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Juliet Mayhew: Real Housewives of London, Reinvention & Finding Yourself at 49 · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  The unstoppable hat just for you.
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  I am so honored because, yes, we are unstoppable, aren't we?
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  This is like the best time of midlift.
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  I kind of feel like it's my new glow up, my new time of blossoming.
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  I think I'm old enough and ugly enough to not give two hoots anymore.
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  And that is refreshing.
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  It's faith over fear.
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  And why not just give it your best shot?
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  Particularly in midlife when many women can feel like they're fading away, you know, like really feeling like you deserve that spot and going for it, you know, there's nothing that should be holding you back.
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  I agree.
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  Foot on the throttle, max capacity.
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  If I crash, I crash.
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  But at least I'm giving it a best shot.
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  I'm not slowing down anytime soon.
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  While there is breath in my lungs, baby, I am going for it.
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  Yes, that is such a good motto for midlife too.
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  Today's guest is proof that your next act might just be your most interesting one yet.
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  At 49, Juliet Mayhew is stepping into a whole new spotlight as one of the stars of of the Real Housewives of London.
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  But reality TV is only one chapter in a life that has already included the West End recording with the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra, Entrepreneurship, marriage, motherhood, and now a return to performing.
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  And this new chapter hasn't come without some noise.
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  Juliet has found herself at the center of questions about friendship, ambition, authenticity, and whether she belongs in certain rooms.
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  But what happens when you reach midlife and decide you're done letting other people decide who you're supposed to be?
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  Today, Juliet and I are talking about her children, telling her it was finally her turn to return to shine.
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  What reinvention can do in a long term marriage.
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  Being misunderstood by other women, reclaiming the dreams you thought you left behind.
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  And of course, what we can expect from the Real Housewives of London Season 2.
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  This is Juliet Mayhew on the iconic Midlife.
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  Ms.
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  Juliet, welcome to the iconic Midlife.
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  I'm so excited to have you here.
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  I am so honored to be here.
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  It's so exciting.
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  The unstoppable hat just for you.
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  I am so honored because, yes, we are unstoppable, aren't we?
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  Like, yes, this is like the best time of midlife.
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  So how has midlife treated you as of late?
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  Well, you know what?
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  I think I'm living my best life.
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  You know what?
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  I just feel like, when do you get a chance in your mid late 40s to go back to your first love and get your mojo back In a craft that you train for and you kind of set aside
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  because.
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  Because you've been wife and mother for 20 years.
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  So I kind of feel like it's my new.
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  My new glow up, my new time of blossoming.
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  And, you know, I think I'm old enough and ugly enough to not give two hoots anymore.
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  And that is refreshing.
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  Do you know what I mean?
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  We just get to the point where we're like, you do you, I do me, and it's gotta look very different to how other people see or put on you how you should be.
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  And so as long as I'm kind of, you know, being honest and truthful with myself, acting with integrity, still staying in my main roles, which is wife and mother, which is so important, you know, keeping my true north.
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  And I feel like I'm firing on all cylinders.
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  Yes, 100%.
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  You know what else I find is so interesting?
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  I'm opening myself up to yes to saying yes to things that I may have not before.
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  You know, it's like keeping the door open.
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  I say yes to everything.
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  Does it even when you don't want to.
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  At times I think, you know what it's like.
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  I.
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  If it's fear that's driving you, I would say it's faith over fear.
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  And why not just give it your best shot?
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  Like, so when I say yes to everything, I mean that if opportunities come, I'm like, I'm not going to stop myself doing it because it's.
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  I would, I don't want to be.
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  Woulda, coulda, should have.
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  I want to say, you know what, you gave it a go.
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  You may have filled and flat in your face, but you know, pick yourself up again.
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  And you've learned through that.
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  And I'm teaching my children take risks every day.
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  And if I don't take a risk and I'm scared of saying yes because I'm fearful of failing.
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  Like, what sort of example is that showing them?
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  So I think there's something that kind of happens where you just think.
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  You stop caring what other people think and you just do it knowing this could be a last day on earth and you want to live at your best and give it your best.
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  And I think there's something.
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  I have a sustained energy which I, I see now is definitely from my father because he's abnormal.
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  And I just recently saw him in Australia.
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  I'm like, daddy, you do realize that we're not normal.
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  He started laughing.
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  I mean, he's 81, he's still working.
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  His mind is so astute.
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  He's.
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  He's got a routine.
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  He's up early, he goes through the day, he's exercising.
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  I feel like he has given me and my mother as well the best foundation of just being driven and motivated with purpose and, you know, always Kappa full and just going with a vision.
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  Yeah.
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  And just letting it.
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  Letting it guide him.
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  Right.
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  I.
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  Yeah.
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  There's verse in the month says when people have no vision, they perish.
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  And I feel like we today can get so stuck in navel gazing and on what everyone else is doing, looking left and right, and it just stalls you.
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  I think you just got to know where you're going and just go for it.
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  And to not give as many fucks.
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  Right.
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  About what everyone else thinks.
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  I'm like, why didn't I learn this lesson in life soon?
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  You know, it's like it almost had to be at this point that it really kind of came to me.
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  And I think it's something that just kind of happens as you get older.
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  You stop.
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  And I think, especially as an actor, you know, the insecurities that you have when you're rejected and you don't get the role.
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  And, you know, I trained, like, as an actor, singer, dancer, a triple threat, so you're constantly in comparison mode.
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  Like, why didn't I get it?
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  Am I too ugly?
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  Am I too thin?
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  Am I too fat?
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  Am I too tall?
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  Am I too small?
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  You know, am I too blonde?
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  You don't know.
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  Is it my est Freddie in like side to Me?
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  Is it I'm not English enough?
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  Or if I'm not, I'm not American enough or whatever.
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  You're constantly trying to find a reason why you don't fit.
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  And you just may not fit, but that's okay because you're unique and you're going to fit somewhere.
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  But it takes, I think, some maturity and a different perspective in life and just to see things through a different lens as opposed to a lens of self being, self critical, self belief.
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  Yeah, it is.
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  You're absolutely right about that.
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  And you mentioned a triple threat.
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  I mean, your history is amazing.
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  You've done the acting, you know, you've done the dancing and the singing.
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  You've also been a mom and a wife, and you weren't an entrepreneur.
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  You worn so many different hats.
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  But now, coming back to the show, the Real Housewives of London, do you feel like you're coming back to yourself in a way?
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  Like, in a way that you were originally, you know, intended?
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  Is there like a kind of, you know, coming back to yourself?
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  I Think you've hit the nail on the head.
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  I think I always felt that something like this was gonna happen, and I'm gonna get emotional.
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  I actually am feeling emotional, which is kind of crazy.
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  Like, you look back at your younger self, and it wasn't that I didn't feel that I'd arrived when I was wife and mother.
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  I felt like they're my best roles to date.
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  But you think all of this work that you've done and your training, and this is very different because it's reality.
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  But.
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  But I think being in front of a camera and on the world stage is not.
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  Is.
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  Is.
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  Is similar to what I was trained to do.
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  And I feel now, in some ways that had I been given this opportunity 20 years ago, I would not have navigated it well.
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  And I feel like it's all about timing.
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  I believe in God's timing.
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  I believe that, you know, for such a time as this, and I am very, very excited because I think I've had to live a life and lose and gain and go through pain and hardship and rejection and have
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  incredible moments of celebration.
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  And, you know, it's tough being a mommy and a wife in some.
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  You know, there's highs and lows to those relationships, but those things have made me who I am.
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  Those things have given me a sense of purpose and direction.
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  And I think I'm better now in the role that I'm playing in my life as a platform.
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  And I take this very seriously.
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  Obviously, Housewives, a reality show, seeing our lives.
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  But I believe that in parallel, you have this incredible platform, and you've got to be very intentional with that.
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  And I think that is definitely the way I see it.
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  I don't hold it lightly.
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  I think you're given an opportunity.
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  I think we are cool to be advocates, leaders.
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  I think, you know, putting your best foot forward as, you know, a woman standing up for women in business, for children, for the underdog, speaking out for things that injustice.
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  And I.
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  Something I've always had on my heart.
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  But I feel like now the platform can be used for good.
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  So I think, yes, it's all evolved, and it's come round to a place where I feel like, now's the time.
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  Yeah, now's the time.
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  Yeah.
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  What about the parts of you, the younger parts of you?
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  Did you feel like you lost any part of you along the way to get here?
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  Did I feel.
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  No, because then I would live in regret, and I don't live in regret.
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  I think that there is a time and a season for everything.
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  I Do think, you know, as a trained actor, this is very different what I'm doing now.
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  And in some ways, you've got to be even more authentic and astute and on it and clear and just so who you are because you've got the camera lens looking right through your soul.
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  And I think if you're not.
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  If you're not authentic, people call you out.
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  And I think this is where I've kind of struggled in season one because I was being accused of the very things that I'm not.
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  And I think probably that dislodged in me, like, hold on a minute.
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  But it also, I think, deepen my purpose and my drive to make sure that I am always speaking truth and making sure that I am exactly who God's purposed me to be.
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  Because you know that people can take anything you do and weaponize it, and that's what they do in the show.
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  And I think that, you know, I am fortunate to have the acting background, so I know what I'm doing within my craft.
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  And separating that in reality, you can't act.
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  Reality.
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  I mean, and it's not reality if you're acting.
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  And I think when you say if I come back to my.
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  Yeah, because I think it's given me the ability for something that I'd kind of hidden because I wasn't working in it in some ways, like people know me have said, I had no idea you had that other life
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  as an actor.
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  Because I was slotting into my role as wife and mother and loving that.
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  And because when I was working as an actor, I felt like people either impressed with it or you're constantly like, they want to know what you're doing.
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  And if you're not, then you're.
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  Are you a failure of not working or are you a star if you are working?
