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Why Do You See So Many Narcissists Nowadays? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Lee Hammock, your favorite narcissist favorite diagnosed
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  nurses here with another episode of Narcissist Code Y'all, why do
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  you see so many narcissists nowadays?
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  Why does it seem like you see narcissist everywhere?
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  Like everywhere you turn your little empathetic head, you see
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  a damn narcissist or you think you see a narcissist.
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  Like damn, is that a narcissist there?
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  Is that a narcissistic trait there?
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  Are you a narcissist? Is that a narcissist?
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  Am IA narcissist? What is going on here?
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  Y'all? That's what happened in today.
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  Y'all We're just talking about why it seems like there's so
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  many narcissists nowadays, like especially after you have see
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  after you have dealt with a narcissist.
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  Why does it seem like there's so many more out here like Lee, I
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  dealt with one. Now I think everybody's a
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  narcissist. I now I recognize the traits so
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  good. Now I don't know what to do I'm
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  but I'm feel like I'm going crazy right now.
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  This happens Y'all so auntie auntie sugar say I'm so scared
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  Yo. This is what happens right here.
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  There's something called the Badar mine off phenomenon or the
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  frequency illusion. You might have saw the thumbnail
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  said the frequency illusion. This happens when somebody say
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  I, somebody say I attract them. Yeah, we'll talk about that
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  later in a few seconds as well. But the frequency illusion or
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  like I said, the Badar Meinhof, like Badar Meinhof phenomenon
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  just means that you see more of something.
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  It seems like you see more of something because you've you,
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  you, it's, it's fresh in your mind.
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  It's kind of, it happens like this right here.
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  They just say I, I like Toyota Priuses, right?
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  I always wanted the Toyota Prius.
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  Like I've never driven one before.
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  I've never had one. But ever since I started looking
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  up on looking them up online, I see them everywhere.
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  It's like, damn, it's a Prius right here.
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  There's a Prius over there. I'm I'm on top of a Prius.
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  I'm parked beside the Prius, right?
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  I'm behind that Prius. It seems like you see them
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  everywhere, but they've always been there.
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  Those Priuses have always been there.
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  Now substitute the word Prius or the Priuses or whatever it is.
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  Substitute that for narcissist after you've seen a narcissist
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  up close and personal, after you've dealt with one, after you
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  had a kid with one been married, one been raised by one.
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  Once you wake up to what narcissism actually is or
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  pathological narcissist actually is, you're going to seemingly
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  see them everywhere. You're going to seemingly see
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  them literally every single place you turn around your,
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  your, your friends who you never thought, who who you never
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  suspected of being narcissistic. You're going to start to see
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  them. You're going to start like, damn
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  you, you kind of toxic. Damn, you know what I'm saying?
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  What's going on with you? You kind of you look, you look,
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  you're smidge toxic. You look, you got to look
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  Toxicity coming from you. I never knew.
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  I've never noticed that about you before of how toxic you
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  actually are. We've been friends for 20 years
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  and now I see you differently right now.
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  You see what I'm saying? That's literally the mentality
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  that so many people are going to go up against.
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  The frequency illusion is an absolute real thing.
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  You're not. You're not seeing more of it.
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  You just realizing it now. You just recognizing it's kind
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  of like the blindness have been taken off and you're hyper
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  vigilant. You're hyper focused on it now
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  because you've been traumatized by it.
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  You've been traumatized by this person, by your parent, by your
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  ex. So, yeah, just like Auntie Sugar
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  said, it can be so damn scary. It can because now you can be.
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  Because now you've been in a toxic relationship.
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  You survived this toxic relationship or you might still
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  be going through it right now. Now you think this, now you're
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  afraid you like that? Everybody's a narcissist now.
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  Damn, I there's no freedom here. I got usually there's nothing I
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  can do. Like everybody around me is a
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  narcissist. I'm gonna say I'm gonna stay my
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  happy ass in the house. My empathetic ass is going to
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  stay in the house right now because now I see it's just like
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  I'm seeing everything around me and everybody look and feel
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  toxic. What can I do?
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  You know what I mean? And that can make you feel like
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  you're that little. That can make you feel like
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  you're going crazy. Y'all, let's keep y'all know.
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  Y'all don't like to keep it hot and ready like a little season
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  piece over here that can make you feel like you're going crazy
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  and losing your mind. When you're dealing with
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  somebody like this or you're trying to survive, you're trying
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  to thrive. You're trying to find some type
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  of way, some way, shape or form to move forward because now you
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  feel stuck. You, you absolutely feel stuck.
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  Lady of Lust says, right. You're more aware of it now.
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  So now red flags won't get past you.
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  Yeah. Red flags won't get past you
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  because now it's like they it's like they raining from the sky.
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  They won't get past you. Now it's just like, is it, is it
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  raining? Is it really raining?
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  Red flags, I see them everywhere.
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  Is it has it always been like this?
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  It's kind of like matter of fact, it's kind of like y'all
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  y'all ever seen the movie The matrix, right?
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  I know most people have seen the movie The matrix.
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  If you haven't seen the matrix, stop the live right now.
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  Go watch the matrix just so you can come back and get this
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  analogy. I'm more the drop.
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  Did you leave? OK, now that everybody has left,
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  they hasn't seen the matrix. Literally Neo like when when
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  what you call it? Oh, what's his name?
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  When Morpheus sat down with Neo, he said take the red pill or the
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  blue pill. You take the blue pill, you go
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  back to sleep. You won't remember this this
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  it'll seem like a bad dream. You take the red pill, yo ass
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  going to wake up and you going to see everything for what it
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  is. You going to see the real world.
