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Ep. 3 “We don’t STFU” · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion to
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  Speaker 1: talk back. We just want to start today's show off
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  Speaker 1: by thinking, everybody for tuning in, and this is episode No.
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  Speaker 1: But three. Treat I'll treat it, y'all if we talk back. Period.
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  Speaker 1: I miss y'all. That's what I tell nickas when I
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  Speaker 1: ain't seen him, even if I missed you. So this
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  Speaker 1: is one of your hosts, AJ and this is tam Man.
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  Speaker 1: How was your weekend? Girl? They extended to quarantine in Charlotte. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: they extended the ship and I'm just tired of saying.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be watching them videos from Atlanta in Houston. I'll
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  Speaker 1: be wanting to go. And there's like a part of
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  Speaker 1: me that's like, girl, fund that ship, just lived your life.
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  Speaker 1: And then the other part of me is like, girl,
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  Speaker 1: be a responsible adult. What the fund is wrong with you?
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  Speaker 1: Go out catch that book here. All weekend, I watched
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  Speaker 1: then funck on Bridgetina. I watched that back and forth
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  Speaker 1: a couple of times, and nothing do some vegetables just
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  Speaker 1: doing stupid ass, dumb shit. I made a TikTok, I
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  Speaker 1: did a silhouette challenge. I don't never do no fucking TikTok.
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  Speaker 1: That's how bored I was. I took a children's app
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  Speaker 1: and slutted it out with a silhouette challenge, just like
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  Speaker 1: all these other adults everybody board forgive us. What can
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  Speaker 1: you do? What'd you do over the weekend? I don't
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  Speaker 1: do much of nothing. Man, laying around the house, cook breakfast, lunch,
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  Speaker 1: and dinner. I just feel like the fucking lunch lady,
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  Speaker 1: A big booty cafeteria lady. Ain't ill my beans? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: well you look like the little lady when I call
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  Speaker 1: you with that body all you get what you get? Right?
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  Speaker 1: You want these pancakes or not making pancakes or some
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  Speaker 1: ship and I call you, don't get these same old pancakes.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna get the same old push put them out
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  Speaker 1: on the side. So look, we do celebrate Black history
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  Speaker 1: from January one to December thirty one year around, yes,
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  Speaker 1: But for the month of February, we do want to
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  Speaker 1: have a little bit of a little known Black history
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  Speaker 1: and some baddies who talked back. Yes, honey. So I
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  Speaker 1: have a woman who came before Rosa Parks. You might
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  Speaker 1: not know about this. Her name was Clawed at COVID
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  Speaker 1: and at the age of fifteen. She got on the bus.
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  Speaker 1: She did not get up before Rosa did it. They
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  Speaker 1: made Rosa the face of that movement, but Honey clawed
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  Speaker 1: that at fifteen, sat down and she said, and I quote,
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  Speaker 1: it felt like so jouring. The truth was on one
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  Speaker 1: side pushing me down, and Harriet Tubmant was on the
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  Speaker 1: other side of me pushing me down. I couldn't get up.
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  Speaker 1: Little sis did not want to get up. Fifteen years old,
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  Speaker 1: y'all get in the back. I was here first period.
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  Speaker 1: So the spirit to her as not the movie. I know,
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  Speaker 1: that's right. We salute you, Claude, that cold black Patty
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  Speaker 1: who talked back ship to me, it sounds like a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of colorism in there. Why she wasn't the
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  Speaker 1: face of that movement. M well, that's what another episode
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  Speaker 1: right there. So obviously we can't have a podcast called
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  Speaker 1: We Talked Back without talking about talking back. Do you
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  Speaker 1: think talking back is not not being submissive? It's like
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  Speaker 1: not one of the characteristics of a submissive woman, a
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  Speaker 1: virtuous woman. Um, that's a slippery slope because you can
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  Speaker 1: talk back in a way that is respectful, in a
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  Speaker 1: way that is you know, more communication than talking down.
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  Speaker 1: On the motherfucker you know what I'm saying. Like, so
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  Speaker 1: sometimes talking back and be like, well, you're stupid, you
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  Speaker 1: don't I'm the leader, I'm the you know. It just
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  Speaker 1: depends on the delivery and the tone. Honestly, when you're
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  Speaker 1: talking back to your man, what do you think? Possibly
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  Speaker 1: I mean, but I'm just not doscile and I just
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  Speaker 1: don't sit back. I don't either. That's likely why I
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  Speaker 1: got no man. I'm learning how to be more submissive
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  Speaker 1: and still have a voice at the same time. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because for me, like not talking back, it's just me
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  Speaker 1: not saying anything. So he's either like zero or a hundred.
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  Speaker 1: So if saying ship, is that considered being submissive? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so something that might be being submissive to others it
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  Speaker 1: might be passive aggressive, but I ain't never not saying ship.
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  Speaker 1: Even the nigger could be like say one more motherfucking thing.
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  Speaker 1: That's where I got it. I'm like, h I was
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  Speaker 1: mow say something like something coming out of my mouth.
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  Speaker 1: I just I gotta you know, I gotta say what
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  Speaker 1: I mean. I mean when I say all the time. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So what you think about what's the girl from uh
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  Speaker 1: the real genie? My I think that's her name. Um.
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  Speaker 1: She was saying some things about her relationship with young Jeezy,
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  Speaker 1: So she was saying basically how she loves being submissive
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  Speaker 1: in her relationship with her man. She didn't really say
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  Speaker 1: geez or whatever, but she was saying, like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: she's used to being her own boss, being her own manager,
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  Speaker 1: doing this at a third and when she comes home
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  Speaker 1: she takes pleasure and being able to take that code
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  Speaker 1: off and let her man run things. But what exactly
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  Speaker 1: does that all? And tell us it just like picking
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  Speaker 1: out what food we're gonna eat today? Like, what does
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  Speaker 1: being submissive really mean in a relationship? Because I feel
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  Speaker 1: like the black community has taken this and ran with
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  Speaker 1: it because they feel like black women are incapable of
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  Speaker 1: being submissive in a relationship with a black man, which
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  Speaker 1: isn't true. When I did a poll over the weekend
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  Speaker 1: and I had like quite a few hundred people respond Really,
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  Speaker 1: you did a poll, like two men or women? I
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  Speaker 1: asked both, I said, ladies, are you submissive? Said? I
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  Speaker 1: let him run ship? And then said girl, fuck that?
