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54 Years of Coaching, One Mission — Transform Young People | Ep. 34 Nate Crandall & Steve Galley · The Standard

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_04: Alrighty team, welcome to the Standard Podcast, where we raise the bar, rebuild the culture, and call out the lies or misconceptions that nobody else will.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_04: This isn't motivation, this is a movement.
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  SPEAKER_04: I'm Thomas Rowe with my host Aaron Sarles, and today we're sitting down with Nate Crandall and Steve Galley, co-founders of create.transform.become, a platform dedicated to helping young people, parents, and families build stronger relationships and achieve their goals.
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  SPEAKER_04: Nate is the founder of Impact Mentoring, a certified high performance coach and elite adolescent mindset coach, and the master and with a master's in psychology specializing in adolescent development.
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  SPEAKER_04: With 27 years of high school coaching experience and 20 years of teaching, Nate has built his career on one mission: make a positive impact on young people and help them achieve their dreams and goals.
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  SPEAKER_04: Steve is the founder of Transform Now Coaching, a certified high performance coach and mental performance coach with a master's in counseling.
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  SPEAKER_04: With 27 years of coaching experience, including 20 as a head basketball coach and 32 years of teaching, Steve's mission is to help people experience joyful, meaningful transformation.
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  SPEAKER_04: Together they're combined 54 years of coaching experience, nearly 50 years of teaching, and a shared passion for developing young people into create.transform.become, a movement that's transforming how teens, parents, and families approach growth, relationships, and performance.
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  SPEAKER_04: We're diving into the truth behind what it really takes to build identity, discipline, and legacy in sports and in life.
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  SPEAKER_04: Let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_04: Welcome to the Standard Podcast, Nate and Steve.
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  SPEAKER_04: We really appreciate you two, the both of you joining us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for having us.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome, awesome.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna just go ahead and start off with segment one, which is we're gonna set the stage.
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  SPEAKER_04: I'll ask you guys a question and we'll start with you, Nate, and then we'll move to Steve.
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  SPEAKER_04: Nate and Steve, let's start here.
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  SPEAKER_04: You're co-founding create.transform.become.
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  SPEAKER_04: Together, after decades of coaching and teaching, what does raising the standard mean to you and the work you're doing with young people and their families?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think raising the standard means getting people to look at look at families, look at interactions, look at those relationships in a fresh way, and helping people to realize that they can have great relationships with their teens and they can help them to chase their goals, accomplish the things that they want to in their lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there doesn't have to be as much friction as we think that there does.
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  SPEAKER_04: Got it.
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  SPEAKER_04: What about you, Steve?
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  SPEAKER_03: When I hear raising the standard, I I think of you know like holding up a flag, and that flag would have to have all sorts of values and that are based in their belief system.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I would I would ask somebody, what are your values?
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  SPEAKER_03: And then we we love to focus on trying to get everything in alignment with those values.
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  SPEAKER_04: Right on.
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  SPEAKER_04: And what would you say is the biggest lie that you or misconception you feel the culture has sold young athletes, parents, and families about success, development, and relationships?
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  SPEAKER_04: Nate, we'll start with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think the biggest lie is that the result is the most important thing.
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  SPEAKER_04: Got it.
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  SPEAKER_04: Steve, what about you?
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, that that was real, that was right to the point from every name.
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  SPEAKER_02: No fluff.
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  SPEAKER_02: I figured you had me on the nerd timer.
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  SPEAKER_02: I've got a longer answer, Thomas.
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  SPEAKER_03: Please do.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's uh and completely separate from what Nate just said, although I agree with him.
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  SPEAKER_03: I boy, I might ruffle some feathers amongst uh legislatures and school districts, but I think one of the biggest lies is that high school coaches are really important, or that's that's the lie that has been told to us from them that that high school coaches are you're really important in this big picture of sports.
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  SPEAKER_03: And that's coming from just my experience.