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  And I wanted people to love me for me, you know, flaws and all.
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  Not with Juliet, the label, the actress, just Juliet.
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  And so when I became wife and mother, it was almost like it's not like I left my old identity, but that was a season.
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  So now pulling this through and now having an ability to acknowledge that that life that I lived is still within me and actually was big risk speaking up against about.
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  Not against speaking up about my past because I'm the biggest self critique of myself.
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  And I think it's really challenged me.
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  Like, can I go back?
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  And I am going back.
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  Which is really exciting.
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  Yes, absolutely.
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  So what do you do when you feel like the camera's got it wrong or the edit is not the way you thought it played out.
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  Like, how do you kind of sit with that in your own, you know, in your own being and, you know.
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  Cause we see what the audience says or what they think and these things.
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  But how do you as a person deal with that?
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  Okay, that's a really good question, because I think that in season one, and keep in mind, we've just finished season two, and it airs on the 7th of September.
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  Season one I found very difficult.
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  First of all, I didn't want my children to be upset if I came home and talked about what had gone down.
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  I also was very protective over my role in the show, and I didn't want my husband equally being upset.
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  So I think I took a lot on board and I kept a lot inside and it ended up building within me.
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  And I was very, A, defensive of the show, but B, having to take a lot.
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  And I.
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  I think there was parts of me that withdrew.
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  You know, in my head I was like, I'm raising a lady and a gentleman, and I am not the character to rip women to shreds and scream like an old laundry lady, which is part of the course.
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  I know we're talking conflict and resolution, but for me, it's like, I have not been raised like that.
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  It's not how I feel a dignified lady should act.
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  You know, I have my husband to think about.
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  He is, you know, very well respected English gentleman.
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  I honor him.
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  My children, I don't want them to see that their mother has gone, like, completely cray cray and embarrass them.
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  So a lot of the time it wasn't that I was not being real, but I was in scenarios that I wouldn't.
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  You're not necessarily in those.
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  In life, it's highly charged.
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  You've got a camera in your face and sometimes you don't even know what you're saying because it's.
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  It's so.
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  You're so emotional and I feel like it was like daggers coming from every.
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  So you're trying to like monitor it, understand it, because you don't know what's.
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  What conversations they've had prior to coming into, perhaps.
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  So I had some highs, but I definitely had some lows in that season because when your integrity and your business is being attacked and then ultimately there, you know, it comes down to the fact that you feel very
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  protective over those things.
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  You've worked very hard for that.
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  And you know, ultimately, when they say nasty things, perhaps about marriage or relationships or people that you know or love, you want to defend.
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  But I Think very much like the Queen.
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  Don't complain, don't explain.
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  And even in a way where the truth will come out.
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  And often I think it's better to zip and then wait and these things will be seen.
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  But equally, you know, people can misinterpret you.
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  And I, I'm like, but that, that's not what happened.
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  In a way, like, I feel misunderstood.
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  I don't think I had my, my piece.
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  I.
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  I don't.
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  That didn't.
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  You're like, what my feeling is.
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  It.
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  It doesn't really matter on that.
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  It's like the show is aired and people will have.
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  You are going to be liked, that you are also not going to be liked.
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  And you've got to be really happy with the fact that you're not going to be liked by your people.
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  And that's.
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  That's like life.
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  So suck it up, buttercup.
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  Do you know what I mean?
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  And I think I'm very careful in what I read.
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  I read what my publicist tells me to read.
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  I don't listen to bottom feeders like that awful Reddit stuff, which is just bs.
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  I worry about people who, what people who love me and I respect think about me and I will talk to them.
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  The peripheral is just noise.
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  And you know what?
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  One thing that my best friend said to me, which is the best advice that I've carried into season two, when I'm a blubbering wreck and going, it's just so awful.
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  And you know, the reunion was eight hours and seven and a half hours, are attacking me.
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  It was all untruth.
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  And she's like, they were attacking you for that amount of time.
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  She's like, fantastic.
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  You're like main character number one.
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  Number two, she's like, you're making entertainment.
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  You're not fighting a civil war.
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  And she's really Australian.
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  She's like, you're making entertainment.
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  You're not fighting a civil war.
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  She's like, like, grow a crocodile hide and.
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  And like, suck it up.
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  And I was like, oh, my gosh.
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  Grow a crocodile hide and suck it up.
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  That's like.
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  I was like, thank you.
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  I think.
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  And do you know what?
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  I have carried that through and you've probably heard me say that before because it was the best bit of advice.
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  And I also, like, had people who'd gone before me, like Caroline Stanbry.
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  She was brilliant.
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  I had chats with, you know, other housewives.
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  I mean, I've just been with Dorinda Medley.
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  She was fantastic.
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  Cynthia Bailey, unbelievable.
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  I mean, we're Talking well seasoned housewives.
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  I was speaking with Erica Jane and Sat and they were.
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  And Kathy Hilton, actually, that were recently in London.
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  And they're like, no one understands more than a housewife.
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  No one knows what you're going through.
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  So there's an immediate sisterhood and you get it.
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  And I think that's been amazing for me as well.
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  Just to have that advice, have people who've gone before me, like almost big sisters are mentors in a way.
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  It's like.
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  And.
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  And they're so easily able to park it.
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  So I've had to learn as an acting job would be, you do a role which I was doing at the beginning.
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  I went to work, I did my job and I came back and was.
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  What was happening is this.
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  It's across the cross wires.
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  Because a lot of those girls take it into the social scene.
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  So you don't.
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  They'll be talking about what went on and you're thinking, hold on a minute.
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  I segregated my job.
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  I don't go out of my job and discuss it like that is a private situation.
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  But of course it's not because it's reality and there is emotions and people get very upset and caught up in it and becomes their life in a sense.
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  Like, that's all I've got, thank God.
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  I've got other things in my life.
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  So I keep busy with actual having jobs and a bigger picture.
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  It doesn't take away from the fact that I'm a housewife and I love that.
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  And I've.
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  I give my all to it, but running alongside in parallel.
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  I'm still a wife and still a mother.
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  I still have jobs that I do and I'm still very involved with all the things that I've been involved in before.
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  And they want that.
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  I mean, that makes a more interesting housewife.
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  Let's be honest.
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  You've got more to give, so, yeah, I think you have to just grow into it, really.
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  And I think more time goes on.
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  I really pray we get season three.
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  It would be awesome.
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  And this has longevity and I think we're a spicy show and I think we've got a lot to give.
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  And they've cast it so well that every single one of us has a uniqueness and a gift and we bring it.
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  And I think that long way more may we go on.
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  I mean, look at the.
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  Look at the OGs.
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  Look at the Beverly Hills.
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  Like it's insane.
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  And that new cast, it's brilliant.
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  One of my best friends is on the cast.
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  Tracy Tudor.
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  Oh, I love Tracy.
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  Oh, she's gonna.
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  She's gonna bring it.
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  I reckon the girls like better, like, hold onto their pants.
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  And you know what?
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  She's so beautiful.
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  I mean, I was just literally looking, like, when it was announced.
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  Her body, like, the way she is.
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  She's like.
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  She's fit, you know, she is a full package, that girl.
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  She's the real deal.
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  Yeah.
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  She's smart.
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  Yes.
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  Like that.
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  That's gonna be great tv.
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  Yes.
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  Yes.
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  I can't wait.
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  I mean, it's gonna be so good.
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  So good.
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  But I also wanted to know because you and Tiggy have been married for, what, almost two decades now?
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  So when you're on a show like this and so many parts of your private life, you know, is exposed, how do you protect your marriage?
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  Is it something where it's like you guys just already have an understanding where you were going into this and, you know, you.
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  You know what you're getting into?
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  Or do you, like, check in with each other and kind of be like, you know, this is.
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  Something's coming down the pipeline that might not be so cute and, like, you know, how do you navigate that?
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  Well, I think through life.
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  I mean, if you've got through 20 years, and I have to say he's a saint to deal with me for 20 years, you know, you have already set a precedent of keeping short accounts.
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  Trust, respect, and friendship, which is the three key things to hold, I think, any relationship together.
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  I think because he met me as an actor, he had seen all of that.
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  He'd come and see me perform and see me on stage.
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  This is not new for him.
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  It's just that for 20 years, I was out of the business, focusing on what I was called to do at that time, which to give to my beautiful children.
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  And that's not stopped, but they're, you know, they're fleeing the nest.
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  So dynamics have shifted.
• 20:19
  And, you know, he's really excited about this for me.
• 20:24
  If he wasn't, I wouldn't be here because I would not risk my marriage to him.
• 20:32
  And he comes first.
• 20:33
  And the life of my children as a.
• 20:35
  As a mother, so first and foremost, I think it's making sure my priorities are correct.
• 20:40
  Yes.
• 20:40
  I think I've probably protected more than I should in that I didn't want him to know all the details of what was going on the show because I didn't want him to be upset because he's over his.
• 20:49
  Protected of me, of course.
• 20:50
  Protective of me, of course, as any man who loves his wife would be.
• 20:55
  But I'm very Transparent.
• 20:57
  Like, if I'm not coping, he will know.
• 21:00
  He is always underpinned.
• 21:03
  He's got.
• 21:04
  He's.
• 21:04
  He knows who he is.
• 21:06
  He's got such maturity.
• 21:07
  He's such a good, kind man that I feel that he.
• 21:11
  And he's unwavering.
• 21:13
  You know, that is so rare in a man.
• 21:15
  I feel like you would need that.
• 21:17
  Right.
• 21:19
  He angers me.
• 21:20
  Like, he's like this.
• 21:22
  And I'm like.
• 21:24
  I mean, he's kind of like, had to bring me down a bit.
• 21:26
  And I think that.
• 21:27
  But that's what makes our marriage so interesting and fun and spicy and fabulous and why we're probably still together.
• 21:33
  But I do think, you know, we have date nights.
