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Flirting On The Green · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to I Do Part two, the podcast for people
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  Speaker 1: that either didn't get love right the first time around,
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  Speaker 1: are people that have loved and lost Sondra, I am
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  Speaker 1: welcoming you tonight to this podcast from Carmel, California. Sandra
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  Speaker 1: Mason from our season of Golden Bachelor. How are you
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  Speaker 1: doing this evening, Sondra?
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  Speaker 2: I am doing great for being midnight when it says
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  Speaker 2: nine o'clock here.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I heard Sandra's tired, but that's okay. So I
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  Speaker 1: am on with Susan Knowles. We have the Golden Bachelor podcast.
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  Speaker 1: It's under Bachelor Happy Hour and it's Golden Hour, and
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  Speaker 1: I hope you all will tune in. But tonight this
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  Speaker 1: is about all things love. So Sandra, I haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: you in a while, and Part two, you may or
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  Speaker 1: may not know, is all about finding love again. So
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  Speaker 1: let's start back at the beginning. Tell me about your
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  Speaker 1: first love, your family, tell me how we got to
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  Speaker 1: where we are, because this podcast is all about finding
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  Speaker 1: love again. And to get that, we need to know
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  Speaker 1: where you came from.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, first love as in when I was a young
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  Speaker 2: young gul.
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  Speaker 1: Well you know, maybe your husband, the father, your kids,
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  Speaker 1: wherever you want to start. USh.
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  Speaker 2: God, I got married in nineteen sixty eight. Do the math.
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  Speaker 2: It's about one hundred years ago. I have two daughters.
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  Speaker 2: And that was love. We were in college. Boy, that
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  Speaker 2: takes me back. We were in college and got married
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  Speaker 2: before I graduated. He had graduated.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, and how old are your kids now?
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  Speaker 2: Fifty two and almost forty?
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  Speaker 1: Wow?
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  Speaker 2: How old are you? Seventy six and a half.
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  Speaker 1: And I count them, So you're going to be soon
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  Speaker 1: be seventy seven in July. All right, well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: happy half birthday there, Thank you, ma'am. Okay, so tell
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  Speaker 1: me you know you've had an amazing week. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: going to jump in here. Your photograph with c K,
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  Speaker 1: that is Charles K went viral. Tell me about that, Like,
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  Speaker 1: did you have any idea that it would go viral?
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  Speaker 1: What were you thinking?
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  Speaker 2: No, I didn't. We were just having fun and taking
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  Speaker 2: pictures and kind of yacking it up. And we were
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  Speaker 2: at the restaurant and folks were saying, yeah, let us
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  Speaker 2: take the pictures for you, because in two old people
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  Speaker 2: trying to figure out how to hold cant the phone
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  Speaker 2: up high and get the light. And so are you
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  Speaker 2: talking to him?
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  Speaker 1: Are you dating? Him. Come on, give us the school
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  Speaker 1: that's going on.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we lived three thousand miles apart, so it's not
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  Speaker 2: exactly dating. We're kind of like phone piles or pin pals.
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  Speaker 2: So but unfortunately, well unfortunately we do live that far apart.
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  Speaker 2: And the second unfortunately is that he has an opportunity.
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  Speaker 2: His company is sending him to Cape Town, South Africa shortly.
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  Speaker 2: I guess his first trip there will be March.
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  Speaker 1: So there's that makes flirting long distance in issue.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a brand new talent. I'll have to develop something.
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  Speaker 1: So wait, are you thinking like you flirting? Are you interested?
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  Speaker 1: Tell me what you're thinking?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm interested. I don't know if he is or not.
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  Speaker 2: I can't speak for him, but as a matter of fact,
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  Speaker 2: I was telling him that when it was Jones Limo night,
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  Speaker 2: he was the one gentleman that I honed in on
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  Speaker 2: when he walked out of the limo. Really, yeah, he
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  Speaker 2: was the one, and just coincidentally, I've met it.
