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Adults-Only Weddings · Podcast - Big 98.7

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Shall we step into the judgment zone. Let's do it. It's a tricky
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one. Okay. We have a bride on her hands who is set to
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get married. Now she's made the choice along with I trust her husband to
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not have kids at the wedding. That's kind of a thing right now.
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A lot of people are doing this, you see it a lot. However,
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she's running to a bit of an obstacle with her sister in law,
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and the sister in law has four kids, and now she is angry.
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She got the invite which made it very clear this is an adult's only wedding,
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and she's now upset, refusing to go because she says, if you
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don't want my kids at the wedding, then you don't want me there either,
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putting her foot down hard stance. Our bride here is a little concerned.
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She doesn't want to ruffle too many feathers amongst the family. However,
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she does still stand by the fact that she wants it to be an adult's
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only wedding. So she doesn't know what to do, whether to cave for
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the sister in law to open it up entirely to kids, or just stand
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firm. First of all, my opinion is it is your wedding, and
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of course you get to call the shots. But I also, totally from
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a person with kids, get it. Not that it's a burden, but
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sometimes it gets to be expensive. I don't know the wedding details, but
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let's just say that they're in the wedding or they're doing something, and are
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they're part of it. It gets to be a lot, and now you
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have to find somebody to watch your kids for however many days or whatever it
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ends up being. It gets to be a lot. So I get where
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it's like, hey, can we they're your nieces or nephews or whatever.
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Is it cool if we just bring them? Is that okay? One hundred
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percent hard? No, Okay, it's her wedding, it's her day.
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Cannot stress enough that it's just one hundred percent about her and her husband.
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You're the one who had the kids, she didn't. It's not her responsibility
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to accommodate you, to save you money. When you chose to have four
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kids, you know there's gonna be costs that come with that. And it's
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her wedding, So she gets one of them, okay, one. So
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it's to the fact that you're angry about it, Like go ahead, complain
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to your husband about it or whatever. You know what. I mean that
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that's fine, Like that's human nature, and I get the frustration. I
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totally do, Like, yeah, I can imagine that's expensive and you don't
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want his path to spend a bunch of money. But at the end of
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the day, it's her wedding. No, we have a message here from
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Sarah. She says, let them come to the ceremony and then they can
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leave after. Oh my god, kids at the ceremony, this just they're
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just running. They're just run running back and forth like no, So,
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I mean, this is coming from a lady who understand I'm talking about a
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reception. Yeah, I uh ended up having We had nine nieces and nephews
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all under the age I think of ten that stood up for us at our
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wedding with Nick and I, So we had all kids nine There were nine
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kids total for Snow White Horse. So I mean, I get it,
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Like we decided to have it all kids, all family. We wanted that,
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we wanted everybody special to be at our wedding. To be fair,
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it was both of our second wedding, so it was pretty just lax and
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low key and we didn't really okay, you know, have like the full
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on where some people, you know, it's black and white tot or black
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tie, black tie, white tie, whatever, and they wanted to be
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a little bit more fancy and they don't want kids. There's just so expensive.
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I get anxiety for this, mom. Okay, then don't go like
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I get, and you can stay home with the cather. You're the in
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law, Okay, then the one who's actually the relative, not saying in
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law's not relatives, you know what I'm saying. But if it's that big
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of a deal for you, just don't go, like arrange another date to
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spend time with the bride and grew that's your option, Like that'll go break
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it up. You'll never get forgiven for that ever. Good morning, Lisa.
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What you're thinking. I'm thinking that they could ask the bride to see
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if they can air it like online or something like on Facebook, a little
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live stream. Yeah that's a great idea. Yeah, and then if they
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can't, try to do some kind of compromise, maybe invite like the oldest
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kids with the compromising To me, I mean, that's just too far already.
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Now you're asking a bride to compromise her own wedding, which I just
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don't think is okay. Yeah, and I kind of going back to the
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live stream thing. I actually during COVID this became a thing for a lot
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of people where they would like put together a Facebook group and let somebody if
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they couldn't make it live stream their wedding. That is genius. Anybody could
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set a little live cam up these days, and having gone through it,
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I don't know, and this sounds terrible, but just send the gift.
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You're right a man to be honest about it. Do you really want to
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go anyway? Just don't go. Don't make it an issue for the bride.
