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How to Pray for your Spouse with Jill Savage & Praying for your Neighbors with Jon Gauger · Karl and Crew

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  S1: Broadcasting from Chicago, across North America and beyond its cast
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  S1: and crew. Come as you are an experienced guide. Overcome
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  S1: what seems impossible and live. As you never imagined. Start
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  S1: your morning with a laugh.
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  S2: Practical from the Bible. Tips and tricks to kill. Not tricks,
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  S2: but tips and tricks.
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  S3: Tips and tricks to kill. Tips and tricks.
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  S1: Delivering the truth daily.
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  S4: All of my attempts to, you know, prop myself up
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  S4: with achievement in good works. Well, God wasn't impressed by that.
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  S4: Even if other people were.
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  S2: The gospel changes everything.
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  S5: Freedom in Christ. Man, it's like that backpack of cement
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  S5: just falling to the ground.
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  S1: Now, from the call of Hope Studios, this is Carl
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  S1: and crew.
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  S6: Are out walking blaze yesterday.
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  S3: Oh, yeah.
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  S2: Diana loves when you mention the puppy man.
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  S4: She gets googly eyed.
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  S3: Just at the.
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  S4: Mention of his name. Little husky pup blaze.
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  S6: He's a precious guy. I know he'd be a precious guy.
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  S7: He is.
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  S6: He's a precious guy. So we're out trucking around and
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  S6: whenever he spots another dog or person.
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  S8: Blade of grass.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: Frankly, anything that might be fluttering at all inanimate objects
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  S6: he's after but really loves if there's dogs somewhere. So
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  S6: he saw two dogs being walked up ahead of us.
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  S6: Quite a good distance. And I'm like, easy, easy. That's
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  S6: my command for don't go crazy. But I couldn't hold
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  S6: them back. So he's I mean, we're trotting down the
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  S6: sidewalk and I'm like, all right, we'll let him go
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  S6: see his buddies. We get closer and closer and I'm
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  S6: glad that in a moment, um, I, I I said, um,
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  S6: I said something to the person in front of me
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  S6: because I didn't want to spook it was it was
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  S6: cold out. I didn't want to spook her. The woman
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  S6: that was walking these dogs, and she turns around and
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  S6: right then her dogs see blaze and they turn around.
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  S6: And now she's got a hard time controlling him. And
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  S6: she goes, I'm so sorry. My dogs are very mean.
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  S3: Oh. And.
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  S2: Oh, yeah.
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  S6: And and they're. You before she said, can you take
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  S6: him away I'm like, gee. And he got a hunch
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  S6: this might not be good. Okay, so what did I do? I,
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  S6: I grabbed him and with that leash I gave him
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  S6: the command. Gee. And I led him away from those dogs.
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  S6: We went straight across the street and I was looking
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  S6: for cars, obviously all clear. And we went straight across
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  S6: the street and got away from those bad boys. And
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  S6: I'm thinking alternative plans because these are big dogs. These
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  S6: are like 60, 70, £80 dogs. And they are coming
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  S6: after my pup blaze. I mean, they wanted a piece
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  S6: of him and they would have. I've been in those
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  S6: situations before. Haven't had a few huskies over time. Um,
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  S6: but man, it was gnarly there for a second. And
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  S6: I'm like, all right, I got to be alert to
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  S6: this stuff. But here's here's a metaphor. Our God is
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  S6: not disinterested in keeping you away from harm. He's active.
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  S6: And if you look back over your life, you'll find
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  S6: a lot of ways in which God protected you, guided you,
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  S6: directed you, kept you out of harm's way. Now, I
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  S6: mentioned that to say everything that we do here at
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  S6: Moody Radio is aimed at that. And we don't do
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  S6: it because we think we're cool or hot or got
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  S6: all the answers. We're just like you. We're clinging to
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  S6: the grace of God and doing everything we can to
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  S6: really partner with God as he protects you, guides you,
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  S6: and directs you, sometimes out of harm's way. And that's
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  S6: part of what we do here at Moody Radio. So
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  S6: the specific thing that's on my heart right now, because
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  S6: we've got shear kicking off in a week and a half,
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  S6: is that I, I here's my appeal. I'm just going
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  S6: to shoot it to you straight. Boom crew. You know
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  S6: I love you. You know I can't stand spiritual arm twisting.
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  S6: But I want to cast a vision for you that
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  S6: will move the dial in one specific way. Data points
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  S6: are this about 6 to 7% of consistent listeners to
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  S6: Moody Radio jump in to share zero condemnation right now,
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  S6: but I want to give a big vision for what
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  S6: could be. Imagine if we moved that this year from
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  S6: six 7% to 12 or 13. I can't imagine that
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  S6: I can see it because I've seen these tote boards.
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  S6: I get choked up thinking about it right now in
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  S6: my specific prayer this year, is that people that have yet,
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  S6: probably because of busyness, don't even think about it. And it's,
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  S6: it's that's no, that's okay. That happens all the time.
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  S6: But I'm asking God and we're going to be asking
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  S6: 620 prayer warriors that pray during share to jump in
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  S6: and pray that God would move the dial, that we
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  S6: would see exponentially more that have historically not jumped in
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  S6: to share. But on this 100th anniversary, our theme is
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  S6: the Unstoppable Gospel that you will look for times when
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  S6: Moody Radio, in some way has partnered with God to
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  S6: help guide you, direct you, and lead you out of
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  S6: harm's way into God's way. And jump in behind it.
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  S6: We're not the one on the leash. We're not the
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  S6: one that gives the guidance and direction. Comfort, protection. Know
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  S6: we partner with God in this. It's his word. It's
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  S6: his truth. But I'm just asking you. Not now. Don't
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  S6: respond right now. I'm asking you during this week of share,
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  S6: that God would allow you the grace to partner with us. Maybe,
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  S6: as you never have before or never before. That's what
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  S6: I'm asking God to do. And I get a picture
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  S6: in my mind's eye of what it would be like
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  S6: to double our participation rate. Wow, Ali.
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  S4: I mean, it's it's cool to think about because, you know,
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  S4: the numbers that you shared, it's on average, 3 to 4%
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  S4: of people participate for Moody Radio. It's probably already a
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  S4: little bit higher. You said the numbers from Randy maybe
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  S4: 6 to 7%, but if we could go 12 to 13%
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  S4: and that that's doable. It's doable. That's the thing is
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  S4: that it's a lot. But it but it feels like
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  S4: that's that's within reach.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S2: Carl, do you remember when we've talked about the, the
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  S2: the great revivals in the country, the percentage of people
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  S2: that that came to Jesus? Do you.
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  S6: Mean percent?
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  S2: 15%.
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  S6: The great awakening?
