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Clean Up These Leaks In Your Business To Build MOMENTUM · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, a mentor, energy healer, a cost creator, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: I help you heal on a physical and emotional level so that you can feel delicious in your health, body, relationships, career, and a bank account.
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  SPEAKER_00: This show is for those of you who are looking to go beyond the basic wellness stuff, cut out the BS and really create a life that you love.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talk about health, trauma healing, energetics, feminine energy, wealth, and magnetism so that you can live a life that feels delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, and welcome back to the Live Well podcast.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: I am back with a solo episode today.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: No Morgan, no guests, it's just me and you.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: This is gonna be like a conversation we would have if you were at my house.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a drink in front of me as always.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've followed me on Instagram, which if you don't, you should.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's at Keep Up With Love.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: I have been obsessed with this salted caramel pumpkin spice latte.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I use the salted caramel powder from Bloom, which it's all just full of superfoods.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's super clean.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's got maca.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have other things in it.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: Off the top of my head, I'm not sure which one the salted caram has because I have a few of their flavors.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, it's delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no caffeine in the powder itself, so you could definitely not like you could put decaf coffee with it like I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could put regular, you could just have it with milk.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's delicious.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I do that with full fat coconut milk, some coffee, pumpkin spice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also have been recently adding some lion's mane to it.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: So I've discovered a little like a tincture of lion's mane, which is glycerin-based as opposed to alcohol-based.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if you've ever had like a tincture before, you know that like alcohol y taste.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you don't really want to put that in coffee because then it's gonna taste funny, versus like this actually tastes good on its own, like it's slightly sweet on its own, even though there's no sugar in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so in coffee, it just it's so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we got the lion's mane for like the nervous system and the brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got full fat coconut milk, it's creamy, it's delicious, a little pumpkin spice seasoning, a little salt with caramel.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just it's a full experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you were here, that's what I'd be making you, that is what I'm sipping right now, and it is so good.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to dive in in this episode really into what are some of the leaks in your business that are preventing momentum, preventing growth, but that if you clean these up, like you will start to build so much momentum.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we think about it like a bucket with a bunch of little holes in it, that's what these energetic or what these like leaks are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of them are like logistical leaks, but they're an energy basis.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna dive into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But these leaks are like tiny little holes in your bucket that are draining water, and then you're wondering why like there's no more water left in your bucket.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you were to plug all these holes, you'd a hold so much water and then be able to like have so much more water added in as well without it draining out, right?
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Or think about like a tub, you know, you fill the bathtub instead of like pushing the thing down and the drain so the water collects, you're leaving it open.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's what having these leaks are like.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we're wondering why the bathtub is not filling, right?
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: So these are gonna be so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go over like so many little intricate examples because I didn't want to hop on here and be like clean up the leaks without giving you like context about very specific little leaks that I see.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm sure I wrote a couple of them down that I wanted to touch on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure I'll also think of more as we go because I feel like they always, you know, build on top of each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: But honestly, these are so much more common than you think, and you may not think that, like, oh, it's just a little leak, but like all these leaks add up, all these things are draining.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's go ahead and dive in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the number one leak I want to talk about from an energetics perspective is definitely a leak in congruency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if we were to pick a word for me that I've talked about in 2023, it's probably congruency.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: I love the word congruency.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very essentially, if you're unfamiliar with the term, it is square peg round hole energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is like you are trying to scrub, scrub a square peg into a round hole.
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  SPEAKER_00: No matter which way you go, it ain't gonna fit.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're spending so much time trying to fit the square peg into the round hole that if you were just to make both of them square, both of them round, it'd be a lot easier, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna give kind of like a few examples.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, in the congruency in terms of leaking in your business, the biggest one I see, and I say this with so much love, is really a lack of congruency in terms of how you are showing up online and then how you are showing up behind the scenes.
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  SPEAKER_00: For example, let's say you are a money coach, but behind the scenes you're plugging into your mentor about getting dysregulated with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: That that's a leak.
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  SPEAKER_00: That that's not congruent, right?
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: And then you kind of get stuck into the why isn't it working?
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: You know, and know that you can have different levels of things.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe perhaps you're a money coach to help people get to a certain level, and then you need support about expanding to a different one.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is different than getting completely dysregulated at that same level, right?
