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EP. 47: Why Your Child Isn’t Sleeping (And What Sleep Is Actually Doing for Their Body) · Motherhood: Aligned and Assigned

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Welcome to Motherhood Aligned and Assigned, where we help guide
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mothers from symptoms to solutions.
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We are Dr. Serena Kaufman and Dr. Veronica Schultz
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nervous system specialist, helping families discover the missing
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link in their wellness journey
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Join us as we translate complex health challenges into simple, actionable
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solutions for you and your children.
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your family deserves to thrive.
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Not just survive.
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When
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When it comes to sleep, most parents have tried everything.
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In fact, I just saw a post on a mom group on Facebook that she says, Lord, help me.
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I've tried everything.
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And there are like 50 comments of that.
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People suggesting more things like earlier bedtimes, blackout curtains,
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melatonin, white noise machines.
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No one
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one said chiropractic, but we'll get back to that.
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Mm-hmm.
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Did you.
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Uh.
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No, because I read her, no, because I read, I read her stuff.
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I was like, actually, you might need to like have a routine.
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And
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And she, with what she, it didn't sound like her baby
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was a perfect storm situation.
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Like the quality of sleep was fine and she was just,
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I
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I don't know, we get into lots of opinions here, but it was a positive
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feedback loop of, reinforcing behavior
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It sounds like mom needs to get under care.
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He, well, that does just show, I mean, and we sidetracked, but if you ever have
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a comment from one of us on your Facebook post, we actually like thoughtfully decide
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if we should reach out to you or not.
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It's
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I have like only like hit send on like 50%.
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Yeah.
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So
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like if we, if we message you, if you get a comment from us.
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It's 'cause we like really think we can
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I really, and I probably spent 20 minutes, probably spent 20
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minutes drafting that message.
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Oh.
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no.
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Anyways.
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Anyways,
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tried all these things and still their child is awake for hours.
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They're exhausted, but they're wired.
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And Is that your reality right now?
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Like if you're hearing this.
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You're, I mean, we just, I just threw this moment on the bus.
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Maybe you're hearing that, but you're not feeling at bedtime.
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There's some signs of like, is this.
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Their nervous system is stressed or is this, let's change some
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habits and see if that changes.
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Right?
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Mm-hmm.
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But a lot of times you are not feeling at bedtime.
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Your child is not being difficult.
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What you're seeing is a nervous system that is stuck in fine or flight.
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Right?
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And so, and no routine or supplement or perfect sleep environment is
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gonna be able to override a nervous system that is physiologically
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locked in fight or flight mode.
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Okay?
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So
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this episode is for parents who are exhausted from sleepless nights,
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families who've tried everything.
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Kids who are tired that you know, they're tired, but they won't settle.
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And parents who know that something deeper is going on.
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So if you ever thought, why won't my child just sleep?
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This episode is for you.
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Yes.
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And then what we're gonna break down this episode, for those of you who kind of
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wanna snapshot where we're going, we're gonna talk about what sleep is actually
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doing for your child's brain and body.
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Why some, I mean, like, you know, it's important, but like,
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what is it actually doing?
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How The nervous system not routines, control sleep.
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And I'm even gonna throw in like, not even the circadian rhythm.
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Okay.
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We're gonna, we talk about that a lot.
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But like it, it's a newer system first before the rhythm.
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How the perfect storm disrupts sleep early in life and why?
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Traditional approaches usually start well, but then they plateau and you
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go back into what you kind of, it's like, oh, this might be working.
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And then you kind of go back to, oh, they're not sleepy again.
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And then what actually helps restore real deep sleep,
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I'm gonna start with something that hits hard.
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About 35% of children in the US aren't getting enough sleep.
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That's more than one in three kids walking into school already running on empty.
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Isn't that crazy?
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One in three kids.
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That's crazy.
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And we hear the same story every week.
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So I've done everything right and it's still not working.
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But the shift that we are maybe missing is that it's not in bedtime.
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It's not in routines.
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It's not in supplements, right?
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It starts in the nervous system.
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Yeah.
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And how many, I wonder how many of these.
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School age.
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Kids that aren't getting enough sleep, they were babies who had
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a lot of trouble with sleep.
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Right.
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It usually starts right out the gate.
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great sleepers don't usually turn into bad sleepers usually.
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Have you seen that very much?
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like
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very seldom, but they're usually bad poopers from the start.
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Right?
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There's usually some sort of thing that's been going on their whole life.
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The only time I see a good sleeper turned into a not great sleeper is
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when they're, they're backed up.