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Just say sorry, we just can't afford a babysitter. We support you,
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we love you. We send the gift anyway, and obviously that's all
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bride cares about. So there we go. Everybody wins. Appreciate you,
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Lisa, thank you, you welcome. I have a good day. We've
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got a lot of texts over here. One says I'm a MoMA. Four.
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Definitely would never tell the bride that if my kids aren't welcome, then
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I'm not coming. It's their special day and if their perfect wedding is kid
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free, then their guests need to be respectful of that. We got another
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one, though. Weddings are a celebration of love and family. Families are
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there to support you, cherish them as you never know when they may not
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be here. Wow. Okay, then are you using emotion as a weapon,
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and then's not fair. A different take Tammy writing it on Facebook saying
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regarding no kids at this wedding, this is totally setting the stage for the
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future of their relationship. Interesting. Not looking good either way. I don't
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know about that, Damn. I know, because I don't know how the
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husband here feels. You know, obviously this is the bride thing. But
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that's what I wrote her back. I'm like, I'm dying to know if
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the husband's just like, Okay, honey, you just decide whatever. I
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don't care. I say, absolutely not. Just leave the kids at home,
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or you leave yourself at home. Usually the kids are the ones on
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the dance floor though, getting the party started. Okay, we can all
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go without your kids running around, Elsa and frozen. Okay, I know
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it's fine for them, like it a minute in the morning, big Naty
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eight point seven, Now you know, I don't have kids. I imagine
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though once you do, you kind of constantly go through this thought of am
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I doing a good job? Because every parent nobody's perfect? Of course not,
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so you just want to know. You know, a lot of times
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people compare themselves to other parents they see who maybe on Instagram, it looks
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like they're just killing it. So these are the signs, so that if
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you're at least doing these things, there's a good chance you're doing better than
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most parents. Ooh okay, right, a little report card for parents who
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it's easy. It is very easy to feel like kilty. Am I spending
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enough time? I mean every day? Should I have done this better?
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Well? Man, what's running through it? Because you got two kids yourself,
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right, Well, first one, you're willing to admit when you're wrong?
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Totally? Are you willing to admit that? Yeah? Really? Oh
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gosh, yeah, especially if I it's easy. Sometimes we are doing something
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the other day, I just kind of snapped and I'm like, oh my
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gosh, I'm so sorry you guys. Really. Yeah, it was just
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like one of those moments I was doing something and they were trying to get
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my attention, and I just kind of lost it. For a second,
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and Nick looked at me and I'm like, oh, my gosh, guys,
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I'm so sorry. That's amazing. That's really mature, because I feel
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like growing up, parents just think and I get it that they're just superior
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and there's no way your kid could ever prove you wrong or you know,
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they could never be right. You're the parent. So the fact that you
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can do that, I think is really good to me. Yeah or right,
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I'll apologize to make kids because I want them to acknowledge that you you
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should be doing that. We all make mistakes. Maybe bring that over into
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the workplace. Don't make mistakes. Yeah, perfection. Oh this kind of
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goes off what he just said. This is a sign that you're doing better
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than most parents. You don't lose your temper. It's it's hard. There's
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just those situations where you just they're testing you, and if you're in a
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headspace where you're just vulnerable and you take the bait, it's tough. My
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husband and I do have a We play off of each other pretty well where
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I can tell he's done yeah or I'm done, kind of like tag you're
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it. You go like just go walk out of the room. I'll handle
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it. Get somebody in there with like a fresh emotional tank. You know
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they're not like already boiling. Yeah, you don't lie to your kids.
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Another sign you're doing better than most parents. We talked about this yesterday.
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Man, I think you admitted that you little white lives here and there.
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For sure you know the parks closed even though the park doesn't have hours.
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Sure does, Sure does? Pie okus? Alright, I shouldn't be saying
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I don't know the kids are listening or not. Ye not wait for you
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to have You have a healthy relationship with technology, big one. Obviously.
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Recent survey found that most Americans check their phone in average of one hundred and
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forty four times a day. Amanda, I imagine you're on the over of
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that number and then number one. You're very punctual. This is number one
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thing. If you're doing this at least, it's a good sign you're probably
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doing better than most parents. Yeah, I'm almost weird. I'm always early.
