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A Holy and Homely Resolve (Psalm 101:2) | Charles Spurgeon · Reformed Thinking

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Welcome to Reform Thinking. So today we are doing a deep
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dive into what I can only describe as a really striking
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piece of source material. Oh, absolutely.
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It's it's incredibly heavy. Yeah, it is.
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We are looking at a specific message delivered by Charles
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Spurgeon. This is from September 18th,
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2025 and it's titled A Holy and Homely Resolve.
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Which is such a great title. Right, and the whole text really
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hinges on just one single verse, which is Psalm one O 1, verse 2.
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Yeah, just one verse. But I mean, to really catch the
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sheer force of what is happening here, you have to look at the
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immediate context. You really do.
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Because think about the expectation you bring to the
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whole concept of worship. Like I must say, worship.
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What do you think of? Usually, you know, volume a
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crowd. Yes, we anticipate volume.
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We picture this massive stadium concert scenario right Bright
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lights, a roaring crowd, the sheer Sonic force of thousands
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of voices just singing together in absolute unison.
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Yeah, that corporate public gathering, which is a glorious
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reality. It is, and that is the exact
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environment of Psalm 100. Right, the old hundreds.
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Yeah, it's famous across the globe.
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It literally commands us to make a joyful noise to enter the
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gates with Thanksgiving, you know, to sing loudly.
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But then you turn the page. Right.
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You turn to the very next song, Psalm 101, and it shifts with
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this sudden, almost jarring abruptness.
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It's like a completely different.
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World it really is. You step out of the stadium and
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the roaring music just stops. You walk through your own front
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door and suddenly you are looking at a landscape of dirty
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dishes, tired family members, and just endless mundane tasks.
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Yeah, the environment is quiet, it's ordinary, and it is
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entirely stripped of glamour. Completely, and the sequence of
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those two chapters placed right next to each other reveals a
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massive weighty truth. Which is what?
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That the highest form of praise is actually purity, and the
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sweetest music a human being can produce for God is a holy life
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lived out behind closed doors. Wow.
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Yeah, that abrupt transition from the public square to the
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private living room, it really grounds high theology and the
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grit of daily reality. It really does.
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And you know, to grasp the gravity of Psalm 101, we have to
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look at the specific author and the precise moment in history
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when he penned these words. Right, because context is
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everything. Exactly.
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I mean spot on. David wrote this at the precise
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moment he assumed regal authority over the United Nation
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of Israel. Which was not a quick process
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for him, no. Not at all.
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Consider the timeline here, because this was definitely not
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an overnight success story. David had been anointed 3
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separate times. Three times.
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Yeah, first as a young, totally forgotten shepherd boy in the
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quiet obscurity of his father Jesse's house.
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Right, just a kid among the sheep.
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Yeah, and then second years later at Hebron, where he was
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recognized as king, but, you know, only over the House of
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Judah. So it's a fraction of the
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Kingdom. Right.
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And finally, after another really long, bloody season of
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civil war, he was anointed at Hebron over the entire United.
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So I mean, visualize the psychological pressure cooker of
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this specific moment for oh it. Must have been intense.
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After decades of waiting, hiding in caves, literally dodging
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Spears and fighting relentless battles, the reins of government
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are finally firmly in his hands. The crown is finally on his
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head. Yeah.
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He possesses absolute authority. And what is his first deliberate
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action? He sits down to draft a
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calculated resolution regarding how he will manage his own
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private behavior. Which is just wild to me.
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The phrasing of that resolution demands our full attention, he
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states. I will behave myself wisely in a
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perfect way. Yeah, and Spurgeon points out
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what David specifically rejects in this moment.
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Right. What he doesn't say.
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Yeah, he does not say he will behave grandly, like mimicking
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the stately opulent sultans or shahs of the surrounding.
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Nations, no grand parades. No, he doesn't plan a
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magnificent theatrical display of majesty designed to, you
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know, awe the peasantry and terrify his rivals.
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And he also explicitly rejects the pursuit of unbridled
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pleasure. Yeah, he doesn't say he's going
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to have a married time, indulging every fleshly desire,
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holding horses, building a fleet of chariot.