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  Speaker 1: So wait, let me he lives in right now, He
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  Speaker 1: lives in California and you live in Atlanta. So was
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  Speaker 1: he there?
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  Speaker 2: On? Where were you?
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  Speaker 1: Where was the where were those pictures taken?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? Oh, I came out here years for the Rose
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  Speaker 2: Bowl Parade, and he and I had been talking, uh
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  Speaker 2: chatting on the phone. Matter of fact, he had gone
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  Speaker 2: to Atlanta for business and we were supposed to have
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  Speaker 2: dinner one evening and I wound up in the hospital. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: this was supposed uh ton selectomy.
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  Speaker 1: And how are you feeling now?
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  Speaker 2: I'm a lot better?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, good. We're glad to hear that.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't had a cold and I haven't had a
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  Speaker 2: throw you know what.
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  Speaker 1: I've had your cold, bronchitis, I've had it all. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm good now. So hold on, So you came out here,
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  Speaker 1: did you reach out to him to have dinner?
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  Speaker 2: Well, because I owed him. I thought I owed him
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  Speaker 2: from when I owed stood him up in Atlanta and intantly.
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  Speaker 2: But so I told him I was coming up for
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  Speaker 2: the parade, and we agreed to meet and got to dinner.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, and was it everything? I mean, come on, give.
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  Speaker 2: We had great conversation. He's he's he's funny. We were
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  Speaker 2: funny together. We just we had just great conversation, telling
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  Speaker 2: jokes and and just learning who each other is. Uh,
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  Speaker 2: learning about his past and shared mine with him, and
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  Speaker 2: we just yucked it up. It was just a lot
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  Speaker 2: of fun.
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell. I can't tell if it's if he's
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  Speaker 1: the friend zone.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, he would have to be. Again, we're three
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  Speaker 2: thousand miles so.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'll travel anywhere for love, Saunders say, you know, well.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I won't. I don't think he would either. You
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  Speaker 2: know he's got Hey, I always look at it this wave.
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  Speaker 2: I'm interested in the guy. Other people are interested in
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  Speaker 2: that same guy. So it's not like I can.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you think you're I mean, come on, aren't you
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  Speaker 1: first in line?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I haven't asked, all right.
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  Speaker 1: So so for those of you who don't know, we're
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  Speaker 1: all out here having a fabulous weekend in Carmel, and
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  Speaker 1: we're here for the Pebble Beach pro am, and I
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  Speaker 1: do I need to tell you how many available men
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  Speaker 1: are going to be on that golf course.
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  Speaker 2: I have no idea.
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  Speaker 1: Tell me there's gonna be a lot. Okay, So my
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  Speaker 1: question for you is, what do you think? Are you
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  Speaker 1: going to be flirting with some other guys you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be looking? Are you gonna because you know c K
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  Speaker 1: is here?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? Yes? Have you seen him?
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  Speaker 1: Man? I know?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I know we're supposed to have a podcast tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: So have I seen him?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 2: I just walked in.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, what give me the school? I want the scoop, Sondra,
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  Speaker 1: what's the scoop going to be on the podcast?
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  Speaker 2: I have no idea?
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  Speaker 1: Nope? Are you going? Are you going to ask him out?
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  Speaker 1: You're going to try to like be his date while
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  Speaker 1: you're here?
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  Speaker 2: Come on, Kathy, you're asking me things I haven't even
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  Speaker 2: thought about. I don't I don't know what to expect
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  Speaker 2: to this entire weekend. So I know that some of
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  Speaker 2: his castmates will be there, so he gets to reunite
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  Speaker 2: with the guys.
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  Speaker 1: It's a golden reunion. Okay, Okay, so let me ask
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  Speaker 1: you something. Are you dating at all? Other guys? Spell
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm going to ask.
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  Speaker 2: A gentleman in my local area that I've been talking with,
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  Speaker 2: just talking and and and we've we've gone to dinner
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  Speaker 2: a couple of times, and uh, I met a buddy
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  Speaker 2: of his. So that's that's dating. That's prelim dating, I think, Sondra.