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Yeah, you're one of those people where to be early. This's my
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football coach in high school. It's probably a military thing or something, but
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to be early is to be on time. To be on time is to
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be late. To be late is to be forgotten facts, and I feel
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like everybody should live by that. I don't know, like yesterday had a
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DMV appointment. It's like I'm not showing them fifteen minutes early do a DMB
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appointment. Sorry, I'm not putting myself through that. Hell, Okay,
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did you really are you making that up? It's pretty smooth sale in these
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days. I was there. It takes one person. I was in there
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not to get sidetracked here, but I go in there, and you're right,
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it was. There was very few people there, but there was one
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lady. I'm so intrigued by certain people's behavior, like how are you this
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way? So she comes in there, there's three of us in there.
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She starts loudly talking about you know something random. Right, It's like,
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lad, we don't want to engage, like you guys are all a team
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going together exactly? Yeah, Like now I'm part of this three man crew
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with an old guy. And then this lady I've never met. This is
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great. So then she goes on about how she wants it to be colder
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so she can bring her ice castle out. But it was a weird flex.
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It was like the whole reason was to just say, yeah, I've
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got an ice castle. Well maybe she just really wanted to engage in conversation
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instead of you just being there with your phone waiting for your number to be
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called. She wanted some social interaction. I'll tell you what. The other
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guy, the third guy in the crew, he was getting he was in
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the brunt of it. She was deite more talking to him because I think
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I was very clear about my disinterest. Not a big ice fisherman, you
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can tell. And he tried. He was engaged, like talking about fishing,
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and he was willing to have like a normal conversation where you both kind
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of share problem yesterday I was that problem. Sounds like a nice, fine
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lady listen, wanted to chat and you weren't having it. Moral of the
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story, This lady's got a nice castle, Okay. Taking Amanda in the
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morning seven, Amanda stills the sea. Let's see same. So. I
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don't know if you guys saw this or not, but Selena Gomez was knee
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deep in a little juicy gossip at the Golden Globes the other day and it
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was so great. So Taylor Swift is sitting at the table with her girlfriend
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and they're just having a girl talk, and then Selena Gomez pops over.
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I don't love Taylor's current hair, by the way, you know that doesn't
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matter. She doesn't care. This is my thought, kind of that old
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school is it? The bangs of them getting us very late? I hate
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to judge, but it's just it's just a lot going on. I get
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it. I like some of her other hair styles. Okay, I'm sure
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she hates my hair too, So what am I? Who am I to
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judge? Not a chance? All right? So Selena Gomez comes over and
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you can just look the look on her face, like, girls, I
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have got some hot gossip. So she bends down she's talking to Taylor.
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Taylor doves her like oh what face? Yeah, and then the girl next
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to her. What you can either hear is either her going seriously or she
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says Timothy Timothy as in Timithy Timothy Shalla May who is dating Kylie Jenner,
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and they were at a table kind of over there and they were kissing.
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So insiders are saying that Selena Gomez went over to Timothy and asked to take
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a picture, when apparently Kylie Jenner said no, you don't need to take
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a picture now with my man, You're not. Yeah, so who knows.
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Insiders are also saying those close to them like, no, Selena didn't
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even go over and talk to them, but there's something going on there either
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way. Just had me laughing because it could be about anybody. It's the
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fact that they were being that way typical girls see and Selena is solely anti
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drama in all you know, Instagram drama. But then yet here she is
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at the Golden Globe obably gosh, did you see it? Did you see
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this? This is what was going on? Oh Timothy, Oh, Timid
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Speaking of the Golden Globes, I know there were some really bad reviews,
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especially with the host, Joe Cooy. We'll talk about that in a second.
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But more people watched it then when it was on NBC. So for
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twenty eight years it was on NBC. They moved it over to CBS and
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they're saying they garnered fifty percent more viewers. It's got to be much like
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our family. I would have never watched it. It was right after football.
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We got distracted, and then all of a sudden it was on.
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Yeahs, I'm like, okay, that's probably I can't I don't know how
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many people I don't know any of them who just watch it on purpose.