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Hmm.
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Okay.
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Right before we started this call, we were talking about what comes first, poop
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or sleep in the in phases of healing.
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So we'll get back into that conversations we have casually.
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These are the
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are the things we talk about for funsies.
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Let's talk about what sleep is actually doing because,
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and
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what we were talking about is that in healing, I feel like often if I can
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help someone start getting high quality sleep, everything else is falling
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into place and Dr. Veronica's like, Hmm, if I can get people eliminating.
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Then they
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they get asleep and then everything starts falling into place, but
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it's rest and digest, right?
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Both of these things are, are happening and they're, in the grand scheme of
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things, they're probably happening.
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In the same time, like in the same timeframe,
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Very closely
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right?
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So sleep is, it's, we think of it as rest, just casually, but sleep is
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actually one of the most active healing states in your child's body, right?
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So while your child is sleeping, their brain is organizing and storing learning.
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Growth hormone surges.
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So kids, when you like pick your babies up, you're like, I swear you
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grew overnight because they did.
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That's when their child is growing.
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Yeah.
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The immune system builds infection fighting cells.
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For example, the year that Duke was born and I bought this
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practice, I wasn't sleeping.
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I was sick so much more, and this year we were sick.
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Like
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twice, but like half.
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Like I was like, oh, my body's fighting something and I've
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been sleeping this year.
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Just like personal case study there.
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Mm-hmm.
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Right.
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That happened to me too.
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Mm-hmm.
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Emotions when we're sleeping, they're processed and regulated, will crazy.
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And the body repairs and restores.
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So when a child isn't sleeping well, you'll just see tiredness.
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You're seeing more sickness, more meltdowns, more learning struggles,
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more emotional dysregulation, because the body never got the reset it needed.
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Mm-hmm.
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Mm-hmm.
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So you're like a factory set to start each and every day.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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here is where we're gonna kinda just dive into the new system and how it controls.
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Sleep.
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So we already talked about like we know it's not the routines.
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We know it's not the supplements.
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It's a little bit deeper than that.
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And so we always use the car analogy when it comes to your nervous system.
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If you've been on this podcast, you've heard it before, but just
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as a reminder, your gas pedal is your sympathetics, right?
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Your stress, your alertness.
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I always like to, well then we talk about the brake pedal, right?
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So your brake pedal, I'm getting ahead of myself.
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Your brake pedals, your parasympathetic rust, sleep healing.
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I love the car analogy because not only can you get that good visual
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of like gas pedal, brake pedal, but I also like to talk about
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like if you're always on the gas.
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Eventually you're gonna crash.
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Right?
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You gonna run out?
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Guess?
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Mm-hmm.
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And but we also wanna know, yeah, you'll run outta gas faster.
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Right?
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But also if you're always on the brake, you're not gonna go anywhere.
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Right?
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So it's not that either the gas or the brake pedal.
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I feel like lately in the office, I've been getting a lot
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of like, is that bad or good?
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Mm-hmm.
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it's
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like a gas pedal and a brake pedal are not bad or good.
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It is just, are we using them properly?
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It is what it is,
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Or people are afraid to be, people are like, they see themselves like way over
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on the brake pedal side and they're like, oh, that's good because you,
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the sympathetic nervous system's bad.
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It's like, no, balance is good to be able to, to have the ability to tap on
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the gas or the brake when you want to
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Yes, having that choice and when you need to, right?
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So sleep only happens when the break is working properly, right?
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So if you imagine, this is also a really great analogy.
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It literally just goes, the deeper you get into this analogy, the better it
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It is such a good
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if you put.
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Your foot on the gas pedal and then you put your foot on the brake pedal,
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you are probably gonna slow down, but you're not gonna stop all the way, right?
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So we need that lift off of the gas pedal for that break to work fully,
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and that basically that scenario is when we're sleeping, right?
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That's what sleep looks like, is you've taken your foot off the gas
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and then you're using the brake and you're parked for the night, right?
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So if your child's system.
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Stuck with the gas pedal pressed down, like what I just said.
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They're gonna feel tired, exhausted, and done, but still wired, right?
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They're spinning their tires and so like, totally not a car person,
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but like this works so well.
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this is often due to what we call subluxation or dysfunction or interference
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in the nervous system that prevents the brain and body from communicating properly
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so the body can't shift into sleep mode.
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Right.
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Brake pedal is on.
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We're pressing the gas pedal.
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We're trying to, but it's not working even when it def desperately needs that brake
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pedal to sleep and reset for the night.
