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Wife Accuses Husband of R@pe To Enable Her Seek Asylum In The UK After Negative DNA Test · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Vance with Lawrence
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  here. How are you all doing?
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  If you're doing great for today's episode, don't talk
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  about our broad marriages, UK marriages to be precise.
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  Now, for a very long time, people have blamed the UK for
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  ending marriages, ending marriages that lasted in
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  Nigeria. And then according to them,
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  these people moved to the UK and the marriages end because of,
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  you know, women coming to the UK and gaining exposure, realising
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  that they could earn money and all that.
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  So, you know, that has always been the the notion.
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  Now a guy or a man came out and share a story of his brother.
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  According to him, his brother met her, met his wife in
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  Nigeria. They dated for six years and
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  then he proposed to her think. He said two days after the
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  marriage he found messages on his wife's phone where she had
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  been chatting with her ex who lives in the UK and he realised
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  that he the ex, who is also married with children, had been
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  trying to process her visa for her to join him in the UK.
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  So he said he, she apologised, they cancelled the visa and then
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  he decided to process visa for her to, I mean, what her ex was
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  trying to do, he decided to man up and give her what she wanted.
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  Mistake #1 because two days after marriage, if you had
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  realised that your wife is cheating and you decided to
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  forgive her, and her ex lives in the UK, why bring her to the UK?
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  Anyway, we're not going to blame the victim now.
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  He brought her to the UK and she was pregnant.
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  You know, after the wedding, she got pregnant, they came to the
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  Uki think he's a student and she's a dependent or he was
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  working and you know, Cos and she is the dependent.
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  She gave birth. And according to the brother,
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  his brother checked his wife's phone.
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  Maybe he had been seeing some kind of movement that he didn't
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  like. Checked her phone and saw
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  messages from the same man, the same married man in the UK.
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  He confronted her, she denied the whole thing, blah blah blah
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  blah blah. They were sending nudes to each
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  other. So he decided to take the child
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  because he was then suspecting that probably she came to the
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  UK, got pregnant policeman. He does not know.
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  So he did adna test on their son.
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  It turned out he's not the father of the child being a
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  forgiving man. Yeah, he forgave her.
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  He told her that the only condition.
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  After asking questions, she confessed that the father of the
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  child lives in Nigeria. Also another married man with
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  children, about two children. So he said they were the best
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  thing is for them to take the child to Nigeria to live with
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  the father, that he's not going to be going to school, working
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  and then, you know, taking care of a child that does not belong
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  to him, doing child care for a child that basically is not his
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  child. According to the story, the lady
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  then contacted her ex who is a married man with children.
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  But you know, he she played it, she and the ex played it to the
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  wife as if, you know, they were old friends and she got to the
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  UK and her husband is martreating her.
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  So they cooked up a story to say that the man forcefully, you
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  know, RAPED had. So when that happened, she
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  decided to take that story to the police.
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  That's OK because they are married.
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  She couldn't say, oh, he actually, you know, raped her.
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  But what they told her to say was that he forced her, forced
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  himself on her, but she gave him consent for that.
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  But she didn't give him consent to release inside her.
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  Make it make sense. Anyway, the police arrested the
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  man. He said he was coming back from
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  work. He was arrested, taken to
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  prison. He affected his DB.
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  He was sacked from work because he was working with kids.
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  So DB is a very serious thing. If you just have any criminal
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  record, you're going to be sacked.
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  So he was sacked. People still begged the he
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  decided to forgive his wife. But at this point, he had moved
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  out of the house because they told him to, you know, move out
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  of the house and they can only come back maybe in January or
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  something like that, just to give her, you know, space to,
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  you know, how you will do their things to cool down.
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  He was still outside the house, still trying to sort himself
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  out, walking warehouse shifts. And then according to to the
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  brother, the wife and the married boyfriend cooked up
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  another story because they said this man is going to remove you
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  from Cos, you know, you don't know what he's planning.