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  Speaker 1: So half half a little over half said that they were.
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  Speaker 1: And then I asked the men are black women submissive?
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  Speaker 1: Let me find these results because it was crazy. It
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  Speaker 1: was twenty eight percent said that black women were submissive
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  Speaker 1: percent percent. So black men, according to this pole, don't
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  Speaker 1: believe that black women are submissive to them. But who
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  Speaker 1: are those black men? Because I feel like if a
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  Speaker 1: black woman has like a real man, like, being submissive
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  Speaker 1: will come naturally because you trust him, you know, to
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  Speaker 1: lead you in the right direction, so you're following. So
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  Speaker 1: when you say real man, what is a real man?
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  Speaker 1: A man that is capable of taking care of all
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  Speaker 1: aspects of your life? Following him is easy because you
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  Speaker 1: know he's making the best decision for both of you.
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  Speaker 1: If you are in a household where you're paying fifty
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  Speaker 1: percent of the damn bills, you're gonna want to have
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  Speaker 1: a voice. You know what I'm saying. This man can't say, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm about to go out and buy a brand new carter.
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  Speaker 1: You know both of you want to have to pay
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  Speaker 1: for right, So he needs half of your So if
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  Speaker 1: he were to go out and go purchase this car
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  Speaker 1: and European the bills, it's gonna be a whole problem
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  Speaker 1: and you're gonna hear about it. Right, So do you think, uh,
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  Speaker 1: it was easier to be submissive in a society where
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  Speaker 1: women weren't afforded the lifestyles that we have now. Like
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  Speaker 1: you know, back in great grandma time, she didn't work.
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  Speaker 1: She didn't work no fucking where. She took care of
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  Speaker 1: the kids and that in the household, that was her job.
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  Speaker 1: I come from a lineage of women that worked, like
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  Speaker 1: my grandma was a bootlegger. She worked at a hotel.
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  Speaker 1: She cleaned people houses after hours, like she worked. My grandfather,
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  Speaker 1: from what I heard, because I never met him, he
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  Speaker 1: was an alcoholic, so he worked, but he was full
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  Speaker 1: of ship at the same time, you see what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: So she always had to say so in her household.
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  Speaker 1: As far as I'm concerned, because the way my mom is,
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she got it from her goddamn mom.
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  Speaker 1: Just a fussy ass, leady talking ship, which I really
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  Speaker 1: tried my best not to be that woman. I try
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  Speaker 1: not to complain about ship a lot of times. But
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  Speaker 1: I roll with my eyes y'all, y'all can't see me.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever and whatever, nigger, yes, because I got something to
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  Speaker 1: say about every guy the thing. And if I'm wrong,
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  Speaker 1: I'm wrong, I'll just be quiet. But so when you're wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Do you do you have the capacity to say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you're right and I was wrong. Absolutely, absolutely, I do
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  Speaker 1: have the capacity to say I was wrong. But if
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm wrong either, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: just not talk about it anymore, because I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not the type of person who wants to convince somebody
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  Speaker 1: else of my ideas or what I think about a situation.
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  Speaker 1: So I just don't want to talk about it no more.
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  Speaker 1: You've experienced that with me as well, right, absolutely, And
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  Speaker 1: that's how I am with my man. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how healthy that is. I am capable
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  Speaker 1: of letting things go. So if I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: in a situation where I can't get my point across
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  Speaker 1: and your point isn't getting across to me, I'm okay,
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  Speaker 1: we're not talking about it no more. But here's the
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  Speaker 1: only thing that is going to resurface in different ways whatever,
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  Speaker 1: and we'll handle it then. But today, for the sake
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  Speaker 1: of my fucking brain, I'm not talking about it no more.
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  Speaker 1: But for the most part, I always got some ship
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  Speaker 1: to say. I always got rebuttaled for something which may
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  Speaker 1: get on people's nerves. But m so, what about what
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  Speaker 1: else about being submiss So Jennie, for people to put
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  Speaker 1: that video out there like they're trying to say something
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  Speaker 1: to black woman, I kind of felt offended by it
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  Speaker 1: a little bit because you know, she has a black
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  Speaker 1: man who's willing to lead her, and she's so happy
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  Speaker 1: about it. But that's her second marriage. She wouldn't even
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  Speaker 1: give her first husband a child, So now you have
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  Speaker 1: this man, which before did you see the herd? What
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  Speaker 1: she said she like white meat keeps her lee, but
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  Speaker 1: dark meat is just for fun or something. So basically,
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  Speaker 1: black men are a condiment. We're a condiment for her
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  Speaker 1: as far as I can, like some catch up a
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  Speaker 1: Mayo money Mustard type ship. And I noticed what ts
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  Speaker 1: are like in the Shade Room. They love to put
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  Speaker 1: the thing out there about splitting rent. It's like clickbait
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  Speaker 1: for black for the black community in America. So what's
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  Speaker 1: your what is your thoughts on splitting rent with your boyfriend?
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  Speaker 1: I rather lived by my fucking self. If I want
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  Speaker 1: a roommate, my idea of having a man is not
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  Speaker 1: me paying half the bills. I understand, like, yeah, some
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  Speaker 1: people may do that in their relationship because it works
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  Speaker 1: for their relationship I'm not telling women, um, like, that's wrong.
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  Speaker 1: You shouldn't be splitting bills with your man. Like how
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  Speaker 1: if you love this person and that's the situation, y'all
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  Speaker 1: are in and it works go forward, especially if you're
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  Speaker 1: the situation where the woman makes way more than a man.
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  Speaker 1: I don't mind tricking on the nigga. Like, it's just
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  Speaker 1: some people in life that I want to see happy
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  Speaker 1: with money, like having fun, Like I want my dude
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  Speaker 1: to be that person. But like, I'm okay with him
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  Speaker 1: making more money than me. I'm not. It's not a competition.
