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Episode 41 - Part 1 Going From Who Everyone Wants You To Be To Who You Want To Be And Become. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning, Welcome to you Minding your Own
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  Speaker 1: Business radio podcasts. I'm your host Scott as Asha Mariama.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you guys for joining me for this episode. If
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  Speaker 1: and multiple other streaming companies. A little bit about me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna set of five recovery healing, recovery Coach. It's
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  Speaker 1: all about helping peoples on the past and their journeys
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  Speaker 1: and I said past, their paths and their journeys and
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  Speaker 1: their purpose to a do admitting youth or self discovery.
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  Speaker 2: I have ten podcasts that are all about recovery, healing
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  Speaker 2: and addiction and this one is about you minding your
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  Speaker 2: Own Business. It's about pretty much helping people to not
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  Speaker 2: focus on everybody else, worry about what everybody else got
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  Speaker 2: going on, what everybody else is doing, trying to be
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  Speaker 2: like everybody else, out like everybody else, Think like everybody else.
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  Speaker 2: But what do you want to do it being about you.
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  Speaker 2: No matter what it is you do, no matter what
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  Speaker 2: path you take, it's your path. Nobody else's when you
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  Speaker 2: hit rob bottom, it's just you. So it's really about
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  Speaker 2: focusing on yourself, working on yourself, healing yourself, and deleting
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  Speaker 2: all of the things that don't help you on your
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  Speaker 2: journey and your purpose of life. And if you want
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  Speaker 2: to send me letters, or you want to be a
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  Speaker 2: guest on my podcast, or if you want to sponsor
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  Speaker 2: my channel, you can email me at a s h
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  Speaker 2: dot m A r I A M A. It's a
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  Speaker 2: zero one at gmail dot com. I hope you guys
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  Speaker 2: are doing well. I was supposed to post this on Monday,
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  Speaker 2: but I wanted to take a couple days because I
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  Speaker 2: needed to figure out. It's a lot of stuff going
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  Speaker 2: on right now. There was a rapture thing where people
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  Speaker 2: thought that Jesus was coming on the twenty third and
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  Speaker 2: they were going up to heaven and leaving the world,
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  Speaker 2: and it didn't happen. You had a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: that are out here as far as the Jimmy Kimbull
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  Speaker 2: firing and things like that, and now he's about to
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  Speaker 2: be hired because everybody canceled their subscriptions, so now they're
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  Speaker 2: about to charge more because of it. It's a mess,
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  Speaker 2: right now, it's a mess. I'm one of them people that, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's good to know what's going on, but it's a
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  Speaker 2: whole nother thing where I have to decide whether or
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  Speaker 2: not it's going to affect me or not, or impact
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  Speaker 2: me or not. I've learned that, yes, it's good to
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  Speaker 2: be prepared for certain things. Because it's certain things happen,
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  Speaker 2: I'm able to go about how to go about dealing
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  Speaker 2: with it. But some things don't have nothing to do
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  Speaker 2: with me, and even at that time it don't, it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't mean that it won't eventually, if that makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: I look at all of this stuff as far as
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  Speaker 2: you know, politics and all of these things like a
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  Speaker 2: grain of salt because I wasn't raised in this country.
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  Speaker 2: For eleven years. I was in Germany. My dad was military,
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  Speaker 2: and the way they go about things are very different.
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  Speaker 2: But now that I am older, I realize a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things that America does is based on other countries
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  Speaker 2: and what they do is not based on America. And
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  Speaker 2: that's because there are multiple different people from multiple different
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  Speaker 2: countries or multiple different cultures, so their cultures are incorporated
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  Speaker 2: in ours. So it's very very different. But because the
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  Speaker 2: illusion is finally coming off, the mask is finally coming off,
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  Speaker 2: the mask that a lot of us have always known,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people are upset because they wasted their
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  Speaker 2: whole entire life believing the mask, believing society standards, believing
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  Speaker 2: that it's about getting married for love. No, it's getting
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  Speaker 2: married to have children. They say that having children are
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  Speaker 2: a blessing. They are, they're a beautiful thing, but there's
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  Speaker 2: a lot that come with them, and children are very expensive.
