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BONUS: Keep Calm And Carry On · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hella, my Loves. Welcome to the bonus episode of the
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  Speaker 1: Get Them a La Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: T oh Hey.
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  Speaker 1: So I was thinking of questions that I had for
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  Speaker 1: you guys for the bonus and today's. I wanted to know, basically,
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  Speaker 1: how do you, as an adult or a parent react
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  Speaker 1: in an emergency type situation, whether it's evacuation, your kid
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  Speaker 1: got hurt. I wanted to know it all. And I
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  Speaker 1: actually got some really good responses, but also some really
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  Speaker 1: funny ones. And you'd be shocked at how many people
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  Speaker 1: just say, my parental intuition kicks in and I'm like okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I had a lot of those, but then other
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  Speaker 1: people who were like, I don't I freak. I completely freaking.
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  Speaker 2: Depends on the situation it happens to you, mom babies,
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  Speaker 2: I'm good, like I can be calm and go okay
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  Speaker 2: A to b to see, let's get us there right.
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  Speaker 2: If it happens to me, it's flustered, fetal position and
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  Speaker 2: whatever happens happens.
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  Speaker 1: Cause some people do short circuit. Oh that's me in
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  Speaker 1: situations where you have to make.
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  Speaker 2: A split decision. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So this actually took me back to I think Ocean
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  Speaker 1: was probably a year and some months and we were
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  Speaker 1: at the apartment still and there was so little room
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  Speaker 1: between like the dresser and the bed, and I was
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  Speaker 1: worried that she was going to fall off the bed
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  Speaker 1: and she because she was very close to the edge.
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  Speaker 1: And keep in mind, I was right there so and
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  Speaker 1: she's standing, so I tell her, Ocean, you have to,
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  Speaker 1: you know, move farther onto the bed. Mom was literally
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  Speaker 1: sitting on the bed as well, and she looks at me,
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  Speaker 1: and I think she's going to start walking from close
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  Speaker 1: to where she is at the edge of the bed
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  Speaker 1: to the middle of the bed and instead, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of like holding her hands slightly to help her,
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  Speaker 1: and she looks at me and gives me like this
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  Speaker 1: devious little grin and jumps to sit back. But she
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  Speaker 1: was close to the edge, so when she went to
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  Speaker 1: jump and fall on her bum you go backwards a little,
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  Speaker 1: she was basically, you know, falling to the ground and
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  Speaker 1: I tried my best to catch her, but she hit
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  Speaker 1: the floor. And keep in mind, this is an apartment
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  Speaker 1: with like it's basically concrete with like linoleum. There's no
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  Speaker 1: cushion or anything like that. It's basically a tile floor
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  Speaker 1: that's meant to look like wood. They call it these days,
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  Speaker 1: to make it sound more bougie, they call it pet
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  Speaker 1: friendly flooring. So she falls and hits that floor right here,
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  Speaker 1: and she screams. And I'm panicking because this is the
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  Speaker 1: first fall off of the bed, and you hear like
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  Speaker 1: kids are gonna fall off the bed. Please make sure
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  Speaker 1: to guard your stairs because that is a terrifying trap.
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  Speaker 1: And I thought I was doing so well to get
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  Speaker 1: her to a year and some change without having anything
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  Speaker 1: horrendous happen. So I'm freaking out and trying to console
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  Speaker 1: her as she screams, and all of the sudden, she
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  Speaker 1: stops crying and I have her like this against me,
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  Speaker 1: and I lean her back, and you guys, she's dead weight.
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  Speaker 1: Her eyes are rolling into the back of her head.
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  Speaker 1: I'm screaming at my mom. Call nine one one, Call
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  Speaker 1: nine one one, my mother. What was maybe thirty seconds
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  Speaker 1: felt like an eternity. My mom had a phone in
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  Speaker 1: her hand and she didn't know what to do with it.
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  Speaker 1: She completely froze, and I, for the first I cannot
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  Speaker 1: believe that I handled this situation like I did. And
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  Speaker 1: that's why I kind of relate to people who were saying,
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  Speaker 1: you know you're your MoMA. Intuition kind of kicks in
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  Speaker 1: because I took the phone from my mom. For some reason,
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  Speaker 1: I remembered the past code dialed nine one one. I
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  Speaker 1: was completely calm, told them the exact address, and as
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  Speaker 1: she's trying to the dispatcher is trying to like cut
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  Speaker 1: me off, is what I felt. I said, you have
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  Speaker 1: to listen to me. There are multiple entries to my
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  Speaker 1: building you must enter at this point. You must use
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  Speaker 1: this code to get in, like I gave. I've never
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  Speaker 1: given that precisive direction to someone who was like to
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  Speaker 1: my postmates, guy, like you blacked.
