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Growing Up as Terry Crews Daughter & Finding Her Voice | Born to the Game Podcast · Born To The Game Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Even I have caught flack for some stuff that my
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  Speaker 1: mom or dad have said in the past or something.
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  Speaker 1: You are in the light, you're just never in the
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  Speaker 1: light when you wanna be.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to Born to the Game, produced by ARCA Media
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  Speaker 2: Group in collaboration with Inflection Network and distributed through iHeartMedia.
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  Speaker 2: This is the space where the children and families of
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  Speaker 2: iconic athletes, entertainers, and cultural figures share the truth behind legacy,
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  Speaker 2: not just what their families did, but who they were
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  Speaker 2: and how that legacy continues.
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  Speaker 3: Her father, Terry Crews, has built a career that spans
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  Speaker 3: both professional sports and entertainment, from playing in the NFL
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  Speaker 3: to becoming one of Hollywood's most recognizable personalities. His career
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  Speaker 3: includes iconic projects like White Chicks, Everybody Hates Chris, Brooklyn Nine-Nine,
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  Speaker 3: and The Expendables franchise, along with his role as host
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  Speaker 3: of America's Got Talent.
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  Speaker 2: But today, we're getting to know Tara Cruz. Tara has
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  Speaker 2: taken a path that's entirely her own. From studying music
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  Speaker 2: to building a career in Los Angeles nightlife and entertainment,
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  Speaker 2: she's spent years behind the scenes creating experiences, building relationships,
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  Speaker 2: and navigating some of L.A. 's most exclusive rooms. And
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  Speaker 2: now she's stepping from behind the scenes to build something
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  Speaker 2: of her own with What's the Tea?
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  Speaker 1: Period.
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  Speaker 2: Today, we're talking about growing up cruise pressure, finding your
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  Speaker 2: identity outside of a recognizable last name, taking an unconventional
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  Speaker 2: career path, building something that's yours and what it means
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  Speaker 2: to honor the legacy we're born into while defining your own.
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  Speaker 2: Tara Cruz? Welcome, welcome! What is the tea, baby?
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  Speaker 1: What is the tea, girl?
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  Speaker 2: What isn't the tea? That's really the question. Hey, sis.
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  Speaker 1: Hello.
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  Speaker 2: You look stunning.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just so happy to be here. We're all wearing
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  Speaker 1: our red and black.
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  Speaker 2: Totally unplanned, by the way.
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  Speaker 1: We ate that. I don't even understand how y'all even
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  Speaker 1: had these options ready.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get it.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even tell you what I was going to wear.
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  Speaker 2: In tune, in sync. That's when you know it's meant
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  Speaker 2: to be. You were meant to be here.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm so proud. I brought you these Dina flowers.
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  Speaker 1: They're beautiful. Pasadena rose. If you're from Dina, you know
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  Speaker 1: the rose. We are the city of the rose. So
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  Speaker 1: we had to show my love to the girls. You know,
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  Speaker 1: what is the tea? It's been raining. I don't understand that.
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  Speaker 1: What is that about? It was also 100 degrees not
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  Speaker 1: even two days ago.
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  Speaker 2: Two days ago?
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  Speaker 1: Somebody help. Like, what's happening? The data centers are going
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  Speaker 1: to blow up in a second.
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  Speaker 2: Not the data centers! The people are burning. I know.
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  Speaker 1: Like, it's actually really hot.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Other than that, I've been really happy. I've been outside,
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  Speaker 1: per usual. I've kind of just been in my own
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  Speaker 1: development process of my business and just, like, spending more
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  Speaker 1: time with family.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Already spending enough. Very good. We love it. Like, my
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  Speaker 1: mom just called me the other day. She said, when
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  Speaker 1: are you coming over? I said, I was over yesterday. Like,
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  Speaker 1: can we, like, can we take a, like, we need
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  Speaker 1: separation sometimes.
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  Speaker 2: But please tell mom we said hello.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Like, you are your mother's twin. I love her.
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  Speaker 1: Stunning.
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  Speaker 2: We love her. Please send her our love.
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  Speaker 1: I get my fashion sense from her.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, period. She's an icon. So, we are here to
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  Speaker 2: get to know you. Yes. All thanks, Tara, and what
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  Speaker 2: Tara's doing. Because, again, you come from a family that, again,
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  Speaker 2: we're fans. Scary cruise. We were just saying off camera, blended.
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  Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Blended is my jam. I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate it. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: You are probably the first people to ever say this
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  Speaker 1: to me.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 1: In the sense of, I feel like most people kind
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  Speaker 1: of miss that era. I love that. No, I'm actually
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  Speaker 1: pretty proud.
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  Speaker 2: You're not a real fan until you, like, the movies
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  Speaker 2: that are not, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. We got you.
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  Speaker 1: We love it.
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  Speaker 2: So take us back to the Terry Crews household. What
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  Speaker 2: was it like growing up? When was that first moment
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  Speaker 2: you realized dad, his career and who he is, is
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  Speaker 2: bigger than life?
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So I grew up in a very like musical
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  Speaker 1: oriented family. So we'd go to plays and all this stuff,
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  Speaker 1: but It's so different watching a movie be made behind
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  Speaker 1: the scenes. So I was there for White Chicks. I
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  Speaker 1: was there for Everybody Hates Chris. And you just find
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  Speaker 1: out how normal everything is until you see it on
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  Speaker 1: the big screen and people are cracking up, laughing, dying.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, it's not funny when I watched it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a child. I'm in an adult setting with children.
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  Speaker 1: I had to be White Chicks. I was, I I
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  Speaker 1: think I was either five or six. And I was
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  Speaker 1: there for the dinner scene. So when all that was
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  Speaker 1: going down, I was there and I was like, what
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  Speaker 1: is this mess? Mind you, Marlon looks so scary in
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  Speaker 1: white face. It's actually terrifying. He came up to meet
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  Speaker 1: me and he was like, how you doing, little lady?
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'm about to pass out. This is so terrifying.
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  Speaker 1: It's just so daunting. And he had the blue contacts.
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  Speaker 1: I said, yo. But watching it back now, watching it
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  Speaker 1: back now, it's so insane. My dad plays make-believe for fun.
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  Speaker 1: And he would do that with us when we were kids.
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  Speaker 1: He would be the shark in the water trying to get,
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  Speaker 1: it was so fun with him. And because he would
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  Speaker 1: be away for certain films and stuff, we'd be with
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  Speaker 1: our mom and we'd be like, when is he gonna
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  Speaker 1: come back? It was almost like he was a military dad.
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  Speaker 1: He would be stationed away for so long that we'd
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  Speaker 1: be like, man, I almost didn't take his authority seriously.
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  Speaker 2: For a long time. Wow. That's interesting.
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  Speaker 1: I respected him so much, but then after a while,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, this dude not even here.
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  Speaker 2: You're not even here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm supposed to listen to you when you get
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  Speaker 1: home and mom runs this house? Interesting. There was a
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  Speaker 1: point in my teenage years where I really rebelled. Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: We'll get into that.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting. So were you alive when he was playing? No.
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  Speaker 2: So he retired and then he transitioned into acting. How
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  Speaker 2: many years after he retired? Or was it like a.
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  Speaker 1: I was born the year later, he got the show
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  Speaker 1: called Battle Dome, which is basically WWE. Like it was
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  Speaker 1: a WWE type show that cast him. He was like,
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  Speaker 1: people were getting seriously hurt. And so he kind of
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  Speaker 1: exited out of that thinking like, I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: hurt my body too much. And, you know, he was
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  Speaker 1: tired of the NFL playing in his face. You know,
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  Speaker 1: he was constantly getting hurt then, too. And he was like,
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  Speaker 1: this isn't sustainable for me. So I believe the year
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  Speaker 1: after I was born, he started he got a role
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  Speaker 1: in Training Day as one of the background actors. You
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  Speaker 1: can see him when Denzel's telling off everybody in that
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  Speaker 1: one scene. And that was a shock to me because
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  Speaker 1: I was watching Training Day randomly and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: that is not my dad. Are you actually out of
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  Speaker 1: your mind? And people started pointing it out later on
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  Speaker 1: Twitter and stuff. And I was like, this is genuinely insane.
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  Speaker 1: Like he's kind of just like the monolith that like
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  Speaker 1: appears in random stuff. Like he was in a David
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  Speaker 1: Lynch movie like some time ago. I'm honestly surprised a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times when I hear how My life, like
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  Speaker 1: us moving to Los Angeles, I was born here. My
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  Speaker 1: life would be so different if I was born in
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  Speaker 1: Flint like everyone else was. Like I don't think I
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  Speaker 1: would be the same person.
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  Speaker 2: Got you. So dad is from Flint, Michigan.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, my dad is from Flint. Mom is from Gary, Indiana.
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  Speaker 1: And they met in Kalamazoo. Very Midwest type of.
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  Speaker 2: Very Midwest. Shout out to the Midwest. Shout out to Indiana.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to the Midwest, honestly. If I grew up there,
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  Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be like the way I am now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so like.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, it's my home, my life. It's a different culture.
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  Speaker 2: It's a completely different culture.
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  Speaker 1: No, I would be shell shocked too if I met you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Very much so.
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  Speaker 2: So was there a moment that happened and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: dad's famous.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, White Chicks premiere. Okay. Oh, and then, okay, so
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  Speaker 1: I'll explain the premiere because I've never had such strobing
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  Speaker 1: lights in my face as a child and everyone, I'm nervous.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like ready to cry. I'm like anxious. They're walking
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  Speaker 1: us down the carpet. I'm seeing people, I'm seeing like, Like,
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  Speaker 1: so many comedic legends that I didn't really process at
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  Speaker 1: the time who they were, like Eddie Murphy and Chris
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  Speaker 1: Rock and, like, all these people. It was, like, the
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  Speaker 1: biggest turnout for this one movie because it's the Wands. Like,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to show out. That and, oh, my God,
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  Speaker 1: there was a Comic-Con for something. I forgot what it
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  Speaker 1: was for. Maybe it was Brooklyn Nine-Nine. That, I've never
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  Speaker 1: seen so many just, like, white dudes be like, Derrick!