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: So let's say, or you're a business coach trying to help people get more clients, but and you're like, oh, I can help you get more clients, I can help you become sold out, I can help you, blah, blah, blah.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: But then behind the scenes, you're in a frequency of, oh, well, I don't have enough clients, clients aren't coming in, you know, why aren't people joining my stuff?
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  SPEAKER_00: Very incongruent.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you really need to make sure that like what you preached, you're actually embodied in.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like if I preached nervous system and my nervous system was getting dysregulated behind the scenes, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It wouldn't add up.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the reason that like you guys can feel, you guys know I'm solid.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: I also have an HRV that doesn't lie, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You you because you can feel that and because you know it, and well, for me, and then like if you're a money coach, maybe you share your money income.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: For me, I share my HRV and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to make sure that it is in congruency.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look at the subtle ways that like you kind of like dip behind the scenes.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean perfection, like I said, but if you are talking like, I'm gonna help you get to 10K months and you're struggling to get to 10k months, that that's not congruent.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: But maybe you can help people get to 10k, but you're working on getting to 50 and 60 and 70k, and like that's a different thing, right?
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: So really, really look at this of where you can strengthen your embodiment and where you need to clean up any lack of congruency behind the scenes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Perhaps you say you help people with their mindset, but you need 50 million mindset practices a day to feel regulated or to feel good, or it takes a lot of energy for your mindset to be solid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I think that one's really clear, but it is like a big one because all those subtle shifts, people, even if they don't know it, they can feel it subconsciously.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: People can feel when like there's something about like the words she's saying is right, but the energetic feeling I get behind her saying, like what she's saying, like there's something about like I don't want to join, or I don't feel pulled in, or I don't feel it's because that energetic is not clean, right?
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: Versus, and I I take a lot of pride in this, when people say like I am such a safe space to invest in when my mentor says, like you are one of the most safe, is like regulated places to invest in.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: When people tell me my containers that they feel so held, it's because I have the space to, right?
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: It's because I actually have the capacity to.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: And you might have seen me do a post on this when I ask people, you know, do you have more capacity to receive?
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually don't mean hours in the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I actually mean the capacity of like where your oh, this is also kind of a slightly different energetic leak, the capacity to actually receive more in terms of like holding people.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're struggling to hold yourself, it's gonna be very hard to hold other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that means like cleaning up your stuff first, you're getting your self-support first.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like the airplane, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When they drop the oxygen masks and they always say to put yours on first before helping someone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to be clean and solid in your oxygen mask before you're gonna go help someone else do it.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: So really making sure this is clean.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you feel like, oh, things aren't coming in, this is another aspect to look at like, oh, what is my actual capacity?
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  SPEAKER_00: And is my energy really filled with like lack, scarcity, etc.?
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  SPEAKER_00: People can feel that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Time to clean that up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which brings me to like another leak in your business that is preventing you from building momentum, and that is do you only have personal power when things are good?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, oh my god, if there's one thing, I mean, I probably should do a whole episode on this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if there was one thing, one of the top things that I help people with when it comes to their business is circumstantial power versus personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, having personal power only when things are good meaning means you only have circumstantial power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is, is that circles circumstantial power, it's kind of like a roller coaster.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's up, it's down, it's up, it's down, it's exhausting, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're you're not unwavering, that's for sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it also means that there's also that roller coaster in your business.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you only have power when things are good, then it's not sustainable, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't feel that calm, regulated kind of state.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like up and down and up and down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you need those things to feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so what happens when those things aren't there yet?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or when it's been, I don't know, it's been a day and no one signed up or whatever it is, and then all of a sudden you dip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hmm, that's not energetically clean.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so noticing where you have circumstantial power versus actual personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's one thing to get like, you know, you can be excited and happy when people join your offers.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's different than your personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Personal power means that you're able to hold that frequency and not dip if you don't get immediate instant gratification.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: Which kind of goes into my next kind of leak, which is are you fueled by the external validations of likes, clicks, and signups?
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  SPEAKER_00: Chances are if you're fueled by the external validation of that, you are gonna have circumstantial personal power and not actual personal power, right?
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's based on those likes, those clicks, those comments, whether you're getting DMs about this, whether people are signing up, how many people are signing up?
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like actually, every all these little examples I'm listing are actually little leaks.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe we have identified probably like 20 leaks by now, right?
