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Do all narcissists have addictions? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Today we're asking the question, do all narcissist have
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  addictions? Are all narcissist addicted to
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  something or someone? If you new here, my name is Lee
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  Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of the
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  Narcissist Code. So boom, welcome back, welcome
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  back, welcome back folks. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Answering the question, do all narcissists have addictions?
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  So first of all, this question came from someone in my support
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  group. They say, hey Lee, can you do a
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  video on narcissists and addictions?
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  Do all narcissists have addictions?
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  There's a link. That support group is going to
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  be in the description of every video and podcast that I do.
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  It's called The Mental Healers. Check it out.
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  But yes, so me personally, as a diagnosed narcissist, I do have
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  addictions and I I feel like when people hear addictions,
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  they automatically go to like alcohol or some type of illegal
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  substance or a drug or whatever, you know?
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  But that's not going to be all true for every single
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  narcissist. I think a lot of narcissists do
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  have addictions, but it's not always going to be an addiction
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  to something negative or something that could destroy,
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  alter your life. You know, a lot of narcissists
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  are going to be addicted to people, you know, or hobbies or
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  things. You know, I truly believe that a
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  lot of narcissists have addictive personalities.
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  This is my this is just factual. Just to me.
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  This is factual because every single narcissistic person that
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  I've dealt with in my life that I know is narcissistic, is a
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  narcissist or is narcissistic, is addicted to something.
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  They are, They really, really are.
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  You know, are some addict, some of those addictions more long
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  lasting than others? Absolutely yes.
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  Because if you get addicted to an illegal substance or drug,
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  it's harder to kick that addiction than it is to kick an
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  addiction to building, you know, axes or saws or golf or
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  something like that. Video games, Pardon the
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  It's easier to kick an addiction that involves like golf or
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  something like that than it is to kick an addiction of being
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  addicted to like some type of drug, you know, it's just,
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  that's just true sometimes, being addicted to alcohol
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  because alcoholism, alcoholism, I think it's a damn disease.
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  So it's, I would just say it's easier to get to stop playing
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  golf than it is to kick the alcohol addiction, to stop being
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  an alcoholic, you know, to stop drinking as much and whatnot.
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  So I do believe that most narcissists come with some type
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  of addictive personality. Whether the addiction, the
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  addiction is destructive is a whole different thing because
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  me, I've been self aware of myself to understand the fact
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  that I do absolutely have an addictive personality.
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  I really, really do. And a lot of my addiction,
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  addictive personality comes from boredom.
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  I think most narcissists suffer from some type of chronic
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  boredom, right? Because if I'm super, extremely
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  bored, then I need to find something to to curb my boredom.
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  So I find an addiction. Right now.
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  Y'all my addiction is people. I'm addicted to people.
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  I'm addicted to people. I really, really am.
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  You know? I'm addicted to how the people's
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  minds work. I I I just just sit right there.
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  I'm actually absolutely addicted to what makes people tick, what
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  makes a narcissist tick, what makes an impact tick, what makes
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  somebody a borderline personality disorder?
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  ASPDHPD. What makes them tick.
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  So that's my addiction right there.
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  And my addiction is also using what I learned from what?
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  What makes people tick? To help people.
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  Now, could I use that to destroy people?
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  Absolutely, yes. I can absolutely use that to
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  destroy people. If I can understand what makes
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  people tick, I can use that to manipulate people on a mass
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  scale, to do bad things right, to get to give them bad advice.
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  So my addiction is not, is not destructive, but it could be.
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  You see, I'm interested in what makes people tick, what make how
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  the brain works, what makes the people's mind works.
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  I've been, I've been addicted to this for a very long time.
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  But a lot of other narcissists get addicted to unhealthy
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  things, you know, they get addicted to drugs and alcohol.
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  Some of them get addicted to to sex, just being realistic.
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  Some narcissists get addicted to sex and it's just hard.
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  It's it's extremely hard to kick those habits.
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  That's just one of the this is just one of the truths right
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  there. It's extremely hard to when you
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  get addicted to one of those things, it's extremely, it's
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  extremely hard to kick. But this is my thing right here.
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  Y'all because I think a lot of narcissists suffer from chronic
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  boredom. I do think multiple addictions
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  are possible. I do think most narcissists
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  don't just have one addiction, they might have one main
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  addiction, But there's like a lot of like sub addictions or
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  many addictions that are going on behind the scenes as well.
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  They keep this person moving, they keep this person, you know,
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  so they don't get bored or whatever.
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  But to me also, the addictions are a form of escapism, right?
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  The addictions are really a true form of escapism.
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  Like the addictions, they allow them to escape.
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  Especially if you get addicted to alcohol.
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  You get addicted to alcohol because alcohol releases the
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  dopamine in the brain. The double main, the double main
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  release that you get from alcohol or certain drugs or
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  whatever. Or do your addiction makes you
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  feel good? Dopamine is they feel good.
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  Yeah, they feel good. Chemical, it makes me feel good.
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  So what I I like feeling good, right?
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  I like feeling good. I like being.
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  I like, I like this feeling so much because it it, it empowers
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  me. So I drink more and I drink more
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  and I drink more because I like this feeling.
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  I'm chasing this high. I'm chasing.
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  I'm not. I'm no longer bored.
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  I'm chasing this high. I'm addicted to this feeling.
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  But guess what? Y'all know we're drinking.
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  But it takes more like once you get used to drinking, once you
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  build up a toddler, it takes more to get to that same level.
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  So guess what happens? You end up with a damn alcohol
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  addiction. You end up with addicted to
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  alcohol or a certain type of drug, you know, because a lot of
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  drugs have addictive substances in them.