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You're like, oh my gosh, the Golden Globes on tonight. There's also
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people saying it was the Taylor Swift effect once again, wondering af Travis Kelsey
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was going to be there, wondering what she was going to say, what
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she was going to do. Speaking of that, Joe Coy, who was
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the host, had to sit down because he wanted to explain the joke he
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made about Taylor Swift. And it's hilarious because he made a thousand bad jokes,
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this is the only one that people were talking about yesterday, maybe because
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it was so bad. Well, it was awkward, all right, and
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he obviously thought so too. The tailor one was just a little flat,
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and I just it was a weird joke, I guess, but it wasn't.
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It was more on the NFL, you know what I mean. I
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was trying to make fun of the NFL using cutaways and how you know,
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the Globes didn't have to do that, and so it was more of a
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jab towards the NFL, you know, But I don't think it just didn't
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come out that way. You know, which is a weird joke to make,
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because I mean, do we need to compare the NFL any NFL game
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rating versus the Golden Globes? No, I mean we don't. It's David
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and Goli. At what point do you think he just went Why did I
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say yes to this gig? Yeah? And I said it yesterday, like,
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I don't want to assume this guy's like unfunny because he's a comedian.
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He obviously got to where he is somehow totally so a lot of people are
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fans of his. Yeah, we got a couple of messages yesterday saying you
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have to watch his stand up, and they were disappointing because he didn't get
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to shine. Because there is a majority of people yesterday who went, who's
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this guy? He probably had to have been one of already this year the
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most googled person, Yeah, Coy Joe Koy. The only Koy I remember
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are the ones that were swimming at the lobby of the King House buffet before
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he closed Cooyfish. That wasn't an awesome experience. When he walked in the
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lobby downtown right into the king House, you had to use the right door
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because the left one said, use the other door. And there's a bunch
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of koyfish swimming. I mean that's what they're called, right, Koi?
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They are called Koi? Yep, some of them. You think there's any
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relation, you know, I'm not one hundred percent sure. Justin Timberlake he
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wiped his Instagram clean and now people are going, what's coming? Oh my
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gosh, that's kind of the new Hey, everybody pay attention to me.
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I've got something big? Yeah, boy, I sorry, what did you
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say? Justin Timberlake was playing. I was lost in my memories. He's
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not being coy. Jump out, jump out of the king House buffet and
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get back on the program here, okay, coy? I mean, are
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they just big goldfish? Give it a peek goldfish that they gave a bigger
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tank to so they could grow bigger. I don't know. I'm not up
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to date on my Koi knowledge. Are Koi just big? Anyway? There's
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two ways to look at this. Some people are thinking Justin Timberlake is about
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to make some sort of tour announcement, which is probably the case. Some
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people think he really is officially going to do an in sync tour. Not
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happening. I would be shocked if that happened. Yeah, it would be
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too. And then there's others who are still Britney fans going he just is
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deleting everything because of the backlash, which, guys, I hate to tell
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you that, but that was already so last year. Yeah. Well,
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here's an interesting thing, even more interesting than justin Timberlake wiping his instagram Queen.
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They truly are different animals, the koifish and goldfish. They both descended
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from varieties of Asian car but have grown into two distinct species. So no,
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they're not just big goldfish. Wow, I'm so glad I can go
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on with my day. Thank you for that. Got a miss king House,
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which the whole wiping your Instagram clean, it's just it's so unoriginal at
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this point. Everybody doesn't. I don't know. It's like his four hundredth
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tour. Are you ready? Because we saw him for was it the twenty
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twenty experience? Yeah, twenty fourteen or so? A long time ago?
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Ten years a man, he was it really that long ago? Yeah?
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The Fargo down, Yeah, I remember Jessica Biel was there. Remember she
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just had this like resting face and just was not happy. Well, you
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should see my wife at our bandsh You know, once you've seen it so
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many times, har Is again Amanda in the morning on Big seven Life.
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It's full of decisions, isn't it. Every day you make a lot of
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money, how many decisions a day? Think about it, but I don't
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want to. Arguably, no bigger decision in your life will be made than
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the one of who you're going to be with your partner. That's a big
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one for sure. Your career, the big decision. A lot of us
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probably regretting the path we decided to go down, because once you're so far
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down it it's kind of hard to go back. I mean back in the
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day, it used to be this is what you're going to school for,
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this is what you're doing, and this is your career for life. Now
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I feel like you can kind of side hustles. Those kind of things help
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a little bit for people when it comes to relationships. Side hustles aren't necessarily
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encouraged. But nope, nope, they are not. According to you,
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h it's a big study done by AOL Living. If you didn't know,
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let me throw you back here. You've got mail. It's a little nostalgia
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on Tuesday. So thirty five thousand women, there's a lot of women were
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surveyed, and a staggering fifty percent of them admit that they regret the person
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they married. Wow, Amanda, a quick one person survey, do you
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regret the person you married? No? I mean it took me three strikes.