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  S2: Yeah. The great awakenings. Yeah. The the percentage doesn't have
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  S2: to increase by 50 fold in order for something amazing
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  S2: to happen. And so the percentage going to 12, 13%
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  S2: of people, you know, making that decision that, hey, I'm
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  S2: going to get in at what God's doing here. Amazing
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  S2: things can happen with that percentage of people. Yeah.
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  S6: So if Moody Radio has in any way, shape or
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  S6: form helped you cross the street and find some safety,
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  S6: avoiding something that could have been dangerous, giving you comfort
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  S6: when you came out of a a big fight, giving
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  S6: you hope in any way. I'm asking you to jump
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  S6: in this year with gusto. I'm asking you to jump
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  S6: in with gusto. So that's what's on my heart today.
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  S6: Coming up in a minute, we're going to tee up
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  S6: a quick question for you. We love you. Boom crew,
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  S6: all of us guys. Right.
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  S3: Absolutely 100%.
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  S4: What a joy.
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  S6: We love you.
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  S1: Breaking chains and running free. You're listening to Carl and crew?
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  S6: Yeah. Uh, got a question for you to pop up. One.
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  S6: It's one of these little hoop, little vendors out in
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  S6: the street going up few t shirts. We're asking you
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  S6: to come and get it right now. We've got a
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  S6: quick question for you. What truth in Scripture has God
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  S6: convicted you to obey and apply to your life? I
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  S6: want you to think about what God's doing right now
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  S6: in you. What truth in Scripture has God convicted you
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  S6: to obey and apply to your life? This is a
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  S6: great discipleship question.
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  S4: Yes, it is because the Word of God convicts the
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  S4: Holy Spirit, brings to light things in our life that
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  S4: are not in line with His Word. And so when
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  S4: we're reading Scripture, this can be this is happening in
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  S4: on an ongoing basis because we and we are never
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  S4: we never reach the point where we open the pages
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  S4: of Scripture and we go. Yeah, you know what? I'm
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  S4: doing all this perfectly. Nothing. Nothing left for God to
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  S4: to work in me. Yeah, that doesn't happen.
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  S6: No it doesn't. So we're opening up phone lines. I'm
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  S6: asking a few of you to just pile in right now.
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  S6: What truth in Scripture has God convicted you to obey
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  S6: and apply to your life? 805 55 7898. Give us
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  S6: a call right now. Get a couple of you in
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  S6: here for sure. 800 555 7898. Never called before. This
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  S6: is your time. Give us a call right now. 800 555, 7898.
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  S4: Leonard. First time caller from Florida. Tell us, what's that
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  S4: truth that God has convicted you of?
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  S9: Hey. Good morning. Yeah. I recently moved down to Florida
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  S9: to plant a church in a few months. And what
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  S9: God has been convicting me of, and specifically towards discipleship
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  S9: is that we are called to make disciples, to become
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  S9: disciple makers. And that doesn't mean one church becomes the church,
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  S9: but is actually God's church. And it's sobering because so often,
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  S9: at least today, we're looking at is our church the
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  S9: best at doing this? Instead of saying, hey, how are we?
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  S9: Just focus on the mission that is to make disciples.
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  S6: Amen, brother, thank you so much. That is rich. Boom!
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  S6: Go plant that church with the grace of God and
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  S6: lean into disciple making, my man. And you're in some
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  S6: safe territory that is absolutely beautiful.
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  S4: Let's go to Julia, who's calling in this morning from Florida.
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  S4: Tell us what truth in Scripture has got convicted you
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  S4: to obey and apply.
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  S10: Yes. Um, from the book of Matthew. Uh, I believe
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  S10: it's chapter six. It was the scripture that says, pray
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  S10: for those who hate you and despitefully use you. And
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  S10: when I read that scripture, it pierced my heart and
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  S10: I knew I had to make a choice for gifts.
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  S10: So I started praying for those who had hurt me
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  S10: and it changed my life. It was a turning point
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  S10: for healing forgiveness for my for everything where God could
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  S10: come in and heal me and set me free from
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  S10: the past. And that was the most critical moment in
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  S10: my walk with God. And it helped me to understand
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  S10: that everything is based on forgiveness for myself, for others,
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  S10: that God has forgiven me and I every day, no
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  S10: matter how big or how little an offense against me is,
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  S10: I immediately want to forgive because I don't want to
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  S10: be held in bondage by unforgiveness.
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  S6: It's a great word, sister.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: Great word man. Apply that to your life. That'll take
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  S6: you down the road in safety. Good stuff.
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  S4: You got a you got a question or you got
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  S4: an answer to this question? What truth in Scripture has
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  S4: God convicted you to obey and apply in your life? 805, 55, 78, 98, (800) 555-7898.
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  S6: Okay, I can't wait to hear this. Young Thunder's got
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  S6: a word. But first, what truth in Scripture has God
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  S6: convicted you to obey and apply to your life? This
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  S6: is the question that no conviction here, no guilt for sure.
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  S6: But any follower of Jesus has an opportunity every day
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  S6: to have an answer for this one on their lips. Every,
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  S6: every day. And for me right now, I'm going to
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  S6: lead the charge here. And then we're going to get
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  S6: a cool insight from Young Thunder. I am convicted and
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  S6: obeying and walking out, making certain that my bride feels
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  S6: absolutely heard to the bottom of her heart. Absolutely heard
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  S6: to the bottom of her heart. One of the roles
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  S6: of a man is to love your wife as Christ
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  S6: loved the church, right? And one of the things I
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  S6: know about how Christ loves the church is he hears
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  S6: us to the bottom of our heart. And one of
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  S6: the needs for women. Chivalry ain't dead yet, dudes. Come on, man,
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  S6: it's still cooking. And one of the great needs of
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  S6: women that men need to afford them is an opportunity
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  S6: to have their heart be heard.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: To the bottom.
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  S2: I really like that. Because the Bible says to love
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  S2: your wife in an understanding way. Yeah. An understanding way
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  S2: is to understand somebody. And to understand somebody is to
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  S2: listen to the bottom of their heart, to understand them
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  S2: in every way.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: Not till you have a vague impression of what they
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  S6: need or want, but to really understand it.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: Okay. My man, what's your what's what's God showing you?
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  S2: Yeah. So I was reading Mark 15, and this is
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  S2: where Jesus is delivered to Pilate, and he's beaten and
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  S2: he's mocked and he's crucified and, uh. And I was
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  S2: I was reading this whole thing play out, and it
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  S2: starts with Jesus or with Pilate asking Jesus, you know,
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  S2: the the the accusation against you is that you say
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  S2: you're the Son of God. Are you the Son of God?