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  Speaker 2: Like when you were walking down the street?
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  Speaker 1: It was like there were times where I was afraid
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  Speaker 1: for my life.
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  Speaker 2: Really?
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  Speaker 1: I've been trampled before. Oh my goodness. No, I could
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  Speaker 1: tell those stories. Like we, there's this place called the
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  Speaker 1: Paseo in Pasadena and you just go see movies there.
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  Speaker 1: You get a bite to eat. There was a group
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  Speaker 1: of teenagers after their prom or something and they swarmed
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  Speaker 1: him and I was in the middle of that. And
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  Speaker 1: they like pushed me out the way. I was like
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  Speaker 1: rag doll. Like they couldn't get in one day. And
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  Speaker 1: my dad was like, that's my daughter.
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  Speaker 2: Leave her alone.
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  Speaker 1: I remember being scared for them because he was so angry.
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  Speaker 1: And so I was like, now I kind of have
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  Speaker 1: this PTSD of like, I'm very hyper aware of when
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  Speaker 1: people recognize him immediately. So if we're at dinner and
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  Speaker 1: I'll see them like whispering, I'll be like, all right,
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  Speaker 1: let's be ready for whatever happens. And it's usually nothing.
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  Speaker 1: But now I'm like, alert, alert, alert. They're coming over.
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  Speaker 1: Like I won't say it out loud. Right. And then,
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  Speaker 1: any time we're in Brazil, Brazil fans are amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Why Brazil?
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  Speaker 1: Brazilian fans are like the superest fans of any fans
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  Speaker 1: I've ever met. They are amazing. They love everybody who's Chris.
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  Speaker 1: Because in Brazil culture, I feel like black TV is
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  Speaker 1: so underappreciated because in that culture, they like highlight, you know,
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  Speaker 1: white kind of looking Brazilians and majority of Brazil is black.
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  Speaker 1: And so that show resonated with them. They're like, I
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  Speaker 1: see my mom in Rochelle. I see my dad in Julia's.
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  Speaker 1: And they love, everybody hates, it's like the number one thing.
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  Speaker 1: And so every time we're there, I'm like, get ready, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: So it felt like Lollapalooza every day.
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  Speaker 1: Like just the biggest crowd I've ever seen. That's when
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I was like 16 at that time.
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  Speaker 1: I said, this is different. I've never seen anything like that.
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  Speaker 2: So watching him and watching his, you know, just who
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  Speaker 2: he is, his fame, the fans, how does that make
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  Speaker 2: you feel as his daughter, just witnessing him on set?
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  Speaker 1: True. I love my dad, but we're both Leos.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh wee, Leo nation. Leo nation.
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  Speaker 1: When's your birthday? August 10th. It just passed. I turned 28.
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  Speaker 1: We love having friendly competition with each other. Because he
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  Speaker 1: jokes around, but I know he's serious. He'll be like, ah,
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  Speaker 1: everything's about me. I love it. It's me, me, me.
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  Speaker 1: I go, eh. I'm almost there for me. I'm right
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  Speaker 1: there with you. Of course, I rode on his bootstraps, absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: But part of me, as a Leo, loves competition with him.
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  Speaker 1: Anytime we were bowling, I'm like, oh, you're so old.
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  Speaker 1: You're so rickety and old.
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  Speaker 2: Not rickety.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. And anytime, there would be times when... I remember
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  Speaker 1: when my dad got hurt in the muscle one time
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  Speaker 1: and he had to get surgery. And it was really, really...
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  Speaker 1: like distressing moment, but we turned to laughter. Like my
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  Speaker 1: family will roast the hell out of really mundane situations
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  Speaker 1: that are not supposed to be that funny. And I
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  Speaker 1: just remember, cause he would make fun of me all
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  Speaker 1: the time and he's like, my broken ankle or something.
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  Speaker 1: He'd be like, oh you're so limp and so small.
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  Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm gonna get you. And that time he,
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  Speaker 1: busted his muscle I said oh little chicken wing muscle
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  Speaker 1: now you're so small and he would just be like
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you and like try to like get
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  Speaker 1: me I was like you can't touch me don't touch
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  Speaker 1: me we have that joke like I'll be like oh
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  Speaker 1: like I'll try to patronize him and be like don't Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 1: We're really divas. Not divas. Divas in the house. Like,
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  Speaker 1: me and him are the divas. And then my mom
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  Speaker 1: is diva. She's a Capricorn.
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  Speaker 2: Is she?
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  Speaker 1: Diva.
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  Speaker 2: But she deserves it.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what I say. I'm always siding with her
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  Speaker 1: in arguments.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, always. Always.
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  Speaker 1: Solely because it'll be, like, the stupidest thing ever. And
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  Speaker 1: my mom will be like, uh, Terry, you don't know
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  Speaker 1: what you're talking about. I'm like, you're right. You don't
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  Speaker 1: know what.
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  Speaker 2: You're talking about. Whatever she says goes. So do you
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  Speaker 2: guys as a family watch movies? White Chicks, Everybody Hates Chris,
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  Speaker 2: any of the movies?
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  Speaker 1: Is it blended? I love Everybody Hates Chris, and I
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  Speaker 1: love Brooklyn Nine-Nine.
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  Speaker 2: So you all watch them together? I love White Chicks too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so yes, there are times when TiVo was
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  Speaker 1: a thing. You'd go back and record all the stuff
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  Speaker 1: you missed, and so every new episode we'd be watching together,
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  Speaker 1: or like Brooklyn Nine-Nine, every new one we'd watch together,
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  Speaker 1: it was like a family bonding experience, and then there
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  Speaker 1: are times you go on set, you meet people, and
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  Speaker 1: some are the exact same, some are a little bit different,
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  Speaker 1: but still the same. And yeah, with Everybody It's Kris,
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  Speaker 1: I actually laughed out loud. That was one of the
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  Speaker 1: shows I actually adore watching again because it's really, really,
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  Speaker 1: really relatable. Brooklyn Nine-Nine too, that's more like I love
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  Speaker 1: Andy Samberg and just everything he's ever done. Anything that
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  Speaker 1: is a little bit corny, a little bit like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's sweet, but also he slapped the black off him.
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  Speaker 1: There's that type of energy you get from watching a
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  Speaker 1: show where you're like, I have to watch that episode again.
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  Speaker 1: That's actually so insane.
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  Speaker 2: So your dad will sit there and watch his own episode?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, he loves it.
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  Speaker 2: He's not like one of those people who, no, he's not.
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  Speaker 1: He's not one of those people that would be like,
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  Speaker 1: I can't watch. He'd be like, again, again, like a
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  Speaker 1: little repeating toy. Yes, I love that. No, he's a
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  Speaker 1: big goofball. I feel like he makes us all really jovial.
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  Speaker 1: Just really, really happy. It's really fun.
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  Speaker 2: So what's the best piece of advice that he's giving you?
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  Speaker 2: Or even, I guess a two-part question. As you're watching
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  Speaker 2: him do his craft, anything that you've taken from him,
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  Speaker 2: his work ethic, discipline, that you instill in just what
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  Speaker 2: you do today? Any lesson, advice?
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  Speaker 1: Ooh, you know what? I'm still kind of battling this,
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  Speaker 1: but it's like the try, try again trope, where like
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  Speaker 1: the no's, all the no's you'll ever get and you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get that one yes someday but you have to
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  Speaker 1: keep going. I hate it. Like, I hate hearing that
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  Speaker 1: because I am such a, fuck it, I'm leaving, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not doing this anymore type of person. And he was like, no, like,
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  Speaker 1: I've done so many things and they all amounted to
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  Speaker 1: something eventually but I was like, you have so much
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  Speaker 1: more going for yourself and all these, like, I would
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  Speaker 1: just kind of put myself down in a way and
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  Speaker 1: he'd be like, don't say that about yourself. Like, don't
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  Speaker 1: put yourself in a position that you already are defeated. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I still, to this day, I'm like, like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what life is planning for me right now,
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  Speaker 1: but the, honestly, the more I was like writing down
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  Speaker 1: in my journals and writing down mood boards and putting
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  Speaker 1: pictures up of what I wanted, half that stuff has
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  Speaker 1: already happened this year and I didn't even realize until
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  Speaker 1: I checked. Wow. So I was like, I'm slowly but
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  Speaker 1: surely just living my life and just not saying no.
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  Speaker 1: And now it's really helping. Not saying no.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like when opportunities come, I'm not going to be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's too small for me or that's too big for me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just going to be like, okay, they wanted me
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  Speaker 1: for a reason. Like that part of my life, I'm
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: doing that now. Like I didn't see myself being, I
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: was a nanny for so long. I didn't see myself
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: doing that. Oh, really? Yeah, I was a nanny for
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: like 10 years. Oh. So the majority of my jobs
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: back in the day, like babysitting, junior camp counseling, like
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: I was really heavily involved with like helping children just
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: like develop and like just grow because I grew up
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: with my siblings. I raised them basically. And a part
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: of that, I was watching my childhood through their eyes
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: and they would tell me their dreams and I would
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: just be like, oh my gosh, I feel like I'm
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: purposely in this moment now to tell you this because
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: I had that. Yes. So insane. Yes. I forgot what
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: the question was, but I'm good.
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: Any advice and things that you gained from your dad?
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: He passed that on to me.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: You never say no.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Yes, he passed that on to me, and I felt
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: like that was really important for me to hear. I'm
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: still having a hard time hearing that, but I now
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: can see it moving. It's really fun.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: No, that's beautiful. So from a daughter's perspective, what's one
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: thing about Terry that people wouldn't know from the outside
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: looking in?