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You're out of the old ball game, and I'm on the third.
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I'm on the third and I technically only was married one time before. But
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thank you for fun, thank you. Yes, people are going, hang
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on, we missed one. I'm just kidding. Say that their husband's personality
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was the first thing that attracted them. Okay, and it's still the thing
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that is most attractive about them. Ok what are we Yeah? Would you
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agree there? For sure, he's a handsome man. He's sure. It's
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not his good looks. Well, instantly it was the good looks. Then
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it was the personality and humor. Now here's the problem though, with these
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women who are saying they regret their husbands. More than half of them say
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that they're either bored in the old bedroom or they can't even remember the last
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time. And this is ladies, This is the ladies. That's actually really
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shocking to me. Because typically as a society, it's always the other way
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around. We're the ones that are tired, exhausted and all of that,
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and you guys are just ready to roar. Well. I mean it doesn't
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say the reason got it, But if you can't remember the last time,
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I'm guessing it's probably just a mutual thing where neither of you are all that
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interested. Yeah, you know what I mean, that's really sad. More
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than fifty percent of these women who are regretting their husband's choice say that they
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either wish their husband made more money or made more time for them. I
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guess that's fair to one or the other. You make more money of it
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to be happy because I can do everything without you, or you could make
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more time for me. Yeah, And I think that's in general, if
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you're going to be broke, you might as well be home. But I
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think if you're making more time for each other, and that is as a
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society and we've got to do that, it's easy to just, Oh,
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we were just talking yesterday to an anonymous person who you know, was going
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through issues of like their person that they've chosen not exactly there enough, you
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know. Yeah, And a lot of that's just the case and a lot
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of and it's a good reminder, you know, you do have to make
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a conscious effort to be around, spend time, quality time. And with
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marriage it's always going to be work. And I think it's so many times
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you go through those places where you don't want to put in the work because
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well, we've been together this long, it should just be this easy.
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It's not always that easy, you know, it's not. And like they
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say here, you know, most people don't believe in like, you know,
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fair details or soulmates. Basically, love it's about finding a person.
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And this is unbelievably deep, by the way, so buckle, hang on.
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Love is about finding a person and making the decision to stay with them
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no matter what. Okay, it's a choice. It's not something that involves
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fate. So it's work, Amanda, it is. But also, if
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you're in an unhealthy situation, it's okay to get out. Well yeah,
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I mean, that's just it. I just don't want people to feel like,
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hey, what at some point it's like, Okay, made the decision.
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It's like doomsday, isn't it. I mean, listen, how many
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people do you know right now who have been married for like, you know,
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fifty sixty like grandparents of ours? Yes, is that gonna be the
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case in fifty years? Because I feel like a lot of that is just
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them. There was no choice but to stay together, right, and now
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I feel like people are empowered to have that choice again. I feel like
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we're getting way too deep, are you know? I gotta throw like a
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silly horse sound effect into kind of even things out, like it Amnua in
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the morning on Big Nuddy eight points to you hear a lot of people in
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the workforce complaining about like their younger coworkers, you know. And we talked
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to a little bit yesterday who is the celebrity who was complaining about gen Z.
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It was Jody Foster basically saying that she can't stand gen Z at all.
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She hates working with them because they just are ridiculous, lazy, spelling
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errors on their resume and their emails, YadA, YadA. Well, there's
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actually research done on gen Z in the workforce and the things they're doing to
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not get hired. And so now this isn't this isn't every one of them
21:33
right. Like I said yesterday, I don't like to just blanket judge an
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entire generation. Of course. However, eight hundred hiring managers were surveyed and
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they said that they do lean toward older applicants over gen Z because they're just
21:47
not making a great impression gen Z. They said that half of them show
21:52
up in inappropriate attire for a job interview. I can see that, and
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that's also I think post COVID just a tire in general. Have you noticed
22:00
wherever you're going everything is just a little bit more laid back, but just
22:06
trends all of it. Last time I've seen anybody like for interviews. I
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mean, granted you would think that our job would be just as professional,
22:15
but wearing like a pantsuit, you know what I mean. I remember like
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having to dress up even going to I worked at as a hostess at Applebee's
22:22
and we worked at a shoe store in college. I remember dressing up.
