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388: The #1 Misconception with Human Design · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and you and I are sitting here right now together to talk about or what I want to talk about today.
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Nicole Laino: I want to talk about human design, and I want to talk about what can be expected from it and how I see it actually really work for people in particular with their business, because that's who we're talking to on this show.
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Nicole Laino: Mainly entrepreneurs, high achievers, people looking for results in their life.
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Nicole Laino: But this, honestly can be, you know, stretched out to the masses of what you can expect from human design.
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Nicole Laino: And I really want to tackle this because I've seen this misconception, this really common misconception come up with human design and what people expect from it.
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Nicole Laino: Part of that, I think, is, you know, the Instagram culture that we live in, the social media platforms that have only made our attention span shorter and shorter, and there's such an overflow and abundance of information and of content that we are in a skimming culture now.
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Nicole Laino: So unless the hook grabs you, unless the information is getting there so quickly, like, we have you for seven seconds.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, can I get there that quick?
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Nicole Laino: And I fall into this too, because I want my stuff to get seen.
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Nicole Laino: I want my stuff to get hurt.
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Nicole Laino: My goal is, can I get you in seven seconds and then remind you that I have a podcast so that you come and listen to the podcast and I can go deeper with you?
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Nicole Laino: That's my formula.
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Nicole Laino: And I do that one because quite frankly, I'm way better in long form content than I am in short form content.
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Nicole Laino: I don't find that the easiest to create because I think that it usually leads to things that it either doesn't get seen because we're not positioning it in a way that people are paying attention to it and they scroll right by.
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Nicole Laino: And if we do get them to stop the scroll, you know, we're doing that with some tactics where we're like, drawing people in with a hard result, a big desire, a big problem, and that just reduces everything to feel like, oh, well, this is the solution for this, and this is this.
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Nicole Laino: And human design certainly falls into that.
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Nicole Laino: So when we have that, where we have this short attention span and we're talking about something as complex and deep as human design, we're going to miss some nuance.
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Nicole Laino: And what that's going to lead to is misconceptions.
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Nicole Laino: What that's going to lead to is people being like, I thought this would do this for me, or just having in their mind that it should be this way.
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Nicole Laino: And then it can end up negating what human design is actually supposed to do, which is take the power away from the mind.
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Nicole Laino: And because we thought if we did it right, then we would get a certain result, it didn't happen like that.
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Nicole Laino: So now we're in our head again wondering if human design works, did I do it right?
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Nicole Laino: And that's not the vibe.
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Nicole Laino: So I want to break that down.
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Nicole Laino: I kind of want to talk a little bit about this misconception that I see.
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Nicole Laino: It stretches across all types, but it does happen.
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Nicole Laino: It's in a lot of ways.
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Nicole Laino: But I'm going to talk about it from the type perspective and from strategy and authority.
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Nicole Laino: Because a lot of us are believing that if I follow strategy and authority to a T, then only good things will happen to me.
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Nicole Laino: And that's not true.
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Nicole Laino: What following strategy and authority does is it gets you to the next right place.
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Nicole Laino: But that next right place might be where something falls apart.
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Nicole Laino: It might be where a hard lesson comes.
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Nicole Laino: But it's your lesson that you need at that right time in order for you to move further on the path of your purpose.
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Nicole Laino: But the problem with this, with the way that most people think about human design in a results oriented way.
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Nicole Laino: And I get it, I'm going to take the responsibility for my part in this because it's very difficult to sell something like this.
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Nicole Laino: My goal, my mission is to get more people following their human design every single day.
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Nicole Laino: I want you to love the shit out of yourself more and more every single day because you understand yourself through this unbiased lens of your design.
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Nicole Laino: I want you following it so you are trusting yourself.
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Nicole Laino: I want you looking at your kids and seeing who they are, not who you thought they should be or how you thought they should act like you or like somebody else or not do it like somebody else.
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Nicole Laino: I want you to look at them for who they are.
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Nicole Laino: My intentions are very pure, my intentions are very good.
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Nicole Laino: But the way that we get attention, you know, I have to tell you what human design can do for you.
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Nicole Laino: Otherwise people don't want it, they don't buy it.