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  SPEAKER_03: That I actually think high school coaches, at least where we're from here in Utah, I think high school coaches are actually set up more for failure than for success.
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  SPEAKER_04: Oh wow, Steve, you gotta expand on that a little bit more because I think it's probably universal, not just exclusive to Utah.
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  SPEAKER_04: That's interesting.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, maybe describing what they have to go through.
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  SPEAKER_03: For example, my first year as a where I was an assistant coach and first year teacher, I was teaching six different classes.
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  SPEAKER_03: So six different subjects.
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  SPEAKER_04: Got it.
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  SPEAKER_03: And expected to do really well at that for you know a six to eight hour period.
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  SPEAKER_03: And then, oh, by the way, we also want you to be great out here, but we're not gonna pay you very much for either.
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  SPEAKER_03: Is is this painting the picture?
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  SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_04: I think you I think there are a lot of coaches out there nodding their head.
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  SPEAKER_04: Nate, you have a master's in psychology specializing in adolescent development, and you're an elite adolescent mind coach.
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  SPEAKER_04: Steve, you have a master's in counseling and you're a mental performance coach.
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  SPEAKER_04: How did the two of you come together to create this platform?
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  SPEAKER_03: Oh God.
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  SPEAKER_03: Go for it, Nate.
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  SPEAKER_03: He'll he will say it in less words than I can.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: With this, it it gets a little long.
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  SPEAKER_00: Steve and I, I I used to teach science.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before I got my master's, I was I was teaching biology in high school and middle school.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I love the scientific approach with this because Steve and I have a very symbiotic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have a it's very mutually beneficial.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was the biggest benefactor of getting to know Steve.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was moving back here to Utah from Virginia.
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  SPEAKER_00: Steve took a chance on me as just an assistant coach in his program and helped me get lined up with a teaching position at the high school that he was at.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that began our relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he helped me from that point.
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  SPEAKER_00: He then helped me make the jump to getting my own high school head coaching job for the first time and really inspired me in a lot of ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: He was running, he was training triathlons and running obscene distances, and he gloated about it to us all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I thought, man, that sounds so cool to be able to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I got into running because of Steve.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then a few years later, he just helping me get through some challenges and frustrations that I was going through in my career.
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  SPEAKER_00: He gave me a book that ended up getting me into certified high performance coaching and doing that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then at that point, I finally started to give back to him.
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  SPEAKER_00: I figure after 10 years of mooching off him, I should probably return the favor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I kind of started coaching him and helped introduce him to the idea of a second career.
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  SPEAKER_00: He cooked that up on his on his own, but just using coaching as a way to change the way he was influencing adults, people, kids, everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then he just ran from there with it and has done just incredible and amazing things.
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  SPEAKER_00: But as we did that journey together, that's what Hatch Create Transform become as something that we will love working on together and are super passionate about.
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  SPEAKER_04: Right on.
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  SPEAKER_04: Steve, what would you like to add?
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  SPEAKER_03: I would just say, you know, one one day we were sitting in a in a cold portable classroom of Nate's on a Saturday with no heat.
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  SPEAKER_03: And we were discussing what we could do together, what we could create together.
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  SPEAKER_03: And we we talked about coaching coaches, and we thought that's kind of a lost cause because they're just uh ego-driven crazies, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: And we talked about, well, yeah, we love coaching athletes and teens, but we kept coming back to how could we help the other part of this equation, this very important equation, and that is how can we help the parents?
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  SPEAKER_03: And so that's where our idea for Create Transform became was uh we we we based it on how can we help parents, and that's where we decided to start our podcast and just start talking about what we believed in and and our philosophy, and then it's just it's uh gained a little bit of momentum, and we're coaching parents and coaching athletes and coaching families and and coaching coaches, and that yeah, yeah.
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  unknown: Awesome.
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  SPEAKER_03: So that's that's how it started.
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  SPEAKER_04: I love it.
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  SPEAKER_04: That's awesome.