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I mean it was like full pant suit, maybe a sweater, but you
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were always dressed to I guess interview, right, that's what we were taught.
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Anyway, I'm pretty sure I wore a tie to my interview at RB's.
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That's just it. I think most guys, yeah, yeah, absolutely,
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They said that this is amazing nearly twenty percent of gen Z even brought
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a parent to their job interview, like drop them off or brought them,
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brought them in. So let this will be fine. Hang on, so
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uh so, Pike, are here for a job today and I'm sorry,
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what do we have here? Who do you have here with you today?
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It's like what they asked at the hospital when you're with your family, who
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do you have here with you? So your son, thank your dad?
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Mom? Mom? What are you doing here? Oh well, I just
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wanted to make sure that everything I taught him all these years, he's you
23:19
know, put into work today. That is bizarre. At least pretend to
23:22
be their agent or something. No kidding, really quick, going back on
23:26
this. So my husband, that's one of his his job, like he
23:30
hires people and he will come home. I'm like, how did the interviewer
23:33
whatever go? And he is a stickler on it. He's like, well,
23:37
that person didn't have a tie on, they were dressed this way.
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He pays attention to that. Yeah, you know absolutely. I mean it
23:44
all means something like you you could be like the best candidate, but if
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you're not going to at least go that far to show it, you know,
23:51
yeah, or noticing how they respond to things, the way they text
23:55
follow up. I mean even just that following up with an email, like
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we're we just should be doing that, but that's a lost art and some
24:00
people just weren't raised that way. Yeah. They also said these hiring interviews
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hiring managers that gen z over half of them struggled to make eye contact during
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the interview. And they also ask for unreasonable compensation. Can I get the
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TikTok salary of that girl because she's showing her toes and she's making about one
24:21
mill so since I'm gonna be working here, I want about five hundred thousand
24:25
that would be great. And also the compensation thing, it's probably somewhere in
24:27
the middle, because I know, if you're like an older hiring manager and
24:30
you're used to the salaries of when you were growing up, like obviously you
24:33
know, you might be at the low end of the spectrum, like it's
24:34
unreasonable to them what you're offering. Okay, you can call me a boomer,
24:38
but I'm driving by some of these signs locally and I'm like eighteen dollars
24:42
an hour to work if there are you kidding me? We were making three
24:47
to four bucks. Yeah, but I just saw actually this morning, I
24:49
think a tweet or Facebook post or something, but basically says like the new
24:52
seven twenty five to eight dollars hiring ranges like the new eighteen to twenty five
24:57
dollars. I mean, just within flate and everything. It's true. I
25:00
get it. Like we all grew up thinking like six figures was just like
25:03
you've made it, like you're set. Yeah, I mean yeah, I
25:06
mean obviously Fargo's different with cost of living and whatnot. But you know,
25:08
like in a city, like in a bigger city, like that's one hunter
25:11
k San Francisco, you broke well and you used to be able to get
25:15
an apartment for three to four hundred dollars. Now it's thirteen to fourteen hundred
25:18
dollars. You know. So I get it. Man, I'm getting old.
25:22
We just sound like just ancient. I just really hope one day that
25:26
Sydney's like, hush, mom, I want to get this job. Will
25:30
you come with me, like get Amanda in the morning. Now here's what
25:34
you need to know. Well, this is awesome news. Tyler Roll won't
25:41
just be stinging on the Bison coaching staff ahead of the twenty twenty four season,
25:44
he'll be taking on even more responsibility within the program, head coach Tim
25:48
Paula Seks moving role to the associate head coach. I just feel like that's
25:52
for good vibes all around. Fuh oh, yeah, I lot good for
25:55
him. You know, Obviously a lot of people wanted, including the players,
25:57
wanted them to hire Tyler Role as a head coach. They didn't,
26:00
but I feel like this was just a way saying, you know, we
26:03
love you, we appreciate you. So here's this. I know it's not
26:06
a head coach, but it's an assistant head coach job. Yeah, which
26:08
I don't know what the you know, I really don't know how much more
26:11
he'll be doing. It's just a title. Probably I'm feeling good about it.
