, we weren't helping her up the stairs.
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: She crawled the whole way.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Gets to the top. It's like a hell, Mary just landed, dude.
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: It was awesome.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: It was so sick. I even told her, I was like,
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: look look at what you just did. Look down there.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: You just climb that and just her tea dude, like
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: her daycare teachers like, we love them.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: They love Scarlet.
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: You have like all these little things that they like
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: help teach Scarlet in their class. But now she's moving
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: up to the older class. And it's like, oh, before
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: she goes up to the older class, she needs to
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: be only one nap a day. She needs to only
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: be doing passes when she's napping, and no bottles, she
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: needs sippy cups with straws, and like there's all these
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: like benchmarks and I'm like, is this middle school?
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: Like I'm like, I'm like, dude, this is crazy. Like
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: she's moving up a whole grade and she's got to
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: get her big girl on, which makes me really sad.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: But she is getting her big girl on, which is
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: really cool. I like it in the same breath. But
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: then I still walk into that, Like even this morning,
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: I walked into her class and she's a late birthday July,
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: so a lot of her classmates have also moved up.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: She misses her friends and it's like an actual tangible
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: thing that's crazy that like when she sees her friends
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: they used to be in her class, she gets excited
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: and wants to play with them. And now she's in
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: this room with like a bunch of babies there on
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: their little half moon donut little pillow thing, yeah, where
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: they're laying on their backs, starfished out, and it's like, yeah,
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: you're not that anymore, like you're you're all grown up and.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: It's wild.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: It's like really it's really sad, but it is a
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: if you will crack a cold.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: One, yeah, absolutely, I feel you, bro. Like yesterday Rue
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: started theater camp. It's over by the house, but I'm
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: driving her to drop her off. But it's the kind
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: of like first camp where there's no friends or people
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: that she kind of knows. Yeah, and it's drop off,
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: like they don't let you in the door, you kind
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: of check in and they walk in the door themselves.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: So it's me a bunch of parents and a bunch
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: of kids kind of standing outside before the door's open
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: up to check in. But as we're driving over there,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, who are you excited theater camp? Like
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I'm kind of nervous for her because my damn, she's
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: going in like rude, being four, Like she's going in
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: none of her friends or people that she knows, is
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: going to be there, and I'm like, I wonder how
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: she's feeling. Yea, like, sweetheart, are you excited for theater camp?
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Like how are you feeling right now? Like what are
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: your emotions? And whe'res driving over and she's like, I'm
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: She talks about being nervous, like I'm nervous. I'm like, oh, sweetheart,
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: that's a good thing. That means you got a little fear.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: You're also a little excited because it's new and you're
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: gonna be You're gonna try and make new friends. Yeah,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: Like this is a great time to use your confident voice,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: like how you've been loving She's she's been on a
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: kick of introducing herself to people, like saying like like Dad,
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: I want to say tell them that I'm Rue and
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: stuff like that, like Hi, I'm Rue and like what's
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: your name. I'm like, this is a great time to
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: practice that. And I'm like, Daddy gets Daddad gets nervous
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: for absolutely everything new that I do. Every time I'm
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: going to do something new, whether it's a new environment,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: a new thing, a new challenge, whatever it is, I'm
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: always a little scared because I don't know how it's
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: going to turn out, I'm also a little excited because
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: I'm just like giddy and happy. I was like, it's
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: totally fine and totally natural to be nervous, and we
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: kind of talk through the emotion of it all. But
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: when we get there at the door, I can tell
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: she's just being really shy, like to a point to
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: where she gets a couple tears in her eyes and
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: she's like wiping her eyes before she walks in, and
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, God, can I please walk in there
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: with her, just to make sure. But she's like, uh, hi,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: Like what's your name? She's like rue. She hits her room,
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: I'm like last name. Confidence. She kind of checks her
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: off the list and goes in, and I was like,
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: gonna walk in there with her because I could tell
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: she's just kind of getting over being like just super nervous.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: And then the lady kind of just stops me and
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: she just gives me being super sweet and she's like,
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: we got it, don't worry, and I'm like, Okay, it's
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: this is as much for me as it is for me.
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: I just got to turn around and walk away. Yeah,
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: she loved it, she had a great time, But I
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: thought I empathize on them going up to a new
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: level being around new kids, like just new atmosphere. It's
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: like just like the emotion that you feel as a
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: parent them growing up. Like just all the things, man,
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: all the things. But my crack a cold one this
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: week and shout out Ollipop, especially the the ras, the
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: raspberry sorbet, raspberry sir Bert, Oh my crack of cole one.
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: This week is going to go to Scottie Jolie tough.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: This chef rolled the video. Now, if you watched the video, shirm,
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Now do you have your phone on you? Yes, I'll
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: watch the video real quick and then we'll come in.
• 43:30
  Speaker 8: Here.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: You go, Scotty, pump your arms up, your arms.
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: Okay, oh, welcome to the A gap ready said go go?
• 43:48
  Speaker 9: Oh my god, yeah.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: That's good tough? Yes, yes, yes, how about that one?
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Does that get the blood going below the belt? Dude?
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Can I? Can I get the blood going even more? Please?
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: Do lesson of the week? Why do we fall, master
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: Wain so we can learn to pick ourselves back up again?
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: I was gonna talk about Scarlet toughness. We're SYNCD, brother,
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: We're what we're SYNCD up.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Scarlet scarscar had a good tough this moment.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: She's just eating ship all the time because she's trying
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: to learn how to walk and how how is it?
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: Like uh like in that video when Scotti falls in here,
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: going up in that in that little felt like a
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: full minute, and she's like getting up, turn around, doing
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: all this stuff. I'm just you know, Tron and I
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: it's like we both like are grabbing ourselves of not
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: saying any yeah or like having a reaction. Yes. I'm like,
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: don't say nothing, don't say nothing, don't say I know that.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: See how she responds, See how she reacts. Yes, don't
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: be all scared for because then it might make her cry.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: She turns around a mom wipes off her hands, and
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: she takes off again. I'm like, come on, gokid, there's
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: no better feeling, no better feeling.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: We had a big blow up oyster or clam sorry
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: at Scarlet's first birthday and the event space and like
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: some of the family members that got there early to
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: set up or like putting all this stuff up, I'm
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: distracting Scarlet while all this is being done. She gets
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: up on the inflatable clam eats it, but not bad
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: I've seen her do way worse. And she eats it
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: and like kind of rolls out onto her stomach and
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: you could see it was all women in there except
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: for me, and like four or five of them just
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: instantly look at Scarlet and everybody's about to be like.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: Are you okay? You okay? And I just go whoa, Scarlet, whoa?
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: That was cool like that and like kind of helping
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: her up, and she instantly got up and started climbing
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: back on the clam again.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Yes, sure, yeah, Scarlet, he shoulder and the women there.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: Oh, in my head, I was like, oh, that was
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: so good. That was so good because Jill saw it too.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: Jill saw it too, and I've been I've been trying
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: to kind of preach that what you just talked about,
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: of like the like they got it yeah.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: And Jill's not like, oh honey, you're okay, like every
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: single time, right, But it's so easy to have just
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: the natural reaction of like, oh my gosh, are you
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: are you okay? Yes? Yes, because I got to grab myself.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: I've had to grab myself a lot because I'll just
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: like it's that was in real time in the video
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: where it's like I'm like, oh, that was and I'm
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: like I'm hoping it's not loud enough to they hear yeah,
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, shut up, shut up, like let's see
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: how is it? Yeah, turn around. And we've also been
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: teaching her uh oh for little stuff.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and the daycare this was this morning. The day
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: carey said that Scarlet kind of tipped over and fell,
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: not like a full fall, but lost their balance. It
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: fell and went oh. Because we've been just teaching that.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: I was just like little minor things. I was like,
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: we haven't even taught her that when you fall over
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: something that you say uh oh, and that like her
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: brain just immediately was like, oh that was a mess up.
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: That's just a little oh. That gets me juiced, It
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: gets you. It does get the blow for Scotty ate
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: ship In that just gotta eat shit like Scotti is.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: Tough, like Rue not not not so much. I don't
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: want to say she's a pussy. She's not a pussy.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: She's just she's a feeler, she's emotional. I'm trying to
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: drag my daughter right here on camera. But I see
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: the iterations of them.
• 47:49
  Speaker 10: Both hurt people, hurt people, Yeah, and honestly, I see
• 47:55
  Speaker 10: a lot of myself like in Rue, Like I was
• 47:57
  Speaker 10: a crier when I was little, Like I was like like.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: A lot of things that Rue is. Yeah, Scotti's just
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: like a bulldog. Scotty's a bulldog. She falls down, she can, dude,
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: I'm talking pop her head and you're you're doing the
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: same thing, and she might like you know, start to
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: cry and get up set or like run over to
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: you and get a hug and then get back in
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: almost to where she's mad that she got hurt, yes,
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: and like oh you do you want me to do whatever?
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: And they're like no, She's like no, Saudi's turning. Sadi's
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: turn like, get back down and do it again. Yes,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: like Scotty's tough. Yes, you can eat it. That's the
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: part I want. Because she's bleeding on both knees like
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: she was from that faont Yeah, she cut up both knees.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: That's so sick. Yeah.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: The part that I want any listener to hear of
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: this is it's not like the not crying cry, dude,
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: cry like ya get it hurt cry.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: I want my daughter to like.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: Feel missions It's what you just explained, the hunger to
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: get back in there, is what fires me up.
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: And that was what I think it was. On this podcast,
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I was talking.
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: About that walker, that huge spill that Scarlet took on
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: the walker, Yeah, where she literally didn't let go the handlebars,
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: so she not only hid her head, but she brought
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: the walker down on her face. And I sat there
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: for five minutes as Scarlet screaming into Jill's shoulder, being.
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: Like, honey, we gotta get her back on the walker.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: She's gonna be scared of it.
• 49:21
  Speaker 9: She's never gonna learn to walk.
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we gotta get her on there.
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: And before we ever had to force her back on
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: the walker, as soon as she was done crying, she
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: wanted right back on that thing and was doing the walker.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: And that got me so excited. I was like, dude,
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: that's like, bottle that up and keep it forever. Yeah,
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: that needs be so juiced.
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: And then it just builds and builds and they just
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: you just see you just see the resilience built over time. Yeah. Yeah,
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: that rolled into my dad loss kind of I'm not
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: gonna say, motherfucked. That was a motherfucked. Talked to me
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: very calmly. This is what happened yesterday. Yesterday after this
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: walk because we were what is that cheek wood? Yeah,
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: going around cheek wood. We go home. It's probably seven
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: thirty when we get home, so a little like it's
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: past Scotty's bedtime, like you can just tell. Like they
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: were run around. Rue's on her scooter the whole time,
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: like their energy's low. Rue wanted to hear a Little Mermaid,
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: the Little Mermaid Song when we got in the house,
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: so we're playing a Little Mermaid song. A lot of
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: noise is happening. Scotty and Rue aren't getting along. Scotty's
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: trying to swing on Rue. Rue kind of pushes you
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: down because she's trying to keep your distance, but then
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: two hands are and push you down. Scottie gets mad
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: and she's just chasing. Rue's running from Scottie and Scotty
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: just got her like little arms and little body shit
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: got no quiz. She ain't got no quiz. Chaos is
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: kind of happening. We left the dishes out after dinner
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: because Charl's like, we can just do when we get home.