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  Speaker 1: Help you know me? Well, you know I'm not letting
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  Speaker 1: that one go. Are we kissing? Are we holding?
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  Speaker 2: We have kissed?
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  Speaker 1: So this is more than just a one time date.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, thus far, we've had two I call call
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  Speaker 2: it to a half dates.
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  Speaker 1: So, K, you're out in the cold, buddy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna Oh no, no, no, don't say that.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be willing to bet mister has had since I've
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  Speaker 2: met him, he's had several dates. He's a working guy too,
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  Speaker 2: so his time maybe someone limited. I'm retired, so I
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  Speaker 2: can I'm a little more flexible.
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  Speaker 1: So are you dating more than one guy?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: Not right now? Are you a one guy girl? Not necessarily,
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  Speaker 1: but there's only one guy right now, right now, and
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  Speaker 1: he lives in Atlanta.
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  Speaker 2: He lives in the Atlanta area.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So you know you and I are both in
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  Speaker 1: the dating world now. And it's a different world, right,
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  Speaker 1: I mean tell me, I can't remember. Are you divorced, right? Yes, divorced? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and you know my husband passed away, so it's a
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  Speaker 1: little bit different. How do your kids feel about you dating?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, they're excited for me, just like I've said before.
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  Speaker 2: They are my cheerleaders. When I was on the Golden Batch,
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  Speaker 2: they were my cheerleaders, and finding a guy is something
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  Speaker 2: they want for me, just like I want that for them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, Well are your kids with Do they have partners?
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  Speaker 2: Actually? Yes, you know one got married, Yeah, I remember that.
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  Speaker 2: The other one is dating a gentleman. So yeah, they're
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  Speaker 2: doing great.
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  Speaker 1: So how do they feel like my kids? I'll be
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  Speaker 1: honest with you. My kids don't like it when they
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  Speaker 1: see me with the guy kissing them, holding hands PDA.
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  Speaker 1: Uh uh kids that you'd have to ask them.
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  Speaker 2: But they want you to be a virgin till you die.
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  Speaker 1: I think the virgin things sailed three children ago. Well, no,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, But no, I just think
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  Speaker 1: it makes them uncomfortable. Your kids, how do you feel
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  Speaker 1: about PDA? Like, are you going to hold hands in public?
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  Speaker 1: Kids in public?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if it comes to that, absolutely, I don't. I
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  Speaker 2: don't have a problem with that at all. And I
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  Speaker 2: don't think they would either. Yeah, they might. They might
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  Speaker 2: kid my daughters.
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  Speaker 1: So are you looking for serious the serious next guy?
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  Speaker 2: I would think?
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  Speaker 1: So?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Really, are you ready to get like commit?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? If it's the right man, I will commit. Now.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not signing papers, that's what you're asking.
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  Speaker 1: Oh wait, what does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: It means I'm not getting married?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? Well, I mean unless you want more children at
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  Speaker 1: seventy six what.
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  Speaker 2: We could practice?
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, So okay, so you're out here, you're gonna go?
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  Speaker 1: Are you gonna be looking for guys out here?
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  Speaker 2: I I hadn't thought about it. So what I hadn't
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know what to expect.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not okay, let me let me break the down.
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  Speaker 2: You break it down, girlfriend.
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  Speaker 1: There is going to be a pebblebeat pro am golf tournament.
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  Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot of golfers. There's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people watching the golfers. Men love golf. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I know, there's can be a lot of men out there. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: are you gonna be searching? Do I have to fight you?
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  Speaker 1: Do I have to fight you? No?
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  Speaker 2: Of course not. You know, here's the thing. I'm not
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  Speaker 2: a flirter. I'm really not.
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  Speaker 1: I don't believe that for one minute.