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  S2: And he says, well, you say that I am. He
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  S2: responds to him in that way. But then Pilate continues
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  S2: to ask him questions, saying, well, what do you have
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  S2: to say about these accusations that are against you? And
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  S2: he gives no further answer and it amazes pilot. And
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  S2: then I watch him go to the cross where he's
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  S2: well before he goes to the cross, he's being beaten
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  S2: over the head and crown of thorns thrown on him.
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  S2: And and he's being mocked and he has no response
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  S2: for the people. And he's up on the cross and
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  S2: people are sitting there saying, well, you saved all these
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  S2: other people, but you can't save yourself. Why don't you
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  S2: come down from the cross and show us that you're
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  S2: the Son of God? And he gives no response. And
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  S2: the people, the other people on the cross are mocking him,
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  S2: or the people mishear him and think that he's calling
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  S2: down for Elijah, and they're waiting for a response, and
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  S2: he gives no response. And I thought about that. And Jesus,
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  S2: as I was reading this, he kind of gave this
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  S2: to me in my own life. And he said, Jonathan,
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  S2: when people, uh, say something to you that's either falsely
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  S2: accusing you or they say something that you don't like,
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  S2: whether it's wrong or not, you often want to have
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  S2: a response. You often feel like you need to jump
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  S2: in and say something to to vindicate yourself, to make
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  S2: yourself right. And he goes, there's power in not giving
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  S2: a response. And that was really powerful for me because
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  S2: in my life I struggle with not giving a response.
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  S2: If I feel wronged in some way, I have to
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  S2: attack it. And and Jesus was saying to me, look
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  S2: at me. I was on the cross being crucified. If
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  S2: I gave a response and came down from the cross,
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  S2: we wouldn't be here talking right now. Yeah. He had
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  S2: his eyes focused on what God called him to do,
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  S2: rather than focused on what other people were saying. And
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  S2: so God was telling me, put your eyes on me.
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  S2: Focus on what I'm calling you to do. Stop focusing
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  S2: on what other people are saying to you.
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  S6: That's powerful, young thunder.
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  S2: It was big for me.
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  S6: That's big. That's big.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: Everyone wants to get their two bits in.
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  S3: Yeah.
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  S6: In response to whatever. That's big. Wow. It's great work. Lance.
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  S6: First time caller. Shelbyville, Indiana. What is the scripture that
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  S6: God has convicted you to obey and apply to your
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  S6: life right now?
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  S11: Good morning guys. Philippians 212. Read this first 30 years
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  S11: ago says work out your foundation. Work out your salvation
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  S11: with fear and trembling. And to me, it speaks so
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  S11: strongly to the fact that there is no formula to salvation.
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  S11: That each of us has a relationship with God, and
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  S11: each of us will use, will be used by God
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  S11: for his purposes, and we need to be okay being
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  S11: countercultural and swimming against the tide.
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  S6: Yeah, that's good bro. Thank you Lance. That's so cool
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  S6: that you got that fresh on your heart early this morning, bro.
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  S6: And you can go right to it. That's awesome. Boom, brother.
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  S6: That's why we call you the boom crew. Andy in Cleveland, Ohio.
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  S6: What's God doing in you, man?
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  S12: Hey, guys. How you doing? Um, God brought up, uh,
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  S12: the verse of Luke 1213 and he said to them,
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  S12: take care and be on your guard against all covetousness.
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  S12: For one's life does not consist of the abundance of this,
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  S12: of the of this possessions, of his possessions. I am
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  S12: an Amazon junkie. I'm like a cat. I swat at
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  S12: colorful things.
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  S3: Hilarious.
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  S6: And in God's working in you there. Hi, Andy.
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  S12: And yes, in all seriousness, uh, you know, he said,
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  S12: stop it. Why are you buying all my clothes? I
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  S12: just love colorful clothes. And I might be getting distracted here.
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  S12: I'm a crossing guard here in Cleveland, and kids are coming.
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  S6: Oh, no. You gotta do your job. This is great, though, Andy.
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  S3: I.
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  S12: I'm retired, and I just love crossing these kids. But anyhow, um,
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  S12: God showed me that, uh, the other day, I listened
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  S12: to you guys. You guys have lifted me up out
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  S12: of hell through, uh, being the conduit of God, and
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  S12: I thank you guys. I praise Jesus Christ for you guys.
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  S6: Hey, we thank God for you, Andy, and thank you
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  S6: for serving those kids this morning, and all the while
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  S6: letting the Lord work in your heart about covetousness. That
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  S6: is awesome.
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  S4: I love that, because that's one of those things that
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  S4: it's easy to dismiss. It's easy to explain away conviction
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  S4: that you feel around something like shopping on Amazon because
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  S4: I mean, many, many people shop on Amazon and is
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  S4: shopping on Amazon a sin? Well, certainly not.
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  S6: Until it is.
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  S4: Until it is. And so listening to the to the
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  S4: voice of the Holy Spirit in what he's saying to
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  S4: you about something specific going on in your life and
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  S4: not explaining that away that's walking in the spirit.
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  S3: Boom.
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  S6: Andy. Boom, Andy. Wow. Imagine what would happen. Just imagine
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  S6: if we had 5% of our nation living like Andy
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  S6: right now. You'd feel it everywhere.
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  S3: Oh yeah.
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  S6: You'd feel it everywhere.
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  S1: Romans eight brought her to Jesus while broadcasting traffic overnight.
• 20:17
  S1: Super di is in the crew, it's curl and crew
• 20:21
  S1: on Moody Radio.
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  S4: Well, I got a wedding invitation last year that had
• 20:26
  S4: some instructions that I think is becoming more common for
• 20:29
  S4: those getting married, and it was to not have phones
• 20:34
  S4: present during the ceremony. Obviously, you could have them in
• 20:37
  S4: your purse or your pocketbook, but not to have phones out.
• 20:41
  S3: And I.
• 20:41
  S2: Like that it's.
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  S3: Good.
• 20:42
  S4: Part of the reasoning is because phones can be very distracting,
• 20:47
  S4: people having it up trying to record. But another part
• 20:51
  S4: of it is that it's now considered kind of a
• 20:54
  S4: breach of etiquette to post pictures from somebody's wedding.
• 20:58
  S3: 100%.
• 20:59
  S4: Before they have the opportunity.
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  S2: Yeah, it's their day.
• 21:02
  S4: It's their day.
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  S3: They should have it.
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  S4: And what? This again? No, I have no objection to
• 21:07
  S4: the intent behind it. But I do think that there's
• 21:10
  S4: this subtle idea that I want my wedding day to
• 21:16
  S4: have a curated sort of debut online with the perfectly
• 21:21
  S4: airbrushed photos that I've selected that got the angles right
• 21:26
  S4: where the lighting is. Just so I don't want pictures
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  S4: out there that I didn't get a chance to curate,
• 21:32
  S4: and that may not reflect me or my spouse as
• 21:36
  S4: beautifully as I would like to.