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: Are you constantly checking DMs to see if people have messaged?
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's a leak.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm telling you the the person who's at the level you want to go is not checking their DMs constantly to see if people have messaged.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not constantly checking DMs to see if people have messaged.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: I don't post an offer and then go into my DMs and did anyone message?
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: Did anyone sign up?
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: Does anyone have questions?
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because I also have personal power, but also I'm I'm busy running a business, right?
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'm on to the next thing.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm, you know, putting effort into my courses.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like building them intentionally, responding to clients and doing other things.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: But if your sense of validation is wrapped up in that and you have circumstantial power versus personal power, then that circumstantial power is what's leading you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mm-mm.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: Energetic leak.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_00: Well, also the physical leak because you're physically doing something, right?
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: Another leak.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: Does your stripe month today dictate how you feel in your business?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or I don't know, PayPal.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what PayPal does.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure PayPal has something similar.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: I use stripe.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: You get what I mean.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: If your stripe month today is dictating how you feel in your business, and that's what you're responding to, we have a leak.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially if that's not where you want it to be.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I said, like, does it dictate?
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, if it's here versus there, it dictates how you feel in your business.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: If the month to date is like, oh, so far it's 30% less than last month.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: But like anything can change in, I wouldn't even say a day.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: People can things can change in an hour.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_00: Suddenly you could get a bunch of signups and like you're minus 30% compared to the previous month, and all of a sudden you're like plus 40% over the previous month.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: But you look at that and then that dictates how you feel, and then you start responding to that, and then we get into the the whole like circumstantial versus personal power, and then we get incongruent, and then we get no do you only get worried about X number of people joining?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a leak.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: Or the good old what if nobody joins?
• 13:21
  SPEAKER_00: That tells me, well, a circumstantial person's personal power, but that tells me there's an energetic leak.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: Do you struggle to hold boundaries with clients?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or in your containers?
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: Are you say you're not gonna be in I don't know, in Boxer on the weekends, but then you go into weekends because I don't know, you feel like guilt or you feel like you're like need to overgive in order to achieve something?
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: Do you whatever, like you have expectations about you know the containers about one topic, but you're allowing people to ask about other topics that are completely irrelevant to the container.
• 14:02
  SPEAKER_00: So I am just popping on to let you guys know about unwavering, which is the program to build a mindset that is solid no matter what.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: Because one of the reasons I have the life I do, the business that I do, is because my mindset is solid.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: When things come up, I don't get dysregulated.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: I am, like the program is called, unwavering because you are only as solid as your mindset.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: If you are only good until something happens, then you are not unwavering because things will happen in life and in business, but your ability to transcend through something will not only dictate how long you stay there, but what happens on the other side.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: So inside unwavering, this is about not needing 500 mindset practices to feel good, but rather your solid mindset is embodied in who you are.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be breaking out of the patterns, loops, and cycles that send your mindset spiraling on a roller coaster, along with the exact processes and methods to be solid, no matter what, making it really hard to wobble you.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: We're also gonna be uncovering your blind spots that are preventing you from being solid, because this one is key, and really how to be someone who stays above the cycle of it's quote unquote not working and actually get the results that you desire.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to know how to respond to and transcend things when they come up so that you don't stay there very long, this is gonna be for you, along with revealing shadows, wounds, and ego things that are making your mindset wobble in the first place.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to be able to be someone that lets other people's projections wash over you and want to know whether it is a projection or a mirror, this is what we're gonna be doing inside unwavering, along with resolving the idea that your mindset needs to quote unquote dip in the first place and instead normalizing resiliency.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, it is juicy, it is jam-packed.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: I cannot wait to have you inside.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_00: We will leave the link down below.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get back to the episode.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: These are energetic leaks.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_00: Are you scared to talk about your offer and sell?
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: Do you dip into the am I selling quote unquote too much?
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: This one is so funny.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: I I get it because I I used to think, you know, way back in the in the early parts of my business, like 2020.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: You know, people get so scared to talk about them and sell them.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_00: But like when you go to the grocery store, are you ever like, oh my God, I cannot believe they are selling oranges today?
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: Oranges and apples?
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: How dare they?
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: How dare they sell two different types of fruit?
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: But it's just like, what if someone coming doesn't want oranges?
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: What if they wanted apples and you're worried about selling two things?