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  Speaker 2: So a lot of things that we have thought were
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  Speaker 2: true have been a lie. And for gen Z, they're
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  Speaker 2: realizing that. So gen Z is like, I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to work. Gen Z is like, I just want to
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  Speaker 2: do social media content and that's pretty much it. Am
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  Speaker 2: I mad at it no, because I wish we as
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  Speaker 2: gen X's would have known this, because a lot of
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  Speaker 2: young girls wouldn't have had babies. A lot of people
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have done a lot of things that they did
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  Speaker 2: because of that. Could have, should have, would have, and
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  Speaker 2: your instincts that you didn't pay attention to, so When
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  Speaker 2: I look at the way people are talking about Cardi
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  Speaker 2: b and they're saying, how Stefangs has you know all
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  Speaker 2: of these you know, baby mamas and and and stuff
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  Speaker 2: like that. My whole thing is, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: judge because it's not my situation to judge. And I
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  Speaker 2: really don't care how many kids Carti has. You know,
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  Speaker 2: if Carty wants to run around and have all these babies,
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  Speaker 2: that's on her. She's still technically with them. So I mean,
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  Speaker 2: what am I supposed to say to that? As far
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  Speaker 2: as how negative people are do I respond to negative people?
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  Speaker 2: Now know why? Because no matter what I say, I'm
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  Speaker 2: still gonna be in the wrong. No matter what I do,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be in the wrong because they're not gonna
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  Speaker 2: do no play victim. And because I know negative people
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  Speaker 2: the whole entire purpose is to make them look good
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  Speaker 2: and you look bad as a godly person, to bring
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  Speaker 2: you down to the third dimension and try to keep
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  Speaker 2: you there. No, you ain't bringing me down there, so no.
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  Speaker 2: So once you get to the twelfth dimension and you
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  Speaker 2: see things for what they are, you don't want to
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  Speaker 2: see them in any other way. You like, I don't
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  Speaker 2: care about the lies and the deception. Please just tell
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  Speaker 2: me that you what do you really want? And that
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  Speaker 2: way I can make a decision now. People that are
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  Speaker 2: in the twelfth dimension are more so like they see
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  Speaker 2: it exactly for what it is as far as rejection
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  Speaker 2: is concerned. They don't care if they're rejected or not.
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  Speaker 2: They just look at it and they're like, Okay, this
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  Speaker 2: job didn't hire me. It's they're lost. These are people
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  Speaker 2: that even though they're going through the same thing as
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  Speaker 2: people other people who've lost their jobs, is panicking, they
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  Speaker 2: still got a roof over the head, they still got
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  Speaker 2: a car drive, they still got money in they pocket,
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  Speaker 2: and nobody understands how how is it that this person
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  Speaker 2: that lost their job, like everybody else, is still surviving
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  Speaker 2: because their faith. God is still keeping a roof over
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  Speaker 2: their heads. While they're still putting applications in. God is
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  Speaker 2: making sure that you are provided for. God is guiding
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  Speaker 2: you down the direction of how to do it. And
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  Speaker 2: they're following God down the rabbit hole. They're not running
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  Speaker 2: around trying to skill, rob stealing, do all these negative
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  Speaker 2: things in order to get what they want. They're actually
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  Speaker 2: literally doing the right thing. There are a lot of
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  Speaker 2: women that's like, I'm not having sex, I'm being celiban
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  Speaker 2: because they gave their bodies to men and it ain't
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  Speaker 2: worth it, and now they're going through medical conditions because
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  Speaker 2: of it. A lot of people are cleansing themselves internally
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  Speaker 2: of everything mentally, psychologically, emotionally. They're cleansing themselves out internally
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  Speaker 2: in order to be externally healthy. They're working on themselves,
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  Speaker 2: and it might be years that they're working on themselves,
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  Speaker 2: but they are working on themselves and now they're a
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  Speaker 2: place now where they're not worried about whether they're alone
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  Speaker 2: or whether they're with somebody. These are people that's like, look,
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  Speaker 2: if you're not on the same page as me as
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  Speaker 2: far as being celiban, if you're not being with multi women,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not having sex with you. And that's just it.
