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Midlife Women: Breaking Silent Chains & Embracing Renewal · Create The Best Me

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  Carmen Hecox: Welcome to Create the Best Me.
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  Carmen Hecox: I am Carmen Hecox, a personal development coach, and I am so excited to be connecting with you today.
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  Carmen Hecox: Whether you're listening to the podcast or joining us on YouTube, my goal is to help women navigate through midlife challenges with compassion, inspiration, and empowering conversations.
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  Carmen Hecox: Each week we'll dive into thought-provoking topics, designed to build self-confidence, overcome invisible women's syndrome, and find the courage to create the best version of yourself.
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  Carmen Hecox: I'll also be joined by expert guests who will share their wisdom and insights, so make yourself comfortable and let's embark on this journey together.
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  Carmen Hecox: Time is constant, always ticking, always moving, and as it marches on, we evolve, we grow, we change.
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  Carmen Hecox: But in the midst of this relentless progression, there's a chapter of women's lives that remains shroud in silence.
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, hello there and welcome to Create The Best Me.
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  Carmen Hecox: And let me first start out by saying, I'm so glad you are here at the one and only place where we encourage and empower women in midlife to pursue their dreams and live life to the fullest.
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  Carmen Hecox: I am Carmen Hecox, your host and personal development coach.
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  Carmen Hecox: Today, we're embarking on a journey that's both universal and deeply personal.
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  Carmen Hecox: Imagine, if you will, a woman in her prime.
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  Carmen Hecox: She's experiencing the roller coaster of life, the highs of youth, and the challenges of adulthood, and now she stands at the cusp of a new phase: midlife.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a time that promises freedom, wisdom, and reflection.
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  Carmen Hecox: But for many, it also brings an unexpected companion, a silent creeping shadow that often goes unnoticed.
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  Carmen Hecox: This shadow isn't just a result of hormonal changes or external pressures.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's more insidious.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the weight of unspoken expectations, the burden of unfulfilled dreams and the quiet yearning for a sense of purpose.
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  Carmen Hecox: And while society celebrates youth and venerates old age, this myth chapter often remains overlooked, its challenges dismissed or trivialized.
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  Carmen Hecox: But what are these chains that bind so many women?
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  Carmen Hecox: Depression.
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  Carmen Hecox: In this phase, it's always the overt sadness we might expect.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the mask of normalcy, the facade of I'm fine, and the silent retreat from joy.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the moments of feeling lost in a room full of people, the dwindling spark of passion and quiet resignation to monotony.
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  Carmen Hecox: These invisible chains often forged by societal expectations.
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  Carmen Hecox: The belief that a woman of certain age should have it all together, or the notion that it's too late to pursue forgotten dreams.
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  Carmen Hecox: But as we'll discover, it's never too late to seek.
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  Carmen Hecox: understand, to find support, or to break free.
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  Carmen Hecox: But what exactly are these invisible chains that seem to bind so many midlife women?
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  Carmen Hecox: They're the silent pressure of unspoken expectation and the quiet doubt that often go unnoticed.
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  Carmen Hecox: They're the moment of introspect that creep in late at night, the nagging feeling of being stuck, and the internal whisper of questioning,'Is this all there is?' It's the weight of societal norms.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the belief that by this age, one should have reached certain milestones, achieved specific goals, and settled into the predictable rhythm.
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  Carmen Hecox: But life, as we all know, is anything but predictable.
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  Carmen Hecox: And these chains, they're the byproduct of the unmet expectation, both self-imposed and societal.
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  Carmen Hecox: For many, these chains manifest a loss of identity.
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  Carmen Hecox: The role of a mother, wife, or a career woman, once worn with pride, might start to feel confining.
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  Carmen Hecox: The passion and the dream that once burned bright might be distant and overshadowed by responsibilities and the relentless pace of life.
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  Carmen Hecox: But here's the thing, recognizing these chains is the first step to breaking them.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about understanding that it's okay to feel lost, to yearn for more, and to seek change.
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  Carmen Hecox: Because midlife isn't a period of decline.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's pivotal, it's a chance to reassess, realign, and reignite.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, what about midlife makes it such a tremulous time?
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a unique introspection of past experience and future aspirations.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the realization that while there's a lot behind us, there's still so much ahead of us.
