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23. How I’m Reclaiming My Creativity After Years of Shrinking Myself · Lately with Lexi

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SPEAKER_00: My first job out of college looked great on paper.
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I was a marketing manager at a tech company with a steady
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paycheck and a clear path
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SPEAKER_00: forward and not to toot my own horn,
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SPEAKER_00: but I was really good at it,
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which almost made it worse because I'd sit at my desk and I
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would feel this quiet,
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SPEAKER_00: persistent guilt.
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SPEAKER_00: not because I hated my job,
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SPEAKER_00: but because I wanted more,
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SPEAKER_00: more money,
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SPEAKER_00: more freedom,
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SPEAKER_00: more time to go inward.
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SPEAKER_00: Wanting all of that at once felt like a contradiction I couldn't resolve.
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SPEAKER_00: I couldn't even afford my own apartment at the time.
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SPEAKER_00: I was living with my parents,
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working in marketing by day and sneaking off to meditate and
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study spiritual texts
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SPEAKER_00: at night,
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SPEAKER_00: wondering why does it feel like I have to choose between
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SPEAKER_00: the two.
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SPEAKER_00: That tension between ambition and contemplation,
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SPEAKER_00: between financial hunger and spiritual depth,
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it's something that I carried for years before I understood
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that it wasn't a
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SPEAKER_00: contradiction.
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SPEAKER_00: It was more of an invitation.
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SPEAKER_00: That is what today's episode is all about.
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We are going to explore why shrinking yourself to fit in is
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costing you more than
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SPEAKER_00: you think and how I'm finally breaking free.
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Welcome to Lately with Lexi,
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where spirituality,
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strategy,
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and storytelling meet.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm Lexi,
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SPEAKER_00: and for the last 10 years,
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I've helped health and wellness brands grow by day and guided
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spiritual seekers by
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SPEAKER_00: night.
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SPEAKER_00: Every episode explores spiritual wisdom,
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SPEAKER_00: business building,
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SPEAKER_00: and personal reflections from my life.
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So come hang out with me in the middle of my home if you are
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watching onSubstack or
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SPEAKER_00: over on YouTube as I share what I'm creating,
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SPEAKER_00: learning,
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SPEAKER_00: and navigating as a yogi,
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SPEAKER_00: business consultant,
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SPEAKER_00: healer,
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SPEAKER_00: and entrepreneur.
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SPEAKER_00: Today,
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SPEAKER_00: we're going deep on something I've been untangling for years,
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and it's how to reclaim your creativity after years of
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shrinking yourself or by
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SPEAKER_00: playing by other people's rules.
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SPEAKER_00: This episode is all about living multidimensionally,
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SPEAKER_00: being a spiritual seeker and a business owner,
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SPEAKER_00: an artist and a strategist,
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SPEAKER_00: being fully human and fully divine.
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SPEAKER_00: Because here's what I've learned.
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SPEAKER_00: We were never meant to be one thing.
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And when we stop trying to fit into a single box,
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our lives will start to soften.
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We become more magnetic when we allow ourselves,
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all parts of us,
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to be fully seen.
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I'll be breaking down four lessons that helped me embrace my
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multi-passionate self,
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lessons that I wish someone had given me permission to learn 10
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years ago when I
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SPEAKER_00: first entered the world of spirituality and entrepreneurship.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's start with the lesson that took me the longest to learn,
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SPEAKER_00: and it was probably the one I needed the most.
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And this is all about giving yourself the permission slip to be
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everything,
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to be all of you.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll explain what I mean, but I want to start first with a story.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's go back 10 years ago.
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SPEAKER_00: It was 2016.
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I hired my first business coach at the time I was running what
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most people would
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SPEAKER_00: consider two separate businesses at once.
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SPEAKER_00: On one side,
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SPEAKER_00: I was leading yoga and wellness workshops,
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SPEAKER_00: doing health coaching,
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SPEAKER_00: life coaching,
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SPEAKER_00: and energy healing.