• 21:37
  We prioritize.
• 21:38
  In fact, this is the longest stint I've been away from him my entire life.
• 21:41
  How long has it been?
• 21:42
  It's going to be a month all up.
• 21:44
  Wow.
• 21:44
  I did 17 days when I took a team up to the summit of Kilimanjaro.
• 21:48
  And that for me was, like, so full on.
• 21:51
  This is a month.
• 21:53
  But we talk every day.
• 21:54
  We message.
• 21:55
  He is cheerleading me on.
• 21:57
  I wouldn't be able to do this if I didn't know he was comfortable with it.
• 22:02
  And equally, I think love is about freedom.
• 22:05
  And he has.
• 22:06
  We have.
• 22:07
  We've so much trust for one another that we have this freedom.
• 22:10
  You know, I want him living his best life.
• 22:13
  He wants me living my best life.
• 22:15
  He is my biggest cheerleader.
• 22:16
  He brings out the best of me.
• 22:18
  And he's constantly sewing and pouring into me to make that flourish.
• 22:22
  I mean, he is self.
• 22:25
  Selfless.
• 22:26
  And I think he shows that, you know, actions speak louder than words, and he's always done that.
• 22:32
  And I feel so privileged to call him my partner for life, my soulmate, because I think that's very rare.
• 22:38
  Is something that I treasure.
• 22:41
  It's not something I take advantage of at all.
• 22:42
  Because, you know, we.
• 22:43
  Life.
• 22:44
  We're fragile beings, and I think it's investing in that.
• 22:47
  And.
• 22:48
  But I think I'm a better wife because I'm living my best life and he loves it.
• 22:55
  I mean, look, what, a husband doesn't love your wife dressing up, being glamorous and needing.
• 23:00
  And needing his attention, especially when the girls are being mean to me.
• 23:04
  Like, he's like, darling, come, you know, you know, and obviously, you know, I'm fiery and, you know, makeup sex is great.
• 23:12
  So there.
• 23:14
  They have.
• 23:14
  Men have needs, but women have needs.
• 23:16
  And, you know, we are.
• 23:18
  We have a healthy marriage.
• 23:20
  And I invest in him and he invests in me, and I think we also need to show that to the children.
• 23:27
  The children flourish when we flourish.
• 23:30
  And I think there is an order in that.
• 23:32
  And, you know, I always argue when people say to me, oh, it's all about my children.
• 23:36
  I'm like, no, you.
• 23:38
  It's.
• 23:38
  It's first wife, then mother.
• 23:40
  Because if they don't see you in a healthy relationship with your partner, and however those that partnership looks like, you know, that's the security net.
• 23:50
  And they're looking up to you at how you're reacting, how you're communicating with one another, and that's their stability.
• 23:58
  And so for me, it's really important that we're healthy.
• 24:01
  So how do you check in with each other?
• 24:03
  Like, how do you kind of go if you feel like you're going off the track?
• 24:06
  Like, how do you usually pull it back in with him?
• 24:10
  It's time.
• 24:11
  It's quality time.
• 24:12
  I think that we are intentional when we spend time.
• 24:17
  Like, we will do dates where the phone goes down and we just look into each other's eyes and talk.
• 24:22
  Often we'll do something like, what's been really fun, actually, with, you know, this job is that I'm doing a lot of red carpets.
• 24:30
  You know, you need to be seen on, you need to be seen out.
• 24:33
  You know, it's part of.
• 24:33
  Part of the course when you become a personality.
• 24:37
  He loves it.
• 24:37
  He comes as my bodyguard and my photographer.
• 24:39
  And, you know, we have a great date night out.
• 24:41
  We'll go to film premieres.
• 24:42
  You know, we'll go to beautiful restaurants.
• 24:44
  You know, we always did that.
• 24:46
  But now it's like he loves it because he's, you know, he's like, I'm not having a photo taken.
• 24:51
  You get all the photos taken.
• 24:52
  He just admires.
• 24:53
  He loves it.
• 24:54
  He giggles at me.
• 24:56
  In fact, you know, he really, like.
• 24:58
  My children and my husband keep me really grounded because they just take the mick out of me all the time.
• 25:03
  And I was like, just in Sydney.
• 25:05
  I'm like, you know, honey, I've got, like, bodyguards with me.
• 25:08
  He like.
• 25:08
  He's like, whatever.
• 25:10
  He's like, have you got your bodyguards with you?
• 25:12
  I'm like, well, honey, no, because I'm, like, just going around to the corner of the chocolate.
• 25:15
  But he just.
• 25:17
  Every single thing they make, they like, they laugh.
• 25:22
  They keep me so grounded, so humble.
• 25:24
  My children would just give me one look, like, eye roll, and I'd be like, like, really, Mommy, it's not all about you.
• 25:29
  I'm like, yeah, it is all about me.
• 25:31
  No, Mommy, it is not you know, and they.
• 25:34
  We have a, you know, we also have very good sense of humor, both of us.
• 25:38
  So we laugh a lot and I think when things get stressful, we're able to deal with them.
• 25:44
  We have a faith.
• 25:45
  I think definitely our faith has held us together.
• 25:48
  He's got a deep faith.
• 25:49
  I have a deep faith.
• 25:50
  And I think those things when the shit hits the fan, so to say, you know, prayer together, Prayer is key.
• 25:57
  Has been key in our marriage and something I am so grateful for because there is a bigger perspective.
• 26:03
  And when you think all is lost, you know, that higher being God, you know, you know, you know that you're safe and that is, you know, I was actually listening to Dolly Parton, like all her anecdotal, you know,
• 26:17
  it's tragic.
• 26:18
  She has passed and she was one of my superheroes, the best, honestly.
• 26:23
  I mean, 3,000, what was it, 3,000 songs she wrote.
• 26:26
  There is something so endearing about her.
• 26:28
  She was super smart.
• 26:31
  She laughed a lot, took the mick out of herself.
• 26:33
  I think I do that a lot.
• 26:34
  I laugh a lot and I do take the make out of myself.
• 26:36
  I don't take life too seriously.
• 26:38
  But she had a faith and I think that kept her grounded and I think that is, you know, kept me and grounded and kept, I think, definitely has held our marriage together because nothing is too big for God.
• 26:54
  And we have made a covenant before God within our marriage to be together.
• 26:59
  And so however difficult it gets, separating is not ever going to come into our vocabulary.
• 27:04
  We have to work this through.
• 27:05
  We're in it to win it and we're in it for life.
• 27:08
  And I think when two people go into a marriage like that, then you know, it's, it's a good thing because you're not looking left and right.
• 27:18
  You're like, we, we have to solve whatever issue we have.
• 27:22
  We have responsibility to one another.
• 27:24
  So I think that's definitely something, you know, looking at key tips, you know, I would say that's number one.
• 27:33
  Quality time, the acts of service, you know, the love language.
• 27:37
  What is your love language?
• 27:38
  Is it.
• 27:38
  Well, mine is actually.
• 27:39
  I mean, obviously my husband's physical touch, that's probably most metal.
• 27:44
  So gifts.
• 27:45
  I like all the gifts.
• 27:47
  Gifting both of us.
• 27:48
  Love, quality time, acts of service.
• 27:52
  Like, oh, my gosh, he is amazing.
• 27:55
  Like, do you think I ever change a light bulb?
• 27:58
  Absolutely.
• 27:58
  Do you think I ever fill my car with petrol?
• 28:00
  Absolutely not.
• 28:02
  And I get in my car, it's always full of.
• 28:03
  It's always, I mean, like, he's just a Saint like that.
• 28:06
  You know, I'm different.
• 28:08
  He's like, why do you run the car to red?
• 28:11
  And I'm like, because I've got another 10 miles.
• 28:13
  He's like, but you may not.
• 28:14
  You may break down.
• 28:15
  I'm like, oh, I'm sure.
• 28:16
  I always do.
• 28:17
  And he's like, I.
• 28:17
  I don't get that.
• 28:18
  So we really do compliment each other.
• 28:21
  So.
• 28:21
  Yes.
• 28:21
  Accessor.
• 28:22
  What else?
• 28:22
  Oh, words of affirmation.
• 28:25
  And he does.
• 28:26
  He's like, honey looks so beautiful.
• 28:28
  And you know what?
• 28:29
  That goes so far.
• 28:30
  Like honey.
• 28:32
  You know, he just says a few words.
• 28:33
  I'm like, whatever you want.
• 28:34
  Good to know.
• 28:35
  Okay, so it's.
• 28:36
  You guys match up on a lot of different things, which is nice.
• 28:39
  We are very different, but we have worked out how our differences bring us together.
• 28:46
  I mean, if we were same.
• 28:47
  Same.
• 28:47
  I mean, if he was far as me, I would be a disaster.
• 28:51
  Yeah.
• 28:52
  So here's calm wisdom and my impulsive craziness, like, gel together.
• 28:57
  Okay.
• 28:57
  You come across as this, like, street shooter, you know, Australian.
• 29:02
  Like, I love all that, the qualities of that that you have.
• 29:05
  And then now you're in London, you know, so you're kind of navigating a little bit more of like a kind can be stuffy society kind of a world.
• 29:14
  How do you kind of, you know, live between?
• 29:16
  Right, so I'm half British.
• 29:19
  Oh, okay, so you are half.
• 29:20
  Okay.
• 29:21
  Not full Australian.
• 29:22
  And I mean, I would say I'm full Australian, but I do have two passports and my parents are.
• 29:27
  You know, we've got British heritage.
• 29:29
  In fact, my lineage goes back to King Edward the first of England.
• 29:31
  Yes, it does.
• 29:32
  And sometimes I argue with my husband saying, you know what?
• 29:34
  My blood is more blue than yours.
• 29:36
  Like, it's blue, honey.
• 29:37
  It's blue and maybe bluer.
• 29:40
  So, you know, I mean, I remember growing up when my mother was.