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  Carmen Hecox: The challenges are multifaceted.
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  Carmen Hecox: There's the biological aspect, the onset of menopause and the physical change it brings.
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  Carmen Hecox: There's an emotional dimension, children leaving the nest, creating a void for many.
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  Carmen Hecox: And there's the societal angle, the feeling of invisibility.
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  Carmen Hecox: As youth is often celebrated, and age is revered, but the in between?
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  Carmen Hecox: It's often overlooked.
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  Carmen Hecox: Yet precisely this storm of emotions and changes that hold the potential for transformation.
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  Carmen Hecox: Because within the chaos lies opportunity to rediscover oneself, to shatter old molds and to craft new narratives.
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  Carmen Hecox: The phase of midlife is a dance of contrast.
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  Carmen Hecox: On one hand, there's the riches of experience and wisdom garnished from years lived and the profound connections formed.
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  Carmen Hecox: On the other, there's the weight of introspect, the what ifs, and if only that creep into our thoughts.
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  Carmen Hecox: Many women find themselves at the crossroad, reflecting on paths taken and roads not traveled.
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  Carmen Hecox: Questions arise.
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  Carmen Hecox: Did I make the right choice?
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  Carmen Hecox: Did I lose part of myself along the way?
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  Carmen Hecox: These reflections, while natural, can stir a sense of unrest and longing.
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  Carmen Hecox: And then there's the undeniable physical aspect.
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  Carmen Hecox: The body begins its own dialogue, signaling changes that can be both empowering and challenging.
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  Carmen Hecox: The world around us with its ever youth lens might not always be the most affirming.
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  Carmen Hecox: But here's a silver lining: this tremulous phase also brings with it clarity.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a sharpened sense of purpose.
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  Carmen Hecox: And often a desire to realign one's true essence.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a time of both introspection and reinvention.
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  Carmen Hecox: Yet, amidst of this journey of rediscovery, there's a profound silence that many women carry.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's not the silence, the word unsaid, but the emotions unexpressed of dreams deferred and internal battles waged quietly.
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  Carmen Hecox: This silence speaks volumes.
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  Carmen Hecox: It tells tales of sacrifices made, of dreams put on hold, and of the weight of societal expectations.
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  Carmen Hecox: But acknowledging this silence, giving it a voice is the first step toward healing.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about understanding that every emotion, every doubt, every aspiration is valid.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about seeking support, forging connection, and most importantly, realizing that you're not alone in this journey.
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  Carmen Hecox: This silence, while profound, is also a testament of resilience and strength of midlife women.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's borne from years of balancing roles of meeting expectations and often of placing others' needs above one's own.
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  Carmen Hecox: But within this silence also lies a hidden power: the power of self-awareness.
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  Carmen Hecox: As we pause to listen to this silence, we hear the whisper of our innermost desire, the dream that got sidelined, and the passion that awaits reigniting.
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  Carmen Hecox: We also confront the fears, the insecurities and the doubts that have held us back.
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  Carmen Hecox: But here's the transformative part: by acknowledging this silence, by giving it voice to these buried emotions and aspirations, we begin a journey of self-reclamation.
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  Carmen Hecox: We move from mere reflection to action, from introspection to expression.
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  Carmen Hecox: So how do we navigate this journey of midlife with grace, courage, and authenticity?
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a path that's unique for every woman, but here are some universal signposts that can guide us.
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  Carmen Hecox: First and foremost, it's about embracing self-awareness.
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  Carmen Hecox: Dive deep into your emotions, understand what makes you tick.
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  Carmen Hecox: Recognize where you want to go.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about shedding the'shoulds' and embracing the'wants'.
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  Carmen Hecox: Consider seeking support, whether it's through therapy, counseling, or simply connections with like-minded individuals.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, vulnerability is strength, not weakness.
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  Carmen Hecox: Reignite your passion.
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  Carmen Hecox: Maybe it's time to revisit that hobby you left behind.
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  Carmen Hecox: Embark on a new adventure, or simply explore new avenues of self-expression.
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  Carmen Hecox: And throughout this journey, be kind to yourself, celebrate the small victories, learn from the setbacks, and always prioritize self-care.
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  Carmen Hecox: Navigating the journey of midlife is akin to charting a course throughout explored territories.
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  Carmen Hecox: The landscape is familiar, yet different; the path, while unique to each, is stoned with shared experience.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a journey of contrasts, of challenges and celebrations, of introspection and exploration.
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  Carmen Hecox: One of the most empowering aspects of this phase is the gift of perspective.
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  Carmen Hecox: With years of experience behind us we're better equipped to discern what truly matters.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's an opportunity to set boundaries, to say no without guilt, and to prioritize our own well-being.
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  Carmen Hecox: Building a support system is invaluable.
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  Carmen Hecox: Surrounding yourself with individuals who uplift, inspire, and understand you.
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  Carmen Hecox: Whether it's joining a book club, attending a workshop, or simply foregoing deeper connections with old friends, find your tribe.
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  Carmen Hecox: As you navigate, remember, celebrate.
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  Carmen Hecox: Celebrate the wisdom of years, the beauty of maturity, and the freedom that comes with self-acceptance.
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  Carmen Hecox: Each step, each choice, each moment of reflection is a testament to your journey's uniqueness.
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  Carmen Hecox: And then as we journey through the intricacies of midlife, we arrive at a pivotal moment, the dawn of rediscovery.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the phase where the fog is lifted, revealing a horizon filled with possibilities.
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  Carmen Hecox: It isn't just about revisiting old dreams.
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  Carmen Hecox: But it's about crafting new ones.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about redefining success, happiness, and fulfillment on your own terms.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about recognizing that while certain chapters may have closed, an entire book of adventure still awaits.
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  Carmen Hecox: The dawn of rediscovery is a celebration of resilience, of the ability to evolve, adapt, and flourish.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a reminder that every sunrise offers a fresh start, a new perspective, and a chance to reclaim and rejoice in the essence of who you truly are.
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  Carmen Hecox: Rediscovery is more than just a return of oneself.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's an evolution.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about embracing the lessons of the past, the realities of the present, and the promise of the future.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a moment when the weight of expectation lifts replaced by lightness of self-acceptance.
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  Carmen Hecox: Imagine standing at the top of the hill, looking back at the path traveled, and forward to the horizon, stretching out ahead.
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  Carmen Hecox: The journey behind is filled with its own shares of ups and downs, but the promise of the journey ahead that sparks excitement.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the canvas waiting to be painted, a story waiting to be written.
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  Carmen Hecox: This dawn is a testament to every challenge faced, every tear shed, and every laugh shared.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a celebration of resilience, of the beauty of transformation and of the endless potential that lies within us.
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  Carmen Hecox: Today we journey through the silent struggle of midlife, from the invisible chains that bind us to many tremendous waves of change.
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  Carmen Hecox: We've acknowledged the profound silence, explored ways to navigate the journey and celebrated the dawn of rediscovery.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's been a journey of introspect and of understanding and of empowerment and a reminder that while midlife comes with its challenges, it also brings with its unparalleled opportunities for growth, transformation, and joy.
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  Carmen Hecox: Today's transcript and additional information that I did not share on today's show can be found at createthebestme.com/ep031.
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  Carmen Hecox: Next week's guest is an amazing Hollywood and Broadway screen and script writer.
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  Carmen Hecox: She is the mastermind behind Freaky Friday, What to Expect When You're Expecting, and Legally Blonde the Musical.
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  Carmen Hecox: If you guessed Heather Hach, you guessed correctly.
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  Carmen Hecox: She's going to share her insights about writing for different mediums and share some information about her new book, which I know you already pre ordered, The Trouble with Drowning.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's going to be an amazing show.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, you need to come back next week! To every beautiful soul watching, know that your journey is unique, valid, and filled with potential.
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  Carmen Hecox: If you or someone you know is navigating this phase, remember their strength in seeking support, power in self-awareness, and beauty in every dawn.
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  Carmen Hecox: Share this message, spread the light, and let's walk this path together.
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  Carmen Hecox: If you found value in today's journey, consider subscribing, liking, sharing with those who might benefit.
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's create a community where every woman feels seen, heard, and celebrated.
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  Carmen Hecox: Until then, keep dreaming big, take care of yourself and remember you are beautiful, strong and capable of creating the best version of yourself.
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  Carmen Hecox: Thank you for watching.
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  Carmen Hecox: Catch you next week.
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  Carmen Hecox: Bye for now.