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  Speaker 2: I think the most effective way to approach men or
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  Speaker 2: is just to talk, just to talk and be myself.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the whole flirting thing. My god, I'm seventy six
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  Speaker 2: years old at the I'm not flirting.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you meet guys? I mean, what do
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  Speaker 1: you do? You go up and talk to him? Talk?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, talk, about.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the thing I do Part two. Right, We've
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  Speaker 1: we've both been married before. We're looking for part two.
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  Speaker 1: We're looking for our second happiness, right, second partner, second
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  Speaker 1: person to spend our life with.
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  Speaker 2: Right, well, could have been more than that. But okay,
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  Speaker 2: I mean I've dated since right divorce. But no.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm saying we're looking for that that person.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, are you?
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  Speaker 1: I mean I am.
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  Speaker 2: I guess I'm looking. I'm not, see Kathy, I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not sure how to express this. I'm not out
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  Speaker 2: looking and searching for a guy. It happens organically. I
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  Speaker 2: bump into men, I meet men, friends, introduced me to guys.
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  Speaker 2: But to say I'm out there with you know my
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  Speaker 2: antenna up? No? No?
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  Speaker 1: So okay, well, I think that's very fair. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you know me, I always say, guys aren't going to
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  Speaker 1: come and knock on your door. You have to be
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  Speaker 1: out there.
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  Speaker 2: Let me be out there, out and about.
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  Speaker 1: So are you good? If you're I mean, I have
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  Speaker 1: to be honest. I would like to find that guy
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  Speaker 1: to have my part two with, and I think you
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  Speaker 1: would too. But it takes a lot of work.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I don't, I wouldn't call it work. I just
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Effort, effort, Okay, effort In other words,
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  Speaker 2: like you said, you can't sit at home and expect
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  Speaker 2: someone to knock on the door. You have to be
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  Speaker 2: out and about, you have to be Do you.
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  Speaker 1: Know what I would do right now to have someone
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  Speaker 1: knock on the door, just on this podcast here, that
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  Speaker 1: knock and say, wow, he's here. I don't think it's happening.
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  Speaker 1: Just it just passed my mind for a moment there.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, I think I think a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people thought that, you know, we would have a lot
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  Speaker 1: of guys from jone season, uh, you know, hooking up
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  Speaker 1: with us. I think the difference. I actually I was
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  Speaker 1: going to ask you this. I think that I've talked
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  Speaker 1: to a lot of the guys from Jones season and
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  Speaker 1: they've had a lot of women reach out to them.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not surprised at all.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not either. Did you have a lot of guys
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  Speaker 1: reach out to you on DMS when you came off
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  Speaker 1: the show.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to I don't think a lot is
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  Speaker 2: an appropriate word. I've had several, but I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what that's on.
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  Speaker 1: Did you date any of them?
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  Speaker 2: No, I've had converse phone conversations. The problem, Well, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if it's a problem. The gentlemen who have
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  Speaker 2: reached out to me again are long distance from where
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  Speaker 2: I am.
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  Speaker 1: Are you willing to relocate?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. It depends on who it is
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  Speaker 2: and what the other circumstances in life. It's just in
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  Speaker 2: my mind, it's difficult to date. It's difficult to get
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  Speaker 2: to know someone. It's difficult to be spontaneous when someone
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  Speaker 2: lives a plane ride away?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but wait, would you pick up? And I think
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  Speaker 1: the difference between now and part two for me is
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  Speaker 1: I meet the guy I'm interested in. He says, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: you know, let me buy a ticket. Let's meet in London.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going, okay, are you?
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  Speaker 2: It depends on It depends on who he is.
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  Speaker 1: What I mean, if I have to be interested.
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  Speaker 2: Right, yeah, if it's the right guy, I might do that.
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  Speaker 2: And I've had a guy say to me whom I
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  Speaker 2: really never met, just had half of a conversation with,
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  Speaker 2: and he says, I want you to come out and
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  Speaker 2: see you live in Chicago. I want you to come
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  Speaker 2: see me and I'll pay your way. And how's that?
