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Meaner to Moms · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mama's. Dear mama's.
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  Speaker 1: Our girls meaner to their mama's than dads are meaner.
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  Speaker 1: That's what the question is.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's.
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  Speaker 3: Alma mama.
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  Speaker 1: Enjoining us now we're American mama's train Edville and Kimberly Burlison. Huh.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not sure about this question. I'm trying to think
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  Speaker 1: about it because because my daughter has cutting insults for me,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's like so funny. She's she's very good.
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  Speaker 2: She's got her dad's quick wit, and she's.
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  Speaker 1: Got her dad's a cerbic tongue that he had when
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  Speaker 1: he was yes, or as my mother called it, the
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  Speaker 1: mother's curse.
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  Speaker 2: Did she say that I hope you have a child
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  Speaker 2: like yeah, I think we've all we've all heard that one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was. She was rather disappointed that my son
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  Speaker 1: was so sweet.
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  Speaker 3: He's so sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Okay too, so our mamas. Our girls meaner to their
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  Speaker 1: mamas than they are to their dads.
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  Speaker 3: I had an interesting observation happened last weekend. So now
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  Speaker 3: that I'm older and I've got young nieces and nephews
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  Speaker 3: that are still high school, college age, I'm in a
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  Speaker 3: whole different place of observing, okay and watching. So it's prom. Gracie,
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  Speaker 3: our youngest sister, Lindsay's daughter is going to prom. So
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  Speaker 3: I got to go where all the other schools. They
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  Speaker 3: all meet at the museum and they take pictures and
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  Speaker 3: that kind of thing. It was a very interesting thing
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  Speaker 3: to see these little girls snapping at their mother's like
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  Speaker 3: snapping at them. One didn't like her flowers. I told
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  Speaker 3: you you'd get those, you know, like that kind of thing.
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  Speaker 3: And then I even saw Gracie snap at her mom
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  Speaker 3: and she told her mom to chill, which Lindsay. Most
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  Speaker 3: of the moms were very like, oh, and one mom
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  Speaker 3: even cried because it hurt her feelings, not Lindsay. Lindsay said,
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  Speaker 3: excuse me, what did you just say? Everybody?
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  Speaker 2: Did?
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  Speaker 3: I just my daughter tell me to chill? And I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, here we go and Gracie's just walking
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  Speaker 3: ahead and she says to her friend Hayley, did Gracie
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  Speaker 3: just tell me to chill? I'm go, Lindsay Lindsay and
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  Speaker 3: she goes, oh no, no, no, no, no, no, that's not happening.
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  Speaker 3: So then a few minutes later, Chad. Her dad comes
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  Speaker 3: around and she goes, dad, will you come take a
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  Speaker 3: picture with me? And she gets over and takes a picture,
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  Speaker 3: but she doesn't ask Lindsay for a picture. So I'm
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  Speaker 3: watching this like, oh gosh, is Lindsay's feeling's hurt? You
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  Speaker 3: know how she being affected? So I said, Lindsay, I
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  Speaker 3: said that she just asked Chad for it. Do you
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  Speaker 3: want me to say something to her? And she went
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  Speaker 3: absolutely not. I don't care if she takes a picture.
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  Speaker 3: I am not hurt by this. She is this age,
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  Speaker 3: she's an idiot, she's not thinking. But I am not
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  Speaker 3: hurt by this.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, I know.
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  Speaker 2: But here's something to follow up on that. So on
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  Speaker 2: Mother's Day, you know, Linday's kids are getting cards and gifts,
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  Speaker 2: Grace wrote her a four page, beautiful love letter about
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  Speaker 2: all that she does. Okay, so this is my theory
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  Speaker 2: on this. Because we moms, we we do the bulk
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  Speaker 2: of those kinds of things. You know, we're we're gonna
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  Speaker 2: find the dress. We're gonna go shopping with you, We're
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  Speaker 2: gonna find the dress.
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  Speaker 1: Oh please.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you get to come home and say, okay, let's
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  Speaker 2: show your dad the dress. And he gets to be
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  Speaker 2: the Oh that's wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: That's a pretty short dress. I don't I don't think no, no,
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  Speaker 1: go back.
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  Speaker 2: So but if you notice there's a trend with brides
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  Speaker 2: and their mothers that has taken place somewhere. Did this
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  Speaker 2: with me? I've seen it now at all the weddings.
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  Speaker 2: But throughout the time that you are getting married, you'll
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  Speaker 2: have some conversations with your mom because she's the one
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  Speaker 2: that you get. She's your soft place to land, she's
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  Speaker 2: the one that can take it and just you know,
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  Speaker 2: you can beat them up with their ideas or whatever,
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  Speaker 2: say no, your idea is just stink so bad the
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  Speaker 2: or whatever. But then that night comes at all of
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  Speaker 2: the brides they take their bouquet, not all of them,
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  Speaker 2: but some of them they'll take the bouquet and they
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  Speaker 2: say words about their mother and how they couldn't be here,
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  Speaker 2: they couldn't have done any of this without their mother.
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  Speaker 2: So it's kind of like we're the ones that they
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  Speaker 2: can be their real sales with, but they will eventually.
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  Speaker 3: It's unconditionally they feel unconditionally loved. I was sharing this
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  Speaker 3: with Morgan the other day. That's my daughter in law,
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  Speaker 3: and she had a very different upbringing. And Morgan told
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  Speaker 3: me that she would go over to her friend's house
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  Speaker 3: and when the friend would be rude to her mom,
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  Speaker 3: it would make her cry. Morgan cry, right, she said,
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  Speaker 3: because she was so lucky to have a mother. I
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  Speaker 3: didn't have that, and so to see a friend be
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  Speaker 3: mean to the mom always hurt her. And she thought,
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  Speaker 3: why would you be mean to your mom? And it
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  Speaker 3: puts a lot things in perspective, just how special it
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  Speaker 3: is to be a mother, but also to have a mother.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and that was always a thing in our house
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  Speaker 1: because Wendy's mom passed away when we were we were seventeen,
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  Speaker 1: and so Wendy never you know, well one she and
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  Speaker 1: her mom were very very close. Wendy would not have
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  Speaker 1: been mean to her at prom, but she never got
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  Speaker 1: the chance to be mean to her at problem, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I mean. So with our kids, that stuff
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  Speaker 1: was simply not allowed, simply because you know, Wendy was
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  Speaker 1: able to say no, no, no, no. I never got
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  Speaker 1: that you are so lucky where you are right now,
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  Speaker 1: so don't do that to me. Yeah, and our kids
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  Speaker 1: picked up on that pretty quick.
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  Speaker 2: And it's also good to have a thought, to have
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  Speaker 2: your husband like ours would stick up like if the kid,
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  Speaker 2: any of my children back talk or whatever, immediately our
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  Speaker 2: husbands are like, hey, wait, no, no, no, no, You're not
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  Speaker 2: going to talk to your mother like that.
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  Speaker 1: The worst thing you could do is lie. The second
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  Speaker 1: worst thing you could do is disrespect your mom. That
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  Speaker 1: that that and if you did both at the same time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, the kids will grow up and appreciate that.
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  Speaker 2: You know, their father they got to see their father
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  Speaker 2: love and protect their mother in that way because they're
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  Speaker 2: just kids, you know, right right, they'll realize it later.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, if you'd like to ask our American
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  Speaker 1: mama's a question, please write so respectfully. Don't go to
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  Speaker 1: of Kimberly Brother listen. Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks