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- Kait Tregenza: it's not that we have fears or that we don't have fears. It's relationship to what is going on. What determines your success or your is what you choose to do with the fear. It's what you choose to see in that fear. It's how you approach ⁓ it. When that fear comes to you and it shuts you down, you will lose. You will lose any game that you ever wish to play because haven't seen the opportunity in that fear. So I really want to help you to understand in this is that whenever a fear coming to you, you have an opportunity to meet it, greet it, learn it, it out dinner. Treat this as the greatest opportunity, as the greatest determinant of your success your life. It's a mentor. It's a friend. It's companion and it's a guide. if you could start to see the fear that's arising in you as beautiful omen to what you are releasing and what you are now ready to transcend and now ready to move beyond your entire will change. want you to start to understand that the fear that is coming to you is your guide. It is... conversation that you need to be having to yourself. So I want you to look into this, feel into this fear and get really comfortable with it it's not something that's outside of you happening ⁓ you. It is something that you have created, that you have believed, that you have energized and that you have ⁓ in life. So if fear ⁓ currently has over you as in you feel it, you ⁓ you're overwhelmed by it you create this reality where cannot do certain things or ⁓ certain things because of this you and that could mean anything I mean it could mean I don't fly I have a fear of flying there's a power of this fear of flying over you and you've allowed that fear to shape your reality so your reality is now I don't get to travel don't get to go exotic incredible places am trapped ⁓ the city or the you the the diameter to which I can drive so you've you've created a prison for yourself no one else has done that to you no one You've decided to energize your fear. You've decided to empower your fear and to a greater extent and to a wider extent than you've allowed yourself feel ⁓ faith love trust in self. So it's really up to you to look into this fear and understand why, first of all, that it exists. Why you keep energizing it? Why you keep empowering it? What it's doing for you? Why is this showing up? it been tasked with? Why does it want to let you fly? Because you've said to it, ⁓ don't ever, ever let me fly. Because one this happened, and now my reality is that I don't fly. So I want to be really, really clear. We all have these fears that it's a given. But you can also start taking action on overcoming and eradicating these fears from your lifestyle entirely. most of our fears start out as these little tiny gremlins and every day that we don't take action every day that we don't look these little tiny gremlins in the eye you know what forget the idea of gremlins because i don't want you to i don't want you to think that this fear is ⁓ at first i thought gremlins was like a ⁓ cute little thing ⁓ some of you think that gremlins is not good and I don't want you So think of them as children. You have a child that comes up to you, whether it's your child or any child. Would you ever say to a child... No, go away. I dismiss you. Everything that you're saying is irrelevant and unimportant to me. Go. I have no desire to even look in your direction. I don't want to know that you exist. Leave me alone. Go away. What happens when that child starts crying? Do you still maintain the whole idea that you're not going to look at it? No, no, no. Go away, child. I'm not interested in knowing that you feel something or that you are here for something. I don't care what you want. Go away. So it's like every day, little children or one particular child is coming to you and ⁓ to give you a message, trying to say to you that this is something that's important that you need to know, that you need to pay attention to. ⁓ every day you're saying, no, I'm not willing to do that. And so ⁓ happens to that child ⁓ that it grows angry. First you heard it. First you heard it. Then you dismiss it. Then you reject it. You don't accept it. You don't acknowledge it. You... Alienate. create in. All of these things you dismiss a of you. And over time, if you continue to do that, you're going to create a very angry child. And a child that wants your attention to listen to something ⁓ you won't be listening to. ⁓ So if we don't take action, if we don't listen, if we don't look these children in the eyes start to understand them, then yeah, they do turn into gremlins. And those gremlins ⁓ turn dragons because we do anything. And we let it take complete ownership of our power. And we allow the power in the situation to be transferred to the fear. to be transferred to the dragon because we didn't take care of it when it was our small child. We allowed it to manifest and manipulate itself into this all-powerful dragon because going to grow and grow and grow. And then finally when it becomes a dragon and it starts to rule over us, then we sit resigned and saying, my goodness, now I've got these dragons that are ruling my life. couldn't possibly do anything. Boom. Now instead of being proactive, before it became a dragon, ⁓ miss that opportunity. Then it's becoming a dragon. You're still not actively