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so
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sleep
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probably didn't get disrupted.
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Once you needed them to sleep, it probably, it didn't just start at bedtime.
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Right.
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There's probably stuff going on much earlier, like we've been talking about
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when Dr. Veronica's, like usually if they were a good sleeper and
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then all of a sudden they weren't.
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Well, how has their digestion been?
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Because that's another part of their break pedal.
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How is the nursing their baby?
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Like all of the, like how is like upper digestion?
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Did they have reflux?
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Um, and spit up a lot, those kinds of things.
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And so what we call this buildup to.
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if your sleep is a nervous system thing, we call it the perfect storm.
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So often we see a story fold out of prenatal stress.
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So mom stressed when she was pregnant for there could be lots of reasons
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and just regular life these days, but cortisol crosses the placenta and
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so my mom stressed baby is getting those similar stress signals and also.
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If mom's nervous system is in fight or flight, baby is mirroring
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that as they're developing.
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So they're coming on out with a fight or flight nervous system,
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Mm-hmm.
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and then.
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There's often birth interventions or birth stress.
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So if,
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If,
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they were helped out either C-section forceps delivery or if birth was really,
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really long, mom pushed for a really long time, that can affect the upper neck.
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I can't point to my, that spot's ear, but, uh, that I can affect the upper neck,
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which can impact the vagus nerve and the vagus nerve is our master brake pedal.
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For our nervous system.
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And then this usually snowballs into a kiddo who's stressed.
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And so they're gonna be sick a lot.
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And so we have early antibiotic use regularly, which is gonna disrupt our gut.
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And our nerve system is connected to our gut, right?
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And then we get reflux and constipation in.
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Constantly sick, and these are ongoing stress signals in the body.
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Mm-hmm.
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All of these things make it really hard to tap into, eat, sleep,
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poop, and for babies, eat is like that nursing reflex reflex.
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Yeah, it's a, it's a sucking reflex, but yeah.
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Rooting, but it's, it's like everything, right?
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All of the process.
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It needs to suck and swallow and breathe at the same time.
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To digest it in their tummies, to digest it in their, small
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and large intestine, right?
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There can be digestion is like above and below
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and.
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I'm really careful about picking out the difference between sleep habits
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and a baby who's struggling, and that's where actually our scans come in.
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Mm-hmm.
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The scans, like I don't wanna pick apart a family's choices and lifestyle
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and in how they're sleeping, right?
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Like if you don't let your baby cry, don't let your baby cry.
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If you wanna co-sleep, co-sleep, if you want them in a crib by themselves
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in a different room, do your thing.
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But
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how is their nervous system?
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Let's get them scanned.
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That's gonna tell us what's going on and whether or not this is a
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nervous system issue, or if it's a habit issue and we change that up.
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That's like the bread and butter.
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I don't have to judge their parenting style.
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I can just look at the scans.
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It's like, oh, thank goodness.
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I'll just, is there like, let's do HRV heart rate variability and
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see is there a nervous system?
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Are they in dysautonomia where the nervous system is stuck in stress mode
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because their scans are telling us that
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sometimes I
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I forget that I have that tool that can tell me and I don't have to stress about
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coming off
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off as judgy.
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Yeah, well, but I also think it's.
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Because
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Because like you said, it's gonna work for every family.
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When I find, when you don't have the choice, right, it's like a
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mom who it's like getting to know what they want to happen, right?
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If the mom's coming in, it's like, I really don't wanna sleep with my baby, but
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that's the only way they're gonna sleep.
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I'm like, okay, well there's something going on, right?
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Because I feel like babies are so adaptable usually, like when the,
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when the nervous system is, is good.
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Is function good, is good.
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Maybe that's why people are asking me if things are good or bad, right?
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When the nervous system is functioning optimally, your baby should adapt
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to whatever environment you give it, like pretty quickly, right?
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So if I have a mom who's coming in, being like, my baby just will not
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sleep unless I'm holding them, I'm like, and you want to put them down.
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Like if you're not okay with that and your baby's not getting on
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board with what you want, and chances are it's a nervous system
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Yep.
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I have a mom that's doing that right now.
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I have a, I, I have lots of moms actually.
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They're like, I would love to lay them down, but they
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will only sleep on my chest.
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Yes.
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And then their mom's not gonna go to sleep, right?
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So that's them.
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That's baby needing co-regulation to sleep, right?
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So it's like, let's check mom out, mom, how's your nervous system doing?
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But also, I'm 100% with you on the adaptability, right?