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, sweetheart, and not wanting to hit the
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: dishes like right after dinner time, not like her holding
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: something off. Yeah, I can kind of vibe on that.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: But it's my turn to do rue for bedtime, Charles
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: turning to do Scottie Charos starts doing the dishes and
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: cleaning while the chaos is happening. I'm kind of putting
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: myself in there by telling them they like, hey, stop
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Yeah, but I'm consuming football content on
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: the phone. I'm on my phone, okay, so I'm not
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: like sue him. Yeah. Well, we go upstairs. Ru has
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: a moment because she wants a cookie and loses her
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: fucking mind. We end up giving her a piece of
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: a cookie, which we hated to do because she's crying
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: to get the fucking cookie, like, hey, we don't operate
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: that way. We go upstairs and rou wants Oh, she
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: just tells me that I want to hug Okay, let's
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: sit here, have the huggy at the cookie. Now. I'm
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: talking with her about, hey, this shit isn't happening again
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: to where you cry and get the cookie. I promise you,
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: I prompt Look at me, I promise you. You cry
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: again to get a cookie. You're not getting a cookie.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: You're gonna be very upset, very mad, very angry, and
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: you're gonna go up to your room and you're gonna
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: be upset at us because we're not going to give
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: you a cookie, because we give you a cookie after
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: or we give you what you want after you cry.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: You're gonna just think all I need to do is cry,
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: cry for it. That's not happening. What's she saying in
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: this moment? She's looking at me, she's not and I'm like,
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: do you understand? And she's like yes. Then she stacks
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: by the cookie, loving the cookie, the fucking cookie. Yeah,
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: the fucking cookie. Charlo comes up, she's getting Scottie ready
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: for bed. Charle comes over because Charle kind of snaps
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: at Rue when she's crying about the cookie. Charle's like,
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: stand up, come over here, here's your cookie. Like gets it,
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: gets mad at her, gets in her ass a little bit.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: Charle comes out from cleaning Scottie up and just telling
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: to like, hey, I'm sorry for snapping on you. There's
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: a lot of stuff going on. Then Charles looks to me, Okay, yeah,
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: it's me and Rue were sitting there cuddled on the couch.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: You know, I kind of my back and forth with Rue.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: She goes saying, hey, I'm sorry for snapping on you.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: There's a lot happening. She's like, hey, babe, it's nobody's fault.
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: But in my brain, when I was doing the dishes,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking, Okay, i'll do the dishes. You'll take the
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: kids upstairs and get them ready for bed, because clearly
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: they're all yelling, they're all screaming, they're not getting along.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Music's playing like it's past their bedtime. So I assumed
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't have assumed. Next time, i'll communicate. And I'm like, fuck,
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: because you're already like I need to be thinking. We
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: need to be on the same wavelengths. She's like, but
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: I need you to be a better teammate and just
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: get the kids upstairs to get ready for bed. Like
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you were doing, she could assume,
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: And I'm already in my head like, fuck, I was watching.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: While I was watching, I was on my phone. Yeah,
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: She's like, I'm handling dishes and you're kind of just
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: waiting for I don't know what, and then we're both
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: getting the kids upstairs. But I just I need you
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: to be a better teammate and kind of see that
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: ahead of time. Yeah, because She's like, if you would
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: have done the dishes, I would have got the kids
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: going upstairs like we normally do. And I'm like, I
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: feel a little bit of like anger in my body
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: because again I'm getting checked, and in that moment, I
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: like feel this fizzle of like I was waiting on,
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: like you're on Scotty. Like Scotty's clearly that passed her bedtime.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to take a route before Scotty because
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: it should be I'm like making shit up in my
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: head but feeling it anything, and I'm just like, Okay,
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry and we just go. But I felt like
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: I had a a very calm, stern talking to yeah,
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: where my wife hits rue and then she slowly turns
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: to me and she's like, I'm babe, now you honey. Yeah,
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: that's a good dad boss. That's a good dad boss
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: to learn for sure.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's a good learn You quite literally just
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: explained a situation three four nights ago for me.
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, of almost. You know how some of those can
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: go sideways, Like yes, I'm happy that she did calmly
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: talk to me, because that can go you know, that
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: can go a million different directions. You just kind of
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: start arguing back and forth, but I was getting talking
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: to on the couch just like rue us. Yeah. Yeah's
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: like in my arm. Charle walks off to go back
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: in there, and I was like, we kind of both
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: got to talking to you there, didn't we. And She's like,
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: yeah that dad.
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: Oh man, that's a good dad loss. That's a good
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: dad loss.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: But anyway, that was my uh, that was my my
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: dad loss of the week, My dad laws. Oh dude,
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: dogs dogs, dogs is what I wrote down? Yeah, I
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: wrote down dogs.
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: Dogs dogs, Dude. There were some This is such. This
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: is probably one of those types of conversations that gets
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: you in trouble on a podcast. But I'll just go
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: ahead and dog's got in a way this morning. Yeah, dude, dogs.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah it uh. It was brought up that the dogs
• 55:39
  Speaker 2: need to go on vacation to their grandma's house in Texas.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: For vacation, like permanent vacation. That's what I freestrained that.
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: And the way he just asked that question, my exact
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: response to my wife. My exact response to my wife
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: because a part of the so lay this out.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: Something happened with the dogs and you and Jill sitting
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: down and she goes, maybe the dogs need to go
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: on vacation to Grandma's, like.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: A permanent vacation, and I go, I Jill, because this
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: question was asked when Scarlett was only a couple weeks
• 56:15
  Speaker 2: old and Lisa was in town, and we have the kennels,
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: and Lisa could have driven back with them.
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: Lisa is my mother in law.
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: Love you, Lisa, And I had to like really stand
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: up and puff my chest out.
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: To keep the dogs, which they do you.
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: Maybe saying they're scratching your nog and saying, Sherman, I
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: thought you told your wife these are her dogs and
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: it got you in the doghouse not two weeks ago. Yes,
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: you're right on that, but I feel obligated of like
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: almost like a marriage pact of like I said that
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: these are my dogs. I said that I'm going to
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: take care of these damn dogs until their last breath.
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: And I'm quitting on these dogs. If I send him
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: back to Texas. It's ripping my heart out. I don't
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: want to send him back to Texas. So just for clarity,
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: Jill's like, yes, permanent vacation. Yeah, but Jill, and sorry,
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: this isn't like a Jill versus Sherman. This is just
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: a conversation that Jill and I are having. Yeah, we
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: are in the midst of this conversation, and you're.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: In your head thinking of all, like, man, I'm quitting
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: my dogs right now.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: If I yeads, Dude, I like feel like I'm a
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: really bad dog owner.
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: What's the problem? Like what had happened that? What thing
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: happened that led to that converse?
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: Dude, It's just constant. It's just constant with the dog stuff.
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: Like it's a ton of added responsibility. They're both really
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: small breeds. They require a lot of attention. Jill's putting
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: a ton of attention into Scarlet, as am I. But
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: also like dogs are kind of my assignment. Yeah, a
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: new house, new issues with else yeah, or scheduling, yes, Scarlet, yes, dude.
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: And I mean truthfully, I was fifteen minutes late today
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: because of Wrigley. Like I went outside and God forbid
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: that fucking animal net. He got underneath the animal net somehow,
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: And I've gone back to the animal net three times
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: to like patch places where like he has gotten out
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: and he's just finding these ways to get out, and
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: I'm running around the house. I have scarlet in my arms.
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: I've called his name five million times. I'm about to
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: give up.
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: I do think you need to invest a little thought
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: into the invisible fence shot calling. Yeah, because the amount
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: of effort, energy, money you got to see Blake shirtless,
• 58:47
  Speaker 3: all the stuff that has come from you putting this
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: fence in.
• 58:49
  Speaker 4: Now.
• 58:50
  Speaker 3: I have heard from people we've never done. I heard
• 58:52
  Speaker 3: from people that the invisible fence shot caller. Yeah, it
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: just genuinely is the one for you.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: And they're not the expensive anymore more. Yeah you can,
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah you can.
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: They're very very cheap options out there that that is
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: the ultimate, Like, hey, you don't want to run off And.
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: When this fence is a recurring theme on this show,
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: you bring up the fence, every fence.
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: When this is becoming your new airport, the dogs are
• 59:17
  Speaker 3: becoming his new airport.
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: The new raccoon.
• 59:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, sure, you put one in. Regley
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: tries to get out twice. He'll never try to get
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: out again. It just takes it takes two.
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: It takes.
• 59:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, no fun getting shocked, But I promise you won't
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: try to run out again.
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: You'll even test it on yourself. Yeah, yeah, we should,
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: We should test it. Oh yeah, we had one for uh,
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: for our dogs growing up. I had one for Tazoul
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: fucking Sometimes he'd eat it and keep walking through.
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: That's where that's where sugar our yellow labs. She got
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: to the age where she was like, I just.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: Don't give a ship.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't give a ship, like I feel like Waffle
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: would eat it.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: Well, no, Waffle doesn't wander off at all. Yeah, but yeah,
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: Taz would fucking eat that. Shouldn't keep going through And
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: we do with me and the boys, like we putting
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: the shot collar on it. We'll go go over there
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: and do it.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: Well, it's like a cop you you're not able to
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: hold a taser on your belt until you have been tased. Yeah,
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: I think the same should apply for me.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: There's also a very clear I didn't realize delineation between
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: when you send the dog on vacation, you're sending them
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 3: with a loved one, when you send them to the
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: farm the other thing.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, didn't know the difference, not a farm, going.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: To grandma's house, which they lived at grandma's house for
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: like five years, so like they love Grandma's house. That's
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: where Jill first brought him home. I appreciate just the
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: like literally, the conversation that we just had right now
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: brought my stress levels down. It provided me with an answer,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: It provided me with something that I should try.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: Sure, sorry, go ahead, Well, I was just gonna say.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: I think the dogs also provide a little bit of
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: a challenge in responsibility for me and I it feels
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: like I am not only quitting the dogs, but it
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: feels like I'm quitting because that was the easiest thing
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: to do. That was just the easiest solution, is just
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: send them to fort work.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: As dog lovers listen, I love dogs for me A
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: chip and the Grandma's not a bad take. If I
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: could be the age that people are gonna beat six
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: like people are like, bro, people are gonna lose their mind.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know, I know they're going
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: to lose their minds.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 3: If you win this internal battle with your head, may
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: I mind shift you real quick? Yeah, you are presenting
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 3: your daughter with a childhood with dogs, in which I
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 3: believe is the best childhood. So by you trying the
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: invisible fence, I do believe you are sending your beautiful
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: daughter on a projected path to grow up with dogs,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 3: which I don't know your two dogs. That is my
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: I loved all the dogs we had growing up. I
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 3: get your opinion, Will and I don't think that if
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 3: the electric fence doesn't work, let's have another conversation. I
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: think that if you win this internal battle of these
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: dogs in your head, you're providing your family with a fun,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 3: awesome experience.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: Other thing that I left out, other thing that I
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: left out.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: I'm becoming a cranky dad. You're you're just still sick, dude.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: It's not your fault. I don't what you just said. Yeah,
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: you are right. Like, we had this conan Rottwiler that
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: I grew up with until about ten. Then we had
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: three other dogs in the house of this until I
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: left for college.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: Here here's the kicker that I did not include or
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: that I forgot to mention. Wrigley snipped at Scarlett. He
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: did not try to bite her, but he did a
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: full on snip at her and like a and.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, bro, that's what I'm saying.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: You're about to punch your ticket, about to punch your
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: ticket back to Texas to doing shit like that. And
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: then we're hanging out with one of our nurse friends
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: like family, friends and we were telling them about the
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: dog situation, and she showed us a friend of theirs
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 2: was back home that their little three year old got
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: attacked by their dog and showed me the face of
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: the little three year old girl in the hospital.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: Bro, I was like, Waffle, remember when Waffle Scottie? Yes, bro,
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: like over her eyes or like on her head. Yes,
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: she got cut from it. Did I remember when I
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: came home and Audrey was telling me about it, And
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: I'm just thinking to myself, God, part of me like almost, well,
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: it's probably good that I wasn't there, but like wishes
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: I would have been there, because there are times where
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: I just I joke. It's like a running joke with Charro.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you just let me know when Yeah, I
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: mean that's kind of that's like like something wall jumping
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: on the front, like all the stuff that dogs can
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: irritate you with.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: And so now Wrigley's just behind a baby gate like
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: at all times when Scarlet's like on the ground because
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: I don't want to interacting with Scarlet.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 4: Have you done like have you done like any kind
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 4: of like active training or no. See, that's a big
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 4: thing because when we got Scotty. Alex had two cats.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 4: Scotty wanted to go see the cats, and we were like,
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 4: this is a big issue because we didn't know how
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 4: they're gonna interact. It took us thirty minutes with like
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 4: one training exercise we searched on YouTube with food. Scotty
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 4: has never touched a cat, like not a problem. So
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 4: there's certain things like if you're having issues, maybe a
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 4: little YouTube, little Google, Like there's a lot of people
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 4: that are experts. They will teach you like food training exercises,
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 4: different things you can do to like mitigate problems. For us,
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 4: it took thirty minutes of like basically just making sure
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 4: Scotti stopped looking at the cats.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: Every time she stopped looking, we gave her a treat.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: It never but also think about not having the responsibility anymore.