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  Speaker 2: Out and just everything that needed to be known you knew,
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  Speaker 2: and you just said yes.
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  Speaker 1: And she was saying, you know they're coming by siren,
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  Speaker 1: you will hear them. And I was like, I'm at
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  Speaker 1: this point, I'm like, I don't hear anything. I don't
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  Speaker 1: hear anything, and I'm looking at Ocean and she's kind
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  Speaker 1: of coming to and I was asking Ocean questions at
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  Speaker 1: that point, how old are you? What's your name? And
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  Speaker 1: I just you know, she was very young, so she
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  Speaker 1: didn't have her vocabulary wasn't the same as what I
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  Speaker 1: would ask now, I did end up having them take
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  Speaker 1: us by ambulance to make sure that nothing was happening
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  Speaker 1: that I couldn't actually see. And in that ride, she
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  Speaker 1: was singing rocket Man and the guy was like, I
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  Speaker 1: think she's totally fine, but I understand why you want
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  Speaker 1: to take her. Uh, And that's how I responded in
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  Speaker 1: that moment. But I couldn't. I truly couldn't believe it.
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  Speaker 2: No, but you've done that a lot of times. I
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  Speaker 2: even feel like when we were in you know, high school,
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  Speaker 2: and things would happen. Dad was very good, but I
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  Speaker 2: remember like things happening even in Saint George or Lake Powell. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I was younger, but like when Dad would say something,
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  Speaker 2: I do remember you being the help, his help and
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  Speaker 2: not freezing. And I don't know, I don't feel like
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  Speaker 2: a freezer. I don't know if I've been in a
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  Speaker 2: lot of things, but I am mollum. Yeah, so I
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  Speaker 2: might be.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, she was staring at you.
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  Speaker 2: You've done it. You've done it many times before. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I think I black out. You do blackout.
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  Speaker 2: It's just you. You go with just your intuition and
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  Speaker 2: everything else, and you just black out and do it. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, totally. This person said, I have to remind myself
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  Speaker 1: I am setting an example for them, for her kids.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes that's hard though, in the moment, when you're in
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  Speaker 1: an emergency situation and it's fight or flight, I personally
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  Speaker 1: the last thing on my mind is I need to
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  Speaker 1: set an example. But again, it depends on what you're
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  Speaker 1: going through. I used to flip my shit as a
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  Speaker 1: knee jerk reaction. Now I am just heavily medicated. I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of moms will relate to that, or
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  Speaker 1: just adults without children, just life gets a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, lie, oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: Well you kind of just not by choice. Uh, you
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  Speaker 1: have no other choice as a parent. I think it's instinct.
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  Speaker 1: Our children feel what we feel. That's the other thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of like when your kid falls down and
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  Speaker 1: they look at you to see how you're going to
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  Speaker 1: go to react.
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  Speaker 2: And I will say, your reactions are always over the top.
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  Speaker 2: Wait really, oh my gosha, Like if something happens to
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  Speaker 2: ocean and right when you do that, your reaction makes
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  Speaker 2: her react before so.
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  Speaker 1: Sa even yeah, because sometimes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I really will, because there's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: times where like something will happen and you'll overreact. But
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  Speaker 2: it's hard because you're the parent as well, so it's
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  Speaker 2: like you want a comfort, but you also don't want
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  Speaker 2: to do it. So it's like, ah, you blackout in
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  Speaker 2: that month, it just you overreact.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I also need my mind goes a million miles
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  Speaker 1: ahead of like how bad it could have been, So
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  Speaker 1: I need her to understand in that moment we cannot
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  Speaker 1: do that again, because even just a slight fall, I
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  Speaker 1: immediately go to an intrusive thought of oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: she could have snapped her neck this way, but she
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  Speaker 1: realized died but she didn't, but she could have.
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  Speaker 2: Because now I have to tell her every time I
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  Speaker 2: watch her it's Freeman's game.
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  Speaker 1: Oh lovely, she fell.
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  Speaker 2: Many a time in her Yes, she's great. She plays
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  Speaker 2: in her playroom, but like she'll be on her tramp
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  Speaker 2: doing something and I'll be like, no, she's going to fall,
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  Speaker 2: and boy does she fall. And every time I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm just not looking, she'll look immediately at me, and
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  Speaker 2: after I don't stare geriff reel, she'll slowly get up
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  Speaker 2: and move things to act like she didn't fall.