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SPEAKER_00: On the other side,
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SPEAKER_00: I was offering marketing services,
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SPEAKER_00: copywriting,
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SPEAKER_00: offer creation,
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SPEAKER_00: sales coaching,
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SPEAKER_00: and I was genuinely lit up by all of it.
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My coach looked at what I was building and told me I needed to
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shut down half of it.
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SPEAKER_00: The spiritual work had to go because I was diluting my brand.
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SPEAKER_00: I did what I was told.
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SPEAKER_00: I
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And I let go of every spiritual offer I was selling and I went
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all in on marketing services.
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SPEAKER_00: Not long after, I was making more money than ever before in my life.
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SPEAKER_00: I was also completely passionless.
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SPEAKER_00: My business had turned into a job that I didn't want to go to.
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SPEAKER_00: And here's the part that kind of embarrasses me a little bit to admit,
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SPEAKER_00: but I was experiencing major lifestyle creep.
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SPEAKER_00: I was making more than ever and somehow spending it faster than ever,
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SPEAKER_00: constantly investing in the next course,
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SPEAKER_00: the next coach,
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SPEAKER_00: the next thing that was going to help me feel like myself again.
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SPEAKER_00: Instead of going inward, I kept looking outward.
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SPEAKER_00: And the further I got from my multidimensionality, the more lost I felt.
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SPEAKER_00: And I see this pattern show up with clients too.
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One example,
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I worked with an early employee at a startup I was helping to
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grow.
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SPEAKER_00: And about a year in,
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he mentioned wanting to build his own book of business
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alongside the startup.
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SPEAKER_00: Then he went quiet about it for about a year.
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SPEAKER_00: He came back after his first baby was born, ready to finally do it.
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but still tangled up in guilt about splitting his energy
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between the startup and
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SPEAKER_00: his own ambitions.
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SPEAKER_00: Like those two things were betrayals of one another.
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SPEAKER_00: Wonder if that's relatable to anyone.
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SPEAKER_00: What he needed wasn't strategy.
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SPEAKER_00: He needed a permission slip.
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Once he gave himself permission to pursue both without one
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canceling out the other,
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SPEAKER_00: things got a whole lot more clear.
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And I think that's true for most of us living in a moment where
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people are finally
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SPEAKER_00: learning to advocate for themselves when it comes to their health,
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SPEAKER_00: asking better questions,
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SPEAKER_00: doing their own research.
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SPEAKER_00: But what about advocating for your own self-expression?
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SPEAKER_00: We don't talk about that nearly enough.
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SPEAKER_00: Remember,
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SPEAKER_00: the most important relationship that you will ever,
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SPEAKER_00: ever have is the one you have with yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: So
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when you finally allow all of yourself to exist at once not
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just the parts that are
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easy to explain that's when your creativity and authenticity
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start to shine in a
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way that really can't be replicated you don't need permission
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to express your
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fullness and you don't have to be attached to any single form
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that the expression
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SPEAKER_00: takes it's very relieving
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SPEAKER_00: Being everything means full participation in your life.
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It means letting your gifts,
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your ideas,
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your desires move through you without editing them.
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SPEAKER_00: Saying yes to what feels alive and aligned,
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showing up fully instead of shrinking into whatever version of
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you seems more
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SPEAKER_00: acceptable to other people.
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I experienced this personally in 2020 when I launched a
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meditation membership.
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I had about 50 students joining me every morning for Kundalini
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yoga and meditation.
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SPEAKER_00: And I led this membership for about a year and I genuinely loved it.
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SPEAKER_00: But underneath it, something was quietly shifting.
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SPEAKER_00: I wanted to offer something deeper in person.
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SPEAKER_00: I wanted closer relationships with the people I was serving.
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SPEAKER_00: I wanted to be in a room with them,
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but I had a hard time admitting this to myself because I knew
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that with change came
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SPEAKER_00: uncertainty.