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: Dude, Well, by no weak, I know, and I know
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: Chef you need Mick in your back and I know Chef.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: I'll leave us at that because we can uh break
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: and then hit voicemails like immediately after.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we can get into voicemails. This could be an
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: ongoing conversation. I do kind of enjoy playing the heel
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: of you playing the heel.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: I appreciate you playing the heel because like a part
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: of me does hear that.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: And they're going to Grandma's like they're going to They're
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: going they've lived there for five years before. You're not
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: sending them again. You're not just kind of giving them away,
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: No give it. You're tting them go to Grandma's. You're
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: they're going to have a better life, have a better life. Yeah,
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have a better marriage. Dude. Just watch the
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: comments though, Just watch the gu I know already Deeke
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: is probably a lot of the comments, Like I know,
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: Deeke is a you got dogs at europsessed with, don't
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: you Deeke? Like I know like dog lovers, Like, yeah,
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: they're they're gonna be swinging the sword for keeping the animals. Yeah.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: I've like for ninety percent of my life probably out
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: outside of what college, college and then the first couple
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: of years in the NFL, Like I didn't have a dog,
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: but I've always had a dog. I've always loved dogs.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: But now then I'm a parent. I just it's I
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: feel like it's all different for me now, especially when
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: the whole snipping and the whole territorial stuff like I
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: have a bulldog, So waffles, like Waffle can be territorial
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: if they want Waffle to move on the couch or
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: Waffle helps herself up to the stepping stool that they're
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: eating on, trying to like get the scraps or get
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: the food. Yeah, like Waffle and I go toes often,
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: you know how, jumping on pressure and not getting down
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: when I'm telling her off. Yeah, when we've trained her
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: with the treats and everything else and she starts like growling. Yeah,
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: you know how.
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: Like in books and movies and stuff, like back in
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 2: the fifties and sixties, like if someone got pregnant out
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 2: of wedlock, it was like, oh, they went to school,
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: like in the Northeast, Like they went to a boarding
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: school for a year, sure, and then all of a
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: sudden they're back to like hide the pregnancy. That's how
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 2: I feel about Like when people send their dogs to
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: grandma's house, Like no one wants to talk about it,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: because we have had a couple of friends that have
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: done that.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, oh, where's you know, where's hang on?
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: Hang on?
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 11: That?
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: Would they say, like, what's their experience been sending them
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: to grandma's I mean it's been great for them, sad,
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: and they're like one of the best decisions we've ever made.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but they also hardly talk about it because they're like, well, yeah,
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 2: they're really.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: To get shunned, Like, think of the people that I
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 1: be battling swinging this for. I look, I love animals.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah it doesn't sound like it. I know because I
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: love I get.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 4: I get where you're coming, like it's taking care of
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 4: a dog is not. It's a hard thing. And they're
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 4: constantly like.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: I love my own freedoms more than I love.
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 4: You have to go out of your own way to
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 4: care for them like a lot. Yeah, also a lot
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 4: of responsibility. Well yeah, it's a good learning lesson to
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 4: your daughters that hey, just because something's hard, we are
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 4: helping take care of this. Awesome awesome, But right.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: Now the kids would get more out of it when
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: they're older and they have like responsibility involved with the animal.
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: That's fair and you go in there like getting a
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: dog and teaching them and showing them how to take
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: care for a dog, and then it feels like a
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: tribal thing, like right now when they're young and there
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: really is nothing that they can do it's you're just
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 1: juggling extra responsibilities that you start to question, like why
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: are we even doing this to ourselves? And it's not
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 1: like you're giving the dog away to random people.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 3: Like for example, if I had something like I have
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 3: been my Fances River, if something happened with the dogs,
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 3: I would talk to my parents about it because they
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 3: just lost their dog last year. Yeah, and so my
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 3: mom has said like, hey, I will take Bean for
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 3: like three months and hang out like she really wants
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 3: it up if they don't want a new dog. So
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 3: I don't think you're gonna get as bast as you
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 3: believe you are, because this isn't you going that's it.
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: We're taking them to the pound. We'll put them up
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: for adoption, like you're.
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 3: Putting them in a situation they've already been in that
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 3: they love that you will still be a part of
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 3: them and see them.
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 2: You can FaceTime all the time, and the and the
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 2: end conversation dogs have phone.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: That is true that Grandma, hey, hey, put on the phone.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: Hey buddy, god, I miss was just in the corner.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: Two birds up. I'm a king here. I love it,
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: but fuck you.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: That's the other thing I've done a really bad job
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: of telling this story. There's also the not like permanent vacation,
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: but just vacation. It's also another thing that has been
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 2: thrown out. And Jill's not like staunchly sit there like
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: get the dogs out of here.
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: She's bringing it up. Okay, we all feel the chaos. Yeah,
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: like I stead of just building up resentment over time
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: having little separate thoughts, just sit down and have a conversation. Yeah,
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 1: would it be insane to think that we could send
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: the dogs on a vacation and permanent not I either won.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: Lisa has brought it up. My parents have brought it up.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: They can tell how much the dogs like way, if
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: that makes sense, Yeah, yeah, yeah man.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: And so I'm just in this internal battle git a
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: package deal both.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 2: I also brought that up because I was like, Goose
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: would never hurt a fly, he would never snip at Scarlett,
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: and you gotta separate him. That's what Jill said. Jill
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: was like, all they've ever known is each other.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: I said, that's not true.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: Wriggley lived there for like three years without.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: Goose and he hates Goose.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: She's like they were playing this morning. It's like that
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: is true. They were playing this morning. But Wrigley does.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: Though, like the top dog, he's getting moved out of
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: the rotation. Yeah, well, dude, we talk about resentment on Goose,
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: like Cam Newton said it, the Reaper comes for all
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: of us.
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: Man, Yeah, truly, really, that poor guy. It was just
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: him and Jill and then Jill brings me into the
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 2: picture and he's like, I guess, I mean he's cool.
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 2: He gives me rubs. I'll like this Sherman guy. We
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 2: end up having a great bond. Then all of a sudden,
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: Goose comes into the picture and he's like, wtf, question
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 2: Mark is going on with this dude? This guy sucks.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 2: And then like started coming around to that. And then
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 2: we bring Scarlet into the picture. And if it weren't
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 2: for the food scraps that fall on my dog every
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: single night and morning, he would hate Scarlet. Yeah, and
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 2: he's not fully territorial, but we do. We do need
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: to take all the little dogs. Get that little dogs
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: enter guy. Yeah, yeah, they get that little dog syndrome.
• 1:11:56
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  Speaker 1: We do. As I alluded to early in the episode,
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: we have an update from Heavy the Brave. This is
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: from our dad, Dylan Payne, he emailed in Heavy the
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: Brave update, what's up, fellas. I hope this message finds
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 1: you well, which means Will has overcome his bout. This
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: is He's the one who said Possidis, oh no, overcome
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: his bout.
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 2: With Posidas and Shurham hasn't slept on the couch for
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 2: three or more days.
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: Come on, hey, I'm joking here, freaking sue me, he said,
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: Jersey accent. He said Jersey accent. Dylan already starting off
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 1: with some hot fire legend. I'm writing in with an
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  Speaker 1: Eavy the Brave update for all those who heard Everly's
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 1: story and especially to those who showed us love and support,
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: that's just a cough and helped forge our tiny warrior's
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 1: sword and shield two months ago as she geared up
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: for what ended up being a nine hour battle on
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: the operating table. And again, just to remind you guys,
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: Evy the Brave had a tumor right next to her spine.
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 1: Every the Brave not only understood the assignment, she rewrote
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: the whole damn syllabus. This sweet little girl showed us
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 1: that expectations are only there so she can shatter them,
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: and recovery timelines don't mean diddy shit to the bravest
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 1: and baddest now three years old little girl either side
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: of the Mississippi, Everly walked out of Memorial Sloan Kettering
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: Hospital five days after her surgery. We were told to
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 1: expect ten to fourteen days, and we were cleared to
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: fly home five days after that. Every speedy recovery was
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 1: not only miraculous to my wife and myself, but it
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 1: even had surgeons and doctors in awe. That confirms what
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 1: I've been saying all along. This little girl is built different,
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 1: built for the a gap, a couple of anxiety field.
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 1: Weeks after returning home, we received the pathology of the tumor.
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 1: It was the news that we were hoping for. Results
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 1: were all favorable and no further treatment is needing for
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 1: the foreseeable future. Why although her tumor was not one
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 1: hundred percent removed, Everly has been one hundred percent cleared
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: to be a little normal kid again. And nothing gets
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: my pit hodder the knowing we can start signing her
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: up for some gymnastics or soccer or whatever her brave
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: little heart desires. For now, all she can expect is
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: an MRI every three months to make sure nothing has changed.
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: For now, life is great. My wife and I wish
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: we could hug and thank each sixer for every Siko
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 1: who poured into our pink carts, prayers, words of encouragement
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: and positivity in the comments in our inbox. For the
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 1: dads in this community will forever hold a special play
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 1: in our hearts. All of you rip so freaking hard,
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 1: will Sherman the boys in the back can't thank you
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: guys enough for being a part of Evy's journey and
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: rallying the troops, keep cracking Allie's failing to keep it
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 1: under an hour, and for the love of God, don't
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 1: stop using accents. Sure him doing his mom's impersonation might
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 1: be my favorite. Much gratitude and love the Pains, Dylan,
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: thank you. I want to say we got a final
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 1: here hack from Heavy the Brave with the fam I
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 1: have a I have a video too from them. I
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 1: have a video too.
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 5: It's loading, It's loading, Let's.
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 1: Go hit the bomb. Wait wait, wait, wait.
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 11: Oh Bro, I've never laughed that hard and cried at
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 11: the exact time.
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 1: Quick tears. Bro, I was about to be like, that
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 1: is medicine for the soul, just getting to like hear
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 1: about her.
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 9: Yeah, it's the bog, Bro.
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: That's why we dad man, this is why we did.
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh that broke me. That really did
• 1:20:00
  Speaker 1: just break me. Dylan, thanks for the updates. Brother.
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 2: We are we are stoked for Evy Heavy. If you
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 2: are watching, you are a warrior. You are built for
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 2: the a gap. You rewrote the syllabus.
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: We're all rooting for you, all the Papa Team, Sixers,
• 1:20:11
  Speaker 1: Empty sixers, everybody who showed im poor love to the
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: Pain family, it's definitely felt through Dylan's words.
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's just crazy what the human body is
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 2: able to do, What doctors and surgeons are able to do.
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 2: This wonderful team that's here as she's hitting the hitting
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 2: the bong, hitting the dong.
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 1: And it's just so wild.
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 2: Dude, like imagining myself in that spot. Dylan is his name, Yep,
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 2: Dylan Payne. It's a good dad. It's a really good dad.
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 2: I'm sure Everly's mom rips just as hard. But to
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 2: get to share in any of that, uh, is really
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 2: really cool. And shout out Pain family. Shout out the
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 2: Pain family. Thank you for keeping everybody updated to They get.
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 1: Free shout outs for the rest of the time, for
• 1:21:08
  Speaker 1: the rest of the time, free accents the rest of the time,
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 1: free accents, free shout outs for the rest. I'll do
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 1: my best not to get beside us again. At me
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: the brave I'm getting bucking, stripped throat and taking out
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 1: over here. But like I needed to hit a ball
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 1: after I said, why stripped up? You have no idea
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: how much I'm gonna stay.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, hit the bog in the background of bogs now
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 2: when you're.