26:15
I feel good too. And you know, like I've said before,
26:17
I had a beer with Tyler Roll at a softball tournament once, and so
26:21
you know, we're friends for life, and I just really wish the best
26:22
friend. And remember we were talking about the Alaskan Airlines plane on Friday that
26:30
basically just had that entire not even just the window, the one side just
26:33
like blew out. If you were listening yesterday morning. We kept saying window,
26:38
but then we were corrected. So it was a whole door. Because
26:41
every article that I've been reading, for instance, this one people found two
26:45
phones that flew out of the missing window of an Alaskan AirLand. So you're
26:48
just thinking it's this little window. No, it was this whole side either
26:52
way, This iPhone that was found sixteen thousand feet, it flew all the
26:56
way to the ground and is working just fine, zero damage. Yet mine
27:00
falls off the toilet paper dispenser in our bathroom. Here it crackstall hack.
27:06
Now, let me ask you this, that's going to kill you if it
27:07
hits you, right, if that fell from sixteen thousand feet, that would
27:11
kill a man. Yeah, I think with some of the belongings and the
27:12
things that flew out, even just the door plug in general, imagine that
27:18
falling down and crashing you're driving in traffic in that hits Yet, that would
27:22
be a tough one to any time you lose somebody you love. Tough,
27:26
but phone falling from an airplane. I wouldn't be able to stomach that one.
27:30
Noo pretty lawsuit, I imagine that, Yeah, no kidding. Tiger
27:36
would announce his longtime partnership with Nike has ended after twenty seven years, and
27:41
I was, honestly, the shocking thing for me was how did he get
27:44
through all of those scandals because we forget about some of the things. I
27:47
mean remember the mistresses. Yeah, there was what twenty seven of those?
27:52
Well that we know about it, I mean it was crazy. And then
27:55
not at situation with his ex yeah, I mean there was that was hard.
28:00
That was her finding out on him, batching his car with a golf
28:03
club. Then the infamous all of a sudden you just drove off the road,
28:07
passed out and nobody's questioning how you passed out? And I got a
28:11
Tui before that. Like it's some somewhere in between. So you know,
28:15
he's at his struggles. But I feel like, you know, glad we
28:18
could forgive him and you know, be empathetic and he's a human too,
28:21
totally. But twenty seven years unscathed with Nike, that's incredible. I wonder
28:25
what prompted them to end it. I mean he's still golfing, but man,
28:27
he made a lot of money just from that one deal. If you
28:30
could be let me ask you this, if you could be the endorser of
28:33
one brand. What would it be? Was it Lulu Lemon Girl? Oh,
28:38
Lulu Athleta. I don't know. I'm trying to think. I'm just
28:42
not into the fashion game like I used to know. I don't know what
28:45
brand, whatever brand I buy from Coles, Mommy jammies, I don't know.
28:51
Dick what's the dick Dickies, Huskies? What am I thinking of?
28:59
Ranimal? I might be thinking of Dickies. Yeah, those nice pants.
29:03
Some Corduroys. No Dockers, Thank you, Doers. You're minding you two?
29:11
Oh gosh, Hickers, Dockers, Hickery, Dickery, docs and Amanda
29:15
in the morning on sign New Year's resolutions, how are they going? It
29:19
is January ninth, and if you're still going strong, congratulations. I kind
29:25
of feel like we just went away with New Year's resolutions, just you personally
29:27
or us as a whole, us as a hole. I just I don't
29:30
know. I don't hear many people saying like they have a clear cut one.
29:33
No, it's more of just, hey, these are some things I
29:37
want to work on. It's a clean slate, and I just want to
29:40
do better this year. Yep, that's always a good goal. Well,
29:42
if you do have a resolution you're already considering dropping it. A couple reminders
29:47
for you, okay, Like, for one, specifically on the weight lost
29:49
thing. Yep, they say that if you're hoping to lose weight, the
29:52
key is to make a pledge not to diet in the new year. And
29:55
you hear that a lot, right. It's all about creating a lifestyle chain
30:00
because diets you're never gonna be able to do forever. And just be realistic.