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  SPEAKER_04: We're gonna turn it over to Aaron for segment two, which is identity and legacy.
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  SPEAKER_04: Aaron, go ahead, take it away.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hello, hi guys.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm excited to get to spend a little time with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I would love for both of you just to take the opportunity to share with us who you are beyond like everything that Thomas has already described.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, who are you, Nate?
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  SPEAKER_00: Nate's Nate's a dad, a husband, a grandpa.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you heard the crying in the background.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was the grandbaby hanging out with us.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's just a family guy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love my family and I love making a difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's one of the things that has always driven me is just working with teen athletes, especially, to help them realize their potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that there's such my masters taught me one very important thing, the role of significant nonparental adults in the process of the growing up of our teens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And our culture has gotten really bad at that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It used to be very much integrated into a group or a society where there were non-parental adults that played important roles in kids' lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now families have become so fragmented.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's that's what I see and what we see as a role.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's it's kind of what drives Nate.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've I'm obsessed about making a difference for as many of these kids as I possibly can and helping them realize how much their parents care about them, how great they are, and how much they can do with their lives when they believe in themselves and work together with the important people in their lives to accomplish the things they want to.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's so inspiring.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you, Aaron.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, Steve, who are you beyond what we've shared here?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, who is Steve?
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, I'm trying to become a world-class pickleball player.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I like that.
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  SPEAKER_03: I I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'm a pretty simple person, I think.
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  SPEAKER_03: I have never sought the bright lights or fanfare.
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  SPEAKER_03: I I was the son of an unhappy lawyer who did not have father growing up and did not have great opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_03: And he loved athletics and sports.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I didn't realize it till later, but he did everything in his life.
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  SPEAKER_03: He became an attorney because his goal was to be able to financially provide for his family and his kids in a way he never experienced in his youth.
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  SPEAKER_03: And so, but I learned from him that choosing a career that is not does not align with your passion and something that really lights you up is not necessarily the best move.
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  SPEAKER_03: And so I just always he was my first coach, and my and my high school coach was amazing for me.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I just knew at age 14 that I wanted to coach, and I just think that everything in my life has kind of branched off of that, whether it's being involved in the in the school system, whether it's being involved in youth groups, whether it's you know being involved in you know all sorts of sports.
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  SPEAKER_03: So that's kind of high who I am, and I love chocolate.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, me too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Chocolate is my favorite.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want to hear, you both have spent 27 years of coaching, basketball, football, golf, track.
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  SPEAKER_01: Between the two of you have over 50 years of coaching and teaching experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: What does legacy beyond the wins and the seasons mean to each of you?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'll start with the neat.
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  SPEAKER_01: That seems to be our order.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our legacy is to go in this order.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the legacy we have.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Legacy in a coaching, it's I I love musicals.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one of the things that that I enjoy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think lyrically, we get a lot out of some of the things that they share in there, and they teach some powerful truths.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love in Hamilton when he talks about legacy as planting seeds in a garden you never get to see.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's a really powerful metaphor for what we do in coaching, is that we get to work with them when they're young and when they're excited about life, and everything's big and scary and new, and they're working so hard and so passionately about being good at a sport.
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  SPEAKER_00: And hopefully we teach them lessons and impact them in a way that changes them for the better and turns them into people that love their families, love their kids, work hard, make contributions that that lift and bless others.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we don't ever get to see that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's rare that we get to see that as a coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that to me is a legacy is planting those seeds that can grow into amazing things to the amazing young people that we get to work with.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, wow.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's so impactful.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, Steve, maybe we'll have to reverse the order so you have the I was wondering if Nate was gonna start singing, if he was I please, I would like to.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: That line's more spoken than it is sung, which is why I went with it, because it's safe.
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  SPEAKER_03: And see, that reveals the fact, obvious fact that I have not watched the play.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I did not I did not know that.