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 11: Doing something, Oh man, all right, we have a voicemail.
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 1: Let's hit the voicemail stays, throw me some creatine comings
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 1: on you. Yeah, a little I need a little something.
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: I need a little something too. We don't want to
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: cry out all of our creatine. No thank you, create.
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 2: Free shoutouts to create he no free shoutouts only The
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 2: Pain Family is part one of two part voicemail called
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 2: not a creep.
• 1:22:08
  Speaker 1: Sounds like a creep, Trust me, he's not boys.
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 12: Hey, this might be the last voicemail I leave before prison,
• 1:22:23
  Speaker 12: so I'll explain. Uh So, earlier today, I am at
• 1:22:30
  Speaker 12: daycare picking up my daughter, she's three, and she we
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 12: get her in the car and she's like, Dad, I
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 12: need to go potty.
• 1:22:40
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, that's fine.
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 7: So we go back inside and there's no like boys
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 7: and girls side, like, nothing's marked.
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 1: It's all just like potties everywhere. But it's behind the.
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 13: Wall, right, So so my daughter runs back there and
• 1:22:57
  Speaker 13: she still need to help going potty. So I run
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 13: back there and I turned the corner and there is
• 1:23:06
  Speaker 13: a probably twelve year old girl, somebody's older sibling, and
• 1:23:14
  Speaker 13: she is going potty.
• 1:23:17
  Speaker 8: She is sitting on the toilet and she looks up
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 8: and we make eye contact and there's.
• 1:23:25
  Speaker 1: No like stalls or anything.
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 8: And I mean, I feel like the biggest griep in
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 8: the world. So I like this, I was bold, and
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 8: I am sweating. And then what makes it worse is
• 1:23:40
  Speaker 8: so I still need to wait there because I need
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 8: to wait for my daughter to finish.
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 7: And I mean, there's just this one tiny area to wait.
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 7: And then this girl finishes and she comes outside and
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 7: it's still the tiny area to wait because she's got
• 1:23:59
  Speaker 7: to wait for her other for dad to pick up
• 1:24:01
  Speaker 7: her brother. And I'm just sitting there, like racking my
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 7: brain and sweating immensely because I'm like, I'm going to
• 1:24:12
  Speaker 7: jail for.
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 8: Being a pervert. Clarifying not a pervert, and I'm like,
• 1:24:21
  Speaker 8: I do I tell the girl's dad, like, hey, not
• 1:24:24
  Speaker 8: a pervert. Didn't mean to do this, and it was
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 8: all bad and I was sweating, and I still had
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 8: to wait for my daughter to finish.
• 1:24:34
  Speaker 7: But so she comes out and I see.
• 1:24:38
  Speaker 2: So that's part one really quick. I don't want to
• 1:24:42
  Speaker 2: interrupt this story too much. I have a good friend
• 1:24:45
  Speaker 2: named Scott that listens to the show. Did he say
• 1:24:47
  Speaker 2: his name was Scott at the beginning?
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 1: I swear this is my buddy, Scott. I don't think
• 1:24:52
  Speaker 1: you said a name. Boys. Hey, this might be the
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 1: last voicemail I leave Kai Kai call Scott.
• 1:25:02
  Speaker 2: I do that after Yeah, I mean just we're we're
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 2: mid voice, we're mid voicema. We got no way. Is
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 2: he a creepy berth or is he a conversation with dad?
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 2: If this is sir, I'm sorry.
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 1: I walked in your daughter was going to the bathroom.
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 1: I knew it felt creepy, so I was gonna leave
• 1:25:17
  Speaker 1: right away, but we locked eyes before I could leave
• 1:25:19
  Speaker 1: right away. And you know what, I'm talking a little
• 1:25:22
  Speaker 1: too much right now. Let me just listen. I'm not
• 1:25:24
  Speaker 1: a perv. I'm not a perth. And that's all you
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 1: need to know anyway.
• 1:25:29
  Speaker 12: Uh sorry, second message, not a pervert, uh Scott.
• 1:25:35
  Speaker 5: Uh.
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 1: And I knew it.
• 1:25:38
  Speaker 14: I knew it by as we leave, They're getting in
• 1:25:42
  Speaker 14: their car at the same time, and the whole time
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 14: I'm like literally like right next to this girl and
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 14: we've not addressed it.
• 1:25:48
  Speaker 1: I haven't told her dad, and I just.
• 1:25:51
  Speaker 7: Know that tonight she's gonna go home and she's gonna
• 1:25:54
  Speaker 7: be like dad, Scotty, I'll tell you about what happened,
• 1:25:57
  Speaker 7: and then they're gonna go back to the school and
• 1:25:59
  Speaker 7: they're gonna look up the cameras.
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be Collin's dad and I'm going to jail.
• 1:26:04
  Speaker 8: Uh So, anyway, I hope that they let me listen
• 1:26:08
  Speaker 8: to this podcast in prison.
• 1:26:11
  Speaker 1: I swear I'm innocent. Anyway, Love you voice. I love
• 1:26:18
  Speaker 1: you too, Scott, Love you Scott. I think it was
• 1:26:20
  Speaker 1: just a quick there's no stalls. He walked in and
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, sorry, and then maybe he was getting
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 1: his daughter set up. I could see that.
• 1:26:32
  Speaker 2: I can see that, But I see where Scott's head
• 1:26:34
  Speaker 2: is at too. Yeah, because I've known Scott for quite
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 2: a while. There's actually a really long story on Scott.
• 1:26:42
  Speaker 2: It's a really good dude. I was on a hunting
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 2: trip in Oklahoma, and unbeknownst to me, uh, I was
• 1:26:50
  Speaker 2: invited on what was told to me to be a
• 1:26:53
  Speaker 2: guided hunt. Uh, we were poaching the entire time, unbeknownst
• 1:26:57
  Speaker 2: to me. So after a day of hunt and finding
• 1:27:01
  Speaker 2: out that we were poaching, I start calling around because
• 1:27:05
  Speaker 2: I'm on the border of Kansas and Oklahoma.
• 1:27:07
  Speaker 1: I rode with these people up there.
• 1:27:09
  Speaker 2: I have nobody in my world that lives on the
• 1:27:14
  Speaker 2: border of Kansas, Oklahoma, except for I'll leave his last
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 2: name Outbat Scott, who lived in Tulsa at the time,
• 1:27:21
  Speaker 2: And he drove all the way like four hours to
• 1:27:23
  Speaker 2: pick me up and then drove me all the way
• 1:27:25
  Speaker 2: back down to uh the border of Texas, Oklahoma to
• 1:27:28
  Speaker 2: my car in the middle of the night to get
• 1:27:32
  Speaker 2: me out of the poaching situation.
• 1:27:34
  Speaker 1: Good dude, did you tell the boys you were dipping?
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 10: Oh?
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, bro, I was pissed. I was pissed.
• 1:27:41
  Speaker 2: There was like one thing that I was brought up
• 1:27:43
  Speaker 2: on and was like, you do not poach, Like that
• 1:27:46
  Speaker 2: is the lowest of the low poach. You don't do that.
• 1:27:50
  Speaker 2: And it was like the very end of the first
• 1:27:51
  Speaker 2: day and this landowner comes out.
• 1:27:54
  Speaker 9: He's like, ore call the day more and he come
• 1:27:56
  Speaker 9: and he gonna get you blah blah blah.
• 1:27:58
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, dude, that guy was crazy because like
• 1:28:01
  Speaker 2: we're on the like we paid for this hunt. Like
• 1:28:04
  Speaker 2: that's crazy that he's like coming out and saying we're
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 2: poaching on stuff.
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 1: And you're like, well, you know, and the boys were like, oh,
• 1:28:09
  Speaker 1: we kind of are. And I was like, what are
• 1:28:13
  Speaker 1: you serious?
• 1:28:14
  Speaker 2: And they're like yeah. I was like, I'm not going
• 1:28:17
  Speaker 2: to hunt anymore. They're like what, And I just like
• 1:28:19
  Speaker 2: get in the truck and I'm just like, I'm like,
• 1:28:21
  Speaker 2: I'm not hunting anymore. I've never been phleasant hunting. I
• 1:28:24
  Speaker 2: was so excited to go peasant hunting. And I just
• 1:28:28
  Speaker 2: put my shotgun down and I sat in the back
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 2: of the truck the rest of the day. And then
• 1:28:31
  Speaker 2: we got to the motel and they were like, dude,
• 1:28:33
  Speaker 2: it's a really far drive just to like drive you
• 1:28:35
  Speaker 2: down and then drive back up to like hunt.
• 1:28:37
  Speaker 1: So we're not going to drive you. You just like hang.
• 1:28:39
  Speaker 2: Out the motel while we hunt for the next three days.
• 1:28:44
  Speaker 2: And Scott was the only guy that I could think
• 1:28:46
  Speaker 2: of that like he went to Oklahoma State. I'm giving
• 1:28:49
  Speaker 2: away too much about him, but he went to Oklahoma State,
• 1:28:53
  Speaker 2: and I was like, maybe he lives in Oklahoma.
• 1:28:55
  Speaker 4: Guy writes in about not being a pervert, and Sherman
• 1:28:58
  Speaker 4: is just giving multiple details, says he's still on that
• 1:29:01
  Speaker 4: slightly dodgy story.
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying he's a good dude.
• 1:29:04
  Speaker 2: So I see where his head dad, and I would
• 1:29:06
  Speaker 2: be in my head just as much.
• 1:29:09
  Speaker 1: He should have gone up to the dad. That's my
• 1:29:11
  Speaker 1: only note.
• 1:29:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I would have gone up to the
• 1:29:14
  Speaker 2: dad and been like, hey, lizen or just.
• 1:29:18
  Speaker 1: That the girl walk said, hey, you know my fault
• 1:29:22
  Speaker 1: my girls three. I had no clue.
• 1:29:25
  Speaker 2: We were looking for bathrooms the whole time. We're looking
• 1:29:27
  Speaker 2: for potties, Mike, I have a kid. I'm here with
• 1:29:31
  Speaker 2: my kid who need to go partty, Just need to
• 1:29:34
  Speaker 2: go party.
• 1:29:35
  Speaker 1: That's it. Girl doesn't say a word, and he's like,
• 1:29:40
  Speaker 1: are we good? You want to desert or something? You know,
• 1:29:44
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't even say that. I shouldn't even ask the question.
• 1:29:46
  Speaker 1: I mean that I'm gonna go talk to your father
• 1:29:48
  Speaker 1: right now. But then what was he saying to the dad? Oh, hey,
• 1:30:01
  Speaker 1: I don't know what your daughter's gonna say. He's alread
• 1:30:03
  Speaker 1: putting himself in a bad spot. Mister callaway, I just
• 1:30:05
  Speaker 1: want you to know, man and man Dad to dad,
• 1:30:07
  Speaker 1: I had a three year old. We were looking for
• 1:30:08
  Speaker 1: the bathroom. We walked back in the bathroom. I had
• 1:30:10
  Speaker 1: to get her set up. Your daughter was in there,
• 1:30:12
  Speaker 1: and it was very much like oh shit, moment, kind
• 1:30:15
  Speaker 1: of didn't know what to do. I scream up to
• 1:30:16
  Speaker 1: get her on. I immediately went outside, stood there waiting
• 1:30:18
  Speaker 1: on my daughter. Maybe maybe you don't even care, and
• 1:30:21
  Speaker 1: I'm more nervous. I just feel like I had this
• 1:30:23
  Speaker 1: on my chest. I had to get it off because
• 1:30:24
  Speaker 1: I felt like I'm a perver. But I'm I'm not a.
• 1:30:28
  Speaker 2: P And when my head hits the pillow the night,
• 1:30:30
  Speaker 2: nobody's gonna be checking footage here at the school, going, oh,
• 1:30:33
  Speaker 2: that's Cade's dad. Yeah, that would have worked, That would
• 1:30:39
  Speaker 2: work on me.
