Latest / Stuff Mom Never Told You / Happy Hour #116: What Happens On SMNTY, Stays On SMNTY
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- 0:05Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to stephone
- 0:07Speaker 1: Never Told You production of iHeart Radio, and welcome to
- 0:19Speaker 1: another edition of Happy Hour. As always, if you choose
- 0:23Speaker 1: to drink, do so responsibly. Do whatever you're doing responsibly. Yeah,
- 0:29Speaker 1: just joined us for this time, which actually, this is
- 0:32Speaker 1: gonna be an interesting episode around.
- 0:36Speaker 2: Well what are you siping out, Sabantha?
- 0:38Speaker 3: I am keeping it caffeinated over here and having some
- 0:42Speaker 3: iced coffee from yesterday's leftover coffee.
- 0:45Speaker 2: That's how I do Oh so you iced old.
- 0:49Speaker 3: That's how I do it, Okay, Yeah, Like I'm like,
- 0:54Speaker 3: I need to just go ahead and just put the
- 0:55Speaker 3: rest of it in the refrigerator for the following day.
- 0:57Speaker 3: Just make you how good creamer?
- 0:59Speaker 2: Yeah, the US, I'm very very jealous.
- 1:03Speaker 1: Although iced coffee it could all be in my head,
- 1:05Speaker 1: but I feel like it makes me much more caffeinated.
- 1:10Speaker 3: Really, is it because to drink it faster?
- 1:12Speaker 1: Possibly? Possibly? I mean a lot of that is honestly
- 1:16Speaker 1: in your head. Yeah, So it could just be I
- 1:18Speaker 1: don't have it as often, and when I have it,
- 1:20Speaker 1: I'm like, whoa.
- 1:21Speaker 3: I've offered it to you before, and you have had
- 1:24Speaker 3: a couple of times, but you tend to lean to.
- 1:27Speaker 2: The hot yeah.
- 1:29Speaker 1: Yeah, but I do love ice coffee though I did too. Well,
- 1:33Speaker 1: I'm drinking my red wine. It is a different red
- 1:35Speaker 1: wine because I went home for Mother's Day. What a
- 1:42Speaker 1: whirlwind that was, Like yesterday, it was it was recently.
- 1:45Speaker 1: My mom gave me some wine, so that's nice.
- 1:48Speaker 3: Yeah, I went home for Mother's Day. Not necessarily for
- 1:51Speaker 3: Mother's Day though, but for my niece who was graduating
- 1:54Speaker 3: high school this year. This is my final niece nephew
- 1:58Speaker 3: graduating and she's been doing drama for the past five years.
- 2:04Speaker 3: She's been doing it since before high school, and so
- 2:07Speaker 3: this was the last play she was in and I
- 2:09Speaker 3: had to go see it, and I made a mistake.
- 2:11Speaker 3: Went on the last day of the play, so that
- 2:14Speaker 3: means they were telling all the seniors goodbye, and she
- 2:17Speaker 3: happens to be a senior. So I was elongated for that,
- 2:20Speaker 3: as well as the fact it was a Mama Mia,
- 2:22Speaker 3: which is probably one of the plays that I hate
- 2:24Speaker 3: the most.
- 2:29Speaker 2: Wow, I've never heard about high school.
- 2:31Speaker 3: Doing men Just for a second, I know this is
- 2:35Speaker 3: your happy hour, Yeah, but apparently they did this play.
- 2:38Speaker 3: They did Chicago, and I'm sitting here going and they
- 2:41Speaker 3: are again. You know, if you've been following us for
- 2:45Speaker 3: a while that I come from a very very conservative
- 2:49Speaker 3: area and my high school was very conservative, and of
- 2:53Speaker 3: course there is still queer kids involved in drama, but
- 2:57Speaker 3: still they are still very much in a conservative area.