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  SPEAKER_03: But when I think of legacy, what did you say, beyond performance?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I yeah, like what's the legacy beyond your seasons, Bond, the wins, like for these, you know, what do you want to help these athletes understand about?
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_03: Well, I've learned this that when, for example, when I get together with a player that I've coached, especially if it's a long time ago, we never ever talk about games.
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  SPEAKER_03: We never ever talk about uh I mean trophies or records or scores or any of those things.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I think and I'm basing this on my own coaches because I re I I revere my coaches.
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  SPEAKER_03: They the reason where why I am who I am and where I'm at is be largely because of coaches.
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  SPEAKER_03: But if your name is mentioned and the person can smile, then I think that there is some great legacy attached to your relationship.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_03: And if they're not gonna smile, then I don't think you left the the desired legacy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Gosh, I love that.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, if you can think of that person and have such a positive thought about them to your point that brings a smile to your face, you know that that coach did a very good job.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, can I tell you about a book that I I have not read this book?
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_03: I don't even know the title of it, but I know that it's actually a real thing.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_03: But there was up in Idaho, some some guys wrote a book about going to their coach's funeral.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_03: And when I was first told about this, I thought, this is awesome because my my high school coach is still alive.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_03: And I've pictured the the image of being at his funeral, which I would like to do, and thought of how special that would be.
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  SPEAKER_03: And then the then the person told me, well, oh, they they weren't showing up to show their respects, they wanted to make sure that he was actually dead because he was they they had a terrible experience and he he did not build them up.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_03: And so that makes me realize that we we need to be better and we need to be the kind of coaches that your players would actually want to show up to your funeral and show their respect for you.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_01: I yeah, wow, what a story.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I know I actually we're going for it.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna have to find that.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: That's so wow, wow.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what is one truth?
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_01: Now we're talking about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: What is one truth that you wish every parent, coach, or young athlete understood about development, relationships, and building something that lasts.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_01: Do you want to start again, Nate, or shall you hit let's see?
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna go first, so we can save the best for last on this one.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'm I'm interested to hear what Nate would say on this.
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  SPEAKER_03: I would say that the game, the game within the game is what matters most.
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  SPEAKER_03: And what I'm speaking of is how you your your mindset, your mental makeup, because excuse me, because the game, the actual game is gonna be short-lived.
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  SPEAKER_03: Your the career is gonna be short and it's over, and people just don't care anymore about you as a player.
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  SPEAKER_03: So, what are you learning?
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  SPEAKER_03: What are the lessons you are learning?
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  SPEAKER_03: What is the what are the mindset skills that you're developing within the game?
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  SPEAKER_03: Because that's what's really gonna pay off for you down the road.
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  SPEAKER_01: And for you, Nate?
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  SPEAKER_00: Can I get you to ask the question then?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to make sure I hit this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of course.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what is one truth you wish every parent, coach, or young athlete understood about development, relationships, and building something that lasts?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think the single most important truth for anybody to get at for any of those things is that all progress starts with the truth.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you can get comfortable addressing that, like this is this is why we're putting this on the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I'm having a conversation with my son, I want to start with the truth because that's where progress starts.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: If I'm coaching my players, I want to start with the truth because that's where progress starts.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a dad, I need to know the truth because that's where my progress starts and I can get better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just understanding how critical it is to get to the truth, to be able to approach things from a place of truth empowers everybody to grow faster and to grow more efficiently and to set themselves up to pass those lessons and truths on to others.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_01: Wow.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_01: That is like one of the most profound things I've heard.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_01: And I needed to hear that today.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_01: So that was unbelievable.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_01: So with that, I'm going to turn this back over to Thomas.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_04: We're getting into segment three, which is advice across all stages.
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  SPEAKER_04: If you could sit down with a young athlete who's just starting out, middle school or early high school, what do they need to understand about identity development and building their future?