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SPEAKER_00: So the more I kept ignoring my heart's desires,
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SPEAKER_00: the more live attendance and the membership started to drop.
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SPEAKER_00: And here's what I know now that I couldn't see then,
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SPEAKER_00: but that dwindling participation,
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SPEAKER_00: it wasn't failure.
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What it was doing was actually creating space for what I wanted
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to build next,
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SPEAKER_00: which was my first solo in-person yogic leadership retreat in Maui.
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SPEAKER_00: So here's the thing that nobody tells you about full self-expression.
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SPEAKER_00: It only works when we stop gripping the results and the outcome.
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So the moment I released my grip on the membership needing to
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look a certain way,
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SPEAKER_00: the retreat filled.
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So my mantra for this is to hold the vision firmly and the
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timeline lightly.
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When you start living this way,
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something shifts in the questions that you ask yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: Instead of how do I make this thing happen?
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SPEAKER_00: You start asking, what is trying to happen through me right now?
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And that second question moves you out of fear-based anxiety
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and into present
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SPEAKER_00: moment responsiveness,
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SPEAKER_00: which in my experience is where the best work actually gets done.
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So the problem is sometimes it feels like the whole world is
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designed to talk you
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SPEAKER_00: out of being multi-passionate and that's where lesson two comes in.
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SPEAKER_00: So let me take you back now to 2017.
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SPEAKER_00: I had newly discovered internet marketing.
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SPEAKER_00: I was genuinely excited about everything it promised.
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SPEAKER_00: So more time freedom, location freedom,
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SPEAKER_00: building something that was fully mine.
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SPEAKER_00: But everywhere I turned, I kept hearing the same advice.
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SPEAKER_00: You needed to niche down, pick one thing.
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SPEAKER_00: You can't be everything to everyone.
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And I tried that the year prior going all in on marketing,
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but it fell flat.
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SPEAKER_00: So I did what any good student does.
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SPEAKER_00: I read the book, The One Thing.
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SPEAKER_00: I made my decision.
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SPEAKER_00: I would just be a health coach,
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SPEAKER_00: not someone who loved business strategy and lived and breathed marketing.
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SPEAKER_00: I was just going to focus on health coaching.
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SPEAKER_00: And you know what happened?
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SPEAKER_00: Probably guessed it.
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SPEAKER_00: I felt like I was suffocating and
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SPEAKER_00: felt like I was denying so much of who I really was.
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SPEAKER_00: So I would have these ideas about spirituality,
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SPEAKER_00: exploring different business models,
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SPEAKER_00: creative projects.
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I was dying to explore and I would shut them down before they
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ever had a chance to
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SPEAKER_00: breathe because they weren't on brand.
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SPEAKER_00: They didn't fit the niche of a health coach.
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SPEAKER_00: So instead of trusting my own discernment,
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I continued to look outside of myself for someone to tell me
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what to do next.
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And after years of experiencing this personally and watching it
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happen with
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SPEAKER_00: clients,
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SPEAKER_00: here's what I've come to understand.
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When you are multi-passionate and you try to force yourself
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into a single offer,
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SPEAKER_00: a single lane,
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SPEAKER_00: a single identity,
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SPEAKER_00: you're
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SPEAKER_00: is a signal.
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It's your nervous system telling you that you've outgrown the
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container that you've built.
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SPEAKER_00: Then what happens?
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SPEAKER_00: Well, we inevitably pivot, stop or start over.
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SPEAKER_00: And then we shame ourselves for it.
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SPEAKER_00: We think something is wrong with us.
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SPEAKER_00: We think we have commitment issues or ADHD really bad.
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we start to think everyone else figured out the one thing and
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we're the only one
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SPEAKER_00: still spinning.
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And that story keeps us on a hamster wheel that has nothing to
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do with our actual
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capacity and everything to do with a framework that was never
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designed for the way
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SPEAKER_00: that we are wired as creatives.