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's a pretty quiet guy, actually. Me and my
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: siblings are the loudest ones. Yes, he's not shouting at
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: the level of an Old Spice commercial all the time.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: He very much is just like, hey, Tara, how you been? Oh,
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: that's good. I'm glad. But then I will say if
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: we start talking about something he really enjoys or a
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: movie we all just watched, he'd be like, ah, this
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: part was so cool. This part sucked. He'll have an opinion.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: But he's most time quiet. because he does so much,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: he comes home to really unwind. But when you've got
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: loud ass daughters and one boy who plays video games
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: at max volume, he's just, and also he is partially
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: deaf in one ear. So a lot of times he
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: really can't actually hear us.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: Oh, interesting.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah. He has a, it's not a cochlear implant.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: It's like a hearing aid. Okay. But, There are times
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: when I'll catch him without it. I'm like, can you
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: even hear me right now? He'll be like, yes.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: He's such a troll, Tara. Like, oh my God.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: He'll be like, I heard you, yes, of course.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: But just even imagine him on set trying to just
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: like navigate that. I mean, now knowing that's pretty incredible
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: that he's able to just deal with that.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: And he can hear higher pitches. Lower pitches are harder
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: for him. So he'll be able to hear like our
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: dog yapping. But for me, I have a lower register sometimes.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: And if he's not looking at me and I'll say something,
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: he will not respond. I'll be like, hey, can you da-da-da?
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh yeah, da-da. And it's, I now
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: in my head, I'm like, am I going to have
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: to learn ASL? I already did a little bit, but
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I feel like we should all do that
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: as a family. Just in case. But he's doing great.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with this man. He just, I feel
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: like sometimes he will lie and be like, I didn't
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: hear what you said.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: I would use it to my advantage. I would too.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: I didn't hear nothing.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I would too.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: So now let's get into the fishbowl. Yes. Oh, yay.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: So before you pull, let me at least give a
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: little just explanation as to why we got the fishbowl.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Awesome.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: A fishbowl is transparent. You can see what's inside, right?
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: And when we think about legacy, so much of it
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: is viewed from the outside. The success, the accomplishments, the names.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: But there's always more beneath the surface, the pressure, the purpose,
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: and the experiences that shape who we all become. So
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: inside the bowl are different parts of the journey. Whatever
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: you pull, we talk about.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Ooh, I love that. And once it's out, it's out.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: So go ahead, Sarah.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Pick your first token. Pick your first one. Let's see.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: Now, let's see.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: Dooley, dooley, doo. Dooley, dooley, dooley.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: Okay, what's this?
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: Let's see.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Miscellaneous?
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: Miscellaneous.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: We love miscellaneous.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, Lord.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: So miscellaneous is just random questions.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, perfect.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Okay, this is fun. Here we go. Text or FaceTime?
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: Ooh, I used to be a FaceTimer. I'm now....
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Or call or FaceTime.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Now that, okay. I'm trying to rate
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: one over the other. I'd rather... text than call than FaceTime.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: Text, call, then FaceTime. Okay, okay. So you really don't,
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: you're not a FaceTimer then.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Not anymore, really.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Oh, this is a good one. L.A. or New York nightlife?
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I actually, funny enough, I have not been out in
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: New York enough. What? I really haven't. And I used
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: to live out there, but I was a minor. I
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: did go out, but I wasn't really like out, out, out, out, out.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Like it would be like the cute little hookah bars
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: or something. Like I wasn't. So yeah, L.A., solely because
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: But I feel like you would eat New York.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I would dare. And I have so many friends out there.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: I really do.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: I love New York. Y'all, please give me the racks.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: Let's go to New York.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: We're going to have to do something. We're all going
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: to have to go.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: We might as well. Yes.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: For sure.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: That's so fun.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: What's one song that will always get you on the
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: dance floor?
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: I know mine.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: I know mine too.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: You know what? It might be probably Virgo's Groove. Probably
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: some Beyonce. In the sense that anything that she has,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to be. Or like some Crazy in Love.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Or like, I'm trying to think of another artist that's
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: not Beyonce. Probably like, oh my gosh, this is actually
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: so interesting.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Can I share mine? Okay, you guys, we have to
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: be honest. When Shake That Monkey, when that.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: Like you already know it's over. Like the dun, dun, dun.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Like you already know. That is like our theme song
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: to gather our belongings and just get.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Shake that monkey. No, that's right. Listen. I was going
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: to say back that thing up. Okay. Oh, that's what
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I meant.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: But shake that monkey too. Did you say shake that
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: monkey thinking back that thing up? I was thinking back that.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Any yin yang twins, anything.
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: Any yin yang.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: In the sense that.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: That's what I meant, y'all.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: No, that's fair.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I actually agree.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I am over you right now. I am so over you. Honestly,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: I was with her because I also was. Once you
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: said that, I was like, I know what she's talking about.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: I meant back that ass. You're right.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: You guys. She's fine.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: Two plus two doesn't always equal four from me.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Put the gun down.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: Put it down. Y'all knew what I meant. Juvenile. Y'all
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: knew what I meant. We knew what you meant, baby.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: It's okay.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Juvenile.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Sorry.
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: It's so hilarious.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, anything Pretty Ricky, too. Listen, my friend, she brought
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: the love back out of me with those songs. When
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: they did the verses, I was like, y'all. Come on.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Y'all know Pretty Ricky don't get down. I will never
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: act right.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I love B2K.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Who do you think won?
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: It was Pretty Ricky. It was obviously Pretty Ricky. And
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: I'm a B2K fan.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: I am too.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: And my jaw was like, okay, Omarion, sing the songs.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: Oh, you said Omarion.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, because he was going to have to.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: They were going to lose if they didn't. I was
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: begging for them to win, and I went, no, Pretty
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: Ricky clearly won.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: I love how invested you were.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Definitely. It was a good versus though.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: It was.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: It was really good.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, tequila or champagne?
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Tequila. Next question. Champagne? Champagne. I love day drinking with champagne.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: It just makes me really sleepy after.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: It makes me so sleepy.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: All the bubbly. It makes me feel like if I'm
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: drinking a beer, I'm like yeasty. Like I'm going to
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: explode later. I'm probably going to throw up too.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: I can only have two and then I'm done.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: No, tequila is straight to the point. Yes.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: She said it straight to the point.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: Okay. This is a good one. Who's funnier, mom or dad?
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: You know, because it's like different funny. My mom is
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: like the, she takes from her mom. So she'll get
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: all that. She's not Southern, but her mom is. So
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: she'll be like, oh, you gonna date that? Like, she'll
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: say stuff and I'll be like, what are you saying? Like,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what that, like, when I was
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: a kid, she'd be like, look at you walking around
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: holes in your pants like, who shot John? And I'm like,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: that's not a word that nobody uses no more. Who
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: shot John? And I would crack up. But my dad
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: is the one that will just like, He'll make fun
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: of your entire being, but it's so funny.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: The entire being. Just roast you for no reason.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's so playful, and you can only be like,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: he's right.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: Like, he ain't lying. Yes.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: He is not lying. I feel like it is my dad,
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: but it's only because my mom has to play the
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: straight man and be like, Terry, that ain't funny. Stop
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: being mean to that girl. And so, yes, in a sense,
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: he wants to be more funny. Okay.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: He does, yes. Okay, what about advice, mom or dad?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Oh, my mom, for sure. In the sense of, because
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: we're women, it's just like, I'll be like, oh, mama, please.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: I want to kill this man. Like, help me. And
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: she'll be like, I've been there, done that. This is
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: how you got to handle it. And she's always the ones, like,
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: if I have any type of trouble, she'll be like,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I knew that girl would know good.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: And I'll be like, you were right. Ain't that crazy?
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Mamas know everything.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Like I get premonition dreams from the women in my family.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: So a lot of times it'll be like stuff warning
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: me in dreams and she'll have the same thing.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Really?
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: I wish I was joking. My mom will have like
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: premonition dreams and be like, don't go out tonight. Really?
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, mom, stop scaring me.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Most time it is true. Like it'll be like a
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: huge crazy car crash happening somewhere where I was supposed
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: to be at or like someone getting shot or something.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: And I'm like. I don't like that. I don't like
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: that you're right. Like, I don't like when you end
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: up being right because I'm like, she's just nanana boo boo. Like,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: sometimes I feel like it's like she just wants me
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: to be her baby. But then I'm like, no, she's
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: really protecting me.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: She's really trying to protect you.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: She's giving me advice to really help me. Yeah, she is.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, you're nuts. And I'm like, she's not nuts.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: Do you have children?
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: No. Okay.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: I was going to say, once you have your babies,
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: you're going to look back and totally understand where mama
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: was coming from. Oh, that's sad. Ooh-wee. How many more?
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: These are actually really good. Let's do one more. Okay,
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: let's do one more. Ooh, okay, okay, okay, okay.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: That was hard.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: Okay. Well, this is hard. Okay, okay, okay, okay. She said, okay,
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: come on. What's making you genuinely happy right now?
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Oh, I love that.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Ooh, I... This is so out of pocket and really funny.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: I want to hear it.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I went to a birthday party recently and she, it
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: was like early 2000s themed and she was handing out slime. Girl,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I lost my mind. I said, I feel like a
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: child again. Like I'm now collecting old memorabilia toys and games,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: like board games that I haven't played in so long.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: I'm just reliving my childhood as an adult basically. So
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I'll buy like, like I've been searching for like old
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Mycene dolls that I used to have and I'm like,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Are they mint condition? Or like an old card game
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: or like a new card game that I haven't tried before.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: My family knows I love a game night. So like
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: I've just been collecting games and like toys and stuff
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: that I'm like, I would love to give this to
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: someone who really wanted it and needed it. But for now,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: it's kind of like a hobby of mine. I also
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: collect fans. So every time I go to a country. Yeah,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: like an actual fan. If you see me out, I'm
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: carrying a handheld. Because the girl's got the electric and
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: it dies. Girl, now you have nothing. So now, yeah,
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: I went to Japan, Brazil, like all these places and
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: would just be like, oh, I want to like a
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: cute signature fan to bring home and like put on
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: my wall.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: That's so fun.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: Stuff like that.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: That's a fun thing.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Like just collecting more things. Yeah. It's really fun.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: That's a fun fact about you.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: I love that. All right. Collecting more things.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Yay.