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  So for you to be, you know, get your stage, seek asylum, Why not
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  lie, take a call, get somebody, arrange somebody in Nigeria,
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  call that person and say the person should be telling you
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  that when you get here, they're going to do all these things to
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  you, kidnap you, kill you, do all these things.
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  She made that arrangement. They made the call and she took
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  that to the police. So at this point, the guy got a
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  lawyer and then the lawyer went to the police and that was when
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  they, the lawyer presented the DNA to say this is the motive
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  why she's acting out all these things.
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  Now, since that motive is now in the police station and since
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  she's seeking asylum, police are now aware that, you know, maybe
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  something is going on here. She then realised that the
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  ex-boyfriend actually want to just end her marriage so that he
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  could have full access to her. That was when she started
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  confessing, telling people what she had done.
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  At this point, her marriage, the marriage, the husband is no
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  longer he can never work because she withdrew the case according
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  to the brother, but it wasn't like a case that was
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  investigated and closed. So he still have that on his DB
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  record. I'm, I am just going to play
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  this video for you to see what you know from the horses to hear
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  from the horses mouth. But the reason why I want to
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  talk about this is because a lot of times people think coming to
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  the UK is the reason why marriages end.
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  Marriages end because you made the wrong choice.
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  Marriages end because you chose the wrong person.
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  Marriages end because you decided to choose Bobby and Nash
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  instead of brains, instead of common sense.
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  Because you can't tell me you met somebody you've been dating
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  for six years. She had exes who she had been
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  communicating with. She is dating married men with
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  children, obviously, because maybe you can't financially
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  provide for her. You could see maybe she's living
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  a lifestyle that is way above her means and you're not giving
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  her those money. The money has to be coming from
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  somewhere, regardless of what that person is telling you.
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  If you don't go ahead and marry that person, whatever you see
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  you're going to take in terms of a woman, you're dating a man.
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  He has 5-6 girlfriend. If you are doing the pick me
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  thing, trying to be the one to be the wife after he marries
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  you, is he going to suddenly become a one man woman?
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  The answer is no. He's still going to be what he
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  is now, complaining after marriage, chasing him up and
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  down, talking about how he's cheating.
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  It's not going to solve the problem.
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  Also, finances. You're getting married to
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  somebody who is jobless, whether a man or a woman, and you're the
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  one running around trying to find them.
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  Listen you either you're born with hustle spirit or you're
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  not. It cannot be thought, fire
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  cannot be taught. It's either you have that
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  burning in you or you don't. Now I'm not saying that
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  everybody should have hustle spirit, but at least have a job.
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  Be able to take care of yourself, whether man or woman.
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  Before you get married to anybody, ensure that you can as
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  a full-fledged human being, you can take care of yourself.
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  You can pay your bills. Yes, I understand that.
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  You know, most people want to get married to people who will
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  be full time housewives because they want to nurture.
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  They want somebody that will nurture their children.
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  There's nothing wrong with that. We are in a day and age where
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  you can do so many things online and still be able and still be
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  available for your children. The choices you make is your
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  problem. It's not UK, there's no UK
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  marriages, there's no US marriages.
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  It is 2 individuals that understand they have everybody's
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  flawed, everybody have problems. If you choose a man that cheats,
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  are you going to be happy with his cheating?
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  Are you, are you going to be able to tolerate that cheating
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  for the next 10 years? If you marry a jobless man and
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  you're providing for the family or you marry a jobless woman and
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  you're providing for the family, maybe one or two years, that
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  will be OK because kids are not involved.
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  When kids are involved, school fees, child care, baby food,
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  baby nappies, are you still going to be 100% happy doing
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  that? So these are why I think most
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  times our generations are very sceptical about getting married
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  because we are more wiser putting all these things into
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  consideration. Anyway, I'm just going to play
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  that video for you to see. Let me know what you think.
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  Do you think that the problem is actually abroad marriages or the
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  people involved in this marriages?
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  Watch this. OK, good evening everyone.