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The one thing philosophy,
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it works beautifully for some people,
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don't get me wrong.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not here to say that it doesn't.
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SPEAKER_00: If you are multi-pathic,
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SPEAKER_00: It's probably going to feel like a cage.
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SPEAKER_00: And the longer you stay in it,
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the more disconnected you become from the thing that actually
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makes you stand out.
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If you are anything like me,
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your superpower isn't doing one thing really well.
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Your superpower is making connections between unseemingly
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related things.
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SPEAKER_00: We all know the quote, a jack of all trades is a master of none.
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Listen,
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that quote haunted me for years until I finally heard the full
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quote.
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A jack of all trades is a master of none,
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but oftentimes better than a master of none.
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SPEAKER_00: of one.
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SPEAKER_00: Let that sink in.
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SPEAKER_00: Danco calls this being a niche of one.
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SPEAKER_00: And I think that reframe is so liberating.
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SPEAKER_00: It's when we bring our unique blend of skills,
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SPEAKER_00: experiences,
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SPEAKER_00: and perspectives to everything that we create.
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Here's what I realized in both my own business and in the
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businesses of my clients.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of us do not operate linearly.
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SPEAKER_00: Instead, we operate architecturally.
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SPEAKER_00: One thing leads to the next,
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SPEAKER_00: not because we necessarily planned it that way on a spreadsheet,
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but because we trusted our intuition and followed what
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genuinely excited us.
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Now,
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I'm a manifester in human design,
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which means I'm literally designed to initiate
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SPEAKER_00: to start things,
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to create from inspiration and to build in bursts rather than
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in straight lines.
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SPEAKER_00: And for years, I thought that this was a liability.
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SPEAKER_00: Turns out it's kind of the whole point.
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I have led retreats that effortlessly pointed me towards my
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next offering.
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either because I got inspired in the room or because the people
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in the room started
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SPEAKER_00: asking me for something new.
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I have had consulting clients who eventually wanted to come to
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a retreat or do
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SPEAKER_00: healing sessions with me,
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SPEAKER_00: not because I packaged it that way,
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SPEAKER_00: but because they wanted to go deeper in working with me.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's the thing about being a niche of one.
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SPEAKER_00: Your clients are multidimensional too.
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SPEAKER_00: They don't just want what you're selling.
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SPEAKER_00: They want to keep working with you.
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SPEAKER_00: So the through line, it's not your offer.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not what you're selling.
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SPEAKER_00: It's actually you.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I want to be clear.
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SPEAKER_00: This is not an excuse to do everything at once with no focus.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not what I'm talking about at all.
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That's actually a different problem,
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and we'll get to that in the next lesson.
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But the reframe I'm offering is that instead of thinking one
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thing forever,
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SPEAKER_00: think about one primary focus per season.
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SPEAKER_00: So you still choose a primary project and focus for the quarter.
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SPEAKER_00: You still allocate most of your energy output in one direction,
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SPEAKER_00: but you're not suppressing the rest of who you are.
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And you stop assuming that your life's work has to stay frozen
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in a single lane.
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SPEAKER_00: So freeing when we do that.
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So the question I ask myself and my clients isn't what is the
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one thing I need to do?
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SPEAKER_00: It's what is one leveraged focus that moves the whole ecosystem forward?
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SPEAKER_00: That question can help create clarity without restriction.
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SPEAKER_00: It protects your energy output without putting your creativity in a box.
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And when I finally let go of the one thing mentality and
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embraced all of me,
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SPEAKER_00: the yogi,
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SPEAKER_00: the consultant,
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SPEAKER_00: the healer,
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SPEAKER_00: the entrepreneur,
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SPEAKER_00: that's when everything started to click.
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SPEAKER_00: That's when I started to genuinely love my work again.
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SPEAKER_00: And it stopped feeling like a job.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you've been forcing yourself into a box that feels too small,
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SPEAKER_00: I want you to sit with this.