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Let's see what's next. No peeking.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, right. Of course. Yes. I'm never going to do that. No. Okay. Okay. Cute.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Purpose.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: Let's see.
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: When you hear the word purpose, what does that mean
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: to you? And do you feel like you've found yours yet?
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: I do think I have in a way because I've
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: always just loved making people joyful and experience life the
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: way I do. Not to put any type of purpose
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: on them. I love to entertain. I've been that way
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: since I was a girl. I love to sing, dance, act.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: I was in musical theater. I just love, I was
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: like the class clown, basically. I really love seeing people
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: smile and like, whenever there's like a dull moment, I'll
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: be like, so, did you do that? And it's like,
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I can never just let a moment sit and like
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: actually be in, I'm in the moment, but I'm also
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: being like, how can I make this a better experience? Oh,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: I love that though.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: That's great. That's a really good characteristic.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: Which I love. And I feel like my purpose in
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: that is to kind of broaden it out. So like,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: even with my content, I'm like, how can I bring
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: people back without me sounding annoying? And also trying to
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: give people what they want. You know, they want a
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: little bit of him. They want a little bit of me.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: They want the family dynamic. They also want, oh, where
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: do you go? Have you been on any flights like this?
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: And all this. So I'm like, I am the human machine.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: I'm like kind of always doing that. And then in
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: that way, I'm also trying to find a purpose of
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: just already being happy not doing that at all. So
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: I really, even today, I was like, how much content
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: should I make? Should I be normal about it? Or
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: should it just be like a whole thing? I was like,
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: the less the better, because also you're going to just
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: delete some stuff too. But yeah, my purpose I feel
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: like is to truly bring joy, I really love. I really,
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: really love making people feel good.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: That's beautiful.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Do you feel like passion and purpose are the same thing?
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: Or are they separated?
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Ooh, no, I don't. In the sense of, you could
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: be really good at one thing and really good at
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: the same time, another thing at the same time, and
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: your purpose could come from your passion. Like some people,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: you know, they went to school for so long for
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: one thing and then they delve into another thing solely
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: because their passion was like, oh, I kind of like
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: this field.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: We try it.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: It doesn't always mean where you're on is your purpose. Yes, yes, yes.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: But your passion will lead you to your right one,
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I think. It doesn't have to be the same, but
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: I do think it could kind of divulge you in which,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: like a fork in the road. Like which way should
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: we do this? The easy way or the hard way?
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: That kind of segues us into the next question of
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: everything that you've learned so far about life. What's one
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: truth you know now that you wish you understood when
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: you were younger?
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: It's okay to be sensitive. I'm a very sensitive girl.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I cry.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: Leo, Leo, Leo, Leo.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: And like our whole thing is like, our whole thing
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: is like, That doesn't bother me, but it so bothers
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: you so bad.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I hate women.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: I used to be that person too, though, so I
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: can understand. Yeah, your heart is just.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: That's women in general. We always have to be tough
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: about some stupid stuff.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: No, I'm going to crash out about this really bad.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: And then next day, you know what it is too?
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: I am a bottler. I'll bottle it. cry the whole
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: night long and wake up like, thank God I did that.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Now I can move on.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: Who taught you that? Nobody. I did.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: Girl. It's a good trait to have.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: It was years of like living in the most like
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: toxic situation with like some exes I had and like
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to cry in front of them. I
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: was like, I'm not going to give you the satisfaction
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: of my tears. And it would make, but of course
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: I would be crying. But in the sense of like,
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: I'm going to get my shit together. I'm going to
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: do this, all this stuff without you. And that whole
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: internalizing pain and suffering, a lot of times to make
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: other people feel more comfortable. And with friends, they would
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: never ask me to do such things, but I would
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: never tell them what was really wrong with me.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: And, like, during dinners and stuff, and I would just
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: have a random tear come down. I'd go, oh, sorry. Like,
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: I'm going through stuff, and I didn't tell any of y'all. Wow.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: And they'd be like, oh, my God. And I was like,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: you know why? Because I'm the happy-go-lucky girl of the group,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: kind of. And so I would never be the one to, like,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: have the hard conversations. I would leave that to everyone else. Wow.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: And I would be there to comfort, and I would
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: be there for them. And they would be there for
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: me too. I just would not let it happen.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: You just didn't allow them to do it.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: Wow. They're like my best friends ever. I grew up
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: with them from elementary up until now. And it was
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: that type of like, laugh it out. Be jolly, be merry.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: Then go home and like, all right, let's watch a sad,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: let's do a sad song. So yeah. Yeah, that's definitely
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: one of them.
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: So I guess it's a good point because I think
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: a lot of people struggle with that. Like not... wanting
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: to be vulnerable, especially when you're the person who's always together.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Right? Like, you're... I want to act like I have
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: stuff together. Yeah, exactly.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: But they see.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Me kind of struggling in the sense of, like, people
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: will see you struggle but don't want to, like... How
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: do I say this? Don't want to throw you out
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: of your loop of happiness. Mm-hmm.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: Because I'm going, everything is great. And they're like.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: But they can see that you're not.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we see that your room is dirty and, like, it's, like,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: not cute and, like... Like, you'll come with, like, you
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: didn't wash your face, eye crusties.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: They're like, are you okay?
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: Like, what's going on? Because it's out of my norm.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, girl, I'm the best I've ever been.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: I'm looking, what?
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: It's that. So they'll notice. And I'll be the one
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: to be like, don't worry about it. I'm so very
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: much like put a Band-Aid on that.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, do you think that's healthy?
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely not. Okay.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: I have been in therapy for a minute. Oh, good.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: Any advice?
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: That you would give somebody who's trying to figure it out,
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: but also they're the person that everyone goes to and
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: they feel like they're the person who always has to
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: have it together. But there's just going to be, when
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: you have human experiences, Tara, you're not always going to
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: have it together and it's okay. So how do you
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: make someone feel comfortable with saying, I'm not okay?
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I would say put it in a way that that
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: makes you feel the most comfortable to say it. Because
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: the way I go about it is sometimes I'll just
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: run through the sentence and I'll be like, what? You
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: said what? Right. And I'll be like, yeah. So here's
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: what really happened. And don't be afraid that you're over-talking.
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: I would get a lot of notes from teachers and
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: stuff and be like, she would talk all through class.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: And then I would. But I loved over-explaining stuff.
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: Put it in a way that you feel like you're
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: sharing what you want to share. But it's also like, oh,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I feel bad for my younger self, too, because I
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: would just put myself through hell trying to be normal.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: And like ADD, ADHD, like you're running through a million
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: thoughts a minute and you're trying to slow yourself down,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: but you want to get the point across.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: So getting your point across with your friends is easy.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: They are very understanding of you. It's just you trying
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: to explain everything that could have been like, you're sitting
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: there like, well, he did this to me, but only
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: because I, and it's like, you don't even have to
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: explain that part.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: You don't have to do that, yes. Moral of the story,
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: you don't have to be okay. And it's okay to
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: say that you're not okay.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: That's just, and I think the first step for everyone
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: is just to say that. I'm not okay.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: And you just take it from there. And then wherever
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: the wind blows you after you get it out, it
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: just takes you.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Yep. It's there. Very good.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: Great segment, honey. Oh, thank you. All right. The next one.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: Let's close your eyes and shake it.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: These look like little mini cookies.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: Aren't they cute? Like a vanilla wafer.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: They should be scented like cinnamon. Oh.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: Pressure.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: Pressure.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, go ahead, girl. Okay, well, let's dive right into
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: this one.
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: Did you ever feel pressure growing up in the Cruz household?
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: You know what? Yes and no.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: Academically, probably when I was younger because I didn't know
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: I had, like, learning problems. So I'm over here thinking, like, oh,
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: they probably, I just didn't do my homework. Like, I
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: was one of those kids that if I got a B,
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: my mom would not, she wouldn't trip.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: She was not on me about getting the best grades.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: She just wanted me to do my best. Yeah. But
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I took that as, like, I can't do anything. Like,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I would put pressure on myself. Uh-huh. to be better
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: and that would send me into like anxiety spiral and
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: like early onset depression you know what too um i
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: do think tv and the the the naturalization of computers
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: did not help with that what do you mean so
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: i grew up in the age of like like tivo
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: and still vhs all the way up but like Being
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: in front of a screen, like I was a heavy
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: computer kid. And so I would learn a bunch of
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: stuff from the computer. And so I felt like being
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: at school was just like nothing to me. Like I
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: didn't realize the impact that that had on me. So
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: growing up in an environment where my mom was like, girl,
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: just you got to sit down and just focus. And
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I would literally shake. Like it was so hard for me.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: I figured out. early on when I would do the
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: tests and all these things, I was like, my problem
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: isn't about, sometimes it would be the timing, like if
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: it's a timed test, or sometimes my problem would be
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: the subject. I would be really good at math, science,
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: and history. Did I say math? I'm not good at math.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: That was my main problem.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: Math was like really, it would just make me want
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: to vomit. Like I would hate it so much. But
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: every other subject I was really, really fond of. But
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: it was always stuff like that where it's like, this
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: is the simplest thing ever and you can't, and I
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: would just lose it. And so the only actual pressure
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I would feel like outside of school was, okay, so
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: my parents would ask like, do you want to have
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: a business? Do you want to do something in the arts?