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  Speaker 2: And I said, well, first of all, I can pay
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  Speaker 2: my own way. If I'm going to come see you,
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  Speaker 2: I'm paying my own way. And two, I gave him
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  Speaker 2: the daughter test. Do you have a daughter? He said yes.
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  Speaker 2: I said, if some man she never met said to her,
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  Speaker 2: I'll pay your way, come see me, what would you
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  Speaker 2: tell your daughter? And it stopped him and he said,
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  Speaker 2: I understand. So I said, so look, if you want
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  Speaker 2: to meet me, you come my way. You make that
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  Speaker 2: effort first. I'm not gonna hop a plane come see
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  Speaker 2: you just because you paid for it.
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  Speaker 1: And folks, therein lies the difference. If c K goes
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  Speaker 1: to South Africa and asks me to come, I'm on
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  Speaker 1: the next plane.
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  Speaker 2: But see, I've already mete K. I've met him. We've
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  Speaker 2: had we've spent time together. We've on the phone, we've
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  Speaker 2: had nose to nose.
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  Speaker 1: So I, I wait, did you kiss him?
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  Speaker 2: We kissed?
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  Speaker 1: Is he a good kisser?
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  Speaker 2: I think so. I think I think we matched well
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  Speaker 2: in that department.
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  Speaker 1: Listen to her. I'm telling you, getting stuff out of you,
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  Speaker 1: Sundra's like pulling teeth.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the thing, Kathy, I'm a very pragmatic person, very practical,
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  Speaker 2: very pragmatic. So I'm not one who can read between
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  Speaker 2: the lines very well.
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  Speaker 1: You're not going to jump off a cliff if if
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  Speaker 1: you think I could be loved, you're not going to
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  Speaker 1: take the risk.
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  Speaker 2: Well yeah, well that's what are you asking me.
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  Speaker 1: I guess what I'm saying is you know, you see
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  Speaker 1: you're pragmatic. Sometimes love, especially at our age, is just
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  Speaker 1: jumping off a cliff saying I don't know, let's see
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  Speaker 1: where it goes.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So are you talking about once you're in love
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  Speaker 2: or getting toward love? I'm away? At what point are
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  Speaker 2: you talking about.
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  Speaker 1: Saying I meet somebody and I think, well, maybe I'm
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  Speaker 1: interested just taking the risk. It's you know, it's not
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  Speaker 1: like you and I are gonna raise a family, have children,
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  Speaker 1: So why not take a risk? You're retired? Why not?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I can take a risk, but I've got to
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: get to know someone I've got. There's got to be
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: some comfort level there that he is age appropriate, that
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: he has relationships, the family relationships that he has, that
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: he's financially stable. There are things that I that have
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: to be in place before I jump off a cliff. Okay,
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: So because I'm too practical.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just going to say, that's that's very
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: that's not jumping off a cliff. That's getting all the
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: data walking step by stepped to the cliff, and which
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: is fine too, which is fine to Well, you know what.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: It seems to have worked well for you so far.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Are you ready for the golf tournament tomorrow?
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: I think so. Yeah, it should be fun.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Are you a golfer? I used to golf. I've got
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: two sets of clubs in my garage.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Wait, you know how I talk about used to guys?
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Are you a used to golfer? Mean?
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: I used to golf. I stopped about a year and
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: a half ago. I stopped just before we filmed on
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: the Batch because I had a little bit of a
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: car accident and jammed my thumb and it swelled up.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Went to the doctor and they x rayed both hands
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: and said, oh, by the way, you have arthritis and
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: both thumbs. Oh joy. Okay, so gripping sometimes is a
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: problem for me. So I haven't since the show. I
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: haven't really. I've gone out to the range. I haven't
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: gone out to the course.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I can all right, Well, I'm going to be watching
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: you at this golf tournament I'm going to be seeing
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: who you make eye contact with. I'm going to be
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: seeing who floats your boat, who you're willing to walk
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: off the cliff for, who you're willing to walk up
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: and give a kiss to, who you're willing to walk
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: up to and start a conversation with.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: Hey, I can do I can conversation.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah you can do that. Sure, Okay, now I might,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I might beat you to it.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: Can I get some pointers from you because you seem
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: to be you know what?