- 3:00Speaker 3: So Bram and Mia is all about this woman who's
- 3:03Speaker 3: slept around and didn't know who her baby daddy was,
- 3:06Speaker 3: which is not a big deal, but to have high
- 3:08Speaker 3: schoolers making jokes about it and pretentidly it's them, it
- 3:12Speaker 3: was so awkward, painfully awkward that I was like, what
- 3:18Speaker 3: is happening as I'm sitting by my parents, ultra conservative
- 3:22Speaker 3: and who was still having to go back and forth
- 3:24Speaker 3: about you know, LGBTQ plus rights with them, even though
- 3:28Speaker 3: five years ago they were accepting of it. Now they've
- 3:29Speaker 3: backtracked and we're talking about this conversation here and I'm like, yeah,
- 3:35Speaker 3: that's happening. My niece killed it though she I didn't
- 3:39Speaker 3: realize how well she could sing, but she can.
- 3:41Speaker 2: She hits the notes.
- 3:42Speaker 3: It was very proud of her. The rest of it
- 3:44Speaker 3: was really really painfully awkward.
- 3:49Speaker 2: From what I remember, it's a pretty long play.
- 3:51Speaker 3: It was two hours.
- 3:56Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad you.
- 4:00Speaker 1: Yeah, that's actually really interesting because I know I've talked
- 4:06Speaker 1: about her before, but.
- 4:09Speaker 2: I also came up.
- 4:10Speaker 1: I don't think my experience was nearly as conservative as yours,
- 4:12Speaker 1: but plenty of conservative people in my town, and one
- 4:16Speaker 1: of my best friend's moms was very conservative, And in fact,
- 4:19Speaker 1: she is the voice I hear in my head when
- 4:22Speaker 1: I think about, like what people will say about me
- 4:24Speaker 1: back in my hometown, like she is, it is her voice.
- 4:27Speaker 1: She's very very religious, but she loves Mama Mia, and
- 4:31Speaker 1: I've never really thought about that before.
- 4:33Speaker 3: My mother and my sister loved this play to the
- 4:37Speaker 3: point that I kind of forgot I had gifted them.
- 4:41Speaker 3: Took us to seat it at our Fox Theater, which
- 4:44Speaker 3: is like the big theater for any musicals and plays,
- 4:48Speaker 3: and I forgot this.
- 4:49Speaker 2: I was like, I was so poor.
- 4:50Speaker 3: I can't believe I was so kind enough really bad seats,
- 4:54Speaker 3: so I can't imagine they were good seats because they
- 4:57Speaker 3: loved the play so much. My mom really loves Abba,
- 5:01Speaker 3: so does my sister. I think my mom loves it
- 5:03Speaker 3: more because of my sister. But again, they are very
- 5:08Speaker 3: loose in what they sing about, and I'm very shocked
- 5:12Speaker 3: about that as well. I was like, y'all, like this,
- 5:14Speaker 3: what is this.
- 5:17Speaker 2: Interesting?
- 5:18Speaker 1: Well, listeners, if any of you have any insight, we
- 5:21Speaker 1: should come back and talk about.
- 5:22Speaker 3: That, because yeah, it's also talking about how this woman
- 5:25Speaker 3: hated marriage, which good on her. If it was just me,
- 5:29Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, but I was sitting next to people
- 5:31Speaker 3: who were absolutely not about that life.
- 5:34Speaker 1: Yeah, that's funny because so I recently traveled for the
- 5:38Speaker 1: first time, got on a plane for the first time
- 5:40Speaker 1: since twenty twenty, and there was like a huge family
- 5:45Speaker 1: that was sitting in front of me, and you know,
- 5:49Speaker 1: I know nothing about their politics, but they were watching
- 5:51Speaker 1: most of the children's movies and then the mom was
- 5:53Speaker 1: watching Mama Mia and it just.
- 5:56Speaker 3: Made me, well, you know, I guess maybe we did.
- 6:01Speaker 3: I don't think about it because again I don't have children.
- 6:03Speaker 3: And then I'm in there, I'm like, wait, this is odd.
- 6:05Speaker 3: Is Las Vegas a family friendly?
- 6:08Speaker 1: Uh, it's trying to be. It's trying to change its reputation.