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Or gathering singing men and singing women to entertain his
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every whim. Right.
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He rejects empty conceit and he rejects luxury.
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He chooses discreet, wise conduct.
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But I mean, I want to challenge this initial posture for a
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second. OK, let's hear it.
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Because if you look at human psychology right when a person
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finally reaches a massive milestone after years of intense
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suffering and deprivation, which is precisely what David endured
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in the wilderness. Oh, definitely.
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The most natural human reaction is the desire to enjoy the
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spoils. Of course it is.
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You know, you secure the massive promotion, you get the corner
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office, you secure the bag, and you just want to exhale and
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enjoy the comfort you earn. Yeah, you.
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Feel like you deserve it? Right.
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So why is David's immediate, almost severe pivot to strict
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self governance so unusual? Right.
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Well, it totally defies our baseline psychological impulses.
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Like you said, human nature inherently craves vindication
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and luxury following a season of severe deprivation.
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Yeah, but David's choice to prioritize wisdom over grandeur?
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It wasn't an exercise in ascetic piety, it was a tactical
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survival requirement. Survival requirement.
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Yeah, because the sheer danger of a foolish leader cannot be
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overstated. A foolish king is no ordinary
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fool. Why is that?
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Because a crown amplifies every single character flaw to a
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national scale. Oh wow, that makes a lot of
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sense. Yeah.
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And we see this precise dynamic play out in the subsequent
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generation with the utter disaster brought upon the Jewish
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nation by Rihoboam. OK, yeah, Rihoboam, let's unpack
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that. So Rihoboam inherited a wealthy,
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stable United Kingdom from his father, Solomon.
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He had it all handed to him. Totally.
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But unlike David, Rihoboam had no Crucible.
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He was raised in the opulent, shielded environment of a harem.
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Right. No suffering, no hiding in
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caves, right? So when he took the throne, he
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rejected the measured counsel of the elders and chose to act like
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a grand, untouched, touchable tyrant.
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Yeah, promising to rule with scorpions, I think is the phrase
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yes. And his lack of wisdom fractured
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the entire nation permanently. And David understood that
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dynamic intimately. He did.
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He also understood his volatile political reality.
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The descendants of the previous King Saul, along with various
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hostile factions led by men like Shimei.
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They were tracking his every single move.
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They were just lurking in the shadows.
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Waiting for him to slip up. Waiting for him to show a moment
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of weakness or corruption or tyrannical arrogance.
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Because if David gave himself over to wild parties or arrogant
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displays of power, he would hand his enemies the specific
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political ammunition they needed to delegitimize and destroy his
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reign. Precisely.
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Wisdom was his only shield. And applying this to you, the
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person listening right now, the parallels are pretty striking.
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Yeah, they really are. Because you might not be
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stepping into a monarchy in the ancient Near East, but you
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absolutely have a sphere of influence.
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Everyone does. Whether you are moving into your
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first apartment and managing your own space, or stepping into
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a management role at your company, or you know, starting
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life afresh after a devastating financial or relational set
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back. You are the leader of that
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specific domain. Exactly.
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You face a blank slate and David's deliberate, calculating
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choice to establish a baseline of wisdom rather than chasing
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conceit or immediate pleasure. It really stands as the ultimate
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blueprint for taking on new authority.
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It does, and Spurgeon applies this text with sweeping
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universality. Yeah, he doesn't.
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Just leave it for the Kings, right?
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This resolution is absolutely not reserved for royalty or
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heads of state. He applies it directly to the
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humblest waiting maid trying to honor God and her daily chores.
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Wow. He applies it to the tradesman
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facing fierce, sometimes underhanded market competition.
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And he intensely applies it to parents tasked with raising
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children. Because the stakes are
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universal, even if the visible scale of the domain is entirely
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different. Yeah, the stakes are the same.
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I want to pull an analogy directly from the source
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material here because I think it makes the concept of absolute
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ruin so tangible. OK.
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Yeah, go for it. Picture a humble fisherman,
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right? If that fisherman mismanages his
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tiny, unassuming little rowboat and it takes on water and sinks
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with him inside beside it, the ruin for him is total, total.