• 29:44
  Elbows off the table, hold your knife and foot properly, speak clearly.
• 29:47
  You know, she'd always send me to elocution lessons.
• 29:50
  And then I went to drama school, but I also went to drama school, boarding school in England from 12.
• 29:55
  So when on my.
• 29:56
  On my Instagram, this Aussie heart, sorry, Aussie soul, British heart, that really is who I am.
• 30:01
  So I think, how do I navigate British society?
• 30:05
  I mean, I think going from a jillaroo cowboy town as a Queenslander, which is a little small town, very special farming community, to a Rothschild mansion, living in King Charles, the first bedroom, wearing a boater, white gloves and
• 30:23
  curtsying.
• 30:24
  There's a juxtaposition there.
• 30:26
  But you Know what both of them make me.
• 30:28
  And it prepared me for my life.
• 30:32
  And so not only as an actor, but I think what I then went on to do, man, I married what those responsibilities his wife has bought over the time that I've been married to him.
• 30:44
  You know, I've been to Buckingham palace for lunch.
• 30:47
  I've had incredible, extraordinary opportunities around the world.
• 30:51
  I've lived in five different continents.
• 30:53
  I think that diversity has, you know, molded who I am.
• 30:59
  So being in London and being, as you say, British, it's.
• 31:04
  It's not something that I, you know, it's just water off a duck's back.
• 31:07
  You just.
• 31:08
  I just blend.
• 31:09
  It's where you are and it's.
• 31:10
  I think that probably to an extent is also.
• 31:14
  I had to survive as a young girl, really, coming twelve and a half thousand miles away from your home and commuting.
• 31:22
  I had to be independent.
• 31:23
  Young.
• 31:24
  I was working as an actor.
• 31:25
  Young.
• 31:25
  My first job, I was 16.
• 31:28
  And then really I was working as a professional actor.
• 31:31
  Then onwards, you know, 18, I was 17, half 18.
• 31:34
  I was living in London independently and working through.
• 31:38
  Going through drama school.
• 31:40
  So I think you become a survivor and you just have to work out how to be in any scenario you're in.
• 31:51
  But I certainly think the privilege of what I've been exposed to has probably set me up in.
• 31:57
  In a very good way to communicate, to gel with different people from different backgrounds.
• 32:04
  And I would hope always to be open and humble.
• 32:08
  You never know anyone's story.
• 32:10
  You.
• 32:11
  You don't know where.
• 32:12
  What.
• 32:12
  What's behind that.
• 32:13
  And so to go in assuming always the best of people and wanting to get to know them and not being intimidated.
• 32:22
  I don't think I've ever been intimidated.
• 32:23
  And I think that's because, you know, I've.
• 32:27
  I don't know, I.
• 32:28
  I just think we're all human.
• 32:30
  We all bleed the same blood.
• 32:31
  It's not that I'm not respectful.
• 32:32
  I'm very respectful of people, but I think I'm expectant.
• 32:37
  I feel like I have a place in the room, at the table.
• 32:39
  And I think in life we need to feel like we have a place at the table and not be held back by our insecurities.
• 32:47
  Yes.
• 32:47
  Particularly in midlife, when many women can feel like they're fading away, you know, like really feeling like you deserve that spot and going for it, you know, there's nothing that should be holding you back.
• 32:58
  I agree.
• 32:59
  Yeah.
• 32:59
  What do you say to women like that, that feel may be stuck or feel like maybe they need, you know, they're fading away.
• 33:04
  I think that I want to give them a big hug and I want them to know that they're loved, they're unique, they're created in the image of God and they have a purpose.
• 33:14
  And I feel like I want to let them know that there is someone cheering them on.
• 33:19
  And I think what happens is, is that we get into ruts and then our confidence depletes.
• 33:25
  And you know, maybe there's been a marriage, separation, maybe they've lost their job, they're searching for their identity.
• 33:32
  You know, your hormones are all over the place and you know, tragedy hits and you know, that is a very real thing.
• 33:41
  And you know, you can't number your days.
• 33:45
  You don't know what's going to happen.
• 33:46
  Illness may strike.
• 33:48
  And I think that, you know, we all need a friend, we need to be kind to one another.
• 33:53
  You know, what I say to my children is, you can achieve the world, but if you're not a kind person and you're cool to be in relationship with people you don't want to isolate.
• 34:03
  So your most important tool is to navigate and communicate and be a good person and a kind person.
• 34:09
  So I would love to just say to those women, you know, get yourself in a company of women who are going to cheerlead you on.
• 34:17
  There is always people out there.
• 34:18
  And I would say to anyone who, you know, may want to dismiss that person, don't.
• 34:25
  Because you don't know what's happened.
• 34:27
  You don't know the story behind the story.
• 34:29
  And I think we need to understand that the world is a tough place and we're certainly not in an easy situation politically, financially.
• 34:40
  There's disasters happening.
• 34:42
  I mean, you look at the fires in Algeria, you look at the floods in Nepal, there are things that happen in life that we have no hand on, but we just have to navigate when they hit.
• 34:53
  And so I would say don't look left and right, keep looking north.
• 34:59
  Give yourself a break.
• 35:01
  Have little goals, not massive goals.
• 35:04
  Take each day at a time and you know, try and align yourself with like minded people who are, you know, holding your hand, pulling you along and, you know, encouraging you.
• 35:17
  Yeah.
• 35:18
  Going back to your Buckingham palace lunch, who was that with?
• 35:22
  Please tell me a little more.
• 35:24
  So that was Princess Anne.
• 35:25
  Okay.
• 35:25
  Yeah.
• 35:26
  It was wonderful.
• 35:26
  I have met the Queen and I've met the King.
• 35:28
  Okay.
• 35:29
  But the lunch was with Princess.
• 35:31
  It was beautiful.
• 35:31
  It was actually a private lunch.
• 35:33
  There was about 14 of us.
• 35:34
  Okay.
• 35:34
  It was quite an amazing day to be able to, you know, go to the palace Right.
• 35:41
  And be in the dining room and just experience that.
• 35:45
  Again, it was for a charity that we have been involved in and I mean a huge honor.
• 35:51
  She is a brilliant woman.
• 35:53
  All the royals have got a wicked sense of humor and just know how to work a room.
• 35:59
  I mean, I remember when I met our king, he was the prince then.
• 36:04
  He knew more about me than I knew about myself.
• 36:06
  They do their homework and he's like, Juliet, how have you navigated coming from Australia and being married to hedge funder and who's British and you know, you were at school, at boarding school in this country.
• 36:15
  I mean, he, I was like, oh, my God.
• 36:18
  I wasn't the only person he was talking to that night.
• 36:21
  Like, they are their aides.
• 36:24
  They are so well versed, which shows such great respect for the people they're talking to.
• 36:29
  Like, this is now our future king and they take their role to serve the people very seriously.
• 36:38
  And our late queen, I mean, she was extraordinary how she served the people and what she did for our country over the years.
• 36:49
  And I'm saying our country is in Great Britain as a Londoner and as the common for the Commonwealth.
• 36:55
  I mean, I'm Australian and we, we love our royals.
• 36:58
  Well, personally, I'm, I'm a royalist.
• 37:00
  Not everyone does, but I have always been a ruler.
• 37:03
  So.
• 37:03
  Yeah, that was a wonderful day when I will never forget a pinch me moment.
• 37:10
  There have been some pinch me moments in my life, and that's certainly one of them.
• 37:14
  Okay, well, what about, what do you think about Harry and Megan coming back?
• 37:17
  Oh, that's controversial.
• 37:19
  Yes, it sure is.
• 37:20
  I was actually the rural correspondent for their wedding.
• 37:23
  Oh, you were for Fox in Washington, so over seven years ago, right?
• 37:28
  Yeah.
• 37:29
  And I think there's been, look, there's been a lot of press of will they last the test of time while they have.
• 37:34
  And for me, I'm happy about that.
• 37:36
  I don't want to see any marriage falling apart, especially with two beautiful children.
• 37:41
  Look, Harry is loved, deeply loved.
• 37:45
  And everyone still, still, everyone loves a comeback moment.
• 37:48
  You know, one thing I'll say about the British, like Winston Churchill, if you look like when the chips are down and we will back an underdog and we will cheerlead them on.
• 37:58
  So you know what?
• 38:00
  Maybe coming with his tail between his legs back is a really good thing.
• 38:04
  And I don't know, I hope, I hope they flourish.
• 38:07
  I don't want to see someone pummeled and I want, I think, you know, their father is not, you know, he's getting older and you know, I Think it's important.
• 38:16
  Like, we.
• 38:17
  I've just spent this incredible time with my own parents.
• 38:20
  I mean, I cried every day at the thought of having to return to England.
• 38:23
  You know, you only have your parents for so long.
• 38:26
  And I think for him to be far away and them not seeing the children grow, I think it's a tragedy.
• 38:33
  So I would say let's pray that there's going to be unity and there's going to be a comeback moment.
• 38:37
  And he's going.
• 38:39
  She's going to really turn around and show us she wants to be part of our society.
• 38:44
  Yeah.
• 38:45
  Instead of dismissing it and saying, oh, you never welcomed us.
• 38:48
  That was not true.
• 38:49
  You know, my girlfriend runs their mental health charity.
• 38:52
  Oh, really?
• 38:52
  Yes.
• 38:53
  And she's a phenomenal, phenomenal woman.
• 38:55
  And I've known her a very long time, and she's worked very closely with both Harry and William, and they've done a lot with that mental health care.
• 39:02
  It's been incredible.
• 39:03
  And I'm also friends with their aide when they were young, who actually walked with them behind their mother's coffin.
• 39:09
  So I've got friends within, you know, their life in their world.
• 39:13
  And of course, they opened arms and embraced her and were there with her.
• 39:17
  It was whether her choice, if she wanted to take it.