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: And the store is like, well, there's people who want oranges and people want apples, and perhaps there's people who want both.
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know, there's people who want to work on their mindset, there's people who want to work on their nervous system, there's people who want to work on their nervous system with relationships, but they also maybe also want to work on money.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: So they want relationships and money.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: Some people just want money, some people want business, like, and you're here worried.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: I was like going into a Ritzia, it's my one of my favorite clothing stores.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: Do you walk in and you're like, how dare you sell a shirt and a pair of pants?
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: And actually, I bet you, I don't even think any stores like this exist.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: But like, can you imagine?
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: I was we're driving by the farmer's market and I thought about this.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: Or like the far, there's like little fruit stands, because we live near the country where like different farmers will put the stands out.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Can you imagine you went out and they were only selling apples?
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because we're getting into apple season.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: And can you imagine if they're only selling apples?
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: And that might be really good apples.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_00: But if there's another stand that has like, okay, it has apples, it has eggplants, it has zucchini, it has some pumpkins, it has this, I'm gonna go to the place where I can like get all of these things that I need.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: Because I have a bunch of different things that I might need, and then you know, I may not realize that I needed some eggplant or wanted some eggplant.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: But you're able to get all your things.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: Can you imagine they had like, oh, I have all these really good, you know, juicy, crisp apples, but I'm not gonna talk about them.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: No, you're gonna talk about them.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna be like so proud of your juicy apples.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: Now, this might sound like a silly analogy, but I probably like I like these analogies because I feel like it really helps you, helps it land for people.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's only in like the the industry of like coaching or like where your services are like you delivering something that people get like this, because you don't see this happening in stores, you don't see this happening with products.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm gonna think of I don't really think I follow any product brands, but like let's say let's say I was following a skincare brand.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: You know, they would tell you about their cleanser and their toner and their moisturizer, and like maybe you need to use all of them together and why the ingredients in them are good.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, oh yeah, like I I love seeing this.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: I love learning, okay, oh, it has these ingredients, and I need that for my skin for this, like, and you're out there looking for skincare, and there you go.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like it just makes it easy.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: Think about you are actually making this very easy for people who are looking for you like to solve that problem that they have.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so these are all like wonderful energetic leaks that I really hope, yeah, you know, you clean up.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna dive into another one, which is a big one that I see.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: And you'd be surprised.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: I actually see this with quote unquote higher level income earners.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: So it's really interesting to me.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: Does your family and high school friends or friends in general watching your stories dysregulate you?
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot, like this is an energetic leak.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: If you are dimming yourself down, if you are not shining your light, you know, because you're worried about family and friends, you know, watching your stories, what they're gonna say, what they're gonna think, that they're gonna talk about you.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, they probably are gonna talk about you.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's one thing I always say to my clients, like, what if they talk about me?
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like, they probably will.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: So when we remove that from being a thing and we just kind of accept that that's gonna happen, we're kind of just like, oh, it doesn't matter.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because they probably will.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_00: And so then that stops being the elephant in the room.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: But if you're constantly getting dysregulated by it and you're worried about it, right?
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: And even from that, you know, getting stuck in fear of what people are gonna think.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so then, so you don't really say what you want to say, or the thing that would actually help people, the thing that would actually help that your ideal client.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: And if well, everyone listening, or I feel like most people who listen to the podcast follow me on Instagram, you know I'm very to the point.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're in my containers, you know I give you the no BS.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: I give you what's actually gonna help you, and actually gonna help like you get what you desire.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: And like there's no fluff, there's no BS, it's actually what's going to help you.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm very much also like that on my Instagram.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_00: I'm very to the point.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I have also had people say to me, I love how blunt and to the point you are, because if I was afraid of what people were gonna think, I may not be as blunt.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_00: And if you followed me on my journey, maybe 2020 until now, like back in the start of 2020, I was a lot more timid.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot more, you know, things I didn't say, unsure.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I've strengthened my ability to kind of just like say the actual thing that's going to help you.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like, for example, safety in your nervous system.