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  My name is Brian Dennis, and over the past couple of days
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  I've been receiving lots of messages, questions about the
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  whole story that got on Instablogger by my brother and
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  his wife that accused him of rape in the UK.
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  All right, So I just wanted to, I, I didn't want to respond
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  because I'd not heard from him, although we spoke today and he
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  was able to provide clear context, all right, about the
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  whole issue and his phone was seized.
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  All right. We both know that if you're
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  dealing with a criminal investigation in the UK, you'll
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  take your phone as part of investigation.
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  So he was able to get a hold of his phone and then we spoke and
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  I'm just going to give you a summary of everything without
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  wasting your time. Now, my brother got married in
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  December, the love of his life. He's known this girl for six
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  years, All right? He's known her for six years.
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  So it's not like we just met her somewhere.
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  He's known her for six years. They were to get they've known
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  each other for six years. OK.
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  I just wanted to stretch that to stretch that rather.
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  Now two days after the wedding, he found out he found intimate
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  pictures, videos that she was exchanging with her
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  ex-boyfriend. His name is Desmond in the UK.
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  All right in the UK. This ex stays in the UK.
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  She and this guy are actively exchanging nudes.
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  They're talking and everything. He found out two days after the
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  wedding, two days now he also found out that this man had been
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  processing visa for his new wife, this Desmond with the UK.
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  Now this Desmond is married, though he's married, he is
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  married to a wife. He has a wife there in the UK,
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  in Nigeria, in the UK that he's married to.
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  But he processed visa for this babe, this my brother's wife.
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  So my brother's wife found out. He was devastated but of course
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  he didn't want to cancel the wedding.
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  He didn't want to say I'm not marrying again or which I know
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  so many men with including me. He didn't do that.
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  He said OK, just cut off communication.
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  The man requested. He said cut off communication
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  from this guy. That's all I asked for.
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  We are married now and the woman kneels down and say oh, I will
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  do, I will do that is why I say I will not do it again or
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  anything. And that's how the matter ended.
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  And the man requested a refund from UK visas and they gave him
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  his refund. I think yes, I'm going to put I
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  have the screenshots for that. He gave him back his refund.
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  Now as of September, September this year, she gave bets.
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  She had moved to the UK already. She gave bets Now before we go
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  to the best part, after they had moved to the UK, him now in the
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  go work now all right, she she's a dependent.
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  She never get work yet he found out that she had resumed talking
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  to this Desmond again with the UK look that was processing her
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  visa for her. She had resumed talking to him.
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  They started doing those crazy things.
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  They exchanged this thing. So it was like, what the fuck is
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  going on? And then she said, hey, you got
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  her UK number, which she just gets.
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  She does and they text him already.
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  It was good. She said I'm sorry, I'm sorry,
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  I'm sorry, I'm sorry. And then she blocked him again.
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  Now, all right, life goes on. He he by September, just about 3
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  months ago, she gave birth. OK, and out of some curiosity,
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  because we're in that area where DNA and everything, out of some
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  curiosity, he went to do a DNA test.
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  All right, I'm going to put the result on the screen.
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  He did a DNA test and his DNA test confirmed that he's not a
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  biological father of this child, OK?
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  He was devastated. He was he was bought.
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  He was calm about it. He reached out to about 3 family
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  members, close friends. And then because of how the
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  situation is in the UK, they told him, see, don't do anything
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  yet. Just be calm about it.
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  Just take time, all right, and so talk to more people, try to
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  pick brains disease. And so he reached out to his
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  pastor and then his pastor says, see he the pastor said, OK, see
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  go and protect your family. All right.
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  So he resolved in his heart he was going to forgive her.
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  Although the people that were advising me were like, see the
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  guy go tell her the Matachi will go bring one false charge
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  against you. All right.
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  But he wasn't worried about that.
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  He desired to forgive her. And then you went home on the
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  27th of the 20 in November? No, it's sometime in, in, in, in
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  sometime in, in October, rather. Sometime early November rather.
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  He went, he told, he confronted her to the sea.