• 1:30:40
  Speaker 1: Can I get you guys desert? Maybe a lolly bump
• 1:30:44
  Speaker 1: or something I happened to have in my car right down.
• 1:30:46
  Speaker 1: But I'm not here.
• 1:30:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not a candy in my truck that came off
• 1:30:51
  Speaker 2: from It's from work, Yes, Mary, it's from my daughter.
• 1:30:54
  Speaker 1: She's three, sweetheart, come over here. Agnorable, abnormal. She runs
• 1:30:58
  Speaker 1: screaming the mom. I where that's my kid? Honey? Can
• 1:31:01
  Speaker 1: you speak up? Can you help me out?
• 1:31:02
  Speaker 4: No?
• 1:31:03
  Speaker 1: I hate you? That's my kid. That's she's funny. She's
• 1:31:07
  Speaker 1: really funny.
• 1:31:08
  Speaker 2: Oh man, Yes, Scott said a predicament shout out.
• 1:31:11
  Speaker 1: Scott. Thanks for calling in, bro, thank you for calling in.
• 1:31:13
  Speaker 1: I'll be calling you shortly. Emails. Oh we only have
• 1:31:19
  Speaker 1: one call?
• 1:31:20
  Speaker 9: That was it?
• 1:31:21
  Speaker 1: One? Yeah? One vmail. You want to do another v maiale,
• 1:31:24
  Speaker 1: we have another V.
• 1:31:25
  Speaker 2: I know we have them to deep talks about him
• 1:31:26
  Speaker 2: being stuffed up every week.
• 1:31:32
  Speaker 1: I don't even want to say the title of this.
• 1:31:33
  Speaker 1: Don't say the title. Just let it, just let it roll.
• 1:31:38
  Speaker 1: God damn it. My wife took the trash out. I'm
• 1:31:42
  Speaker 1: a piece of ship, you see, you see what I mean. Yeah,
• 1:31:58
  Speaker 1: we got back from Italy. I missed the trash that week. Hey,
• 1:32:00
  Speaker 1: there you go, there you go.
• 1:32:03
  Speaker 2: Hey, recyclings every other week, so so if you miss.
• 1:32:08
  Speaker 1: Recycling, and guess it, I missed that two weeks ago.
• 1:32:14
  Speaker 2: Oh actually, when I forgot to take out the recycle
• 1:32:18
  Speaker 2: that come back. My neighbor has a seven year old daughter.
• 1:32:21
  Speaker 2: She's out playing behind the house with her dad. Oh,
• 1:32:24
  Speaker 2: we're so glad you're back from vacation. Blah blah blah.
• 1:32:28
  Speaker 2: Intern Chris was watching the house. I saw he put
• 1:32:31
  Speaker 2: out the trash. He did such a good job. His
• 1:32:34
  Speaker 2: daughter then comes up and goes, yeah, why.
• 1:32:36
  Speaker 1: Do you trash?
• 1:32:37
  Speaker 2: Backs fell out though, and it had a bunch of
• 1:32:39
  Speaker 2: maggots in it.
• 1:32:40
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 1:32:42
  Speaker 2: I go, oh good, thank you for the note, Thank
• 1:32:47
  Speaker 2: you so much. Now I'm gonna be known as gross
• 1:32:50
  Speaker 2: maggot guy. Don't get the trash out on time, maggots
• 1:32:52
  Speaker 2: built up? Is that the deal, that's what, that's the deal.
• 1:32:55
  Speaker 2: Especially with the poopy diapers. Oh god, how's shitty? Do
• 1:33:00
  Speaker 2: the do the diaper bag smell?
• 1:33:02
  Speaker 1: Bro? So bad?
• 1:33:04
  Speaker 2: Do you double bag your diaper bags? I've started doing
• 1:33:10
  Speaker 2: diaper bag in a scented track?
• 1:33:12
  Speaker 1: How bad times? I mean ours are pretty locked in tight, yeah,
• 1:33:16
  Speaker 1: because it's a fight. It's a war to get him out.
• 1:33:19
  Speaker 2: You have to pay exact same one I have with
• 1:33:21
  Speaker 2: the circle ring, with the circle ring, and then you
• 1:33:24
  Speaker 2: have to yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, And then when it's down,
• 1:33:27
  Speaker 2: you just slide it back and forth.
• 1:33:29
  Speaker 1: I can see. And then it's like when you're when
• 1:33:31
  Speaker 1: you're when you're about to change right, or you get
• 1:33:33
  Speaker 1: the diaper rolled up, get together, you try to go
• 1:33:35
  Speaker 1: as fasts, you can't because you know the smell is
• 1:33:37
  Speaker 1: just gonna get in the air for a moment. Bro,
• 1:33:40
  Speaker 1: it's so bad, so bad.
• 1:33:43
  Speaker 2: Or when you slide, when you slide it and you
• 1:33:45
  Speaker 2: just see a diaper right at the very dog, oh I.
• 1:33:48
  Speaker 1: Know, and you gotta kind of push it down, say
• 1:33:51
  Speaker 1: taking it out right away.
• 1:33:52
  Speaker 2: Let's see how much more room we got. You try
• 1:33:55
  Speaker 2: to do it like your fingertips to not touch anything else.
• 1:33:58
  Speaker 1: You're likelease, god, wife, to take this out. Is somebody
• 1:34:03
  Speaker 1: gonna see this. She has to have seen this. She
• 1:34:07
  Speaker 1: does majority of the diapers. This is crazy. Oh my god.
• 1:34:12
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I've been doing the diaper bag into sended
• 1:34:15
  Speaker 2: trash bag. I don't have a full review on it yet. Okay,
• 1:34:19
  Speaker 2: but let you know. Yeah, we'll wait for the reason.
• 1:34:21
  Speaker 2: If that's a dad hack speaking up, dude, So many
• 1:34:23
  Speaker 2: flies right now?
• 1:34:24
  Speaker 1: What's going on? We've been getting them at the house, bro,
• 1:34:27
  Speaker 1: What is going on? I heard our emails fly season.
• 1:34:31
  Speaker 2: I heard our emails are fun this week? Okay, deep
• 1:34:34
  Speaker 2: promised you want me to kick it off? Yes, sir,
• 1:34:38
  Speaker 2: Caleb Gross. My name is Caleb Gross from Central Nebraska,
• 1:34:43
  Speaker 2: go big red.
• 1:34:43
  Speaker 1: What's up? Fellas curly? Four am sitting in the hospital
• 1:34:46
  Speaker 1: riding this deep in the trenches. But not for a
• 1:34:50
  Speaker 1: reason you may think. Yesterday, at about six pm, I
• 1:34:53
  Speaker 1: was mowing our backyard hill with a push mower. Grass
• 1:34:57
  Speaker 1: was a little wet, so I slipped and boom. I
• 1:35:01
  Speaker 1: knew better, but I did it. Anyways. The vision I
• 1:35:03
  Speaker 1: had in my head became reality. I lost my big toe.
• 1:35:06
  Speaker 1: Whoa shit? What yelled my wife's name, and she came running.
• 1:35:12
  Speaker 1: She's ten weeks pregnant. Also, luckily as city worker watch
• 1:35:15
  Speaker 1: it happen, so he was right there right away to assist.
• 1:35:19
  Speaker 1: First ride in an ambulance and first overnight stay in
• 1:35:22
  Speaker 1: a hospital other than kids, haha. Had the first surgery
• 1:35:27
  Speaker 1: last night to clean it up. What lots of grass
• 1:35:30
  Speaker 1: and sock remnants in the wound. My wife and I
• 1:35:33
  Speaker 1: have two kids. My daughter is almost four come September
• 1:35:36
  Speaker 1: and my son just turned two earlier this summer, and
• 1:35:40
  Speaker 1: we have one on the way. We are very active,
• 1:35:42
  Speaker 1: so this will be tough. Got along road to recovery.
• 1:35:45
  Speaker 1: Lots of physical theory to learn how to walk, is
• 1:35:48
  Speaker 1: what I'm being told. When my spirits are high, as
• 1:35:51
  Speaker 1: high as they can be with God on her side,
• 1:35:52
  Speaker 1: I'm just thankful it wasn't worse than it is. We
• 1:35:55
  Speaker 1: had plans to go to the lake with some friends
• 1:35:56
  Speaker 1: this weekend, So the way I look at it is
• 1:35:58
  Speaker 1: God was protecting us from something this weekend. Thankful for
• 1:36:02
  Speaker 1: the great neighbors and volunteers on the response team. Going
• 1:36:05
  Speaker 1: to dig deep for the next few months. Love the boys,
• 1:36:08
  Speaker 1: Love the pod, don't forget the trash. I attached an
• 1:36:12
  Speaker 1: X ray pick. As you can see, the big Piggy
• 1:36:15
  Speaker 1: went to the market and he's never coming back Levet.
• 1:36:18
  Speaker 1: Oh no, oh wow. Update, I'll attach another photo of
• 1:36:23
  Speaker 1: the X ray. They had to take more off of
• 1:36:25
  Speaker 1: it in the second surgery. We'll be nightfour in the hospital.
• 1:36:28
  Speaker 1: The painted times has been the worst I've ever felt
• 1:36:30
  Speaker 1: in my life. Still can't fathom. I don't have a
• 1:36:33
  Speaker 1: big tone anymore, and we'll essentially have to learn how
• 1:36:35
  Speaker 1: to do everyday things again. Don't take the small things
• 1:36:38
  Speaker 1: for granted. Fellas. Kids have been with my parents and
• 1:36:42
  Speaker 1: have come to see us a couple of times. Now
• 1:36:43
  Speaker 1: missed them like crazy once again, Love the pod. Oh ps,
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  Speaker 1: what's that say? Willy C's right? Don't mow your yard?
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  Speaker 9: Oh what do you know?
• 1:36:55
  Speaker 1: Funny funny to come at willye cee for not mowing
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  Speaker 1: the yard. There is risk when mowing the yard. You
• 1:37:00
  Speaker 1: can lose your fucking big toe. Boys, big biggie could
• 1:37:04
  Speaker 1: go to the market. You lose the big biggie. That sucks.
• 1:37:08
  Speaker 1: Man that sucks. Yeah, holy shit, A.
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  Speaker 4: New guy, shit new guy in college sending he was
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  Speaker 4: working at a golf course. One of those like flyover mowers.
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  Speaker 4: It's not like a push one yeah on a hill,
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  Speaker 4: big toe not fun?
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  Speaker 1: What yeah? What was a dangerous man? Dude? That's what
• 1:37:30
  Speaker 1: I have to talking about. Mowing the yard.
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  Speaker 2: Shit, everybody all excited. Take it before and after pictures.
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  Speaker 2: Leave it up to the experts. Man, wait till you're
• 1:37:39
  Speaker 2: do local landscapers, Wait till you do it before and
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  Speaker 2: after pictures of your big.
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  Speaker 1: Dough not be thinking. Damn, I wish I would have
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  Speaker 1: paid the local economy.
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  Speaker 2: That one guy that I called an idiot on the
• 1:37:52
  Speaker 2: internet last year, Maybe he wasn't so dumb, maybe he was.
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  Speaker 1: Actually really or something.
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  Speaker 2: But oh man, this came from anonymous. This is one
• 1:38:04
  Speaker 2: of our first anonymous in a while. Hi Boys, Day
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  Speaker 2: one listener, first time ride in love the pod and
• 1:38:11
  Speaker 2: the dad community that you have created for all of
• 1:38:14
  Speaker 2: us to share. Sorry to advance, Sorry in advance for
• 1:38:18
  Speaker 2: the long email. Would like to keep this anonymous as
• 1:38:21
  Speaker 2: this is an ongoing dad loss. We can title this
• 1:38:24
  Speaker 2: conversation how long is too long? And I'm hoping it
• 1:38:27
  Speaker 2: can be a good conversation starter for the pod on
• 1:38:29
  Speaker 2: situations that involve are in laws, both current and future.