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  I look, I'm going to show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
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  I'm going to show your ass exactly how deep this rabbit
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  hole goes. Red or blue Neo say red Neo say
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  he took the red flag. You know, stuff that shit down
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  his throat. Now he woke up to in the Matrix
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  and he saw everything for what it is.
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  He started seeing the real world.
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  He started seeing everybody like everybody fake.
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  Damn. He woke up in the Matrix and
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  once you wake up in the Matrix, once you wake up to narcissism,
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  you cannot go back to sleep to it.
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  You can absolutely not go back to sleep once you wake up to
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  what's actually going on in the real world, you cannot go to
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  sleep to you cannot go back to sleep.
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  You can try. You can try to go back to sleep,
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  but you know, go back and watch them go back and watch the movie
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  The Matrix again. The one person who tried to go
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  back to sleep, he end up turning on everybody and getting his ass
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  cooked. He ended up getting killed.
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  I think his name was Cipher or something like that.
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  He end up dying, right, because he wanted to go back to sleep.
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  He got tired of seeing the narcissist everywhere.
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  He got tired of seeing the real world.
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  He's a man. This dude, I'm tired.
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  Damn, you know what I mean, You know what I'm saying?
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  I I'm tired. So it's just like once he
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  started knowing it, you can't go back to sleep.
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  It's you're damn near cooked, right?
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  You know, once you know, you absolutely know the red pill to
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  I'm going to show you just how deep the rabbit hole goes.
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  I'm going to show you, right. And this was going.
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  It's raining men. Instead of raining men, it's
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  raining red flags. Yeah.
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  And that what ends up happening. What's going on, Joey?
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  That ends up happening to so many people, y'all?
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  That's why I'm saying like you're seeing more of it.
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  It's not that you it's not that you're seeing more of it.
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  It's the fact that you're just you awake to it.
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  Now you've been awakened to it. Now you, you're woke, right?
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  So now that the fact that you're woke is very difficult or damn
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  near impossible to go back to sleep, you can't Unsee it.
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  And not being able to Unsee it can be a very frustrating
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  dynamic gal. It can be extremely frustrating
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  because now you can't Unsee what is going on, even though you
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  sometimes you want to go back to sleep.
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  I would. I never saw them for who they
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  are. Too bad.
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  Now you woke up to it. Now you can't go back to sleep.
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  You absolutely cannot do that and it doesn't work.
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  That doesn't help you. If you, you can try again, you
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  can try to go back to sleep, but it doesn't work at all.
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  So once you wake up to it's just like use this, use the hyper
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  vigilance, use the awareness to help you.
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  You know what I mean? Use the awareness in a situation
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  to help you. And it's sometimes you can use,
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  sometimes you can use the awareness to not only help you,
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  but to help other people as well.
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  Because it's important because like once you wake up to it,
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  once you're able to talk about it, once you're able to have
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  this different level of discernment and growth, it can
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  help you. It can help propel yourself to
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  the next level of helping people, assisting people and
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  just helping, assisting yourself because the hyper vigilance
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  doesn't go away. It can, right?
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  But once you start dating again or getting back out there in the
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  dating market or dating pool, whatever the case may be, the
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  red flag, you going to see the red flags, But now you can act
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  on them. Now they'll give you a red flag
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  to be like, look, hey, here, here's the red, here's, here's,
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  here's one of my red flags. You'll be like,
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  hell no, You see what I'm saying?
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  Nope. You'll be able to walk away
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  regardless of how attractive you think they are, regardless of
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  you know what I mean? The level of the, the lust, the
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  regardless of how, how hot they make you, right?
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  That's what happens. You're able to have a different
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  level of discernment, which helps protect you in the long
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  run. It really absolutely does.
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  Let that discernment be your protection.
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  You know, I'm too scared to get back out there.
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  Take your time. Take your time.
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  The fear dissipates over a while after a while, right?
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  But you have to take your time because the first person that
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  you have to trust when you're trying to date again is you when
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  you're trying to date again after narcissistic relationship.
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  So many people don't trust themselves like you.
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  Like well, my, my picker must be awful because I picked this
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  toxic narcissistic bastard. So I must be a horrible at
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  picking people, right? So I hear a lot of people say
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  that. So the first person that you
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  have to trust out there is you. You have to be able to trust
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  yourself to have that level of discernment, to use that hyper
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  vigilance, to use what you've been through in order to help
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  protect you and keep you from going it again, to keep you from
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  going through it again. You know what I mean?
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  That's what helps protect you. That's what helps guide you.
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  That's what helps going on. I keep getting commercials.
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  Do has has it broken up? I haven't seen that break up.
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  Well, they don't they don't come.
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  I'm on. I'm not even on YouTube.
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  I'm on like this psycho stream yard.
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  You're hyper vigilance goes through the roof for everyone.
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  Yeah, absolutely. You start seeing you start look,
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  you might start seeing red flags that are not even there, but
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  that doesn't have to look. That doesn't have to be a bad
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  thing. Seeing red flags doesn't have to
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  be in in other people doesn't have to be a bad thing because
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  you have to use your level of discernment.
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  Like, OK, I see this flag right here.
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  I see this person is this bad? You see what I'm saying?
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  Is this a real red flag or or is this my hyper vigilance?
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  Trust yourself. If you think it's a red flag,
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  dip, dip, dip. What's going on?
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  Scott Jackson dip the narcissistic experience fix my
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  picker. I fully trust myself.
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  There you go humility before honors.
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  There you go. It help.
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  It can help you out. It doesn't have to be a it
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  doesn't always have to be a negative thing.
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  It can be a positive at the end of the day to help us benefit
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  you greatly. You know what I mean?
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  This can be one of those positive things that helps you
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  Yeah, I had a it was time to go. It was time to go.
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  Being with y'all, I do have to hop off this thing.
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  Peace healing season is scary.