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Mastering Clear Communication- Use Less Filler Words And Speak With Impact · Speak In Flow

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  Melinda Lee: Welcome to another episode of The Speak In Flow
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  Podcast. Today we are going to delve into mastering your
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  communication by eliminating filler words. So you can have
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  more impact, we all strive to be an effective communicator. I
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  mean, that's why we're here. And yet sometimes of filler words,
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  they're pesky, they, they just come in, out of the blue, and
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  sometimes we don't even realise it. It's the filler words such
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  as you know, so I'm, like, Ah, so on so forth. They just come
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  in. And what we don't realise is that it does diminish our
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  message when we have too much. I mean, generally, they're
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  relatively harmless. If you have a couple here and there is
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  totally fine. It's more about connecting with your audience,
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  with your heart, and with your passion. However, if you are,
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  have too many of them, that means you're not as connected to
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  your message, and you're just doubtful, and your message can
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  become unclear. And then people start noticing the filler words
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  more than your message. So how do we eliminate those filler
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  words and speak with more confidence speak with more
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  And so when you're talking, you can have key points. But then
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  really just trusting your intuition trusting your voice.
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  influence? The first step is we want to be aware, yes, you want
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  And that will allow you to come in with more confidence to be
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  the authentic you. Because what is happening is when you are
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  talking from a script, and you're memorising it word for
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  to be mindful of it? And no, I'm not going to have you count
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  word, you're actually in your head, meaning you're thinking
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  about what to say you're thinking about the next word.
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  And when you're thinking and in your mind, you might also wander
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  them. Sometimes there have been strategies, or sometimes people
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  off to am I saying the right thing? Is that word Correct? Or
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  what are they, you know, thinking about me? Am I being
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  judged? So all of these thoughts are in your head. Great speakers
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  will say, Hey, you, you want to count the filler words, and the
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  come from a full embodiment. Mind, body, soul, your whole
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  passion, you everything about you is in it's all in not just
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  less words filler words that you use the treat, you know, treat
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  your mind, right? So you want to come in with your heart, your
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  mind, your soul, every part of you speak from that place.
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  And when you're just speaking with us through a script that
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  yourself, give yourself kudos. But you know, how many times
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  doesn't feel like that you'll feel more robotic and so we want
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  you to be natural. We want to to be okay with being in flow.
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  Being in a flow state. When you're flowing, you're really
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  have you paid attention to something, and then the more you
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  not in your head. You're more in your heart. You're speaking from
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  a more grounded place. You're trusting your voice, you're
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  trusting that you know the stuff that whatever you say is going
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  pay attention to something, the worse it gets, or you get real
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  to be great. And that requires you to let go of the script. The
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  script is a training wheel. And it's a crutch. So we want to let
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  go of that idea that we have to be perfect. And just trusting
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  frustrated? And and so my suggestion is actually
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  that you can connect with that inner dial, inner strength of
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  yourself. And that is when the filler words will leave. And
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  contradictory of counting them. I do want you to be mindful. But
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  when you're presenting, let's say you, you start to get
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  nervous again, and the filler words start to happen.
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  You go into a pause, that will allow you to gather yourself,
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  I don't want you to be mindful of counting filler words, I want
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  you will appear intentional to your audience. And that will
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  slow your your voice down your pace down, and then the filler
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  words disappear. When you're at a good pace, when you're
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  you to be mindful of where you're at, like, where your
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  comfortable with what you're saying. It feels thoughtful, and
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  it feels like a good pace. And then the audience is able to
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  centres at where your mind is that where your body's at? Are
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  receive what you're saying the filler words just naturally
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  disappear. They dissolve, they're gone, because you're
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  just so confident and you feel confident you're in your body,
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  you connected to your competence? Are you connected to
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  in your intuition and using allowing the words just flow
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  through you. And that is what a great speaker does. And that is
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  the feeling of being confident inside, because what is
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  when you can connect your words to your audience. That is when
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  you can look at one person in the audience and truly connect
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  happening, when you are using filler words, you're just
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  to their eyes. And then look at another person in the audience
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  and truly connect to the second person's eyes, and have a
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  disconnected to that confidence, that internal dial of strength
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  beautiful experience. When you're all connected. It's not
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  about a performance. It's not about being perfect, and having
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  all the specific beautiful, perfect language, because that's
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  that everyone has, you have it, it's just a matter of
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  not how we talk. We want people to speak, when you can feel
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  connected to them, when you can keep feel connected to their
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  remembering it again, and getting connected back to it.
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  entire message because people will remember how you make them
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  feel. And so when you are coming from your whole passion, every
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  And so the more you practice, speaking from that place, and
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  part of you trusting your words and trusting that you're
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  connecting to the audience. That is what people feel, that is
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  what people remember, your filler words will be either zero
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  connecting to your heart connecting to with allowing the
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  or limited or very few. And that is what it will take for you to
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  speak with more confidence. So using the pauses using your
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  words to flow, the less filler words will happen, they
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  breath. And, and again, if you do want to continue being a
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  powerful speaker, you should practice but not practising your
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  naturally disappear because you are so dialled in with your
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  script, practising connecting to your strength, practising
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  speaking your presentation with just the key points and
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  connecting to your strength connecting to the confidence
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  message with the confident you. And one of the things that I
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  that you feel inside and using your breath to take you there.
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  So remember, having a clear communication requires that
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  you're able to feel within yourself all the words and
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  highly encourage you to do, to take a step forward in getting
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  connecting with the audience. And that is going to help you
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  skyrocket your presentations to be more compelling to make a
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  connected to your strength is letting go of the script. That's
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  more impact. Because you're able to connect with the audience
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  captivate your audience, because you're free to be yourself.
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  You're free to show your quirkiness to make a mistake.
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  right, let go of the script. You don't want to go right out. You
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  And that is okay. Because you're ultimately connected to the
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  audience. And you can make a joke about it. You're flexible,
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  can write it out word for word, but when you go to say it, I
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  you're free. And that is what makes a great speaker. So if
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  want you to just let it go and know that you can do it know
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  content you would like. And until next time, let's eliminate
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  that you can you have all the right words.
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  the filler words so you can speak with your confidence. Make
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  an impact, and let your voice be heard.