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  Speaker 2: Or that they're not trying to sit up here and
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  Speaker 2: be on some I'm gonna continuously continue trying to chase
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  Speaker 2: behind somebody who don't want me. These people are like,
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  Speaker 2: once you say no, okay, cool, I'm not chasing behind you.
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  Speaker 2: And see now a lot of people are starting to
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  Speaker 2: notice that they're noticing that these people that they thought
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  Speaker 2: would be chasing after them, these people that they thought
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  Speaker 2: would care about them don't. It's just like with celebrities. Now,
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  Speaker 2: don't get me wrong. I'm happy for Tianna Taylor and
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  Speaker 2: Aaron Pierre, I really am. I'm happy for the both
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  Speaker 2: of them. But do I honestly care? No, I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I have my own life to live, I got my
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  Speaker 2: own profit. But if I happen to see them or
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  Speaker 2: see her talk about him, you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 2: it's it's good to see. But here's the problem with it.
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  Speaker 2: Though she talks about him, but he barely talks about her. Now,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say that he don't care about her.
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  Speaker 2: That's not what I'm saying at all. But this is
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  Speaker 2: Tiana's moment though, Okay, so being a this is Tiana's moment,
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  Speaker 2: and it just so happened that they're debuting at her
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  Speaker 2: premiere and she did this album based upon, you know,
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  Speaker 2: her situation with Eman and with him and her kids
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  Speaker 2: and whatever she was dealing with. So because of that, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: Tianna's gonna be the one that's gonna be asked all
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  Speaker 2: the questions cause right now Aaron doesn't have anything coming out.
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  Speaker 2: But when Aaron comes out with Light when Lantern, when
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  Speaker 2: he comes out with Star Wars or whatever it is
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  Speaker 2: that he's you know, doing that. I'm very sure Tianna's
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  Speaker 2: gonna come up and he'll have things to say. Now,
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  Speaker 2: when he did the interview with I forgot who it
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  Speaker 2: was that he did it with. When they did her
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  Speaker 2: actual video of the album, he didn't answer, you know,
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  Speaker 2: so we haven't gotten to the place where now he's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be talking about her because right now he's not
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  Speaker 2: doing interviews. And not only that, he's an introvert. So
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  Speaker 2: just because he doesn't say anything about her doesn't mean
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  Speaker 2: he doesn't love her, doesn't mean he doesn't care about her.
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  Speaker 2: He's just an introvert. He just somebody's private. Now when
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  Speaker 2: people ask her about him, she only says just enough.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what you're supposed to do. You know, some
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  Speaker 2: things in your relationships should be private, and because they're sacred.
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  Speaker 2: But the one thing I love is she said, was
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  Speaker 2: when she said that he treats her like a cup
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  Speaker 2: of tea. He SIPs it. He savors her, you know,
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  Speaker 2: he keeps her safe. So when you see them together,
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  Speaker 2: you can tell that he is always on the you know,
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  Speaker 2: the left side and she's always on the right side,
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  Speaker 2: and he's very protective of her. And when he does
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  Speaker 2: talk about her when people ask questions, he's smiling. He says,
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  Speaker 2: I'm there for Tiana. So he doesn't make it about himself.