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  Speaker 1: H I'm a proud dad of two kiddos, a.
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  Speaker 2: Two a half year old and a seven week old girl,
• 1:38:41
  Speaker 2: and we recently welcomed in early June. Congratulations. This is
• 1:38:46
  Speaker 2: unfortunately where my dad loss comes in. My wife and
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  Speaker 2: her mom are in all caps, very close. She usually
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  Speaker 2: comes to visit from out of state about once a
• 1:38:57
  Speaker 2: week every month to see us and watch our son
• 1:39:00
  Speaker 2: grow up. When our first was born, she ended up
• 1:39:02
  Speaker 2: staying with us for almost two months. As newborn parents
• 1:39:06
  Speaker 2: who were nervous about the transition to parenthood. This was
• 1:39:09
  Speaker 2: a blessing and we were truly grateful for the help.
• 1:39:11
  Speaker 2: She kept up the laundry, helped with the bottles, helped
• 1:39:14
  Speaker 2: keep the house clean, and helped be there for my
• 1:39:17
  Speaker 2: wife when I couldn't. I ended up delaying my paternity
• 1:39:21
  Speaker 2: leave to extend our son's time at home before going
• 1:39:24
  Speaker 2: to daycare, but admittedly it did feel like she overstayed
• 1:39:28
  Speaker 2: her welcome towards the end of her time here. Since then,
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  Speaker 2: my personal relationship with my mother in law has been strained,
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  Speaker 2: to say the least. As a dad, I take immense
• 1:39:38
  Speaker 2: pride in being the best husband, father, and family man
• 1:39:40
  Speaker 2: I can be. However, when my mother in law visits,
• 1:39:44
  Speaker 2: it feels like I've become more of a third wheel
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  Speaker 2: in my own home, which can get frustrating and has
• 1:39:49
  Speaker 2: resulted in some tension that brings me to my ongoing
• 1:39:53
  Speaker 2: dad loss. Our baby girl arrived in early June. Despite
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  Speaker 2: conversations with my wife on setting boundaries for how long
• 1:39:59
  Speaker 2: her mom would stay with us, she ended up staying
• 1:40:02
  Speaker 2: at our home for a little over two months, followed
• 1:40:04
  Speaker 2: by a ten day trip without me back home to
• 1:40:07
  Speaker 2: introduce our daughter to the extended family. The dad boss
• 1:40:11
  Speaker 2: comes in because is obvious that my frustration with my
• 1:40:15
  Speaker 2: mother in law has been a stressor for my wife
• 1:40:17
  Speaker 2: and our relationship. This realization sucks to live with, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm finding it incredibly difficult to deal with an in
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  Speaker 2: law who I've communicated by my boundaries with not parenting
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  Speaker 2: my child, allowing me to perform my regular duties around
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  Speaker 2: the house, giving me the space to interact with my
• 1:40:36
  Speaker 2: children on my own with my wife, etc. But it
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  Speaker 2: has repeatedly been crossed. Anyways, she openly acknowledged that she
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  Speaker 2: understands the boundaries I've tried to set, but believes what
• 1:40:47
  Speaker 2: she is doing is right and thinks that because I
• 1:40:50
  Speaker 2: was not raising a home that had the support of grandparents,
• 1:40:53
  Speaker 2: that I essentially don't know any better. I just finished
• 1:40:57
  Speaker 2: up listening to the most recent Fat Stafford solo Great job,
• 1:41:01
  Speaker 2: by the way, thank you Anonymous, and his message on
• 1:41:04
  Speaker 2: being a good teammate really resonated. That's my number one goal,
• 1:41:08
  Speaker 2: But with any relationship, it's hard to achieve that goal
• 1:41:11
  Speaker 2: of communication is strained and what we want may not
• 1:41:14
  Speaker 2: line up. So with that in mind, I'm curious to
• 1:41:17
  Speaker 2: know everyone's opinion on this. Basically, what is your boundary
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  Speaker 2: for in law visits and how do you slash would
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  Speaker 2: you and your partner approaches this situation, especially if your
• 1:41:28
  Speaker 2: boundaries are different. Not looking for advice, that's what the
• 1:41:32
  Speaker 2: therapist is for, but genuinely curious to know how this
• 1:41:36
  Speaker 2: situation looks from an outside perspective. As we navigate in
• 1:41:40
  Speaker 2: real time, all the boys are at different stages of
• 1:41:43
  Speaker 2: their relationships, so I would think there may be different
• 1:41:47
  Speaker 2: views that would be good to discuss.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, buddy, that's a tough one.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, like take some balls to write that. By
• 1:41:58
  Speaker 2: the way, even anonymously.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely well done there, I'm getting My marriage is
• 1:42:06
  Speaker 1: my wife. Doesn't seem like the relationship that his wife
• 1:42:10
  Speaker 1: has with her mom is similar to the one that
• 1:42:15
  Speaker 1: my wife has with my mother in law. Not that
• 1:42:19
  Speaker 1: it's different, worse, better, whatever it is. But yeah, as
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  Speaker 1: far as like staying for months at a time or
• 1:42:25
  Speaker 1: for weeks at a time, that's the dude, that's a
• 1:42:27
  Speaker 1: tough one. My first like instinct is you know, how
• 1:42:30
  Speaker 1: much of a real conversation have you had with your wife?
• 1:42:33
  Speaker 1: Sounds like maybe he has, sounds like he's even had
• 1:42:36
  Speaker 1: a conversation with the mother in law. What I'm hearing
• 1:42:38
  Speaker 1: on his version with the mother in law is that
• 1:42:41
  Speaker 1: mother in law wasn't necessarily hearing what he was saying. Yeah,
• 1:42:45
  Speaker 1: something that we talk about in communication and one on
• 1:42:48
  Speaker 1: ones here at the shop, at home, whatever it is.
• 1:42:53
  Speaker 1: But a technique that I learned about from Chris Voss,
• 1:42:58
  Speaker 1: who's like a negotiator, was the FBI like feelings, behavior
• 1:43:04
  Speaker 1: and impact, And essentially what that is wrapped up in
• 1:43:08
  Speaker 1: that acronym is you're telling mother in law, hey, when
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  Speaker 1: you do X, you're describing the behavior. It makes me
• 1:43:16
  Speaker 1: feel like a third wheel. And what I'm worried about
• 1:43:21
  Speaker 1: is whatever you feel like that impact is going to
• 1:43:22
  Speaker 1: have on the relationship, so let's try to make one up.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like when you come in and you I'm
• 1:43:31
  Speaker 1: not going to say overstay, maybe we need to have
• 1:43:32
  Speaker 1: better expectation of what staying looks like at the house.
• 1:43:36
  Speaker 1: And I don't know if these are your exact words demand,
• 1:43:37
  Speaker 1: because I don't know how mother in law is in
• 1:43:39
  Speaker 1: that communication. But when these things happen and I come home,
• 1:43:44
  Speaker 1: or you take care of my duties, or I feel
• 1:43:46
  Speaker 1: like I'm not getting the right amount of one on
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  Speaker 1: one time, or i feel like I'm wanting to do
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  Speaker 1: something with my daughter and you think this other way
• 1:43:53
  Speaker 1: is better, and you kind of I feel like you're
• 1:43:56
  Speaker 1: overstepping me, and it makes me feel like shit. I
• 1:43:59
  Speaker 1: feel it is me off. But I also know you
• 1:44:01
  Speaker 1: want to be a very intentional grandmother and you're in
• 1:44:04
  Speaker 1: massive help. But what I'm worried about is if I
• 1:44:06
  Speaker 1: feel like it creates this resentment because we don't have
• 1:44:09
  Speaker 1: clear expectations and clear boundaries with each other. Not only
• 1:44:12
  Speaker 1: with each other, but it also creates a little bit
• 1:44:14
  Speaker 1: of friction with my wife because we go back and
• 1:44:17
  Speaker 1: forth at each with each other, and I'm worried that's
• 1:44:19
  Speaker 1: going to continue to happen if we can't figure out
• 1:44:21
  Speaker 1: what these clear expectations are. If she's hitting you with
• 1:44:26
  Speaker 1: you know, you didn't grow up with grandparents, you don't
• 1:44:28
  Speaker 1: really know what you're talking about, or you don't really
• 1:44:30
  Speaker 1: know any different to me, that tells me you're not
• 1:44:32
  Speaker 1: really being listened to.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean, He's not being listened to
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  Speaker 2: in that situation, Like if you are, it'll be a
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  Speaker 2: very productive conversation because if somebody were to tell me
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  Speaker 2: like something like that, like, hey, will your behavior makes
• 1:44:43
  Speaker 2: me feel this way.
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  Speaker 1: Therefore, here's the impact I'm worried about if we don't
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  Speaker 1: get it corrected. If I'm fully digesting what you're saying,
• 1:44:49
  Speaker 1: say we're in a one on one, I need to
• 1:44:51
  Speaker 1: fully listen to you and understand you and be in
• 1:44:53
  Speaker 1: your shoes for us to start finding any kind of
• 1:44:56
  Speaker 1: solve versus you don't know any better because I'm kind
• 1:44:59
  Speaker 1: of just shutting you down.
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  Speaker 2: It sounds like he feels like he's being shut down.
• 1:45:03
  Speaker 2: And again we only know his version.
• 1:45:06
  Speaker 1: His version like you, you also can't be somebody like
• 1:45:09
  Speaker 1: you have this you're looking for confirmation bias anytime you
• 1:45:13
  Speaker 1: step in the room and say, Grandma's playing with the kids,
• 1:45:15
  Speaker 1: and that just fuels the there's goes Grandma getting playing
• 1:45:18
  Speaker 1: with the kids, they know I don't want her to
• 1:45:20
  Speaker 1: do that, or whatever it is, whatever you're making up
• 1:45:22
  Speaker 1: in your mind to build this resentment, that's obviously that's
• 1:45:24
  Speaker 1: not going to be helpful for you or the relationship
• 1:45:27
  Speaker 1: you have with your with your wife or grandma. Yeah,
• 1:45:31
  Speaker 1: but all of mine completely stems from the root of
• 1:45:34
  Speaker 1: If that was happening with me and I was feeling
• 1:45:37
  Speaker 1: a resentment or a buildup of grandma overstepping or my
• 1:45:41
  Speaker 1: wife's parents kind of overstepping, it would very much start
• 1:45:44
  Speaker 1: with a real conversation with my wife in a calm
• 1:45:48
  Speaker 1: tone to be heard articulated the best way you can
• 1:45:52
  Speaker 1: to where you're not looking for an argument, you're looking
• 1:45:55
  Speaker 1: to strictly say when this behavior happens, it makes me
• 1:45:59
  Speaker 1: feel like this. And here's what I'm worried about. Because
• 1:46:02
  Speaker 1: what the other position can't do then, right is tell
• 1:46:07
  Speaker 1: you how you feel. If you go in and say
• 1:46:12
  Speaker 1: you do this, not when this behavior happens, you do this,
• 1:46:16
  Speaker 1: always do it? Yeah, when you you always do X,
• 1:46:20
  Speaker 1: Y and Z, And it pisses me off because blah
• 1:46:22
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah. You're putting them on the opposition. Their
• 1:46:24
  Speaker 1: guard goes up because you're telling them, Yeah, you're telling
• 1:46:27
  Speaker 1: them what they do and how they feel from it. Yep,
• 1:46:30
  Speaker 1: because I know when your mom does this, she's thinking
• 1:46:33
  Speaker 1: this because I've already had this conversation. Well, that doesn't
• 1:46:35
  Speaker 1: work because you're talking about somebody else. You can't tell
• 1:46:38
  Speaker 1: somebody else telling them how they If you can speak
• 1:46:41
  Speaker 1: strictly from how you're feeling, the other person can't tell
• 1:46:44
  Speaker 1: you how you're feeling. You're just laying out, dude, this
• 1:46:46
  Speaker 1: is what I'm worried about. Obviously, I care. Like we're
• 1:46:49
  Speaker 1: a family, we're a tribe. You're my wife, like this
• 1:46:52
  Speaker 1: is this is my family as we like as much
• 1:46:54
  Speaker 1: as it is. You are, Like all that stuff where
• 1:46:57
  Speaker 1: you're speaking strictly from your shoes and what you're worried
• 1:46:59
  Speaker 1: about happen if something doesn't get corrected.