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: Do you want to do anything in the acting world?
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: And we'd be like, yeah, of course we want, I
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: wanna be on Disney Channel, I wanna do all these things. Hard, hard,
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: even with connections, hard. Like, we really, because my dad
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: would be out of town, we wouldn't really use our
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: name to do anything much. And so we would go
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: on auditions and commercials and blah, blah, blah. And, yeah, no,
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: being black in L.A., you learn quickly. They're like, could
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: you do that in another type of accent?
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: A blacker accent?
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: A blacker accent?
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: No doubt, no doubt. And, yeah. Yeah. They wanted, like,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: you know, we'd audition for certain types of films that
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: were very, like, we didn't grow up in that environment.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: And we'd have to be like, how do we act?
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: How do we act like we weren't in the suburbs, child?
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: We was in the suburbs. Like, I'm not going to
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: sit here and act like I'm doing anything other than
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: being in the suburbs. So that was hard. The pressure
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: of also just, I feel like with my parents, it
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: wasn't the pressure. I think it was more outside. The kids,
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: the bullying, the why do you do this and not that?
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: And why do you act a certain way? And so
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: I quickly had personal identity issues solely off that. But
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: realizing now that is sadly a very, very normal part
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: of being Black. There is no one way. And I
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: feel like I know so many people who have gone
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: through this. Every black girl I know who grew up
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: in a PWI has experienced stuff like that. And yeah,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: a lot of times it would just be like, I
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: also grew up a little bit on the chunkier side.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: So like, like beauty standards were not on my side.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Like the pressure of that, that was really, that's interesting.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: That's an interesting take too.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: Um, cause I also grew up in a predominantly white
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: area and I thought I was fat my whole life.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: The way I was sized medium for most of my
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: life and it didn't matter because these people were so rude.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: But it was real because I didn't see myself, you know,
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: a representation of myself at school. And so what you
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: saw was, you know, skinnier, you know, less curvaceous women.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: And so for the longest, I did think I was fat.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: And I don't know if I said it on camera,
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: but I used to sneak diet pills.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God. Okay, so we're talking about it. Because that, yeah.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: It's real.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: That is real. I remember when Flat Tummy T came out, child.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: Oh, Flat Tummy T. I remember that.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: I thought I had found the cure for cancer. I said, oh.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: Mind you, all these go-go BBLs, abs, sketching, all this stuff.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: Flat Tummy T.
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: Flat Tummy T.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: I said. how do I get my hands? You know,
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: I've done everything. I've done everything in the book to
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: lose weight. Like even now I'm on GLP ones. I'm
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: going to be so transparent solely because I've had so
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: much contra, not controversy, but like me and my weight,
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: it would always be like breakups, friendship, breakups, things that
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: brought me down to a spiral where I would lose
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: and I would gain so much and I would lose again.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: And I would be like, I just need it. one
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: size for at least a year. Like, I can't keep
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: doing that. And a lot of the stuff that I
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: did at the time was really unhealthy. And I would
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: never recommend someone to lose weight any way that I
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: lose weight. But if I'm going to be honest, like,
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: that's how I did it. So if you wanted that,
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I did gastric bypass. I had lost like 230 pounds. Wow, Tara. Yeah,
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: I'm not kidding. It was like a huge transformation. So
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: after the weight loss surgery... I went on the GOP
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: ones for a little bit and then went off them
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: for like a year because I was like, I feel
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: like I'm fine. The recent craze, I'm not going to lie,
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: brought me back into it solely because the culture right
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: now is in a weird shift. It's in a weird like,
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: like you have to be the most perfect you've ever
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: been right now, which is so weird because I don't
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: remember it being this in like 2016 when we were
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: all like Afrocentric, girl, your body is your tea, like
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: love yourself. And now it's like, If you ain't on
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: the needle, what are you doing? It's almost like you
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: have an easy way out. Why don't you use it?
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: And I'd be like, oh, stop.
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: Can I ask what made you decide to do the surgeries?
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I was reaching. So there was one time
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: we were at Disneyland and all my weight was usually
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: down here and towards my knees. I had knee surgery
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: when I was a kid. Mm-hmm. I could not walk
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: in that park for more than an hour without having
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: to like sit down and like actually massage. Wow. And
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: I was like, this actually, I feel like this is
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: going to be a problem. I feel like I won't
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: be able to walk soon.
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: I was about 340 pounds, I would say. And I
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: was like, here's what I could do. My sister, my
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: younger sister did it first. She's about 23, 24 now.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: And I literally seen her lose so much weight so
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: fast after the gastric. I was like, um... I kind
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: of want to do this solely because I know exercising
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: at the time was just painful.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: It's just really, really painful.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: I said, if I just had a little less weight,
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: this would be, now I work out all the time.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: Like the physical therapy part of it was really painful.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: So I kind of just was like, all right, this
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: is the stepping stone. We do that. We won't have
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: to worry about this anymore. That got carried out. And
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: so now we move on to this. It's like a
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: never ending thing. I feel like with also with like
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: plastic surgery, I've also had lipo and like breast lift
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: and all that stuff. That was for the sagginess. You
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: lose so much weight, girl. Stomach down there. Like I,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: in my head, I was like, I'm sorry, that's just
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: a no brainer.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: It doesn't have to in a way.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: And yeah, even now I like will have like body
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: dysmorphia problems, but it wasn't as horrible as it was before.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: I catch myself now. So I'll take a break. from
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: any type of anything that has to do with weight.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: I don't have a scale at my house. Good for you.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: My sister taught me that early.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: She's like, don't buy a scale.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: You are going to literally lose your mind.
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: Yes, good advice.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: The pressure of that was really kind of.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: Good advice. This is a good one. What pressure.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: What's a pressure you used to carry that you simply
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: will not carry anymore?
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: Ooh.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: Ooh. Um....
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: I like that question.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Take a moment.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: That's a really good question. It's a really good one.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: You know what's funny? The pressure of having good natural hair.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Let's dive into that.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: The whole concept of good hair is so colorist.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: It's so disgusting to me. I was in the natural
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: hair movement. I had everything. I'll take my wig off
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: right now. But I would not. But the thing is.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: But we welcome it if you want to.
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: I'm a lover of all black hair. Absolutely. I've gotten
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: in fights with girls over this because I'm like, If
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: a girl wants to go get a perm, go get
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: a perm. You got to experience the experience. I wouldn't
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: recommend it anymore. But go do what you want to
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: do with your hair and figure it out. You're not
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: less than because you, I don't know.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: Need some creamy crack. Yeah, because you're.
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: Wearing braids in the club. You're not any less attractive
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: or any less if you have an afro out in
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: the public. Like I just can't get behind that. And
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: so sometimes when I would have my afro out and
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it's not evenly picked. It's not
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: like it's not doing what it's supposed to do. I
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: got breakage, all these things. And I go, wait a minute.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: I'm making this up. Like there's no type of right
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: way to do some things. And I love hair. As
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: a Leo, hairs are everything. And so finally I was like,
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: let the girls just be. Like let them take care
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: of how they want to take care of their hair.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: And a lot of that was, you know, back then
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: they'd be like, ooh, your hair is so, you know.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: I would put a lot of conditioner and they'd be like,
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: it's jingy, it's ooh. And I have four Cs. It
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: would just poop. Like if I didn't oil it down,
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: it would just look to me insane. And I had
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: to let all that go because everyone was frying their
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: hair when I was trying to be more like, basically
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: trying to be more culturally in the space.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: So you're trying to fit into someone else's beauty standard.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, when I first got into Weave, that was the
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: best day of my life. Like, it was so fun.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: We have so many options and we can do them all.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: We can literally do whatever we want. We have options, absolutely.
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: That was a good one. Very good one. I think
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: the main takeaway before we go into the next category
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: is Love yourself. Accept yourself for who you are.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: It sounds cliche, but it's so true.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: But it's so true. I can't be more like.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: And be honest with yourself.
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: And be honest with yourself. I think it's very courageous
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: for you to sit here and talk about the surgeries
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: you've had.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: Yes. I talk about it.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: Yes. But I think it's, and what Tamara was saying,
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: it's freeing to other people as well, including yourself. So
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: someone will listen and be like, oh, she got up
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: here and she talked about this and her weight and
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: her struggles and her hair. I also have the same struggles.
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: So it's humanizing your experiences, even though you are Terry Crews' daughter,
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: it still is highlighting the fact that you have very
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: human-like experiences that everybody else Experiences, which is great. I'm
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: so glad. It's great. Because somebody might need the surgery
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: and just like not be on the fence. And they
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: can literally hear you and be like, you know what?
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: I'm going to move forward with it.
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: That's why I wanted to get your reasoning behind doing it.
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: Because a lot of people are just like they might
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: be on the fence.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: And it's really important for people to share their testimony.
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: I appreciate that. At least one person is going to
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: take something away from it. And that's all that matters.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: I really hope so. Yes, they will. In any type
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: of way.
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: Well, we kind of, I keep flipping it. I love
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: how she's like, I didn't see nothing. I love it.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: She said, I didn't see nothing.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: That's how you play.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: Let's hot take.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Hot take.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: I'm actually really excited for this. Hot takes are our favorite.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: So we're going to play with you. So we'll give
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: you some hot take statements. We have hot takes. This
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: is fun. And you're either going to agree, disagree, or
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: it's complicated. Samara and I will play.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: And then we'll have.
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: You explain your answer to your hot take.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: Let me get our hot takes.
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah. Okay. Let me make sure.
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: Be long.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: Let me see which one I want to do.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: This is so awesome.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: I'm loving this.
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: I'm going to do like three. Okay.