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  Speaker 1: All I think about is if we reinjure those teeth,
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  Speaker 1: they're going to turn flat, they're falling out.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, she's got a new set coming.
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  Speaker 1: In damage to the real root. Weirdly, I lose all
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  Speaker 1: emotion and just go into work mode. Very weird. And
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  Speaker 1: when I look back, heartless, question mark, I don't think
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  Speaker 1: that that's no.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm going to say that you being heartless. I
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  Speaker 2: guess if that's what we're gonna call it in those moments,
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  Speaker 2: that's you putting on your mask first. Yeah, you being
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  Speaker 2: heartless is getting a lot of people through it because
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  Speaker 2: some people don't need to hear. Some people just need
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  Speaker 2: to be told, like you gotta do it.
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  Speaker 1: My gay like you, they freeze.
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  Speaker 2: It's nice. You don't need to do anything. You just
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  Speaker 2: need to get everybody a to b And if you
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  Speaker 2: gotta be heartless to do it, it's because those people
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  Speaker 2: need that reaction.
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  Speaker 1: I have so much running through my mind right now.
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  Speaker 2: No, I really do like this because I'm thinking about
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  Speaker 2: a lot of the things, and the more I think
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  Speaker 2: about it, the more I don't freeze. But like, there's
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  Speaker 2: a lot of the times where I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what to do, so I just start doing a
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  Speaker 2: lot of nothing.
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  Speaker 1: But something makes sense that sounds like not a lot
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  Speaker 1: of help.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: Oh great, so.
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  Speaker 2: It's just I freeze, but I don't freeze, Okay, you
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  Speaker 2: get it, Like I'm just sporadic.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I p we never have to find out
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  Speaker 1: you're like this person said, you don't you fake it
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  Speaker 1: for the kids and panic internally. Mom of three, including
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  Speaker 1: a four month old, that's a lot when you have
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  Speaker 1: an infant that can't even that can barely they just
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  Speaker 1: learned to like hold their own head up. Could you
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  Speaker 1: imagine being in a situation where it is your job
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  Speaker 1: to rally everyone in your household in the emergency situation
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  Speaker 1: on top.
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  Speaker 2: Of keeping composure.
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  Speaker 1: I just it can't be done. Simply cannot be done.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm telling you a mom's I mean, moms is
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  Speaker 2: that's a hard job. It's the hardest job in the
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  Speaker 2: world to be a mom.
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  Speaker 1: It's also very exhausting.
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  Speaker 2: I can tell I'm catching it. I get the secondhand exhaustment.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes when I look at myself, I go, you do
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  Speaker 1: look like one of those moms who's just like.
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  Speaker 2: Fuck it, and isn't it a great place to be?
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  Speaker 1: You know, sometimes I'd like to remind myself that I
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  Speaker 1: like I wore a heel the other night, and I was.
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  Speaker 2: Like a baby tear. I'm like, what are they gonna
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  Speaker 2: start practicing?
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  Speaker 1: My knees are aching, literally mortifying. I was like walking
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  Speaker 1: up the stairs like praying that the door guy didn't
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  Speaker 1: look at me like this stupid homely bitch you wear. No,
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  Speaker 1: that's the whole point. I've got to get out of
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  Speaker 1: the sweatshirts and out of like I actually felt really
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  Speaker 1: cute and OHI when I like pulled myself together enough
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  Speaker 1: with like an off the shoulder sweater, like a pair
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  Speaker 1: of jeans that are actually in style now I think
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  Speaker 1: they had a rip in them, which I think is
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  Speaker 1: not in style anymore. But I can't keep up.
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  Speaker 2: Fully, No, there's just I wear what I have.
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  Speaker 1: Think of being a child again, How if things were
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  Speaker 1: handled calmly, I wouldn't have anxiety today. Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I'm stressing now. Am I causing my children anxiety? I
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  Speaker 1: hope not. I try to be calm. We spoke about
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  Speaker 1: this on the last episode of or No a few
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  Speaker 1: episodes back. How I've learned the parenting tools that Ocean needs.
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  Speaker 2: That really dug into me.
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  Speaker 1: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 2: I was trying to think of like all of the
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  Speaker 2: back things that happened with mom and dad that like
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  Speaker 2: we're stressful events that did they cause me stresses?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to say something that's probably going to
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  Speaker 1: be a super unpopular opinion and I may get dragged
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  Speaker 1: for it, but I'm okay with it. Every single person
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  Speaker 1: on the planet so it is going to require a
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  Speaker 1: different set of skills and parents do the best they can.
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  Speaker 2: It's just nice to maybe understand where you're at. I can't.