• 39:19
  I thought that interview with Oprah was diabolical.
• 39:23
  I mean, you attack the family.
• 39:25
  You.
• 39:25
  You attack the integrity of the family, you know, the country per se, and, you know, women, and the fact that, you know, it was all the things that we should guard and hold tight.
• 39:38
  And I just think to go on Oprah to do that, that was.
• 39:41
  That was not a great move as far as I'm concerned.
• 39:43
  But you know what?
• 39:44
  As I say, everyone makes mistakes, and maybe she's coming back for a second chance.
• 39:49
  Could you imagine if Megan joined the Real House?
• 39:51
  That would be.
• 39:53
  I mean, how do you think that would go over?
• 39:55
  Well, let's.
• 39:57
  Let's see how she cope with the.
• 39:58
  With the girls.
• 40:00
  I mean, we've got, like, some rottweilers in our cast.
• 40:02
  Let's be honest.
• 40:04
  Who do you think that she would have the most, like, you know, problem with?
• 40:08
  Like, what would be.
• 40:09
  Who would she rub wrong?
• 40:11
  Ooh.
• 40:14
  I wouldn't like to say.
• 40:16
  I would like to say I'm looking at all the personalities of all of them.
• 40:21
  I mean, she might flipping annoy all of us, but she might be loved and really dynamic.
• 40:27
  Who knows?
• 40:27
  I can't believe that we're discussing whether she's joining the cast or not.
• 40:30
  Like, it's like it's happening.
• 40:32
  Like, yeah, Megan's joining the cast.
• 40:34
  I mean, we're putting it out there.
• 40:35
  This is manifesting 101.
• 40:39
  Oh, my gosh.
• 40:40
  Oh, my God.
• 40:41
  That would be just a huge.
• 40:43
  I think that would be huge for the show, right?
• 40:46
  Everyone would watch.
• 40:47
  Everyone would watch.
• 40:49
  Absolutely.
• 40:51
  I'm like, we're putting it out there.
• 40:52
  Okay, people.
• 40:54
  My people will stick to your people.
• 40:56
  I mean, yeah, we'll get this going.
• 40:58
  We'll get this going.
• 40:59
  Okay.
• 40:59
  Season two of the.
• 41:01
  Oh, my God.
• 41:02
  Okay, first of all, what did you learn from season one that you carried into season two?
• 41:07
  Like, were there, like, any lessons?
• 41:09
  I don't like when people do gang ups and, you know, say mean things and speak behind your back constantly and try and build, like, allies to take you down.
• 41:22
  Like, that's just mean, girl.
• 41:24
  And that's like, reminds me of school.
• 41:27
  And bullying is the worst thing.
• 41:30
  And I think that, you know, I say things for truth, not for popularity votes.
• 41:36
  So I think going into the show in season one, I was bamboozled.
• 41:43
  I didn't know where things were coming from.
• 41:45
  And I also.
• 41:46
  Everyone was getting to know each other.
• 41:48
  Like, I was the first they cast and kind of brought everyone together.
• 41:50
  I knew everyone but the friendships within the groups.
• 41:53
  And I didn't want to try and, you know, put any opinion on anyone in the group for someone to pick up and, you know, have my allies.
• 42:03
  I don't like her because X I was like, my past with anyone or what my experience is, is my experience.
• 42:09
  And I should not be putting my impression or giving that opinion to anyone.
• 42:14
  They need to understand those people themselves and form their own opinions.
• 42:19
  And in life, I think that's really important.
• 42:20
  I hate this, like, gang up or she said, he said, and you have to be my friend and not her friend.
• 42:26
  Like, that is like, so, like third grade.
• 42:30
  But unfortunately, a lot of that happened.
• 42:33
  So I felt a bit of a loner and I.
• 42:37
  It was kind of called out that I was on an island when I went have gone back into season because I felt like on the defense.
• 42:43
  But that was called survival.
• 42:46
  So I think season two, I just really had to say, you know what, Jules, you're okay.
• 42:50
  You got this.
• 42:53
  I'm not going anywhere.
• 42:55
  Like, they're not booting me off the show and that's her intention.
• 42:58
  It ain't happening.
• 42:59
  I will leave the show when it's time for me to leave the show.
• 43:02
  Not because someone wants to bully me off the show because they're intimidated by me, like, or they don't like me.
• 43:07
  Or I'm.
• 43:08
  I have a place at the table and I will stay there.
• 43:11
  And they need to, you know, stop speaking untruths about me and I need to stand up for myself.
• 43:16
  So I just had to, like, speak that into me.
• 43:20
  I mean, it is actually quite.
• 43:24
  I don't know, you really learn a lot about yourself when you're under the spotlight like that.
• 43:29
  I can imagine it must be such a test.
• 43:31
  Yeah.
• 43:32
  To really, I mean, you.
• 43:33
  I naturally, I would imagine that you question certain things.
• 43:36
  Like, you know, you're kind of reevaluating and trying to see, like, wait, is this me?
• 43:42
  Like, do I do that?
• 43:43
  So every single for instance, interaction, you think I may say, oh, my gosh, I love your dress.
• 43:53
  And then I'm like, why are you talking about my dress?
• 43:55
  Like, do you know what I mean?
• 43:57
  Like, you've got it.
• 43:58
  Everything is turned right.
• 43:59
  That's how I felt that there was literally to the point where I'm like, I can't even open my mouth without this being turned on me.
• 44:06
  Like, oh, she's acting like a victim.
• 44:08
  No, I just don't want to be involved.
• 44:09
  Like, can't you just respect my boundary?
• 44:12
  Not acting like a victim.
• 44:13
  I just not getting involved because it's nastiness.
• 44:16
  And so I'm gonna stay in my lane and you will have to respect that.
• 44:20
  So I just had to, like, I suppose, work out how that works in the show.
• 44:27
  Ah, okay.
• 44:28
  Do you know what I mean?
• 44:28
  Yeah.
• 44:29
  I think that those.
• 44:30
  You don't know what you're.
• 44:31
  We didn't know what we were going into in season two.
• 44:34
  We didn't know what we're going through in season one.
• 44:35
  So you take each day as it comes.
• 44:38
  You just, you're in the moment.
• 44:42
  And the other thing is to understand that, you know, so when they film, you know, they want to.
• 44:48
  They don't want you discussing things separately.
• 44:51
  They want it happening on camera.
• 44:53
  So it's fluid, which makes a good show.
• 44:55
  Right.
• 44:56
  But you know, if you've had a massive bust up with a good friend, you want to get to the bottom of it.
• 45:02
  You can't wait.
• 45:03
  Right, Right.
• 45:04
  So those things are hard because they're like, no, we're not going to discuss this until we film you again.
• 45:08
  And you're like, no, because I have to sit in this and I want to sort it.
• 45:12
  Those things are hard.
• 45:13
  Okay, but that's just part of the course.
• 45:15
  But do people talk anyway behind the scenes?
• 45:18
  Like, if you've had like a big fight with somebody and it is your good friend I mean, is that so they.
• 45:24
  Is it realistic for them to expect you not to say anything?
• 45:27
  I don't.
• 45:27
  It's very difficult.
• 45:28
  But, you know, I respect, you know, the fact that I'm doing the show and it's.
• 45:33
  It's reality, you know, and you will see in season two how, you know, the camera follows you, and when trauma happens, you're in the moment.
• 45:44
  And I.
• 45:45
  I think it's really important for viewers to see the fluidity of how that goes, because if suddenly it's been resolved, they're like, trying to pin it together.
• 45:54
  What do you mean?
• 45:55
  How did that resolve?
• 45:56
  So I.
• 45:57
  I do think there is reason to the rhyme.
• 46:00
  So you just have to, like, suck it up.
• 46:02
  You've signed up for the show, so you've got to suck it up.
• 46:04
  Yeah, but it is hard emotionally.
• 46:06
  Right.
• 46:06
  Because you're.
• 46:07
  You're sitting with that.
• 46:08
  Right?
• 46:08
  Yeah.
• 46:09
  And you're not, like, getting any resolution whatsoever.
• 46:11
  And the show is conflict resolution.
• 46:13
  Right.
• 46:14
  So you have to go with it.
• 46:17
  Gosh, that's hard.
• 46:18
  And you're going through, like, periods of time.
• 46:21
  It's not like it's just tomorrow you're filming again.
• 46:23
  Oh, no, it's.
• 46:26
  There's like a build up there.
• 46:27
  Yeah, it's like.
• 46:28
  It's like, you know, makes good telly.
• 46:30
  Yeah, it does.
• 46:31
  It does.
• 46:31
  That's why people keep tuning in, because you're like, oh, my God, what's going to happen next?
• 46:35
  Okay, that's interesting.
• 46:36
  So what three words would you use to describe season two?
• 46:42
  Oh, my gosh.
• 46:44
  I would say definitely fiery.
• 46:50
  There's fun.
• 46:52
  We can't.
• 46:52
  We can't take away from the fun.
• 46:55
  And it's pretty voracious.
• 46:56
  Okay.
• 46:57
  Yeah.
• 46:57
  Okay.
• 46:58
  Yeah.
• 46:58
  Fiery.
• 46:59
  Voracious.
• 47:00
  And.
• 47:01
  And fun.
• 47:01
  And fun.
• 47:02
  How do you guys.
• 47:03
  How do you resolve that?
• 47:04
  Like, if you've had a bad fight with somebody, like, do you.
• 47:07
  Can you truly become friends again after you get hurt so publicly?
• 47:12
  Yeah.
• 47:12
  So that is something I'm navigating.
• 47:15
  Because, you know, the show's not gonna work if you can't resolve.
• 47:18
  Right.
• 47:19
  And I think you've gotta just really dig deep.
• 47:22
  It is hard through life.
• 47:23
  Cause you make decisions to set boundaries, and that's certainly me.