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  I know this child is not my own. You show that agenda with the
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  test result. I know this child is not my own,
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  but I forgive you. The only thing you could do for
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  me is that this child will not stay with us because I'm a
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  student, yet I'm walking. You're not walking.
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  I cannot now be doing childcare for a child that is not my own.
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  The expenses is too much for a young man.
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  And he was like, OK, I'm going to walk, think about it.
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  And then let me know what happened.
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  And when I come back, we'll talk.
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  And he will now confessed who the rule she suspects is the
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  real father. My brother even called the man.
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  And you know the funny part? The real father of the child
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  back in for Nigeria is also a married man with two children.
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  Apparently she had sex with him one week before their wedding.
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  Hey, one week before their wedding she had sex with him and
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  then got married to my brother about one week later.
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  Now my brother called him and said, oh, look, worry.
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  See. Ah, if I say you're picking, you
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  get picking. Yeah, or how we go do and my
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  brother said, hey, we're going to send the child over and then
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  if you want to do your own DNA test to accept him whether you
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  get them or not also do your own.
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  But this speaking he will stay with me.
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  He was pretty calm about it. There was no violence and then
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  he and he even told his wife that see plenty people just make
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  her not tell you this matter because the fierce you could
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  report me to you go go bring up an allegation or another
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  allegation because the fierce I'm going to move you for visa
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  and everything. I'm not going to do all of that.
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  OK, I'm not going to do all of that.
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  I forgive you, but I cannot raise the, I cannot be hustling
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  and taking care of each other. That is not biologically mine.
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  Forget the fact that he has been betrayed.
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  This was, I'm proud. I, I, I, I, this was the highest
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  character he showed. All right now he went to work on
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  the 27th November, that was 27th November.
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  He came back from work and there were police officers in the
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  house and they arrested him and these were the charges he was
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  taking to to sell. And these are the charges rape
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  of an of of an adult 18 plus. And these are the this is the
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  byline of the rape. Consent was given for sex, but
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  consent was not given to it for ejaculation.
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  Husband and wife consent was given for sex, but the wife says
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  she's not given consent for him to ejaculate.
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  What the fuck is that? Anyway, he was arrested.
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  He spent one night in gaol and was granted bail, and the bail
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  condition was that he should not near his own house until 26th of
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  January. These are part of the bail
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  conditions. Fucking crazy.
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  Yeah. Now here's the twist, OK?
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  And I'm saying, and we know this now because she came and
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  confessed Now, after my brother confronted her about this child,
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  you know what she did? She called that's as he
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  confronted her. I went to work.
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  She called her ex, OK, that's this Desmond guy.
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  She called this Desmond guy and I watched this Desmond.
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  I told this Desmond guy everything CEO Desmond and his
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  wife, his wife, that's this Desmond that she's exchanging
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  sensitive pictures with you. She called him and told him and
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  his wife. I'm not sure his wife knows that
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  here that that that the woman and the man that they do do
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  something. So I told him everything and
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  then the wife is like now this kind of thing, they fear you and
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  some people go find one allegation lay against them and
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  go just spend one night for sale.
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  So by time come back from sale in go calm down into a tail and
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  to Jingle to see now waiting that they run down for one of
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  their passing away from Nigeria too.
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  Can you imagine? And we know this because she
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  confessed it. She called, she confessed to my
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  brother. So they not told her that see
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  here's what we are going to do now I need to I didn't state
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  this, but when he found out that she was chatting with this same
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  Desmond with her UK number, it got so bad that at a point he
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  seized he said, OK, let me buy you a new phone collected our
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  old phone and bought her a new phone and there was one bought
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  her a new phone now. So when should they tell this
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  Desmond and his wife the matter of the accusation the the one
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  where she don't don't catch her now she don't talk and Desmond
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  say and your wife want to go Adam say that coercive behaviour
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  same day in the coercive and then she made she had rape.
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  So they told her to draw this. In fact, she was so scared that
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  you're like this thing this thing is looking very serious.