• 1:47:02
  Speaker 2: You also have the opportunity to ask your and this
• 1:47:09
  Speaker 2: we're talking. The person that wrote in made it sound
• 1:47:12
  Speaker 2: like they're the husband and speaking to the wife.
• 1:47:15
  Speaker 1: About the mother in law. This can totally go the
• 1:47:17
  Speaker 1: other way too.
• 1:47:18
  Speaker 2: Of a Milk Team sixer at home that needs to
• 1:47:22
  Speaker 2: have this conversation with their husband about mother or father
• 1:47:25
  Speaker 2: in law, whatever. Yeah, this is across the board advice
• 1:47:28
  Speaker 2: that I would give of.
• 1:47:35
  Speaker 1: More oft than not.
• 1:47:36
  Speaker 2: I think that his spouse or somebody's spouse in this
• 1:47:39
  Speaker 2: situation would actually feel exactly how they feel.
• 1:47:44
  Speaker 1: Most of the time in this situation.
• 1:47:47
  Speaker 2: And I think that while you're also saying how you feel,
• 1:47:51
  Speaker 2: ask them how it makes them feel when said action
• 1:47:56
  Speaker 2: is being done, When said behavior is being done, does
• 1:47:59
  Speaker 2: that make you feel uncomfortable? Does that make you feel stressed?
• 1:48:03
  Speaker 2: Does that make you feel upset? And really pick their
• 1:48:06
  Speaker 2: brain on it. Not only to get to see what
• 1:48:09
  Speaker 2: your partner's feeling, it brings them into this situation of
• 1:48:14
  Speaker 2: y'all are a team. At the end of the day,
• 1:48:16
  Speaker 2: y'all are a team. You are not married to your
• 1:48:18
  Speaker 2: in law, your parents, are not married to your wife
• 1:48:21
  Speaker 2: or your husband. Like those are separate relationships. The core
• 1:48:26
  Speaker 2: of this is you and your partner.
• 1:48:29
  Speaker 1: The number one relationship us you and your wife, and
• 1:48:31
  Speaker 1: you have to get aligned. You have to get aligned and.
• 1:48:35
  Speaker 2: Be open to not only sharing your feelings, but see
• 1:48:39
  Speaker 2: what their feelings are. See if even though y'all don't
• 1:48:43
  Speaker 2: see eyed eye. If your feelings are aligned on stuff,
• 1:48:46
  Speaker 2: go ooh, that makes both of us uncomfortable. Let's dive
• 1:48:50
  Speaker 2: into that. Why would that make us uncomfortable? What are
• 1:48:53
  Speaker 2: some solves we can do there? Now we're working together
• 1:48:55
  Speaker 2: to solve the problem. And then there's the age old
• 1:48:59
  Speaker 2: saying of blood, deal with blood, which I think, no.
• 1:49:03
  Speaker 1: Go ahead, that's exactly what I was good.
• 1:49:06
  Speaker 2: I think that that is a very smart saying. I
• 1:49:09
  Speaker 2: think you can totally speak up for yourself in situations
• 1:49:12
  Speaker 2: of like hey, you know, like making yourself heard to
• 1:49:17
  Speaker 2: the in law or to like anybody in your spouse's family.
• 1:49:23
  Speaker 2: But always smart to first go to wife, like Will said,
• 1:49:27
  Speaker 2: and be like, hey, this I'm feeling.
• 1:49:30
  Speaker 1: This is what's going on that, and if.
• 1:49:32
  Speaker 2: They agree strongly, it's like can you can you please
• 1:49:35
  Speaker 2: have that conversation with them about this?
• 1:49:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 1:49:40
  Speaker 2: And I know that that then, you know, can muddy
• 1:49:43
  Speaker 2: the water sometimes within laws because it's like, oh well,
• 1:49:46
  Speaker 2: it sounds like you're sherman talked to his wife again
• 1:49:49
  Speaker 2: about like maybe you could like maybe you can start
• 1:49:52
  Speaker 2: with mom and daughter and then they could be all
• 1:49:54
  Speaker 2: through them, send down even that even that and just
• 1:49:58
  Speaker 2: be like we're aligned on this. We're team on this
• 1:50:00
  Speaker 2: decision on how we.
• 1:50:02
  Speaker 1: Feel right because again we don't know any anything about
• 1:50:05
  Speaker 1: the situation other than from the right end. So there
• 1:50:08
  Speaker 1: could be a lot of steps to this. There could
• 1:50:10
  Speaker 1: be a couple steps. Maybe it's not as big of
• 1:50:12
  Speaker 1: a deal as he's making a sound. Maybe it's a
• 1:50:14
  Speaker 1: deal where it's going to take a little bit of
• 1:50:15
  Speaker 1: time to make happen. But to your point, you're right too,
• 1:50:18
  Speaker 1: Like after you do the sitting down and completely talking
• 1:50:22
  Speaker 1: from your shoes and how something like makes you feel
• 1:50:25
  Speaker 1: and what you're worried about happening, you will then be
• 1:50:28
  Speaker 1: able to figure out if your wife is aligned or
• 1:50:31
  Speaker 1: sees that happening or with you to where you guys
• 1:50:34
  Speaker 1: are already kind of starting on a similar page, and
• 1:50:36
  Speaker 1: then you guys are wanting to kind of figure out
• 1:50:37
  Speaker 1: the solve. Maybe your wife has a different perspective to
• 1:50:40
  Speaker 1: where she throws out a different perspective and it's like, okay, well,
• 1:50:43
  Speaker 1: how can we figure this out? Like can your rise
• 1:50:46
  Speaker 1: what's your biggest pain point with the situation, whether it's
• 1:50:49
  Speaker 1: something I'm doing, whether it's something's mom's doing, or it's
• 1:50:52
  Speaker 1: something I can alleviate for you because I'm sure it's
• 1:50:55
  Speaker 1: stressful having mom helicopter over you or telling you things
• 1:50:59
  Speaker 1: that you need to be doing as a mother, like
• 1:51:01
  Speaker 1: mom could be carrying a lot of stress too, one
• 1:51:03
  Speaker 1: hundred percent.
• 1:51:04
  Speaker 4: Also, I get a point in terms of like, if
• 1:51:09
  Speaker 4: you come to an agreement with your significant other, shouldn't
• 1:51:12
  Speaker 4: if you do it right, it should never be like, well,
• 1:51:14
  Speaker 4: it sounds like you're speaking for them, because I feel
• 1:51:16
  Speaker 4: like with me, it would be like, once we come
• 1:51:18
  Speaker 4: to an agreement and I'm going to go have the
• 1:51:19
  Speaker 4: conversation with my parents, if it's if let's say I'm
• 1:51:22
  Speaker 4: the my parents in this situation, once we're aligned, we're aligned,
• 1:51:26
  Speaker 4: and it's no more like, oh, I'm speaking for you.
• 1:51:28
  Speaker 4: It's like no, no, no, I see the we both see
• 1:51:31
  Speaker 4: it this way. Once you come to that understanding, I
• 1:51:34
  Speaker 4: feel like that would be a big point of it.
• 1:51:35
  Speaker 4: I'm also I'm kind of I'm writing notes just for
• 1:51:39
  Speaker 4: I don't have this issue, but it's like I don't
• 1:51:41
  Speaker 4: have to deal with it in this way. But I'm like,
• 1:51:43
  Speaker 4: I feel like that's something where I if if it
• 1:51:47
  Speaker 4: was towards my parents, I was on the wife side
• 1:51:49
  Speaker 4: of the ball, I would be like, once we figure
• 1:51:51
  Speaker 4: it out. I'm going there and I want to be
• 1:51:53
  Speaker 4: the one that handles it and not put her in
• 1:51:56
  Speaker 4: that spot because that's a very I feel like in laws,
• 1:51:59
  Speaker 4: that's tough spot to have this kind of conversation.
• 1:52:01
  Speaker 2: It's a tough spot, but it's a uh that is
• 1:52:06
  Speaker 2: without going into any detail, just knowing out of a situation.
• 1:52:10
  Speaker 2: That is something that in laws can say pretty often
• 1:52:14
  Speaker 2: of like this doesn't sound like you or the type
• 1:52:17
  Speaker 2: of decision that you would make, Like did Charo.
• 1:52:21
  Speaker 1: Tell you to say that? Will like this?
• 1:52:23
  Speaker 2: You know, like I'm just surprised that, like is this
• 1:52:26
  Speaker 2: how Charo feels? Or is this how you feel? And
• 1:52:29
  Speaker 2: almost like kind of putting you in a spot where
• 1:52:33
  Speaker 2: like you then have to stand on ten toes and
• 1:52:37
  Speaker 2: be like this is how we feel Toorro and I
• 1:52:41
  Speaker 2: will Compton feel this way.
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  Speaker 1: Right when you look at me and you talk to me,
• 1:52:45
  Speaker 1: you're also talking to my wife and talking to my wife,
• 1:52:47
  Speaker 1: I going behind your back and see something crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's sure certainly isn't going you're my mouthpiece,
• 1:52:54
  Speaker 2: go do it even reluctantly, you know.
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  Speaker 1: So that's that's where that can come from. Gotcha.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean the way that he wrote in
• 1:53:06
  Speaker 2: he sounds like an extremely reasonable, uh, looking for different
• 1:53:13
  Speaker 2: avenues to try and solve this type of person. I
• 1:53:18
  Speaker 2: hope he gets it, figure it out. I would say
• 1:53:21
  Speaker 2: start with wifey.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Number one is definitely wifey and talking through the
• 1:53:27
  Speaker 1: situation with her, yeah, and trying to get aligned. I
• 1:53:30
  Speaker 1: appreciate him right in, Dude that it takes balls, because
• 1:53:34
  Speaker 1: sometimes it's hard, Like you, you care so much about something,
• 1:53:38
  Speaker 1: and sometimes it's hard to go about it the right
• 1:53:40
  Speaker 1: way because it's just like emotion emotional driven and sometimes
• 1:53:45
  Speaker 1: like I know what helps myself when I'm trying to
• 1:53:48
  Speaker 1: find answers for handling a conversation one way, it's like
• 1:53:51
  Speaker 1: coming across stuff like when I learned about the FBI
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  Speaker 1: stuff like, oh man, this would help me so much
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of day to day conversations versus something
• 1:53:58
  Speaker 1: weighing so heavy on my mind and you don't necessarily
• 1:54:01
  Speaker 1: know how to articulate it, just that it's like festering up.
• 1:54:04
  Speaker 1: But then you just butt heads. Your lid gets flipped there,
• 1:54:07
  Speaker 1: lid gets flipped, and you're not really handling anything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's why it all comes down to you,
• 1:54:14
  Speaker 2: is it's not like at the end of the two
• 1:54:17
  Speaker 2: months that it's like, Okay, she overstayed or welcome, and
• 1:54:21
  Speaker 2: that all of a sudden comes out of nowhere. For
• 1:54:23
  Speaker 2: the guy that rode in, he's probably feeling that like
• 1:54:26
  Speaker 2: week three, Yeah, wait, we're doing three more weeks of this,
• 1:54:30
  Speaker 2: four more weeks of this?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah dang. Yeah, you're just being involved with the decision
• 1:54:35
  Speaker 1: making of how long a family member might stay or not.
• 1:54:39
  Speaker 1: Even everybody comes in town. Roll yes, it's like, oh, hey,
• 1:54:43
  Speaker 1: they're planning on stay and they want to stay like
• 1:54:44
  Speaker 1: two weeks. Like if it feels just between say it
• 1:54:47
  Speaker 1: was me and you, I'm like, buddy, you could stay
• 1:54:48
  Speaker 1: at my house for two weeks and I'm not even
• 1:54:50
  Speaker 1: checking in with the wife. It's just you're gonna come
• 1:54:52
  Speaker 1: and stay at the house for two weeks. Will then
• 1:54:53
  Speaker 1: Trol and I are having our own little side battle
• 1:54:56
  Speaker 1: because I'm like, it's my boy, I say all the time.