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Our babies
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should
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get on board with like our lifestyle and what serves mom best in her sleep.
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That's how
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how my kids were.
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Like, they were adaptable to say, okay, we're sleeping in the
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crib now because I need to sleep.
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And they were like, okay, cool.
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We'll do that.
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It's time to do that.
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yeah, that was an excellent point.
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Yeah,
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I'm like stuck in that for a minute,
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Just let that land a little bit.
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Marinate.
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so what happens when sleep is chronically off?
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So there's gonna be some things that gets a little, get a little bit misinterpreted.
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So a sleep deprived child doesn't always look calm and sleepy, right?
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Sometimes you might think that you would, if they're not getting
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enough sleep, they're going to like eventually just crash.
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But what actually happens is the opposite.
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Because they're stuck in the gas pedal.
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Right?
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So when you know the nervous system, this makes sense.
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When we don't know it, it's like, why haven't they crashed yet?
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And it's because the reason why they're not sleeping is the same reason why
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they're having all these other things.
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Right?
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So a child who looks, who is sleep deprived often looks hyperactive, often
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looks impulsive, emotional, dysregulated.
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Right.
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They, they, the logical parts of their brain are basically shut off.
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'cause you can only think logically.
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yeah.
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Raging Bull.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Where I like to think like if you're running.
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For your life from a barrier, you're not gonna think about like, what's for dinner?
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Right?
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Like that's just not a thing.
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And so they're in this like impulsive, just like everything's a big
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deal, literally in survival mode.
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And so that's why a lot of kids who are also not sleeping
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eventually go into these labels.
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Like when they get into like those toddler years and even
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preschool, you know, preschool.
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Then it's like, does this person have a behavioral issue?
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Is this anxiety?
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Is this a DH adhd?
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And it could look like that and it could present like that, but
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really they're just exhausted.
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We had, uh, this exact scenario was happening with, I think she,
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she's about to turn four this month actually, or in April.
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and that was a huge thing.
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They thought she was socially anxious.
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And I think there's maybe a little bit, a little bit of that in there, right?
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There's personality, there's these
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That's that age group
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yeah, exactly right.
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Like that's developmentally appropriate.
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But the way she was displaying this was just these huge outbursts, this very
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like defiant quote unquote, behavior.
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But she also hadn't slept in seven days.
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And I was like, like I was telling mom.
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How do you feel when you're tired?
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Right?
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Like these kiddos who, and she also wasn't pooping, right?
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So she's backed up, she's not sleeping and she's just a hot mess.
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Express all the time.
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But like you would also be too, right?
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If your stomach was always hurting and you were not sleeping right?
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So they're just exhausted and the cycle kind of compounds on itself, right?
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Because it's like they're not sleeping, so they have more illness.
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They get sick more often, then they're taking antibiotics now.
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Their gut is all messed up.
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This is exactly what she was going through.
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then her nervous system keeps getting worse.
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Behavior's, heightened impulsiveness, hyperactivity.
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She eventually got to the point where she would just literally scream.
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Mom said, literally described it.
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She was like all night long.
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She just would not stop screaming.
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There's like nothing that we could do to get her to stop screaming.
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And it's like.
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She literally was telling you on the outside what her
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body was doing on the inside.
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And so we do this cycle until it is broken.
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And for her especially, she was actually a mom who is a functional medicine mom.
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And so she was doing all the gut things.
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They were eating all the right things.
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They were doing all the, she was very well versed in routine and
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structure and like what, you know, the developing brain goes through.
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But it wasn't until she got chiropractic care that it finally was the thing
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that snapped her out of that.
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And now sleeping is one of her.
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She comes in and if she has other things going on.
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We know at least sleep is going well for her.
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And so that she's gonna get back on track.
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And then when her sleep gets disrupted, we know she needs a couple more
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extra adjustments and she goes back to where she, where she is now.
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Um,
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I wanna know more about
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was,
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this.
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This is so exciting, Dr. Veronica.
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So she's not screaming head night anymore.
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Nope.
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She's now taking a, like, comical amount of melatonin.
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I think it's, she's like, at this point it feels like a placebo because she
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still, she was taking a ton of melatonin.
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It wasn't working at all.
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and now she's taking, she, she described it as like the tip of the dropper.
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Like before it was like a fold dose and now it's like just a drop.
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because
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like the
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the 4-year-old wants it,
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like,
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I think so.
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yeah.
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My 4-year-old would be like that too.
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She's like, mom,
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I need to take my, yeah.
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Right.
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And so she's
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the routines.