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  Speaker 2: He makes it about her, and when his stuff comes out,
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  Speaker 2: she'll be making it about him. So the way that
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  Speaker 2: they go about I think is really cute. It's just
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  Speaker 2: like at high school, you know, puppy love type of
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  Speaker 2: thing that you're dating your high school crush. So she's
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  Speaker 2: slowly talk about how they met. But that's because their
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  Speaker 2: relationship is strong, strong and stable enough to now really
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  Speaker 2: go into more detail, you know. So in the end,
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  Speaker 2: like I said, you know, when you feel that whatever
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  Speaker 2: it is is strong enough and solid enough, and your
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  Speaker 2: foundation is stable enough, and you know that no matter what,
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  Speaker 2: nothing and nobody can come between it, then you can say, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I can talk about this, I can do this, I
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  Speaker 2: can blah blah blah. When you've already done it and
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  Speaker 2: it's already up and running, then you can talk about
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  Speaker 2: it cause you have people that will still your ideas. So,
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  Speaker 2: like she said, her leaving the music industry was a
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  Speaker 2: blessing because she ended up doing movies and now her
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  Speaker 2: movie career is on the rise, working with Leonardo DiCaprio.
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  Speaker 2: So it's just funny how you know, her career is rising,
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  Speaker 2: and you know, I love the fact that he supports her.
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  Speaker 2: But his career is also on the rise because he's
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  Speaker 2: about to do Star Wars and he's doing Green Lantern
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  Speaker 2: and he's in this Just Show with Jennifer Aniston and
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  Speaker 2: Reese Witherspoon. Reese Witherspoon. So the fact that he's doing
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  Speaker 2: those type of you know, shows and stuff that right
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  Speaker 2: there shows his career is on the up and up.
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  Speaker 2: And if he gets James Bond, that's really gonna boost
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  Speaker 2: his career. So if he does get it, that would
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  Speaker 2: be a good thing. So at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and who knows, he might even be a
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  Speaker 2: part of the next mission impossible because you know, they
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  Speaker 2: gotta find somebody that's gonna be the next person to
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  Speaker 2: take that over. He can get that as well. So again,
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  Speaker 2: you know, when you are focusing on you, and you're
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  Speaker 2: focusing on yourself and you're building yourself up, and yes,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna have people that's gonna try to tear you
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  Speaker 2: down and you're gonna have people that's gonna try to
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  Speaker 2: talk you out of it. That's why sometimes you gotta
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  Speaker 2: get away from everybody. That's why sometimes God will pull
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  Speaker 2: you from the world and pull you by yourself, because
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  Speaker 2: God has a whole different place that he wants to
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  Speaker 2: pull you to. And when you're still trying to be
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  Speaker 2: in the world trying to see what's going on, you're
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  Speaker 2: wasting time. And that's something I've learned. He's passed seven years,
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  Speaker 2: well almost ten years, the same thing, because it'll be
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  Speaker 2: ten years twenty twenty seven. So what I've learned since
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  Speaker 2: twenty seventeen up into twenty twenty five is that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of my time was wasted on a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things that weren't worth my time, that weren't being productive.
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  Speaker 2: But I will say that the man that I went
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  Speaker 2: after that is running the sets CO. He is in prison.
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  Speaker 2: One of the parents did pass away, and I promised
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  Speaker 2: her that I would make sure that he remains enough
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  Speaker 2: that he don't get out, and that's a promise that
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  Speaker 2: I absolutely intend to keep. But what I will say
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  Speaker 2: in these situations are that when you focus on yourself
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  Speaker 2: and you build something for yourself and the people that
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  Speaker 2: God send to help you. You hold on to those people.
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  Speaker 2: You don't let those people go, but at the same
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  Speaker 2: time you let them thrive as well. So if say,
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  Speaker 2: for example, I'm building my coaching business, my podcasting business,
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  Speaker 2: and let's say that I get an offer to have
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  Speaker 2: my only my own studio, but let's say that you
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  Speaker 2: know iHeartRadio, Amazon or even Spotify or iTunes say we
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  Speaker 2: love your podcast, we love what you do. Even with Netflix,
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  Speaker 2: we love what you do, and we would love to
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  Speaker 2: have you actually come on and actually do your podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Cause you know, Netflix is doing a podcast app now,
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: So now podcast is Gonnasky post their stuff on Netflix.
