Why "Holy" Men Make Lazy Husbands (A Father of 9 Explains)

The Catholic Gentleman · Aug 20, 2026 · 59m

A man decides he is serious about his faith, and somewhere along the way that becomes the reason he stops trying. His work is sloppy, his day is unstructured, and his wife carries the house while he tells himself he is just not attached to worldly things. He is not being humble, he's using God as cover, and the men around him can see it even when he cannot.

Today we sit down with JJ Sanford, a father of nine and the president of the University of Dallas, to talk about the excuse Catholic men keep reaching for. We discuss why magnanimity and humility are sister virtues rather than opposites…