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exactly.
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Yeah.
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And they're a good, they're a family that's really built on some pretty strong
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routines, so like that makes sense.
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she's like, yeah, she was, she's like, almost laugh when I gave
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it to her because it's like, yeah, it's so, such a small dose.
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but yeah, she, she basically weaned off of, almost, fully off of her melatonin.
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She's no longer screaming ever at night.
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yeah.
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And she's able to kind of get through sleep and then also her behavior.
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Like 180, a hundred percent.
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Because she was also someone who wasn't listening who was very impulsive, all
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the things, and her poor mom was like, she was just tired this whole time.
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When she went into this, she basically slept for like a week straight.
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She was like taking naps again.
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And she was like, you know, and then now she's kind of in a good rhythm
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of like, she just sleeps through throughout the night and yeah.
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So it was really fun case.
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that's life changing.
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Yeah.
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Oh my gosh.
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Can we just sit in that for a second?
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Like, that's the kind of stuff we get to do.
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It is like this.
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Like what path was she on of not sleeping
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like
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and what path was mom on of her not sleeping?
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And what do you do?
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Like if she's tried everything?
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Mm-hmm.
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everything else.
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All the functional medicine stuff.
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Yeah.
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If you don't sleep like everything else falls apart.
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Right.
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Wow.
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Good
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job Dr. Veronica, and good job to her little body for adapting and healing.
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She was,
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was, and I think that's what she was almost like so easy.
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Like it also, 'cause mom had such a good foundation that she had built her on that.
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I, I guess I don't, yeah.
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Thanks for sitting that with me.
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'cause I was just like, yeah, it was an easy case, but like seriously.
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And it's crazy to think about because, dad still kind of, they wanna, well.
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You know, getting into the weeds of it, but it's like, it's kind of
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determined how many kids they wanna have because they're so worried about it.
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Right.
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And so it just is it, it really is.
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I mean, now that we've taken a second to think back, like it is a big deal.
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'cause it really changes the trajectory of a family's life when you have those tools,
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I just had a family, so they brought in their little boy.
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because they, she kind of realized, she's like, I think his nervous system.
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is
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Off
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Off because off he's always struggled with sleep.
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And since he's been under care, like then she got under care, she's
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like, well that was incredible.
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'cause now he's sleeping.
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Now his digestion's great and he rarely gets sick.
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And when she first came into the office, she's like, I think we're done.
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This was so hard.
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It was so hard.
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And I don't think we'll have more kids.
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And now they're gonna try for a second.
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Oh, that's so
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I know.
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I was like, wow.
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Like this can grow families.
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Right?
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and
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I'm sitting with her now in this, phase where she's like,
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what am I, what am I doing?
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Is this crazy?
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'cause that was so hard and I don't know if I can do that again.
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And like pregnancy was hard and postpartum, it's like, look
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like you and your son are in a completely different place.
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'cause now what we get to do is we get to like your next pregnancy
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is gonna be set up for success in that this baby is mirroring.
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A really balanced nervous system in you and birth is set up for success
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and that it's gonna be so much easier.
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One, it's your second birth, like chances are it's gonna be easier, but also you're
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not entering birth in fight or flight.
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And Yep.
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And so we have those things.
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And then you also have chiropractic at your fingertips.
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If this baby is struggling too, which they probably won't be like, let's
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just take that and like, it's probably gonna be night and day different.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So exciting.
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Like this is big stuff.
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Yeah, I mean, literally the, the choice of growing your family or not,
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it's like that, that should be that.
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Again, we go back to, you should have a say in that we obviously, you know,
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support any family with however many kids they want, but if you're only making
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that decision because of how hard it was, like there's other options and you
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have tools now to help support whatever decision you and your family want to do.
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Yeah, that's such a cool story.
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Mm-hmm.
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Look at chiropractic, go,
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wow,
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okay, so this is the hopeful part, right?
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Like when we address the nervous system, sleep is often the
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first thing to improve or poop.
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Whoever you're coming to, if you come to my office, usually sleep, apparently,
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if you go to Doctor Veronica, it's poop.
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Take your pick.
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No, they're gonna come like one right after the other, right?
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Because it's rest digest, right?
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And so neurologically focused chiropractic care works by removing interference.
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From the body.
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We call that subluxation or taking away subluxation or the stickiness in your
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system and restoring that communication between your brain and body, right?
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That brain body connection gets to be restored.
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That allows your vagus nerve also to be restored, so it's good tone.
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So it's talking to your gut and immune system with a lot of tone and vitality,
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and it's talking to your brain.