- 6:12Speaker 2: Yes, in the.
- 6:13Speaker 1: City they've I think they've changed it though.
- 6:16Speaker 2: Oh yes, Okay, and there's a lot of really bad.
- 6:20Speaker 1: Like we saw a poster from like Gordon Ramsey's restaurant
- 6:24Speaker 1: and it said putting the sin in cuisine, and I
- 6:26Speaker 1: was like, oh, no, it doesn't work.
- 6:30Speaker 2: Is it just bad food? I don't know.
- 6:34Speaker 1: But so like I think, anyone from Vegas write in
- 6:38Speaker 1: and let us know. But I'm pretty sure it's not
- 6:40Speaker 1: what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas anymore. It's like,
- 6:42Speaker 1: what happens in Vegas can only happen in Vegas.
- 6:45Speaker 3: Is that true?
- 6:46Speaker 1: Though?
- 6:47Speaker 2: No.
- 6:48Speaker 1: I mean, there's definitely some unique things there, but it's
- 6:54Speaker 1: certainly more they're going.
- 6:56Speaker 2: For more family friendly.
- 6:57Speaker 1: A lot of hotels, okay, a lot of restaurants did
- 6:59Speaker 1: have no kids five and under that we were eating at,
- 7:02Speaker 1: but we were eating at nice places. It was a
- 7:04Speaker 1: work trip.
- 7:06Speaker 3: Yes, you got that fancy stuff, that's right, fancy treatment.
- 7:11Speaker 2: Kind of. I did get it.
- 7:16Speaker 1: I did get uh one free. I got a free
- 7:20Speaker 1: dessert and a free drink. Okay, okay, anyway, all right,
- 7:23Speaker 1: So for the other podcast we do Savor, we went
- 7:27Speaker 1: to Las Vegas. We're going to go apparently two more
- 7:31Speaker 1: times this year, and I'm just going to talk about
- 7:34Speaker 1: some of the some of the things that I felt
- 7:37Speaker 1: because you know, like I said, I haven't traveled in
- 7:39Speaker 1: so long, and it was weird. I just kind of
- 7:42Speaker 1: forgot how to do it. I was like in the
- 7:44Speaker 1: TSA line, and then that I forgot you had to
- 7:46Speaker 1: like take off your shoes and get out your laptop.
- 7:48Speaker 2: But then I still have TSA pre check for some reason,
- 7:51Speaker 2: so I didn't have to. But it was a big.
- 7:53Speaker 1: Scramble and then they're like, no, you don't need to
- 7:55Speaker 1: do that.
- 7:56Speaker 3: Oh no, Oh. I hate the prep though, Like you
- 8:01Speaker 3: don't know what to do and you're watching other people
- 8:02Speaker 3: to see what they do, and then if you don't
- 8:04Speaker 3: do it right, the person behind you, who knew all along,
- 8:07Speaker 3: just gets irritated.
- 8:08Speaker 1: Right, Yes, the like businessman that like huffs loudly behind you.
- 8:13Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and then like slams the state trade the
- 8:16Speaker 3: hell you move so he could get his tray on there,
- 8:18Speaker 3: And you're like, but give me a minute, sir.
- 8:22Speaker 1: People are a chance in the airport, yes, sometimes understandably.
- 8:25Speaker 1: It's other times I'm like, look, we're all in the
- 8:27Speaker 1: same situation here.
- 8:28Speaker 2: You can't go anywhere faster. Just calm down there, right.
- 8:45Speaker 1: But I think the thing I was going to talk
- 8:47Speaker 1: about most in this is something we've talked about before,
- 8:53Speaker 1: which is like when you have an X and there's
- 8:56Speaker 1: like the memories and a big part of your life
- 8:59Speaker 1: or something. Because I have actually been to Vegas more
- 9:01Speaker 1: than any city. I think that's not.
- 9:05Speaker 2: Like in the South.