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Ruin. His loss is just as complete,
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just as devastating, as if the greatest steamship ever built
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plowed the waters and perished with its wealthy captain.
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Oh, that's a brilliant way to put it.
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A drowning man at the bottom of the ocean does not care whether
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he fell off a wooden skiff or a luxury ocean liner.
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The mathematics of the loss are identical.
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Right, because total ruin is total ruin.
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Yeah. And your life, regardless of
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your social grade, your income bracket, your vocation, it holds
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your entire cargo. Yes, your whole life is in that
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boat. Right.
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The scope of your daily responsibilities might seem
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insignificant to the outside world.
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I mean the corporate executive might scoff at the stay at home
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parents daily routine. Which happens all the time.
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It does, but your domain contains everything you possess.
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Consider the specific example of parenting mentioned in the text.
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Parenting is a great example. Raising a human being requires A
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staggering amount of tailored, specific wisdom.
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Think of a master gardener. Yeah, OK.
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A gardener does not treat every plant in the greenhouse
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identically. No, they'd all.
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Die right? One specific plant might require
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dry heat and sandy soil to thrive, while another fragile
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cutting needs constant moisture and heavy shade.
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Yeah, if the gardener applies a lazy, one-size-fits-all
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approach, they will destroy half the greenhouse.
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And parents are dealing with immortal souls.
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Yeah, the stakes are way higher than plants.
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They need immense wisdom to accurately judge, say, one
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child's highly sensitive, anxious disposition against
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another child's defiant, stubborn character.
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And they have to adjust their discipline, instruction and
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encouragement accordingly. And the source points out that
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even a household servant, a nanny or a babysitter holds
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massive influence. Oh massive.
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Their negligence, harshness, or even just careless words can
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warp a child's mind permanently. Because you cannot afford to
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mismanage your rowboat since the cargo is irreplaceable.
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Right. And that reality leads us
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directly to a highly stressful tension.
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What tension is that? Well, if the need for wisdom in
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managing our specific domain is that intense, how do we
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determine the wise path when we are staring down a tricky,
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highly complicated situation? Oh, right, because life is
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messy. Yeah.
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We constantly face ethical dilemmas where the right choice
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feels obscured by a thick fog. We look for the smartest angle,
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the best compromise. Right.
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And Spurgeon makes a claim here that cuts straight through that
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fog. He asserts that the perfect
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straight way is always the wisest.
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Way always but. Human beings are incredibly
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prone to looking at the path ahead, seeing a patch of Sharp
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Flintstones and deciding they need to veer off the straight
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Rd. Yeah, we hate pain.
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They look for a shortcut across what John Bunyan in the Pilgrims
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Progress vividly called by Path Meadow.
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Such a great literary. Reference They think they can
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just bypass the immediate pain, walk on the soft grass for a
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little while, and hop back on the main road later when
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conditions improve. But I need to push back on this
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heavily, because we have to put this in the context of the real
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world. OK, let's do it.
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Let's look at the modern workplace.
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You are a mid level manager. You have a mortgage.
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Your kids need healthcare. High stakes.
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Very high, and your boss calls you into the office and strongly
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hints or outright demands that you alter a quarterly earnings
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report just a fraction of a percent to make the numbers look
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slightly better for the shareholders.
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Oh wow, yeah. Taking the straight Rd. in that
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moment, refusing to compromise your integrity will likely cost
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you your job, your income, and potentially your reputation in
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that industry. It's terrifying.
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And Spurgeon mentions receiving letters daily from people
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begging for indulgence or theological loopholes for their
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specific painful dilemmas. They want an out.
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Yeah, how does the inflexible law of God interact with an
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elastic human conscience when survival is literally on the
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line? Well, the source material gives
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a blunt, uncompromising answer that really offends our modern
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sensibilities. And what is it?
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Straight ahead, the law of God grants no indulgences. 0 We love
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to flatter ourselves by imagining that our specific
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dilemma is uniquely complicated. Right.
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That requires a highly sophisticated, nuanced ethical
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compromise. We convince ourselves that God
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surely understands the nuance of our corporate environment.
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But Spurgeon argues that even if Prince Bismarck, a man famous
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across Europe for his far seeing eye and incredibly shrewd,
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calculating political maneuvering, if he offered you
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advice on your specific situation, he could offer
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nothing wiser than simply doing justice and speaking the truth.
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So that completely eliminates the excuse of strategic
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compromise completely. But you have to admit, the short
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term consequences of that truth telling can be absolutely
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devastating for a family. Oh, devastating In the short
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term, yes, but the implications of the alternative are far more
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severe. How so?
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Losing all your earthly property, losing your position,
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and facing temporary financial ruin by doing the right thing is
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a far better outcome than losing your soul, your peace, and your
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standing before God to acquire or maintain wealth.
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That's a heavy perspective. And look at the psychological
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reality of the shortcut. When people relax their
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integrity just a tiny fraction to please a corrupt boss or
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secure a lucrative deal, they think they're being incredibly
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clever. They think they're mastering the
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game. Right, but in reality they have
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just placed their neck in a noose.
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They end up with their nose to the grindstone for the rest of
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their lives, perpetually trap by that initial compromise.
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Because you can't just lie once. Exactly.
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They have to tell a second lie to cover the 1st and a third to
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cover the second. Suddenly they are living in a
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state of constant low grade terror, entirely owned by the
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person who knows their secret. The boss who forced you to cook
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the books now owns you, Yeah. Because they can expose you at
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any time. The straightway might have sharp
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flintstones that cut your feet to ribbons, but it keeps you out
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of the swamp where you will inevitably drown.
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The short term pain of honesty prevents the long term agony of
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a compromised captive conscience.
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It does. That is a weighty reality to
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carry into the office on Monday morning.
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Absolutely. Let's look back at David's
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phrase, because this introduces a massive theological component,
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he says. I will behave myself wisely.
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I will. Yeah, the words I will
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demonstrate A muscular, intense determination.
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But anyone who has ever tried to break a deeply ingrained bad
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habit knows that sheer human willpower depletes incredibly
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fast. Oh so fast.
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Maintaining absolute purity of thought and action for more than
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24 hours. Good luck.
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Right. This ironclad determination is
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coupled with a glaring lack of inherent human ability.
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It absolutely requires external divine grace.
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Without race, the I Will is just empty, arrogant, boasting.
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Yeah, and Spurgeon offers a severe critique of a character
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type he labels Mr. Talkative. Mr. Talkative, I love that name.
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It's perfect. This describes the staggering
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hypocrisy of individuals who loudly glory in the doctrines of
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free grace, who love to debate high theology, but who live
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wildly inconsistent, chaotic lives.
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We all know people like that. Yeah, he points out the tragic
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absurdity of individuals who seem to debate theology best
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when they are half drunk at a Tavern.
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Which is such an image. Right, he highlights those who
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loudly proclaim that human works mean nothing regarding salvation
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while simultaneously indulging in business lies, lewd jokes and
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vicious slander against their neighbors.
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It is a form of functional antinomianism that uses theology
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as a cloak for malice. That kind of hypocrisy causes
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incalculable damage to the witness of the Church.
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It does. Think about it like a fitness
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analogy. OK, imagine a guy walking around
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your city constantly boasting about having the most elite,
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exclusive gym membership in the entire state.
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OK, I can picture this guy. He wears all the branded gear,
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he carries the expensive electrolyte drinks, and he can
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quote the exact bio mechanics of a deadlift or the intricacies of
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muscle hypertrophy. He knows all the terminology.
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Every bit of it. But he never actually lifts a
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single weight. He never breaks a sweat.
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Meanwhile, his physical health is completely falling apart.
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His muscles are atrophying. Yeah, and everyone looking at
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him thinks if that is what your elite gym membership produces, I
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want absolutely nothing to do with that facility.
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That is exactly what the hypocrite does to the concept of
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grace. It repels people from the.
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Truth. It really does.
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True grace comes freely. It is a sovereign distinguishing
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gift from heaven that cannot be purchased or earned by any
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amount of humans driving. But when that grace actually
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takes root in the human heart, it alters the individual's
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baseline character. Yes, the source quotes the
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famous preacher Roland Hill on this.
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Oh, the quote about the pets. Yeah, NT Hill asserted that a
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person's religion is highly questionable if their cat and
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dog are not the better for it. Which sounds funny at first, but
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why the pets? Because animals only know how
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you treat them when you are entirely unobserved and
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unconstrained by social norms. Wow, that's incredibly
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convicting, right? If the grace of God has touched
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your soul, it destroys the tyranny of your ego.
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It makes a master gentler and more reasonable to his
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employees, realizing he also has a master in heaven.
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It makes the servant diligent and honest.
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It makes a tradesman scrupulous in his billing, refusing to
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overcharge even when he knows he could get away with it.
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And it makes a Workman less of an eye servant, which is a
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biblical concept referring to someone who only works hard when
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the supervisors eyes are actively watching them.
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True grace alters the invisible fabric of your daily
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interactions. So David makes this ironclad
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resolution to walk in this grace empowered wisdom.
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He sets the standard. But then, right in the middle of
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his grand, confident proclamation, he inserts a
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sudden, almost desperate, ejaculatory prayer.
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He cries out, Oh, when will thou come unto me?
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Yeah, and this feels completely out of place.
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It does. Why break the train of thought?
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Doesn't stopping to pray disrupt the momentum of such a strong
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commanding resolution? On the surface, it appears to be
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a disruption of of his workflow, right?
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But the source material provides vivid physical analogies to
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prove the precise opposite. Like what?
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Well, the text notes that kneeling never spoils silk
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stockings. That's a good one.
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Right, a scribe who halts his writing to mend and sharpen his
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quill pen is not losing time. He's making the writing better.
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Yeah, and a farmer mowing a massive field who pauses to wet
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and sharpen his is not delaying the harvest.
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Because if you think of the physics of that work, you can
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hack away at tall grass with a dull bleed for hours.
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Yeah, expending massive amounts of kinetic energy.
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Exhausting your muscles and achieving a terrible jagged cut.
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Or you can stop, pull out the whetstone, sharpen the blade,
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and slice through the field with minimal effort.
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In both cases, the worker is gaining the facility to execute
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the task properly. Prayer does not interrupt the
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work of holiness. It sharpens the instrument
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assigned to do the work. I love that image.
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We spend so much time hacking at our problems with dull spiritual
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blades, wondering why we are exhausted and seeing no
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progress. So this sudden prayer from David
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carries a specific twofold meaning.
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Let's break. Those down what's the first one?
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First, it is a desperate cry for immediate assistance.
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David is essentially saying, I want to be wise.
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I know the standard of purity I need to maintain, but I cannot
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act until you instruct me and empower me.
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My sheer willpower is entirely insufficient for this task.
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Right, it is a yearning for fellowship.
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The text explicitly notes that Communion is the mother of
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holiness. You cannot reflect the character
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of God if you spend absolutely zero time lingering in the
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presence of God. That's spot on, and the second
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meaning is a cry of awe and accountability.
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Accountability. Yes, it is the trembling
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realization that the Master is coming to ask for a strict
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account of the stewardship. It is the recognition that we do
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not own our lives, our time or our influence.
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We are merely managing them well, we're just managing them
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for the true owner. And an audit is imminent.
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That concept of a divine audit brings up a staggering
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historical reference from the text.
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Yes, the story of George Fox. Yeah, the early Quaker leader.
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As he lay on his deathbed, his final words to those gathered
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around him were I am clear. I am clear.
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I am clear. He was drawing on the biblical
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concept of the watchman on the wall.
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He meant that he had discharged his duty to preach the truth so
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faithfully, and lived so consistently that he was clear
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of the blood of all men. He held nothing back out of
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cowardice or laziness. So apply that standard to your
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own life. If God asked for your account
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today, could you look at your spheres of influence and say you
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are clear? That's a terrifying question.
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Are you clear regarding the souls of your children?
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Are you clear regarding the people who work under your
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management? Are you clear regarding the
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coworkers you see every single. Day.