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  Speaker 1: But I probably would never put myself in a situation
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  Speaker 1: again in life because I'm not gonna say I've never
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  Speaker 1: been there. I don't took a nigga on vacasion before.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, the man sometimes get a little he
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  Speaker 1: feels emasculated success in comparison to him exactly, and that
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  Speaker 1: causes problems because it's like a tug Awards. Remember that
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  Speaker 1: episode of Martin when he found out Junia was making
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  Speaker 1: more than him the whole damn food. It may be subconscious,
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  Speaker 1: they may not know that that's the problem, and they
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  Speaker 1: may be laughing out for other reasons, but it's not
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  Speaker 1: my duty to make you feel like a man. It's
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  Speaker 1: either you are you aren't. A real man could walk
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  Speaker 1: in the room and not say a word, and everybody
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  Speaker 1: in there knows that that's a man because its aura.
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  Speaker 1: I disagree. It is your job to make a man
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  Speaker 1: feel like to make your man feel strong and powerful
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  Speaker 1: all the time. That's your job. That's your job as
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  Speaker 1: his woman. We need each other to do that. We
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  Speaker 1: need each other for that. Sometimes it just depends how
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  Speaker 1: deeply going into it, Like you know exactly, I'm always
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  Speaker 1: going to encourage the man, and I'm with you, But
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  Speaker 1: have you ever been with what a dude who had less?
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  Speaker 1: They kind of act like you owe them something. They
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  Speaker 1: act like the world kind of owe them something like
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  Speaker 1: you mean less, like like less money than you have
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  Speaker 1: I have. Like I said, I don't took a nigga
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  Speaker 1: on vacation before, and broke niggas be the most disrespect
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  Speaker 1: to me. Like broke men are usually the ones that's
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  Speaker 1: going to cheat on you. Yes, deck in time, that's it.
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  Speaker 1: Like while you running around, you may not be able
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  Speaker 1: to fun him as much as he would like to
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  Speaker 1: get fun because you gotta work. I just wish rich
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  Speaker 1: niggas are the ones who cheat the most. They have
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  Speaker 1: the capacity and the money to do it. You know,
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  Speaker 1: broke niggas they can't cheat. They probably cheat, but not
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  Speaker 1: as good as cheat. Girl, Like you know that dropping
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: a woman off to work and taking her car, that's
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  Speaker 1: a real thing. And a lot of women have men
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  Speaker 1: dropping their ass off the work and they're going to
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: funk on some bits who work from home. Verizonizing just
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  Speaker 1: shout out to Verizon, we love y'all. Girl, ain't working
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: all that oldt. I'm dropping d d off. I'm rof
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  Speaker 1: so I don't know. I'm not opposed to me and
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  Speaker 1: Smiths for the most part, but if something doesn't make
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  Speaker 1: sense to me, it doesn't I'm gonna say something about it.
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  Speaker 1: Like I am not the type of person that just
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  Speaker 1: shuts the funk up. And I feel like that's why
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  Speaker 1: black men like others. When I say others, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you know, outside of the black community, they date others
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  Speaker 1: because it's safer, Like they want to do what they
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  Speaker 1: want to do, and they want a woman that's gonna
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  Speaker 1: shut the funk up about it. Let me tell you
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  Speaker 1: what my ex used to use. Throw this word at
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  Speaker 1: me a lot and it used to piss me off. Nag,
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  Speaker 1: you're nagging, nagging? Why are you always nagging me? As
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  Speaker 1: if they do? Why the funk? I gotta keep saying
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  Speaker 1: the same ship. That's why I'm starting to feel like
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  Speaker 1: a nag because I'm saying the same thing over and
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  Speaker 1: over again and it's penetrating. Right, Yeah, that ship used
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  Speaker 1: to piss me off. Nag and you nag and me?
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  Speaker 1: Black women always nagging? Who started that nigger who just
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: wanted to do what he wanted to do? Same way
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  Speaker 1: with a nigger who created gold? Digger like it was
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  Speaker 1: a nigga with no goal. You don't have no gold
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  Speaker 1: for me to dig, So how the fund can I
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  Speaker 1: be a gold digger? Sir? I'm gonna do better about
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  Speaker 1: with my next nigger. I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: do better about. Let me start my current nigga. Pick
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  Speaker 1: my battles. I don't have to debate every thing because
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  Speaker 1: I've been known to like go toe to toe about
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  Speaker 1: everything in this next relationship, sometimes I will shut the
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  Speaker 1: funk up. So what kind of things in your last
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  Speaker 1: or that relationship where the guy was saying you were
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  Speaker 1: a nagged? Like, what kind of things were you nagging
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  Speaker 1: about about, like when you finished drinking your beer, throw
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  Speaker 1: the ball at something. You ain't gotta like take everyone
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  Speaker 1: every single time. But when I get up, I shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have to pick up beer bottles all day from all
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  Speaker 1: over the house. Now it'd be little ship like that.
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  Speaker 1: Or so he to do this thing where he I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know what it was. Okay, So I used to
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  Speaker 1: come home from work and I find little two pieces
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  Speaker 1: of tape in the stairwell, two little pieces of tape
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  Speaker 1: in the kitchen, tape too, yeah, masking tape, two little
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  Speaker 1: pieces of tape in the bedroom, two little pieces of
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  Speaker 1: taping the downstairs bathroom. Like Eventually I was like, Yo,
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  Speaker 1: what the fuck up with these little two pieces of
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  Speaker 1: table all over the house every day when I get home?
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  Speaker 1: How to clean it up? What are you doing? Said?
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  Speaker 1: I don't crying. Let's tell you what this nigga said.
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  Speaker 1: This nigga said that he'd be beating this dick and
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  Speaker 1: he put tape over the front and back camera because
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  Speaker 1: he don't want anybody to like extort him. You're like
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  Speaker 1: he heard that they could record you while you're watching
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  Speaker 1: videos and like seeing the tape like random places after
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  Speaker 1: I was like, so, nigga, you mean to tell me
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about taping the stairwell kitchen dicking my kitchen,
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  Speaker 1: basty motherfucker? This where? Give me what? So held don't
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  Speaker 1: be his dick downstairs and then walk up the stairs
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  Speaker 1: like take this why you probably get on Instagram right quick?