30:03
I think I was telling you about this. I've been working out a
30:06
little bit more and instead of just like diving in and I used to do
30:08
this all the time and I would make it eight days, I'm like,
30:12
oh, you just dive in, start working out like super super hard,
30:15
get heavyweights like I hurt, I hurt my back. Yeah, I can't
30:19
do this, so just baby step through it. I mean there's nothing wrong
30:22
with that, no, And yeah, like for me, I think if
30:26
I'm going to work out, I need to like lift hard and then do
30:29
you know, I could do like interval sprints on the treadmill, and that's
30:30
just like not sustainable because you hate it so much right away, especially so
30:34
just doing like going to the gym. Honestly, you don't even have to
30:38
do anything, just get your body, like in your mind, feeling that
30:42
sensation of going to the gym, putting your stuff on, being there,
30:45
and then once you're there a lot of times you'd be like, well,
30:48
what the heck, might as well do something. Wait a minute, so
30:49
hang on, are you saying like just actually you wouldn't go and work out,
30:53
you would just walk in. I'm not even kidding. I've done this
30:56
before, because I read it one time that just drive to the gym park.
31:02
You don't have to go in. Just tell yourself you don't have to
31:04
do a single thing, just go there. What More often than not you'll
31:08
find that, well, I'll just go inm just well yeah, because otherwise
31:11
you're just sitting there. Right. You could take a nap in your car
31:14
if you want. I've done that, But mentally it's so much easier for
31:17
you to digest or you know, the thought of going to run on a
31:19
treadmill and it sounds horrible, right, I'd rather do a million things.
31:23
Hear it's at a trick, they say on definitely are I have never heard
31:26
that before. I should be a be a die consultant for me either,
31:30
Like I got a diet. I know that long term, like you want
31:33
to create the lifestyle change, but that's not going to get me to lose
31:34
twenty pounds by March, you know. So you've got to diet for me
31:37
anyway to start and then transform that like sort of gradually create the lifestyle change,
31:44
you know. Yeah. Another thing about your New Year's resolution. If
31:45
you're thinking about giving it up, they say, just don't beat yourself up,
31:48
right, don't be hard on yourself. Yeah, obviously the stats are
31:52
staggering. Most people not going to even last through the month with their New
31:56
Year's resolution. I tell you what I did last year. I suppose I
31:57
wasn't here. I was gonna run a mile because I had a friend in
32:01
Florida who he's run a mile at least every day for like four and a
32:07
half years, really not one time as he skipped a day no matter what
32:10
vacation, sick, doesn't matter. And so I was like, what a
32:14
mile. I can do that, you know, no matter how out of
32:16
shape I am, I can run a mile. And so I started doing
32:19
it and it was awesome. So New Year's Day, I'm running a mile.
32:22
I'm like, this is how many other New year's days. So I
32:24
just lay in bed hung over it. So I'm running a mile. January
32:28
fifth comes around and starting to run a mile a little faster, feel better
32:30
about it. January tenth comes around, Amanda, and I'm just flying when
32:34
suddenly I stepped on the side of a sidewalk as I was almost home,
32:37
rolled my ankle. Swear to God, no, I never went to the
32:40
doctor, but I am almost sure I broke it. Ooh, and so
32:44
I'm laying on the sidewalk like almost in tears. Had to crawl home.
32:49
I mean it's like one hundred years you was serious. Literally had to crawl
32:52
home. And I couldn't even like barely walk for three months it couldn't run.
32:57
I was so frustrated. A real injury. Yeah, So I was
33:00
like into it and it's just how are you feeling now? How's that foot?
33:02
It still aches occasionally, I can still feel like if I run,
33:06
Yeah, it's like really And then I kept re rolling it and so it
33:08
would reinjerre itself. Jumped on a bike. That's where I have found myself
33:14
enjoying. We have a bike and I just my body like the older you
33:17
get, like I cannot run. I just need to get my body there
33:22
where. Maybe by this summer I'll feel a little bit better about running.
33:24
Yeah. Man, just getting old. I like kneeze all of it.
33:29
I'm like, geez, we got to go to an indoor track one day
33:31
and just do hundred yard sprints, you and me. I think I'd probably
33:35
use that protocol that you would mention. Just just sit in the drive or
33:37
in the parking lot.