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  S2: I paid for my image. I'm gonna post my image.
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  S2: Thank you very.
• 21:42
  S3: Much.
• 21:42
  S7: Wait, I like it.
• 21:43
  S3: That's right. You know, it's an.
• 21:44
  S4: Interesting new world we're living in. Jill Savage, our guest
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  S4: right now. And how much of this extends not just
• 21:51
  S4: from the wedding day, but into the marriage, where there
• 21:55
  S4: is this expectation that there's this curated, captured life that
• 22:00
  S4: I'm aiming for, and that anything less than that should
• 22:04
  S4: kind of be hidden away. You get where I'm where
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  S4: I'm going with this.
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  S13: Absolutely. And it's why, you know, it's really the heart
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  S13: of why I wrote my no more perfect books. Because
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  S13: we as a culture, we are infected with what I
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  S13: call the perfection infection. And that perfection infection says I
• 22:29
  S13: am always comparing myself to those that are out there,
• 22:33
  S13: whether I realize I'm doing it or not. And I,
• 22:37
  S13: I really am struggling to let you see the real me.
• 22:42
  S13: And that really keeps relationships shallow. And it affects our motherhood.
• 22:50
  S13: That's why I didn't know more perfect moms. It affects
• 22:52
  S13: our parenting. No more perfect kids. And then it affects
• 22:55
  S13: our marriage. No more perfect marriages. Because all of those
• 23:01
  S13: those relationships, when they get infected with that perfection infection,
• 23:05
  S13: it causes us to compare our insides to other people's outsides.
• 23:12
  S13: And so when you're curating that perfect look, right. You're
• 23:16
  S13: worried about what your outsides are looking like to others.
• 23:22
  S4: Jill Savage, our guest right now, author, blogger, international speaker.
• 23:25
  S4: She's the founder and CEO of Hearts at Home. She
• 23:27
  S4: has her No More Perfect podcast and book series. Talk
• 23:31
  S4: a little bit about what are some key indicators that
• 23:34
  S4: this perfection infection that you've been talking about has creeped
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  S4: into marriage?
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  S13: Well, in marriage, you know, what we find is, um,
• 23:43
  S13: sometimes it's really hard for us to be vulnerable. Maybe
• 23:47
  S13: we grew up in an environment where if we were
• 23:51
  S13: honest about things, we got made fun of. And so
• 23:55
  S13: we carry those kind of experiences into marriage. Maybe we
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  S13: grew up in a family that says, um, people aren't
• 24:03
  S13: going to know our business.
• 24:05
  S3: Oh, yeah.
• 24:05
  S13: And we carry that into marriage. And without realizing it,
• 24:10
  S13: what we do is we actually hide ourselves from our partner,
• 24:13
  S13: and that becomes dangerous because intimacy. I like to define
• 24:18
  S13: intimacy as into me. See? And intimacy is based on
• 24:22
  S13: vulnerability and honesty and being able to see the good
• 24:27
  S13: parts of each other, but also the parts that hurt
• 24:31
  S13: and the parts that aren't yet developed, and the fears
• 24:35
  S13: and the hopes and dreams. But if we are afraid
• 24:39
  S13: of getting made fun of those things, or if we
• 24:43
  S13: are afraid of sharing those things because it'll make us
• 24:46
  S13: look weak, then it really holds us back from intimacy
• 24:50
  S13: and vulnerability in marriage.
• 24:52
  S4: Jill, tell me what this looked like in your own marriage.
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  S13: What it looked like for me is that my tendency
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  S13: was to be avoidant in our marriage. So I grew
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  S13: up in a home that was loving. We loved Jesus,
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  S13: but we didn't do Emotions. We were the buck up family.
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  S13: And so if life gets hard, you buck up, you
• 25:20
  S13: don't cry, you don't share what's going on inside of you.
• 25:25
  S13: And so I operated that way in our marriage. And honestly,
• 25:29
  S13: I viewed that as a strength.
• 25:31
  S4: Ah, yeah, I can see that I.
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  S13: Did, I viewed it as a strength. And I thought,
• 25:35
  S13: you know, that that was a strength, that I'm not
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  S13: a person that's going to fall apart, you know, when
• 25:40
  S13: life gets hard, that kind of thing. But what I
• 25:42
  S13: didn't realize is that it kept me from really being compassionate.
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  S13: It kept me from being sensitive to the emotions and
• 25:54
  S13: the experiences of others. And so you can't be a
• 25:58
  S13: buck up person without being a buck up wife or
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  S13: buck up father, or a buck up husband or buck
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  S13: up mother. And that's ultimately what happened for me. Now
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  S13: in a lot of marriages, this is more often than men. Um,
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  S13: in fact, what we found is about 80% of marriages
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  S13: have a man who is avoidant. But there are some
• 26:23
  S13: women out there, about 20% of us, like myself, that were.
• 26:26
  S13: So usually in marriage, you've got at least one person
• 26:29
  S13: who's more avoidant and their tendency, in fact, we will
• 26:32
  S13: Mark and I when we're working with couples and coaching
• 26:35
  S13: couples and doing our intensives, what we will say is
• 26:39
  S13: usually one person has emotional constipation.
• 26:45
  S4: Wow.
• 26:47
  S13: But to be honest, the other one often has emotional diarrhea.
• 26:51
  S13: So it doesn't really you know, it's not helpful on
• 26:54
  S13: both sides. Those are extremes. God really wants us to
• 26:58
  S13: embrace our emotions. He wants us. He made us emotional.
• 27:02
  S13: In fact, I'll never forget a Christian counselor challenged me
• 27:05
  S13: on this whole buck up thing. And he said, when
• 27:08
  S13: did you you know, when did you shut down your emotions?
• 27:11
  S13: You know, because I used to even say feelings don't matter.
• 27:13
  S13: And he was like, that's a lie. And I said,
• 27:16
  S13: how do you know that's a lie? And he said,
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  S13: Because God created you in his image and God is
• 27:21
  S13: a feeling God. That was so powerful for me when
• 27:25
  S13: I realized, wow, you're right. I've shut that down and
• 27:29
  S13: it's time for me to do some healing and awaken
• 27:33
  S13: that so that I can be compassionate with others. I
• 27:36
  S13: can be sensitive to others.
• 27:39
  S4: Jill Savage, our guest right now. Her and her husband, Mark,
• 27:42
  S4: who she mentioned they administer extensively to couples and families.
• 27:48
  S4: Talk about your husband and all of this, because as
• 27:50
  S4: you as you describe, we're kind of a buck up
• 27:52
  S4: wife and mom. What was his sort of bent?