- 9:06Speaker 1: Yeah. Yes, because he loved Vegas and he was pretty rich,
- 9:10Speaker 1: so we would go pretty regularly. Wow. Yeah, so like
- 9:17Speaker 1: I can't go there and not think.
- 9:19Speaker 2: About obviously, Yeah, yes, but it was.
- 9:23Speaker 1: It was funny because the first time I went, we
- 9:25Speaker 1: weren't dating, and I am, once again, a very oblivious person,
- 9:29Speaker 1: it seems when it comes to this.
- 9:31Speaker 2: And he invited me to Vegas and was like, oh,
- 9:33Speaker 2: I'll pay for it. You know, we'll go. I've never been.
- 9:36Speaker 3: Wait, you didn't know he was hitting on you when
- 9:38Speaker 3: he said I'll pay for your trip to Vegas. No, girl, Okay, okay.
- 9:45Speaker 1: It's so funny because one of the things I really
- 9:47Speaker 1: liked about him was he always he did really appreciate
- 9:52Speaker 1: that I was smart. Yeah, he did, so he would
- 9:55Speaker 1: like bring up in conversations like oh you used litigious,
- 9:58Speaker 1: just in regular talk. And and one time he accidentally
- 10:01Speaker 1: stepped on my sandal and I just took out my
- 10:03Speaker 1: hair tie and put it around the sandals. I could
- 10:05Speaker 1: keep walking. And he was so impressed. So I liked that,
- 10:08Speaker 1: but it is quite comical. Yes that I once man
- 10:12Speaker 1: in some ways and clearly oblivious I will stick with
- 10:16Speaker 1: in other ways. It was very like pretty Woman because
- 10:23Speaker 1: it was my first time in first class and I
- 10:25Speaker 1: was he did in first class?
- 10:28Speaker 3: Yes, Okay, this is starting to sound like a kay drama.
- 10:30Speaker 3: Did he'd buy clothes for you? I mean, what did
- 10:33Speaker 3: that go down?
- 10:34Speaker 1: To?
- 10:34Speaker 3: Know?
- 10:34Speaker 2: But what happened was so I I don't know.
- 10:40Speaker 1: I look back and I shake my head. It past me,
- 10:43Speaker 1: but I've never been to Vegas.
- 10:45Speaker 3: So none of your friends said anything to you either,
- 10:47Speaker 3: Like when you told them He's taking me to Vegas,
- 10:49Speaker 3: none of them were like what.
- 10:51Speaker 1: Well, in my defense and I know, I know, but
- 10:57Speaker 1: I oftentimes wanted to do exp things that my friends
- 11:02Speaker 1: couldn't afford, right, and I would never pressure them. And
- 11:05Speaker 1: it was also like not a huge deal. But that's
- 11:09Speaker 1: kind of how this started. Was he had money. He
- 11:11Speaker 1: was like, because I mentioned I wanted to go to
- 11:12Speaker 1: this nice restaurant, but no one will go with me
- 11:14Speaker 1: because it's expensive, and he was like, oh, I'll go
- 11:16Speaker 1: with you.
- 11:17Speaker 2: So it sort of became like a he would do
- 11:20Speaker 2: these and he I think he did. I don't know.
- 11:23Speaker 1: I don't know if he lied, but I think he
- 11:26Speaker 1: implied that he had a lot of and this is true.
- 11:30Speaker 2: He had a lot of.
- 11:30Speaker 1: Like sky miles and like you know, all those kind
- 11:34Speaker 1: of hotel award things.
- 11:36Speaker 3: That's a little different.
- 11:37Speaker 2: I'll give you that. I'll give you that. Yeah, thank you.
- 11:39Speaker 1: I mean it looks I have some things going for me.
- 11:46Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I get that. I showed up.