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  Speaker 1: In the stairway? What the funk? So I know when
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  Speaker 1: and where are you even beating your dick at right?
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  Speaker 1: So it's just like I'm magging. That is not nagging, nigger?
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  Speaker 1: What the fund is up? That's just a cop out
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  Speaker 1: to make a black woman shut up? Are you nagging?
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  Speaker 1: So you put it on nuts like we're doing something
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  Speaker 1: bad when your mom would be telling you the same
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  Speaker 1: damn thing. Clean the bear bottles up? What the fund?
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  Speaker 1: Are you doing all his tape? So maybe we're reminding
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  Speaker 1: them of their mom when we're just asking them to
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  Speaker 1: be a damn adult and clean up after themselves the period?
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  Speaker 1: What's all this tape over the house? And are you
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  Speaker 1: really beating your dick this much? That was a question,
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  Speaker 1: like all the time, why are you beating your dick
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  Speaker 1: this offense? Was he watching Florid and beating? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe he was addicted to himself. I can't even understand
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  Speaker 1: how much it too. Finally I had to dive to
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  Speaker 1: ask the question, like, what is this tape all over
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  Speaker 1: the house? That's weird as hell? Man, hold on, before
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  Speaker 1: we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick.
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  Speaker 1: So based on this this I g poll like, what
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  Speaker 1: kind of responses did you get from men? And I
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: hope it was men and not women because we didn't
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: bitches always speaking out of turn. Now because this show,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: it shows the names of the you know, the people
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: who respond. So I just said, what does it mean
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: to you for your woman to be submissive? And someone said,
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: you don't have to be submissive, just take care of
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: the house and I would provide and protect you and
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: the kids. Makes it work. Don't nobody want to be
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: battling their partner. Another guy said she respects our roles
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: in the relationship and that she knows how, when and
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: why to allow me to lead her. So if your
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: opinion half the bills, what's the roles in the relationship?
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I guess each individual relationship has to establish their own roles,
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: because some women take that out for leaving their relationship
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: and some men probably are comfortable with that, right, Yeah,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: I want a man to like be knowing what the
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: fun is going on and is capable of making decisions
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: for both of us, even even if you go to
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: a restaurant, like you already know what I like to eat,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: like he might order both of our foods. No, I
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: don't want nobody to order. I've ordered my man food
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: before because I know what he likes. I know what
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: he would eat off the menu. Don't order shifting me.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at you like you're crazy. I do not
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: play about my food losses like a sally What you're
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: trying to say? I'm fat? First, I'll have don't scratch
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: that with that. Niggas said, I'll have the lobster bens
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: to start Hennessey stock Car. When you see that low,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: bring me another like, don't do that. Don't do that
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: al right. Someone else said, give that man some head. Wow,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: So giving head is being some amissive interesting I mean, man,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I don't I never met a man. I take that
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: as put it in your mouth and shut the funk up.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I've never met a man who didn't want head. Have you?
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Have you ever met a man like? I don't like
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: getting my dicks up. I have an ax like that
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: he did, like I barely I barely had to suck dick,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: and then my current relationship, like, I suck a lot
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: of dick. So now I'm like, god, damn it, nig
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: like didn't even like head like that it was nothing
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: for him. Like that's weird because he just said it
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: didn't feel like nothing to him. And I know I
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: can give good head, I believe anyway. I never had
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: somebody say, hey, I don't never run to that good
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: head today. You know what the women do said they
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: don't give good head, some women, not me, not this
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: So what is good head consistent? We'll talk about that later.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: A lot of spit, I guess you know it depends
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: on the man, because I had somebody tell me one
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: time that he did not appreciate me spitting on his dick. Yeah, yeah,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I've had that too, Like I don't want all that.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: It's going touching my balls at this point. What so
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: you know the one dry head, right? Okay, Well, let
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: me go get this uh fucking sand paper and I'll
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: just struck it up and down your dick, sir. You
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: want some cereal pussy, some cold pussy. What that dry
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: head and cold pussy. The fun's going on. But he
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: used their own. If you like it dry, give me
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: this shape, he dick if you wanted all right, So
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: that was where give that man some head? Uh, someone said,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: humble enough to listen, but but sure enough to follow
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: with all trust, with all trust. So hard, I know, man,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: especially when you're coming from a household with the mama. Yeah,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: like she made all the decisions. And now I got
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: to figure out. You didn't grow up watching that, you know.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: So I grew up in a single parent home. My
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: father was always around, but he didn't live in the house.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: But my boyfriend his parents were together, and their relationship
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: was an interesting one. I just felt like she was.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: She did teach me some things about being more submissive,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: like how I am with making plates and putting it
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: at the table and taking it away from the table,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: and being that kind of woman, like not saying, nigga,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: make your own ship. You know that is something that
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: a lot of women are like that. What is that about?