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_04: Steve, we'll start with you.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, I would say first and foremost that understanding that their value is fixed and it should not be attached to what they do and any results that they achieve.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_03: So they are it's actually Johnny.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_03: It's not Johnny the quarterback.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_03: It's actually Johnny, and he happens to play quarterback, and he's probably gonna do it for a very short amount of time.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_04: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_04: What about you, Nate?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I would invite them to to look at the importance of creating their best future self.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: Who do you want to become in the process of chasing what you're chasing?
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: This very much builds on what Steve said.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because I I like the what Steve said is that's my answer.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: But to add on to that is getting getting these young people to start thinking from their future, their best future self.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_00: That's a concept from Dr.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: Ben Hardy and others that have worked on that idea.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: But if you can help a kid create a clear picture of who they want to become by playing basketball, who they want to become through performing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acting, doing whatever they choose to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now they can start to use it for the right reasons.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm showing up to practice today to become this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it changes the dynamic and it gives them a playing field where they can now apply those identity principles that Steve talked about.
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  SPEAKER_04: Right.
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  SPEAKER_04: And what about parents who are trying to support their kids through sports, school, and life?
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  SPEAKER_04: What do parents get wrong and what do they need to hear or understand?
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  SPEAKER_04: Nate, we'll start with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think the number one thing they get wrong is their their role in the process.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_00: We at Create Transform Become, we talk about stuff like this a lot.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: And we focus on this idea of the three E elevator or bringing these three E's into the relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it helps parents to understand their role.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's to equip, encourage, and empower.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we do that right, when we equip, encourage, and empower our teens in meaningful and productive ways, it helps them to excel.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: When we overstep, we actually disempower and we don't provide the encouragement that they need to get out of things.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_00: And it gets in the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I often parents mean well, they love their kids and they're trying really hard to help them be successful.
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  SPEAKER_00: But ultimately it's about the kids' growth and development.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: And when parents equip, encourage, and empower their kids, they elevate them and they help their teens become who they want to be.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_04: Nice.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_04: What are your thoughts, Pete?
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_03: Well, you know, the name of our show is the Stop Parenting and Start Coaching podcast.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_03: And I think one thing that we get wrong as parents, and I say we because that includes me for sure, is so often, and I'm going to focus on teens if that's okay, because that's that's our clientele, and and especially older teens, high school age teens, we tend to parent, try to parent a 16, 17, 18-year-old teen athlete, like we would 10-year-old athlete.
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_03: And we just we believe strongly that that's where you need to actually become more of a coach and you need to ask more questions and do more listening rather than being a consultant and just directing and always trying to fix and rescue.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_03: Sure.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_04: And for coaches who are trying to develop young people, not just athletes, what's the one thing they're trying to make sure?
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_04: What's one thing you're trying to make sure that they understand?
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_03: That was a fastball to you, Nate.
• 25:00
  SPEAKER_00: I I think it's most important for coaches to understand that they're coaching a human being.
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: And I've made I've made a big mess of this listening to our conversation earlier about the the kids showing up for the coach to make sure he's gone.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure I've got some players that I've coached that would show up to make sure that I was I was out of there because I haven't always understood that.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: And it's an incredibly valuable lesson as a coach to know that's a human being.
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's not a basketball player, that's not a number of innings or a lead role in a play.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_00: That is a wonderful, glorious child of God that I have the opportunity to interact with.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: And when I come from that place as a coach, it changes the way that I show up for them, the way that I challenge them, the way that I motivate them.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's a great starting place for any coach is to just make sure that they're looking at that person as a person.
• 25:59
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_04: What are your thoughts, Steve?
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_04: Anything?
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_03: I would just add that you as much as you would like to, you cannot possibly insert all of your knowledge and wisdom into that underdeveloped brain.
• 26:17
  SPEAKER_03: And sometimes with great intention, we want to just we want them to progress so quickly, and we have to remember that they have an underdeveloped teenage brain, and we actually need to take some baby steps.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_03: But in when we're in competitive sports, that's baby steps are are tough for us.