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: Children of successful people don't have an excuse to fail. Ooh.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: Let me think on the wording of this.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: Say it again. Children of successful people do not have
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: an excuse to fail. Do we agree? Disagree?
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: I think that's in a way I'm leaning more towards disagree.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: But complicated in a sense of.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: I can say it's complicated too.
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: In the sense of. I'm just gonna say it. These
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: white kids have it so easy. I'm not gonna, here's
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: the thing. It's not always like this. I'm not gonna
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: sit here and say that everybody has the same way
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: of going about things. It could be like you're a
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: music producer's daughter or a athlete's daughter or a celebrity's daughter.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: There are so many ways in which you could be
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: led into the industry, but if you're not in that field... That,
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know how they could really help you. I've
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: seen this before. I was just on a video where
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: we had to guess who was the nepo baby or
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: not in the group. And this guy does journalism and stuff,
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: but his parents are in TV and acting. And they
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: were like, yeah, they didn't help me get the job,
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: but that's what they do. So I don't know if
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: you could call me a nepo baby in that way.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: And I was like, that's so interesting. Because, yeah, they
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: didn't use nepotism to get where they got. But they're
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: successful in their field solely because people know him as
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: a son of this.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: Interesting.
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: So he was like, yeah, no, I didn't get any
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: help in that because I didn't know anyone in that field.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: This is just what I wanted to do. But he
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: got a leg up solely because of the status in
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: a way. Like they kind of, after a while, were like, oh,
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: we didn't know you had this going on. Let's kind
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: of rev you up. Interesting. Okay.
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: It's an interesting take.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I think that's complicated in a way.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: I say it's complicated because for the longest time, I
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: didn't give myself permission to fail because I always felt
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: like I didn't have the rights or space to fail
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: because people knew who my father was. And so I
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: think it really came from myself because I'm like, If
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: I don't succeed in life, people are going to look
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: and be like, well, girl.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: You had... Okay, so boom, yes.
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? So I think that's... But
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: I know when I'm like reading this, children of successful
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: people don't have an excuse to fail. I already know
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: that's not true because everyone's path is different and you
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: don't know what's going to happen on your journey.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: But personally, as.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: I internalize that, it's hard for me to say that
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: I have an excuse to fail when I know.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: Just I can.
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: It's just like the foundation that I had with my
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: family and different positions that I've been put in because
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: of my my dad and my family and my upbringing
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: and my mind. I've internalized it as I don't have
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: an excuse to feel when I know it's not true.
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: That's not true. That's so, you know, but like it's
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: that's why I say it's complicated. I you know what
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: I mean?
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: What what are your.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: I think when I think of failure, like you failed
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: at what one thing. Like, overall failing.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: What does that look like? What does that mean?
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: That doesn't mean you failed in life.
• 51:21
  Speaker 3: You're absolutely right. I think the failure part is how
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: I look at failure. Because failing is forward to me.
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: That's great. Like, failing is great because now you know
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: what to do the next time. So it's not necessarily.
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: But also, like, you can't take away somebody's human experience
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: just because.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? I just don't, I don't
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: think that's, that's actually kind of crazy to do. Like
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: for any person, for any human being.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: When you think of failure, the point of failure is
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: to try again. It's to learn, yeah.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: So that does make sense.
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And. when you're putting it by society's standards, let's
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: say like my Twitter standards, everybody a failure, everybody gonna.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Be somebody who's a loser.
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: You are a loser. I mean, you can't do anything.
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: You can't do nothing to appease people.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: You can't do anything. And then there's other people like,
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: on Instagram, they're so happy-go-lucky for some reason. I don't
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: know what it is about them. Like, it's such a
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: different app.
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: They'll be like, oh, we can't wait to see what
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: you got going on. Or on TikTok, they're like, we
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: just love hearing you speak. I'm like, that's what I
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: had to do with speak?
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, I got this. Like, I, yeah, no. Sharing achievements
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: with certain types of people will make you feel like
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: a failure. But then in other ways, because with me,
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: a lot of times I was like, I don't know
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: if I even want to run a business or do
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: anything like that. But then when I started thinking about it,
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: I was like, that is something I would do. Like
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: basically with like my business with this, what's the tea?
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: I started off just being like, let me just show
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: a little bit of my life. I feel like a
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: lot of people don't even know what I do. We
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: used to have a reality show, The Family Cruise, and
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: it's been years. It's been years since people saw it.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: I used to love that show.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: So they would be like, oh, my God, we haven't
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: seen y'all in so long. And I'd be like, yeah,
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: here we go.
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: That's crazy that I forgot about that.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: And so, yeah, I turned that into like, yeah, I've
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: been here in L.A. for so long. I show you.
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: I club promoted.
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: I do this.
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: I used to be a host. So all these things now, like,
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: you can catch up with me on. So in that way,
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: I brought the failure of whatever I wanted to be
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: in the past up. I've been like, this is what
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: I've been up to. Currently.
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: Currently.
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: And some of the stuff you're not even really failing at.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: No, no.
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: It's not even actually a fail. The word fail, we
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: should change it to something else.
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: Again, it's lessons.
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: What have you accomplished? What have you gained from a
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: situation that didn't work out necessarily in your favor, but
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: you gained something from it? So that's the moral of
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: the story.
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: I love that. Okay.
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: That was a good hot take.
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: Let's do people are less sympathetic to your struggles when
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: they think you come from privilege. I agree with that.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I agree with that.
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: I will say most definitely yes.
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: And I don't want to come off stuck up either.
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: No, it's not.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: It's not.
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: I totally think so. Yeah.
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: I totally think so. Because I even with some other
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: nepo babies, I'm like, dang, I already know what they're
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: talking to their friends about right now. Like if they
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: were in some sort of like, it's always like maybe
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: like a relationship breakup or like, like they'll be like. Oh,
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: don't run away.
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: We're going to talk about your name.
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: Come back here.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: And the scrutiny, I can't.
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the toughest.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: It's a lot.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: That's the toughest. I say agree just even off of
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: my experiences with dad coaching and playing in the NBA
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: and fan bases. Yeah. You could be getting your leg
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: cut off and they'll be like, we don't care. You lost.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: Your daddy lost this game last night.
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: You could be delivering a child.
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: They'll be like, I hope that child comes with a
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: horrible thing. They do not care because they look at
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: it as if your family has money. So whatever struggles
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: or problems that you have, it's pennies. You'll get through it.
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: You'll be all right because your family has money. That's true.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: And it's reality.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: Not for everybody, but you do have people who just
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: will believe that. All right, last one before we get
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: into another token. LA nightlife is more about being seen
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: than actually having fun. Okay, the expert.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: The expert. That's me. Look, I came here flying too. Like,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: I really have nothing to say, but just to be like, Like,
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: especially when it's, like, L.A. specific, there's some places where
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: you go where you're just like, I know I'm going
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: to be hit on, so I got to look cute
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: and nice and all these things.
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: I know that's right, Tara. I know. She's got to
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: prepare the premeditated hair.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: No. I know.
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: I was just telling my friends.
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: I was like, if you want to have some fun,
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: you go to this place. You want to, if you
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: want to, like. be seen as like the life of
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: the party, or if you want to feel like you're
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: in someone's home, you go here.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: I didn't know there's layers or levels to this. There
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: are layers.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: I just went to this one little rinky-dink bar recently.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: Not rinky-dink. It is kind of popular, but it's more
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: like kind of like rock and roll or whatever. And
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, let me just go with my
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: friend and see what she's on. Girl, the way not
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: one person looked at me, I said, oh, I don't
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: like this. I don't like this feeling. It was one
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: of those really white bars. And I was like, I
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: don't know if I could ever do that again. You
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: know why? And I'm having fun. I'm having so much fun.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: There is a TikTok like this.
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: Wait, are you equating fun to being hit on? No,
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: a little bit.
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: She said that.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: And I'm sorry, I'm going to be so off.
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: No, but I love it though. Because if you have
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: at least one compliment throughout.
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: The night, you'll be like, waiter, another round for the girl.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: I know, period. I know that's right. I'm sorry.
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: Like, even if you don't get in on the whole night,
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: but you just feel the vibe is really good, amazing.
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, good.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: But even at that bar, the vibe was kind of whatever.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, this is cool. Y'all won't be
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: seeing me again.
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: Let's get our cosmos in. Let's enjoy the night. We'll
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: see the band, whatever. And yeah, I do equate having
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: fun to like a little bit of just a little
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: rendezvous-ness in a sense.
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: We love rendezvous-ness.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean like, yeah, it doesn't mean like go
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: home with a guy or anything. Yeah, yeah, no, for sure.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: It just is like, I like a little attention. I'm
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: a Leo. I love attention.
• 57:17
  Speaker 2: I was going to say, there's nothing wrong with getting
• 57:19
  Speaker 2: some attention, with being.
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: Just go to the gas station.
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: I was going to say, you can really go anywhere.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: If you really want, you know, me. You want me killed.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: I told my husband, I said, I get more compliments
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: from the men at the gas station than I do you.
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: And you can look any kind of way just to
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: go there. Excuse me. Excuse me. Excuse me. Look.
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: No. Can I plug your gas?
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: Really? Miss Lady.
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: I use that to my advantage. So even if, well,
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't recommend doing this, but it's like, even the
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: guys that give me the creeps, I'll be like, pay
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: for my drink. Like, I'll be mean. Like, it sounds mean,
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: but I'm like, you clearly don't understand my boundaries, so
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to understand yours. Like, I'm not going to, like,
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: entertain this as a regular conversation because you clearly are
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: just being crazy. Oh, my God.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious. Those are good.
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: That's a whole other conversation. Really, really good. Those are good.
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: That was fun. All right, so let's pull another one.
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: We got a couple more.
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: Yes, please.
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: Gosh, our time has gone so fast. We have three.
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: Truth or dare? Yes. Okay, we're going to do.