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: You know? Anywhere? Like if we're out of the barbecue,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: if we're at home, anywhere, I'm making your play. Nobody
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: can make my nigga place nobody, because Mama, I gotta
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: know the funk you don't. Mama, set your ass there,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I got down exactly, make yours to mama, sit your down.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: I know what he liked to eat, right, So yeah,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: all trust that's hard. I trust be though, but it's hard,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: like that's not is that real life? I can give
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: you about nothing. So what else they're saying to uh,
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: they say, just shut the funk up sometime. Now, you
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: know that's a bit chassnigg going nor job you want
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: to be to stop telling him to go get a job.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: That's all that is. But no, sometimes sometimes we should
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: just shut the funk up. You can have a good
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: nigga doing all the things right and you still got
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: a old something byring it, byring a big Where I
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: come from thro the Tyler Perry movie, it was Teana Taylor.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: She was, um, what's his name? Wow's baby mama. Obviously
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I don't watch that much TV. Yeah, she was like
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: this aggravating this baby mama, and that's how she was saying,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, but you do have those women who
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: do make it hard for these men out here, good men,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: you know, just shut the funk up sometime. It's valid
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: to me sometime. All right, let's see what else they said.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: She respects that I, as the alpha man follower of God,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: will lead in positivity with both of our best interests
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: at heart. Okay, okay, man of God. Girl. Some of
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: these nigga still finding themselves and they want somebody to
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: follow them. Nig you don't even know where you're going,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: and you want me to follow you. Cut it right
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: straight to hell. I need to see your damn resume. Right,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Be what I asked and not make me ask all
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: the time? What is that? Be what I asked? What
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: you ask me. I can't beat myself a puppy and
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: make me ask all the time. When I think of that,
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: like I just wish she would cook and clean or something.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know what. Then, Okay, So I feel like
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: being submissive would be easier when your only responsibility is
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: the household, but when you are also responsible for bills
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: and stuff like that, it's kind of hard not to
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: have say. So, Like, I know some people that you
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: know where the woman is a breadwinner. She's not gonna
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: play him and be like, look, nigger, you're in the
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: control for real here. So she is a type of
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: woman that makes him feel like a man, but she's
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: still the breadwinner, so she doesn't emasculate him at all.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: Like he struggles with being the man he wants to be.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: That that's in his mind mentally. I just, you know,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I feel bad for these brothers out here. Sometime they
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: got they got a hard man to goodness, they got
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: it hard. I saw yesterday on social media where these
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: men were asking women for money. Did you see that ship?
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: You sent that ship to me, these niggers and something.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: I was disgusted. I was on the toilet reading that
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: ship this morning, begging for money. That's the quickest way
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: to get rid of me. Asked me for a ride
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: too many times and asked me for some fucking money
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: when I never asked you for ship. That's go that
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: go for men or women. Like God, damn, if I'm
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: just I feel like I'm just doing too much, I'm
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: gonna GOOTI your ask. You're the type you're target though,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: Like how I look like a trick? You what are
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: you saying? Not like a trick, but you just very
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: got that very giving spirit and people can feel it.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: It'd be old people. Motherfucker's no not to ask me
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: for ship. I'd be looking like bit, I'm the last
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: motherfucker resort. I got that face when you come asking
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: me for stuff. Yeah, I had an old ladies asked
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: me for a ride from the grocery store one day,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: and she was like, God just told her to ask
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: me because I just looked like I look nice and
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: so I just looked like you in your car and
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: you took her home, didn't you? Yea, she did. It
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: was her birthday, birthday. She was about to try to
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: walk home with I would have put right down the street.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: You ain't know that, you ain't know you might have
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: been driving to your dad. Girl, this is a little
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: ass lady, A little old lady. What's she gonna do? Well,
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: that's different. But grown ass woman. I have had grown
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: as men asked me for money before, men that I
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: never asked for money before. I'm telling everybody you're playing
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: it's so much wrong with that. But I don't want
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: to make it seem like a nigga can't fall on
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: hard times and he can't go to a woman that
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: he knows for help. We do it. The nigga's all
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: go to your mama. Mama ain't got no one all
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: right now. You can't go to your mama, don't come
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: to me. They ran the well drive with mama. And
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: then you ain't even my dick at that, Like, that's
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: not my dick, and I don't pay for the dick,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: So no, I don't have funn at all? Is that
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: expensive as yet? You're gonna start paying for it? That
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: ps eight, Mama got it? That's something for you baby. Yeah,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: at that point, I guess we'll be paying for niggas
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: to leave, right, because that's what niggas who pay for pussy.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: They're not paying for you to stay, they're paying for
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: you to go peacefully. Right. They're paying for no issues
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: because pussy extorts nigga's okay period, especially if you got
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: a woman and you're sucking off, like you won't have
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: to pay me to shut the funk up. So if
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: let's say, if you was a nigga and you were,
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: you know, going through a rough patch, how do you
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: navigate that with women? Do you not ask for help?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: So you're asking all of us? So you're just asking
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: them one you think that got the most money? Or
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: do I look stupid to you? Because I feel like
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: usually most people you're not gonna ask somebody who you
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: think on and say no. So at what point did
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: you look at me and say, hey, actually dumb ask
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: gonna say? Yeah, she won't give me that funny, But
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: that's because I asked them first. They don't get a chance.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: But listen, if if I had gotten money from him before,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: then yeah, I might have had that for him. But Nina,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: this is just a pussy and dick exchange. Surely, like
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I've never required you. I never voiced you about this
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: pussy before, so why are you calling me? But I don't.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Never have nobody asked for me, me for money. It's
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: very rare. I don't want to talk about my knees.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: She's a grown woman now, but she might have been
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: eighteen or so. And I've always been trying to put
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: her ass onto games since forever, since she started using
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: her vagina, because once you start using your pussy, that's
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: no longer your mom responsibility or your daddy's responsibility. Whoever
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: using it need to be taken care of it as
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: far as I'm certain, period. But she literally was trying
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: to Western Union and Nigga twenty dollars, and I'm like, girl,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: it caused twenty dollars twenty dollars, Like, if you don't
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: know that, you shouldn't be using your vagina the fun.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I hate what somebody asked me to let me hold
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: twenty dollars. Ten dollars here, just what are you about
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: to do with this gas dollars? But what are you
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: gonna do with ten dollars? That's stupid to ask somebody
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: to borrow that. Ye, No, I feel sorry for these niggas.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: He'll me the girl in the club on Saturday, and
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: come Monday he'd be like, hey, baby, how you doing?
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Just so stressed? Oh what's wrong? I just have just
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: so many bills they're piling up. I don't really want
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: to share this with you. We just met, Like, no, baby,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: what's going on? Got him? Yeah? My HVAC went out
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: in my house. The kids need uh school supplies. It's
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: just it's very stressful right now. That's all I can
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: think about. Yes, I can't think about sucking your dicks,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: so can't you assist? Right? And that is good? And
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: that's how that works. I know. Niggas be like again, right,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: every bit I met Saturday, h back went out dad, right, nigga,
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: whether the age back working or now is usage tax?
