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Season 2 - Episode 18 - Cause and effect · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today, we're talking about cause and effect.
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  We all understand that things happen, that's the Cause, right?
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  And then there's an effect afterwards, what we choose to
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  believe or react to, and cause, and effect is so important to
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  understand because, you know, as Wayne Dyer said, it's not their
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  fault for pushing your buttons, it's your fault for having the
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  buttons they push God, that was one of the most impactful.
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  Statements I ever read in a book, many, many years ago, and
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  I read it and reread it and read it and reread it.
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  And I was like, wait no, you know, it's him, it's this, it's
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  that and it was such a realization to me to recognize
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  and it still is over and over about how quickly we can get
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  hooked into having this reaction, this effect of
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  allowing something to get into our head and having a reaction
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  to it. That is Completely in our
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  control, you know people will say no it's not in my control I
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  mean he did something he knew it was wrong, it pissed me off.
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  But you ultimately have all the control of how you respond.
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  No one can ever take that away from you.
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  I really want you to hear me say that.
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  No one can ever take that away from you.
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  You have the ability to control your response, you have the
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  ability to decide what that cause is going to do to you and
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  the effect it's going to have on you.
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  And when we hang on and we keep talking about things over and
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  over and over, it's a sign that we want closure.
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  It's a sign that we want to understand.
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  The reason why, you know, it always comes back to that.
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  Well why did this happen? Why did this happen?
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  And it's because we want to regain some stability.
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  We're looking for the certainty we want to try to fix the
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  situation. We want to say, well, wait, no,
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  see you did that to me. But I did this to you because
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  this happened and we always try to find a way.
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  To get around the fact that we can't change the past.
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  We just cannot we cannot change the past.
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  No matter what we do. We cannot change the past but we
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  can change this moment and moving forward.
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  Nothing else. So if you choose to dwell in the
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  past that's fine, people will often say, well, you learn a lot
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  from the past and I say, potentially, I mean, it's pretty
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  much up in the air. It depends on what you decide to
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  believe about it. You know, there are people out
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  there That will look at Wars like past Wars that our country
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  has gone through and they will argue the fact that you know,
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  these wars were from one point of view.
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  And then you have other people that will look at it and say
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  well no this was absolutely from this point of view and then you
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  have other people who will look and say we didn't need to be
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  there at all. And you're never going to get a
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  clear answer because it's all from the perspective you start
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  from and you just have to accept the fact that even with major
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  things like going to war with other countries doing certain
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  things. It's all from the perspective,
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  view start from infinitely. If I get aggravated with the
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  fact that the dishwasher is not loaded the way, I like to see it
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  loaded, is it their fault for loading the dishwasher wrong.
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  After I've said it 100 times, 1000 times could be possibly,
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  but the reality is other people live in my House.
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  Other people think they're doing the right things according to
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  themselves and their rules. Other people are entitled to
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  have their opinions. My way is not only the right
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  way, there may be other right ways to do things, and I have to
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  accept that that is a button that can be pushed for me.
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  And I'm using such a simple example, because I want you to
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  understand that the cause is so something, so insignificant, but
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  the effect can just get me. Like, why why?
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  Why, why why? And I let it throw me and it
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  continues to show up in my world to remind me.
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  And now I laugh about it and say, okay, am I going to let
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  that button get pushed? Why do I still possess that
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  button? Why is that button even here?
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  So it's incredibly important for you to recognize that the
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  buttons are your buttons. The reaction is absolutely your
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  challenge, your responsibility, your impact on yourself because
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  the effect that it has on you is not just momentary.
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  It's all day, it's long lasting. So you have to make decisions
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  about how you want that to show up.
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  And if you're willing to take that on and if you're willing to
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  be aggravated, long-term, there are times when I'll say to
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  myself. Oh yeah.
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  This really pisses me off and I'm going to have to allow
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  myself this Frame of time to say.
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  Okay yeah, I got to think about this or I got to obsess on this
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  or dwell on this. Being completely real with you,
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  I do that, I give myself time. But I also set a timer and I'll
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  say, okay, I'm not going to be annoyed with us for more than,
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  you know, 24 hours, 48 hours. Sometimes it goes up to 72 if
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  it's a Dilly. But for the most part it's a
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  it's a set the time. Let It Go set the time.
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  Let it go because it's not going to help you.
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  And it's not going to serve you and it's going to take you out.
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  So, pay attention to cause and effect.
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  My friends pay attention to cause an effect because It's
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  necessary to pay attention to cause an effect.
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  I hope you all have a very blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.