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_04: Gotcha.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_04: All right, we're gonna get into segment four, which is the rapid fire round.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_04: Erin's gonna take it away.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_04: Aaron, it's all you.
• 26:56
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so I'm gonna go.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: Just so you know, Steve is great at pickleball, so rapid fire to him.
• 27:02
  SPEAKER_00: He's just gonna be smacking these things back.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_01: Like Okay, I love it.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so I'm gonna start a sentence and you're gonna finish it.
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_01: So I'll start with Steve since he's my biggest opponent here with his pickleball skills, and then I'll come back to you and we'll go through you.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so Steve, discipline equals habits, leadership equals service, faith equals Jesus.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_03: Legacy equals lots of love and smiles.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, what's one thing you would never compromise on?
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_03: A pickleball appointment.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_03: No, I'm just kidding.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_03: No, I would not compromise on my faith.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_01: I love it.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_01: And what is one message if you could put it on a billboard for the next generation of athletes, what would that be?
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_03: The best time to transform is always now.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I love it.
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, Nate.
• 28:12
  SPEAKER_01: It's your turn.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so discipline equals power.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, leadership equals.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, leadership equals love.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_01: Faith equals action, legacy equals, future.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_01: What's one thing you'd never compromise on?
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: My testimony of my savior Jesus Christ.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_01: And what is one message?
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_01: If you could put it on the billboard for the next generation of athletes, what would it be?
• 28:45
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta steal from my good friend Joshua Megcalf.
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_00: Your value comes from who you are, not from what you do.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_01: So powerful.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, that was me.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_01: Now it's back to Thomas.
• 28:57
  SPEAKER_04: All right, cool.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_04: All right, gentlemen, you went from the rapid fire to the hot seat.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_04: Steve, we're gonna talk, we're gonna start with you.
• 29:04
  SPEAKER_04: Steve, what are your top three sports movies of all time?
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, wow.
• 29:10
  SPEAKER_03: Well, number one is easy for me, even though I've was never heavily into baseball, but field of dreams is number one.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_03: Number two would be Hoosiers, and number three, I'm gonna go back to baseball just because baseball is such an easy sport to make great movies out of.
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_03: And I'm gonna go with the natural.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_04: There you go.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_04: Nate, what about you?
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_04: Top three sports movies of all time.
• 29:41
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 29:41
  SPEAKER_00: Let's go reverse order.
• 29:43
  SPEAKER_00: Number three, I sneak in the Mighty Ducks, the first one.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: I I I don't know why.
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: I love that movie.
• 29:52
  SPEAKER_00: I just something about that just speaks to my soul.
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_00: Mighty Ducks number three.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_00: Number two has got to be Hoosers, pretty much an all-time great.
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: It just, yeah, it just moves you in in wonderful, meaningful ways, and it's totally a basketball movie through and through.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, probably the best movie you've never heard of in your life.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's a running movie.
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_00: What I didn't tell you earlier about myself is I'm insanely passionate as a distance runner.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: So this movie also resonates with me.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: But it's called St.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_00: Ralph.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: And it is if you haven't seen it, it's phenomenal.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_00: It just pulls your heartstrings in all the right ways.
• 30:29
  SPEAKER_00: And yep, love it.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_04: Okay.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_04: I thought you were gonna either say Chariot of Fire or Gallipoli when you said or getting running movies.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: The oh, what's the cross-country movie movie about the team in California?
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_00: Can't remember McFarland.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I McFarland's, you know, one that you have to consider for that too, because that's just the tremendous movie about running.
• 30:51
  SPEAKER_04: Was that another Kevin Costner movie?
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_00: That was another Kevin Costner movie.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_04: He loves his sports movies.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, he does.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_04: Gentlemen, before we wrap up, is there something we didn't touch on today uh that you feel that athletes, parents, or coaches need to hear about development relationships or transformation?
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_04: Steve?