- 11:49Speaker 1: I showed up to this very nice hotel in Vegas
- 11:53Speaker 1: in cargo pants and a hoodie and a backpack and
- 11:59Speaker 1: was just clearly ruffled and like staring around like never
- 12:02Speaker 1: been here before. And the guy who was dating my
- 12:09Speaker 1: ex another thing I liked, Like, we definitely had our problems,
- 12:13Speaker 1: but he did. I made him really nervous. He forgot
- 12:16Speaker 1: my name when we were checking in. He just was like, oh,
- 12:20Speaker 1: it's it's and that hotel worker definitely thought I was
- 12:23Speaker 1: a sex worker.
- 12:26Speaker 3: Wait, how did he how did he forget your name?
- 12:29Speaker 2: He just panicked.
- 12:29Speaker 1: He just panicked and was like, ah, it's it's yeah.
- 12:36Speaker 3: Wow, that's a whole new one.
- 12:39Speaker 1: It was. Uh, But we had I mean, we had
- 12:42Speaker 1: a great time. And we again I didn't know we
- 12:46Speaker 1: were dating, but we had a great time.
- 12:47Speaker 2: And then once.
- 12:49Speaker 1: We started dating, we came back a lot, and it
- 12:52Speaker 1: was one of the most like telling oh, I've got
- 12:54Speaker 1: some trauma I need to work through his One time
- 12:57Speaker 1: when we were there, he invited friends of his he
- 13:00Speaker 1: out with us, and he asked me if he could
- 13:01Speaker 1: introduce me as his girlfriend. And I just started sobbing,
- 13:04Speaker 1: like like I was panicked, panicked about it because I
- 13:07Speaker 1: felt like, like I said, I feel like I can't.
- 13:10Speaker 1: I was worried I wouldn't be able to say no
- 13:12Speaker 1: right when I was in a relationship. And I don't
- 13:14Speaker 1: know that I knew the extent of it, but I
- 13:16Speaker 1: feel like that's where the panic was coming from, Like
- 13:18Speaker 1: if I get quote trapped in this relationship, yeah, I
- 13:22Speaker 1: won't feel like I can say no. But then I
- 13:24Speaker 1: felt so guilty after that that I just felt like
- 13:29Speaker 1: I owed him all of these truths of like deep
- 13:32Speaker 1: dark things and this is why, and this is why,
- 13:34Speaker 1: and I I don't know, I feel like I get
- 13:37Speaker 1: stuck in that a lot where I think I owe
- 13:39Speaker 1: it to someone to share things that maybe I am
- 13:44Speaker 1: not ready to share or to share. But that's one
- 13:47Speaker 1: of my most memorable Vegas Memories.
- 13:50Speaker 2: It was cool.
- 13:53Speaker 1: That I was kind of the tour guide because I
- 13:56Speaker 1: was there with our friend Lauren, who's the co host
- 13:59Speaker 1: of at Saber, and Andrew who was the host of
- 14:01Speaker 1: this once now not host producer and now as the
- 14:06Speaker 1: producer of Saver, and I because I've been to Vegas
- 14:08Speaker 1: so many times with my ex, I was like, well, well, here,
- 14:11Speaker 1: we got to go in here and look at this ceiling,
- 14:12Speaker 1: and we got to go in here and.
- 14:13Speaker 2: Look at this.
- 14:15Speaker 1: But then this is also something we've discussed before, because
- 14:18Speaker 1: it was a cool it. There's a podcast studio there,
- 14:22Speaker 1: it's in my ex's favorite hotel. Uh there, And I
- 14:27Speaker 1: wanted to take all these pictures and post it, but
- 14:29Speaker 1: then I knew it would feel kind of like it
- 14:31Speaker 1: was pointed towards him, which I guess it kind of
- 14:33Speaker 1: could have been, but because I never post on social media, so.
- 14:37Speaker 2: Yeah, huh.