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: One for the sake of time. Evan is over there
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: looking at me and I'm like, Evan, anyway, anyway.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: No, he's back there drinking machete.
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: He's just like, uh. Evan's like, I have showed this screen. Okay,
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: truth or dare? You can choose. Truth. I'll do truth.
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know what kind of dare we would do here.
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: No, we did dare last time.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: We did dare last time.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: Okay, have you ever used the Terry Crews name to
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: get in somewhere? Yes, girl.
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: Period. Very quick story. Tried to go into this hookah place.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: I guess there was a celebrity there. It was like
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: a private party. I said, oh, well, Terry Crews is inside.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: That's my dad. Like, da, da, da. They were like.
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: We know Terry Crews ain't in no hookah spot. He
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: would never be. He would never be. And I was like, look,
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: and I showed my Instagram. This is the one and
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: only time I've ever done that. So he was like, dang,
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: you really dead ass right now? That's crazy. And I
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, he's inside. He told me to meet
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: him in there. And he was like, OK. He literally
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: didn't even check my purse. I went inside. I said, idiots.
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: Good for you. You're like, no, you know Terry Crews.
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: Is not anywhere. Good for you. As you should.
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: You earned that.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: I did. I've never done that once before then.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: I don't see it as a problem. He's your dad.
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: I mean, why not?
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: He's your dad. Me and my mom use him all
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: the time. As you should. For, like, restaurant reservations. We'll
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: just put his name. Yeah.
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: Oh, and I'm sure they make sure. They'll be like,
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: is he around the corner?
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: He's parking.
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: He's parking.
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: Forever.
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: Kiss me.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: We'll just walk on through. We do.
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: Sparkling water, please. Sparkling water. Sparkling water. So funny.
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: She'll do a dare.
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: Let's give her one dare. Let's do a dare. Oh, no.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: I say we call him.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: Let's call him. Let's call him. Or she can do
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: his impression. Oh, the best Terry Crews dramatic facial expression?
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, I can do that one.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 2: Let's do that one. Let's do that one. Give us
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: your best impression.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, how you doing? Oh, so lovely
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: to see you. Oh, no. If he's in front of company...
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: He's the Terry Crews you would probably know about. But
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: at home, he's like, oh, hi, Terry. How are you? Oh,
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: it's so nice. He's like Kermit the Frog, like in
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: the way of like, he's like, oh, hi there. Oh,
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: that's so cute. And he's the one that will be
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: eating your food from the fridge that you saved for
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: the night before. Oh, no.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: Mr.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: Crews? I caught him one time. He said, oh.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: I could see him making that facial expression. If he
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: wasn't so big, I would fight him.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: He was eating my chips and guac from Chipotle.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: I said, the one thing, the one thing I told
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: you not to do. And he's going, and he still
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: continues slowly.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: Like, what you.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: Going to do about it? And I said.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: It's like, you can't fight me.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: Give me the food.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: He goes, I don't know about that. I don't know.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: I said, you owe me new Chippin' Guac. You have
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: the money. Give me the Chippin' Guac money. The $ 6
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: that I was to get the Chippin' Guac.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 3: So you guys had an Instagram where you took even
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: for the bag.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: You're like, oh, how much is the bag?
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: That was hilarious.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: $ 1, 300.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: $ 1, 300. And that one we also did in Martha's Vineyard.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: And that was my idea, too. All those TikToks are
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: usually me or Winnie, my little sister's idea, because we're like,
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: First of all, these are your sounds. Your actual sounds,
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: like we did the White Chicks one, we did all
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: those things. They're just currently going viral and he's over
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: here like, what are you gonna do? I'm like, use
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: your brain. We gotta do something. And I'll be in
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: his face like, what do you think? He'll be like.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't care.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: I love how.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: Daughters can get their dads in order. Just get it together.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: I love that. It's like, bro, you're hot right now.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: Get it together. No, we're going to do it after
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: we wrap. All right, we got two more.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, perfect. I'll just go.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: We definitely have to do it after we wrap.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: Hot takes again?
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: No, we didn't pull it last time then.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: No, we, okay. We already did. And career.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: Career, okay. So this is a time where we're going
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: to get to know what you're doing, how you got
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: into LA nightlife, what's the tea? So I guess my
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: first question is, how did you get into the LA
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: nightlife experience?
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, my friend was a bottle girl at this one
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: club called The Reserve in downtown LA, if you've ever been.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: She was like, girl, we need a promoter. I said,
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: why are you looking at me? I'm like, what does
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: that mean? She's like, oh, you sell tables, kind of
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: like we do, you just don't have to wear the outfits.
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: I said, that's actually a great idea. I'll think about it.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: Got interviewed, got hired on the spot. And I was
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: kind of bad at it at first. I didn't really
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: know how to market this club. They would just be like,
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: post a new story. So I would just post flyers
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: and flyers. Finally, I learned a way of getting people.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, I'm going to be there. I'm going
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: to make it a hosting. I'll be like, guys who've,
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: most times it'll be like, men who are thirsty will
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: be like, oh, I'll buy a bottle. If you're there
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: and bring your friends, like I'll buy a bottle. I said, bet.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: So now I'm almost like my time is now basically
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: with them. And I'll be like, oh yeah, like I'll
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: pour you champagne, whatever. Basically like bottle go from outside
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: the club in a sense. Like I'm just there to
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: look pretty and y'all have your fun. And then I leave.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: Like I don't. So I did that for years. And
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: then finally this guy asked me to do all these
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: other clubs and He was just a sleazeball. And I
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: just remember doing this for so long. He wouldn't pay
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: me on time or at all. And then he would
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: try to pay me in dinners and stuff. I said,
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to go on dates with you. I'm
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 1: not trying to do any of that. Slowly but surely
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 1: it was taking a toll on my body. You can't
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: drink every day. Like you can't do that. So I
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: quit and I was like, I'm not doing this again.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: This is just like detrimental to my health and my body. Finally,
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: after surgery, like, after my lipo and stuff, they were like, Tara,
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: would you like to, like, host a couple things? And
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: these were, like, girl DJs and, like, really fun girls
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: that I already knew from the town.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, why not?
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: Like, let's do a bunch of stuff. Finally kind of
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: got back into it, and I started hosting, and they
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: actually paid me what I was worth. Oh, wow. Charge
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: the girls, LA girls. They know what they're doing. That
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: was basically how I kind of got back into What's
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 1: the Tea? Because I was like, I'm already going out
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: on a weekend. Why don't I just film... the most poppin'
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: places in LA on the weekend. And that's kind of
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: how it started. And I started doing that and I
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: was like, dad, do you want to be in some
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: funny stuff? And it turned into that. It turned into
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: me traveling with him. It turned into the whole family. Like,
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: I'll show my store that I work at. Like, all
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: these things. It's not just really one thing anymore. It's
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: very much like, I'm going to do interviews with people soon. So,
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: and they'll turn into events of my own. Like, my
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: own actual What's the T branded events. Okay. So, you
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: guys will be the first to be in the podcast. Yeah!
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: I want you to get an exclusive.
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: Love it.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: Okay. Is there ever, did you have a moment before
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: you started What's the Tea where you're like, oh, I
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: wish I would have documented or like filmed this experience
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 2: that you had at a club or, I guess, or
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 2: I guess the other question is, what's the craziest experience
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: that you've had at the club or your night out?
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: You know what it is? It's more of like awareness
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: for women. Like for that, it's more like, They need
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: to fire that security guard because he's too handily with people.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: Or it's like, clearly that girl is too drunk. They
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: need to get her out of here. I'm almost doing
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: reconnaissance for the club. I'm like, y'all are not paying attention, really.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always on alert for stuff. That's
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: my ADD. but it's more of like, if I film this,
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: y'all would be out of here. Like y'all are cool.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: Y'all are this close. Wow. I know, like I would
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: know how to run something better in my head. I'm like,
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: I could do that. Y'all don't know how to do anything.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: These security guards don't do anything, but be big and
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: bad and don't do nothing. It's a lot of that.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: It's more of like, I almost want to call this out,
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: but my platform, my platform is so big. I don't
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: want to abuse that. So I'm like, I do word
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: of mouth. I'll be like, don't go here. Don't do that.
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: Don't interact with that person. Interesting. Like, I could really
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: shut stuff down, but I don't.
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 2: That's so fascinating, though.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: It's really so interesting.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: So, would you own a club? Like, is that something
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: you would actually do?
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: That was my first... kind of business proposal was like
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: owning one. But then I was like, that is so expensive.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: And most of them fail and it's LA. Our nightlife
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: can be. Kind of like hot and cold, I guess.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: So now it's like, if you tell people you want
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: to host an event at their space, it is easier.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: You get kind of like half from the bar, half
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: from the food. And kind of make it work. And
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: you just build your way up until you get your
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: own space. I feel like that's just easier in a way.
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: I'm a first-time business owner. I wouldn't know.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: Good for you, sis. Thank you, thank you.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: It's LLC. What's the T is yes in LLC. Oh,
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: that's awesome.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 2: So where do you see yourself? What's the T, let's say,
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 2: a year, five years from now? What are you hoping
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 2: this becomes for you and your brand?
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: I want it to be coastal. I want a what's
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: the T New York? What's the T Miami? What's the T...
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: Washington state, like stuff like that. And then eventually be
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: able to kind of like a, almost like an everyday people,
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: like stuff like that. Like you want, I want to
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 1: be able to be like, y'all come down here, pay
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: the $ 20 ticket. Like food will be there. Everything, everything
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: will be taken care of. I just want that camaraderie
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: for sure. And also, yeah.
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: I love the concept.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: Doing the interview. Like, what you're doing now. I'm very inspired.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 1: I already told you this before. Oh, thank you. I'm very,
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: very inspired. You guys are like incredible hosts.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: Seriously. I'm so honored to be here. I'm happily spending
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: this day with you guys.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: Seriously.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you.