• 31:10
  SPEAKER_03: Well, I'm gonna share a quote that uh Nate Crandall fired at me one in one of our early collaboration sessions when we were talking about where we wanted to go with Create Transform Become.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_03: And he just simply said, Parents, parenting is the hardest job, and there's not a close second.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_03: And I it just immediately hit me right in the head and the heart, and I know that's true.
• 31:36
  SPEAKER_03: And Nate and I have we've made every parenting and coaching mistake in the the book, and that's why we think we have a unique perspective on the whole thing.
• 31:49
  SPEAKER_03: But it really is hard, it's it's really the hardest thing, and we parents like to beat themselves up, and I know I've done that, and we try to really encourage parents.
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome.
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_04: Nate, anything you'd like to add?
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's narrowing down my options, just kind of piggybacking on what Steve said.
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_00: Parenting really is the hardest job, and there's not a close second.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I will add I would encourage anybody listening, get in the habit of recognizing the things that you do well because it's real easy to get stuck in the trap of, oh my gosh, I should have done this, I didn't do that well, I was awful at that.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I even trying?
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_00: Very easy to go down that rabbit hole.
• 32:35
  SPEAKER_00: And training your brain to focus on, you know what?
• 32:40
  SPEAKER_00: I did do that well.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I may have been able to do a couple things better, but I did this well, this well, this well.
• 32:45
  SPEAKER_00: And the better we get at that optimistic approach, focusing ourselves on the good qualities, the strengths that we have and what we bring to the table, the more we're able to show up for the people we love and lead with those good qualities.
• 32:59
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome.
• 33:00
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome, awesome.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_04: Gentlemen, you guys rock.
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_04: We really appreciate you taking the time.
• 33:05
  SPEAKER_04: Where can people connect with you and learn more about create.transform.become, whether it's a website, social media, et cetera.
• 33:13
  SPEAKER_04: Why don't you go ahead and tell us where they can get a hold of you?
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_03: The best place is uh is on LinkedIn, and it's under my profile.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_03: So if you just search Steve Galley on LinkedIn, you will see what both Nate and I are building.
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_03: I that's my account, but what we're doing with Create Transform Become shows up on LinkedIn.
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_03: And then our website, it's it's all one word, one gigantic long word, create transform become.com.
• 33:46
  SPEAKER_03: And that is a how would you say it, Nate?
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_03: It's a work, our website is a work in progress.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_03: And we but yeah, we love to we love to chat with people, talk to people, send us a message, see what we're up to.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_03: We are we are low-key, low pressure coaches.
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_03: I think I can say that with confidence, Nate.
• 34:12
  SPEAKER_00: Very, very much.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_00: We're just interested in in helping teens, helping parents, and helping them connect with each other to help everybody find more joy, engagement, and confidence in their lives.
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_04: That's awesome.
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_04: Awesome.
• 34:25
  SPEAKER_04: Nate, Steve, thank you for sharing your story.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_04: And thanks for having us.
• 34:29
  SPEAKER_04: We really appreciate it.
• 34:30
  SPEAKER_04: Team, if this conversation challenged you, inspired you, or made you think differently, do two things for us.
• 34:36
  SPEAKER_04: One, share it, send it to a parent trying to support their athlete, a co a coach developing young people, a young athlete trying to figure out who they are.
• 34:45
  SPEAKER_04: And secondly, get in touch with both Steve and Nate.
• 34:48
  SPEAKER_04: Great guys, great coaches.
• 34:50
  SPEAKER_04: Definitely going to make an impact on you as an athlete as well as with your family.
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_04: This is the standard podcast, and this movement only grows when we raise the standard together.
• 34:59
  SPEAKER_04: Talent fades, truth endures.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_04: Let's raise the bar, let's rebuild the culture, and let's become the standard.
• 35:07
  SPEAKER_04: We'll see you next time.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_04: Steve, Nate, Aaron, thank you guys so much for joining us.
• 35:11
  SPEAKER_04: We certainly appreciate your time.
• 35:13
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.