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_00: I could tell, like, it's okay, just feel safe.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_00: Or I could be like, well, if you stop avoiding your triggers and you actually heal them, then we're not gonna have to spend so much time being safe.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's blunt, that's to the point.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: Me telling you, you know, if you need 500 mindset practices to feel good, you don't actually have an unwavering mindset.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's actually gonna help you be to the point.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: You know, getting out of a mindset that is like a house of straw, and the big bad wolf comes and just blows it down, you know, hops and puffs, and there it goes, that's actually gonna help you.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: Versus me giving you, you know, fluffy things.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: So when you don't say the thing that you want to say, you're actually stopping people from identifying with you.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Wanting to invest in you, wanting to get your services, wanting to join your business or your product or whatever it is.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're actually then dimming down your light.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: So you're being like less than a hundred percent of what you are.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine the apples again.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you have these apples, and you're like, Yeah, I have these apples.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have a couple different times of apples.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, I have, you know, honey crisp and I have muji apples.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm kind of like confused.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: I love, one of the things I love is when people kind of like sell me or like convince me on products or like when they're when they have something, I love to hear how people speak to it.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to hear, like, okay, these honey crisp apples are such good apples.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: These are gonna be the apples you want to use for baking.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you can roast them.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: If you put them with a little cinnamon and you saute them, you can have these wonderful apples and you know, like nice and warm.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, whatever it is.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not an apple person.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I like apples, but you get what I mean.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: Not an expert in apples, but whatever it is.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_00: I want to hear you speak to it.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: How should I be using these apples?
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: What if I don't know about apples?
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: Do I eat them raw?
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_00: Do I eat them cooked?
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: Can I eat them both ways?
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: But when you really say the thing, that's actually gonna help them.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: Then they're like, oh, okay.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_00: You give them the apple, you tell them how to use the apple.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_00: What's the best way to have the apple?
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Because otherwise, you not saying the thing is like someone, you know, has an apple and then they go and freeze it instead of like, I don't know, cooking it or eating it not frozen, and then they're they can't eat it frozen.
• 23:35
  unknown: Right.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's like kind of giving them an actual idea of what's gonna help them.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: But if we're stuck in fear, if we didn't that down, if we're like, oh, I shouldn't say that, or you want to say the thing, but you're scared, and then you change the wording around, and you're like, oh, you think you need to be like so and so is, you know, I'm blind, but not everyone necessarily wants to be blunt.
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: Not everyone is as fiery and to the point.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: One is not bad or good.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: You know, when I was saying a little bit more of like the fluffy safety, that is good for some people because that's who they are.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: The issue is when we become stuck in fear and we don't actually be who we truly are, especially when we are our businesses.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know, a little slightly different if maybe like you just, I don't know, own a skincare product, a company, and you know you're scaling the skincare products slightly different, but especially when you are your business and you are not full, you and you are not showing up as you, and then you're wondering, hmm.
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like that needs to be cleaned up.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: So if we think about like kind of all of the energetic leaks that are going on, you can kind of see how all of these little holes start to really drain water from your bucket.
• 24:46
  unknown: Right.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: Especially because things like the personal power example I gave, there might be like five different instances on where you're in circumstantial power versus personal power.
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_00: So that's five hold, not one hole.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe like we're just one giant hole of a circumstantial personal power.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_00: All right, and so there these there might be many holes.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: There's also different sizes of holes depending on like how much of these energetic leaks actually apply to you.
• 25:13
  unknown: Right.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: So when we think about this, uh, we can kind of see where we can need to start plugging up holes and where we need to make our businesses strong so that we can actually build momentum, so that we can actually grow.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: If you are interested in really cleaning up the on and off, well, the energetic leaks in your business, but also uncovering the blind spots in your business.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: We are enrolling for the aligned mastermind.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: I am obsessed with this mastermind because if you are stuck on the hamster wheel and wondering why it's not working, why your business isn't generating the impact and income that you want it to, this will uncover the blind spots and help align your business to expand so you can step into like high five-figure cash months in a way that really lights you up.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: So, application, the link for that will be down below.
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_00: We'll kind of see if you are fit, depending on where you are in business.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: We'll kind of see what if it's a good spot for you.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_00: And if not, we'll point you in the right direction for that.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_00: But I am so excited because these are truly gonna be a group of powerful women who are ready to go to like their next level and really step into their power and not only that, but actually build a business that is based on like serving and helping others, but also in a way that is nourishing to you and regulated.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: And it's it's gonna be so juicy.
• 26:34
  SPEAKER_00: So, that being said, we will leave that down below.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_00: I love you guys so much, and I will see you in the next episode.