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Nicole Laino: I have to tie it to some sort of result.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes that result is just that you feel better.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes that Result is just that you love the shit out of yourself.
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Nicole Laino: That's a result.
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Nicole Laino: And we talk about that, but particularly when we start to mix business in this.
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Nicole Laino: And now we're getting into survival, now we're getting into money, now we are getting into growth, and it's complicated.
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Nicole Laino: Now we're going to take something energetic and we're going to put it into our business.
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Nicole Laino: And that misconception, if I follow strategy and authority, everything, you know, I'm not going to make any mistakes.
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Nicole Laino: I think that's a really terrible mindset for any entrepreneur to have, that you won't make mistakes.
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Nicole Laino: I think a better outlook would be to say, when I make mistakes, I can handle it.
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Nicole Laino: I followed my process and my strategy into this moment.
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Nicole Laino: I don't look at it as a mistake.
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Nicole Laino: I see how it is working for me, not against me.
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Nicole Laino: I look for that.
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Nicole Laino: I regulate myself.
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Nicole Laino: I process the emotions around anything that is happening and then I refine and move on.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes we're iterating and I don't think that a lot of people, when they come to something like human design, they're so afraid of making a mistake that what they do is they think, if I follow human design, then I won't have to worry about the decisions that I make anymore.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to make all the right decisions and my life is going to go perfectly.
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Nicole Laino: And then when it doesn't, they get really freaked out and they start to question, does human design really work?
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Nicole Laino: Was I following my strategy and authority?
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Nicole Laino: Am I doing it right?
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Nicole Laino: Oh, my God.
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Nicole Laino: Now what do I do?
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Nicole Laino: I thought that was the right thing.
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Nicole Laino: I was lit up by it.
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Nicole Laino: I was so excited.
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Nicole Laino: But now I don't want to do it anymore.
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Nicole Laino: What happens now?
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Nicole Laino: This all comes from the idea that one decision is going to be like the last decision you ever have to make.
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Nicole Laino: That if I say yes because it feels good, that's what it's always going to be.
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Nicole Laino: And the truth is that we all operate differently.
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Nicole Laino: But no one decision is the decision forever.
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Nicole Laino: Everything has its cycles.
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Nicole Laino: And there's so much more to your chart than just the strategy and authority.
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Nicole Laino: Strategy and authority.
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Nicole Laino: What it's going to do is keep you out of your mind.
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Nicole Laino: Or that's what it's designed to do.
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Nicole Laino: That's what it's supposed to do.
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Nicole Laino: It's supposed to get you out of your racing mind.
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Nicole Laino: That's going, was that the right decision?
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Nicole Laino: Was that the right thing to do?
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Nicole Laino: I don't know.
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Nicole Laino: Should I do it like this?
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Nicole Laino: Oh, my God.
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Nicole Laino: I thought that was going to be right.
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Nicole Laino: What do I do now?
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Nicole Laino: It gets you out of that.
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Nicole Laino: But a lot of us, it's actually the thing that puts us right back in our mind.
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Nicole Laino: Why?
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Nicole Laino: Because we're so scared that we did it wrong.
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Nicole Laino: And I think what that points out is how much were relying on human design to take all the bad stuff out of our lives away.
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Nicole Laino: Human design can't fix everything.
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Nicole Laino: Here's what it does do.
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Nicole Laino: It does make you feel very confident in the decisions that you do make, which allows you to go all in on those decisions.
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Nicole Laino: I had a conversation with one of our clients, Inside Business by Design.
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Nicole Laino: And I actually have these like proud mama moments is what they sort of feel like.
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Nicole Laino: Because I feel when people get it, I get so excited.
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Nicole Laino: And when I see people not fall into traps and keep going and make decisions that feel really elevated and aligned and true, that does it for me.
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Nicole Laino: That's what turns me on.
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Nicole Laino: I get super excited about it.
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Nicole Laino: And one of my clients wrote how she realized she tried an offer and it's not really lighting her up, it's not really what feels good to her.
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Nicole Laino: So she had this other idea which feels right.
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Nicole Laino: And so she's shifting things and she's changing things and she's adapting.
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Nicole Laino: And I commended her for it.
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Nicole Laino: Cuz I was like, I'm proud of you for recognizing that it doesn't feel good.