• 47:27
  And I think trust is earned.
• 47:30
  And if you've had your trust completely broken, you know, it takes time, and that is reality.
• 47:37
  You can't fake that.
• 47:38
  Right.
• 47:39
  So I think, you know, but I think you definitely have to have grace and probably give more benefit of the doubt than you probably normally would in life.
• 47:46
  You just wouldn't Navigate those things, you just say, okay, that, that's too much hard work for me.
• 47:52
  That is a complex relationship.
• 47:54
  We're never going to be best friends.
• 47:55
  I'm going to walk away from it.
• 47:56
  When you're doing a show, you have to find a way to resolve it and you just got to be mature about it.
• 48:02
  It's not all about you.
• 48:03
  There's a bigger picture involved and we are cast together.
• 48:08
  It's not a one woman show.
• 48:10
  So you have to find a way that you can make it work for everyone.
• 48:13
  Because you want the show to be a success.
• 48:15
  Yeah.
• 48:15
  So you can't be selfish.
• 48:16
  Yes.
• 48:17
  Yeah.
• 48:17
  You can't be selfish about it.
• 48:18
  You just have to, really.
• 48:19
  But it's hard emotionally.
• 48:21
  It's very hard.
• 48:22
  You know, forgiveness is something in life that, you know what bitterness eats you up.
• 48:27
  So you've got to learn to be quick to forgive, keep short accounts and give benefit of the doubt.
• 48:34
  Right.
• 48:35
  For your own mental health and your own emotion, you know, emotional health because.
• 48:38
  And you know, think of the best of people, not of the worst.
• 48:40
  I think of the best.
• 48:41
  I don't think that people are necessarily going to want to like try and destroy me.
• 48:46
  I mean, it's very important, pretty ferocious.
• 48:50
  But I always think, give them the benefit of the doubt.
• 48:54
  I mean, that's probably for my own mental health.
• 48:55
  You just have to.
• 48:57
  And I'm a happy, go, lucky person.
• 48:58
  It's an Australianism of me and I just think I've always been a cup half full.
• 49:02
  So I think people can't really be that bad, can they?
• 49:04
  Sometimes they are.
• 49:06
  You'll be surprised.
• 49:09
  And you know what, actually when they are, you think that comes out of their own brokenness.
• 49:14
  Yeah.
• 49:15
  It's almost like compassion.
• 49:16
  Right.
• 49:16
  So you have to have compassion because you think for them to actually behave as badly as they are, there's something pretty awful that they're navigating because people project like that.
• 49:28
  I mean, how do they feel about themselves?
• 49:30
  Right.
• 49:30
  There's trauma.
• 49:31
  There's trauma.
• 49:31
  There's trauma behind it.
• 49:32
  Yes, absolutely.
• 49:34
  So what was the thing that surprised you the most about season two?
• 49:39
  There is definitely shift in friendships, which I think will.
• 49:43
  It didn't only surprise me, but it'll probably very much surprise the audience.
• 49:49
  I get my mojo back and you know, reconnect with my razzle dazzle, which I'm probably surprised at myself because that's a big risk to take in front of the world and you know, because you've got everything to lose.
• 50:07
  But I just thought, well, if I fail, I Fail.
• 50:11
  But at least I've given it a go.
• 50:12
  And you know, if I'm doing it in front of the world or I'm just doing it in front of my husband, so be it.
• 50:18
  I don't have pride.
• 50:19
  Like, I, you know what I mean?
• 50:21
  I'm like, I just, I'm just gonna go and do it.
• 50:25
  So that surprised me that I was like, why did I just go and do this in front of the world?
• 50:31
  Make a massive cock up and fall flat on my face or not?
• 50:34
  Yeah, why not?
• 50:35
  That's sensible.
• 50:36
  Makes sense.
• 50:36
  Makes sense.
• 50:37
  You know what, once I come in, I'm full in.
• 50:39
  So I'd made a commitment, I was full in.
• 50:41
  Do you know what I mean?
• 50:42
  No, absolutely.
• 50:43
  You know what if it.
• 50:44
  People have such a short term memory anyway, it's like, sure, like for the next six months or whatever, in five years, people are not going to sit there and be like, what did you do five years ago?
• 50:55
  And you know what?
• 50:56
  This is where I really needed to learn.
• 50:58
  Like, people would say like, who's gonna remember that scene?
• 51:01
  I'm like, I remembered it and it was so not what happened.
• 51:04
  And I'm so upset about it.
• 51:05
  And.
• 51:06
  And they're like, I actually, my grandma's like, Juliet, like they can't even remember what happened in that.
• 51:12
  Like they're on to next, the next Seed series or the next episode.
• 51:17
  Like, that's already.
• 51:18
  And I'm like, no, no, but my integrity, my turn.
• 51:20
  They're like, get over it.
• 51:21
  You've signed up for a TV show.
• 51:24
  So with regards to what you said with, you know, what else did, I was unexpected.
• 51:30
  I navigated and juggled a lot this season because I had some big jobs and I was doing full time job in Housewives.
• 51:39
  So I was like, God, you have to expand my capacity because I don't know how much more I can fit in now.
• 51:46
  You know, they will have had their own interpretations on, you know, how they felt about me being busy.
• 51:54
  But the fact is that I've always been busy.
• 51:55
  I live a busy life.
• 51:56
  I think give a busy woman something to do, she always gets it done.
• 51:59
  I thrive on stress and, you know, I don't want to slow down.
• 52:06
  I want to live my life to the fullest, you know, foot on the throttle, max capacity.
• 52:13
  If I crash, I crash, but at least I'm getting a best shot.
• 52:17
  So I'm very much, you know, I'm not slowing down anytime soon.
• 52:21
  While there is breath in my lungs, baby, I am going for it.
• 52:24
  Yes, that is such a good motto for Midlife, too.
• 52:28
  While there's breath in your lungs, just keep it the fuck going.
• 52:31
  Just keep going.
• 52:33
  Like you don't want to slow down.
• 52:34
  Now you've got all.
• 52:35
  You can do that when you're old.
• 52:36
  Like, I.
• 52:37
  I'm like, asleep, you know, I'm sleep.
• 52:39
  Well, I'll sleep when I'm dead.
• 52:40
  My husband goes, honey, when you don't sleep, you are kind of a nightmare.
• 52:46
  Yeah.
• 52:46
  Like, make sure you sleep.
• 52:47
  And you know what?
• 52:48
  Considering in the last, like, what is it, four days, I've.
• 52:50
  I don't even know how many hours sleep in the, Like, I mean, what?
• 52:53
  From Australia?
• 52:54
  London.
• 52:54
  London, Louisiana.
• 52:57
  I don't even know what time zone I'm on.
• 52:59
  It's amazing.
• 52:59
  I'm even, like, speaking full, coherent sentence.
• 53:02
  You sound good from here.
• 53:05
  See, I thrive on it.
• 53:06
  I drive on it.
• 53:06
  Maybe just I.
• 53:07
  A little sleep.
• 53:08
  Honey, I can do it.
• 53:09
  Totally.
• 53:10
  Two hours here, two hours there.
• 53:11
  You good coffee is amazing when you need it.
• 53:15
  And a cocktail for later in the day.
• 53:17
  Oh, my gosh.
• 53:17
  Pick me up with a spicy margarita.
• 53:19
  Is it spicy margarita time already?
• 53:21
  It's always spicy margarita time, right?
• 53:25
  Absolutely.
• 53:26
  So, okay, I understand that we're going to be welcoming you into the 50 Club soon.
• 53:32
  Do you know what?
• 53:32
  I used to get so angly retentive about anyone talking about my birthday.
• 53:37
  Really?
• 53:38
  Yes.
• 53:38
  Yes.
• 53:38
  Because I was 32 at my forever, and then my children were like, mommy, I don't know how you're 32 because everyone else's mother is over 40.
• 53:49
  So then I progressed to 41.
• 53:51
  Oh, that's good.
• 53:51
  That's.
• 53:52
  And then I sat at 41 for about five years.
• 53:55
  I was like.
• 53:56
  They were like, can you just be honest?
• 53:58
  I'm like, no, honey, I was taught never to discuss your age.
• 54:01
  And, you know, my husband says you're only as young as a woman you feel.
• 54:03
  And I'm very young at heart, too.
• 54:06
  But then, like, you know, all the women on the show are older than me, other than Essie.
• 54:11
  So I'm like, I'm a young one.
• 54:14
  What can I say?
• 54:15
  They're all.
• 54:16
  They're all older than me.
• 54:17
  So, I mean, whatever.
• 54:18
  I'm gonna celebrate it.
• 54:20
  Yeah.
• 54:20
  So what do you.
• 54:21
  I mean, is there.
• 54:21
  Do you have big plans for it?
• 54:22
  Like, what are you thinking?
• 54:24
  Oh, gosh, you know, I'm a party planner, so I think there might be something.
• 54:31
  I think, you know, we didn't really get a chance.
• 54:33
  We've done some special things for our 20th anniversary.
• 54:36
  But, you know, we've got.
• 54:37
  We've.
• 54:37
  We've got a buildup of.
• 54:39
  Of a party coming.
• 54:40
  I can feel it.
• 54:41
  Okay, okay.
• 54:43
  You're like, I'm just gonna keep it under wraps.
• 54:45
  Yeah.
• 54:45
  Are you excited to turn 50 though, now?
• 54:47
  Probably not yet.
• 54:48
  I haven't really processed it.
• 54:49
  Cause I've only just turned 49.
• 54:51
  Like, give me a break.
• 54:53
  I was 48.
• 54:54
  I was 48 till a couple of weeks ago.
• 54:56
  So can we just, like, keep it still?
• 54:57
  I'm still like in the 48 bracket.
• 54:59
  Like, let's not push me up to 50 yet.
• 55:02
  So what do you think the next five years will look like for you?