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What if the thing you think is too much is actually your
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greatest advantage?
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SPEAKER_00: What if being interested in multiple things isn't a weakness?
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SPEAKER_00: It's actually what makes you irreplaceable.
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SPEAKER_00: Now,
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we've established that you're allowed to be everything and that
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the one thing is a
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SPEAKER_00: myth for people like us.
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But what if you're still feeling scattered and pulled in too
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many different directions?
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SPEAKER_00: Totally normal, by the way.
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SPEAKER_00: This leads us to lesson three.
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SPEAKER_00: You can do it all, but you can't do it all right now.
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SPEAKER_00: Hopefully that can help relax you.
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So there's a difference between honoring all parts of yourself
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and trying to do all
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SPEAKER_00: of it at the same time.
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SPEAKER_00: And that distinction took me longer to learn than I would like to admit.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, do I want to write a book?
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SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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SPEAKER_00: Do I want to invest in real estate in France?
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, eventually.
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SPEAKER_00: But I know right now isn't the time for either of those things.
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And instead of beating myself up about it,
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I've learned to let them simmer.
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SPEAKER_00: Now,
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SPEAKER_00: if you enjoy cooking,
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SPEAKER_00: you know that some of the best sauces come from hours of low,
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SPEAKER_00: slow cooking.
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SPEAKER_00: heat.
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SPEAKER_00: Our dreams can work that same way.
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The ones that matter don't disappear just because you're not
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actively working on them.
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SPEAKER_00: They wait, they simmer.
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SPEAKER_00: And when the timing is right, trust that you will know.
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SPEAKER_00: What I found is that multi-passionate people,
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SPEAKER_00: and I say this with so much love because I am one,
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SPEAKER_00: we tend to want to do everything at once,
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SPEAKER_00: right?
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SPEAKER_00: We
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SPEAKER_00: But when we try,
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SPEAKER_00: we end up with scattered attention,
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SPEAKER_00: diluted energy,
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SPEAKER_00: and projects that never fully mature.
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SPEAKER_00: Not because we're not capable,
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but because we spread ourselves thin across too many different
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directions all at
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SPEAKER_00: once,
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SPEAKER_00: and then nothing gets the depth it deserves.
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SPEAKER_00: Sound familiar?
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SPEAKER_00: The key isn't doing less.
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SPEAKER_00: It's about being seasonal with where and what we're focused on.
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life moves in cycles and the key is to honor them one idea
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leads for a season
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others stay warm in the background but they aren't your primary
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focus and that's
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okay because we know the cycle will rotate there will be a new
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season and when you
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accept that rhythm instead of fighting it your expression
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actually expands rather
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SPEAKER_00: than shrinks
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SPEAKER_00: Now,
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SPEAKER_00: personally,
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I follow the wheel of the year and I like to sync my creative
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efforts with the turn
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SPEAKER_00: of the seasons.
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SPEAKER_00: If you'd like me to do a deep dive on creating harmony with nature,
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let me know in the comments and I can release an entire episode
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about how I
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SPEAKER_00: specifically do that.
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SPEAKER_00: But in general,
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SPEAKER_00: when it comes to honoring cycles,
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SPEAKER_00: the intention is not to suppress your other passions.
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SPEAKER_00: You're protecting them by not forcing them before their time.
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SPEAKER_00: So for me right now,
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SPEAKER_00: this podcast and my Substack are where my creative energy is leading.
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And I actually started this on the spiritual new year on
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September 1st of 2025.
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I'll link an article I wrote about it in the show notes below
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if you want to check it out.
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And I think the real test for any creative outlet is that you
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have to genuinely
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SPEAKER_00: enjoy the process of making it.
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not just be fixated on whatever desired outcome you have in
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mind from that thing.
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SPEAKER_00: So when you love the process, creating becomes sustainable.
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And you might be wondering,
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well,
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how do I get clear on what is important to me right now?
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SPEAKER_00: So this is where I want to share one of my favorite tools.