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  Speaker 2: So only difference is it's gonna be where you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: be seen more so so the podcast that I am
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  Speaker 2: going to probably end up I don't know which one
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  Speaker 2: to be it. But that was the whole point of
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: going through all of this before I made it into
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  Speaker 2: a business, because I think trial and error is something
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  Speaker 2: you should do before you start, because if you don't,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna be screwed and you're gonna be mad at
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  Speaker 2: yourself because you didn't based on trial and error, you know,
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  Speaker 2: figure it all out. So again, a lot of us
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  Speaker 2: don't do the things that we want to do or
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: things that we're meant to do because of the fact
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  Speaker 2: that we're worried about what everybody else thinks. What if
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  Speaker 2: it goes wrong. We're afraid of, you know, a rejection,
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  Speaker 2: We're of what if it don't work out? Stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: But we have to start thinking about even if it doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Guess what you tried. What matters is that you tried.
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  Speaker 2: What matters that you made the effort to do it
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  Speaker 2: because that's what you wanted to do. But when you
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  Speaker 2: got a bunch of ny say is in your ear,
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  Speaker 2: you're never going to accomplish the things that you want
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  Speaker 2: to accomplish. When you're lowering yourself to build other people up,
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  Speaker 2: you're not achieving your goals. You're focusing on everybody else,
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  Speaker 2: which in terms in the end, when you get older,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna regret that because when you look back and
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  Speaker 2: you realize I did all this stuff for all these
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  Speaker 2: people and it wasn't reciprocated. When you realize all the
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  Speaker 2: money you lost. And I'm not talking about professional I'm
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  Speaker 2: talking about personally helping people. You know, professionally is one thing,
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  Speaker 2: because you're helping people. You're listening to them about an hour,
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  Speaker 2: you're working with them for how much time, and then
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  Speaker 2: you go on about your life. You go back to
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  Speaker 2: your life. Whereas personal these people are around you all day,
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  Speaker 2: every day. You hang out with these people, you can
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  Speaker 2: find in these people, you're close to these people, Whereas
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  Speaker 2: people that you don't know that are your clients as
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  Speaker 2: far as you know, therapists or mentors or even physical
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  Speaker 2: therapy doctors. You know these people you don't know, but
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't mean that you don't care about them. It
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  Speaker 2: don't mean that you don't you know, want them to
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  Speaker 2: be healthy or whatever the case may be. So that
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  Speaker 2: is different. So if you work at a cancer facility
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  Speaker 2: and you have all these different kids that have cancer
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  Speaker 2: and all these different type of diseases and illnesses, yeah
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  Speaker 2: you do have a close bond with these kids, but
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  Speaker 2: at the same time, you're not going home to them.
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  Speaker 2: But that does not mean you don't care about them.
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  Speaker 2: So again, love is something that we naturally do, but
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  Speaker 2: liking people it's a whole nother conversation. So, like I said,
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  Speaker 2: you know, we're willing to do whatever it takes to
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  Speaker 2: make them healthy, but we have to do it the
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  Speaker 2: right way. So being compassionate, being empathetic, understanding sympathetic, being
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  Speaker 2: able to have, you know, some type of you know,
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  Speaker 2: love for people. That is something that's natural, that's something
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  Speaker 2: we naturally do. You can't turn off love. But liking
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  Speaker 2: you is a whole conversation. So, like I said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: if people reject you, that's okay if they do. But
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: guess what, when you make it, those same people that
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  Speaker 2: rejected you will be right back around. I've seen it
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  Speaker 2: many times where you have investors that turn people down
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  Speaker 2: and then when they see that the person actually made it,
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  Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden, now here they come.
