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What's wrong? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about the phrase, what's wrong?
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  And this is something that we as human beings tend to use an
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  awful lot. I know, I was raised in a
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  household where my mother would walk in a room and I would be
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  sitting there I look up at her and she'd say what's wrong.
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  And she always had this sense of impending doom and it seems very
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  dramatic to say it that way, but it is very, very true.
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  Her sense of impending doom was huge.
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  And she had just a an air about her where she constantly looked
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  for what's wrong. And I really I can't stress
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  enough how that affected me growing up because my father was
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  the exact opposite, my father would walk in and always be
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  Smiles. Hey, what's shakin, what's going
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  on? What are you doing?
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  He always had great things to say and always had a huge smile
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  on his face. And I grew up in this absolute
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  opposite environment. And I've talked about it before
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  about how fortunate I was to have the absolute opposites to
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  cultivate me, but this question of what's wrong keeps coming up
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  and coming up and coming up in our lives.
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  The other day, I happened to be in a store and I was watching
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  family and the mother kept saying to the child, what's
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  wrong, what's wrong? And you No, obviously.
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  It's a it's a push to get you to tell you that you had a person
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  to tell you something but what if there's really nothing wrong,
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  what if you're just sitting there and you're not even
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  thinking about anything, what if you're just being the kid in
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  that moment or the person in that moment and there really is
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  nothing wrong. There's just a, you know, I'm
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  not thinking about anything moment, what does that do to
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  you? What does that do to your
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  hardwiring? How does that make your brain
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  shift into looking for something that's wrong all the time?
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  Well, It's huge and human. Beings are automatically,
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  hardwired to seek and see what's wrong for safety purposes.
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  It's just part of our dynamic in survival, basic survival, things
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  are to see what's wrong, so you can fix them and you can then
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  continue on. But when you push it that way,
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  it means, everything comes into Focus under that umbrella.
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  So if we go back to, who's driving your bus as a metaphor
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  again and we Say. What emotion is driving at that?
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  Well, it comes from the fear side of things.
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  It could be fear. It could be anxiety, it could
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  be, you know, just having this sense of Ali's all the time.
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  It could be that you're on edge, whatever the emotion is,
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  however, it shows up, it it's all predicated, from that sense
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  of fear, deep down inside about something must be wrong.
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  How many of you have had a situation in your life where
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  things are going? So well, Everything is going so
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  well, so well, so well. And then all of a sudden, you
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  say to yourself. Well, this has been going too
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  good for too long. Something must be going to go
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  wrong and boom. All of a sudden, something goes
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  wrong. Well, that's not an accident
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  that, that those things start to show up because your focus
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  shifts and then you start to look for what's wrong.
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  And then you make it show up by focusing on what's wrong?
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  We get in these energies and these emotions and you can't
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  help, but have those things show, Oh up when you're focused
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  on him all the time. So it is a critical piece of
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  your well-being to recognize how much you look for what's wrong
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  versus what's great? You know, how many times have
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  you sat down in the last month? Let's say, and that's not even
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  go that far a week. Maybe even a day when you said,
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  hey, what's great about today? I mean, when I ask that question
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  of clients, the answer I get is I haven't done it enough or I
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  haven't done it or it seems to slip my memory or I don't really
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  think about it that much of course you don't because when
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  you get into your doer mode and you're just there and you're
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  grinding. Oh every single day you just
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  cranking and grinding clanking and grinding doing the work.
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  You're not paying attention to that piece and it's detrimental
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  to your well-being because you're skipping the parts that
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  create the energy. Why?
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  Because remember emotion creates energy and vice versa and having
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  that energy is what attracts things to you remember, like
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  attracts. Like so if you're looking for
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  the Doom and Gloom, if you're looking for what's wrong, you
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  will always find it. My mother always found a healthy
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  source of what was wrong. Her friends would call and tell
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  her who died. She'd have all these things.
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  She'd find it work to complain about she'd come home and she'd
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  have the saddest face. She'd walk.
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  The door and I'd say how was your day?
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  And she's like, just like yesterday.
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  I'd be like okay, why do I even want to have a conversation with
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  her about it all weekend? Friday, she'd be happy because
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  she was done and at the end when she came home from work and by
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  Saturday morning she'd say only one more day and then back to
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  the grind and then some you know Sunday night, she'd be in that
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  whole mode of just getting ready for the next day, not excited
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  about it. Just focusing on being back to
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  the grind and then she'd come home from work.
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  On Monday and she would always say, how was your day, those
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  terrible, this happened. This happened.
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  This happened, Not only would she complain about stuff for
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  herself, she complain about stuff for other people, and she
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  talked about it all the time, and she had a very good friend
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  who happens. I happen to consider an adopted
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  Aunt who I still have the gift of having on this planet with me
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  and she was the happiest person. And she would always say to me,
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  I don't know why she's like that.
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  I don't know why she's like that.
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  And she is the exact opposite of it, but somehow they were
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  friends, I think just for years. Maybe they were friends when
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  they were kids to, but I just did there and I say to myself
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  holy cow, how could it have gotten to that point?
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  Because I know it's some point. She had to have been a happy
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  person, she had to have not always been like that at least.
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  I hope that was the case and I I look back and I say gosh that
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  one phrase now that I know what I know could have just been
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  eliminated. I bet a lot of her work.
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  L would have changed. So I'm going to challenge you to
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  go out today and find how many times you are using what's
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  wrong, and what you're looking at, and how we can change that
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  because that will have a distinct distinct winning shift
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  in your life if you can do it. So, I hope you guys have a great
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  day and go find, what's great? Instead of what's wrong?
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  Take care. Bye.
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  L would have changed. So I'm going to challenge you to
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  go out today and find how many times you are using what's
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  wrong, and what you're looking at, and how we can change that
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  because that will have a distinct distinct winning shift
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  in your life if you can do it. So, I hope you guys have a great
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  day and go find, what's great? Instead of what's wrong?
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  Take care. Bye.