• 27:57
  S13: He was the other way. He had that emotional diarrhea.
• 28:00
  S13: So his emotions were leading him all the time. And
• 28:04
  S13: so he there was often anger. There was often high
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  S13: levels of frustration, and those were leading him all the time.
• 28:14
  S13: And so both of us, we would say that that
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  S13: falls outside of secure attachment. And so both of us
• 28:22
  S13: were outside of it. We were insecurely attached, but mine
• 28:25
  S13: was avoidant and his was more anxious. And so we
• 28:29
  S13: really had to begin to say, you know what? Jesus
• 28:33
  S13: was secure. How do we move from where we are
• 28:38
  S13: in this insecure place to a place that is, it
• 28:42
  S13: puts our emotions in an appropriate place, and it allows
• 28:47
  S13: us to be honest and vulnerable with one another, and
• 28:51
  S13: therefore we increase the safety in our relationship. You know,
• 28:56
  S13: and I'm not talking about physical safety. I'm talking about
• 28:59
  S13: emotional safety. It's safe for me to say I'm hurting
• 29:03
  S13: or it's safe for my husband to say that was
• 29:07
  S13: a really hard day. And for us to be able
• 29:10
  S13: to process that, that's intimacy in relationships.
• 29:15
  S4: Jill Savage with us right now coming up, her and
• 29:17
  S4: her husband Mark, have written a couple of books to
• 29:20
  S4: help you pray for your spouse. We'll talk about that
• 29:23
  S4: coming up here on Karlyn Crew.
• 29:25
  S1: He was sharing the gospel on the radio and then
• 29:28
  S1: he got saved. Young thunders in the crew. It's Carl
• 29:33
  S1: and crew on Moody Radio.
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  S4: Well, if you are married, it's a good thing to
• 29:37
  S4: be praying for your spouse. But sometimes the good intention
• 29:41
  S4: can actually fall flat if you don't have a way
• 29:44
  S4: to kind of sustain it beyond. Just bless my husband today,
• 29:48
  S4: which is a good place to start. But Jill Savage,
• 29:50
  S4: our guest right now, you and your husband Mark, have
• 29:53
  S4: written a couple of books to help us be praying
• 29:55
  S4: intentionally for our spouse.
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  S13: We did, and we love equipping people with next steps
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  S13: in their relationship, in their marriage, but in their relationship
• 30:06
  S13: with the Lord. And so our books 199 prayers for
• 30:10
  S13: my wife and 199 prayers for my husband were an
• 30:14
  S13: effort to do that. And, you know, praying for one another.
• 30:20
  S13: You have to develop like a habit of that. And
• 30:24
  S13: sometimes people don't know where to start. And so that
• 30:27
  S13: was one of the things we really wanted to be
• 30:29
  S13: able to do. And one of the things that we
• 30:31
  S13: love about this is it's part journal and it's also
• 30:35
  S13: like part devotional. And so each one has like a
• 30:40
  S13: scripture of the day, a prayer to pray for your spouse.
• 30:44
  S13: But then this is what makes it different. It has
• 30:47
  S13: a reflecting question where you reflect on what am I
• 30:51
  S13: bringing to my marriage? How does God's word that I
• 30:54
  S13: just read and that I just prayed? How is that
• 30:57
  S13: living out in my heart? And then we offer an
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  S13: action step, just a practical way to invest in your
• 31:05
  S13: marriage that day. And just little things, you know, just
• 31:09
  S13: little steps that say, hey, I see you. You're important
• 31:14
  S13: to me. I'm thinking of you. And so we wanted
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  S13: to make it a really practical resource for husbands and wives.
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  S4: You know, we've had you on before and you've shared
• 31:25
  S4: different aspects of your story. One aspect we didn't get
• 31:29
  S4: into much today, but you and your husband are open
• 31:31
  S4: about having recovered from infidelity. What role did prayer play
• 31:37
  S4: in that journey back to healing?
• 31:40
  S13: Uh, so, so important, um, particularly in my side, because
• 31:47
  S13: Mark was unfaithful and then he eventually left. And it
• 31:52
  S13: was a dark year. And it was during that year that,
• 31:56
  S13: you know, I call that, though, that was the weight
• 31:58
  S13: that God did not waste. And so God, like, really
• 32:04
  S13: deepened my prayer life. Because that's all I had. I
• 32:08
  S13: could only pray for my husband. He was lost. He
• 32:13
  S13: was headed in the wrong direction. And I really sensed
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  S13: that if he would return to his God, he would
• 32:18
  S13: return to our marriage. And so prayer was the work.
• 32:24
  S13: That's all I could do other than working on myself. Right.
• 32:28
  S13: Which is part of the reason that we included that
• 32:31
  S13: reflection question in our 199 prayers for my wife, 199
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  S13: prayers for my husband books, because I think that oftentimes
• 32:41
  S13: it's easy for us to point the finger at our
• 32:43
  S13: partner and go, God changed them. They need this Bible verse.
• 32:49
  S13: And what we need to do is say, Lord, how
• 32:52
  S13: does this Bible verse affect me? What are you asking
• 32:56
  S13: me to pay attention to in my own heart. And
• 33:00
  S13: so that year of praying for my husband, interceding for
• 33:04
  S13: my husband, and also using that waiting season to deepen
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  S13: my heart, to, uh, reveal my sin and the places
• 33:16
  S13: that I had to change and ultimately to, you know, really,
• 33:21
  S13: it was a living out of Matthew seven. You know,
• 33:24
  S13: where you remove the plank out of your own eye
• 33:26
  S13: before you try to remove the speck out of your
• 33:28
  S13: partner's eye. And so, um, prayer was a big part
• 33:32
  S13: of that. My growth. And then ultimately, um, praying for
• 33:36
  S13: my husband. And, uh, really, it was a was a
• 33:40
  S13: sanctifying year. It was a year of maturity and a
• 33:44
  S13: year of growth. And a lot of that was because
• 33:47
  S13: it forced me to spend time at the foot of
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  S13: the cross.
• 33:51
  S4: You know, I'm glad you mentioned that from your own experience, because,
• 33:54
  S4: you know, it's a beautiful thing when, let's say a
• 33:57
  S4: couple goes and they both get a copy of a book.
• 34:01
  S4: This book, one for him, one for her. It's on
• 34:03
  S4: the nightstand and they're reading it and they're praying for
• 34:05
  S4: each other. But the reality is that many people are
• 34:09
  S4: in a situation like the one you were in where
• 34:11
  S4: there is. My spouse is not praying for me right now.
• 34:15
  S4: There's maybe a separation. Maybe there's just a just a
• 34:19
  S4: breakdown of intimacy. But one spouse can absolutely commit to
• 34:25
  S4: praying for the other spouse and then wait for God
• 34:29
  S4: to move.