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Nicole Laino: I'm proud of you for not falling apart when that happened.
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Nicole Laino: For you to say, okay, well this is what I have here now what?
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Nicole Laino: Like she was able to stay and sit in this and she's a projector.
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Nicole Laino: So even lighting her up, it's not about sacral lighting up for her, but it's about what feels right for her, what she wants to be recognized for.
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Nicole Laino: And this wasn't it.
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Nicole Laino: This wasn't fulfilling for her.
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Nicole Laino: It wasn't making her feel successful.
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Nicole Laino: So she was able to look at that misalignment with which is her doing this thing.
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Nicole Laino: That misalignment led her to find something that felt more aligned.
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Nicole Laino: And then she asked for advice on how to execute on that.
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Nicole Laino: That to me is like the most beautiful part of a coaching relationship.
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Nicole Laino: She's doing her work and then she's coming to me for help to help her through the execution part.
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Nicole Laino: And she had some questions about, you know, like how does this sound?
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Nicole Laino: And she was looking for some feedback and I gave it to her.
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Nicole Laino: And nothing makes me happier than to do that.
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Nicole Laino: But what she did and what I was so excited about was I'm like, first of all everybody goes through this.
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Nicole Laino: Every offer has an evolution.
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Nicole Laino: Some of them get thrown out and we just say, we never want to do that one again.
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Nicole Laino: That sucked.
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Nicole Laino: I don't want to do it again.
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Nicole Laino: I'm done with that one.
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Nicole Laino: It happens.
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Nicole Laino: But most successful offers don't get to the point of being truly successful because people start questioning things.
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Nicole Laino: And every type has their way.
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Nicole Laino: She's a projector, so she's a little bit more able to sit in reflection than, like, my manifesting generators.
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Nicole Laino: My manifesting generators.
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Nicole Laino: They're going to be like, they're going to go and create nine other things at the same time, and then none of them are really going to work or something's going to fall off and they're not going to finish them all.
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Nicole Laino: And things aren't really going to come together.
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Nicole Laino: And then they're going to run in another direction.
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Nicole Laino: They're going to wonder why things aren't moving faster for them because they're doing so much.
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Nicole Laino: Manifestors are going to finish something, usually, and then they're going to be done with it.
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Nicole Laino: And then they're going to wonder, will I ever want to do anything again?
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Nicole Laino: What was the point of this?
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Nicole Laino: Did it make the impact that I wanted it to make?
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Nicole Laino: Yeah, but I'm done with it now.
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Nicole Laino: Every type has their way and they have their own way of having an evolution with things.
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Nicole Laino: A manifester might throw something out, say, like, I'm done with this next.
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Nicole Laino: And the next thing might end up being an evolution of it.
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Nicole Laino: They're probably the type that's going to work on something the least meaning, like, they're not going to take an offer and massage it and change it and shift it and do that for like two years.
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Nicole Laino: They don't have the patience for it.
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Nicole Laino: But it'll come in these, like, bursts of.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes it'll be a piece of something, and then a piece of something.
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Nicole Laino: It's very creative.
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Nicole Laino: Their process doesn't mean that they can't work on something long term.
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Nicole Laino: It's probably going to have to change, and sometimes it's going to have to change completely.
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Nicole Laino: They're gonna have to dream something new up again.
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Nicole Laino: Every type has its way and every design has its way of interacting with the world.
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Nicole Laino: And human beings iterate things.
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Nicole Laino: We shift things, we change things, we make mistakes.
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Nicole Laino: Human design cannot save you from making mistakes.
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Nicole Laino: But what it can do is make you feel rock solid in your approach to making decisions in the first place.
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Nicole Laino: And for accepting that you will either get the result that you want or the lesson that you need.
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Nicole Laino: You will either find the next right step through it.
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Nicole Laino: Like, I mean, look at the three lines.
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Nicole Laino: Three lines and six lines.
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Nicole Laino: You know, a six line in that first phase of their life and then the three line profiles.
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Nicole Laino: Any of the threes.
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Nicole Laino: You have to iterate.
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Nicole Laino: You have to adopt a perspective of.
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Nicole Laino: I will either get the result that I want or the lesson that I need.