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It's just your brake pedals on, right?
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Like replaced all the brake pads.
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I don't know what else goes into making brakes work.
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But
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squeaky
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clean and like can contact the wheel.
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Nope, the rotors Haha.
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With quality braking action.
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Okay.
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We start
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before you had like worn out, worn out brake pads, warped
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rotors, all these things.
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This has happened to me.
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This is how I know.
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Okay.
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Oh no.
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this
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helps the body right shift into this rest and digest mode.
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And the beautiful thing is we don't have to guess on whether this is in
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habits issue or a nervous system issue.
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We have our insight scans to tell us to measure stress patterns, identify where
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the system is stuck, and then we get to also track our progress objectively
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instead of subjectively, right?
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'cause healing isn't linear, it's gonna go.
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it's gonna come in ebbs and flows, but we get to track
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overall progress every 12 visits.
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I think in all of our offices you do every 12 visits for scans, right?
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Yeah.
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Every six to 12, depending on if you're intensive.
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Nice.
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Oh yeah.
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So
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It will.
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'cause sometimes our babies can't tell us what's going on.
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Right.
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Like I, and when we're in a sleep deprived state, we can't keep track of
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like how often they're waking up and how often they're pooping, all these things.
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And so, we don't have to rely on our babies or our kids subjectively telling
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us that, yes, I got wonderful sleep last night and I had a great bowel movement.
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It's like, okay, the scans are showing us.
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Yeah,
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Yeah,
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my 4-year-old would actually, but
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That's
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actually tells me, she's like, mom, I never sleep.
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I only sleep half the night and sometimes I don't sleep at all.
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It's like, girl, you have passed out.
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Literally Nevaeh said, I'll never sleep again.
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And I was like, okay, girlfriend
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she's like,
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I know.
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They think it's
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weakness.
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Literally
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Ugh.
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or like laying in bed for 10 minutes.
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She's like, it was hours.
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we just all have the same 4-year-old.
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Yeah, they're universal.
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Oh my goodness.
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Okay.
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And this is parent cells over and over.
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When we're starting care, even adults, sleep was the
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first thing to change, right?
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It's easier to settle and get down per bed.
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They start sleeping in longer chunks, and then they, age appropriate, they
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start sleeping through the night and they start sleeping past 5:00 AM.
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That's a huge one for us too.
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In, in my practice, it's like they'll sleep, but it's really hard to settle.
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And then she wakes up at 5:00 AM and that's not enough sleep for her.
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And so sleep can longer chunks for more the, the appropriate times for their age.
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Right.
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And then comes better digestion,
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you
25:08
know, chicken or egg, fewer illnesses, improved behavior
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because they're rested, right?
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And they have that emotional regulation.
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and then just more resilience overall too.
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Mm-hmm.
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Amen.
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Hmm.
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So if you are struggling, if you're a parent who resonated with
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everything that we said, poop or sleep, but especially sleep, right?
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Go ahead and check out the links in our show notes below.
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You can either find information about Dr. Serena and Vessel Chiropractic, or you
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can find information about with me, Dr.
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Veronica at Haven Health Chiropractic.
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Dr. Serena's in Idaho, Boise, Idaho.
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Uh, Dr. Veronica is in Ankeny, Iowa.
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And if you are in anywhere else and you still wanna get this kind of, care
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customized, neurologically supported care, uh, you can also check out the
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PX docs directory in the show notes as well, where you can find a PX doc
25:57
near you, or you can send us a DM and we can help you find your person.
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will
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I will pray out.
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Okay?
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Dear Lord, thank you for this incredible nervous system that you've given us.
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Thank you for our ability to be adaptable.
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And to change with the changing environment of this world.
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And then thank you for chiropractic as a tool to help us keep the adaptability
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that you designed us to have.
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I'm
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I'll keep it at that actually, Lord in boldness.
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Please bring families who are struggling with sleep to root cause, providers like
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neurologically focused chiropractic care.
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Please help these families find.
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People who will help them restore balance to their nervous system so they can
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adapt and thrive the way you design them.
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In your name I pray, amen.
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Amen.
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Thank you for joining us on Motherhood Aligned and Assigned.
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We hope today's episode helped you connect the dots in your family's health journey.
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Remember, this is where nervous system health meets motherhood wisdom.
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Until next time, we're Dr. Veronica Shilts.
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Serena Kaman supporting you as you nurture your family's wellbeing?
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Because when you're aligned, everyone thrives.
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Everyone,
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Everyone.