• 34:29
  S13: Yes. Yes. And here's what I will say is we
• 34:34
  S13: can trust that God is moving. What we also want
• 34:38
  S13: to happen is we want our partner to respond to
• 34:43
  S13: how God is moving.
• 34:44
  S3: Yeah.
• 34:44
  S13: Right. Because God. And that's where I think people also
• 34:47
  S13: get confused, Ali, is that I think that people get confused.
• 34:51
  S13: They go, why isn't God moving in my partner's life? Well,
• 34:55
  S13: God's word tells us that he is at work, my
• 34:59
  S13: father and I. One of the things that Jesus said is,
• 35:02
  S13: My father and I are always working. And so, um,
• 35:06
  S13: we can trust that our prayers are initiating things in
• 35:10
  S13: the spiritual world. What we really are often seeing when
• 35:14
  S13: nothing is changing is we're seeing that our partner is
• 35:18
  S13: not responding to the work, to the pursuit that God
• 35:22
  S13: has on their heart. And so that prayer may result.
• 35:27
  S13: You know, I'm so grateful that in my life, certainly
• 35:31
  S13: it took a year, but my husband started to respond
• 35:34
  S13: to the pursuit of God. We work with people all
• 35:37
  S13: the time and their partner is not responding to that pursuit.
• 35:41
  S13: That doesn't mean God's not working because God is at work,
• 35:46
  S13: and it's that purifying season. When you spend time praying
• 35:50
  S13: for your partner and you spend time at the foot
• 35:54
  S13: of the cross that even if your partner doesn't respond
• 35:57
  S13: to that, we can see the way that God begins
• 36:01
  S13: to work in our own lives.
• 36:03
  S4: Jill Savage, our guest right now. We mentioned a couple
• 36:05
  S4: of different resources. She has the No More Perfect podcast
• 36:08
  S4: and the book series, and then also these 199 prayers,
• 36:12
  S4: both for husband and wife. Just text perfect to 800
• 36:17
  S4: 555 7898. We'll get you a link. Just text perfect
• 36:21
  S4: to 800 555 7898.
• 36:25
  S1: He was running from God, but God's love brought him home.
• 36:29
  S1: Carl is in the crew. It's Carl and crew on
• 36:33
  S1: Moody Radio.
• 36:34
  S3: You know.
• 36:35
  S4: We are called to love our neighbor. And we know
• 36:38
  S4: from Scripture that that's not just the people who live
• 36:41
  S4: in our neighborhood. Everyone is our neighbor. But what about
• 36:44
  S4: the people who live in your neighborhood? How can we
• 36:48
  S4: be intentional about ministering right where we live. Coming up.
• 36:52
  S4: How to pray for your neighbor. Special guest John Gager.
• 36:57
  S1: Your spiritual pit stop to keep you going in the race.
• 37:01
  S1: You're listening to Carl and crew.
• 37:03
  S6: Ali, you ever had a crazy neighbor? I mean, a
• 37:05
  S6: crazy neighbor.
• 37:07
  S4: I feel like I've had pretty good neighbors.
• 37:09
  S6: I have to my bride. This is hilarious. They lived in, uh,
• 37:14
  S6: where was it? Bailey, Colorado. And that's out in the sticks.
• 37:17
  S6: In fact, um, they were so far out there that
• 37:22
  S6: people had a totally different kind of way about them,
• 37:24
  S6: and they didn't know that when they showed up there.
• 37:26
  S6: But there was a woman that would just come over
• 37:28
  S6: to their home. And she's very effervescent gal, and she
• 37:32
  S6: kind of got into people's business, if you know what
• 37:35
  S6: I mean. She kind of got into it. And, uh,
• 37:37
  S6: she came over one day and she stepped right up
• 37:41
  S6: to the front porch. And my mom in law and
• 37:43
  S6: her daughters, my bride was there, and the woman said, Sheila,
• 37:47
  S6: I need some wrapping paper. And Sheila said, I just
• 37:54
  S6: don't have any. And she says, yes, you do. Under
• 37:58
  S6: your bed upstairs.
• 38:02
  S3: Oh boy, oh, boy.
• 38:04
  S6: Won't you be my neighbor? Yeah. Neighbors are great, though.
• 38:08
  S6: I've got the best neighbors in the planet. I mean,
• 38:11
  S6: on this planet, I got the best neighbors. And you
• 38:13
  S6: got some good ones, too.
• 38:14
  S4: Yeah, and I've always had good neighbors. Thankfully. I find, though,
• 38:17
  S4: that nowadays, most people in neighborhoods that I've lived in
• 38:21
  S4: kind of keep to themselves. So the knowing your neighbors,
• 38:25
  S4: the getting out there and really connecting, I've found, is
• 38:28
  S4: more difficult than ever.
• 38:29
  S6: Breaking that ice can be tough. We got an ice
• 38:31
  S6: breaker with us here today.
• 38:33
  S3: I see this breaker.
• 38:35
  S4: I couldn't help.
• 38:35
  S6: It. Ice breaker. You did it. Oh, boy. Okay, um,
• 38:39
  S6: we got an ice breaker. Great guy who has a
• 38:41
  S6: vision big as a bucket for reaching folks around him.
• 38:44
  S4: John Yeager, 30 year veteran here at Moody Radio, also
• 38:48
  S4: a neighborhood prayer walker. How did this become something that
• 38:53
  S4: was has been a ministry of sorts for you?
• 38:55
  S14: Well, I think it was the influence of a couple
• 38:57
  S14: of navigator friends of ours, the navigators, being an organization
• 39:00
  S14: that's been around for a while. They kind of passed
• 39:03
  S14: along to us a love for neighbors. And, uh, we
• 39:06
  S14: just gave it a try and have been going at
• 39:08
  S14: it ever since.
• 39:09
  S6: Why is it that reaching neighbors can be so intimidating?
• 39:13
  S6: Maybe it's because we feel like we got to have
• 39:15
  S6: our ten verses lined up the gospel presentation down, slick.
• 39:19
  S6: Only then can we really approach our neighbors.
• 39:22
  S14: Yeah, and I think that's a showstopper for a lot
• 39:24
  S14: of people. They never even get started because of that.
• 39:26
  S14: When we, I think, adopt the position, Carl, that that
• 39:30
  S14: sharing Jesus begins with sharing cookies or sharing Jesus begins
• 39:34
  S14: with the fact that you find out your neighbor is
• 39:36
  S14: a big Illini fan. So you make it a point
• 39:39
  S14: to discover what the Illini football team did that weekend.
• 39:42
  S14: Those are bridge building things that lead to other things
• 39:45
  S14: that lead to a gospel sharing.
