E 386: Tammy's Takes #53: When You Know Better, You Can Choose Better: Stop Blaming Your Younger Self

Adult Child of Dysfunction · Oct 19, 2026 · 8m

Have you ever looked back at a younger version of yourself and thought, Why did I put up with that? Why didn't I say something? Why did I keep trying so hard to make everyone happy?

In this Tammy’s Take, Tammy explores an idea that came out of her conversation with Renae Linsom: when you know better, you can do better.

For adult children of dysfunction, it's easy to look backward with everything we know today and judge the choices we made years—or even decades—ago. But the truth is, that younger version of you didn't have the knowledge, tools, or awareness you have now.

You weren't…