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: It means a lot. It really does.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 1: Of course.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 2: It means a lot. Because, you know, you... You're someone who,
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: it seems like you naturally like people to be together
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: and have a good time. So when I'm thinking about
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: what's the tea and just who you are in the
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: nightlife space, I'm like, that's so... It's fitting for Tara because...
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: She just likes people to have a good time and
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 2: come together. And be happy.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: And be happy. Yeah.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: And so it makes sense. And it's very fitting for you.
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: And I'm excited to see where What's the Tea takes you.
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: And where this is going to go. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so excited to see where this is going
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: to go. Yeah, no, it's awesome. Thank you. It's so awesome.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: You have a beautiful spirit. And also, I see a
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 2: Born to the Game What's the Tea collab. That's what
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: I'm saying. I mean, we love a collab. That's what
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 2: I'm saying.
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: We love a collab.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you have such beautiful energy. And don't change it
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: for anyone, Tara. Please don't. You're fabulous. Do you interview?
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: Are you into that?
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: I bought the Digimikes, so it will be happening soon.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 2: I got mine too. We have to collab.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 2: You're phenomenal. You are phenomenal. Let me make sure.
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: Thank you, ladies.
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: So I guess... Your legacy? I think, yeah, I'm trying
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: to make sure that we... got, well, what's something you've
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 2: accomplished in nightlife that you're really proud of, but people
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: outside the world probably don't know about? That's a good one.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: Hmm. Oh, I always, this sounds so mundane. There are
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: girls in the bathroom, like waitresses in the bathroom that
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: help you. They'll give you deodorant. They'll deodorant. I make
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: sure everyone around me tips those women.
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 2: Oh, good for you.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 1: In my head, it's also like they're in there for
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: hours smelling y'all's doo-doo, making sure y'all fresh and everything.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: Like the least you could do is like $ 1, $ 2,
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: $ 3 something. I always make sure people are like, hey,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: you got any cash? I just want to give this girl.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: Or like if I have cash, I'll make up for it.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: And it's hard to like. In this space specifically, it
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: could be so seedy and so rude. A lot of
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: people are just so rude. I feel like with that,
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: just a little kindness throughout the day. Do your good deed.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: Something that could help another woman out in any way.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 2: So before we get into legacy, I want to ask you,
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: for someone who's found their passion and is trying to
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: build a real career and ascend in their industry, what's
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: the best advice you would give them?
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: Hmm. have your money in order don't start anything that
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: you cannot literally afford to pay out right now so
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: I did I got some help from my dad this
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: was like a birthday present so it was like he
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: put in for this business fund specifically and so I
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: haven't even I've rarely touched that money because I'm still
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: working on the logistics I don't want there to be
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: no type of any way we have to Pay for
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: something that's not necessary. Like, we are starting the smallest.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: Don't start too big.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: That's a great piece of advice.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, you really have to start from the bottom.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 2: Great advice.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: Like, even me in my head, I'm like, ah, but
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: I want it to be that. I'm going, yo. Simple, simple, simple, simple.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: Be in your room with the digi mics. Love it.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: With the girl. Love it. With anyone. Do your thing.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: Post it. Then. People will want to invest in you too.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: You don't have to use all your money on just
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: one thing. Like be smart about the finances first. Great advice.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 2: Great advice.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was great advice. Great advice.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 2: Let's pull your last token.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 2: And then the question is going to be about legacy.
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: And then we'll wrap.
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: Okay. Legacy period.
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 2: There we go. Oh my gosh. Yes.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: No, amazing.
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: In true Born to the Game fashion, we like to
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: end with asking you, what legacy do you want to
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: be remembered for? What legacy are you creating that you
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: would want to create?
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: I feel like my dad's legacy was also what I eventually...
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: What I'm doing and also just want to continue to
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: do is just make people smile and make sure that
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: my warmth is actually genuine. I don't ever want to
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  Speaker 1: make people feel like I'm fake with them or... doing
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  Speaker 1: anything just for my own benefit. I really do want
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  Speaker 1: to be able to entertain as well as get it right.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people can do a lot of things,
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  Speaker 1: but then it's messy everywhere else. I want to fine-tune
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  Speaker 1: everything to where it just flows perfectly. Basically, my legacy
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  Speaker 1: that I would love to leave for my future kids,
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  Speaker 1: like he did for me, is to be able to
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  Speaker 1: have businesses or careers that really fulfilled their passions. So
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  Speaker 1: what he did for me, I would love to do
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  Speaker 1: for other people. Beautiful. That would be amazing.
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  Speaker 2: About passing the torch.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Literally passing the torch legacy and for them to
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  Speaker 1: be like, wow, Tara did all that amazing stuff. I
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  Speaker 1: know I can do that. And she had less to
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  Speaker 1: work with.
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 2: It's such a selfless legacy. Yes, it is.
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  Speaker 1: Appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: And you are on your way.
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  Speaker 1: Amen.
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  Speaker 2: You're doing it. Amen. You're doing it, girl.
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  Speaker 1: We're all moving on up. I'm very, very happy.
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  Speaker 2: Moved on up.
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  Speaker 1: Wisp the tea.
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  Speaker 2: Born to the game.
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  Speaker 1: Period.
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  Speaker 2: It's all happening.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Well, before we let you go, there's one last tradition
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  Speaker 2: here at Born to the Game.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Every guest who sits at this table leaves behind one
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  Speaker 2: question for the person who comes next without knowing who
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  Speaker 2: that person will be. Okay. So, before you leave yours,
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  Speaker 2: you will have to answer the question that our previous
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  Speaker 2: guest left you.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And then you will have an opportunity to leave a
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  Speaker 2: question for our next guest.
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  Speaker 1: Amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that fun?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 2: And the fun part is you don't know who's sitting next. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Of course.
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  Speaker 1: Of course.
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  Speaker 2: Right there.
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  Speaker 1: Wait. This is so cool.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: If you could drop everything right now, no consequences whatsoever.
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  Speaker 1: Who would you choose to be? Where would you go? Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's the first part. And then what's one thing you
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  Speaker 1: would do that you've always wanted to do? Wow. I
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  Speaker 1: have thought about this. If I could drop everything now,
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  Speaker 1: no consequences, this is going to sound embarrassing. I would
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  Speaker 1: be like a Vegas style mermaid.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: This is so funny. I grew up obsessed with Ariel
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  Speaker 1: and like mermaids and like performing and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: So like in my musical theater mind, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't it be amazing? I grew up, I bought this
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  Speaker 1: mermaid tail off eBay. My mom could tell you this.
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  Speaker 1: My dad could tell you this story too. I would
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  Speaker 1: go to the YMCA. I would go to every community
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  Speaker 1: pool ever and just swim with this tail in. And
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 1: every one of my friends wanted to use it. I
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: was the girl with the tail. Imagine horse girl, but tail.
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  Speaker 1: That's kind of the vibe I was giving.
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  Speaker 2: That's cool.
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  Speaker 1: I would be a Vegas-style mermaid down at an aquarium
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  Speaker 1: or something, living my life. But I can't because I
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  Speaker 1: have asthma, so I wouldn't be able to breathe.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we need you to survive.
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  Speaker 1: And, yeah, where would I go? Terror of the Mermaid.
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  Speaker 2: Terror of the Mermaid.
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  Speaker 1: That's really, like, that's everything to me. I love that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: where would I go? Probably, like, be in, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: be in, like, someone's, someone's a high-rise apartment in their
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  Speaker 1: little pool, like, for, I don't know if you've seen
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: those where they'll have, like, parties with, like, mermaids in
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  Speaker 1: the pool. I'm like, I would be.
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  Speaker 3: That's such a, like, a club, like, you know, experience.
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  Speaker 2: It is.
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  Speaker 1: That's so embarrassing to admit. If I had, like, no shame, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I would do that.
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  Speaker 2: That's cool.
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  Speaker 1: And what's one thing you would do that you've always
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: wanted to do? I would say to probably cosmetology school. Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: I can do some good hair. Like, I can do hair.
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  Speaker 1: I can't cornrow. So I think I would go to
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  Speaker 1: cosmetology school so I could finally learn. everything. I thought
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: about being a hair stylist at first and then I
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  Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm just lazy a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a little bit lazy in that area. It's not
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  Speaker 2: an easy job. You have to really love hair.
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  Speaker 1: You really do. I love hair more than like, my
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: friend is in cosmetology for nails right now and so
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: she's doing that. It's so good for her. I'm like,
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: if I had went to Hair school. What would I
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  Speaker 1: be like right now?
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  Speaker 2: Flourishing.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever you decide to do, you will kill it. I'm sure.
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  Speaker 1: That's amazing. So I get to write. Or I get
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  Speaker 1: to say it.
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  Speaker 2: I was going to say let's write. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Dang. Oh, this is cool.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that fun?
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  Speaker 1: I'm actually.
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  Speaker 2: Did you have a good time?
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  Speaker 1: This could be, honestly, the most I've ever sweated and
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  Speaker 1: the most I've ever smiled.
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  Speaker 2: This is so awesome. We had such a good time. No,
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  Speaker 2: we had a phenomenal time with you, Tara. That was fun.
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  Speaker 2: You were amazing. Again, we love good energy people. And
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 2: so sitting here with you, my cheeks, I have to
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 2: massage them after because I've been smiling. I feel like
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  Speaker 2: we were at brunch or something. Thank you to tuning
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  Speaker 2: in to today's episode of Born to the Game. I'm
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  Speaker 2: your host, Mariah. And I'm Tamara. And we can't wait
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  Speaker 2: to see you next time. Thank you so much. Make
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 2: sure to like, follow, subscribe, share. Tell your mama. Do
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  Speaker 2: all the things. And your cousins. Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: We love you. Bye. Bye.