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: When you hear a bit like this so stressed that
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: long side, she's about to ask you for somebody, hang up,
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I mean why not? Nigga's don't mind asking for pussy
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: like they're going to ask you for what they want,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: So why are we afraid to ask them for what
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: we want? It's not I mean, I get that, but
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: like you met him on Saturday. On Monday, you already
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: sign hard. I don't do that. But I mean, but
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: if that's if that's all she wants from him, like
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: she might as well just put it on the table
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: right then, sat Wait, men could do the same thing
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: instead of playing and letting us meet their representative first days.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: But I'm trying to hear that. Hey, I try to
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: see that head like me and ask me. Don't come
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: out Yeah, never getting this pussy? What that mouth? Dude?
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Ask for money? That's what it do. Hey, you can
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: pay to play the hell not for really. You don't
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: be selling pussy for real, not for real, about for fake.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: You ain't abody to just be using me to hell up.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: This ain't no cheap thrill. Yeah you know, because man
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: will definitely still steal your damn youth. And beauty and everything. Man,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: he funked up out here about some damn ball and
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: just just losing weight. Yeah, so if I got to
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: go through all that, you got to pay for submission.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: You gotta pay me to shut the funk up. And
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: you know, and pay doesn't even mean financial. He can
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: just build you. Look at Ashley, I wish I could
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: see her face. She's looking at me like, Bim, you're
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: talking about no pay. I mean it could be monetary,
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: but you haven't had somebody come into your life and
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: like make you want to boss up more, like just
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: build your spirit in a way. Come in my life.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: I was driving the clips came along a couple of
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: months later, I had a range Rover and he didn't
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: spend no money on me, but he spoke life into me. Baby.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: He gone, he went to jail. ChIL you and these niggas, Man,
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. All my niggas end
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: up in jail. I don't know if I got the
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Kardashian cursed the ghetto version where I just don't say
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: that those to me. I'm lying. I'm joking. You walk
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: around head with a pistel. You said his ass up.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: Some you know, like because when I think about being submissive,
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: I think about that movie, Like I know that's like
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: the B D S M type ship, But I think,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: what else? What else do men expect from women in
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: a relationship? Did you watch that movie? Like she had to? Yeah,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: I didn't eat a certain way, yeah, a certain address,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: certain Yeah. So what is it that men want from
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: a submissive woman? What does that really mean? What does
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: that look like? Do we know it's an exchange of power? Right?
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: I just felt like being submissive. I said what I
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: said and that's final, and walk out the room. And
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: I was sped to sit and while he walking out
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: the room, my whole fucking shoe it's following him, Like, yeah,
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: what the hell are you yelling at? First of all,
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: that's final. I know adults don't start statements off where
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: first of all, But first of all, nigga, who the
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: hell are you yelling at? That's not how we're gonna
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: handle things. But I just could imagine, like that's what
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: the nigga saying, who wants his woman to be submissive?
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: And then he walks out and then you just go
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: to washing the dishes, or I think about people that
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I know personally that are like the women who are
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: kind of docile and the type of men that they're
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: with I'd never be with. They're not to me. They
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: don't exemplify like you said, what's that ill man like,
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: it's just certain little characteristics about them that say band
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: and I just can't funk with. I don't understand, Like,
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: why are you being this like quiet, like conservative little
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: lady for this man? Will you really run ship in
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: this relationship? Or maybe it's a tactic. Yeah, that's what
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: I think. It's. It's a tactic like him think he ruined,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: and that's what I'm gonna start some covert and that's
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: what I'm gonna start doing. I'm just gonna let this
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: nigga think that he's in charge, and we'd be bad
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: is let him think he running. Maybe that's the thing.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: So basically, you submissive bitches are just bad and sneaky, right,
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's just a real life covert
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: way of running your relationship and peacefully to keep the
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: peace interesting. I'm gonna apply that. Let's see how that
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: works for me. Subchess moves not check as this chest. Yes, honey, okay,
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: we understand, Okay, we see you, you little sneaky can
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: have nance pictures. We see you are submissive, washing dishes,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: berfoot It's a tactic. So look, before we move on
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Look,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: so a while in my search to better understand what
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: being submissive really means being submissive, I guess it goes
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: back to like biblical terms. All right, So this article says,
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: rather it is assumed um that the wife to be
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: a passive participant while her husband bosses her around, or
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: that she is to wait on him hand and foot
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: while he does nothing embarks orders at her. It's a
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: common misconception. Being a submissive wife does not mean you
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: are your husband's slave. To better understand what it means
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  Speaker 1: to be a submissive wife, let's take a closer look
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  Speaker 1: at the definition of the actual word. So, the word
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  Speaker 1: submissive is defined as inclined or ready to submit, or
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  Speaker 1: to put oneself under authority of another. So let's look
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  Speaker 1: at it. Let's look at what it means like biblically, okay,
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  Speaker 1: So to be submissive means to put yourself under the
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  Speaker 1: authority of your husband and Fanshians and Heathens. That's me Um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's Ephesians Aphisians give five. Husbands are instructed
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  Speaker 1: to love your wives just as Christ also loved the
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  Speaker 1: church and gave himself up for her and an Amphibians two.
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  Speaker 1: Wife are told to be subject to your own husband
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  Speaker 1: as to the Lord. And it says when a husband
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  Speaker 1: loves his wife as he loves the church, and when
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  Speaker 1: women focus on their role to love and be subject
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  Speaker 1: to their husband's According to scripture, marriage is loving, kind
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  Speaker 1: and harmonious, not abusive or a slave master relationship. Submission
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  Speaker 1: is a voluntary action by the wife. It is a
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  Speaker 1: God driven desire to please your husband and act under
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  Speaker 1: his authority, just as Christians are to act under the
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  Speaker 1: authority of the Church. This article also says, while the
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  Speaker 1: husbands are to be the head of the household, the
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  Speaker 1: wife is not commanded to keep her mouth shut and
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  Speaker 1: never give her opinion on matters. She speaks with wisdom
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  Speaker 1: and faithful instruction is on her tongue, and that's Proverbs.
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  Speaker 1: The wife can and should share her thoughts on important
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  Speaker 1: family and household topics with her husband, but she should
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  Speaker 1: do so in a way that is pleasing to God.