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SPEAKER_00: It is a simple journaling exercise that I use with a lot of my clients.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you want to pause this, go ahead, grab a journal.
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SPEAKER_00: And all you do, it's very simple.
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SPEAKER_00: You write down everything that lights you up.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't hold back.
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SPEAKER_00: List out all of the projects,
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all of the ideas where you feel the most energized just
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thinking about them.
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SPEAKER_00: Once you complete that list,
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you want to review the list and then circle one to three things
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that you feel the
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SPEAKER_00: most momentum behind right now.
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SPEAKER_00: The dreams you didn't circle, they're still for you, just not right now.
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SPEAKER_00: This helps you focus.
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So give yourself full permission to focus on the one to three
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ideas that you
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SPEAKER_00: circled without guilt for the next three months.
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SPEAKER_00: Personally,
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I revisit this exercise at the solstices and equinoxes four
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times a year in
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SPEAKER_00: alignment with the natural seasons.
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SPEAKER_00: But I also come back to it anytime I'm feeling unclear,
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SPEAKER_00: overwhelmed,
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SPEAKER_00: or like I'm starting to doubt my path.
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SPEAKER_00: Anytime that intuitive ping shows up that says something feels off,
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SPEAKER_00: this is my go-to journaling.
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And here's what makes it so powerful beyond just getting
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organized on paper.
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SPEAKER_00: Writing down your dreams not only helps your friends,
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focus but it clears the subconscious mind from destruction it
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creates space it
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quiets the noise and in that quiet your intuition gets louder
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you stop feeling the
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pull to look outside of yourself for answers because the
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answers were already there
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you just needed space to get honest with yourself in order to
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hear them and to
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SPEAKER_00: recognize them
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So all of the dreams you wrote down but didn't circle will
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still be there when
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SPEAKER_00: you're ready for them.
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And you'll do them better because you didn't force them before
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their time.
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Florence Scoville Finn writes about this in The Game of Life
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and How to Play It.
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SPEAKER_00: Great book if you've never checked it out.
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SPEAKER_00: Please do.
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And she says that if you have the vision,
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if you have any vision,
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it can be yours,
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right?
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Sometimes your vision just needs time to breathe and come to
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life when it's meant
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SPEAKER_00: to,
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SPEAKER_00: not when our ego is trying to demand it to.
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SPEAKER_00: So we talked about giving yourself permission,
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SPEAKER_00: releasing the myth of the one thing and honoring your focus.
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But there's one more layer underneath all of this that I think
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is actually the most
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SPEAKER_00: liberating of all.
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SPEAKER_00: So lesson four is all about the yogic path of letting go of labels.
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One of the most important teachings in yoga is the concept of
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non-identification,
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SPEAKER_00: the practice of not attaching to labels,
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SPEAKER_00: roles,
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SPEAKER_00: or identities.
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SPEAKER_00: It is one of the five causes of suffering.
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SPEAKER_00: It's the moment we fuse our identity to labels such as I am spiritual,
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SPEAKER_00: I am a marketer,
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SPEAKER_00: I am an introvert,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm liberal,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm Christian,
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SPEAKER_00: I am this zodiac sign,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm that zodiac sign.
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SPEAKER_00: You get the point.
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SPEAKER_00: The problem is that when we do this,
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SPEAKER_00: we are unknowingly limiting ourselves to the things we identify with.
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SPEAKER_00: So here's what changed for me when I really sat with this teaching.
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SPEAKER_00: If I am all of these labels, well, I'm confined.
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SPEAKER_00: If I'm not these labels, I am free.
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SPEAKER_00: I am free to create.
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I can be a retreat leader on the weekend and a sales strategist
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on a Monday.
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SPEAKER_00: I can teach breath work in the morning and...
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know, analyze a marketing funnel in the afternoon.
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SPEAKER_00: It's all good.