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I I pointers on what how to meet.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: The guy, how to flirt, how to I mean turn off.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: Here's here's what I do if I find someone that
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: is appealing to me. I think the biggest compliment you
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: can pay someone and show you're interested is to ask him,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: in my case, ask him questions about himself. That's what
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I do. I ask, and I use their name, so
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: you know, in your case, c K, tell me where
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: you know, tell me you're going to South Africa. Whatever
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: I ask using their name, look them in the eye,
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: ask some questions about themselves, because I think that puts
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: people at ease. But then, of course I'm waiting for
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: those people ask me questions as well. But I also
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: think sometimes just a smile, you know, making an eye contact.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: It's not that hard. I do believe chemistry is you know,
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: it's it's at the forefront. Right you meet someone, you
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: either have chemistry you don't.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: See and I don't I don't see. I don't like
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: to be interviewed. I don't like men to come ask
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: me are you married? Or who are you here? With no,
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: So by the same token, I don't want to approach anyone. Well,
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: I'll talk to a guy and we'll chat about where
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: we are, what's going on, how's your game, where your buddy.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I'll talk about things that are would be common to
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: the environment, not necessarily go after him.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but think about it, Sondra. You have to when
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: you meet someone, you have somebody has to say, hey,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: how are you nice to meet you? Or you know,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: oh you're a golfer. Oh you're here watching the golf tournament.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that kind of conversation is great.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Well that's how you start.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, But when you say start asking him questions about
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: himself and use his name and that's fine, Well, I
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: don't know, I just maybe I've misunderstood what you were saying.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Okay, Well, here's what I think, Sondra. Tomorrow, when you
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: and I go to the golf.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: Tournament, are you going to give me some point?
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I want you to follow after me. We're gonna we're
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: gonna pick out the guy you're gonna show me, Kathy.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I like that guy, and I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: gonna make it happen for you.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: You are, You're gonna tell him.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a wing woman. I'm gonna be your
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: wing woman.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Lord of Mercy, I'm in trouble now.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: No, it's gonna it's gonna be great. You're gonna have guys,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: you know, like a dance card. Your dance card is
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: gonna be full. These guys are all gonna be like,
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: I want her number. I want her number.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: But let me ask you this, Kathy. You say there's
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: going to be a swarm of men, won't there be
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: a lot of women as well?
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I think I measure up. Do you measure up?
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Well? Yeah? I don't. Then don't trying to measure I'm
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: just saying.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Who cares? My point is who cares? Right, You're at
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: the top of the heaps, so am I at the top.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: You're at the top of the You're at the top
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: of the heap. It has been great having you. I'm
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: so glad you're here with us. We are going to
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: have a great time with some of the guys from
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: Jones season, some of us the Golden Bachelorettes. We're gonna
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: have a great time. I'm so glad you hear. This
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: is going to create memories that you are not going
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: to forget. You never know, Sondra. Yeah, you're gonna learn
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: how to flirt.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: You might find you're not going to get to know
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: about that's flirting. Is that flirting?
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Flirting?
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Always thought flirting was throwing your hair, winking, staring. I
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: assumed that that was flirting behavior. So maybe that's the words.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Do as I say, not as I do. Follow me, Sandra,
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: it's not flipping your hair. I'm gonna give you. I'm
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: gonna give you a lessons. We're gonnay the next time
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: we do a podcast, you're going to be telling the
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: world about all the men you met at the Pebble
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Beach program. Thanks for joining me. I really enjoyed it.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Tune in to I Do Part two. Loved having you
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: and see you next time, all right.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Thanks Kathy,