• 55:05
  I mean, what do you want?
• 55:06
  What do you want to have happen?
• 55:08
  Look, I.
• 55:08
  I think, you know, the world is my oster.
• 55:11
  How big can you dream?
• 55:13
  Um, I am going to start doing some more singing.
• 55:16
  I released a gospel song last year and I'm going to.
• 55:19
  Congratulations.
• 55:21
  I've got a great friend here who actually just a Delta Godrum song for Eurovision, Jonas Miram.
• 55:27
  He's written with David Foster.
• 55:28
  David Foster, he's done Bocelli.
• 55:31
  I was literally talking to him last night.
• 55:32
  I've known him since we were 17.
• 55:34
  I'm like, Jonas, it's our time.
• 55:36
  We need to do a song together.
• 55:38
  So I grew up with him and Natasha Bedingfield.
• 55:40
  We're all used to sing together at church.
• 55:42
  Oh, you're kidding.
• 55:43
  I'm not.
• 55:44
  I'm not kidding.
• 55:44
  So you guys were like gospel choir,.
• 55:46
  Like, oh, so he's an amazing writer and, you know, then of course, look what Natasha has, like, flown.
• 55:54
  And her sister Nicola and her brother Daniel.
• 55:56
  Oh, were they all in the business?
• 55:57
  So Daniel was the first.
• 55:59
  And so I.
• 55:59
  I've grown up and known them for so long, so she's doing brilliantly.
• 56:03
  They're all based here, actually.
• 56:05
  But I.
• 56:06
  I'm like, I really feel like there's a song in my heart and I want to share it.
• 56:10
  And I think that's one thing that I would definitely, you know, keep doing.
• 56:14
  It's my craft.
• 56:15
  And even if it's not for the public, for just my own, My own health.
• 56:19
  Like, I write, I journal.
• 56:21
  I think it's important to look back, reflect, be grateful.
• 56:25
  There's definitely, you know, a lot of creativity that's going to come out.
• 56:30
  I mean, I would like, you know, I'm going back into the acting arena and that's very exciting.
• 56:37
  I mean, I'm looking what has happened with all these incredible things Landman.
• 56:41
  And I mean, look at the casting that.
• 56:43
  Look at Aliada.
• 56:44
  I mean, she is so hot and gorgeous and I just think, like, there's a time and, you know, I'm going to embrace it, like bring it.
• 56:51
  I think that, you know, if an opportunity comes up, Dancing with the Stars, America, let me do it.
• 56:58
  If Robert Irwin's bought it, I would like to do it too.
• 57:02
  You know, traitors.
• 57:03
  I mean, all of these things, you know, I love to talk, you know, if people want me to come and do like, look, look, look how, how many opportunities are there?
• 57:13
  I think, you know, my.
• 57:15
  I mean, maybe I'll do a podcast.
• 57:16
  Yes, very you, you know, a TV show host.
• 57:20
  I mean, I think that I've been, you know, trained for all of the above.
• 57:25
  So where God wants to take me, I will go.
• 57:27
  And, you know, to continue in Housewives, I think it's such a great opportunity to have.
• 57:31
  It's a wonderful platform.
• 57:32
  I love it as much as I have my days of like hating it, I love it.
• 57:37
  I wouldn't be sitting here with you now.
• 57:39
  So I am grateful every single day to what it's, you know, the opportunity it's given to me.
• 57:45
  And I think it's so smart what you and, you know, a lot of the other women do and you really use it to your advantage.
• 57:50
  You use it for your business.
• 57:51
  Honey, I'm a hustler.
• 57:53
  Like, be proactive, but you've just got to have a great team around me and, you know, they're visionaries as well.
• 57:59
  And you know, I didn't go into this blind.
• 58:01
  Right, right.
• 58:02
  I would not see you going into it.
• 58:04
  So you know, what they get, they get what?
• 58:06
  They get their pound of flesh.
• 58:08
  And so therefore I'm gonna use it, you know, for good.
• 58:12
  I'm excited about that.
• 58:13
  Yeah, no, it's very exciting.
• 58:15
  It's very exciting.
• 58:16
  So what advice would you give your 25 year old self?
• 58:19
  Looking back now, where, what were you, what was 25 Juliet doing?
• 58:25
  Well, I had actually met Tiggy.
• 58:28
  Wait, how'd you guys meet?
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  You wouldn't believe it.
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  In church.
• 58:31
  No, you did not.
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  I was like, he's like, I just fell in love with your heart.
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  I'm like, honey, I was blonde with big boobs.
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  Let's be realistic.
• 58:39
  Like the heart was like number three.
• 58:40
  Yeah.
• 58:43
  So we started dating then and, you know, I was in love.
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  I was working as an actor.
• 58:52
  I was, you know, I think for the first time making a decision that might may have found my soulmate.
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  And I, I was so in my one lane as an actor that those things were peripheral.
• 59:06
  And now my dynamics of my life was shifting because I was Belie I, I started to believe I'd found my soulmate and we could build a life together.
• 59:15
  And you know, for me, because I had been solo from a young girl really, that was really exciting, but also like, I think somewhat a relief, like I don't have to battle on my own so much anymore.
• 59:31
  And you know, when you're a young actress living in one of the biggest cities in the world, you know, it's a hard knock life.
• 59:38
  Do you know what I mean?
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  You're as good as your last job.
• 59:40
  I was doing well, I set up a luxury leather goods company and I was selling and I had a factory in Bangkok.
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  I was back and forth doing that on top of acting.
• 59:50
  I even like at one point I flew.
• 59:52
  I was a waitress in the sky.
• 59:53
  I flew for Qantas, which, yeah, that's.
• 59:55
  A great way to see the world.
• 59:56
  Nothing humbles you more than cleaning loose at 20,000ft, let me tell you.
• 1:00:00
  But you know, all of those things have made me who I am and I wanted to work.
• 1:00:05
  Like I had a, you know, I've had a really incredible upbringing and a privileged upbringing and I, I, my mother and father have given us an incredible life.
• 1:00:16
  When I say I lived on five continents, I did.
• 1:00:18
  My father was, you know, he chief medical officer of Queensland at a time then he won the Australia Award.
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  He worked in Saudi Arabia.
• 1:00:26
  He's worked, he's, you know, I went in, he was doing operations on bamboo slats in the middle of war zones.
• 1:00:32
  In between his work, he would do it.
• 1:00:34
  I've grown up like that, like in refugee camps, seeing how the other half live and how grateful I was and such.
• 1:00:43
  Again, juxtaposition here in the middle of a war zone.
• 1:00:45
  And here I am on a stage making people laugh, you know, and my parents were medics and academics and here we were like razzle dazzle, Like I was like, how was that even like a thing?
• 1:00:57
  I doubted myself, like, what value am I bringing?
• 1:01:00
  And that was part of my journey and to understand that actually it's okay.
• 1:01:04
  That's who God's created me to be.
• 1:01:07
  And you know, it's a skill set and you know, God can use that for his glory.
• 1:01:11
  I may not be saving people's lives, although I have saved a few lives because I've done cpr, but so it counts.
• 1:01:18
  But I, in fact I won.
• 1:01:20
  This is a random.
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  I was given an award from Scotland Yard.
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  Really?
• 1:01:24
  Yeah.
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  For saving a life.
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  You're kidding.
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  And I laughed so much.
• 1:01:27
  And my dad flew over and came to Scotland Yard to See me receive it.
• 1:01:30
  And I'm like, you save lives every day.
• 1:01:32
  And here I am saving a life.
• 1:01:33
  And I'm at Scotty.
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  God, right?
• 1:01:34
  Winning like an award for saving a life, like, to the community, you know, that was a random, you know, last night I was having this dinner with some great friends and in the Bird Street Club, as one does
• 1:01:48
  that.
• 1:01:48
  The place to be, I'm told, in la.
• 1:01:51
  And we were just talking.
• 1:01:52
  They're part of the Philharmonic.
• 1:01:53
  And I was like, I recorded an album with the real Philharmonic when I was, you know, 16.
• 1:01:57
  Nursery rhyme CD.
• 1:01:58
  Like, have you seen the muffin, man?
• 1:01:59
  The muffin?
• 1:02:00
  And they looked at me and they're like, you come out with the most extraordinary things.
• 1:02:04
  And I'm like, I actually start need to remembering these things.
• 1:02:08
  So I've had an extraordinary life.
• 1:02:09
  And I.
• 1:02:10
  My parents have really given that to me.
• 1:02:12
  And, you know, I've been a privileged situation with schooling.
• 1:02:16
  I.
• 1:02:16
  Yes, I've won scholarships, but, you know, I don't take any of that for granted.
• 1:02:22
  So I think that, you know, when I was 25, my stability was good and having a good family behind me and, you know, I was financially okay.
• 1:02:32
  And that was, you know, that is a lot for people just navigating that in itself to survive.
• 1:02:38
  So I do know that that is a huge privilege to be in that situation.
• 1:02:43
  So I think it was just letting go and understanding that I could share my life with someone and we could build a life together.
• 1:02:52
  And started, like, planning, because as an actor, you were only as good as your last job, but only planning for the next contract.
• 1:02:58
  You didn't know where you were doing, were you touring?
• 1:03:00
  Was I coming to America?
• 1:03:02
  Was how.
• 1:03:03
  How long was my rent going to be paid for?
• 1:03:05
  Do you know what I mean?
• 1:03:05
  You don't know what tomorrow brings.
• 1:03:07
  And as much as I love that, and I'm totally the person that is, like, up for that.
• 1:03:11
  You know, it takes a character to be like that.
• 1:03:13
  It was lovely to say, you know, we're going to build a life together and we're going to invest.
• 1:03:18
  And he always, he taught me that.
• 1:03:21
  So instead of instant gratification, it was longevity builds and invests.
• 1:03:27
  And I think because you're an actor, you're in your moment.
