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listen if you feel like you’re not a good manifestor · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a multi-six-figure entrepreneur in the beauty and personal development industry.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this podcast is where I share all of my mental perspective shifts and practices and exercises that I've mastered to create my dream life as well as expand my dream life because our dreams are constantly expanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you reach the top of the mountain, you are allowed to want more.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are allowed to be excited to climb the next mountain.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to normalize that.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are meant to grow, we are meant to expand.
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  SPEAKER_00: That does not mean you can't hold gratitude being at the top of the mountain you just climbed, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be at the top full of joy and still looking forward to the next climb.
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  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are struggling with uncertainty that your dream life will not unfold, or that your manifestations are not working, for example, you're like, I'm gonna go into work tomorrow and I'm gonna manifest$100 in tips.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you go into work, and by the time you're leaving work, you clock down and you check your tips, and you're like, wow, I only made$60.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not a good manifestor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clearly doesn't work, I don't know how to do it, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you give up.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you feel like you are not capable of manifesting the things you say are gonna manifest, or that you are going to achieve whatever it is that you want, you might have to build trust with yourself still.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I came across this information maybe five years ago, and I realized I didn't have trust with myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when I said I was gonna manifest X, Y, and Z, and it didn't happen, I was totally defeated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, well, I'm not a good manifester.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it was because I didn't do the things I said I was gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you are not doing the things that you say you're gonna do, you tell yourself you're gonna do something, and then you don't do it, you have broken the trust within yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not have integrity with yourself, and your brain doesn't believe the things that you say.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not necessarily your fault, this is just how your brain operates.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you say, I'm gonna go to the gym tomorrow, and you don't go, you are breaking that trust within yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's equivalent to when you say, I'm gonna manifest$100 in tips tomorrow, the small thing that you said you were gonna do, going to the gym and then not going, you broke trust with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So now your brain does not trust you that you are actually gonna manifest a hundred dollars in tips tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you see what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you are trying to manifest a bigger dream life, I'm gonna manifest$10,000 a month.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how, but I'm gonna get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain does not believe that because it doesn't trust you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The things you say aren't always true because those little things, believe it or not, affect the bigger things.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is how you build trust with yourself and you build evidence for your brain when you do the things you say you're gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are your brain's whole world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only you exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is your assistant day and night.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to give your brain evidence to trust the things that you say.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, I'm breaking it down in very simple terms, but if you feel like you need to build more trust with yourself, I'm gonna give you some very doable tasks to start building this evidence for your brain that what you say matters, what you say is true.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you can eventually work up to bigger promises to yourself, and you'll be a master manifestor in no time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, one really easy one.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what I started with showering.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you say, when you go in the bathroom and as you're about to turn on the shower, say out loud, I'm gonna shower today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you turn on the shower and you get in the shower and you complete it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Task completed.
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  SPEAKER_00: So simple, kind of funny, absolutely is building trust within yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you are about to put gas into your car, you get the pump and you say, I'm gonna fill up my car with gas today, and you put the gas pump in your car.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you are about to walk into the grocery store and grab your grocery cart, I want you to say, I'm going grocery shopping today and I'm going to complete it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna get everything on my list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or if you're gonna walk your dog, right as you're about to grab the leash, I'm going to walk my dog today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you said you were gonna walk your dog and for some reason you no longer have time, you better grab that leash and take a lap outside for 60 seconds because it is such a small, simple task that is building trust within you and your brain, which affects your dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: It affects what you're trying to manifest.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you are going to do the dishes, you grab your dish gloves and you say, I'm going to do the dishes today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these are a bunch of small, simple tasks to start with and say it out loud, say it in your in your mind, it doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then eventually you'll work up to more intermediate promises with yourself, such as going to the gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is definitely a bigger commitment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you want to start with more doable commitments and just get really good at it first.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then when you say, I'm gonna save$100 this month, transfer$100 into your savings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you have to take it out next week, it's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: You still did it because you said you're gonna do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can make these as easy or as hard as you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only thing that matters is you do what you say you're gonna do because if your brain doesn't believe the things you say, it doesn't trust you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a problem if you are trying to manifest something, and it's not going to believe that you're capable of manifesting your big dreams and desires because you don't even do the small things you told your brain you were gonna do, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm sure you're with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is exactly what helped me believe myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I said I was gonna build a business, that is huge, and I had no idea where to start, but I have proven to myself in the past that I just figure it out somehow.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you can even reach into your past and find old evidence of how I got through every hard time up until this point, so that means I can get through this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just kind of feeding your brain proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: That way, your brain help holds the confidence to get through whatever it is you're trying to get through.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I said I was gonna start building courses, I had no idea where to start.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't even know I had to pay money to build a course, as silly as that sounds.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, there was doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there were things there was times I didn't want to do this things I said I was gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I do it with the gym because I'm human, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll do a quick little living room workout if I don't make it one day.
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  SPEAKER_00: I say if I don't make it as if I'm you know too busy for the gym.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just love a slow morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes when it's raining, I don't want to leave the house if I'm being so real with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the point is building that trust within yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: That way, when you do go to build a business or you do go out on your own, if you work under someone right now and you are ready to jump out and be independent, your brain will trust you the whole way because you have all this evidence built up that you and your brain are a team and you work together and you trust each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to trust your business partner, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain is your business partner, you and yourself, me, myself, and I, we all work together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're all just doing our best.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no need to be hard on yourself for anything that you don't do, say you're gonna do, because I don't want anyone punishing themselves a 10,000 times for something they did one time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You you get me?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are mentally punishing yourself 10,000 times for a decision you made one time that is completely unnecessary, and that also will break trust within yourself because that's not a you're not creating a safe space for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So give yourself grace no matter what.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love yourself through it and say, you know what, I'll do better tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll do better this evening.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can always be better every single moment is literally a new opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you're familiar with Abraham Hicks.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have shared, I love her book, Ask and It Is Given.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's linked to my Amazon.
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  SPEAKER_00: I talk about it all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she talks about how when you um hold on, I lost my train of thought.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you leave a room, let's say, you or how about let's start with the car.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you open the door and you get out of the car, you're in a new segment, is what Abraham Hicks calls it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are constantly entering new segments.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like when you go to sleep and you wake up, you feel that fresh restart.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a brand new day and you're at the beginning of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: She says it's very similar anytime if you're sitting on the couch and you stand up, you're in a new segment.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are in the kitchen and you walk into the bedroom, you're in a new segment.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're in the car, you get out, you're in a new segment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you leave your house and get in the car, you're in a new segment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I mean by that is you are constantly coming up across all these new opportunities, these fresh beginnings.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you choose to see it that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so if you are really hard on yourself for something you didn't do, you can literally choose to do it an hour from now or two hours from now.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't make it in the morning, maybe you make it at night.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're constantly in a new segment, and so you don't have to wait until next Monday to do something.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can always do it now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, of course, like I said, have grace with yourself, love yourself through it, but just notice all the opportunities around you at all times, all throughout the day, not just when you wake up in the morning or when the brand new week starts.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me know in the comments if you liked this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.