- 14:40Speaker 1: I certainly did have a lot of moments of like
- 14:43Speaker 1: struggling around body image on this chip because I haven't
- 14:46Speaker 1: traveled in so long, and Vegas is very much a
- 14:49Speaker 1: city where you go and you wear the things for
- 14:51Speaker 1: a lot of people anyway that you feel like you
- 14:52Speaker 1: can't wear somewhere else. So I've worn a lot of
- 14:56Speaker 1: things that because I have low self esteem, I wouldn't
- 15:00Speaker 1: never wear anywhere else. But now that looking back, I'm like,
- 15:04Speaker 1: I can't do that right now, and you know I
- 15:07Speaker 1: can go up, up and down. There's something else I
- 15:11Speaker 1: ran into because conversations around my ex kit coming up
- 15:16Speaker 1: is that everyone and I get this, I'm not mad
- 15:18Speaker 1: about this, but everyone would be like, well, you'll find
- 15:20Speaker 1: a new boyfriend, like always, kind of assuming like you're
- 15:23Speaker 1: looking for love and you're looking for a dude always.
- 15:26Speaker 2: But I got that a lot of like.
- 15:28Speaker 1: Well this is the town you're gonna find a new
- 15:30Speaker 1: guide Like no, I'm.
- 15:33Speaker 2: Good, and then kind of the assuming of like.
- 15:39Speaker 1: How how sad it must be, how sad I must
- 15:44Speaker 1: be about it about not having someone, And also this
- 15:50Speaker 1: very much idea of like, well, you'll get over it
- 15:52Speaker 1: and you'll want someone soon, Like no, I don't think
- 15:55Speaker 1: so that was I mean, I had a great time
- 15:58Speaker 1: and we saw a lot, but Vegas is certainly a
- 16:00Speaker 1: city we could talk a lot about. I'm not going
- 16:02Speaker 1: to do it here, but you know, there are some
- 16:06Speaker 1: pretty sexist, some pretty racist slot machines the way kind
- 16:11Speaker 1: of the waitress system works there. It feels very kind
- 16:15Speaker 1: of like nineteen seventy sexes to me, at least what
- 16:19Speaker 1: I encountered. And then you do see like the cards
- 16:22Speaker 1: for sex workers are all over the place, which it
- 16:28Speaker 1: kind of just have people like throwing cards that you
- 16:31Speaker 1: when you're walking around. So, I mean, there's a lot
- 16:35Speaker 1: we could talk about that's going on in Vegas for sure,
- 16:40Speaker 1: for sure, but that was just kind of my my update.
- 16:45Speaker 2: I love it.
- 16:46Speaker 3: Yeah, Phil, I'm waiting for my invite, which hasn't happen
- 16:48Speaker 3: to get It's okay.
- 16:49Speaker 2: I feel like we should fitch it.
- 16:51Speaker 1: I mean, we just talked about a bunch of I'm
- 16:53Speaker 1: sure the company wouldn't love us talking about that.
- 16:56Speaker 3: I think we do is not necessarily like the highlight
- 16:59Speaker 3: of right, you should definitely come here. You're perfectly fine.
- 17:06Speaker 2: It's true.
- 17:06Speaker 1: We run into that a lot listeners, where we're like,
- 17:09Speaker 1: we'd have to talk about this thing.
- 17:12Speaker 3: If you really want us to be honest, we gotta
- 17:14Speaker 3: be we gotta be right. Bring this in too.
- 17:17Speaker 2: Maybe we can work an angle. I don't know.
- 17:24Speaker 1: Yes, Well, cheers to you for uh surviving your mom
- 17:30Speaker 1: and MIA experience.
- 17:31Speaker 3: Yeah, and cheers to you for trip number one. Yeah,
- 17:36Speaker 3: of savor go to Vegas.
- 17:38Speaker 1: Yes, I'm sure I'll have more updates.
- 17:42Speaker 2: Yes, and cheers to you listeners.
- 17:45Speaker 1: And yeah, if anyone's from Vegas or has any thoughts
- 17:47Speaker 1: about this, please write in, because I've really I mean,
- 17:50Speaker 1: I've stayed in kind of the strip and then I've
- 17:51Speaker 1: been to Old Vegas. I've done a lot of the
- 17:52Speaker 1: tourist stuff. I guess that's what I'm saying. But yeah,
- 17:55Speaker 1: I don't know a lot outside of that. So yes,
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