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  You said no, no, no, just after one dingo calm down.
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  One just is a humble lamb and she followed them and did this
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  and he was arrested and these are the things that came after
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  his arrest. He lost his job immediately.
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  He was suspended from work immediately.
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  Now his DBS was updated. For those of you in the UK, you
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  know what DBS means, that a rape charge has been added to his.
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  His record in the country what that means is that he cannot
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  walk in some places again for his life just because of that
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  charge now and where he walks before this charge happened was
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  he works with children. He was immediately suspended
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  sharp sharp no time now he didn't have anywhere to go
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  started. You know Gaja walk in the UK
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  they work for factory they they do this that's what he was doing
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  even that's what he's still doing up till now.
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  Now when when the arrest had been done was guy was granted
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  bail without his phone. Of course you have to be using
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  people's messenger to chat to me and talk to me and tell me
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  what's going on all right so she was now like she and in this
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  report when she give police you know at the genu now when my
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  brother and the lawyer they they can't tell police everything.
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  So even then they were like I Met Police were like it's kind
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  of matter because ejaculation without as in consent for
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  ejaculation. All right, So bottom line,
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  especially in a married couple, let me move forward time, time,
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  no deal. So eventually it was even.
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  So what we now know is that it was even the Desmond himself
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  that called that wrote sent the reports to police that got her
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  insured got her a lawyer sent the report to police.
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  Now as they are doing that one have they granted him bail
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  investigation is still going on. They not told her that see these
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  two will don't do your husband so you don't lose a job.
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  This team in go remove you from this hour.
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  This is what we'll now do. They started planning how she
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  will get asylum. They told her that OK, she will
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  do apply for asylum for her to add that they came up with
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  something that was that they do apply for housing from housing
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  Council to then they said something very, very, very crazy
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  that that she will have to fake a phone call with somebody in
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  Nigeria. Now she will call this phone
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  call and then this phone call. The person with the shout say
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  Shebina, you go report our brother to police anything make
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  you come Nigeria, we go kill you.
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  This was what they were contriving as evidence.
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  We used to apply for asylum and we know this because she
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  confessed it because the matador which were we're getting we're
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  getting to it. Can you imagine how crazy how
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  sinister people can be Jesus. OK, bottom line is that even
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  when my brother was living in the streets, living on the
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  streets looking for money, doing all sorts of work just to this
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  thing. They were still contrive in
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  thinking of more ways. And then she like said she don't
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  she don't she started I don't know, she started seeing
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  something sinister. Why husband and wife, they more
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  interested in seeing her own marriage end.
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  Even after the man just saying was Ingo, Ingo Ingo continued
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  the marriage. I think at some point she said
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  she needed to again and then she went to the police and withdrew
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  the charges and then called him and told him she has dropped the
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  charges and confessed and told him everything that I'm not
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  telling. Some of the things are, well,
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  I'm not telling you. That's where we are, that's
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  where we are. And he's sad because this man
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  has lost his job. He has lost his job.
• 23:48
  His DBS has been updated. Remember now police don't drop
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  the charge and I should go withdraw the charge.
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  What that means is that in their head, maybe they settled out of
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  court, but in the record they say he was accused of rape.
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  It is insane. It is fucking insane, guys,
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  right? Look at the extent people go.
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  The extent people go, and it's so sad that this force rape
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  allegations is making it hard for even real victims to come
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  out and speak when they're now real victims.
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  Nobody go answer them. Why are you people doing this?
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  Why are you people doing this? So this is where we are.
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  This is where we are. Of course we are taking legal
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  action against Desmond, sci-fi and even the wife.
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  That's where we are. We have ruined my brother's
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  life, destroyed his reputation, fucked up his mental health.
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  He's a he's a total mess right now.
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  He's a total mess right now. Even when they make decision,
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  I'm a total mess. I cannot believe that people
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  have the hearts to to sit down, to contrive these machinations.
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  This wickedness, it is insane. It is fucking insane.
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