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  Speaker 2: The same investors that didn't want to invest in you
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  Speaker 2: now want to talk to you. Now they want to
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  Speaker 2: have a conversation because they see the money. And you're like, no,
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  Speaker 2: because when I originally did this project, you wanted no
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  Speaker 2: parts of it. Now you want parts of it now
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  Speaker 2: because it's making money. It's just like with coaching, when
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  Speaker 2: someone builds their coaching business from the ground with no
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  Speaker 2: help and they're doing everything and then all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 2: everybody who said that you couldn't do it, all of
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  Speaker 2: a sudden, I knew you could know you didn't. You
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  Speaker 2: didn't know I could do it because you sat there
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  Speaker 2: and said I couldn't do it. Cury, I just woke up. Literally.
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  Speaker 2: You try to say that I didn't, I couldn't do this,
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  Speaker 2: but I can and I did so. Again, it's just
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  Speaker 2: like for those who got children at a young age
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  Speaker 2: and they raised phenomenal children without the father. People told
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  Speaker 2: you you had to have a husband. Well guess what
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  Speaker 2: she gets, raised a phenomenal child. It's in the NBA, lawyer, doctor,
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  Speaker 2: doing very very well, that hasn't gotten any trouble. That's
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  Speaker 2: not out here doing nothing wrong. They're not in jail,
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  Speaker 2: they're not dead. They actually are living. Right. There are
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  Speaker 2: some people that ask me raise good kids, and they
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  Speaker 2: really do, and they did it by themselves without nobody.
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  Speaker 2: So again, God will bring you what you need. The
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  Speaker 2: devil will give you what you want and what you desire.
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  Speaker 2: And there are a whole bunch of Bible scriptures about
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  Speaker 2: the word want. Because here's the thing about want. Want
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  Speaker 2: is something that James Scott fearn. I want what I want,
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  Speaker 2: and I want it now, and what I'm willing to
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  Speaker 2: do to get it is what the problem is. It's
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  Speaker 2: not that wanting things are bad, but what you're willing
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  Speaker 2: to do to get it is what makes it bad.
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  Speaker 2: What you're willing to put yourself through, what you're willing
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  Speaker 2: to sacrifice, is what makes it wrong. So for me,
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  Speaker 2: I could want something all day long, But as a
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  Speaker 2: person that now understands the difference between what I would
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  Speaker 2: like to have, what I won't, and what I need,
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  Speaker 2: I know the difference because when I say what I need,
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  Speaker 2: that is something that is a necessity. That's something that
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  Speaker 2: you know I can't live without. But I know what
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  Speaker 2: I can't live without, and it has nothing to do
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  Speaker 2: with clothes or computers or any of that stuff. It's
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: food and shelter. It's what I can't live without. Having
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: a car and drive is what I can't live live without.
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  Speaker 2: And you might ask me, why is it that you're
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: saying transportation is something that you can't live without? Because
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: if I want to get up and go somewhere, I
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  Speaker 2: ain't got to worry about going and getting on the
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  Speaker 2: bus or getting on the subway. I can just get
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  Speaker 2: in my car and drive wherever I want to go. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it is a necessity. Lights, water, you know, pots and pans,
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  Speaker 2: those things that are necessities, but a need I mean
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  Speaker 2: is something that is a desire, But something that you
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  Speaker 2: would like to have can be based upon a desire
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  Speaker 2: and you may want it, but you know it's not
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  Speaker 2: a necessity that you may or may not need it
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  Speaker 2: or you're gonna get it, but you would like to
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  Speaker 2: have it. So if I go to God and I
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  Speaker 2: say the Lord, I would like to have a husband,
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  Speaker 2: I would like to have you know, I would like
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  Speaker 2: to travel. I would like to build a business and
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  Speaker 2: a brand. God can say, Okay, what are you gonna
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  Speaker 2: do to build it? You know what is your plan?