• 1:03:31
  That for me was everything.
• 1:03:33
  And, you know, he is slightly more mature than I am.
• 1:03:37
  He's very stable in himself.
• 1:03:39
  You know, he's successful and he's smart and he's ambitious and.
• 1:03:44
  And it was someone I really could respect and looked up to.
• 1:03:47
  And I was like, yeah, this is Exciting.
• 1:03:49
  This is where my life started to become.
• 1:03:51
  I started to become, I think, who I was meant to be.
• 1:03:55
  So I would say to my younger 25 year old self, like, it's okay, life happens.
• 1:04:03
  You're a survivor.
• 1:04:04
  Don't worry.
• 1:04:06
  And you know, just be comfortable in your skin.
• 1:04:09
  Yeah, that's, it's so big because we're so not at that age, you know, 20s.
• 1:04:13
  The 20s.
• 1:04:14
  You know, it's interesting your point about, you know, your father, My dad was also a doctor as well.
• 1:04:19
  Yes.
• 1:04:20
  And he was an oncologist.
• 1:04:21
  He actually recently passed.
• 1:04:23
  I'm so sorry.
• 1:04:24
  How old was he?
• 1:04:25
  He was 86.
• 1:04:26
  Oh, good life.
• 1:04:27
  Yes, good life.
• 1:04:28
  But still young.
• 1:04:29
  Still young.
• 1:04:30
  You know, it's never, it's never the right time, you know, you're never okay and it's just, it's always hard to deal with.
• 1:04:35
  But when you said the thing about, you know, you're growing up with these parents who are academics say, you know, very similar to me, you know, it's kind of like, what am I doing?
• 1:04:43
  Like what is my place?
• 1:04:44
  You know, am I supposed to be doing something similar to what they're doing?
• 1:04:48
  You know, and to do something totally different is kind of, you know, can be shocking.
• 1:04:53
  But.
• 1:04:53
  Well, it was really interesting this last trip to see them and given life has changed for them somewhat, they're slowing down.
• 1:05:01
  My father is still a student working like.
• 1:05:03
  And I'm so glad because he'd drive us all crazy if he wasn't.
• 1:05:07
  But for them, I think it was a huge relief I've got this show because it's like all of that training, all of that, that crazy child that was so Insistent to move 12 and a half thousand miles and
• 1:05:20
  go into this specialist boarding school and like do everything was that they were.
• 1:05:24
  I mean my father's a very talented musician and he'd won a scholarship to music school in America from England.
• 1:05:29
  So I do have some of that blood.
• 1:05:31
  But they, you know, for them to kind of computer and then see me like, where was all that?
• 1:05:36
  Now it's all been used.
• 1:05:38
  They're like these things all come around and I think, you know, my daddy is just, he's, he's, we giggled a lot.
• 1:05:45
  He's such a man of wisdom.
• 1:05:47
  And my mother too, and she's like, we just, they still see me as their little 13 year old girl.
• 1:05:52
  Right?
• 1:05:52
  I don't, it's very hard for them to move on.
• 1:05:55
  I'm in my 40s now and almost 50.
• 1:05:58
  But we're not gonna say that we're Never gonna say that, but I think they just, they're so humored by it all and that makes me happy.
• 1:06:07
  And, you know, I just want to be that person.
• 1:06:11
  Like when the Bible says, well done, good and faithful servant, well done, like, you've lived your best life.
• 1:06:16
  And I think that, that my parents just want that for me.
• 1:06:18
  They want me to be happy, they want me to have known that I've used all my skill set and my talents and, you know, I flourished as a wife and mother and that's it.
• 1:06:27
  Not live in regret.
• 1:06:28
  And I think I felt like my father was always like, I'm so happy for you, like where you're at, like, this is good.
• 1:06:37
  Because I feel like now all of your gifts and talent, you're not so that I was suppressing them, but it's like, yeah, you've still got it and you're still doing it, and that's fantastic.
• 1:06:44
  And it wasn't just then, it's through your whole life.
• 1:06:47
  And I think that is something that I would say to also women of our age.
• 1:06:53
  Like, don't think age is stopping you doing anything right.
• 1:06:59
  Because it just shifts.
• 1:07:01
  Like, I know I can't dance like I used to.
• 1:07:03
  My leg is not around my ear, but I still got the moves, baby.
• 1:07:08
  Nick Jagger.
• 1:07:11
  I will get on that table if you want me to get on that table.
• 1:07:13
  Do you know what I mean?
• 1:07:14
  I think we.
• 1:07:14
  It just looks different.
• 1:07:15
  But you've still got chutzpah, you've still got your mojo and just go for it and don't let anyone constrain you.
• 1:07:21
  Yes, 100%, even yourself.
• 1:07:24
  Like, don't let yourself hold you back.
• 1:07:26
  Like, if it's something you want, go for it, do.
• 1:07:28
  Yeah.
• 1:07:29
  And I think I've seen that in my parents.
• 1:07:30
  I think they've been great as my.
• 1:07:31
  My dad is always doing something new with a pro and a new project.
• 1:07:36
  And you know, he's one of the top tropical medicine specialists in the world, a pediatric surgeon and obstetrics.
• 1:07:42
  And you know why?
• 1:07:43
  Because he would never not study.
• 1:07:46
  He always reading and my mother always reading, always challenging, always taking exams, always keeping up with the.
• 1:07:53
  But like never sitting on his laurels and just going for it.
• 1:07:57
  And so I see that.
• 1:07:58
  And that always has given me, like, I can't be lazy.
• 1:08:03
  I want to learn every day to.
• 1:08:05
  Be a lifelong learner.
• 1:08:06
  That's so important.
• 1:08:07
  Yes.
• 1:08:08
  Because your brain needs to be stimulated.
• 1:08:10
  And the second you stop, it's like your body, the second you stop fit looking after it, you know, you become sedentary and that is a horrible place to be.
• 1:08:19
  Yeah, you don't want to do that.
• 1:08:21
  You don't want to do that.
• 1:08:21
  Keep it going, everybody.
• 1:08:23
  Oh, my gosh, Juliet, you are amazing.
• 1:08:25
  You're amazing.
• 1:08:26
  I'm so glad we could show you.
• 1:08:27
  Oh, me too.
• 1:08:28
  Me too.
• 1:08:29
  Yeah.
• 1:08:29
  This is so fun.
• 1:08:30
  So tell everybody, obviously, where they can find you, but also the date of the show premiere so we can all be watching.
• 1:08:36
  Okay, so 7th of September, season two.
• 1:08:40
  Hold onto your pants.
• 1:08:41
  Take a Valium.
• 1:08:42
  Buckle up, buttercup.
• 1:08:44
  Have that spicy margarita.
• 1:08:45
  Spicy margarita, Absolutely.
• 1:08:47
  Get your popcorn out.
• 1:08:49
  It's gonna be hot.
• 1:08:51
  Coming in hot.
• 1:08:53
  So, yeah, my socials are Juicy Mayhew.
• 1:08:55
  Where does Juicy come from, by the way?
• 1:08:57
  Do you know, back in the day, it was, like, a nickname, and do you remember when we used to have MySpace and it lasted, like, two seconds?
• 1:09:03
  So I was like, well, Instagram probably lasts, like, two seconds.
• 1:09:06
  And I used to be called, like, Juicy Jules.
• 1:09:07
  So I was like, juicy Mayhew.
• 1:09:08
  Well, then it stuck, right?
• 1:09:11
  And I was like, people are talking.
• 1:09:13
  Oh, Juicy.
• 1:09:14
  I know you, Juicy.
• 1:09:14
  I'm like, my name is Juliet.
• 1:09:17
  And then I was like, I do have Juliet Mayhew, which is my party company.
• 1:09:20
  And then I was like, do you know what?
• 1:09:21
  Actually, it's my Persona, and that's how it was, and that's how it is.
• 1:09:27
  And it stuck.
• 1:09:28
  Yeah, no, I think it works.
• 1:09:29
  I like this branding.
• 1:09:31
  Yeah, I do.
• 1:09:32
  I do.
• 1:09:33
  Little Juicy.
• 1:09:33
  You know, fun and fruity and, like, spicy.
• 1:09:36
  Absolutely.
• 1:09:36
  We're claiming it.
• 1:09:38
  Claiming it.
• 1:09:38
  Proclaiming it.
• 1:09:39
  That's it.
• 1:09:40
  Okay, Everybody, follow her.
• 1:09:42
  UCYMAYHUE.
• 1:09:43
  And watch the show.
• 1:09:44
  Watch the show.
• 1:09:45
  September 7th.
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  Yay.
• 1:09:47
  Yay.
• 1:09:47
  Oh, my gosh.
• 1:09:48
  Thank you so much, my love, for coming.
• 1:09:50
  Oh, my gosh.
• 1:09:51
  Thank you for having me.
• 1:09:52
  I love the idea that there doesn't have to be one definitive version of who we are.
• 1:09:56
  We can be mothers and partners and professionals.
• 1:09:59
  We can spend years taking care of everyone else, and then one day, we can decide there's another part of ourselves we're ready to meet or maybe reclaim.
• 1:10:08
  Juliette Mayhew is a great reminder that 49 is certainly not the age to become smaller, quieter, or less ambitious.
• 1:10:15
  It might actually be a moment to take up a little more space.
• 1:10:18
  A huge thank you to Juliet for joining me today, and be sure to come back on Thursday for Juliet's bonus game episode.
• 1:10:25
  And if this conversation spoke to you, download the episode and send it to a woman who might need that reminder that it's her turn too.
• 1:10:32
  And make sure you subscribe to the Iconic Midlife on your favorite podcast app and YouTube so you never miss a new episode.
• 1:10:38
  You can also follow the show on social media at the Iconic Midlife and me, redcarpetroxy I'm Roxie Manning and I'll see you next time on the Iconic Midlife SA.