• 1:54:59
  Speaker 1: And the point what that they're trying to make is
• 1:55:01
  Speaker 1: like not that they're only pissed that they're staying two weeks,
• 1:55:03
  Speaker 1: but dude, you didn't console me. Yeah, include me in
• 1:55:06
  Speaker 1: your conversation, include me in the solft, Like what's going
• 1:55:08
  Speaker 1: on to where he needs a stay to. And it's
• 1:55:10
  Speaker 1: not that I'm not wanting him this stake in two weeks.
• 1:55:12
  Speaker 1: I just want to be a part of the conversation
• 1:55:15
  Speaker 1: because you feel like you're just keeping me out to
• 1:55:17
  Speaker 1: the side and you're gonna make all the decisions for
• 1:55:18
  Speaker 1: the house. That is chef.
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  Speaker 2: If you are taking notes, that is numero.
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  Speaker 1: Who solve that? Jill and I really.
• 1:55:26
  Speaker 2: Had to identify made that wait, not even within laws, just.
• 1:55:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah in general, yeah, anything, made that mistake. You bring
• 1:55:33
  Speaker 1: up the idea maybe I can come stay a couple
• 1:55:35
  Speaker 1: of weeks, like, well, let me talk with my wife
• 1:55:37
  Speaker 1: and I can get back to you. Oh yeah, I
• 1:55:38
  Speaker 1: can go to that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, put me down absolutely, two hundred dollars deposit
• 1:55:42
  Speaker 2: perfect pay two hundred dollars. Hey, honey, I'm going to
• 1:55:45
  Speaker 2: this thing. What what are you talking about?
• 1:55:48
  Speaker 4: You just all those Yeah, I made that mistake. Did
• 1:55:51
  Speaker 4: a dinner as without saying anything. I was just like, Hey,
• 1:55:55
  Speaker 4: we're going to this this with friends. She was just like,
• 1:55:58
  Speaker 4: how do you not tell me this?
• 1:55:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 1:56:00
  Speaker 4: And I was like, itting clear. I feel like a
• 1:56:02
  Speaker 4: lot of times it's not intentional. You're just like, hey, no,
• 1:56:05
  Speaker 4: we're doing dinner. I got to find a place and
• 1:56:06
  Speaker 4: then you just forget.
• 1:56:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's part of the learning curve with like marriage
• 1:56:11
  Speaker 1: and marriage and stuff. I'm still doing. It's just going
• 1:56:15
  Speaker 1: from us. You were were completely selfish being to you are.
• 1:56:18
  Speaker 1: Now you share one heart. Yeah, you're not both one
• 1:56:25
  Speaker 1: person and you got to kind of operate that way.
• 1:56:28
  Speaker 1: That's what the ring symbolizes. Man, even you get married,
• 1:56:32
  Speaker 1: it's like conjoining into one heart. Deek's about to do it.
• 1:56:38
  Speaker 1: I mean deep, you guys, you know it.
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  Speaker 3: I disagree with something said and agree with other things
• 1:56:43
  Speaker 3: that have been said about the topic.
• 1:56:45
  Speaker 1: You guys are discussing the anonymous email.
• 1:56:49
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, laws reading think that one is tough because
• 1:56:52
  Speaker 3: it's like I see his point a trillion percent, but
• 1:56:54
  Speaker 3: I also know those are significant people in their lives,
• 1:56:58
  Speaker 3: and so that's what you guys are doing. Well delicate combo.
• 1:57:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah I'm getting married. Forget what the original point was,
• 1:57:03
  Speaker 3: but congrats to you.
• 1:57:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. Sherman and I we were hedging. We're like, yeah,
• 1:57:07
  Speaker 1: well we know that the hedge was just like we
• 1:57:11
  Speaker 1: only know what he's writing in.
• 1:57:13
  Speaker 3: Oh for sure, for sure, I think he's looking for
• 1:57:16
  Speaker 3: help from us and I thought the email itself, I
• 1:57:19
  Speaker 3: thought was really worded in a way of like here's
• 1:57:21
  Speaker 3: the situation. It's not really much biased to it. Like
• 1:57:24
  Speaker 3: I can I can feel the tensity. H Yeah, there's
• 1:57:26
  Speaker 3: a lot of angles you can go. The biggest one
• 1:57:28
  Speaker 3: is communication.
• 1:57:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, starting to step one, just starting with wifey, Yeah,
• 1:57:32
  Speaker 1: get one email the show, step two.
• 1:57:34
  Speaker 2: And if there's anything about this podcast that I've learned
• 1:57:38
  Speaker 2: is that, like everybody has opinions on really difficult stuff
• 1:57:45
  Speaker 2: to talk about. And so like with in laws, there
• 1:57:48
  Speaker 2: is probably somebody listening to the show right now going
• 1:57:52
  Speaker 2: this this guy's freaking out over nothing, like my mom
• 1:57:56
  Speaker 2: lives at our house or you know, blah blah blah, Like.
• 1:57:58
  Speaker 1: Somebody might not have any laws. It's like, man, what
• 1:58:01
  Speaker 1: a blessing it is? Heaving in what a but yeah.
• 1:58:03
  Speaker 3: Are stayed with us for two months there, Cat's parents
• 1:58:07
  Speaker 3: stayed with us, and it was awesome. But we knew
• 1:58:09
  Speaker 3: the time, and we had a conversation up front before
• 1:58:12
  Speaker 3: about if it extends, here's what needs to happen. If
• 1:58:15
  Speaker 3: it's shortened, here's what needs to happen. So communication, good colms,
• 1:58:19
  Speaker 3: good coms. It's all calmed and you're right too. It's
• 1:58:21
  Speaker 3: like somebody lays up something where they're seeking advice. We're
• 1:58:24
  Speaker 3: not like an advice giving show on a on a
• 1:58:28
  Speaker 3: lot of a lot of things. We just kind of
• 1:58:29
  Speaker 3: talk about what goes on in our lives and in
• 1:58:31
  Speaker 3: our worlds. Yeah, that's one where it's like there could
• 1:58:33
  Speaker 3: be so many different opinions.
• 1:58:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:58:37
  Speaker 2: And then also that selfish part of him that probably
• 1:58:39
  Speaker 2: wants to hear that that's that's fucking crazy.
• 1:58:42
  Speaker 1: You're right, yeah, that is like you want to get
• 1:58:44
  Speaker 1: in the garage back, yo, that's fucking the nuts, man,
• 1:58:47
  Speaker 1: Like for another month?
• 1:58:48
  Speaker 2: Are you fucking giddy? She does let you take your
• 1:58:51
  Speaker 2: shut off in the living room. Yeah, and she overstays
• 1:58:55
  Speaker 2: that that's bullshit. You're right for being pissed off. That's
• 1:58:58
  Speaker 2: your house, man, that's your house. You're the man at
• 1:59:03
  Speaker 2: that house. She's trying to push you around.
• 1:59:06
  Speaker 1: You're gonna let her do that in your house.
• 1:59:08
  Speaker 2: Man, Just drink a lot of stuff that make you burpy,
• 1:59:12
  Speaker 2: lot of stuff that make you fat, and just kind
• 1:59:14
  Speaker 2: of hang around it.
• 1:59:16
  Speaker 1: My wife would never.
• 1:59:17
  Speaker 2: Do something like that, Like I know how I'd handle it,
• 1:59:21
  Speaker 2: but my wife wouldn't even go there because she knows
• 1:59:25
  Speaker 2: I got a trade. I gotta I nipped that real quick. Yeah,
• 1:59:32
  Speaker 2: I've heard about that whole thing. I nipped that real quick.
• 1:59:36
  Speaker 1: There you go. We gave you that. Ye give you
• 1:59:38
  Speaker 1: that too. There you go. Good said great, So did
• 1:59:44
  Speaker 1: you the brave? Yeah?
• 1:59:45
  Speaker 2: Updated the brave to be the brave? Will had an
• 1:59:51
  Speaker 2: al Teimer. By the way, I heard a lot of
• 1:59:53
  Speaker 2: laughter that was like.
• 1:59:54
  Speaker 1: What was the ald timer to hit the bongstead of
• 1:59:57
  Speaker 1: hit the gong and hit the dog. Oh he it's
• 2:00:00
  Speaker 1: a hit the bond. He's sick. Hey, you want to
• 2:00:03
  Speaker 1: hit the lesson? You want to hit the lesson?
• 2:00:05
  Speaker 2: We can roll, yes, sir, I already kind of said,
• 2:00:08
  Speaker 2: mind of the why do we fall?
• 2:00:10
  Speaker 1: To learn how to get back up? But oh just
• 2:00:13
  Speaker 1: a simple quote.
• 2:00:14
  Speaker 2: That was my simple quote by what's the butler's name
• 2:00:19
  Speaker 2: in Batman? Oh my gosh, yeah, Alfred Alfred.
• 2:00:22
  Speaker 1: I got one here from the Daily Dad. I got
• 2:00:25
  Speaker 1: to have a awesome subscription that you can subscribe to
• 2:00:29
  Speaker 1: via email. This one came across a few days ago,
• 2:00:33
  Speaker 1: but it's around like time being fleeting. Obviously, you know
• 2:00:37
  Speaker 1: that sometime were on their late teens early twenties, they'll
• 2:00:39
  Speaker 1: move out obviously, you know that in their mid teens,
• 2:00:42
  Speaker 1: they're probably they'll probably start driving. These are big milestones,
• 2:00:46
  Speaker 1: moments when you suddenly, heartbreakingly you'll get to see so
• 2:00:49
  Speaker 1: much less of them because they'll be independent, because they'll
• 2:00:52
  Speaker 1: be in control. But maybe probably this will all happen
• 2:00:56
  Speaker 1: even sooner than you think, Well before they're sixteen, and
• 2:01:00
  Speaker 1: they'll be riding their bike to their friend's houses. Well
• 2:01:02
  Speaker 1: before sixteen, they'll be basically living at their friend's houses.
• 2:01:06
  Speaker 1: We all wrongly think of these milestones as point of
• 2:01:08
  Speaker 1: our kids, as points of our kids will reach some day,
• 2:01:12
  Speaker 1: as opposed to transitions that are already ongoing. We all
• 2:01:16
  Speaker 1: think we have more time than we do. We are
• 2:01:18
  Speaker 1: losing our children right now. They are moving out and
• 2:01:22
  Speaker 1: on as you read this, they are pulling away, becoming
• 2:01:24
  Speaker 1: independent from the very moment they start to crawl. Don't
• 2:01:28
  Speaker 1: fool yourself. You're not losing You're not losing them someday
• 2:01:32
  Speaker 1: in the future. You are, in fact losing them now
• 2:01:34
  Speaker 1: every day. It's ongoing. So be present, be here with
• 2:01:37
  Speaker 1: them in the moment, every moment. They're growing up before
• 2:01:40
  Speaker 1: your eyes. Make sure you see it. Boom and he
• 2:01:47
  Speaker 1: talks about this medallion, tempest fugit, fujit a tempes fugit. Yeah,
• 2:01:54
  Speaker 1: appreciating the fleeting time aayway, Just another one, just to
• 2:01:59
  Speaker 1: remind ever out there, we all got kids growing up,
• 2:02:01
  Speaker 1: we all got things going on, we all got stresses
• 2:02:03
  Speaker 1: in our lives. Yeah, enjoy all the little moments, man,
• 2:02:07
  Speaker 1: enjoy them. Uh maybe for Everlea.
• 2:02:10
  Speaker 2: Some pink cards, just to shout out everly in the comments.
• 2:02:13
  Speaker 1: Pink cards, man, some pink cards.
• 2:02:16
  Speaker 9: Bong maybe if there's a bong emoj the bog in there.
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  Speaker 1: I love you guys. They got your trash