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  Speaker 2: Here's it. Yeah, I'm not I'm not saying like, oh
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  Speaker 2: I am okay to feel this way because my mom
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  Speaker 2: and dad. Right, I'm saying it's fun to see that
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  Speaker 2: maybe things that happened have made me this way, and
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  Speaker 2: now I can start to understand that these situations betray
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  Speaker 2: you the anxiety.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I like that. Yeah, but you know what I do?
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  Speaker 1: You like putting? Anytime someone writes in this says put
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  Speaker 1: the shoe on the other foot, what did you need?
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  Speaker 1: It's like when we spoke to Jenna and I said,
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  Speaker 1: Ocean requires this set of parenting skills. She needs to
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  Speaker 1: be spoken too calmly. Jenna immediately said, is that how
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  Speaker 1: you need to be spoken? To and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, maybe that is true, because what happens
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  Speaker 1: is when someone tries to get hyphi with me or someone,
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  Speaker 1: I see their anxiety level rise.
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  Speaker 2: You match energy, I do match energy.
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  Speaker 1: I hate that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're an energy. Yeah so if well, that's how
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  Speaker 2: I've started to both of you. You and love oh no,
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  Speaker 2: when we are very rare. But when you, guys, when
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  Speaker 2: stuff is starting to pile up and you start attacking
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  Speaker 2: me or I attack you, like, I go, oh god, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: oh god.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so good at feeling overwhelmed and being like and it's.
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  Speaker 2: All your God. And that's the other thing is like,
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  Speaker 2: why you shit on the counter.
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  Speaker 1: He kind of wiped it off.
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  Speaker 2: That was last night.
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  Speaker 1: The second because it didn't happen. This person's I call
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  Speaker 1: my mom relatable. I don't need to call it. Your
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  Speaker 1: calling of the mom is probably dialing. I go mom, mom,
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  Speaker 1: No for real. United separated my then three and a
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  Speaker 1: half year old from me on a flight from o'hairtool Orlando.
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  Speaker 1: How yeah, because that's not a lap child anymore. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that's not okay, and I think I would
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  Speaker 1: have lost it and been removed from this is craped.
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  Speaker 2: So they had to sit away from each other on
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  Speaker 2: the plane. My thing is, if I was on that plane,
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  Speaker 2: I would have been like next to her, I would
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  Speaker 2: have said, your child is not near you. I will
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  Speaker 2: I won't know where your child is. And I would
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  Speaker 2: assume whoever the child's seat was in or the guy
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  Speaker 2: was in the middle, like you should have been like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: let's just swap like to me.
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  Speaker 1: That sometimes I people on volumes.
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  Speaker 2: About the people on the plane.
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  Speaker 1: No, you guys. I was flying back from Salt Lake
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  Speaker 1: to LA. My dad had just died. My mom and
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to sit together aka drink together, and this
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  Speaker 1: guy wouldn't fucking move.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So the other.
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  Speaker 1: No was in a middle seat, and so this nice
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  Speaker 1: woman and her husband they ended up separating, and so
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  Speaker 1: Mom and I could sit together.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, this guy, you fucking I won't forget.
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  Speaker 2: I was flying from Miami to South Carolina. Was uh,
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  Speaker 2: I was coming back to LA. Yeah, but from Miami
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  Speaker 2: to South Carolina there were there was two people in
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  Speaker 2: first class that wanted to sit by each other. No
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  Speaker 2: one would move, and so they went to two people
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  Speaker 2: in just like Delta comfort and gave them there too,
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  Speaker 2: so they could sit next to each other. Cute, right,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, that is cute.
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  Speaker 1: I have to say I've done that before. One of
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  Speaker 1: the only times that but I did. We gave up
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  Speaker 1: first class because you.
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  Speaker 2: Want to say yeah, but like that's the thing I
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  Speaker 2: I When somebody needs my seat and I'm like I
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  Speaker 2: can give it, I feel so great. I'll be walking
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  Speaker 2: on the plane like people are looking at me like
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  Speaker 2: I'm a nice guy.
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  Speaker 1: You an I don't. Unfortunately, when it comes to my kids,
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  Speaker 1: I definitely can't seem to stay calm, even when I'm
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  Speaker 1: an ex emergency officer.
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  Speaker 2: I know why. Why Because kids don't fucking listen.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that is. I want to do a bonus where
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  Speaker 1: there's like different parenting techniques. I want to have someone
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  Speaker 1: come on to talk about like each set of skills
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  Speaker 1: that are you know, put into a box that maybe
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  Speaker 1: your child requires.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like uh, five sets of skills, and like you
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  Speaker 2: try each one with your child to see what if they.