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You know,
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I am a yogi who genuinely enjoys talking about business and I'm
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pretty good at it.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've made peace with that.
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SPEAKER_00: I can be both.
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SPEAKER_00: None of these things individually define me.
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SPEAKER_00: All of them express a different facet of myself
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SPEAKER_00: And once you get that, it is so freeing.
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When we're defined by a label,
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any threat to that label feels like a threat to our existence.
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SPEAKER_00: We defend it.
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SPEAKER_00: We shrink to protect it.
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We stop evolving because evolving might mean becoming something
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that that label
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SPEAKER_00: doesn't identify with.
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But when you consciously choose your roles instead of
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identifying as them,
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something opens up.
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you can allow new expressions to emerge without it feeling like
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an identity crisis
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you can change direction without it meaning that you failed or
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that you have to
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SPEAKER_00: start over you can grow into something you don't have a name for yet and
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SPEAKER_00: You don't need to explain it to anyone.
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SPEAKER_00: You stop asking, who am I supposed to be?
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SPEAKER_00: And start asking, what is alive to express through me right now?
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And that question changes a lot because it moves you out of a
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fixed identity and
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SPEAKER_00: into a living,
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SPEAKER_00: breathing relationship with your own becoming.
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SPEAKER_00: Listen, you do not have to have it all figured out.
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no one does trust me you don't need to define yourself for
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other people's comfort
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or even your own comfort you are allowed to be a total mystery
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even to yourself and
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it's not a problem to solve that's actually one of the most
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beautiful things about
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being human the yogic understanding is that your true identity
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the soul pure
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SPEAKER_00: consciousness is
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The awareness behind your experiences was never contained to a
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job title or a niche
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SPEAKER_00: or a role that somebody assigned to you.
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You are far greater than the roles you take on and the path of
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self-realization.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not just about knowing this intellectually.
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SPEAKER_00: It's about living it moment to moment, season to season.
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SPEAKER_00: And we talked about this a lot last week.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you missed that episode, go check it out.
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So what we're really doing here when we reclaim our creativity
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and stop shrinking
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SPEAKER_00: ourselves,
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SPEAKER_00: we're not just building better businesses or expressing ourselves more
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SPEAKER_00: authentically.
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We are remembering the truth of who we are,
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an expression of God consciousness that
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SPEAKER_00: infinite potential.
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SPEAKER_00: If you take nothing else away from today's episode,
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SPEAKER_00: I want you to walk away with these four things.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody is going to give you permission to be your full self.
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SPEAKER_00: That permission only comes from one place, you.
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SPEAKER_00: You have got to advocate for your own self-expression.
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SPEAKER_00: The second is that the one thing is a myth for multi-passionate creators.
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Your ability to move between worlds,
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to make connections between things that
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SPEAKER_00: seem unrelated, to bring your full range to everything you create.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not a weakness or a lack of focus.
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SPEAKER_00: It's your superpower.
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SPEAKER_00: And third, you can do it all, just not all at once.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't try.
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SPEAKER_00: Honor your seasons.
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SPEAKER_00: The uncircled dreams on your list, they're not going anywhere.
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Focus on what's alive right now and trust that when the timing
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shifts,
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you'll feel it.
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SPEAKER_00: You'll listen to that nudge, that intuition.
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SPEAKER_00: And know that the best work comes from presence,
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SPEAKER_00: not from forcing everything to happen on the same timeline.
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SPEAKER_00: And then finally for let go of the labels.
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SPEAKER_00: You are not your job title, your niche, your role, even your reputation.
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SPEAKER_00: You are the awareness experiencing all of it.
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SPEAKER_00: And when you stop gripping those labels so tightly,
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you become free to evolve into whatever wants to emerge next
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without it feeling
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SPEAKER_00: like you're starting over.
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SPEAKER_00: Every time you let yourself be fully seen, you are giving others.
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the permission to do the same thing and that is so so freeing
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SPEAKER_00: I love reading all of your guys' reflections.
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