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Or have you taken your influence, wrapped it in a rusty
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napkin, and buried it in the dirt because you were too afraid
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of social awkwardness or too lazy to invest it?
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It is a terrifying standard when you force yourself to genuinely
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meditate on it. And that reality of total
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accountability leads directly to the ultimate proving ground of a
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person's faith. Home.
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Yes, David narrows his focus all the way down from the vast
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Kingdom of Israel, past the courts, past the public square,
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directly into his own living. Room, he states.
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I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.
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The text references the prophet Elisha here.
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When Elisha faced a city with a poisoned water supply, he healed
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the foul, deadly currents by throwing salt directly into the
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springs. He didn't try to filter the
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water miles downstream. Right, he went to the source.
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The heart must be put right first because the home is where
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the heart is most nakedly visible.
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But I want to play devil's advocate here because the modern
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therapeutic mindset pushes back violently against this concept,
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OK? Lay it on me.
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Outside in the world, at the corporate office or in public
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social settings, we have to keep our guard up.
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Yeah, we all do it. We have to maintain a
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professional facade, carefully watch our words, monitor our
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tone and act a certain way simply to survive the friction
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of society. So the home should be a break
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from that, right? Isn't our home the one
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designated safe harbor where we should be allowed to just let
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our hair down, stop trying to be on all the time, and just be our
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raw selves without constant exhausting self censorship?
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Well, the source material entirely flips that modern
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assumption on its head. How so?
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It argues that precisely because you are untrammeled at home,
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because you are entirely free from the observation, the peer
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pressure, and the restraint of society, your boss, or your
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fellow church members, your home life reveals who you truly are
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at your core. Well, that makes sense, because
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public behavior is heavily regulated by a desperate desire
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for reputation and social preservation.
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Yes, private behavior is regulated only by your actual
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character. Wow.
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If a person acts like a gracious, patient St.
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Out in the public square, but turns into a bitter, tyrannical,
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short tempered devil the moment they walk through their own
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front door and close it behind them.
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Their public religion is base, worthless and entirely
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mischievous. The home is not a place to take
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a vacation from Holiness. Not at all.
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It is the primary laboratory where the authenticity of Your
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Holiness is tested and proven. And the specific anecdotes
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Spurgeon uses to illustrate these heartless, hypocritical
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homes are chilling. Very much so.
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He describes visiting a home and the host giving him a greeting
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like a dead fish. Hand drop a.
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Dead fish handshake. Just totally cold, lifeless and
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devoid of any genuine warmth, joy or for hospitality.
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He describes a husband who expects his own wife to knock on
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the room door before entering. Treating her like a principal
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servant. Yeah, and demanding rigid
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compliance rather than fostering any kind of intimacy or
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partnership. And perhaps the saddest, most
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brutal example is a father who only valued his recently
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deceased son for the physical labor and financial help the boy
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provided to the family business. Yeah, there was no genuine grief
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for the loss of an immortal soul, just raw frustration over
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a lost financial asset. Those examples paint a grim,
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suffocating picture of a house operating entirely without a
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heart. They do, and the text also
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mentions the grad grindy woman. The grad Grindy woman.
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Yeah, it's a brilliant literary reference to Thomas Gradgrind
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from Charles Dickens novel Hard Times.
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Oh, great. Greg Grind is a character
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obsessed entirely with cold hard facts, statistics, and utter
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utility. He's the one who raises his
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kids, Louisa and Tom, but basically crushing their
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imaginations. Right, Yes, treating them like
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data points. A grad grindy parent acts with 0
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affection, treating their family members like literal cogs and
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machine wheels in a factory that just need occasional oiling to
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keep the production line running.
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There is no warmth, no grace, no joy, just a rigid schedule and
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relentless demands for compliance.
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It creates a completely desolate environment.
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And the reason this private internal atmosphere matters so
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immensely is what the text refers to as the imitation
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factor. Let's.
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Talk about the imitation factor. Think about the dynamics of
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hypocrisy. If you are a hypocrite in
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public, other adults might spot the inconsistency, right?
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They have the cognitive defense mechanisms and the critical
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thinking skills to analyze your behavior, realize the gap
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between your words and your actions, and simply dismiss you.