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Nicole Laino: You have to, or you're going to miss something.
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Nicole Laino: You can't wait for everything to become clear in order to take step one.
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Nicole Laino: And for every type, this is different.
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Nicole Laino: Projectors will probably have a little bit more of a plan.
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Nicole Laino: They will have something in their mind that they're looking to execute on create.
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Nicole Laino: It'll start to unfold.
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Nicole Laino: It'll happen.
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Nicole Laino: Manifesting generators and generators.
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Nicole Laino: You're going to have to take the first right step that feels good and see what happens.
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Nicole Laino: Otherwise you never find out what the next step is.
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Nicole Laino: That first step might have been to show you what doesn't feel right.
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Nicole Laino: That first step might have been to give you the 10% of the thing that you just worked on that you want to keep, and you're going to throw out 90% of it.
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Nicole Laino: But in order to get that core 10% that you're going to take into the next thing that's going to be so crucial for the next step, for the next stage, you had to take this first step.
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Nicole Laino: You had to throw out the 90%.
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Nicole Laino: You had to do it that way.
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Nicole Laino: The key is that you're moving in the right direction and that you trust your direction.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know what the outcomes of my actions will be.
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Nicole Laino: I know how I approach it and that's the most important thing.
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Nicole Laino: I know that I'm really paying attention to the fact that I'm in response to something and I'm not just initiating.
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Nicole Laino: I know I'm paying attention to the fact this somehow aligns with the vision that I have, which usually will mean that I'm turned on by it.
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Nicole Laino: If it doesn't align with my vision, usually I won't want to do it.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes when I don't want to do something where it feels hard, the vision, because I'm a manifesting generator, the vision will turn on the motor and I will get the juice that I need.
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Nicole Laino: So I know how to operate in that.
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Nicole Laino: But doesn't mean that I never have to turn back and say, yeah, I got to start over on that.
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Nicole Laino: That didn't work out.
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Nicole Laino: But the act of going through it felt right.
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Nicole Laino: And I don't know it until later on where I'm like, oh, I needed all of that in order to get here.
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Nicole Laino: It felt like I was moving backwards, but I was making forward progress.
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Nicole Laino: Just didn't look that way to me.
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Nicole Laino: But because I trust in my own process and I'm like, I know that I'm following my stuff because when something goes wrong, I don't go, oh, my God, what do I have to do now?
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Nicole Laino: That doesn't mean I don't ask that question.
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Nicole Laino: I just catch myself in it and I say, that's not how I make decisions.
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Nicole Laino: I don't make decisions like, oh, my God, I'm so scared.
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Nicole Laino: What do I do now to fix it?
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Nicole Laino: That's not a good place to make decisions.
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Nicole Laino: So I come back and I say, well, I'm making a decision right now because I'm afraid.
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Nicole Laino: So how can I come back to my center, feel all the feelings that I'm feeling, and then wait for something to respond to tell me where to move next?
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Nicole Laino: I don't worry about mistakes.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes I recognize that when I'm curious about something, when I'm thinking about going in a certain direction, when I want to do something and it's not happening, I'm like, I'm trying to make it happen, and that's not my way.
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Nicole Laino: Human design can save you from so many more mistakes than you would even know you could have been making, usually because it's stopping you from letting your mind drive you in a direction.
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Nicole Laino: But this misconception that there are no mistakes that will be made, that you'll live this life of pure alignment and nothing will ever come in to your life that disrupts things, is a myth.
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Nicole Laino: But what it can do is make you unshakable.
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Nicole Laino: It can help you understand where you're making decisions that are completely out of alignment for you because you're making them the wrong way.
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Nicole Laino: It can make it so when the storm comes or something doesn't work out that like my client, you can sit and you can ask really good questions of yourself and you can make a decision that feels right to you, and you just see it as, this is just feedback.
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Nicole Laino: It's just feedback and data.
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Nicole Laino: To say that you don't need feedback and data in order to live a life of alignment, that's just silly.
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Nicole Laino: We're humans.
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Nicole Laino: We have experiences.
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Nicole Laino: Those experiences nurture us.
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Nicole Laino: They teach us things.
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Nicole Laino: We learn and grow from them because we reflect on them, and then we make better decisions.