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: And you're like, you know God, God will guide you,
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  Speaker 2: but you gotta let them. God is gonna give your
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  Speaker 2: tools that you're gonna need. If I say, God, I
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  Speaker 2: need you to help me to write this book, God
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  Speaker 2: will help you write it. Being walked, walked with me
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  Speaker 2: through as I write this book, walk with me as
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  Speaker 2: I built this business. But you know, cover this this business,
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  Speaker 2: cover his brand. A lot of y'all don't even say that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't even say to not only cover you, but
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  Speaker 2: cover everything associated with you. Cover your home, cover your car,
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  Speaker 2: cover cover whatever it is that is yours. Ask God
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  Speaker 2: to cover it to protect it. So a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people will make it and then turn around and be
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: broke all over again, and you're like, well, how did
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  Speaker 2: this person end up broke? This person made all this
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  Speaker 2: money and now they wrote because it's the way they
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: got it. It was based upon desire, it was based
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  Speaker 2: upon once. But as far as doing the work, as
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  Speaker 2: far as you know, maintaining it, yeah, you can obtain anything,
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  Speaker 2: but you have to be able to maintain it. And
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people are not doing that. They're not
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  Speaker 2: maintaining what it is that they got or you know,
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  Speaker 2: whatever it is that they built. So a lot of
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: people that have longevity, that's because they do the work.
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  Speaker 2: They work hard, and a lot of people, now, even
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: with Chris Brown, you'll notice that if he gets to
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  Speaker 2: the point that he feels like that he's going back
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  Speaker 2: to his bad ways, he gets off social media, takes
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: a break, as he should. Why because sometimes it does
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  Speaker 2: get overwhelming. You know, when you are someone that you
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: know made a mistake twenty thirty years ago and now
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: people are throwing it in your face and they won't
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  Speaker 2: let it go and they're trying to keep you down.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: Those are not godly people. That's the thing. You are
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: not a godly person when you chastise somebody, and you,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: as a godly person, don't say to them, let me
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  Speaker 2: pray for you, let me let me, let me pray
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  Speaker 2: these these demons off of you, and these thoughts that
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: you're a godly person. Is not somebody that's going to
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: judge the way most of these people judge Chris Brown.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not Yes, he made a mistake when he was young.
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  Speaker 2: The man was a teenager almost an adult when it's happened,
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  Speaker 2: So everybody makes mistakes, but I don't see him repeating it.
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  Speaker 2: I saw something where him and I guess his girlfriend Jade,
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: were arguing. He walked away from him. He walked away
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  Speaker 2: from her multiple times, and that just shows that he
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: has changed, because a person that hadn't changed, he would
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: have just hit the girl and that would have been it.
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  Speaker 2: He didn't. He walked away from her, and then he
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: walked back. After he calmed down, he walked back, He
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: walked away again, and then walked back and finally walked
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: away from good. So that just shows that he's not
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: far as his his his a. He's managing it by
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: walking away because he'd rather walk away from her than
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: get upset and put his hands on her. So some
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: people do change in that aspect, but you have to
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: give people the opportunity to change. You have to give
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: them the opportunity to grow. And if you don't give
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: people the opportunity to evolve and elevate and mature, they
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: never will. And there's this thing that I seen on
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: snapchat where it says maturity is not about age, it's
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: about damage. I agree, because the more negative stuff you
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: go through, the more you mature, the more you grow,
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: the more you learn from your mistakes. Okay, yeah, I'm sorry,
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: somebody just called me. I'm gonna go ahead and take
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: this phone call because it's about something I need to take.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: But I want to thank y'all for joining me for
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: this episode and I will do two parts two to
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: this episode because I have to leave rec quick. So
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  Speaker 2: I love y'all, I appreciate y'all. Without y'all, there is
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  Speaker 2: no me. I be nothing without y'all. And I will
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  Speaker 2: see y'all next week.