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They say that guy is a fake and they move on.
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But Little Master Johnny and Little Polly, sitting on the
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living room rug building with blocks, cannot criticize.
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You No, they don't have the defense mechanisms to analyze
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your hypocrisy. They simply absorb and imitate
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it. To young children, their parents
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are essentially functioning as little gods.
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The children shape their entire worldview, their baseline
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concept of love, their understanding of justice, and
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their foundational well, their basic understanding of who God
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is based entirely on what they see you doing in the unscripted
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privacy of your home. That is the heaviest burden of
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parental leadership. It really is, and the tragedy of
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wasted influence is a central recurring theme here.
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The text shares a heartbreaking story about a poor widow who
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earned her living by washing clothes.
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Yes, it is a story that forces us to look past our immediate
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struggles and consider the long term eternal consequences of our
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private priorities. Let's examine that story,
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because it lands with such emotional force.
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This widow worked with intense, grueling effort.
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She scrubbed clothes by hand, day in and day out, likely until
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her knuckles bled, to feed her six children with absolutely no
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outside help. Incredible work ethic.
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She succeeded in providing the physical bread they needed to
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survive childhood, but she was converted to faith very late in
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life. By the time she found salvation
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and began to grasp the staggering weight of spiritual
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realities, her children were already grown.
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Yes, established in their habits and entirely unsaved.
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And when she finally approached her eldest boy and asked him to
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go to the House of God with her, his reply was devastating.
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He looked at his mother and said, You never took us when we
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were little, and you need never expect us to go now.
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Oh man, the bitter, crushing regret of that mother is
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palpable. She succeeded in keeping them
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alive physically against incredible odds, but she
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completely missed the brief closing window of opportunity to
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influence the immortal souls of those in her household before
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they grew beyond her reach. The tragedy is that she won the
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lesser battle of physical survival, but she lost the
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greater war. For everyone listening, that is
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the stark, unavoidable warning. It is.
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Look at your own life. You can work 80 hours a week.
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You can provide the nicest house and the safest zip code.
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You can ensure the pantry is always full with organic food.
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You can fully fund the college account and pay for the elite
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travel sports teams. But if you miss the window to
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model a holy grace filled authentic life in front of your
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children, the regret will be massive.
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You will have secured their earthly comfort while entirely
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neglecting their eternal souls. Zooming out to a macro
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perspective, the text argues that the holy living of
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Christian families is the greatest force in the world for
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true cultural and spiritual change.
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Next to the actual preaching of the truth, a household operating
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with a perfect heart is the primary engine for conquering
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the world for Christ. These homes act as literal
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garrisons. Yeah, a Garrison is a military
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outpost, a fortress of holy men and women shining light into a
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dark, hostile territory. When the home is ordered by
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grace and wisdom, the impact does not stay confined to the
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living room. It spills out into the
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neighborhood, the local schools, the city and the nation.
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So to synthesize everything we have covered in this deep dive.
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True praise is not just singing loudly in a crowded stadium, it
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requires the absolute purity of your daily unseen actions.
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The straightforward, honest path is always the wisest path,
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regardless of the short term financial devastation or social
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cost you might incur. Claiming to possess divine grace
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means absolutely really nothing if it does not produce tangible,
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practical goodness in your daily vocation and your treatment of
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others. And the most rigorous, accurate
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test of your actual character happens behind the closed doors
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of your own house, in the moments when no one else is
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watching. It all comes down to what
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happens in those quiet, unseen moments.
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It does, and I want to leave you with a final thought to chew on
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as you go about the rest of your week.
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OK, since our homes are private castles, the specific places
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where we are entirely free from society's gaze and judgment,
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imagine if a hidden camera were placed in your living room.
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Oh wow. Not a camera designed to catch
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your moral failures or police your verbal mistakes, but simply
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a lens to quietly observe what captures your highest affection,
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your disposable income, and your free time when no one else is
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watching. What would that raw footage
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reveal about the deity you actually adore?
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That is a question that demands a very honest, uncomfortable
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answer. Thank you for joining us for
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this deep dive into the source material.
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We will catch you next time.