• 39:47
  S4: So tell us about this neighborhood prayer walks that you take.
• 39:50
  S4: You have been doing this for how long?
• 39:52
  S14: Uh, probably 20 years now.
• 39:53
  S4: Okay, so walk us through what this looks like.
• 39:56
  S14: It's a commitment that I make, and in my case,
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  S14: it's once a week. And I recommend that. I don't
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  S14: think I'm right. It just has worked well anymore. It
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  S14: might become too much of a, you know, legalism. Right.
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  S14: Any less, you know, you kind of drift a little.
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  S14: So I go once a week. It's a Sunday, typically
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  S14: a Sunday afternoon. And yes, where I happen to live,
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  S14: it can be 15 below on a Sunday afternoon. You
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  S14: go anyway, you know, we've got people living in all
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  S14: different climates that listen to Carl and Ali. I know,
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  S14: but once a week I go out there and I
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  S14: pray in front of every single home. There are about
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  S14: 54 homes on our street. It's a brief prayer. I
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  S14: don't stop because we don't need any more crazies out there.
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  S14: You know, people are already suspicious.
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  S15: You know what, I appreciate.
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  S6: That.
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  S15: You don't.
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  S6: Want to get weird.
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  S15: Right?
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  S14: Right, right. It's it's a literal walk. Could be a
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  S14: leisurely walk. And I pray a very simple prayer. Lord,
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  S14: would you open the eyes of these people's hearts so
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  S14: that they would know Jesus? Or Lord, would you trouble
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  S14: this home until they find peace in the knowledge of
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  S14: Jesus as Savior? Lord, you know you've said you came
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  S14: to seek and to save the lost. Would you please
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  S14: save the Smith family? So that's what it looks like.
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  S14: Takes me 20 30 minutes.
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  S6: Any stories?
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  S14: Oh, tons of stories.
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  S6: Come on, let's get one.
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  S14: You know, let me start by saying this. When I
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  S14: first started doing this, all it happened was I went
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  S14: and prayed, and that was it for weeks and months
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  S14: and years, years. And I want you to underscore that.
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  S4: Have you been in the same neighborhood for okay. Oh, yeah. Wow. Okay.
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  S4: So go ahead.
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  S14: But over time, finally, it's like people begin to recognize
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  S14: that you're normal and not weird. I wear a hat
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  S14: for skin issues, so they recognize the hat. Uh, so
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  S14: they know I'm part of the neighborhood. And now? Now
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  S14: things happen. It could be a prayer walk early in
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  S14: the morning. It could be late at night. Almost every
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  S14: time we meet somebody. Somebody who's out. Somebody who wants
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  S14: to talk. It's crazy what happens. All right. Here's a
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  S14: couple of stories. I'm out on a prayer walk. Victor
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  S14: is leaning over his fence. Right. He looks a little thoughtful.
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  S14: I say, Victor, what's going on? Oh, my wife has
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  S14: had two brain surgeries. You're kidding. I didn't even know.
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  S14: Lives four houses away. I didn't know this. I'm so sorry. Yeah, well,
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  S14: you know, that led to a moment. I said, Victor,
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  S14: could I pray for you? Now, would that be all right? Right. Sure.
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  S14: Prayed right in the man's driveway.
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  S6: Yeah, man.
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  S14: That led to further conversation, which led to a dinner together.
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  S14: That was cool. Dinner together? Just the four of us.
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  S14: Stephanie is backing into her street. It's an icy morning.
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  S14: This is one of these 15 below mornings. I am
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  S14: ready to be in my house. I'm at the tail
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  S14: end of this walk, I want in, I want warm
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  S14: and I want breakfast.
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  S6: I'm praying for you, but don't bother me.
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  S14: She rolls down her window as she backs her car
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  S14: into the street. She is concerned. what's going on? You
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  S14: seem a little troubled. Her priest, the church she attends, he's.
• 42:46
  S14: He's in a coma because of Covid. And her daughters
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  S14: have left their faith. They're from a different faith than ours.
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  S14: But she is really troubled. I said, could we pray
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  S14: right now? Yes. We're praying in the street as cars
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  S14: are driving by. That led to a dinner, by the way,
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  S14: in her home. They invited us into their home for dinner.
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  S14: They've been with us. We've been out to restaurants together.
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  S14: A whole friendship began because of that. And that starts
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  S14: with a prayer walk. All kinds of stories.
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  S6: Coming up here. In a moment. We're going to talk
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  S6: about some basic tips here, because I think sometimes I
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  S6: think it's true, John, I think we we imagine reaching
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  S6: our neighbors as this big bite out of this enchilada
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  S6: that we can't navigate. Right? And God says, no, let's
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  S6: think about this. Let's be neighbors. Yes. Start small and
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  S6: let's build from there. So coming up, neighborhood prayer walk
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  S6: tips with John Gager.
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  S3: Hang on.
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  S1: Take your next step with Jesus today. You're listening to
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  S1: Carl and crew.
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  S4: So we're called to love God and love people. What
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  S4: about the people in your neighborhood? Why does it sometimes
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  S4: feel so challenging to just have a conversation? John Gager
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  S4: has some tips for us. He's been prayer walking for
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  S4: 20 years, the same 54 houses on the block and
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  S4: has seen some incredible stories. Give us some tips for
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  S4: how someone listening can get started with this.
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  S14: Well, number one, start with a wave. Could I just
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  S14: suggest that you get out there when people walk by
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  S14: because they were coming back from the park, or from
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  S14: their jog, or from their bike ride, or from their
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  S14: errand in their car, you wave at them. Why shouldn't
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  S14: you be the friendly neighbor? What's wrong with that? Is
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  S14: that weird? You know, it's so sick that in our culture,
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  S14: that is weird. A third of the people will do nothing.
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  S14: They'll scowl at you. A third of them will wave
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  S14: back immediately.
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  S6: I think.
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  S14: So. And the other third will eventually wave over time.
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  S14: But you are the friendly neighbor. Why not? Why not?
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  S14: Jesus was the friend of sinners. Can't we wave? All right,
• 44:45
  S14: so let's make a commitment. All right? That's number one.
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  S14: You got to make a commitment. Say, I'm going to
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  S14: do this. I'm going to do this, say once a week.
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  S14: This is a long haul proposition. You are signing up
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  S14: for a marathon, not a sprint. Just know that. Are
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  S14: you going to do this when the weather gets bad,
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  S14: when it's rainy, when it's cold, make a commitment. Number
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  S14: two pray for one thing only. This is my thought
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  S14: and I know others who do prayer walks and they
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  S14: pray that God would bless their name. I don't. I
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  S14: pray that he would trouble them.