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  Speaker 1: How choose your words carefully, don't argue to prove a
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  Speaker 1: point um, just to be right. And it says like
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  Speaker 1: in a in a biblical marriage, the wife is the
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  Speaker 1: helpmate of her husband. She should support him and give counsel.
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  Speaker 1: So technically, in Biblical terms, sounds like the wife runs it.
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  Speaker 1: And we can look at that throughout history, like back
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  Speaker 1: in the medieval times or like the eighteen seventeen eighteenth century,
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  Speaker 1: like women were under men. But if you watch these movies,
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  Speaker 1: they rand ship. They were always the ones in the
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  Speaker 1: bedroom given counsel to her husband. Still we're still doing
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  Speaker 1: We're still definitely doing right. So that's what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: And it says ultimately he is to make decisions based
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  Speaker 1: on sound biblical knowledge and his wife's wisdom and faithful instruction.
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  Speaker 1: The wife is to support her husband and back his
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  Speaker 1: decisions even when she doesn't agree. This might be from
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  Speaker 1: the Old test the New test Man. We already know
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  Speaker 1: that Wise was laying up in the bed. Whoever wrote
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  Speaker 1: the New Testament. The wifs like, you need to change
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  Speaker 1: that ship because this thing says, uh, there's one scripture
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  Speaker 1: to buy what that says, um dal should not fordicate
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  Speaker 1: with the neighbor's wife, But I don't say shit about
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  Speaker 1: that bitch round the corner. So I'm pretty sure that
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  Speaker 1: ship was switched up in the New Testament by somebody
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  Speaker 1: pillow talking with their damn wife. Do you think maybe
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  Speaker 1: because like our generation, like we kind of question everything
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  Speaker 1: because we have more information. We have the Internet, you know,
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  Speaker 1: so a lot of people question religion, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people question um, you know, just everything. We're always searching
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  Speaker 1: for hire a better understanding of everything. So maybe that's
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  Speaker 1: why we've gotten away from the traditional Yeah, that the
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  Speaker 1: biblicul traditional husband wife dynamic in the homes. Well, I
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  Speaker 1: think there's a lot of different factors that play a
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  Speaker 1: part in that, you know, social media, Internet, like all
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  Speaker 1: this information. Gender roles are changing. I'm still a woman,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, was born a woman and identify what you
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  Speaker 1: just gender roles genders are changing, you know, so we're
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  Speaker 1: entering the age of Aquarius. We're in it. A niggas
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  Speaker 1: little pis just different. Damn. I feel like these niggas
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  Speaker 1: want to be like they want to be the bad bitches.
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  Speaker 1: Think about the eighties. When I look at the Isley Brothers,
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand how anybody talks about how the meagles
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  Speaker 1: dressed and like those niggas had their shirt tied up
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  Speaker 1: like skinny pants on and makeup. So ain't nothing change.
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  Speaker 1: Ain't nothing new under the sun. But I'll tell you
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  Speaker 1: what men and women were in the household, so that
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  Speaker 1: that that is different. We now a lot of us
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  Speaker 1: were raised by singer moms, like you said, we didn't
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  Speaker 1: see that that husband wife dynamic. Like my dad was
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  Speaker 1: in my house until I was about eight. But for
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  Speaker 1: the most part, I was raised by a single woman.
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  Speaker 1: So and she's like a boss follow but I kind
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  Speaker 1: of want they're to come in and be like you know,
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  Speaker 1: but he has to have money, right, well, obviously he has.
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  Speaker 1: That's for submission, so noladays. And even then you paid
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  Speaker 1: for submission. You see what I'm saying, not paid. The
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  Speaker 1: wife wasn't working anywhere. You see what I'm saying. The
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  Speaker 1: man was a breadwinner. So yes, I'm going to listen
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  Speaker 1: to you because my livelihood depends on you. It's just
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  Speaker 1: different now because we have to take care of ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: It's not because we want to. It's a lot of
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  Speaker 1: situations where we just have to, like we got no choice.
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  Speaker 1: Ain't nobody doing it for you? Exactly? Because I know
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  Speaker 1: that my age fact went out that ship doesn't work
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  Speaker 1: every time. Niggas is tired of hearing that, right, But
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  Speaker 1: I mean a man who got it. You may not
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  Speaker 1: even have to ask in any type of way. I
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  Speaker 1: know you love nothing more than like when a man
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  Speaker 1: sleep money into your pa. I used to I had
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  Speaker 1: one of those couple months back, a jerking because their dad.
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  Speaker 1: Damn man. I feel like you might be the fans
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  Speaker 1: at this point. Let me let me recalculate this bullshit
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  Speaker 1: because he outlets. But yeah, so men, I really feel
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  Speaker 1: like you have to pay for submission. They may need
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  Speaker 1: to read this article so they can get a better understanding,
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  Speaker 1: or they may need to read the Bible. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what you want, but they want a woman that
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  Speaker 1: you know allows them to be a man and do
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  Speaker 1: what they want to do and make a decisions for
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  Speaker 1: the household. Then your woman cannot be bogged down with
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  Speaker 1: stuff that's in the house and then having to go
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  Speaker 1: outside the house and get the bread too. So let's
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  Speaker 1: say you're dealing with this multi millionaire who still like
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  Speaker 1: ship though he got all the money, but he disrespectful.
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  Speaker 1: He don't hear what other women he's not blatantly out
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  Speaker 1: here what other women, but he is and you know it.
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  Speaker 1: Are you gonna submit to that? I mean, I guess
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  Speaker 1: a lot of women do because they're being taken care of,
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  Speaker 1: so they have retail therapy on the other end of that,
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  Speaker 1: Like I don't. I mean, regardless of what, if you're man,
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  Speaker 1: that's just out here sucking on you and embarrassing you.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody want to have a bunch of money with no edges.
