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how your thoughts affect others around you · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, I'm gonna talk about how your thoughts and feelings expand and what I mean by that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you are focused on, you are expanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are making it bigger.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are making more of whatever you're thinking about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which means you're creating, you're creating more of that thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're focused on how stressed you are, how broke you are, how out of shape you are, how lost you are, how scared you are, you are expanding those exact experiences, the experiences that make you feel those exact emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that experience that you're so focused on and indulging in will perpetuate and you will go through that emotion longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how powerful you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you think about creates an emotion in you, and what emotion you feel is your frequency or vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always use those two intertwiningly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So whatever you are vibrating at, whatever your frequency is, same thing in my opinion, the universe is picking a reality matched to you, matched to what you're vibrating at, what your frequency is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't mean you intentionally chose that frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, we have 50,000 thoughts that pass through our mind a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why I talk about visualization, of course, because we can think all these thoughts and get emotions from all these thoughts all day long, and we're not we're not even aware, you know, that we're creating our life.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are constantly manifesting, there's no on or off button.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is what I mean when the universe always says yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask, and it is always given.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a not right now, it's not a I have a plan for you, just hold on a little bit longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is always a yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are the ones who think it's gonna take time, and the universe says, yes, you're right, it will.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are the ones who think we have to go through life lessons first, and the universe says, Yes, you have challenges ahead.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are the ones who think we have to work hard for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the universe says, yes, make sure you work hard enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get where I'm going?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, the purpose of this episode, we are also co-creators, which means we are constantly doing this with one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we are focusing on another person's sorrows of life, another person's unfortunate experience, another person's undesirable situation, you are expanding that with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are matching their vibration, and therefore it is happening twice as fast because you are creating that situation together.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are thinking and feeling together about the same thought, the same emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gaining rapid speed because more than one are putting thought, focus, and energy towards it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I share this, I get a lot of pushback quite often, just from personal people in my life, and I I constantly have to explain myself, and I want you to be able to explain it to others as well, or even for you to understand this, because it's very easily misunderstood.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hear a lot of times people say, Okay, so what you see a homeless man cold and hungry, and you're just supposed to ignore it because you're gonna make their situation worse, that's inhumane.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna feel bad for people, of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go help them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, that's the misunderstanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do not believe in ignoring anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do not believe in skipping over helping someone, ever.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yes, if you are looking at someone's undesirable experience and you're feeling bad for them, gosh, they look so hungry and cold and alone and helpless, you are putting energy towards that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are focusing on that, and that is perpetuating that person's life experience because they are already thinking and feeling hopeless, hungry, cold, and alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you are adding to that, it's gaining speed, and two or more are thinking and feeling the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are expanding that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, of course, I'm human.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm an empath, in fact.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel very easily for people.
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  SPEAKER_00: I put myself in others' shoes quite often, and I can feel what they're feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're anything like me, it takes a lot of practice to stop perpetuating someone else's negative experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what I do when I see someone in a situation that they definitely don't want to be in, that I definitely don't want to see them in, initially, yes, I feel sad for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I acknowledge exactly what's happening in front of me, in front of them, and I see that it's undesirable, but I quickly catch my thought and I know that my energy is valuable and could be of help to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I keep focusing on what they don't want, I'm going to add more to that for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I quickly start imagining them, getting out of the situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I start thinking about how it would feel if I saw them get out of this unfortunate experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I imagine the relief they would feel, the gratitude they would be in, they would be overjoyed being like, I made it out, I finally did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're comfortable, they're safe, they're abundant, they're healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is where aligned action comes in.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you feel called to do something to help them get to that point, such as give them a blanket, give them food, give them water, give them a hug, absolutely do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not walk away and just visualize them feeling better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you do choose to do to do that, that is okay too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your energy is valuable, your intention is energy and it matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that does not mean I'm saying don't do anything for them, don't take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely take action if you feel called to.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is inspired action, that is alignment, and that is your energy, focusing on getting them comfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you give water and food and money to a homeless person, you your intention is energy, and you're pushing that energy to them, to their life experience, imagining them getting better, imagining quenching their thirst, imagining filling their belly with food, giving and taking those inspired actions is still putting energy and thought into the experience you want them to experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that means you can also think and feel their way into a new experience without taking action.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can do one or the other or both.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have to put all my energy towards what I want for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not have to say this to someone out loud that you're doing this.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, I don't recommend it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think saying it out loud can invalidate someone's experience and their feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, we all have a friend where they just need a vet and we offer solutions and they feel invalidated because they just need someone to understand what they're feeling first.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I do think it's important that we don't share that we're thinking and imagining.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, people do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of their way of saying, I'm praying for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the same thing, but we just don't say that.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna visualize you in another experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can say that if you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think it's important because we don't want to invalidate someone, of course, but a lot of times it can also make them dig their heels even deeper into why things are hard for them because they feel misunderstood, and so now they have to prove why it actually is hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the exact opposite of what we want to do to someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want them to get into a healthy experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your energy is precious, it's valuable, it's expensive, and what you focus on will grow when two or more people focus on the same thing at the same time, it grows at a faster rate, it gets bigger, it expands.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're creating more of.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's important to know we are co-creators, we are all one.
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  SPEAKER_00: We should never join in on the sorrows of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I fully believe that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very easy to connect with someone through the sorrows of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things are so expensive, things are so scary.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not what we want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why are we putting so much energy, thought, and focus into that?
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  SPEAKER_00: We need to think about what we want to experience, and it simply is just thinking a thought that makes you feel good because what you think creates an emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: What your emotion is, is your vibration, and the universe is constantly matching a reality to your emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so there's a study that actually proves our energy creates.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, there's many, there's many um CIA documents.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the term?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh unclassified.
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  SPEAKER_00: Unclassified or declassified CIA documents that they have studied our thought and how it creates reality, and they admit it's true.
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  SPEAKER_00: And people still deny that it's real because it's something they can't see.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyhooser, I want to tell you that uh a study in Washington, DC, it's called the Marahashi effect, I believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um creating an experience with your energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maharishi.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might be, I'm definitely pronouncing that wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: But 4,000 people in 1993 meditated on lowering crime.
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  SPEAKER_00: They meditated on world peace basically.
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  SPEAKER_00: And crime actually was lowered by 23%.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's only 4,000 people.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how many people I went to high school with.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm from San Diego.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to a big school, but 4,000 people?
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you imagine?
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  SPEAKER_00: I have over 100,000 followers online, and so I take it very seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I could share this with over 100,000 people, and we all start putting effort in and we meditate on peace, love, joy, health, wealth, even if it's just for yourself, even if you only have the intention of feeling good and creating a life for you that feels good, believe it or not, you are still participating because we are all one.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are still adding to everyone else around you when you feel good, when you feel love and joy, because we are connected.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feeling good actually helps tip the scales of the world's vibration as a whole.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've shared my favorite books online with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're linked to my Amazon.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of them is called Ask and It Is Given by Abraham Hicks or Esther Hicks, and she talks about how animals are here to help keep our vibrations stabilized because we're humans and we're not always deliberate with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And animals have a very natural, stable vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just thought that was very interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know if you read that book.
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  SPEAKER_00: I recommend it to everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: But never underestimate seeking joy, even if it's just for you, because it adds up for every single one of us around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're creating more joyful energy in the world, even if it's just your own dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will affect others around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you resonated with today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know in the comments what you think, and I am sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.