pursuing, ⁓ know, the, the, the slaying of this dragon. Now you're in victim mindset and saying, well, I have this fear and it's taken over me. And every single day that we sit in this sphere and we don't take action, the fear gets bigger. And then fear breeds more fear. And then that fear breeds more dragons. And the dragons shut you down. These dragons are still attached to these little small children that just wanted your attention and just wanted your love. So the first step releasing yourself, to unleashing yourself is become incredibly honest. to truthful with yourself. yes, you are a human being and you have fear. ⁓ yes, you are a human being and you could have been proactive ⁓ at least active and you weren't ⁓ now these fears go into something bigger than you can manage. Okay, did that. ⁓ fine. Own it. ⁓ Once you start to own you have an opportunity to act here proactively or reactively or whatever it is, ⁓ you to own your fears. And when you start to own your responsibility and your accountability over these fears, you ⁓ the dynamic back to... and you release your fears from the ownership that it has of you. so when you realize your fear has jailed you and you are actually contained within a prison of your own fear, in the same way that, you know, I have a ⁓ of flying and therefore I only drive wherever I need to. That now means... you've contained yourself in a prison. So it's acknowledging that the fears that you chose to believe in ⁓ created fear within you, created a prison within you. And you can start to realize that this fear has indeed failed you and you are contained within a prison of your own fear, then you must realize your next thought is, well, if I put myself in this prison... If I made up this fear and I put myself in this made up prison of fear, then I too am the one that can liberate myself from it. I too am the one that can literally walk myself out of this prison because I created it. I was the one who made up the fear. I was the one who made up the prison and I was the one who kept myself in it. was the God. I the warden. I constructed the prison. ⁓ You know, I made the rules of the prison. I made all of these choices I continually, day in and day out, chose to in it. So I'm gonna pause there that sucks. I mean that. That sucks. When you first find out that your entire reality is made up of fears that you created and then you kept yourself in them, that's like first thing that comes up is like, well, maybe other people did, but I certainly didn't. Well, ⁓ check yourself. Is your reality, here's the way that you find that out, is your reality a direct reflection of everything that you dream of having in your imagination right now? Is your imagination just coloring and creating the world that you want? It's a yes or no answer. Is there anything in your life that you do not want to have in it? Is there anything that you wish you didn't have? Is there anything that you think, you know what, if, if I didn't have this or if I didn't do this or if this was right for me or if, if, if, if, if, I would, then I would be, then I would have, then I would do. If any of your language is constructed like that, you have created a fear, you have put yourself in a fear of prison and you have kept yourself and you have chosen to do it all. So I want you to find one of those fears. and I want you to sit into it. Feel where it rises up in your body. where does it show itself? doesn't feel attached to? What is the name of this fear? What does it hold you back from? Can you visualize it? does it feel like? What does it look like? What ⁓ is it? ⁓ Is there a story attached? What's that story? Can you shift deeper into that? Can you decide as if you are opening a door into this fear? Can you enter its home? Can you sit in its lounge room? Can you take tea with this fear and have a conversation? Can you ask it? do you represent to me? You don't want to think about this. want to allow these answers to come. Invite your fear to tell you it wants you to know. Give it permission. Give yourself permission to listen, to receive, to ask. ⁓ What do I need to know? do I need to learn from you? ⁓ are you here to teach me? Do you need to pull anything out? you need to release any ⁓ or gunk or anything that doesn't feel good anymore and anything that's ready to be released? Can you move beyond the constraints of this funeral? Can you start to first understand where these constraints are? Feel what your prison, what your entrapment, what your cage, your box, what your binding looks what do know like? Visualize that or feel or imagine that. What does your prison ⁓ the form of? ⁓ Can you get a sense of how long you've been here? Can you get a sense why you chose to here? ⁓ What you protecting yourself from? And it's not nothing. if you got nothing, go ⁓ What I protecting myself from? Why am here? What is it I am to learning from this ⁓ or protecting myself from? am I choosing to here? ⁓ I learn this lesson another way? Can experience this understanding and expansion of soul in another way? ⁓ Have I learned what I need to learn here? is there more for me to learn? It's time for you, dearest one, to step out of your prison. It is time for you to step up into the strength of you. Take a deep breath in. to lie down. Sit down. yourself repose. to rest and integrate. yourself completely out of your prison and into your new life. ⁓