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  Speaker 1: You just stressed out, your hair coming out at the
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  Speaker 1: top and the crown. But toxic as millionaire niggas like
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  Speaker 1: tossed you back to the streets. I don't care how
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  Speaker 1: much money you got. You are the devil. But there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of women who are made for that, Like
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  Speaker 1: those women are made for that role to be with
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  Speaker 1: those type of men, and those are the type of
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  Speaker 1: women that they get, women that they can control with
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  Speaker 1: that money. Like you can't do nothing if he's not
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  Speaker 1: if he's not financing it. You can't do ship without him,
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  Speaker 1: but you can't eat without him. I don't ever want
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  Speaker 1: to be in a situation like that where I don't
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  Speaker 1: know where my next meal is coming from. If this
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  Speaker 1: dude isn't providing it. I remember when I was younger,
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  Speaker 1: I was living in Atlanta and I was dealing with
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  Speaker 1: this Dominican drug lord. This nigga tried to put me
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  Speaker 1: in like this nice as apartment downtown, and I would
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  Speaker 1: not let him do it because I knew that was
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  Speaker 1: something I could not afford without him. So I got
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  Speaker 1: me a little partner to marry at a bit. It
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  Speaker 1: was nine hundred dollars, like, this is something I can do.
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  Speaker 1: You're not gonna put me in this three thousand dollar
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  Speaker 1: apartment a month and then rule me, because that's what
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  Speaker 1: was gonna happen. He was gonna run my entire existence
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  Speaker 1: in that city. M you got me up, home boy,
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  Speaker 1: I let you pay this nine hundred dollars a month.
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  Speaker 1: I always was smarter than that. That Well, that's why
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  Speaker 1: most black mamas make sure. They always tell your daughters,
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  Speaker 1: make sure you have your own, and it's very important
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  Speaker 1: to have your own. So then you have fuck you money.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I call it. It's fuck you money. It's
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  Speaker 1: money like, yeah, I could take care of myself with
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  Speaker 1: it without you, sir, So I don't mind losing you today,
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  Speaker 1: it tomorrow. But if he was someone that I felt
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  Speaker 1: like really genuinely loved me and had my best interests
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  Speaker 1: at heart all the time, and someone that I could
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  Speaker 1: really truly. I didn't trust him in that way. You know,
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  Speaker 1: maybe if it was someone like that, I might have
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  Speaker 1: taken that apartment, But nigga, you ain't gonna have me
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  Speaker 1: out here looking like boo boo food like this, nigga,
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  Speaker 1: I was going to evade the institute in Atlanta, and
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  Speaker 1: I had to pay out of pocket for a lot
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  Speaker 1: of the fees, and that school was expensive. And I
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  Speaker 1: would ask him for to wish him money and he
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  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I got you and then never give
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  Speaker 1: it to me, so I got slicked. I was like, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: i've seen this bag. I want to get this bag.
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  Speaker 1: You know how much the bag? And then I paid
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  Speaker 1: my tuish with that money. I couldn't tell him that
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  Speaker 1: I needed money for ship that would better myself. I
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  Speaker 1: had to say it was on some frivolous, dumbass ship
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  Speaker 1: to get the money, because he never wanted me to
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  Speaker 1: not need him child like he would. I want to
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  Speaker 1: hold me back in that way if it was like
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  Speaker 1: take a class to wish it just anything that would
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  Speaker 1: helped me be better and I feel like, never give
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  Speaker 1: it to me. That's crazy. And I feel like that
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  Speaker 1: might be some guys with money. It might be like
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  Speaker 1: that they want a woman. They feel like we'll always
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  Speaker 1: need them something. And he'd be like, where the bag
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  Speaker 1: at I bought you? Oh, it didn't go with this
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  Speaker 1: outfit because the bag, don't it? This the bag myself. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So that's I've done. Bitch advice for the day. Use
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  Speaker 1: the bag to get the bag and not just some
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  Speaker 1: damn LLC because in the state of North Carolina LLC
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  Speaker 1: only caused as okay, there ain no money, start with that.
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  Speaker 1: If you get the bag, and that's they're gonna buy
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  Speaker 1: your bag. Like I saw a post that said that
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  Speaker 1: something about like women getting instead of getting a channel bag,
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  Speaker 1: had that nigga, start you a business. Excuse me? Starting
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: the business like doing the paperwork is only a dollars
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  Speaker 1: in comparison in this bag that I don't have no money.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: I can go resell his bag, right, but you could
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  Speaker 1: if he's giving you an actual bag. But if he's
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: giving you money and you want to start a business
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: toward that business, that bad you because your business can
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  Speaker 1: eventually buy you all the bags you want girl. So
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: what we've learned today classes, we're going to be submissive. Covertly,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna shut the funk up. Sometimes it's chest and
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  Speaker 1: not checked this thing. So with that being said, I
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  Speaker 1: have a random sex fact guys, that is very relatable. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So the egg in your body women chooses the winning sperm.
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  Speaker 1: So most of imagine conception as a race to the
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  Speaker 1: egg where this fastest sperm wins and gets to the
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  Speaker 1: egg and passes on the jeans to the baby to be.
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  Speaker 1: This is one of those sex facts you should forget,
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  Speaker 1: says Jill Devol, she's a human sexuality expert. The narrative
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  Speaker 1: is biased with our cultural lens about men being competitive
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  Speaker 1: and see violent words like drilling, burring, penetrating the egg
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  Speaker 1: while the egg the woman sits around passively waiting on
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: the sperm to get to her egg. Right, that's bullshit, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: In reality, the eggs have sophisticated biological mechanisms that actively
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  Speaker 1: choose which sperm they allow in and it isn't always
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  Speaker 1: the first one to arrive. Okay, bitch, So your egg
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  Speaker 1: is choosy. Your egg is a choosy bitch, and you
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: not being a tuosy bitch out here. That's why you
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  Speaker 1: ain't getting pregnant. But I nigged you with right, because y'all,
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  Speaker 1: egg is like girl, this nigga is, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: this sperm. Look at these spirums coming over here. Y'all
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: better get on my faith, especially with the sugar daddy
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  Speaker 1: old as slow ass sperg. If you act like no
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  Speaker 1: baby about to be ugly, so be a choosy lover.
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  Speaker 1: Be a choosy lover because your egg is because your
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  Speaker 1: egg is choosing out here, all right, y'all. So if
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