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  Speaker 1: Respond to that. Yes, science says your voice a mama's
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  Speaker 1: voice can be child's calm. I'm thirty three and it's
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  Speaker 1: still true for me.
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  Speaker 2: How crazy that I know? I do too, and I
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  Speaker 2: never pictured it, even like just the phone call of
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  Speaker 2: like to mom when I was going through it, like
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  Speaker 2: just her voice would reset me. But I never understood.
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  Speaker 1: That that's your mama, not a mom, just an ADHD adult.
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  Speaker 1: I personally get very angry and yell at everyone so
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  Speaker 1: relatable same you and me both, and that's a set
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  Speaker 1: of I want to say. I won't call them skills
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  Speaker 1: because sometimes I feel.
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  Speaker 2: Like it is well. I want to know if they're
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  Speaker 2: medicated for their ADHD, because I am not medicated for
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  Speaker 2: my ADHD. I have been. I like not being on
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: its personal decisions, but I like not being on like
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  Speaker 2: adderall or vibeance. I don't like the way it makes
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: me feel. So I really am just freelancing ADHD out here,
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: and I get the same way. I don't know why.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: There's just spurts of like, oh you fucking need to
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: yell at someone or something, and then like time goes
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: by and then I forget that. Wow, it's fun in
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: this brand, it's a circus.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: I like people who yell it's great like this Larry David.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: Kind of because I that's who I aspire to be.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: Sadly, I rely on my husband. He was a firefighter
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: slash EMT and I pray he's around if an emergency happens.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: Number one, thank you to your husband for what he does. Yes,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: what he does, And I feel like that really would
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: bring so much calmness.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: Also, I bet he's way hot.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just like you look at that no matter what's
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: going on, you look at a man who is just
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: face to face with a fire and you're like, it
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: can't all right, it can't be that.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: First of all, thank you for what you do. She's
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: looking at him. And when you get back, I really
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: would love to fuck you.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: Climb you like a tree. Climb you like the tree
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: you put out.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: Take a deep breath and hold back my reaction because
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I know the second I show fear it's over, you're
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: on the whole household in arms badly. When my grandpa fell,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: I broke his wrist, my husband had to yell yell
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: at me more than once to call nine one one.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: That's Lisa, where I was like, call nine one one,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: call nine one one, just sitting there. I'm as a
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: wife of a first responder, whenever my husband is in
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: a fire or call, I pray first and focus on
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: our son. A men to that, and thank you for
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: what your husband does. Yes, I go extremely calm. My
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: son got a toy hook in his eye, and inside
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: I was panicking, but I had to be calm, and
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: I just picked him up and looked at my friend
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: and said, I'll call.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Like an actual like fish hook or like just like
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: a little play plast.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Looked at my friend and said I'll call you, and
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: drove straight to the hospital. I've had situations where I've
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: had to put Ocean in the car due to like
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: a sickness, and it's the most terrifying thing to put
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: a hurt or sick child into the back of the
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: car where you have no eyes on them except for
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: maybe like a little mirror, and then you think about
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: them strapped in there and if you need to get
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: them out quickly, it's just a montage of shit.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: That, like you just said, not being able to see him,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: and like he's got a hook in his eye and
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: you don't want him to touch his own eye, so
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: you're that's shout out to the mama.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: I work at a hospital, so I see this stuff,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: but when it's my kid, Nope, I lose it. I
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: think that that's totally relatable. Usually cry and then take
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: them for a treat. And play their favorite songs.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Taking that in our arsenal.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they get like really upset about something, would you
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: like a cooking and some Taylor Swift shake it off.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: That's a way to get them right out of their
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: own feelings. My girls are nineteen and seventeen, and I
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: still act a fool. Yeah, probably because at that age
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: they're now like stealing the car and shit.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: Mom still acts a fool.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: Mom does act a fool. We're gonna end it with
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: this mama who says two hundred milligrams of zoloft, because
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I find that to be very very funny in any situation,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: depending on what it is. I think that it is
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: something in you that you're either born with or you
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: work really hard because there is nothing you can do
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: in an emergency situation.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: You're either born with it or you've dealt with so
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: much emergency you're now equipped for it.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because even though your brain is like I need
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: to move my hand to dial this, but I can't
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: remember the number to nine one one, I get it.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So thank you guys for writing into the
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: podcast page. The YouTube video is up as well. Today.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: You can follow us at Give Them La La Pod.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I love you guys, and I will catch you for
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: a regular old episode on Wednesday. Bye bye,