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  S15: I pray the way I pray that he would about you.
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  S14: I pray that he would shake them up in order
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  S14: to wake them up in order to take them up.
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  S14: I sometimes pray that very prayer.
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  S6: Quick, quick parenthetical thought here I had when I was
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  S6: in John 14 And Jesus says to his disciples, do
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  S6: not let your hearts be troubled. And then he went
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  S6: on to give the gospel, I you know, I've thought
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  S6: ever since then, which is just a couple of weeks ago. No,
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  S6: the most loving prayer we can pray for anyone is God.
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  S6: to keep them troubled just enough where there's a gateway
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  S6: for the gospel. And I love that. All right, let's
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  S6: keep cooking.
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  S14: Step two pray for the one thing. There's salvation. Why
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  S14: pray for their good health and peaceful families when eternity
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  S14: is in the balance? Number three vary your prayers. You
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  S14: can pray all kinds of scriptures. Lord, you're not willing
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  S14: that my neighbor Joe should perish, but that he should
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  S14: come to repentance. Lord, you came to seek and to
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  S14: save the lost. Please save. You know the Jones family.
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  S14: Number four pray for them by name if possible. You
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  S14: already know one, probably or two names. Well, as you
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  S14: stay at this, you're going to meet new neighbors I do.
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  S14: And so you're going to keep a file on your phone. Ali.
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  S14: It's awesome. I got a file right here. I added
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  S14: to it this week. New names, new names, new names,
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  S14: always new details. And we met some neighbors. And they
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  S14: have a down syndrome. Boy, I got the name of
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  S14: that boy.
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  S6: Yeah.
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  S15: You did.
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  S14: We're going to reach out to them, boy. So you're
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  S14: always gaining new names. Number five. Don't stop in front
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  S14: of their homes when you pray.
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  S6: Love this one.
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  S14: You don't want to make a show, and you sure
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  S14: don't want to creep people out. Just walk at a
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  S14: leisurely pace. Pray silently to yourself a six. Know that
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  S14: this takes time. Don't be surprised if months or years
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  S14: go by and it seems like nothing is happening. I'm
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  S14: telling you, that's what it felt like for a long time.
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  S14: But God is always up to something. I'm seeing that
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  S14: in the background now in the rear view mirror. Your
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  S14: prayers will take root over time and seven expect to connect.
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  S14: Expect to connect as God sees. You're serious about this
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  S14: and I wonder sometimes if he doesn't sort of watch.
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  S14: Are you. Are you really serious?
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  S6: Do you mean this? Yeah.
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  S14: He's going to connect. You and I can meet people now.
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  S14: As I say, if it's early in the morning, if
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  S14: it's dark at night, it's crazy to the point of
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  S14: supernatural that God has appointed these little conversations. Wow. So, no,
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  S14: I don't know them all. But first I want to
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  S14: wave be the friendly neighbor. Then I want to get
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  S14: to know their name. Oh. That's everything. Know their name.
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  S6: Here's what's great about this. John has broken it down
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  S6: to make what seems impossible. Super doable.
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  S4: Very simple. Very. Any of your neighbors know that you're
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  S4: praying for them. Is this something that you ever talk
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  S4: about with them or.
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  S14: Well, as a matter of fact, there is a neighbor
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  S14: who they happen to be born again. And they caught
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  S14: me this weekend. I was doing a prayer walk, and
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  S14: they'd heard our conversation about Scripture memory. And they said, John,
• 47:46
  S14: where's your scripture card? I said, how? I said, well,
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  S14: to be honest, this isn't a this isn't a scripture
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  S14: memory walk. This is a prayer walk. Now catch me
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  S14: tomorrow morning and I'll have the card, but not now.
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  S6: That's hilarious.
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  S14: Not not many of the unsaved folks do. Some of them,
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  S14: they've observed it. They see me out there. I don't
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  S14: know what they think, but. But they know I'm out there.
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  S6: They know you love them. That's that's what it's all about. Okay,
• 48:08
  S6: we got a link for you guys.
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  S4: If you want these neighborhood prayer walk tips for yourself,
• 48:12
  S4: you want to do this on your own? Maybe with
• 48:14
  S4: your family. Text neighbor to (800) 555-7898. Neighbor to 805 557898A.
• 48:23
  S1: Basketball mom who's mastered the dad joke. Ali is in
• 48:28
  S1: the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
• 48:31
  S6: Well, it's bottom of the hour. It's Wednesday, and it
• 48:33
  S6: is that time.
• 48:35
  S1: Making herself laugh no matter who joins her. It's time
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  S1: for Allie thinks it's funny.
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  S16: Go, Allie.
• 48:44
  S4: Couple Wednesday jokes for you. Some of you look forward
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  S4: to this. Some of.
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  S3: You cringe.
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  S6: Throngs of.
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  S3: People.
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  S4: Does anyone have a group of friends that you go
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  S4: out to eat with?
• 48:56
  S3: You've got. Oh for sure.
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  S4: Yeah. What do you call those friends that you like to,
• 49:01
  S4: you know, do do dinners out, maybe check out new restaurants?
• 49:06
  S6: Uh woofing. Buddies like Woofing down dinner.
• 49:08
  S4: That's good. Good choice. You call them your. They're your
• 49:12
  S4: taste buds.
• 49:14
  S6: Oh, my word.
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  S3: That's awesome. That's pretty good.
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  S17: I thought that one was really cute.
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  S3: Really good.
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  S2: That you could actually use.
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  S3: That taste buds. That's.
• 49:23
  S6: Yeah, I'm gonna use. Yeah. You're right. I'm gonna use
• 49:27
  S6: that one.
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  S3: Great.
• 49:28
  S6: That's not a joke.
• 49:29
  S2: Hang out with moralism now.
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  S4: I actually think, yeah, I think that's a cute one. Um, okay,
• 49:34
  S4: so this one's a school joke. I know some of
• 49:36
  S4: you are headed to school this morning. Maybe dropping off kids.
• 49:41
  S4: Here's a little quick tip for you. You should always
• 49:44
  S4: wear your glasses, especially to math class. You want to
• 49:48
  S4: make sure you wear your glasses to math class for
• 49:52
  S4: a very important reason.
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  S8: Yes.
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  S4: Because it helps with division.
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  S2: I like.
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  S3: That one.
• 50:05
  S2: It's it's good if you're Chicago to cause division.
• 50:09
  S4: It does have a little bit of.
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  S8: There you go.
• 50:11
  S4: A little bit of a Chicago feel there.
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  S8: For you.
• 50:14
  S4: Texas jokes to 800 555 78, 98. If you want
• 50:19
  S4: a couple jokes sent to your phone, great. Good to
• 50:22
  S4: text jokes to 800 555 7898.