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  So not only do I have an addictive personality, the drugs
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  have an addictive addictive chemicals and addictive,
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  addictive properties in them. So now I'm going to have a drug
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  addiction because I'm going to have an addictive personality
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  plus the addictive qualities of this drug so that that I'm
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  stuck. So me being self aware of who I
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  am, y'all, that's why I don't touch drugs because I know how
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  my mind works. I'm like, I could easily get
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  addicted to to to a drug, you know, a white powdery substance.
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  You know I could. It goes up your nose.
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  You, you reverse sneeze this substance.
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  You know you you reverse sneeze instead of going at chew, you go
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  and it makes you feel good a certain, it makes you feel a
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  certain type of way. I could easily get addicted to
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  that, right? But so I don't touch it.
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  But a lot of narcissists don't understand how their minds work,
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  right? So that it's a form of escape,
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  It's a form of escapism. It allows them to escape their
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  current situation right now. It allows them to escape the
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  moment that they're in right now.
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  It allows them to escape. And they keep doing it over and
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  over again because they enjoy that escape.
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  They enjoy their dopamine, their dopamine release.
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  So it makes them feel better about themselves.
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  So they feel good, they feel better and they just all acting
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  out. You know, they start their
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  behaviour, suffer from it, suffer from it.
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  So some of their addictions, y'all, some of their addictions
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  can actually exacerbate the narcissistic traits and
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  qualities. It can bring out the worse than
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  them. They might be a low level
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  narcissist until they start drinking and doing alcohol or
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  drugs or whatever. Then they turn into a malignant
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  narcissist. Now they're beating on you.
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  Now they're lying to you. Now they're cheating on you.
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  Now they have a sex addiction. You see what I'm saying?
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  Now they're a sex addict. There's so many different things
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  that are going on in these situations that that it affects
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  people. So that's what I'm telling you.
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  If you're dealing with a narcissist or a toxic person,
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  that is part of it right there. This is got, it's a wild part of
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  it, but it is the part of it because they if they get
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  addicted to something, it does release a lot of these
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  chemicals. It does release, gives them that
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  release, but it also releases the worst.
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  It could also release the worst part of them, their form of
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  escapism, that escapism actually ends up releasing the worst part
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  of them, which actually makes them treat somebody worse.
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  It makes it makes them behave worse, you know, It makes them
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  treat you worse. It makes them start yelling and
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  screaming and you don't and you start not to recognize the
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  person that you're with. Like I don't even recognize you
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  anymore because they become a different person when they drink
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  or when they smoke or whatever they have going on.
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  They become an entirely different person.
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  And again, because I know you, it sucks, right?
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  It absolutely does suck. That's what I'm just telling
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  you. If you're dealing with a
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  narcissist or a toxic person, this is part of it.
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  This, it kind of comes with the territory of dealing with this
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  toxicity that they're going to get worse because they're going
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  to get worse before they get better.
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  I'll say it like that. You know they will absolutely
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  get worse before they get better.
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  And because you if you start telling them that when they get
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  on this substance or they start drinking, they act bad, that
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  sometimes might make them want to do it more because you know,
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  narcissist don't like being told what to do.
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  They think they know everything. They think they know what's best
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  for them and they they they think they know what's best for
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  everybody around them. So they keep doing it because it
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  makes them feel good. They keep.
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  They keep doing because it's a form of escapism for them.
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  So yeah, I do believe that most narcissists have addictions.
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  But every addiction is not going to be the same, right?
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  Like I said, every addiction is not going to be destructive to
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  everybody around them. Every addiction is not going to
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  make them act out of character, behave erratically and whatnot.
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  Some addictions are worse than others.
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  Let's be real. You know, like I said, like I
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  was saying earlier, an addiction to throwing axes or, you know,
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  playing golf or video games, it can affect their family in a
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  negative way. It can affect their
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  relationships in a negative way. I'm not saying that it can
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  absolutely have a negative effect on their relationships.
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  Absolutely, you know. But as far as them getting, you
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  know, changing their character up and start beating on you and
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  cheating on you, doing all those kinds of crazy stuff because of
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  their, their negative addiction, you see what I'm saying?
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  How that balance is out right there and y'all and I'll just be
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  real with you. A lot of narcissists put their
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  addictions above their family and friends.
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  They just absolutely do this. This is one of the truths right
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  here. They will absolutely put their
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  addictions above their job, above their families, above
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  their friends, because it makes them feel good to have this
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  addiction. It makes them feel good to be
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  able to escape certain situations.
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  It makes them feel good. It makes them feel better.
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  Y'all, keep it hot. Keep it like keep it hot and
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  ready, like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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  It makes them feel good and they like to feel good.
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  They like, they like. They want to feel good about
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  themselves, right? So this is what happens a lot of
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  times. So like say if you have a
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  narcissist with an addictive personality, like some
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  addictions, some people's personalities are going to be
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  more addictive than others and everybody's addiction is going
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  to be different as well. So you have to protect yourself
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  and like say if you can try to, you can't come.
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  It's very difficult to come between a narcissist and their
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  chosen, their addiction of choice.
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  So be safe, take care of yourselves and just understand
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  y'all that it's way less to do with you than you think.
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  I know I tell people the narcissists have addiction
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  because they get bored. People automatically think I'm
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  calling them boring. No, I'm not calling you boring.
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  But I'm saying a lot of narcissists all get.
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  They do have chronic boredom. They do get bored very easily,
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  but it has less to do with you than you think.
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  They're not bored because they're with you.
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  They're bored because they are themselves.
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  They are them. They are them, you know.
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  So it's not as way less to do what you do.
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  You think. So don't take this personal.
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  But Lee, call me boring. No, Lee did not call you boring.
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  Don't you do that. Don't you bring the Don't you
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  bring the evil on me. Don't you talk.
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  Don't you speak that evil on me. You, Ricky Bobby, you know,
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