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Nicole Laino: It's not from the mind.
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Nicole Laino: It's from our own personal evolution of nurturing.
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Nicole Laino: Ourselves through this stuff.
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Nicole Laino: So I wanted to clear that up because I see that so often people are just.
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Nicole Laino: They get so rattled by making a decision and having it not go the way that they planned the universe.
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Nicole Laino: Your purpose is probably not what you think it is.
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Nicole Laino: I say this all the time.
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Nicole Laino: Your incarnation.
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Nicole Laino: Cross is not a destination, a point on a map that once you realize what it is, you think you know where it is.
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Nicole Laino: And now all you have to do is just make all the right turns to get there.
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Nicole Laino: No, that's not how it works.
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Nicole Laino: You live in alignment.
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Nicole Laino: You make decisions according to your strategy and authority, even when they don't make sense, even when it seems like things are not going your way, even when it just feels like this is completely out of left field.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know why I'm doing it, but it feels right that your purpose shows up, that it's knocking on your doorstep.
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Nicole Laino: It's probably knocked several times, but you've ignored it or had some idea about where you should be going or how that step towards your purpose would fit into the plan that you had for your life.
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Nicole Laino: And you ignored it.
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Nicole Laino: And you went in the direction of your thoughts and your mind and your ego and your conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: Human design gets you to tune out that noise.
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Nicole Laino: You're not really meant to think about your purpose necessarily.
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Nicole Laino: You're meant to follow what feels right, do what feels good to you.
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Nicole Laino: I like to think about your purpose in the sense of, like, it just to make you feel maybe more validated in the direction that.
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Nicole Laino: That your soul feels like it's calling you into.
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Nicole Laino: I've worked with a lot of people recently who are at a crossroads in their life.
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Nicole Laino: They're making big decisions, they're changing things.
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Nicole Laino: And it's scary because that means ending some things.
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Nicole Laino: It means some things going away that maybe you created and provided a lot of stability in their lives.
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Nicole Laino: And now they're going to say goodbye to it in favor of the unknown.
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Nicole Laino: Scary.
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Nicole Laino: What has made them feel more comfortable, to feel protected in these choices, to feel really aligned with this vision that feels scary is the fact that we've sat down in these readings and I've kind of told them all the things that have been on their heart.
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Nicole Laino: I've read to them in their chart, and that has created at least a feeling of validation and safety.
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Nicole Laino: And it doesn't mean that the decision and the course doesn't feel scary, but it's a different kind of scary because it's kind of that, like, okay, I feel like I'm getting signs.
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Nicole Laino: I feel like I'm not crazy for thinking that I might be meant for this thing that made me feel really big.
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Nicole Laino: It maybe makes them feel safe to do the thing without necessarily knowing not just how it'll work out, but maybe how they're even going to do it.
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Nicole Laino: Right.
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Nicole Laino: It's if you're doing something new, you might not have the tools yet, you might not know exactly how you're gonna execute this whole thing.
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Nicole Laino: But knowing that you're on the right path, knowing that you are so aligned with this vision that it's really yours, that's powerful.
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Nicole Laino: It doesn't mean that there won't be tough times.
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Nicole Laino: Alignment does not guarantee never ending peace and happiness and fulfillment.
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Nicole Laino: And it guarantees that you will get there.
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Nicole Laino: But it doesn't mean that every step is going to be cushy, comfortable.
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Nicole Laino: And that's just what I wanted to say.
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Nicole Laino: Have courage in it, be able to sit with things and from a neutral place, say, did I follow my process into this?
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Nicole Laino: So if I followed my process, then even a mistake is somehow working for me.
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Nicole Laino: It's somehow guiding me toward what is right and good for me.
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Nicole Laino: If I didn't follow my process, did I learn something about my process that will keep me from making this mistake?
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Nicole Laino: In this error in decision making?
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Nicole Laino: Again, it takes reflection, but it has to come from a neutral place.
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Nicole Laino: You can't be in panic and do that, otherwise you get shitty answers.
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Nicole Laino: So I hope that this helped.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that this helped clear some things up for you.
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Nicole Laino: If you were feeling any of this, I appreciate you as always for being here with us.
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Nicole Laino: Thank you so much.
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Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
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